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Hi,

How’s it going? Hope you are
having a good weekend.

Yesterday I was reading a book on another
topic and it was not related to bipolar
disorder BUT, there was a powerful technique
that I read I want to share.

Let me tell you how the entire thing unfolded.

Okay before I read the book, I received one
of the f.ree consultation/question certificates that
I include in all my courses/systems below:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

These are for any questions that you may
have that are NOT legal or medical ones
since I am NOT a doctor, lawyer, insurance
agent, or other kind of professional.

Anyway, the person had a very hard to read
question certificate. Meaning, I couldn’t
really read what the question was. I wasn’t
mad or anything because I have bad handwriting
as well so I was okay with it :).

I decided to pick up the phone and call the person
and ask what problems she was having with bipolar
disorder.

She picked up the phone and said, “Hello, who
are you?” I said, “I’m David Oliver do you now
how I am? You sent me a…” She cut me off
and said, “thanks for calling I have a huge
problem that I need your help with, did you
get that bipolar certificate thing I sent
you?” I told her yes.

So I send that I had an hour to talk and I was
“all ears.” So I had a pad and pencil to take
notes on the problem so I could help her.

So, after about 15 minutes, we weren’t getting
anywhere. She was telling me a story. I told her
I kind of know the story because well I hear the
same stories every day.

After a while, I finally through asking a lot of
questions and I mean a lot I pulled out what her
major problems were:

Lives in a small town, can’t find a doctor

Lives in a small town, can’t find a therapist

Doesn’t have much money, loved one destroyed
finances, c.redit is ruined.

Doesn’t know how to use a computer well, needs
to know to get a better job in her company
and get her more money and also a more normal
work schedule.

These were her major problems. Problems 1 through
3 are clearly covered in my courses/systems
from a to z. I told her that. But I still helped
her through it, I told her exactly where to look
and what to look for.

As for problem 4, that was an easy one, I asked
her what she thought the solution was? She said
she didn’t know. Then after like 20 minutes she
concluded that she had a friend that knew computers,
she could go get a book, she could take a class
at the library and the local community college and
that eventually over at least the next six months
she would know computers well enough to get the
job.

We hung up, but I was kind of struck by the fact
her questions were so easy yet she really didn’t
know what questions she had.

Then I was thinking how many other people that
I meet when I volunteer, I call on the phone,
that fill out f.ree consultation certificates, etc.
that say they have all these problems with bipolar
disorder and they can’t really even explain what
they are.

If you have a problem with bipolar disorder and
you can’t express it, it would be impossible to
solve then? Right? Of course.

So fast forward. Later on that day, I was deciding
to reread several books that I had. I was just
kind of picking them at random. I came across
one that had to do with business.

I read the entire thing right away. And the had
in his book how most business people say they
have problems but really don’t have them well
defined.

To counter this problem, the author had this
system in place. It’s called Write, Try, Ask.

He said that you should write down your problem.

Then you should try to answer it yourself.

Then you should ask your subconscious to give
you an answer. And you can ask others for
help as well.

NOTE-I don’t want to get way out in outer
space on you, but this guy argued that you could
ask your subconscious mind for the answers to
most problems. I agree with him and it’s not
as mystic as one might think but I don’t
want people thinking that I am a weirdo or
anything. I do think this is possible.

Now with bipolar disorder, I might modify this
technique a little. I would say that after
you write down the problem, you should get
as much information as you can.

One of the things I did with my mom was put
a TON of information in my head when I was
helping my mom. Most I couldn’t use right
away but eventually I used most of it.

People have commented that they have gotten
lots of my courses at:

http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog

and they wondered why I put certain things
in it and weeks or months later, they
said, “Oh that’s why he told me that, I
see now.”

When you have the information in your head,
your brain can use it when a situation comes
up.

Anyway, my big take away for those dealing
with bipolar disorder whether you have it
or you are supporting someone with it, is
to clearly define what problems you
are having. Many people don’t have defined
problems and they just tell stories. I would
say that 90% of the people that I talk
to that say, “I have so many problems
because of bipolar disorder”, can’t even
articulate one major problem to me.

If you don’t know what problems you have,
you can’t solve them.

It sounds so simple but it’s true. I actually
felt kind of dumb because I have this one
business that I say, “I have so many problems”
and guess what? I couldn’t define what they
were. After reading the book yesterday, I basically
have 3 problems. I already have solutions
to the problems from yesterday today. But I must
say for weeks, I have been saying, “I have so
many problems.”

Anyway, it’s really, really important to define
your problems with bipolar disorder. Finally,
never think that your problem is impossible
to be solved because it’s not.

My mom had the biggest possible problems you
could think of. So many problems from bipolar
disorder. And really strange ones. Like, how
do you buy a car with bad cred.it, paying less
than the car dealer paid for the car because
you have to keep the payment really low and can
only pay payments for 36 months.

I told my one friend about my mom’s problem,
he laughed and said, “Good luck, dude!”

