Hi,

How’s it going?

I hope you are doing well.

Actually tomorrow I have a situation. I have a weekend seminar. I am not sure when I am going to send the daily email. Hmmm. I guess I will have to get up super early.

I will get it out to you 🙂

Anywway, here is today’s news.

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‘Bipolar Boy’ balances comedy, mental illness
DO> Hmm, what do you think about this?

Church Pastors Too Quick to Dismiss Mental Illness
DO> Boy isn’t this the truth many times unfortunately

Madness and creativity
DO> I don’t like the word “madness” the people are “mad.” Agree?

Johns overwhelmed by funding as charity walk begins
DO> Great for society.

Pedophile John Reid jailed for 12 years
DO> Sad article. No reflection on him having bipolar. Can’t use it as an excuse. Agree?

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Hope you’re doing ok?

I spent the entire day in libraries yesterday. I wanted to get back to my roots so to speak. I haven’t been in too long.

I got so much done. I don’t know what it is, but I can get 5 times more done in a library than in my office.

I am currently working on one of the most complex problems I have ever dealt with in my entire life– not to be dramatic.

But I am.

Anyway, I had to read about 500 pages. One thing I read was a book on bipolar disorder as well is many other things.

Here’s a quote I read from a book called “Taming Bipolar Disorder”:

It said, “To most of the world, bipolar disorder is… something that happens to ‘them,’ those other people, those crazy people. But to you, it’s personal. The face of bipolar disorder is that of your daughter, your husband, your sister, your father, or your best friend. It still might be scary, but it’s part of your life. It’s not them. It’s us.”

Welcome to the world of the supporter of a loved one with bipolar disorder. I know. I am one.

It may not be pretty, but most of us didn’t have a choice, did we? If you care about someone who has bipolar disorder, you are a supporter.

Supporting a loved one with the disorder can be stressful much of the time and, as a result, supporters are plagued with stress-related illnesses and even their own depression.

You also have to deal with things like:

· the stigma of society
· possible rejection of friends and family
· effects of the disorder on your children
· your loved one’s mood swings
· possible abuse during episodes
· possible hospitalization of your loved one
· legal and financial ramifications
· other possible ramifications of a bipolar episode
· social isolation
· and other issues

Statistics like the fact that there may be something like 13 million people in this country with bipolar disorder don’t affect you. Your life centers around one person – your loved one, and their bipolar disorder.

Your world consists of the daily fighting the disorder and your loved one’s mood swings (and sometimes imminent bipolar episodes). Sometimes you win the fight and sometimes you lose the fight. And sometimes you feel like giving up the fight altogether.

If you don’t have a strong support system of your own, you may not make it through the fight.

It’s very important that, as a supporter, you take care of yourself FIRST. If you don’t, you won’t have the strength to take care of your loved one. If you are totally isolated from the outside world, your loved one’s bipolar disorder will totally take over your own world.

Having your own strong support system and taking care of yourself are just two of the topics I strongly go over in my courses/ and systems below, because I believe they’re so important to the supporter of a loved one with bipolar disorder (as well as someone with the disorder themselves):

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
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HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
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You need to maintain outside contact, have interests of your own, hobbies, an outside job, attend a group for supporters of loved ones with bipolar disorder, and other like activities.

You need to take a break from your all-consuming life as a supporter once in awhile. Go to a movie, visit a friend, take a class on something you enjoy… just something that will get your mind off the stress of your daily responsibilities.

The most important thing for you to remember is that being a supporter for a loved one with bipolar disorder is not WHO you are.

You have an identity apart from that. Your very own identity. And you need to nurture that side of you.

For many supporters, keeping a journal of their feelings has helped them to do this. Others have found solace by seeing their own therapist. Whatever works for you, you must do something for yourself to maintain your own identity.

The world of the supporter can be stressful much of the time. However, it can also be managed if you work at it.

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Hi,

How’s it going?

I’m going to tell you something, and you may not have thought of it in this way before, but…

BIPOLAR DISORDER IS A THIEF!

