Bipolar Supporter Blog

Hi,

It’s 8:39am and I am really tired. I have to head
over to the gym shortly. Unfortunately yesterday
was sick half the night because of “some”
natural energy drink that I had.

I drank it at 4:15pm and within an hour
I was sick. I felt terrible. I actually
had zero energy at all and felt like
I couldn’t do a thing.

I am writing you today an important message
about natural stuff and bipolar disorder.

Many people want either themselves or
their loved ones to use natural supplements.

You might know this about me or you might
not, buy I do take a lot of supplements. I
take really good ones that have been carefully
picked over the years. Occasionally someone
persuades me to try something new. Most times
it’s garbage. I do try a number of new protein
and meal replacement shakes however.

But yesterday’s product was terrible and it
got me to thinking about all the emails
that I get from people who have
bipolar disorder and:

took a natural supplement and it interfered
with their medicine and they went into an
episode

took a natural supplement and it made them
sick because of the ingredients it had in it
and eventually led to them having a bipolar
episode

took a natural supplement and it did nothing
for them at all.

There’s a ton of junk out there. Most supplements
are NO good. They are total junk. I know the
supplement industry VERY well. You would laugh
if you saw some of the owners of these companies
they are the OPPOSITE of health. They smoke.
They are way over weight. They aren’t healthy.
They come up with a product and they think
they can make a lot of money.

There are a few owners that are in great shape
and really put science into what they are selling.
You have to make sure they these are the companies
you are buying from.

WARNING!

There’s a big warning when it comes to supplements.
If you have bipolar disorder, you ABSOLUTELY POSITIVELY
MUST talk to your doctor FIRST, that’s FIRST before
you take them.

Supplements of any kind can interfere with your bipolar
disorder medication. They absolutely can. No question
about it. Even if they are “natural.” Many scam companies
have ingredients that are even natural in them like
aspartame. Take a look at the back of many supplements
and you will find an ingredient that many people across
the world say is a REALLY, REALLY, REALLY, bad for human
beings. I personally agree and stay far away from aspartame.

Anyway, after I took the energy drink, it reminded me
that there could be many people on my list that have
bipolar disorder taking drinks or different supplements
and not running it past their doctor first. That’s a
big mistake and I wanted to issue a warning.

In today’s day and age, most doctors are into supplements
and won’t freak out if you take them. My mom’s doctor
has recommended that she take certain supplements as well
in addition to her medication.

NOTE: Let me be clear since we are taking about supplements
and medication. I am NOT and I repeat I am NOT a doctor
or even a lawyer, therapist, or professional. This is just
my opinions. You should formulate your own opinions and
carefully research what I say and check with either your
loved ones bipolar doctor or your doctor for bipolar disorder.
I just want you to be clear so I don’t mislead you.

Anyway, supplements and herbs are serious things. Be careful
with them. I took something natural yesterday at 4:15 or so.
Within an hour I had NO energy, I felt week, I could barely
walk myself out of the gym. I had to lay on the couch. I had
to cancel my meetings that evening. It was bad. I didn’t sleep
well all night and started feeling better about 7:00am.

My friends who called to check up on me were laughing saying
that I was a freak because I took an energy drink and it made
me tired. But I really have no idea what it was. I am going
to have my doctor friend look into the ingredients. BUT
I must add one thing. It could have been a fluke thing because
maybe I caught some 24 virus the same time I took the product.
I am not sure but I am not taking it again.

If you listen to any of the interviews that I have done
in my courses, you hear time and time again how people
made mistakes themselves or with their loved ones with
bipolar disorder when they started adding natural thigns
into treatment and not running it past the doctor.

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Don’t let this happen to you or your loved one.

I will add one last comment. I know that tons of
people want information on natural treatments/
supplements/herbs and bipolar disorder. I actually
have a resource on this.
Take a look at it if you want at:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/alternativetherapies/

Hey it’s 9:15am and I have to take off to go to
the gym.