Anyway, I randomly found someone that told
me EXACTLY how to do this. Actually I used
this system to replace the car I have.

Another problem was, how do you get
low cost, good health insurance when you don’t
have a job? Sounds impossible, right? Well it
was, but then the answer came to me. I call
it cafeteria health care.

Go get yourself a yellow legal pad and
a pen. Start writing down what problems
you have. I really want you to. Then report
back to me, the difference it’s made in
your life.

Anyway, I have to go, catch you tomorrow.

Have a great day!

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

==>>Help with ALL aspects of bipolar disorder<<==
Check out all my resources, programs and information
for all aspects of bipolar disorder by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

Hey,

How’s it going? I have a super important
mistake to tell you about that many
people coping and dealing with bipolar
disorder make.

Before I get started, I must say,
boy it’s sure been a super busy day for
me this past week.

I have been working a ton across
all the businesses that I have. I have
had a lot of problems in one particular
business that I am working to fix.

Yesterday I was getting another car
because my current car had a bunch of
issues. I must say, I learned a ton
about the ins and outs of car dealerships
that YOU could apply to coping and dealing
with bipolar disorder.

That’s right. A bunch of things that I learned
from this car insider, you can directly apply
to helping yourself with bipolar disorder or
helping a loved one.

I am writing it all up and will be sending it
out next week f.ree of charge to you.

Some really powerful stuff. It’s amazing
how what the guy told me about concerning
car dealership applies DIRECTLY to bipolar
disorder. Amazing and I am going to share
with you so don’t worry.

Getting a car is such a scam most of the time
that I seriously wish that I could teach
you everything that I know but this isn’t
the forum to do it because this isn’t a
car buying email service. All I can
say if you have to get a car, be careful!!!

I almost got totally ripped off yesterday.

Anyway, I wanted to jump into a super
important topic with bipolar disorder.

I mean it’s SUPER IMPORTANT. I want
you to read this carefully. It’s
important but simple. But many times
the most simple things are the most
powerful with bipolar disorder. Like
going to bed early at a certain time
every night is simple but powerful
with bipolar disorder.

Anyway, let me tell you a quick story
about something that happen to me.

You might not know or remember but a few
months ago I moved. It was a total night
mare with dealing with the gas people,
the water people, the other people
that all were difficult. Pains in
my rear end.

So the place where I moved to was like
20 minutes away from where I use to be.

I use to go to this bank where I use to
live that was right down the street. The people
were SUPER nice. Anything I needed they helped
me get. They were like friends or partners.

Well I couldn’t go to the old branch because
it was too far away.

BIG BIPOLAR LESSON COMING SOON, PLEASE READ ON

So I went to the new branch. When I first
went to the new branch, people were not
helpful at all. No one was really friendly.

I noticed that the people in the bank only talked
to themselves and not to customers really. It kind
of reminded me a high school group of insiders.

So one day, I went into the drive through to
cash a $20 (twenty) check. I waited 16 minutes
in the drive through. I waited. Finally the lady
said they didn’t have a signature card for me on
file. So then I sent my drives license to show
it was really me and they could look at me,
see who owned the account and connect it all :).

The person came back and said that they had to
get a signature card from my main branch. I was
SUPER MAD!

I drove around and went inside mad and said,
“what the heck, it’s my money.” They gave me
a long story and were kind of mean. Finally
I called the other branch and spoke to the
branch manager I had known for a long time.

She was annoyed and call and told them to
give me my money. She also sent a copy
of the signature card so they would have
it on file.

I was super mad about the entire thing. But
there’s an important bipolar lesson to be
learned.

Then another time, I went to the bank. I needed
a deposit slip. I asked if they could make me
some. The guy got mad and kind of threw them at
me.

The final time was when I went there last week.
I went to cash a check. They said they couldn’t
read my signature after 12 minutes in the drive
through line.

I went inside super mad and they said sorry.
Then I asked if they could make another check
and I would resign it. The lady said she wasn’t
sure. I took my check and left. I went to
a different branch that was further away
and they handled it.

I decided I am never going to go to that
branch again because they are not helpful
and are never there when I need them.

So what does this all have to do with bipolar
disorder?

Many times, people with bipolar disorder or
those who are supporters are working with
difficult people they don’t have to.

Let’s talk about the pharmacy for one. Some
pharmacies are great. They are helpful.
They get things done. Their prices are great. They
will call your doctor. They will get things done
fast. They will be there for you when you need
them.

My mom worked with a pharmacy once that was
horrible. They mistreated her. They constantly
took long to fill prescriptions. They wouldn’t
let her know important things about medications.

My dad and I strongly encouraged her to leave.
She did and went to another one 5 minutes further away.
There are EXCELLENT! And then know bipolar disorder
very well.

Other people that I hear time and time again
are a problem is bipolar doctors, bipolar doctor’s
receptionists, social workers, therapists and
also vocation job coaches.