The first thing it does is that it robs your loved one of their identity – of their true self. They become this “bipolar self” – this person they weren’t before they were diagnosed with bipolar disorder.

Which is hard for you, because they aren’t the same person they are in an episode than they are when they aren’t in an episode, and that can be very, very hard to deal with. So you have to try to remember what they’re like when they’re not in an episode. It’s not their fault. It’s the fault of the disorder. It’s a thief! It steals your loved one’s real self.

Bipolar disorder can steal your jobs – your loved one’s because they might lose their job either because their boss might find out they have bipolar disorder, or they can’t keep doing their job because of the disorder and have to go on disability. Or your job because you have to quit it to become a full-time supporter.

Bipolar disorder can steal your financial security. If our loved one goes into a manic episode (and you haven’t taken charge of the checkbook and credit cards), they can go on a spending spree, spend all the money in the checking account, and/or max out your credit cards. You can go broke, lose your car, house, and even go into bankruptcy, in one manic episode.

One of the main things I teach in my courses is how to become financially solvent against bipolar disorder:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?

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SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?

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http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?

Visit:

http://www.survivebipolar.net

But, again, I’m telling you:

BIPOLAR DISORDER IS A THIEF!

It can steal your friends. Sometimes friends, like society, don’t understand the disorder (or mental illness in general), and they will turn away from you. It’s like they’re scared of your loved one all of a sudden – scared that they’re going to “catch” their bipolar disorder. It’s not even necessarily your loved one’s fault. It’s the fault of the disorder itself.

It can steal your social life. Not just what I just said, but also because your loved one may be embarrassed in public, or just may be too depressed to go out. Again, it’s the disorder, not your loved one.

It can steal your family. Again, possibly because

your loved one is too depressed to go out, but also it may be because they’ve driven away their family because of what they’ve done in episodes, too.

And because of that, it can also steal your family gatherings, so that holidays are especially difficult and probably a very lonely time not only for your loved one, but for you as well. People with bipolar disorder are usually more depressed around the holidays.

It can steal your standing in church and/or in the community. Your loved one may have once thrived in the community and as a leader. Now they may be just a shadow of their old self. Now they may be afraid of what people think of them.

It can steal your intimacy. Not just sex (either because of the depression or the medication), but just the closeness you used to share.

It can steal your trust, because you don’t know what your loved one is doing during a manic episode, or what the consequences are going to be.

It can steal your fun (when was the last time you had any), and your happiness and enjoyment of life, because of your loved one’s depression and the disorder itself.

It can steal your health – both your loved one’s and your own, because of stress and other health issues that are caused by bipolar disorder.

BIPOLAR DISORDER IS A THIEF!

It can steal your time, when your loved one has to spend time in a treatment facility and/or hospital.

It can steal your self-esteem.

It can steal your security as well, as you wonder when the next episode will come?

It can steal your loved one’s fulfillment and satisfaction with life, as they struggle with no sense of productivity.

It can steal your dreams…

It can steal your lives, as bipolar disorder takes over your whole lives, and everything begins to evolve around the disorder. Everything I’ve just talked about.

But worst of all…

Bipolar disorder can steal your loved one’s life. If your loved one stops taking their medication, they can kill themselves. Now do you see why I say that…

BIPOLAR DISORDER IS A THIEF!!!

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Hi,

Hey, how’s it going?

Actually my friend asked me if I wanted to go Deep Sea Fishing which I don’t ever do. I don’t really like to do it. Plus I have way too many things to do today.

But after he asked me, I was thinking about bipolar disorder and fishing.

I bet you’d never in a million years think that bipolar disorder could have anything to do with fishing, would you?

Well, let me show you how this guy who actually has bipolar disorder changed my mind.

This guy really likes to fish. He goes fishing wherever he goes.

So he was down in Florida on vacation, and he went on one of those excursion fishing trips where they take you night fishing out on the gulf.

Well, there was this one woman on the boat who’d been fishing for hours, and nothing was happening.