Have a great day. Catch you tomorrow.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

Hi,

Here is the current Bipolar Disorder news. There
is some really interesting stuff. It costs me a lot
of money to put it together so I URGE you to read
it.

Take some time now.

Visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarnews336

There’s some really interesting news stories this week.
Take a look at them. Also, write me some feedback by
visiting my blog below.

Here are some of the headlines:

Rebbetzin’s Viewpoint

Susie Love Dows: captain of her ship

Bipolar May Shrink Brain

DRINK SHRINK’S ATTACK ON MOM

Katona: thought family was going to die

For these stories and more, please visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarnews336

My Resources For Bipolar:

In De.bt Because Of Bipolar Disorder? Get help now.
Go here for more information:
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Interested in Natural Herbs, Remedies And Bipolar Disorder?
Go here for more information.
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Quickly And Easily Explain Bipolar To People
Go here for more information.
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Need Money Because Of Bipolar Disorder?
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Dating Someone With Bipolar?
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Want To Marry Someone Who Has Bipolar?
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Need Affordable Health Insurance When Dealing With Bipolar Disorder?
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Problems With Drugs, Alcohol And Addiction?
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Trying To PREVENT A Divorce From Someone With Bipolar Disorder?
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Your Friend,

Dave

Hi,

How’s it going? Last night was volunteering at a group
that supports those with mental illness. When I was
there, I noticed there were a whole lot of people
off track. Even though I know that support groups
generally attract those that are least functioning
with bipolar disorder and those supporters who
are having a hard time, it’s always a harsh reality
to see it up close and live.

I felt bad for a number of people there because
they were suffering. Some were way off track.
One of the situations I saw there that stands
out in my head this morning was the huge mistake
people seem to make with treatment. I call it
treatment jumping.

What the heck is treatment jumping you might
be asking. Well here is what it is. It’s
when you or your loved one with bipolar disorder
gets on one treatment plan and then you jump
to another treatment plan WITHOUT following
instructions from a doctor. You wind up making
your own decisions because you “feel” it’s the
best thing to do.

The bottom line is that you have to give any
doctor time to figure out what to do and how
to do it. You can’t expect any doctor to come
up with the right combination of bipolar medication
in a few days or few weeks.

WARNING!

Now there is a balance between you right to get a
new doctor and request new treatment if it’s not
working. I realize that. BUT, many people simply
start one treatment. Then stop. Then jump to
something else like herbs or something. Then
they go to a different doctor. Then jump to
another doctor with giving him/her time
to find the right combination of medication and/or
other things. Then a person jumps to something
else and eventually months turn into years and
a whole lot of time is wasted.

There were MANY treatment jumpers in the room
last night. And it wasn’t just the people with
bipolar disorder. Many supporters were encouraging
loved ones to jump treatment. I spoke to one woman
who said, “We have been to 8 doctors in the last
year.” I said, “really? that’s a ton.”

She said to me, “None of them know what they
are doing.” I informed her how it took my mom’s
doctor who is great several months to get my mom
ALMOST stable. I went on to say if you have been
to 8 doctors in 12 months that’s 1.5 months
each doctor has to help your loved one. That’s
not enough time at all and doesn’t make any
sense.

I then said, that the person should spend time
to find ONE highly qualified doctor and realize
it’s going to take many months to figure out
the right combination of medication. I said
how you have to give it time and if you jump
from treatment plan to treatment plan it just
delays things because each doctor has to start
over and learn about the patient and that takes
time.

The person got mad at me and walked away because
I wasn’t telling her what she wanted to hear.
Hmm. But she wasn’t the only one, there were many
others that all were supporting, encouraging or
actually personally treatment jumping. This is a
HUGE mistake I see people make time and time again.
I think it’s because people don’t realize that it
takes time to develop the right treatment plan.

