How’s it going?
I hope you are doing well.
Hey, I have to get going really quick today because I was at that seminar all weekend and I have done anything for work in like 2 days.
I wanted to tell you a funny story about the seminar that I went to. Yesterday I told you a funny story and today I have another one.
Just for a recap, I went to a business seminar over the weekend not in mental health but I met people who can help me accomplish various things with this mental health organization (like finding software vendors and tools to make things more efficient with the organization).
Anyway, I met a lot of really successful people. Even though it wasn’t a seminar on bipolar disorder, MANY people knew loved one’s with bipolar disorder.
Here’s the funny story. You know how there is an election in the United States (I say this because we have tens of thousands of international readers that might not know).
So the election is a big thing. They are saying it’s going to be the biggest election with turnout in many decades.
So lots of people are talking politics which I do NOT do. I don’t know a lot about politics. It’s hard enough for me to keep up with mental health stuff and all my other businesses and hobbies.
Anyway this guys is like, “who you voting for?”
Now I know for sure, if you answer this question you have a 50% chance of getting someone super mad at you.
I don’t want to argue about politics with people.
I am voting but not talking about who I am voting for because I am not 100% sure. I might be 99.9% sure but I am not 100% sure. So that means when people ask I can say, “I am not 100% sure yet.”
So I said, “I am not 100% sure yet.”
I thought the guy would just let it go and move on to something else.
He pressed me, “Why are you not sure?”
I said, “Because I don’t have all the answers to my questions.”
He said, “Ask me, I know EVERYTHING.”
I said, “really, do you know how to solve an equation with 7 unknown variables and there only being 10 total variables?”
He looked at me like I was crazy. He said “well I know EVERYTHING about both candidates not math equations.”
If you have been on my list for a while you know how I get when people try to back me in a corner lol So the guys says, “why don’t you know. Then he proceeded to bash a certain candidate and say that this person would basically do all these bad things to America”
So I said, “you know what sir (Note-If I call you sir, you’re in trouble probably), I do have a question, and if you could answer it, I would know who I was going to vote for.”
He said, “okay, what is it, then you better vote for and he told me who to vote for.”
I said, “I want to know where each candidate stands on the state of mental health in the US and how are they going to improve it. I want to know how they are going to lower the suicide stats for those with serious mental health issues like bipolar disorder because sir, I am sure a guy as smart as yourself knows that bipolar disorder affects more than 10% of the US population which is more than 30,000,000 people (NOTE that’s supporters AND survivors). What is each candidate going to do?”
He looked at me like I was crazy.
I said, “sir, you don’t think reducing death is important?”
You should have seen his face, I kept asking. I then I said, “Sir, why do you think people don’t care? I can tell you don’t care. Why haven’t you thought of this before I brought it up? You said you knew everything. How could you not know this?”
The guy looked down at the ground almost afraid, He then started to back away and walked away with his head down. I thought it was super funny!!!!!
So if someone asks you about politics and you don’t want to answer do what I did. lol
Okay, so after the seminar I had to go to the grocery store to get food for the week.
Now, this might seem weird, but I want you to think about the grocery store.
I want you to think about how you go up and down each aisle of the grocery store picking out items that you need.
Now, you’re choosy, because you only want the best for you and your loved one (and your family if you still have children living at home).
You’re also choosy about the price because, after all, there are other things to be considered when considering all these items in the grocery store aisles, aren’t there?
Then you go up to the check out and pay for each item that you need.
Then you bring all these grocery store items home, because you need these items to keep your home running well, and to feed you.
Ok, so what does this have to do with bipolar disorder?
I’ll tell you if you scroll down…
I know, you think I’m teasing….
But there really is a connection…
Ok, you got me…
Here it is:
When you’re at the grocery store, you have an agenda. You have an objective. You may even have a list – either written down, or in your head – of what you need to get.
You pick different items according to your needs, right?
Well, we’re not robots, so not everyone picks the same items when they go to the grocery store (which is good, because I can’t stand asparagus!).
It’s the same with bipolar disorder.
Picking different items is like picking different ideas or techniques that work for your loved one.
And what works for one person may not work for another loved one (just like me not liking asparagus, where you might love it!).
In my courses/systems below, I discuss the negative side of support groups being that some people try to tell everyone else what to do – they think that just because some medication worked for their loved one, that it will work for yours as well:
SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
There are these type of people, who try to tell you how to manage your loved one’s disorder just because something worked for their loved one.
But that’s like telling you what to buy at the grocery store!
You should try different ideas and techniques with your loved one, because (especially at first) you don’t know what method will work. Each person is different.
Sometimes the simplest things will work. Like keeping your loved one’s medications at the side of the sink instead of the side of the bed.
What if you never tried a new food? How else would you know if you liked it or not?
You need to try new things with your loved one to see if they work or not.
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