How’s it going today?
I hope you’re doing well.
I was kind of annoyed yesterday, I someone call and email that my daily emails didn’t give enough information.
The reason why it’s annoying is because I was like, “how much information do you want me to type of up EVERY DAY?”
They were like, “a lot more you are just teasing us?”
The reason why it’s annoying to me is because this takes a MASSIVE amount of work.
Many people on my list realize this. Many do not. They simply complain. It’s like the same thing where I volunteer. There are people who constantly complain that someone or some or organization is not doing enough for them.
I can’t even imagine if I had to spend more than the time it takes for me to already write these emails every day.
It would be all I did, which doesn’t make any sense.
Know what I mean?
I mean think about it, I am doing this 365 days a year including my birthday, holidays, when I am sick, etc.
Sorry to vent : )
It’s also annoying that if someone orders something from me and let’s say the post office loses it they assume I did it on purpose.
Or if a package is damaged. Or if something is done.
It just makes me shake my head and realize why it’s so hard in the mental health field. People can be super demanding.
Someone wrote me that I have “no integrity?”
When people say that kind of stuff, it’s beyond annoying based on what I am doing on a daily basis for the cause.
I do a TON and I mean a TON of work. Most of the time I don’t make a dime. You would be shocked if I laid it all out for you. The people who work for me know this for sure.
Anyway, based on the last day or so I was thinking about something.
Remember what is commonly called the Lord’s Prayer?
“God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, The courage to change the things I can, And the wisdom to know the difference.”
Well, today I want to talk about the “accept the things I cannot change” part.
That’s important when it comes to bipolar disorder.
It’s trying to change the things you CAN’T change that leads to stress and anxiety, and that’s what’s bad for your disorder.
Stress leads to depression, and depression can lead to an episode.
And avoiding episodes are what my courses/systems are all about:
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There are some things you CAN change, but there are other things you CAN’T change.
You can’t change other people. It’s up to them to change themselves. And that’s only if they want to – you can’t do it for them.
You can’t always change the situation around you (although sometimes you can, and I’ll talk about that in a minute).
You can’t change the world, as much as you might like to sometimes.
You can’t change the place you’re in, usually.
Especially in this economy. Most of us are lucky to be holding on to our homes these days, and couldn’t afford another house even if we wanted to.
You can’t change things. Things just are the way they are.
For example, you just can’t change the fact that you or your loved one has bipolar disorder. It’s just a fact. You may not like it, but you also can’t change it.
The only thing you can do about things you can’t change is to accept them.
A friend of mine told me this quote from one of her daily readings, and I think it applies here:
“Acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing, or situation – some fact of my life – unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing, or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment.”
I think that’s what it’s all about.
Finding serenity, or peace of mind, in whatever situation you’re in.
In other words, accepting what you can’t change.
If you can come to the place where you can accept that you or your loved one has bipolar disorder and you can’t change that fact, then you can do something about it -You can start learning how to manage it.
Remember the old expression, “If life gives you lemons, make lemonade?”
Well, this is sort of the same thing.
You can work with what you have, if you accept it.
If you don’t, it won’t get you anywhere, anyway.
And it might make you sicker, trying to change what you can’t change, getting all stressed out and, like I said, getting stressed out can lead to depression, and depression can lead to a bipolar episode.
And that is something you DON’T want!
For supporters, the same thing can happen.
Maybe you won’t go into an episode, but the stress can make you not as good a supporter as you can be, if you don’t accept the things you can’t change.
The main point I’m trying to make is to accept the things you can’t change, and work with the things you CAN change, and you’ll be much more able to manage your bipolar disorder, or be a better supporter.
Know what I mean? I guess there’s always going to be people who complain on my list no matter what. I can’t change them.
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