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I talk at length about how finding a good

doctor is very important. How to find one,

how to shop for them, how to afford them,

how to make “okay doctors” great, and

many other critical things.

Remember the doctor is the key, like the

post above suggested I firmly believe this.

I realize on my list, there are unfortunately

tens of thousands of people who probably have

bad doctors. It’s said but true. But, of the

ones that are bad, some can be reformed using

various techniques that I teach in my materials.

But there are some there is no hope for. Like

my mom’s last doctor. He was terrible.

Why did I bring this up with my situation

with my business partner/friend? Well, it’s

because I have no way of changing him, he

has been like this for years. I have concluded

that I have to move on, just like my mom had

to move on to another doctor that could get

the results she was looking for.

I have talked to so many people that

accept a bad doctor, one that doesn’t

even return calls, listen, etc. You should

not accept this.

Can anyone comment on their experience with

a bad doctor and then moving over to a good

doctor?

Hey, I have to run. Catch you tomorrow.

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Dave

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Current Bipolar News

David Oliver June 20, 2008 | March 19, 2009 Daily Bipolar Disorder Message 15 Comments

Hi,

Here’s the current bipolar news.

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Repligen to initiate Phase IIb bipolar disorder study
DO> Interesting study?

Danielle Scott: doctor denies misdiagnosis
DO> What do you think of this story?

Firms back campaign against health bill
DO> I am surprised, are you?

Antidepressants Alone: Not For Bipolar Depression
DO> Many people with bipolar disorder, report this to me.

Clubhouse helps a life at Crossroads
DO> Good article.

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Bipolar Lesson Learned from People Making Fun of Me

David Oliver June 19, 2008 | March 19, 2009 Daily Bipolar Disorder Message 23 Comments

Hi,

How’s it going?

Yesterday someone asked me on my blog, “why do you write all these stories before your daily emails?”

I do because I like toJ I really hate long and boring stuff. When I first started helping my mom, there wasn’t much good information. And of the stuff that did exist, it was sooooooooooooooooo boring.

Today it’s the same. Lots of boring information and things that are based on theory not reality.

Anyway, I have a funny story today.

The other day I was actually buying a new cell phone. My other cell phone was 8 years old.

It just wasn’t working right. So I went down to my favorite cell phone store.

SIDE NOTE-

Actually I didn’t have the same phone for 8 years. I had insurance and my phone was breaking like every other month so I always had a new old phone if you know what I mean.

When you do more than 10,000 minutes a month, your phone breaks a lot J I would always get my phone at this Nextel store because the people there were really funny. They had like an entertainment store.

They had TVs, a couch, lots of funny people. They had lots of customers and it was kind of like the trading floor of a stock market (you know what you see on TV when people are buying and selling stocks.) People were always yelling in the store.

-“Get me this.”

-“I need that. ”

-“John where’s are dog?”

“Christie, where’s your baby?”

So anyway, I was there last week getting my new phone. They said after the years they “knew me so well” this certain phone would be perfect for me.

Well it turns out the phone wasn’t perfect for me. It had one problem. You couldn’t talk on the phone while it was charging. A major problem for someone who uses can use over 10,000 cell phone minutes a month.

So I knew that I had 30 days to take the phone back and get a different one.

I went in there and told them the problem. They were all laughing and screaming at one another. They have to talk super loud because no one can hear. It’s really strange but funny.

So they asked how I liked the phone besides the fact that I couldn’t talk on it and charge it at the same time.

IMPORTANT BIPOLAR DISORDER LESSON COMING….

I said well, I did like it. They asked if I knew all the features and I said yes, I read the manually carefully.

The guy John was like, “You did what?” and I was like, “I read the manual from A to Z, the entire thing.”

He said, “You mean the cell phone manual?” and I said, “Yes.”

He then started laughing. And then he yelled, “Dave read the cell phone manual — the entire thing!”

Then everyone started looking at me, pointing and laughing.

