==>>Help with ALL aspects of bipolar disorder<<==
Check out all my resources, programs and information
for all aspects of bipolar disorder by visiting:
How’s it going?
I have an important thing to
tell you today about bipolar
disorder. I actually think it’s
one of the biggest problems people
Before I tell you, I will tell
you how I thought about it.
Yesterday was a Saving Private
Ryan day for me.
What’s that? Well if you saw the movie
Saving Private Ryan, the opening
seen is really disturbing.
It’s kind of like a World War II movie.
Anyway, the US military is in a big boat
coming to shore for D-day in 1945. The boat door
opens and like 50% of the people in the boat
are shot and killed immediately. In the movie
they scramble to try not to get shot and killed
and get to the land.
When I have days when I wake up with
tons of problems and complaints, I call
them saving private ryan days.
There are days I get up and with this
bipolar stuff I feel like I have 50 to
80% of my troops shot and killed and
I have to retreat.
If you are a bipolar supporter, you might
find that you have saving private ryan days–
that is days when you have so many problems
from bipolar disorder, you want to run and
Anyway, yesterday was one of those days.
I had one lady that has called me
21 times demanding I return her call. She
has not left her phone number however.
Each message is more and more angry
I had another person threaten me.
I had one person mad at a daily bipolar
email that I sent.
I had another person call over and
over again on my cell phone.
I had another person super mad me
about my daily bipolar email yesterday.
“David! I can’t believe you are promoting
goal setting. Goal setting is the worst
thing ever. It’s a bunch of hype and I can’t
believe you are selling it. I am ashamed to
know you. I can’t believe you.”
DO> I got this and I am so confused, I don’t
even know what to say? Who the heck gets
mad about talking about goal setting????
NOTE-This is person is a bipolar supporter.
I had another person fax me a million
times yesterday with pages that make
no sense at all.
It took me hours and hours to sort out
all this stuff.
I was talking to Michele, and she was
saying, “I have no idea how you put
up with this all.”
Sometime days I ask myself that.
BUT, it’s days when I help just one
person that makes it all worth it.
I was talking to a person who
had filled out a free consultation
certificate that comes with my courses/systems
SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
for non medication and non legal questions
because I am not a doctor, therapist, or lawyer.
She wanted to talk about goal setting
for the new year.
She really wanted to change her life
and do well with bipolar disorder.
We talked about what she thought had
been going wrong. She insisted that she
had tried everything. Then since she
has been on my mailing list she said
well not everything but a lot of things.
She knew that I would ask her if she
had tried millions of possibilities–
which she had not so she quickly changed
the everything to a lot of things 🙂
So we talked for a while and I asked
her some hard questions after I said,
“Do you want me to tell you what you
want to hear or what you need to hear?”
I asked the hard questions:
Do you have a good doctor?
Do you listen to your doctor?
Are you 100% honest with your doctor?
Do you go when you are suppose to go?
Do you have a good therapist, go, and listen?
Do you believe you can get better and be
Do you have your finances protected?
Have you looked for a job to help pay
Are you avoiding drinking alcohol?
I heard yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, etc.
Then after I really grilled her I heard:
no, but, no, but, no, but, no, but
After the buts were excuses, I told her
to just keep them to herself because I didn’t
want to hear them. These were yes or no questions.
Then eventually I just didn’t say anything other
than, “Do you see why your 2007 was a disaster?”
She said, “yes, you know, Dave. I kind of lie
to myself all the time.”
Then we talked and she was really going to follow
through. I really believe she will.
It’s odd because on Christmas, my friend
John who I talked about yesterday was
telling me about the problem this person
is experiencing–lying to herself. He said he
can’t believe how many people lie to themselves.
He said and I quote, “It’s hard to believe
how many people lie to themselves. It’s bad
enough that big companies and government
lies to you but when you lie to yourself,
that’s really sad.”
I asked him what he meant. He said that
insurance people lie all the time about how
much work they have down, how hard they have
worked, how many prospects they have talked to,
NOTE-My friend John is a top insurance broker.
Anyway, he said it leads to total failure. He also
told me how many people contact him and say they
can’t do well in the industry. He asks the hard
questions. They say, yes, yes, yes, yes when in
reality the answers are no, no, no, no, no if
they are honest with themselves which he says 99% of
Then I started telling him how bipolar supporters
and bipolar survivors lie to themselves all the
When someone has bipolar disorder and isn’t
doing well, I ask questions like:
Did you really take your medication?
Do you have a good doctor?
Do you listen to him/her and see her regularly?
Do you have a good therapist? See him/her?
Did you really get the right amount of sleep?
Did you really do what you are suppose to do?
Are you really trying to get better?
I find many times I get into arguments with
people with bipolar disorder and they say
yes, yes, yes and it’s really no, no, no.
Then they have 1 million reasons to justify
why they have so many no, no, nos. If you
have been on the phone with me or in person
you’ll probably notice how I just never
want to hear excuses.
I was speaking to a person named Mike. He told
me he has no hope. There is no doctor or medication
that can help him. I spoke to him for like an
hour. Don’t know why, he just called me and I had
Eventually he admitted that guess what?
He doesn’t take his medication, he stay up
half the week watching tv, he doesn’t really
go to therapy and he doesn’t think he could
get better. BUT, he argued with me and tried
to sell me on he was a total disaster and there
was no hope and he tried everything.
He was lying to himself.
Then I spoke to a bipolar supporter.
She said there is no hope for her husband.
Did you try to find a doctor using my system
Did you listen to all the cds?
Did you read all my bipolar supporter materials?
Did you find a therapist using my method?
Did you setup systems to protect your finances?
Did you get a different job like I recommended?
Did you send signs and symptoms to the doctor/therapist?
Did you go over the section on how to handle your
loved one’s mood swings and anger?
I heard yes, yes, yes, yes, yes. After 20 minutes
it turned to, “well I didn’t do that but I couldn’t
do that because…I couldn’t read everything because I didn’t
have time…I didn’t listen to all the cds because… We couldn’t
use your doctor system because we didn’t have time.”
I said, “it’s amazing how you told me for 20 minutes
the opposite of what you are telling me now.”
She said, “well you are right.”
In my head, I thought, “Man, she is lying to herself.”
She then told me that she had to get serious
and stop lying to herself that she was doing way
more than she really was.
There are many people that lie to themselves. My dad
did it a lot. He would say he tried everything to help
my mom. But he really didn’t. Today he admits that he
really didn’t but didn’t know what to do.
My mom use to lie to herself about what she was doing
for her illness. She would say, “I am doing everything.”
She didn’t do 20% of what she was suppose to do
back in the day.
I lied to myself all the time from 1997 through
2005. I would give my mom a ton of money and lie
to myself by saying it was being managed well
and everything was okay. I would just keep telling
myself that. I remember my brother asking if
I knew where all the money was going and I said,
“Oh, yea, she needs it, it’s going to legitimate
Lying to yourself is deadly. It’s a huge problem. Don’t
do it. Be honest with yourself. When you do, good
things will happen.
Even though I am going to get hate mail about
talking about goal setting for 2008, I am going
to talk about it. Sorry. It’s important. You
can’t set goals if you aren’t honest with
Hey, I just looked at the clock, I have to run.
Catch you tomorrow. Oh, tomorrow is the bipolar
disorder news. See you.
P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
P.P.S. Check out my Free blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
P.P.P.S Check out my Free podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.