I took my mom about a solid year to get stable.
If you got any of my courses at:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT?
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Visit:
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HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

You’ll notice I have a cd called “My mom’s story.”
This cd goes over from a to z how long it took
my mom to get stable. I included that cd because
I wanted people to get an idea of how long it
would take for stability to be gained after a major
bipolar disorder episode. I noticed that when I was
supporting my mom, NOBODY would give me an idea
of how long it would take. Without knowing I started
to think things were going badly after only 2 months
but then I just decided we must be on the right track.
I am glad that I did. If we started treatment jumping,
my mom probably wouldn’t be stable today.

Well, I have to head to work. Have a great day.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

Hi,

How’s it going? Yesterday I have an absolute
NIGHTMARE and I mean NIGHTMARE experience.
The entire experience made me realize how
fortunate we (you and I) are with our
situation of knowledge. I will explain
further.

You might now know but I own several businesses.
In one of my businesses I got word from customer
service that there was a customer who was
yelling, screaming, threatening, and saying
“crazy things.” The person threatened all sorts
of things. My customer service said, and this
was several people, they have never seen anything
like this ever.

They said the person must be “out of their minds.”
Normally with this business, I don’t get involved
in customer service issues but I was told this
was an extreme case because the customer was doing
so many strange things and was saying that
they were going to tell other people.

Well I read the emails from the person. There was
like 30. Some were sent 5 times each. The emails
made no sense at all. They accused me and my company
of all kinds of things. Then in the same
email we were said to be great people.

It then made demands of money. Then there were demands
for me to call right away.
I figured that I might as well call the person and
see if I could work something out so they would go
away. Far away.

I called. It was incredible. First I called about 3 times
with 3 hours in between each call. I then got a call
back on my cell phone. I gave my cell phone out so
I could resolve it. That really wasn’t a smart move.

The person called back right as I was getting a report
from my mom on how her doctor thought she was doing.
I asked the person if I could call her back in 5
minutes. In a kind voice the person said, “oh absolutely.
The person was so nice I thought this was going to be
an easy call when I called back. Boy was I wrong.

I called back. I said one thing and the person freaked out
on me. The person yelled, made threats, accused me of
many things. Accused my company of many things. The person
then started attacking paypal.com (NOTE I have no connection
to paypal.com), she then attacked doctors, the UPS, etc.

It was totally crazy.

Basically the person wanted F.REE products because
we owed them and lots of them? Huh? We are in
the business of giving away F.REE products?

For over one hour I tried to explain it doesn’t
work this way.

As I was listening to a person rant and rave at me. I was
thinking, this person OBVIOUSLY HAS A MENTAL ILLNESS. Period.
You just don’t act like this. He was one mean person.

Then I thought how fortunate we are that we know about
mental illness. If you are on my list, you have some
idea that either you or a loved one may or has bipolar
disorder. I think this is great news. What’s bad news
is NOT knowing.

Imagine for years, I didn’t know what my mom had. FOR
YEARS! I just thought it was normal. I am not talking
about a couple of years, I am talking like 20 years.

So when I was dealing with the difficult customer
yesterday I was thinking, “What in the world is it
like for his wife or kids if he has a wife and kids.”
A total nightmare for them probably. This person
was clearly either undiagnosed with something or
many things and was NOT and I repeat NOT being
treated right.

I am NOT a doctor and can’t diagnose people but
I can have an opinion. In my head I was thinking
that based on how this person wrote and spoke
there’s no question he was paranoid, delusional,
and had scattered thoughts.

It was the strangest thing that I had ever had
to deal with. Then I was thinking, how scary it
is with all the people in the world that are UNDIAGNOSED
with bipolar disorder. So they have it but they don’t know
they have it yet. These people wind up doing horrible
things and saying horrible things.

I know you are going to think I am crazy. But I will say
you should be happy that you at least knew enough about
bipolar disorder to find me and other sources. Imagine
what life would be like if you didn’t know at all. You
just thought either your personal feelings if you had
bipolar disorder were normal or your loved one’s actions
were normal and you didn’t know there was anything
like bipolar disorder.

SUPPORTING AN ADULT?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

So in my opinion, the most deadly
thing about bipolar disorder is NOT
knowing about it at all.