When new people came into the store they were like, “See that kid? He reads cell phone manuals for a living.”

They were like (HA HA), “You read the manual?” No one reads the manual. Only Dave would read the manual.” HA HA HA!

So then they were like “Would you read the manual for a TV or DVD player?” And I said, “Absolutely.”

I read ALL the manuals I get very carefully.

I don’t know why, but they thought this was so funny. Seriously, everyone in the store was looking at me and laughing. They were suggesting that I was some kind of nerd or something.

I was like, “The only nerds in here are you guys because you guys look like nerds. I don’t, anytime you want to play any kind of sport any day let’s do it J.” They were like, “But we don’t sit home and study cell phone manuals.”

I was like “Oh yea, well you guys look nerdy because you just sit here in a small office and eat poorly and never work out.”

They were like, “But at least we don’t read cell phone manuals!”

Then I was like, “at least I didn’t get picked LAST everything there was a game in high school? J” We were going around and around (it sounded like high school!)

I was like, “You guys are clueless, you should read the manual so you know everything, if you’re going to be selling these things!” I said, “How in the world would you learn everything or know it all?” and one guy screamed laughing, “Duh, by trial and error.”

I said, “That’s dumb. That’s just like not reading the information you get when you get bipolar medications!”

They were like “Oh there he goes again talking over our heads talking bipolar on us.” NOTE-These guys know that I have this

organization. They think it’s really funny. They say all I ever talk about is bipolar. Actually one guy has a family member with it so he loves to hear new updates.

One guy says that he was going to put a warning on the store that said, “working hear can lead to you going crazy?”

So then they said “I bet you are going to tell your newsletter people about us in one of your daily things.” I said “Absolutely!”

So here I am. This entire story reminded me of a HUGELY important concept with bipolar disorder when it comes to medication.

You MUST read the literature that you get. You MUST find out the side effects that a medication can cause.

You can do this by going to the drug companies’ websites and also calling the toll free 800 number that each drug company has.

VERY few people read the literature they get when they get their prescription filled. VERY few people look at the drug company’s website and call the 800 numbers.

YOU MUST DO THIS.

I believe in reading the literature you get. Whether it’s a cell phone manual, DVD manual, vacuum cleaner manual, or bipolar medications information.

You MUST do this.

I remember this one time my mom was put on a new medication. She had a number of problems. I told her to visit the company’s website and call the 800 number. The 800 number was answered by someone at the drug company who was very knowledgeable. The person explained that the problems my mom was having went along with side effects of the medication.

She told her doctor and her medication was changed. You might think it’s the doctor’s job to do this, but it’s not. It’s YOUR job to do this. In my courses/systems below:

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When you listen to the success interviews you hear from person after person how important this is.

Bipolar Disorder is a serious illness. It’s not a joke. The medications that you are talking are serious, too. You must know about them and be up on them.

You can do this all for F.REE by reading what you get when you get your prescription filled, visiting the drug company’s website

and calling their toll free 800 number to ask any questions.

Don’t be like so many people that don’t do any of this.

Hey, I have to run.

Oh one last thing. With my new phone, the manual comes on a CD. They were like “HA HA you can’t read this one unless you are going to glue yourself to your computer because it’s on a CD.”

I was like “Oh, yes I can. I will just print it off, have it bound (it’s 279 pages), and read it.”

They were like, “NERD!” and I was like, “You guys are lucky that I like you :)”

If you ever need a cell phone this store is the most fun phone cell phone selling place I have ever been to!

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Will you make this common mistake with bipolar disorder?

David Oliver June 18, 2008 | March 19, 2009 Daily Bipolar Disorder Message 39 Comments

Hi,

How’s it going?

I actually have to go really quick today because I have to get back from the gym and prepare for a full days of doing lots of different things. Actually before I get started I have a funny story. The other day someone wrote on my blog that basically I had bipolar disorder because I repeated myself.

So I wrote a daily talking about this.

