How’s it going?
Hope you are doing really well and have a great day.
I have a really important lesson that I wanted to teach you today about bipolar disorder.
Let me tell you where it all started. The other day I was talking to someone who is really good at hiring. She actually works at a very big Fortune 500 company and is an executive.
She use to do HR. She found out that I had an organization that helped people cope and deal with bipolar disorder. Whether it was bipolar supporters or bipolar survivors.
Anyway, her sister has bipolar disorder and was, when I first met her, doing terrible. Now she is doing very well because of the system.
Anyway, I was telling her how I had to hire new people for various positions in the organization. I told her how sometimes it’s like a lottery as to if someone would be good or not.
She asked about my hiring process which after 10 minutes she said it was terrible.
Over the last couple of months, she has been helping me fix it. Today I am working with 5 people who work for me now, and this executive woman to make an incredible system.
It’s almost done.
Anyway, I told her how I had a new position that is some customer service, some administrative assisting and some other stuff. It would be like 1/3 this, 1/3 that, and 1/3 this.
I said that one of the key things is the person has to be REALLY organized and really good at organizing things.
There are other things like they have to be accessible most of the time, good at customer service, like talking to people, etc.
I told this woman being organized is critical. She said, how are you going to figure that out.
I said I am going to ask if the potential person to be hired is organized and what he/she has done to show organization.
The woman said that was a terrible idea. She said, “what are you crazy?” What do you think someone will say if you ask, ” are you organized?” I said, “umm, well.” She cut me off and said, “well, umm, they will say yes I am.”
She said, it’s like if someone asks a spouse “did you cheat on me?” She went on to say that “99% of the time
the spouse will say no I did not” when the spouse did.
She said, you have to ask the right questions that get you the real answer.
So she gave me some questions.
“How do you structure your day?”
“What do you do when you get a new job?”
“If I gave you 6 assignments in one day, what would you do?”
and some other questions.
I said, “wow that’s a great idea. I see where you are going. These questions for a person to think and you can determine if they are organized from the answers.”
She said, “no you are getting it.”
I said, “you know what is amazing?” She said “what?” I said, “I teach this very same thing with bipolar disorder for doctors.”
She was really interested since her sister had it. I said, “I teach the follow, don’t ask someone if they are a good doctor, know bipolar disorder, like family involvement, ask better questions.”
She said, “like what?” I said, “like these questions”:
“What kind of serious psychological disorders do you specialize in?”
Which disorders are you weak in or prefer not to work with?
When you get a person started, what is your system?
How do you make a diagnosis?
What’s your system to get all the information from the patient so you can make a correct diagnosis and setup the treatment plan? What happens when you are on vacation?
What do you tell someone with bipolar disorder about side effects?
Questions like these. These questions would yield a ton. The executive woman was really happy and impressed if I
do say so myself.
Questions like this are critical.
In my courses/systems below:
SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
I go through more questions to ask and the answers you need to hear. I also go through at length what kind of answers you need to hear.
Can you see how you can really “fake” answering these questions?
Also, when you ask good, smart and intelligent questions, you send a message to the doctor that you are no dummy and have a clue. You or your loved one are much more likely to get right well.
This is so very important.
It’s almost life or death. If you read some of my old blogs about how bad doctors can be, you MUST ask the right questions, to get the right answers to know which doctor to work with.
It was interesting to speak with this woman. Both of us were experts but at different things. She said she had no idea of the questions to ask her sister’s doctor and I said didn’t know the right questions to ask a new person to be hired. But you can see how asking the right questions is critical.
You can’t ask questions that people can answer yes or no to. You can’t ask questions that people will just answer how they think you want them to. You can’t do that withmy questions.
Know what I mean?
What do you think?
David Oliver is the author of the shocking guide “Bipolar Disorder—The REAL Silent Killer.” Click Here to get FREE Information sent via email on how and why bipolar disorder kills.