IMPORTANT

I really would like you to post a story
about what it was like to not know about
bipolar disorder at all versus now
knowing about it.

I have to run. I will write you tomorrow.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

Hi,

How’s it going? Today I am going to share
with you a really important lesson when
dealing with bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone
with it.

I have been talking about how I have
been moving for a while now. Well the move
didn’t go so well.

-No hot water
-No air condition
-Broken shower
-Cable setup wrong
-Phone number setup wrong
-Utilities setup wrong
-Lost furniture
-Broken furniture
-Lost clothes
-Lost papers
-Cable guy almost fought the hot water fixing person
and many other issues

The list of problems that I had was really long.
Now what did I do? Well I made a list of each problem
and then I prioritized and worked on as many as I could
starting from the top.

I learned this technique from helping my mom. When I
first started helping my mom, there were so many
problems I seriously didn’t even know where to
start. Untreated or not treated well bipolar
disorder leads to a long list of problems.
Problems like:

-Finances
-Employment
-Relationships

and in some cases but NOT with my mom

Drugs
Alcohol
Sex

When you have “bipolar disorder” problems, you just
have to list them and then work on them one
by one. There is NO way to have them all fixed
in a day or two. If someone tells you that,
they are lying to you.

Just like me with moving. There was no way that
I could get everything fixed right away. There is no way
at all. It just wouldn’t work. It really gets annoying
however when you have a bunch of things that are
broken, not going right etc.

BUT hang in there, things will get better as long
as you keep working away at it. EVERY SINGLE
person that I interviewed that either had bipolar
disorder, was supporting an adult, child or teen
had lots of problems to deal with. This is TOTALLY
normal.

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HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
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I get a lot of people asking me if their
situation is normal. When I hear their story
or visit them in person, I find that 99% of
the time, even the worst situations are totally
normal for bipolar disorder. People are often
amazed that I can almost finish their story
without ever have spoken to them before. How
do I do it? Because the course of untreated or
incorrectly treated bipolar disorder runs the
same for most people. All the bad things are
the same.

Anyway, I wanted to point this out so the thousands
of people on my list that are faced with difficulties
sometimes seemingly insurmountable, won’t give up
hope and they will realize that there are tens of thousands
of people on my list who are experiencing the same thing
and there are thousands that have worked through all
the problems and now are at great place–this is where
I am with my mom.

I have to take off now. Have a great day.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

Hi,

How’s it going? I hope you are doing well.
I have an absolutely incredible bipolar
disorder lesson to share with you and
it’s all based on me taking a shower
in my new place that I moved into.

Here’s the story. Okay I have
been moving for about the time we have
been in Iraq. Just kidding. It’s taken
me several weeks. I’ve had a number
of problems and obstacles but I am almost
all moved in ready to go.

Last week, I noticed that the hot water
did not work at all. It’s impossible
to take a totally cold shower so I had
to get it fixed.

So it’s fixed now. So yesterday I get ready
to take my first shower (NOTE I was still
taking a shower at the first place I lived
so I wasn’t not taking a shower for weeks :))

Okay so I get into the shower. And guess what?
Well I tried to adjust the water just and turned
the knob a little and OH MY GOD!!!!!!!!!!! It
was SUPER HOT. I swear it burned my skin off.
I jumped back and almost hit my head and fell
down I almost had to dive out of the shower it
was so hot. I mean SUPER HOT. And the water pressure
was like that of a fire hose. Not that I know what
it feels like to get hit with water from a fire hose
but that’s what I would imagine.

So then I reached with my arm and adjusted a little
bit to turn it colder. Guess what? OH MY GOD!!!!!!!!
It was FREEZING. I mean like ice water. I thought
I was going to have a heart attack. So then I got
out of the shower almost killing myself in the process
because it was wet and I was like jumping out of
the shower for my life.

THERE’S A BIPOLAR LESSON JUST KEEP READING

Okay so then I was like, “What the heck, I just
need to stay OUTSIDE the shower and get the water
right.” I used my hand to test the water and figured
if it burned off my hand or froze it solid, that
was just one limb not my entire body.