Yesterday that person responded back on my blog and said:

“you took offense when i asked if you are bipolar, but remember that some bipolar meds have the side effect of dementia. so that was not a dumb question.”

First, I didn’t take offense I thought it was funny. I never said it was dumb, at least I don’t remember saying that 🙂

This is funny…

Yesterday I was in the gym leaving and I was talking to the girls that are at the front desk. They are like 20 years old and have a really simple life–it consists of tanning, partying, shopping and text messaging.

The one girl was talking to the other girl. The one girl was talking about what she was going to do this weekend. Then she talked about what she did last weekend. Right in the middle of about a 7 minute explanation, the girl who was suppose to be listening to her said and I quote:

“I forgot what we were talking about, can you start over again?” The girl talking got mad and said, “you always do that to me.”

I said, “hey, someone accused me of having bipolar disorder because I repeat myself, maybe you have it?” She said, “bipolar who what’s that?”

Then she walked away and said she was “bored.”

I thought this was really funny. You might not and think I am crazy for even writing about it. But I wanted to so I did 🙂

But yesterday there was something that happen to the gym that totally relates to bipolar disorder on a serious note. Here’s what happen. There’s a guy in the gym that apparently was never in good shape in like 30 years. He was really in bad shape. Overweight, no muscle ton, etc. So he decided to get into great shape. Some say he is having one of the mid life crisis’s when you start trying to act like you are 18 when you are really 40 something.

Anyway, he tried ALL kinds of programs, diets and plans. Finally he hired one of the world’s top body builders to coach him.

The body builder guy gave him in my opinion a dangerous program that could adversely affect his health.

But the person started to lose weight and body fat. After 12 weeks he went from 20+ percent body fat to less than 5 percent. His program however is crazy.

No carbs excerpt 1 meal a week. He has to do more than 2 hours of cardio SEVEN and I repeat 7 days a week in addition to working out.

The plan is crazy.

IMPORTANT BIPOLAR LESSON COMING

So this person’s goal is to be the lowest possible body fat by July something or another. It’s like 3 to 4 weeks away. I have no problem with setting a goal like this but here’s the problem.

So right now, my friend is like, “his diet makes no sense at all. He is going to destroy his knees and mess up his system because his meals have no balance in them at all.” Other former body builder commented that his diet was dangerous.

Okay, so now, the question becomes? After you hit your goal, after July something or another when you are all done, what’s your long term plan?

At first he had no long term plan. He never thought about it? Sound familiar? It should because so many people dealing with bipolar disorder have no long term plan at all. They work on day to day or maybe this week.

Anyway, so now he decided that basically he wasn’t going to eat carbs forever and do 1 hour of cardio 7 days a week. He wasn’t going to take any time off.

My friend said, “dude, he’s so stupid that plan can’t work long term.” My friend is a person who looks great almost all the time but has a system. He has a balanced diet, takes supplements, takes lots of time off, has cheat days where he can eat junk, etc.

So now it stands this person has a plan that’s not only impossible long term, it’s going to wind up really injuring him.

You can NOT continue to work out 7 days a week hard for the rest of your life. Period. No matter what. Studies and common sense tell you this. If he does this, he will most likely get sick, start experiencing symptoms of massive over training (being angry, can’t sleep, lose weight, feel tired almost all day long, etc), and he will start to hurt his joints, especially his knees. He will wind up destroying himself.

What’s this have to do with bipolar disorder?

A lot. Just yesterday I was talking to someone who had this idea. He said it’s the final straw for his loved one with bipolar disorder.

He is going to measure and monitor all her medication for the rest of her life. He said that he is going to supervise EVERYTHING his loved one does FOREVER. He said he was tired of things not working or her not doing what she was suppose to.

He said, “what do you think of that?” He said it in like a “I have a plan that’s going to work.”

I said that I was 99% sure that it would not work and that it will actually work against him. No one wants to be monitored and treated like a baby.