I am NOT an attorney, doctor, therapist or other
kind of professional and what I am about to
say is my opinion.

If you are working with someone who is not helpful
at all, is not there for you, gives you a hard
time, doesn’t treat you with respect, you should
consider finding someone else.

For some reason, other the years, my mom worked
with so many different people that were suppose
to be theoretically partners with her and helping
her get better with bipolar disorder and they
were really not anything but totally unhelpful.

My mom kind of felt she was stuck with
bad people. I asked her yesterday why she
always thought that and she said, she just
didn’t know. She said that she never
really thought there were good people out
there.

Some of these people made her situation with
bipolar disorder twice as difficult. After I
started helping her, I started to encourage her
to reevaluate who was good and who was bad.

Just like with my bank. The old bank I went
to was great. The new bank branch was terrible.
They caused me a lot of grief and hassle and
probably would for the rest of my life.
That’s why I am going to a different branch or
will be leaving the bank all together.

In my systems/courses, you notice that I talk
about the importance of finding all different
people that will be important to helping
yourself with bipolar disorder or helping
your loved one.

People like doctors, therapists, financial people,
lawyers, etc. Not only do I say it’s important
but I tell you how to find these people in
my material below.

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

I am amazed at how people just don’t try
to find good people or how they sit and
take bad treatment or people who don’t
care.

Good providers or I like to call them
partners are key! They are a partner
in you our your loved one’s success with
bipolar disorder.

There are a bunch of people on my list that
don’t think there are any good people
out there that can help them with bipolar
disorder.

I hope a few people on my list comment
on my blog about the difference between
good doctors and bad doctors, good bipolar
therapists and bad bipolar therapists,
good bipolar pharmacies and bad bipolar
pharmacies, etc.

There’s a huge difference. Don’t get mistreated
like I was at the bank. There is a saying
in the United States–“VOTE WITH YOUR FEET.”

But, make sure you have a plan and
run your plan by your doctor or therapist. Hopefully
you have one of the two that is helpful so
you can get feedback on your plan of finding
someone else if you need to.

So, when you are mistreated find someone who
will treat you like you want to be treated.

ONE LAST THING!

Don’t ever let someone talk down to you
because you have bipolar disorder. This is
another common occurrence with those that
are ignorant.

Okay I have to run off to the gym. Catcha you
tomorrow. Have a great day!!!!!

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

PLEASE TELL YOUR FRIENDS

Hi,

Here is the current Bipolar Disorder news.

Make sure you take a look at the news. I really
work hard to put it together for you :).

To see the news visit:

http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarnews345

There’s some really interesting news stories this week.
Take a look at them. Also, write me some feedback by
visiting my blog.

Here are some of the headlines:

CU professor to pioneer new bipolar disorder study
DO> It’s about time 🙂

Body clock signals bipolar relapse
DO> Great article! Must read.

Bipolar diagnoses in kids gain attention
DO> Interesting view.

Misdiagnosed? Bipolar diagnoses up; experts question it
DO> Take a look at what these people have to say

Professor tells her bipolar story to help others find hope
DO> Incredible must read story.

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Your Friend,

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Hi,

What’s new? It’s almost the weekend. Ready
for it?

I have a million things to do today so I
have to take off kind of fast today. But
there was an important topic related
to bipolar disorder I wanted to discuss.

I got this email from a woman, and I
want to share it with you because I have
something important to say about it:

“Dear Dave:

I am a really strong Christian, but I am about
to give up on my husband. I thought I had
enough faith to get us through his bipolar
episodes, but I guess I just don’t. He gets so
depressed, and then he talks about suicide,
and I just don’t know whether to take him
seriously or not, and all I want to do is leave
him but then I feel guilty just for wanting to
do that.

I’m just so tired! I thought he would
be the one to take care of me, but now here I
am taking care of him. I read in your emails
that things would get better if I just didn’t
give up on him, but I’m still waiting for things
to get better.

It’s been a whole month, and I
haven’t seen any change – he just mopes
around the house all the time. Do you think
it’s because I’ve lost my faith? Do you think
this is my fault?
———————————————–

First of all, let me say that ALL references
to suicide should be taken seriously. Call
your doctor, hospital right away. Do NOT
underestimate when someone talks about
suicide.

I get lots of emails from Christians who say
a lot of the same things – bipolar supporters who are
worried that it’s their fault that their loved one
is not getting better as fast as they think they
should be.

But let me tell you one thing for
sure – your faith does not have ANYTHING
to do with how fast or slow your loved one
recovers from bipolar disorder!

Now, this lady’s email does NOT say anything
about her spouse’s treatment – is he on
medication? Is he going to see a psychiatrist?
Is he seeing a therapist on a weekly basis? Is
he in a bipolar support group? What is HE
doing to help himself get better?

Being a supporter and being a Christian
doesn’t mean you be the one to shoulder ALL
the responsibility for your loved one’s bipolar
disorder yourself. Especially if they aren’t
even trying. It’s not your fault if they won’t
help themselves.