I noticed an amazing thing. The slightest dial of
the shower made the water super hot or super cold.
It was odd. But eventually I got it just right. I
have no idea if the thing is right. It seems overly
sensistive if you ask me. I have to call the
guy and ask him.

BUT, here’s the deal. This all made me think of
what my mom’s doctor has told me in the past
and what many of the people in the interviews have
told me. The slighest change in medication can
make all the difference.

Many people think incorrectly that in order to help
themselves or someone with bipolar disorder
get stable you need HUGE giant amounts of bipolar medication
or if a person is not doing well a MAJOR GIGANTIC
change is necessary.

NOTE: I am NOT a doctor, therapist, financial advisor,
insurance agent, professional anything. This is just
based on my own person expereince with my mom and dozens
of people I know and work for me.

BUT everyone reports that slight changes to bipolar medication
can make a huge difference. This means a few things
if you ask me. First you have to get a good doctor
that knows what the heck he/she is doing so the slight change
can be done correctly. You can’t adjust your bipolar medication
or your loved one’s medication yourself. You need to
be working with someone who is trained and qualified.

For some reason the shower really reminded me of this.
My dad is kind of stuck in the thinking that if my
mom isn’t doing well, a huge change is required and
this isn’t the case. If you have bipolar disorder
and you aren’t doing well and don’t want to go to
the doctor because you fear you might have to take
a ton of medication, you might be surprised
with what it will take to get you just right. So
do yourself a favor and head on over to the doctor
and work with him/her to get your medication
just right.

SUPPORTING AN ADULT?
Visit:
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SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

Also I would like to add another point. Bipolar medication
can be tweaked or fine tuned by a qualified doctor BUT
only if the doctor knows there is a problem with the current
medication not working right. Many people with bipolar
disorder or those who are caregivers want the doctors
to be caregivers.

Well I have to take off for the day. I hope my funny
story of me screaming in the shower helps you remember
about bipolar medication.

Have a great day.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

Hi,

How’s it going? Hope you are doing well. Well
I am almost moved in to my new place. Seems like
it’s taken months but it’s only been about three
weeks. For all those that ask why the heck
it’s taken me three weeks to move, it’s
because a) I am not good at moving b)
moving is hard and c) I only really moved on
the weekends.

Anyway, with that said, I want to talk
about something really important. I get
tons and tons of complaints about
bipolar disorder and how bad it is. Supporters
say it’s a nightmare. People with it say
it’s the worst thing ever. When I bring
up the good thing about bipolar disorder
people think I am crazy.

Right now, I want you to ask yourself,
“What’s good about bipolar disorder?”

Think of something right now and then
I will tell you my answer.

Think of something and then scroll down

KEEP SCROLLING

Did you think of something?

SCROLL DOWN..

Okay here is the good thing about bipolar
disorder that many people forget. It’s manageable
and it’s not fatal like many diseases. For example,
let’s look at my old accountant. One day he had a cough.
That was on a Friday. He went into the hospital.
We had a Monday meeting. He didn’t show up. Actually
I never saw him ever again. He went into the hospital
and died of cancer.

Another story. A friend of mine. Father goes into
the hospital. Has cancer. Dies with a few months.
Mother now has cancer. They say there is nothing
they can do. It’s really sad.

As hard as bipolar disorder is, remember people
can have normal lives if they manage it correctly
and follow a system. There are lots of people who
follow a system and have a great life. Bipolar
Disorder is NOT fatal. People can die from
Suicide but that’s because they don’t follow
a good system.

Think of cancer. Some die no matter what they
do. It’s really unfair with cancer and other illnesses
but with bipolar there are many things that can
be done. I have found time and time again the people
who struggle do not understand the bipolar stability
equation that I have spoken about many times.

The bottom line is, I wanted to remind you
that although bipolar disorder can be a nightmare,
it can be managed. There is no cure. BUT, people
can have a totally normal life with it. I see
this with my mom and the many people who work
for me now with bipolar disorder.