I told him it was okay to help a loved one with their medication in the beginning but long term this can’t work.

I asked if this person gets a job or moves away how are you going to monitor.

He said, “well she isn’t moving, I will monitor it all.” I said it won’t work.

This is one of those people who has my information but hasn’t gone through it at all.

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I talk at length about how important systems and strategies are. I have systems for all situations–whether you are a supporting a loved one with bipolar, have bipolar disorder yourself or are supporting a child.

When you go through my courses/systems you’re going to be amazed at all the things that I have thought of and how there are indeed solutions to them all. You might think there aren’t solutions to even your most difficult problems but there are. You have to go through the material however. It’s a must. You can’t sit it on your shelf.

But back to this guy. He said, “well what would you do if you were me?” I told him the first problem that I see is, she doesn’t have a good doctor, she doesn’t have a therapist either. Also you aren’t creating a positive environment for her and you are trying to create almost like a ‘police state” where you monitor everything.”

I went on “you haven’t separated the bipolar from her and you are mad and angry at her. You think something is really wrong with her because she has bipolar disorder. You appear to be mean almost punishing her for something she did not do.”

He thought about it. And then he said, “well we will see.”

I finally told him the story of the person in the gym. I asked does it make sense to do cardio 1 hour a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year, only have carbs one meal a week for the rest of someone’s life? He said “that’s crazy. that’s stupid.” I said “hmm, that person is crazy but you monitoring your loved one and managing them, watching them take their medication for the rest of their lives is smart?”

I said, “your plan is not sustainable long term, you are just like the guy in the gym.”

He didn’t say anything.

Hey I just looked at the clock. Do you agree or disagree with me?

Anyone ever try to do something like this?

Anyone ever have this done to them?

Does this make sense?

David Oliver is the author of the shocking guide “Bipolar Disorder—The REAL Silent Killer.” Click Here to get FREE Information sent via email on how and why bipolar disorder kills.

Do you know this one basic tenet of bipolar disorder?

David Oliver June 17, 2008 | March 19, 2009 Daily Bipolar Disorder Message 31 Comments

Hi,

How’s it going?

I hope you have a great day today.

Yesterday was really funny. I was reading my blog responses and saw one obviously from a person that if I had to guess wasn’t doing well. She said: “you seem to repeat information over and over. are you bipolar?”

Actually several people who work for me with bipolar disorder laughed and laughed about this.For a number of reasons. First, we all think it’s funny that if someone see something, like a typo, writing fast, repeating yourself, etc. they say, “are you bipolar?” We laugh because if you look at the signs and symptoms of bipolar disorder “repeating yourself” isn’t one of them.

I actually don’t really repeat myself over and over and over and over. I do however repeat themes and important concepts, strategies and ideas.

One of them is getting the basics. You see this is where I come from. I come from a place where my entire life whether it was football or business, we drilled on the basics EVERYDAY.

I believe the basics are super important. When I speak to people who are dealing with bipolar disorder and having a hard time, whether they are bipolar supporters or have the disorder themselves, I notice that they do NOT know the basics. The basics are what kill them.

You can’t have a loved one who is really successful with bipolar disorder or you can’t be with knowing the basics.

So in responses to the post of “are you bipolar because you keep repeating yourself?” let’s look at the signs and symptoms of bipolar disorder. Here is an excerpt from www.bipolarcentral.com

“There are two types of Bipolar Disorder. Bipolar I is characterized by severe, debilitating symptoms, with extreme episodes, including some or all of the following:

Manic Symptoms

-Agitation, nervousness, irritability, feeling edgy, short-tempered,

-Feeling you can ‘do no wrong’, inflated sense of self, grandiose feelings, inappropriate or poor judgment

-Increased sex drive or desire, loss of inhibition

-Dressing or speaking in an extreme, or unusual manner

-Inability to focus

-Delusions, hallucinations

-Euphoria, or feeling ‘high’