If that is the case here, then no wonder this
poor woman is so tired! Yes, it’s a good thing
to have faith. And yes, you can have bipolar
disorder and still have faith. In fact, being a
Christian and having bipolar disorder are not
mutually exclusive – you can have/be both!
It doesn’t mean there is something wrong with
your faith, or that you don’t have enough of it.

But remember – your loved one’s bipolar
disorder is not YOUR responsibility. It is
THEIRS. You can love them, you can help
them, you can even pray for them. But you
can NOT do their work for them.

In my courses and systems these concepts are
talked about especially in the interviews
that I do.

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

In my courses I warn people against becoming
codependent – to the point where the
bipolar disorder takes over their whole lives.
Or to the point where they don’t make their
loved one take responsibility for their
own disorder.

Several people in my courses/systems do also talk
about spirituality, and that spirituality/praying
can help to keep a person’s stress level down,
and that is a good thing. So I would not say anything
bad about a person’s faith. Unless that
faith is causing them to use that as an
excuse for their loved one.

This lady is right, I do tell people that things
will get better if you hang in there with your
loved one. But that is when you are BOTH
working toward the same goal – when your
loved one is taking their medication, going
to see a therapist and psychiatrist, etc. These
things don’t have anything to do with faith.

These are things that everyone who has
bipolar disorder should do to get better. In
this case, faith is just icing on the cake!

Well, I have to get going. Have a great day!

Your friend,

Dave
–
P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

==>>Help with ALL aspects of bipolar disorder<<==
Check out all my resources, programs and information
for all aspects of bipolar disorder by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

Hey,

What’s going on? How was your weekend?
I didn’t do much. Kind of boring.

I also had to work a whole lot with Andrea
on a lot of web stuff.

Anyway, I wanted to tell you this amazing
story which illustrates and important
lesson for someone with bipolar disorder.

THIS IS A MAJOR BIPOLAR LESSON.

Read this carefully. If you or your
loved one are struggling with bipolar disorder,
I seriously think you’ll find the reason here.

Okay, so there is this kid that I know. He’s
actually not a kid really he is mid 20s. Maybe
that is a kid?

Anyway, I met him about 6 years ago. 6
years ago, he revealed to my friend and myself
that he had never gone on a date. He had never
ever really spoken to a girl.

Years passed by and he still hadn’t. People
use to make fun of him and someone even called
him a “walking disaster.” Some called him
the “the face of Iraq.” I have no idea why
people called him that. I think because they
thought he represented disaster or failure.

I know that’s mean but hey in some of the gyms
I belong to, the people who are 30 and 40 act
like they are in grade school :).

Anyway, my one friend felt really bad for him.
He tried hard to help him. He gave him pointers
on how to ask a woman out, he found people in
the gym for him to go out with. He kind of
brokered dates for him.

I remember this one time, my friend introduced
him to a girl. To make a long story short, he
was suppose to go to I think TGI Fridays (if
you are out of the US, this is like a restaurant
chain that serves like American Food).

Anyway, the guy went, and guess what? The girl
never showed up. He waited hours. Not only did
she not show up but she never came back to the
gym.

I was amazed. I couldn’t figure out what was
wrong with this kid. I wondered was he cursed.
So this meant at one point he had never gone
out on a date and he was already older
than 22 years old.

So then this new gym opened up. I told him
he had to go because he needed a fresh start.
I told him there would be more possibilities
for him.

After he complained, I dragged him kicking
and screaming so to speak.

HERE’S THE AMAZING THING and the big bipolar
lesson is coming….

He went into this new gym that was in a different
location and he met a girl. Guess what?

Take a guess and then scroll

Don’t cheat. Guess than scroll….

She liked him. She told him he was good
looking and a cool guy. Then other girls started
to say the same thing. Over a few months, he developed
confidence and he went out on dates, and had a girl
friend.

I saw him the other day. He actually walked right
up and asked a girl for her number. I was amazed. I told
him how proud I was of him. Then I looked hard at him
and said, “What do you think the difference was?”

He said, “Dude I don’t know?” I told him I knew.

Here’s the deal. In the old gym he thought of
himself as a loser. He would say, “no one likes
me. I am a loser.” Then it became a self fulfilling
prophecy. That meant, he thought he was a loser
and no one would like him and he was ugly and
that’s what he got.

In the new gym, someone thought he was good
looking and cool so he started to believe he
was. Then since he thought he was, other people
thought he was. Make sense?

You may be thinking, “Dave what the heck does
this have to do with bipolar disorder?”

Good question and I am about to tell you.

NOTE-
I am NOT a doctor, therapist, insurance agent,
lawyer and I am NOT giving professional advice.
These are only my opinions.

Oh and I don’t work in the circus? Someone
wrote me and asked, “I think I saw you in the
circus…I saw a guy named David Oliver?” Odd.