I noticed in all my success interviews in my
various courses I have, people always remember
that bipolar disorder can be managed. That
gives people hope. It must be tough to deal
with illnesses where there is no cure, no
management and no real hope. That’s is NOT
Bipolar Disorder.

SUPPORTING AN ADULT?
Visit:
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SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

When you are annoyed about bipolar disorder
whether you have it or your loved one has
it, always remember this important point.
There are other good things that illness
brings like: intelligence, creativity,
etc.

Well I have to run. Have a great day.

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Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

Hi,

How’s it going? Hey yesterday I was at a charity walk
and bumped into some people who were actually on my
subscriber list. That was really interesting.
Someone happened to hear my name and then put it
together that I was “that guy” that ran several
bipolar disorder sites.

This happen before. One day I was talking to
a realtor and she realized that I was the
person who was sending her emails. So for
all of those that email me, “are you a
real person?” I am.

Okay, on with today’s story. This is really
sad. A couple of months ago, I wrote how
I had a friend who’s wife has bipolar disorder.
I told you how I gave him all my courses/guides
and material for F.REE.

I told you how my friends wife was really out
of control. They also have kids. She drinks.
She does a lot of bad things because she is
not under the right treatment plan.

My friend was really worried. He said
that he really needed to talk to me several
months ago. We spoke. He said that he needs
help dealing with his wife. I asked him
if he read my material on supporting someone
with bipolar disorder. He said no. Why I asked?
He said “well I didn’t have time.” I was kind
of mad.

Anyway he went on and on about some of the
the things his wife was doing. SOME. BUT
I know some supporters put “spin” on it.
Meaning they don’t tell the truth. He was
quick to say to me, “but my wife is not
like your mom. She isn’t that bad.” That
personally kinds of offends me. Maybe it
doesn’t. Well it kind of does. Why?

Well I found out my friends wife did the
following:

hit him over the head with a spot
cut him many times
Threw objects at him
Lies to his kids about him
Calls the police on him
Attacks him at random
Gets totally out of control after drinking
Takes his important papers in the mail
and throws them away.

Let me say, my mom NEVER did things like
this. My mom threw a phone at me once
but my mom is no baseball player. The kid
that lives next door who is 10 could have
threw it better :). LOL.

She did also take a swing at me once. That’s
it. My mom never cut anyone, drank, or did
the kinds of things my friend’s wife was
doing.

He said his wife was a great person and
that he didn’t want to say bad things about
her and he was concerned that he didn’t
want to lose custody of the kids if
she divorced him.

I was amazed. I warned him. I said unless
she gets the right treatment plan you
are going to see her do something really
crazy. I said it will be something beyond
what you can imagine. It was be devasting
to you and your family.

I kept warning him and eventually my warnings
fell on deaf ears to speak. Meaning he wasn’t
listening and he still didn’t go through
my bipolar disorder suppporter material.

Well yesterday I got a call and his wife:

-Called the police on him
-He was arrested I believe
-Filed a restratining order against him
-Made up many stories of all kinds of things
-He can’t go by his three kids
-She is filing for divorce

My friend says he needs help right away.

NOW MY FRIEND LIVES IN TEXAS SO HE’S FAR AWAY

I can’t just run over and help him. He is devasted
and now wants a quick fix. I haven’t spoken
to him yet, we only traded voicemail.

It’s a real sad story for him.

BIG WARNING

I have a big warning for tens of thousans of people.
Here it is. If you have a loved one with bipolar
disorder and he/she is not undertreatment, it
gets worse with time. If the person doesn’t have
a system to manage the disorder and you don’t
have a system in place to help them it will ramp
up over the weeks, months and years into a super
episode.

The superepisode is so destructive it can destory
the person with bipolar disorder, and everyone around
them. Generally I have found that small episodes
lead to bigger ones and then one big giant one
that’s like the mother of all episodes for the
person.