Everything was so calm, in fact, that she had almost fallen asleep.

Then all chaos broke loose!

Her line went crazy!

She was losing control of it!

She couldn’t keep hold!

She just couldn’t do it by herself!

She needed help, and she needed it badly.

Well, she ended up catching the biggest fish caught on the entire boat that night!

Do you know why?

Because the deck hands helped her reel it in.

And this guy was watching the whole thing happen from beginning to end.

So he told me (like I’m sure you’re wondering) how this made him think of his bipolar disorder.

He said that usually, his life is really peaceful.

Life goes along, and things are usually pretty good for him, no real problems to speak of.

But then some things start to go wrong.

He gets a little stressed.

He might start losing some sleep.

His meds get a little off.

He just “doesn’t feel right.”

Then all chaos breaks loose!

He feels like he’s going crazy!

He’s losing control of it!

He can’t keep hold!

He just can’t do it by himself!

He needs help, and he needs it badly.

He’s headed for a full-blown manic episode!

But, just like the lady with the fish, he doesn’t have to go into the episode, because he gets the help he needs.

He has a great supporter and a strong support system.

He told me that remembering that fishing trip and that woman’s experience with the fish helps him stay stable, because he remembers that he can’t do it by himself, and that there is help for him if he needs it.

In my courses/systems below, I talk about how to build a strong support system and how to ask for help when you need it:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?

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http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?

Visit:

http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?

Visit:

http://www.survivebipolar.net

Each person is different.

For this guy, remembering his fishing trip in Florida helps keep him stable.

For others, unfortunately, it’s remembering the last episode, when they forgot that they couldn’t do it by themselves, and that all they had to do was reach out for help.

If you/your loved one has bipolar disorder, I hope you’ll be more like the guy with the fishing story.

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Hi,

Hope you’re doing well today.

Hey – remember that old game show that had three doors…

And the contestant had to pick one of the three doors, because there were prizes behind them…

(But actually only behind TWO doors)

Behind Door Number One…

A…Brand…New…Car!!!

Behind Door Number Three…

BUZZZ!!! A goat.

Aww…You lose.

But behind Door Number Two…

The…Dream…Vacation…of…a…Lifetime!!!

Yeah! Scream! Jump up and down!

Audience goes crazy! Bells and whistles going

off!

So why should YOU pick Door Number Two?

First of all, because bipolar disorder or not, everyone would love a free dream vacation of a lifetime.

But for you specifically, because wouldn’t it be great if just for once you could escape from the world of bipolar disorder?

Wouldn’t it be nice if just for one week everything went perfect?

If just for one week you could forget about the fact that you’re a supporter to a loved one with a potentially fatal mental disorder?

If just for one week you could get away from all the anxiety and stress and pressure of being a supporter?

Yeah, it would be great, wouldn’t it?

But it’s not reality.

This isn’t a game show, and you don’t get to pick Bipolar Door Number Two and win the dream vacation of a lifetime.

I’m sorry, I really am.

Because if it were true, I would’ve already done it, and then showed you how.

Believe me, because that’s what all my courses/systems are all about. I check things out first to save you the time and trouble, and/or I develop systems for you to help you:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?

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http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?

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http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?

Visit:

http://www.survivebipolar.net

But I deal with reality, and not dreams that won’t come true.

You’re probably not going to go on a game show.

You’re probably not going to win a million dollars in the lottery, either.

The reality is that even if your loved one had never been diagnosed with bipolar disorder, your life wouldn’t have been perfect anyway. No one’s is.

The reality is that even if you hadn’t had to deal with a disorder like bipolar disorder, you would still have to deal with something serious in your life that would cause you as much stress – statistics just show this.

And people are dealing with more anxiety and stress in their lives now more than ever before.

So what can you do, since you can’t run away, and you probably won’t be going on that dream vacation of a lifetime?

You have to deal with what’s in front of you, and the best way to do that is one day at a time, or else you’re going to feel overwhelmed.