Okay. Here’s the deal. With many people with bipolar
disorder, they think about themselves in the
following ways:

-I can never get stable
-I am disabled
-I can never be successful
-Bipolar disorder is the worst disorder and my life
is ruined.
-People will hate me because I have bipolar disorder
-Medication doesn’t work
-Doctors are bad greedy people
-There is no doctor in the world that can help me
-Medications have tons and tons of side effects
=I am doomed to failure

This is some of the “self talk” that some people
with bipolar disorder say to themselves. As a result
they get what they say so to speak.

These people really struggle. I noticed that
people with bipolar disorder do well when they think
like this:

-I accept I have bipolar disorder
-I can manage it
-I will manage it
-I will beat it
-I will have a great life
-I have some limitations but I can do a lot of things
-I can be successful
-People will respect and love me despite having bipolar disorder

See this type of self talk and how it’s different?

The kid I was telling you about in gym #1 had horrible
self talk. In gym #2, he had much better self talk.

I was talking about him to my friend Margaret and
she was saying how she was happy that he finally could
have a girl friend. She said to me, “It all started
with him and his head.” She meant that he didn’t
look any different but he was getting different results
as a result of his new thinking.

In my courses/system, almost everyone that I interview
indicates the importance of attitude and self talk
when it comes to bipolar disorder.

If you haven’t gotten my material, take a look:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

Interesting huh? If you know any really
successful people with bipolar disorder,
ask them questions and you will see how
they think. I guarantee it’s much different
than people who are struggling.

I have to take off. Catcha you tomorrow.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

==>>Help with ALL aspects of bipolar disorder<<==
Check out all my resources, programs and information
for all aspects of bipolar disorder by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

Hi,

What’s new?

I wanted to say that for those that
were wondering I didn’t post yesterday’s
message to my bipolar blog, it’s
because it’s broken.

There is some kind of technical problem
with new posts. Hopefully it will be
fixed today.

With that said, let’s jump into today’s
email.

I got this email from someone the other day.
It’s really sad.

Here it is:

“Hi, Dave. I wanted to write you today
because I am soooo depressed. I don’t
have bi-polar disorder my wife does. But
all these months of dealing with her
has made me really depressed. I find it
hard to get up in the morning. I don’t
work out. I feel like there is no
hope. I feel like giving up. Nothing
makes me happy. Maybe I caught this
from my wife. I just don’t know
what to do. I really feel like a
weak person. You handled so much
more than me for so much longer.
I doubt you will read this.”
-Dan

=======================

Hey Dan,

I have several comments for you. And
I know others can benefit as well.

First don’t feel bad if you are
feeling depressed. Bipolar disorder
IS depressing.

Many supporters wind up getting
depressed. I know several that
are on anti depressants and also
attending therapy sessions.

It’s nothing to be ashamed of.

I notice that there are many bipolar
supporters all over the world that
are silently suffering because
they are trying so hard to help
their loved ones but nothing
seems to go right.

They find the more they try, the
more nothing happens. As a result
a form of what I call “Bipolar
Supporter Depression” sets in.

In addition to this, Bipolar
Supporter Anxiety can start as
well.

I know MANY people that have
anxiety as a result of supporting
someone with bipolar disorder.

For those reading this that have
bipolar disorder, I think it’s important
for you to realize that many times
the people who are around you,
your supporters can get depressed
themselves and start to feel
bad.

Based on what my mom has told me,
and many people who work for me
with bipolar disorder, they have
said, that many times when you
have bipolar disorder, you think
about how much you are suffering
and you forget that others
around you could be suffering as
well.

My mom and the people who work for
me said after a lot of thinking,
they realize how bipolar affects
the people around them.

Now back to Dan’s comments. Dan,
I really didn’t expereince Bipolar
Supporter Depression. I expereince
what I would call Bipolar Supporter
Anger.

So I didn’t really get depressed,
my mom’s bipolar disorder made me
mad instead. I was mad, that it
was such a pain to deal with, I had
to take a year off from work, I lost
a ton of money, I was getting screamed
at all the time, I had tremendous
pressure every second of the day, I was
losing sleep, I couldn’t hang out with
my friends, etc.

That’s just a short list :).

BUT, even if I didn’t have depression
that doesn’t mean that I am tougher than
you. It just means that I dealt with it
differently than you did. Many times
anger is worse than depression.

Anyway, here is what I think that you
should do if you are feeling anxiety,
depression or anger from supporting someone
with bipolar disorder.

You have to start to look for solutions
and get back to basics. The biggest problem
with someone who is not doing well with
bipolar disorder is lack of proper
treatment.

So you need to start to focus all efforts
into things like:

How do I get my loved one into treatment
How do I find a great doctor
How do I help the doctor get a diagnosis or
create the best treatment plan
How do I find a therapist
How do I help the therapist treat my loved one

You may read this and think, “Dave that’s
easy for you to say, of course I know
that stuff is important.”