-Heavy use of drugs or alcohol

-Boundless energy, sleeplessness, insomnia

-Rage, aggression or combative behavior

-Racing or disassociated thoughts, extreme talkativeness, rapid speech

-Reckless spending, high speed driving, high risk activities, decisions made without considering consequences

Depressive Symptoms

-Abnormally low, listless mood and energy

-Constant fatigue, increase/decrease in sleep, insomnia, excess sleep

-Feelings of guilt, worthlessness and unworthiness

-Inability to concentrate or focus, or to make everyday decisions

-Excessive drug or alcohol use

-Absence of self-esteem or confidence

-Extreme increase or decrease in appetite or weight

-Sadness, hopelessness, an attitude of ‘what’s the use?’

-Withdrawal from family, friends, co-workers

-No interest in activities, even normally exciting or interesting tasks

-Self abuse or injury, thoughts, talk, plans or attempts of suicide

Bipolar II is also called Hypomania. Bipolar II or Hypomanic episodes, and symptoms, are significantly less extreme than Bipolar I behaviors.

Also let me say again, I am NOT a doctor, therapist or attorney. I am NOT offering medical, legal advice or professional advice.

Diagnosing Bipolar Disorder:

Bipolar Disorder should be diagnosed by a psychiatrist, a specialist, equipped to recognize the symptoms. Accurate diagnosis is crucial, because treatment usually includes medication. If the wrong medication is prescribed, symptoms may worsen, or side effects may occur.

To diagnose Bipolar Disorder, doctors look for at least two years of numerous periods of hypomanic and depressive symptoms. In children, the duration of symptoms must be at least one year. Symptoms must cause significant impairment in social, work or school or other functional areas.

The bottom line is a good doctor is the key to getting a proper diagnosis and then getting the correct

medication.

WARNING!!!!

It’s VERY important not to get any old doctor. You need to SHOP for a doctor. You need to really find a good one. One that knows disorders like bipolar disorder really well. One that will work with the patient AND the family or supporters as well.

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I teach at length how to find a good doctor. How to shop for one. How to ask the right questions. How to make sure you keep them on track. I go through the ins and outs of dealing with doctors when it comes to bipolar disorder.

This is information that nobody seems to ever talk about anywhere else. I have no idea when the doctor is so important.

If you or your loved one fail to get the right doctor, you are pretty much doomed. I hate to get dramatic but it’s true.

My mom had TERRIBLE doctors over the years. If you listen to the success interviews in my courses/systems you will hear person after person say that for 5, 10, 15, or more than 20 years they had bad doctors and bad doctors misdiagnosed them, gave them the wrong medication, didn’t care, etc.

This is one of the basics of dealing with bipolar disorder. You need a good doctor.

The reason why I pointed this out, is many people just don’t know the basics. They look around and say so and so must be bipolar because well because he spells things wrong. Or he must have bipolar disorder because he has purple hair.

A doctor will look for several signs and symptoms not just one at one time. Make sense?

As another interesting side note, someone said, “you write really fast sometimes and you do these daily emails. I saw a typo, I think you have bipolar disorder.” I laughed and laughed. The person didn’t think it was funny that I was laughing at them.

I said “you know, my mom can be in a MAJOR bipolar episode and write perfectly well. As a matter of fact, she can edit while she is in an episode. She writes perfect all the time.” I asked, “So how does this go along with your theory??”

The person didn’t say anything. The point I was trying to make was writing fast, making typos is NOT a sign of bipolar disorder. Again, this person was a person who didn’t even know the basics of the disorder and his loved one had been struggling for years and years and years.

I asked this person about his loved one’s doctor and I found out he just “picked one.” I said that was wrong, wrong, wrong. He said there were no doctors in his area. I said “you sound like my dad for my entire life.” Let me tell you, there are doctors in your area. They exist. You need to work at finding them. I go through this at

length in my course. But the bottom line is, doctors are super important, the basics of bipolar disorder are really important.

Hey I have to run. I will catch you tomorrow.