You take things as they come, and you deal with them the best you can.

I know that sounds rather simple, but that’s the way I have to do it, too.

Life is hard enough without complicating it yourself.

Keep it simple. Face the day that’s in front of you and only that day.

Even 12-step programs, where people are trying to change their whole lives have adopted the philosophy of “One Day at a Time.”

They know that trying to handle any more than that would just be too overwhelming.

A simple philosophy, but one that has been time-tested and proven to work.

Use the tools in your “bipolar toolbox” each day.

Practice what you’ve learned in this mini-course and in my bigger courses.

Use the knowledge that you’ve learned from books and your other research into bipolar disorder.

Be active and productive, so that you aren’t focused solely on your loved one’s disorder.

Do things that you enjoy.

Keep lines of communication open with your loved one.

Be a good supporter so that your loved one can become stable and there are fewer episodes to deal with.

Stay close to family and friends.

Have a social life.

In other words, do whatever it takes to have a happy life (in spite of the bipolar disorder), so that you don’t have to focus on your loved one’s disorder, and you don’t have to fantasize about lotteries and game shows and getting away on the dream vacation of a lifetime!

Just live for today, and be happy.

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Hi,

Hope you’re doing ok. I am actually getting some of this message ready on Saturday night because I have to get up at 5:00am tomorrow to volunteer in this charity for battered women.

So I wouldn’t have 1 hour to write this entire message.

As I thought about what I was going to write, I was thinking about how I had to put this all together fast because I have to go to bed early.

So today I want to talk to you about two words:

ACTIVITY and PRODUCTIVITY

There is a difference between “activity” and “productivity,” especially when it comes to your loved one.

Productivity, for the most part, involves having something to show for your “activity.”

I’ll show you what I mean.

Scenario #1:

Lisa works as an office worker in a major corporation.

Her co-workers are very busy, so no one has time no notice what Lisa is doing – they can’t tell if she is being productive or not.

So Lisa walks around carrying files in her arms for most of the day, looking as if she is busy (just in case anyone happens to be looking).

Is Lisa being productive?

No, Lisa is showing some activity, but is not actually being productive.

Scenario #2:

Mary works for a virtual organization in the customer service department; in other words, she works from home.

So there is no one looking over her shoulder, no one to see if she is really working or not.

However, she spends more time on the phone with the other members of the virtual organization than actually talking to customers.

Is Mary productive?

No.

Talking on the phone is an activity, but it is not productive.

In fact, in this case, it’s worse, because it’s a distraction to the other members of the organization who can’t get their own work done while they’re on the phone with Mary.

Scenario #3:

George has bipolar disorder and when he’s depressed, he tends to sleep more often.

The answer may seem obvious, but is George productive?

No, because although sleep is an activity, it isn’t productive, since there is nothing to show for it.

In fact, in the case of bipolar disorder, it can be harmful to your loved one.

Too little sleep can lead to a bipolar manic episode, and too much sleep can lead to a bipolar depressive episode.

Scenario #4:

Bill watches quite a bit of TV. His wife accuses him of being lazy, but he argues that at least he is doing something with his time!

Is Bill really being productive since he is doing something with his time, as he says?

Bill is doing something with his time, as watching TV is an activity. However, it is not a productive activity, as once you are done watching TV, you really have nothing to show for it.

So Bill is not really what I would consider productive.

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You want your loved one to be more than the examples in the scenarios I just described.

You want them to be productive, since that will help them manage their bipolar disorder better.

You want them to be productive, because that will make them feel better about themselves.

You want them to be productive, because productivity brings more quality to a person’s life (bipolar or not).

So how can you help?

You can encourage your loved one to start making To-Do Lists, detailing out tasks they want to accomplish.

These can be things around the house, outside the house, or errands they can run.

The list doesn’t have to be long, but just something to make them feel a sense of accomplishment.

In my courses/systems below, I talk about To-Do Lists in detail:

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HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?

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The difference between activity and productivity is having a sense of accomplishment at the end of the day.