At this point it takes more than one year to fix
it all IF you even can. With my mom, for many
years she was somewhat stable having mini episodes
and kind of bigger episodes. It wasn’t that bad
all the time. Then eventually she ramped up
into her mother of all episodes which seriously
almost destroyed every person around her including
herself unless I stepped in and did what I did
which is why I am in this field with these
sites.

The sad part is, there are tens of thousands
of people gambling on my list. They really
haven’t done a whole lot about their bipolar
disorder or their loved one’s bipolar disorder.
There is no plan. There is no system for the
person with bipolar disorder or the supporter.
These people are gamblling that the mother
of all episodes will NOT come. But it probably
will.

Just like my friend gambled. Unfortunately like
tons of people, he lost. The episode came. Now
he has a serious problem.

He is facing:

-A record probably
-Losing his kids
-Losing his house
-Losing lots of money
-Get embarrased by all that is happening
-Having serious problems at his job because he is distrated

He asked about his three kids and what he should do in
a message he left me. In my head, I know what he can
do for custody but he is not going to like what I
have to say.

I actually have a getting custody plan I outlined.
It was for someone who got one of my courses,
called and begged me to help him with custody.
First I am NOT a lawyer and I told the guy
that he had to talk to a lawyer. He said and
I quote, “his lawyer sucked and he was losing
the fight.”

I told him that I don’t want to give any advice
that can be misconstrued as legal advice because
I am NOT a lawyer and I might as well add that
I am NOT a doctor, therapist, insurance agent,
professional financial person, etc. I am none
of these.

Anyway, the guy said that he understood that
it wasn’t legal advice and that he wanted to
know how I would handle it.

So I agreed to write up a plan on how I would
handle the situation BUT he had to sign paperwork
that he understood it was not legal advice and he
understood I was not a laywer.

I outlined a plan and he said that my plan made
sense. It involved getting a special kind of lawyer
and many other things. He followed the plan
and actually got custody of his kid. His wife or
exwife is in treatment now as well. So it worked
out.

BUT, this is a serious plan. There’s no kidding
around with my plan. BUT, I doubt my friend would
listen to me. Sadly he will probably lose his three
kids to a person who mistreats her kids and doesn’t
even know it. If you are reading this and have bipolar
disorder and are offended that I am talking about
taking kids away from a mother with bipolar disorder.

Consider this. If a mother is totally out of control
should she have custody of kids? Of course not.

Well I have to get going now. The important
message of this email is to take action. Don’t
believe that you can just wing it with bipolar
disorder and it will all work out and the person
will get better by magic. It won’t work like
that. And if some how smaller episodes work
themselves out, realize bigger ones will come
without a great system.

SUPPORTING AN ADULT?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

I know there’s tons of people in the same situation.

The same day I got news from my friend,
I had THREE other people have the same
thing happen to them. No there isn’t something in
the air. It’s just that when you have 100,000 people
on your list. There’s a bunch of bad stuff going
on and 2 against 100,000 is a small percentage
anyway. I don’t want anyone to think that there
is something happening this week that is causing
people with bipolar disorder who are not stable
to do this type of thing.

Well I have to take off. Have a great day.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

Hi,

Here is the current Bipolar Disorder news. There
is some really interesting stuff. It costs me a lot
of money to put it together so I URGE you to read
it.

Take some time now.

Visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarnews335

There’s some really interesting news stories this week.
Take a look at them. Also, write me some feedback by
visiting my blog below.

Here are some of the headlines:

Woman found incompetent to stand trial in chase death

Wife’s gifts of money make ex resentful

Doctor is a wonderful man

Man deputies shot battling mental illness

Ex-KKK leader cleared of sex assault charges

For these stories and more, please visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarnews335

My Resources For Bipolar:

In De.bt Because Of Bipolar Disorder? Get
help now.
Go here for more information:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/debtletter/

Interested in Natural Herbs, Remedies And
Bipolar Disorder?
Go here for more information.
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/alternativetherapies/

Quickly And Easily Explain Bipolar To People
Go here for more information.
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/explainingbipolar

Need Money Because Of Bipolar Disorder?
Go here for more information
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarbusiness

Dating Someone With Bipolar?
Go here for more information
http://www.BipolarCentral.com/bipolardating

Want To Marry Someone Who Has Bipolar?
Go here for more information
http://www.BipolarCentral.com/bipolarmarriage/

Need Affordable Health Insurance When Dealing With Bipolar Disorder?
Go here for more information
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/insuranceguide/

Problems With Drugs, Alcohol And Addiction?
Go here for more information
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolaraddiction/

Trying To PREVENT A Divorce From Someone With Bipolar Disorder?
Go here for more information:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolardivorce

Your Friend,

Dave

Hi,

How’s it going? I have to make this short
today because I have a bunch of things
that I have to do and I am involved with
this charity later tonight so I have
to finish my work day earlier.

IMPORTANT NOTICE

I just discovered there was a problem
with my email list. You may not
have seen Monday, Tuesday or Wednesday’s
daily email. If that’s you,
visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/
Look for the dates you may not have seen
under “previous posts.”

Yesterday I wrote a daily email about
“the turn around.” You can view it
here:

http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/2007/07/bipolar-disorder-warning-dont-let-them.html

Evan & Demi wrote me a comment that said and I
quote:

“And what, Dave, do we supporters do when the
“turn around” is inflicted upon us by the bipolar
loved one? This I know is a NO win situation on
my part, but I can’t very well carry a note pad
around and ask for his name, but am frustrated
beyond my own sanity anymore to get through the
day. I’m going through my own therapy to try and
recover from all the mental and verbal abuse I
suffer from, but it is all so overwhelming.
I’m beginning to think I want off this trainwreck.”

This is an important lesson to learn. When a person
with bipolar disorder is not being him/herself,
deviating from his/her norm by yellling, screaming,
manipulating, lying, being difficult, moody, etc.
this means there is something wrong with their
treatment.

Treatment can include many things such as medication,
therapy, exercise, diet, stress reduction, etc.
But there is something wrong. The worst thing
that a person can do is try to deal with a person
with bipolar disorder on an on going basis that isn’t
on let’s say the right bipolar medication or at the
right dosage level.

NOTE-I am NOT a doctor, therapist, insurance
personal, lawyer, financial person, etc. The only
thing that I have is years of experience now supporting
my mom and also I obviously deal with a whole lot of
people who are dealing with a mental illness. I have
8 or 10 people who work for me now with a mental
illness so I expereince but I don’t want you to
think that I am a doctor because I am NOT.

With that said, the person posting wrote:
“I’m going through my own therapy to try and
recover from all the mental and verbal abuse I
suffer from, but it is all so overwhelming.”

I am not here to tell people what to do but
if it were me, I would not focus on going to
therapy for myself if my loved one was not
stable. That’s not going to solve the problem.
The goal and the focus must be on getting
the person into treatment. In my opinion,
if it were me, I would spend most of the
units of energy that I had towards this goal.

I would not try to fix myself. Think about this
for a second. If you have someone who is not
stable because his/her treatment plan is off,
what good will it do for YOU to work on yourself?

Maybe you can develop really, really, really
thick skin to be able to take all the emotional
and verbal abuse but the core or root problem
will still be there–your loved one is unstable.

I am personally kind of shocked that many therapists
don’t explain this to the people who are coming
to see them that are supporter of individuals with
bipolar disorder.

So the bottom line is, if you are in this situation
focus on getting your loved one into treatment and
helping the doctor get your loved one on the
correct medication and doing everything that the
doctor/therapist recommend for your loved one
to gain stability.

In my bipolar suppporter course/system for supporting
an adult, I go through I think now 21 ways
to get your loved one into treatment. It’s not easy
but it’s possible. I have lots of case studies and
interviews you can learn from.

SUPPORTING AN ADULT?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

Well I have to take off now. I hope you
got something out of today’s email. It’s such
an important concept in my opinion.

Oh and I am really sorry for those 45,000 people
who didn’t get my emails this week. The problem is
now fixed.

Have a great day.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com