Anyone willing to share the result of what happens when you don’t know the basics like you need a good doctor? Anyone willing to share a story about a bad doctor?

David Oliver is the author of the shocking guide “Bipolar Disorder—The REAL Silent Killer.” Click Here to get FREE Information sent via email on how and why bipolar disorder kills.

Bipolar Disorder? Discover The 7 Secrets to living with it

David Oliver June 16, 2008 | March 19, 2009 Uncategorized Leave a Comment

Hi,

If you or your loved one with bipolar disorder want to learn the 7 secrets to living with it, then read on.

This guide was the result of years or hard work involving interviewing more than 100 people with bipolar disorder, watching and monitoring my mom and the people who work for me with bipolar disorder, and reading virtually everything written about how to live with bipolar disorder and boiling it all down into 7 secrets.

If you or your loved one has bipolar disorder and want to find out the 7 secrets to living with the disorder, please visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net/bipolarsecretssale/

It comes with a 30 day f.ree trial as well until Tuesday June 24, 2008.

Hope you enjoy!

David Oliver is the author of the shocking guide “Bipolar Disorder—The REAL Silent Killer.” Click Here to get FREE Information sent via email on how and why bipolar disorder kills.

My big bipolar argument, was I wrong?

David Oliver June 16, 2008 | March 19, 2009 Daily Bipolar Disorder Message 44 Comments

Hi,

How’s it going?

I hope you are doing well.

Well yesterday I went on a hike and it was very difficult. I actually have pictures but for some reason I can’t get them on to my computer to post.

I am going to work on it. As soon as I have them, I will post them for everyone to see.

Anyway, yesterday I got into a big argument with someone about bipolar disorder.

This person has the disorder. Notice I said the person HAS bipolar NOT the person is bipolar. There’s a big difference don’t you think?

Anyway, the person said to me, “I suffer from bipolar disorder.” Then a few minutes later he referred to himself as a “bipolar suffer.” I said to him, he should strongly consider NOT saying these types of things.

He said “saying what?” I said, things like: I am a bipolar sufferer. I suffer from bipolar disorder .I am bipolar disorder

I told him, “statements like that.” He said, “no really I do have bipolar disorder.” I said “I understand that but when you say these types of statements, I strongly believe you make your situation worse.”

I went on to ask him, “why do you think you suffer from bipolar disorder? I said to him, “I know many people who have bipolar disorder that use it as an asset and they don’t suffer.”

He then thought about it and got really mad and went on and on about how bipolar disorder had destroyed his life. I reminded him that now he is stable and doing okay, not great but okay. He really doesn’t apply himself all that much so he is doing okay.

I said to him, “I think your negative affirmations are hindering your success. You keep telling yourself a 1000 times a day that you suffer from bipolar disorder. Suffering equals lack of success and misery. So I really think your brain will work to make sure that you really indeed do suffer to some extent.” He started getting mad and saying that’s not true and that I don’t understand bipolar disorder. That’s what anyone with bipolar disorder says to me when I don’t agree with them. I do understand bipolar disorder and I do understand positive and negative affirmations.

Many people with bipolar disorder I find say NEGATIVE affirmations over and over again. The affirmations or statements wind up being a self fulfilling prophecy.

Supporters do this as well. If you are a bipolar supporter and keep saying:

My loved one is never better My loved one is always sick Bipolar disorder is always going to destroy our family Bipolar disorder is a nightmare and you can’t manage it Doctors and therapists are all crooks Etc.

You get the idea. These are statements that my family use to say all the time. We got what we asked for so to speak. The person that I know who I got into the argument as been getting what he has been asking and saying for several years.

Do you agree?

In my courses/systems below, I go in great length things to and not to say. This is CRITICAL.

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Now you might be thinking, “Dave it’s easy for you to say. Your mom is now stable so you don’t have any problems.” Let me tell you this, first, one of the reasons my mom is stable is because my mom changed her attitude about bipolar disorder from “I can’t manage it and I won’t be successful” to “I can manage it and be successful.”

