Do you know a complainer? Someone who always complains about their situation and their problems, but doesn’t seem to have any solutions for them? Do you know a blamer? I think they’re related to complainers, to tell you the truth. They blame their situation and all their problems on something else (or someone). These two types of people are REAL people! I know, I’ve met them at bipolar support group meetings. They will complain about their problems with their loved one. They will even complain about their loved one themselves. And/or they will blame all their problems on bipolar disorder. Or, worse yet, on their loved one. There’s one thing that these two types of people definitely are NOT. And that is solution-oriented. That’s what you need to be.
Being solution-oriented means that you don’t complain or blame. You take responsibility. You look for solutions. You even look “outside the box” sometimes for answers. It means that you are willing. Willing to admit you don’t know the solution right now, but you sure will look for one.
You are willing to try different solutions, too, to see what works and what doesn’t work. Like your loved one may have to do with their medications. They may have to try different ones to see which ones will work for them. Being solution-oriented means that you will not always end up on the popular side of an opinion. But you stick to your guns and do what’s right for YOUR loved one and family anyway.
You must be motivated as well. See…Complainers and blamers just sit around giving “lip service” to what they say. They don’t look for or offer any real solution to their situation or problem. They are lazy. Solving problems can be hard work. But it’s worth it in the end. Say you look at a problem that you and/or your loved one have and you look for ways to solve it. You may come across a totally off-the-wall way to solve it, and do that. It may not be the easiest thing to do…It may not be what someone else would do…But it WORKS for YOU! So you stay solution-oriented.
Being solution-oriented also means that you look at a problem every way that you can. Then you look at solutions every way that you can. The answer to your problems may not be obvious, but if you keep looking, you will find them. There have been times when I have come up with a solution that other people thought was impossible, or the wrong thing to do, but it worked.
Well, I have to go!