The reason why I write this, is because many
times bipolar disorder causes us supporters
to get so off track we start to forget
the main objectives or what can help.

With Dan, I am betting this is the case
with him. Meaning Dan is depressed
because his loved one isn’t getting results.
Lack of progess or results with his loved
one is a function of lack of treatment
or treatment that isn’t working.

So if Dan starts to really focus and
set a goal of getting his loved one into
good treatment, good things will start
to happen.

That might sound strange to you, but
that’s what happen to many people who
are supporting someone with bipolar diosrder.

At first they were really reactive just
letting the disorder run the show so
to speak. Then eventually a swithch
happens and they decide things like
this:

-I am not longer going to let my loved
one’s bipolar disorder rule me
-I have to get my loved one into
proper treatment
-I have to find a good doctor and help
him/her help my loved one
-I have to find a good therapist who
can help my loved one
-I can do it because many other people
have done it as well.

NOTE-I have spoken to several people
that have read my story and concluded
that if I could do it, then they could
too. What they meant if that after reading
my story many conclude that my situation
was an absolute disaster. EVERYTHING was
going against me. So much so, my brother
wanted to permanently instituationalize
my mom (which you really couldn’t do
but he thought was the only solution).

After changing my mindset, and starting
a new course of action, eventually I turned
it all around.

You should read my story, and realize if
I can do it, YOU can too. And it’s not
just me, there are now tens of thousands
of people that I have helped so my concepts
work. It can be done. Your loved one can
get better. You the supporter can have
a better life.

In many cases, the soltutons to
lots of the problems that you have
whether you have bipolar disroder or you
are supporting a loved one
with it, are contained in my
main courses/systems:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

BUT, I want you to realize one thing,
it does take time. It’s going to take
time to help your loved one with bipolar
disorder. There will be ups and there
will be downs. There will be some days
when you slip into depression. There
will be days you slip into anger.
There will be days that you feel anxious
and worried beyond descxription.

If they days come, just go back and reread
my story and realize that if I can do it,
you can too. I am going to also start
posting more success stories online so
when you are down, you can read them
and realize YOU can do it. You can
help your loved one.

Well I have to run. I really hope
my blog gets fixed so I can keep
posting new messages.

As for now, you can’t post
responses to this message.

Anyway, have a great day.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

==>>Help with ALL aspects of bipolar disorder<<==
Check out all my resources, programs and information
for all aspects of bipolar disorder by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

Hi,

I hope you’re doing ok today.

I got this disturbing email, but it’s really a
good description of mania, so I wanted to share
it with you.

Dear Dave,

I hate bipolar disorder. I hate having it so
much, because it practically ruins my life
every time I have a manic episode. It makes
me so out of control, and I don’t even know
what I’m doing, and what’s the worst is that
I hurt the people I love the most, because I
do and say stuff I normally wouldn’t do,
and then I don’t even remember it later!

And I hate that, because then they’re all mad
at me, or really hurt, and I don’t even know
what I’ve done, and then I feel really guilty
about it. And there’s no way I can make it
up to them.

I hate how I am in a manic episode, but I
can’t help it! I get really racy, like I can’t
sit down, and I’m, like, all over the place.
Everything feels like it’s going real fast.

I talk a lot, and I talk real fast. And I
always feel like I’ve got so much to say,
and that what I’ve got to say is so
important! And I’ve always got these great
ideas, and so many of them, and they come
so fast I can hardly keep up with them.

But when I’m normal, none of them are good at
all. When I’m manic, the plans I start just
never get completed at all, cuz they were no
good to begin with.

I hate feeling like I’m crazy, I really do, but
I do feel like that. That out of control
feeling. That’s what mania is like. Like
you’re crazy, out of control. And you do
things, like I said, you do all these great
(grandiose) plans, and sometimes they
might hurt other people, and you don’t
even realize it.

Like spending money. Like your family’s
money. A lot of it. Or the credit cards,
running up a lot of credit. But you don’t
think about the bills you (they) have to
pay later. And that hurts them, or makes
them mad at you.

I wish I could say it’s not my fault. I
wish I could say it’s the bipolar’s fault.
But I’m the one who has the disorder,
and I’m the one who feels guilty for
what I do when I’m in an episode.

And the worst part is, I don’t even
remember doing any of it!

—————-

This is a very accurate description of
what having bipolar mania is like based
on what I have learned through the people
who work for me, volunteering, and
lots of interviews.

It’s hard from a supporter’s point of view to
believe that the things that our loved ones
do are not their fault, or that they really
don’t remember what they did.

Sometimes we even believe they’re
faking it, that they really do remember
what they did, or they’re just using the
disorder as an excuse for unacceptable
behavior.

In my courses and systems:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

I talk about how to cope and deal when you
loved one has mania.

There are many things that you have to
do to be fully prepared if a manic
episode strikes.

And you can’t just sit and do nothing.