Most people in the family (except my brother), now have a better attitude towards bipolar disorder. My dad still finds it hard to believe that I really do have many people that work for me that have bipolar disorder and they do tremendously well. Most people that I tell this to don’t believe me either.

One other thing. If you find yourself not knowing any successful people; if you don’t ever hear any success stories; if you find it really hard to believe that either you or your loved one can be successful with bipolar disorder, make sure you go thought my courses/systems because there are MANY interviews that will change your attitude. I guarantee it. You will learn a ton.

I am 100% against having a bad attitude. Many people in society do. They say things over and over again they actually don’t want to happen. When they do this over a long period of time, what they say starts becoming reality.

After trying to explain this to a person with bipolar disorder, he wound up getting mad and not wanting to talk about it.

Do you agree or disagree with this concept that I am telling you about?

David Oliver is the author of the shocking guide “Bipolar Disorder—The REAL Silent Killer.” Click Here to get FREE Information sent via email on how and why bipolar disorder kills.

Happy Father’s Day & When a loved one with bipolar doesn’t want help….

David Oliver June 15, 2008 | March 19, 2009 Daily Bipolar Disorder Message 21 Comments

Hi,

First HAPPY FATHERS DAY.

How’s it going? I hope you are doing well.

I have to go pretty quick today because I have to go to a brunch with my dad and then I am going hiking.

Actually I am going to take some photos and post them tomorrow on my blog if I can get it all figured out.

Well I am happy to report that I hired another person. A most unusual person. This person has about 6 different disorders and she is EXCELLENT!

That’s an understatement. I get a lot of emails that stay how it’s impossible to work with those with a mental illness, they are “crazy”, I am crazy for hiring people with a mental illness so on and so forth.

This is why I wanted to let you know about my new hire. She does amazing work.

Anyway, I was all set to write a daily email on another topic but I looked at the blog comments over here:

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I saw one post by Garry and had to address it. He wrote:

“Dear David,

I understand that what you have done for your mother is a sincere and wonderful thing, to devote so much to a loved one who needs help without asking is truly a great thing.

I do wonder though that if someone doesn’t want help like some people have said here that maybe that could also be an answer, I dont like to be a person who comes along and says this is wrong and that is wrong but if the person with the problem doesnt want help then maybe it shouldnt be given,

Im not saying that when its not given to be a cold person but in general just be there and offer support and an ear when needed, love for a love one or friend is a given. My friend has been diagnosed with this disorder

and I know how it effects her, it cuts me up when I see it and hear how she is so low.

I’m sorry if I sound aggressive in with my post but its just that I’m at a point now where I feel I cant do anymore to help my friend, I feel as though I have already let her down because I’m out of things to say to her that can make her feel better without personally thinking I’m going round in circles repeating the same things.

Lately I have said to her that if this is a problem that wont go away then maybe you should try and accept it and take in as a part of you, I know she enjoys the mania.. explosive shopping spree’s, wild nights out and other such things but would you say that saying to her when the depression comes to just go with it and let it ride?

I know how tactless that sounds but I’m only trying to help, nobody will listen to her because they think she is mad. Ive said mad people can have the most fun? I sympathies with her because I too feel that I have this disorder but to what degree I don’t know, I know what its like to be really down and then some days later up again.

Its exhausting as you must know. I dont know what else to say really other than asking for tips? Sorry to sound narky.”

Then Garry wrote: Do people get any response to what they have wrote? Anyone here?

I wanted to address Garry’s post because a lot of people have this question.

But first I wanted to say to people who post on the blog, sometimes people post responses but many times, people just read posts. I however read ALL the posts along with many people who work for me. I use these posts to determine what kind of content we focus on. Some I address personally. Other posts other people address.

Anyway, enough of that.

Basically Garry is asking, what do you do when someone with bipolar disorder appears to need help but doesn’t want it.