And that can help your loved one feel better about themselves, increasing their self-esteem.

Being productive will keep your loved one from being bored (one of the triggers to a bipolar episode).

Being productive will also keep your loved one from getting depressed (which could also lead to a bipolar episode).

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Hi,

Hope you’re having a good day.

Guess what? Today is the day that I measure my body fat for being in NON competitive body building—meaning I do it as a hobby.

So today hopefully I will hit 6.8% and then I am going to eat whatever I want. Today is a total cheat day.

I also am taking ten full days off from the gym and cardio.

What in the world does this have to do with bipolar disorder?’

Something.

Okay I was telling my friend who was a woman about my training program. She said she was on a diet.

Ask any woman if she’s ever been on a diet and she will most probably say yes (in fact, she may even be on one now). In fact, my women (and even men) have been on several different diets over the course of their lives.

The problem with diets (as you probably know) is that they don’t work. And there are so many fad diets out there. What was “in” yesterday is “out” today and vice-versa.

Most people who go on fad diets end up failing and gaining back all the weight they lost and more.

I know a woman, though, who lost 30 pounds over the course of several months, and kept the weight off.

I asked her what diet she was on, and she said, “No specific diet.”

I said, “How did you lose all that weight?”

You’re not going to believe her answer! (Scroll down for the answer)

Keep scrolling…

Are you ready for this?

She said, “I cheated.”

I said, “You did WHAT?”

And she repeated, “I cheated.”

I had to know. Wouldn’t you want to know?

So I asked her to explain.

She said that all week she would watch what she ate and would be pretty strict about it.

As she had said, no specific diet (definitely no fad diet), but she ate good healthy food and exercised.

She still had my curiosity up, and I asked her to continue.

“But what’s your secret?” I asked.

She said that as long as she adhered to a good healthy diet all week, she allowed herself to “cheat” on Sunday.

“Something small,” she said, “but something sweet, because I figure I feel I’ve earned it.”

So her big secret to losing weight was to cheat on purpose? NO.

Her big secret was that if you eat a healthy diet, cheating once in a while is not going to destroy your diet.

In my courses/systems below, I totally advocate eating a healthy diet and exercising:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?

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http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?

Visit:

http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?

Visit:

http://www.survivebipolar.net

But I also believe you must have a balanced life as well when you’re dealing with bipolar disorder.

If you get obsessive about your loved one’s diet, planning every meal, counting every calorie and fat gram, you’ll lose the whole point of living a healthy lifestyle!

There are other options, too.

For example, you know that I’m a non-competitive body builder, so I’m very conscious how I eat. But I eat 6 smaller meals a day instead of 3 larger meals a day.

Diabetics eat this way as well, for their blood sugar.

Anyway, what my main point about all this and how it relates to bipolar disorder is this:

Don’t be so vigilant about your loved one’s bipolar disorder that you never give them a break – a “cheat” – some breathing room.

They’re not going to have a bipolar episode every day if you don’t keep watch over them.

You can still help your loved one manage their disorder and stick to their treatment plan and not ”watch every single calorie” (speaking figuratively).

Remember to still have fun together – don’t let the disorder rule your life. “Cheat” once in a while on your “bipolar diet”!

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Hi,

How’s it going?

I hope you are doing well.

Here is today’s news.

To read this week’s news visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarnews400

People walk for mental illness awareness
DO> Good idea I guess?

Actress Patty Duke speaks about her bipolar disorder
DO> She is always good but younger people don’t know her as well.

Bipolar Disorder Also Lingers In Children, Study Says
DO> This study has been hitting the news really hard, take a look.

Bipolar Disorder and Depression Symptoms
DO> Refresher. Take a look.

Life of the party may be at risk
DO> I totally agree, you?

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Your Friend,

Dave

David Oliver is the author of the shocking guide “Bipolar Disorder—The REAL Silent Killer.” Click Here to get FREE Information sent via email on how and why bipolar disorder kills.