That’s because we’re the ones who are
there when they do it, or we’re the ones
who get the credit card bills. But maybe
you can see now, from an insider’s view,
that it hurts them just as much. And that
they are not faking it.

Well, I have to go.

Your friend,

Dave
–
P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

Hi,

What’s new?

Last night I went to a restaurant and I
don’t think the food agreed with me. My
stomach hurt all night long.

I really have a lot of stomach problems. There
are tons of things that I can’t eat. I have
systematically tried to figure out what
was bad for me and what isn’t. My mom has
done the same thing.

My mom is 100% sure that certain foods
make her bipolar disorder worse. She has
figured out over the last years which ones
those are. You should do the same if you
have bipolar disorder.

Okay let me get moving on today’s topic.

I have to take off kind of early
this morning so I have to make this quick.
I wanted to write you today about a simple
concept called anticipation.

It’s a concept that many people simply don’t
seem to get with bipolar disorder but it’s
so important.

When you are coping and dealing with bipolar
disorder whether you have it or you are
supporting someone with it, you must
use this concept all the time

You really have to anticipate things that
can go wrong and have a plan when and/if
this happens.

So many people never do this. I am
not sure why.

One of the biggest things both bipolar
supporters and those with bipolar disorder
fail to anticipate is the fact that
bipolar disorder is something that can be
managed but it takes constant monitoring
in order for it to be managed.

Some thing that bipolar disorder can be
cured which is can NOT be. Some think
that after a person is stable, everything
that was done that created stability can
be stopped but this is not true.

Some think that there won’t be good and
bad days and the goal is to have more good
days then bad days.

I notice with my mom now, she anticipates
potential problems and things that could
go wrong and she makes plans to reduce
or counter this.

This is the same with many people that work
for me as well. They do the same thing. The ones
that have bipolar disorder or another disorder.

The people I know who don’t do well, don’t
do this at all.

In my courses/systems, I try to provide you
will many things that can happen with bipolar
disorder and how to prevent or correct them.

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

At first when you are trying to anticipate all
that can happen, you will most likely be frustrated.
You will feel overwhelmed. Eventually anticipation
is like a skill that you build. Over time,
you start to quickly figure out what can happen
and have a plan to prevent it or a plan to
handle it if it were to happen.

When it comes to bipolar disorder, I have
never seen so many people with virtually
no plans at all. It’s amazing to me. My dad
AND mom did this for years and years. I think
it’s because no one ever sat my mom and dad
down and said how seriously bipolar disorder
is.

I remember as a kid how random sometimes out
house was. Meaning lots of times, my entire
existence was a function of whatever kind of
bipolar disorder episode if any my mom was
having. Sometimes it was good. Sometimes it
was okay. Sometimes it was a total disaster.

One last hint. When the seasons change,
a bipolar episode can creep in. Guess what?
The seasons are changing. So I an anticipate
a potential mini episode AND so does my
mom. We have a plan what to do if signs
show for one.

Also, based on historical data so to speak
with my mom, her major episodes start right after
Christmas. Guess what’s coming? Christmas?
Also, it’s during this period what I call
Doomsday scenarios occur. I am not going to
really talk about that until later on.

Anyway, do some thinking. If you can, get
my courses and material so you can find out
what could happen and also what to do
about it. Then start making plans on paper.

Well I have to go.

Well I have to take off, I will catch you tomorrow.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

==>>Help with ALL aspects of bipolar disorder<<==
Check out all my resources, programs and information
for all aspects of bipolar disorder by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

Hi,

How’s it going? I really have a
number of problems that I am currently
dealing with as this organization grows
and grows fast. That’s’ why I am actually
writing you about bipolar disorder
at 5:17am on a Saturday morning.

I wanted to write you about something
that I was thinking about yesterday
when I was food shopping.

So yesterday I went to good old A & P.
A & P is a company that sells food. They
use to be huge back in the day but through
lots of bad decisions and mismanagement they
aren’t that big any more.

Anyway I went in to A & P to get my weekly
food really quick. I only have 23 minutes so
I seriously had to make it fast.

I went up and down the aisles and found
what I needed right away. As I was
walking by, I was thinking to myself,
“Food places are so big and it’s so
amazing how much junk they sell…
And the junk looks sooooooooo good.”

I won’t even look at the gym, I kind of
turn my head because they are so good
at packaging junk, they actually make
it looks like health food.

DON’T WORRY THERE’S A BIPOLAR LESSON COMING

Please keep reading…

So going food shopping may be thinking
of going to my friends house the other
day and these two events made me
think of this incredible bipolar
disorder lesson you must know
or else.

The other day I went over a friends
house. It was the strangest thing.

Okay so I went inside and was going to
get something to drink…I always drink
water.

I couldn’t find any. I thought almost
everyone has water in the house.

Not my friend.

I thought he was out. So I went to get
some tap water. If you are out of the US
tap water is the water that comes out
of your sink.