This is a VERY important question. It’s a question that millions of people have every day.

It’s something that I feel strongly about.

I am going to tell you what I think.

I think that if a person doesn’t want treatment, you have to try really, really hard using a wide variety of strategies and tactics to get them into treatment. Period.

There is NO one answer. There is no one magic solution that I have ever found and I have been looking for years and have more than 200,000 people on my list that I can draw from.

There are at least 25 strategies you can try to use that do NOT involve involuntary commitment.

After you try the something like 25 different strategies in getting someone into treatment and really put a tremendous effort into it, then I feel it’s okay to give up.

Make sure you listen to my f.ree podcast for further information on this.

You may think it’s confusing but it’s not. Think of it this way. I have found at least 25 proven techniques that you can use.

You look at the techniques and you try to determine which one will work. You try it, then another and so on and so forth. Eventually in most cases, one will work.

In my main courses/systems bipolar supporter course below, I go through all the techniques that I learned and learned from others on how to get someone into treatment.

In my course for those with bipolar disorder, I talk at length along with all the success stories of what you need to have in place to make sure if you go into a bipolar episode your supporters can easily get you into treatment.

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With supporting children or teenagers it’s different because by law you can get them into treatment because you are in charge of them and they are not adults. However, there are many ways that children with bipolar disorder can manipulate the system and get out of treatment even if they are not adults.

It’s kind of amazing. Normally the system doesn’t understand what bipolar disorder really is and children can get out of treatment and wind up getting the parents into serious trouble. I cover this in my course above.

These issues are indeed complex and a simply daily email can’t give you all the answers.

I don’t mean to be evasive it’s just the way it is.

There is no question, getting a loved one into treatment is a tough thing. I have noticed that I have seen many doctors asked, “How do I get my loved one into treatment if he/she doesn’t want to go.” The doctor stalls, talks in circles and eventually says it’s “hard” and you really “can’t.” They normally talk about the requirements for involuntary commitment– which generally requires the person be a danger to him/herself or to others.

In my opinion and based on my experience there are a number of ways to get someone into treatment without using involuntary commitment but it requires hard work and a lot of time and trial and error.

Like I said, I have found no magic person, place, organization, statement, or strategy that works all the time. I am just being 100% honest.

I have found lots of options that could work. Many people think that a person should want treatment and just go.

You see, many people forget that when a person is ill, he/she is not in their right mind. So they make decisions that are not sound and do and say things they would never do or say if they were well.

As a result things like suicide, homicide, homelessness, bankruptcy, and many other bad things.

Many people in major bipolar episode think they are 100% fine and doing great.

Has anyone ever had the experience that a loved one was totally out of their minds and saying they were fine?

Please relate your experiences. I actually have to take off now and get ready. I will write more about this in the upcoming week.

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What Would You Say to Another Bipolar Supporter?

David Oliver June 14, 2008 | March 19, 2009 Daily Bipolar Disorder Message 56 Comments

Hi,

I was reading an article in the newspaper about a professor who was asked to give a lecture on what he would say to the world if he could – about what he thinks matters most.

I thought about that…and you know how I always relate everything to bipolar disorder, so instead of thinking of it so globally as, “What would you say to the world?” I thought about you:

Being a supporter of a loved one with bipolar disorder, what would you say to another supporter of a newly diagnosed loved one with the disorder?

Think about your answer:

• Would you tell them about the importance of medications? Because that’s one of the first things that you have to deal with, and a crucial part of proper treatment.

•Would you tell them about the importance of getting their loved one a good doctor? Because, for sure, they’re going to need one.

• Would you tell them that they’re going to need to help their loved one to get a good therapist? Because that’s an important part of a good support system.

•Would you refer them to www.bipolarcentral.com Because they will certainly need the information from this website, just like you do – but is only having the website enough? You could refer them to my courses/systems, where they can get a great deal of knowledge about bipolar disorder:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?

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SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?

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HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?

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