So I had some of that. Then I went to
look for something to eat and it was
amazing what I saw.

Try to guess what I saw and then
scroll down for the answer…

Guess then scroll….

Tons and tons and tons and tons and tons and tons
of junk food.

It was amazing. I have never seen so many colors
of food in a closet and cabinets. I seriously
thought my friend worked as like a sales rep
for a junk food company. I was so shocked
I didn’t know what to say.

He said, “Dude, what’s up?” I said, “man you
have a lot of junk food.” He said “well
it’s not all junk food and I really don’t
eat it dude. I just have it.”

I was like “yea right. you keep it for
decoration right?”

Then a bunch of thoughts came to my head
about bipolar disorder and something
that’s so important.

Before I tell them to you, I want to tell
you a few things about my friend.

First he has gained a lot of weight
since college. He keeps on gaining
weight monthly it seems. He claims
that he is losing weight but he is not.

He really does eat a lot of junk food
and doesn’t eat healthy.

The problem is, his environment has
bad food in it so he is so likely to
eat poorly. He needs to get rid of the
junk food because if he did, it would
increase his chances of eating right.

Now when you are talking about bipolar
disorder, many people have so many things
inside their home that are bad for
bipolar disorder or temptations. Let’s
talk about a few.

1. Alcohol. If you are dealing with
bipolar disorder or are a supporter you
should not have alcohol in the house.
There is no reason.

2. Guns. I don’t think you should have
these either. I have heard so many stories
of a person going into a depression or manic
episode and grabbing a gun and killing themselves.
Take a look at the old bipolar news and you’ll
see story after story.

3. Illegal Drugs. I don’t even have to explain this
one. Get rid of them.

4. Weird knives and dangerous things. Some people
have lots of killing instruments for show or
something in their place. Like guns, these invite
problems with depressive and manic episodes.

These are my top 4 things you should get rid
of in your house if you are coping and dealing
with bipolar disorder.

You know I use to be 282 pounds when I played
football. After my last season I didn’t want
to be a big giant whale of a former lineman
like so many of my friends so I decided to
get down to 220.

One of the secrets that I learned was to
take out temptation from where I was living.
Today I don’t have temptation. That’s what I
call junk food. I also only have water in my
place and one or two bottles of soda for
friends that wine and complain they hate
water.

I have no other junk food.

BUT, I did violate my own philosophy the
other week. I bought a box of wheat thins
and some crackers. I don’t know why. I just
did. I figured that I could handle it if
they were in my place and that I could control
myself. Well I didn’t and wound up eating it
all really quick.

Shame on me. There is no question if I have
junk food in my house I am more likely to eat
it. If it’s not there, I won’t.

With bipolar disorder, if you have 1 or more of
the 4 things I talked about, trouble is likely
to come soon.

In my courses/systems, one thing that I discovered
when interviewing lots of people featured
was how they “took control of their environment”
by getting rid of things that could create problems
for bipolar disorder.

Actually this is where I got these ideas from.
Person after person that I interviewed warned
of drugs, alcohol, guns and sharp objects
so to speak.

There is one interview that’s in all my courses
with an older person who is a major success and
is really good at teaching how to become high
functioning with bipolar disorder that used a gun
to shoot himself when he wasn’t stable.

He is grateful he is alive but said to me,
there was no reason to have a gun in his place
and if he didn’t have it, he would greatly
reduce the chances of something bad happening
again even though he is stable now.

If you got my courses, I am sure you remember
his story. If you are interested it’s in
the bipolar supporter course for adults and
bipolar success course.

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

Right now, think about your environment
and is it good for bipolar disorder? If
not, make some changes.

Well I have to run. Have a great day and talk
to you soon.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

Hi,

Here is the current Bipolar Disorder news.

Make sure you take a look at the news. I really
work hard to put it together for you :).

To see the news visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarnews344

There’s some really interesting news stories this week.
Take a look at them. Also, write me some feedback by
visiting my blog below.

NOTE-Several of the headlines titles are really weak. I was
thinking that if I turned these in high school I would
get a D. BUT, the content is great so don’t avoid
reading the news because the headlines are really boring.

Here are some of the headlines:

Cardiovascular Disease and Metabolic Risk Factors in Male Patients
DO> Shocking information on the relation between diabetes and cardio
disease and bipolar disorder. My mom found this out the hard way.
Take a look.

Depressing outcomes with bipolar disorder
DO> Great talk on why there are so many kids being diagnosed
with bipolar disorder.

What the Kiwi gossip mags say
DO> This is a really good story to point out what happens
when you are not stable and have bipolar disoder. This
person made a total fool of himself for some time. Now
he has changed.

Professor tells her bipolar story to help others find hope
DO> Great article you must read.

For these stories and more, please visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarnews344

==>> Get Help with ALL aspects of bipolar disorder<<==
Check out all my resources, programs and information
for all aspects of bipolar disorder by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

Your Friend,

Dave