Bipolar – Can You Tell or Not?


I hope you’re having a good week.

I was thinking about something today.

I have several people who work for me who have bipolar disorder, and I always brag on them…

About how you would never know that they have the disorder, unless they told you.

Of course, I live in New Jersey, and they live in other places, all over the map.

But I was wondering about what they look like in person.

I mean, not their looks, but whether in person, whether you can or can’t tell that they have bipolar disorder.

So that made me think about you and your loved one.

If there’s so many million people with bipolar disorder, chances are that you know more than just your loved one with the disorder.

Can you tell or can you NOT tell just by looking, if someone has bipolar disorder or not?

Interesting question, don’t you think?

See, what made me think about it, too, were the many emails I’ve gotten from people like you, asking me about whether their loved one’s behavior is the bipolar or their loved one…

And also about whether their loved one is “faking” it or not.

That’s been a real big issue, according to the emails and calls I’ve gotten.

In my opinion, I think it has to do with whether a person with bipolar disorder is high functioning or not.

If they are high functioning, I don’t think you could ever tell that they even had bipolar disorder at all.

In my courses and systems, I talk about what makes a person high-functioning.

This is what I think, at least by what the people who work for me are concerned, is what makes them different, and in my courses I have a whole section on being high functioning:







High-functioning behavior can make a person with bipolar disorder NOT stand out as someone with the disorder.

Does that make sense?

Whereas, on the other hand, someone who has bipolar disorder, but is NOT high functioning, would be someone who you can tell DOES have bipolar disorder.

I have seen this firsthand – in the people who work for me, those I have interviewed for my courses, those who I have talked to at the support groups I attend, and others I have heard from via email and phone.

When someone with bipolar disorder is low functioning, they will tend to have more episodes.

And you know that when your loved one has episodes, there are behaviors associated with them.

If these behaviors are in public, well then sure, people are going to notice…

And then they will question…

And more likely will know that your loved one has something wrong with them…

If not know that they have bipolar disorder.

So I give it to you. What do you think?

What has been your experience?

Can you tell just by looking, if your loved one has bipolar disorder or not?

If so, what is it about their behavior that gives them away?

For those of you who can’t tell, what is it about your loved one’s behavior that is different, that doesn’t give them away?

Bipolar? When You Should Be Afraid of Someone With It


How’s it going?

I hope you’re having a good day.

I’m real busy in meetings today, but I wanted to make sure I got out this email to you, because

I felt the subject was so important.

I got a post about a topic I want to discuss today.

It said:

“Before I was on meds, I scared

my family half to death. They

never knew which direction I

was coming from. You web

site is informative. I like actually

getting information from someone

who knows the disorder. People

don’t understand it until they have

to deal with it, and it takes a while

for them to “get” it. You are helping

more people than you know.”


No, it’s not the compliment part, although it is nice to get positive feedback, because it helps me to remember why I am doing this.

It helps me to keep going, to know that I am helping people like you.

But what concerns me is the part where this person says, “Before I was on meds, I scared my family half to death.”

The emphasis should be on, “Before I was on meds…”

Because this is when you should be the most afraid of your loved one.

That’s why I stress the importance of medication in my courses/systems so much.







Without your loved one being on medication (and the right medication at the right dosage),

there is no telling what they’ll do.

You might be afraid of what they’ll do to themselves.

You might be afraid of what they’ll do to others.

You might be afraid of what they’ll do to you.

You might be afraid of what they’ll do to the children.

You might be afraid of their behavior in general.

You might be afraid they will just get so out of control that you won’t know what to do.

You might be afraid of what will happen if they get out of control.

You might be afraid of what will happen if you have to put them in the hospital.

You might be afraid of what will happen if you lose all your money because of one of their manic episodes.

These are a lot of things to be afraid of, aren’t they?

And there are even more!

It’s no wonder this person says, “Before I was on meds, I scared my family half to death.”

The problem is the unpredictability of it all.

Without your loved one being on medication, there is NO telling what they will do…

No telling what they are capable of doing during a bipolar episode (which is what will happen without medication).

That’s why it’s so important to get your loved one on the medication they need.

This person also goes on to say:

“They never knew which direction I was coming from.”

That’s because without proper treatment, even the person with bipolar disorder does not know which direction they are coming from.

They may get paranoid, have delusions (false beliefs), have hallucinations (seeing or hearing things that aren’t there), or even get violent or abusive.

The only way to really help your loved one is to make sure they are on medication and that they get the proper treatment that they need.

What about you?

Have you ever been in the situation that this person describes, where your loved one really scared you?

What did you do?

Record or Else – Important Bipolar Lesson


How’s it going?

I am actually going to a strongman contest that’s about 3.5 hours away so I haveto get going.

Before I go, I wanted to get you the daily email.

I have been writing these days that I have been having a bunch of major issues with software companies and advertising firms.

Well, this is what I have learned over the years:

You have to take really good notes with names, dates and times, and what happened.

You use these notes to explain your situation or cause to other higher ups, whatever the problem.

With bipolar disorder, many things come up where frankly you wind up dealing with organizations that are filled with dumb people.

The dumb people mislead. They give you a hard time. They lie. They work against you.

Sometimes you might even feel stigmatized.

You then have to go to a supervisor, or that supervisor’s supervisor with all the facts.

Once the higher ups see that you have details on what has been done, they normally relent and get you what you need or do what you need.

When I talk about this in my courses/systems, I talk about how important it is in relation to your loved one’s medical and mental health care.







What if your doctor’s secretary was rude to you or your loved one, for example?

Well, you would write down their name, the date, time, and exactly what happened.

And you would do it right then, while it’s fresh in your mind.

Don’t you think this is something your doctor would want to know?

After all, the receptionist is the first person representing your doctor to his/her patients.

So then you would pass it on to the office manager, or the receptionist’s supervisor, whoever that is.

Keeping a copy of this record, if you still don’t feel that you’ve gotten relief, you take it up to the next level.

See how it goes?

What if you have a doctor, psychiatrist, or therapist and they aren’t the best?

Or if you feel that your loved one isn’t getting the right treatment, or the best treatment that they should be getting?

What would you do?

Well, you would start taking notes.

And you would go through the same procedure as above.

Only you might have to go all the way to the Medical Board. (and, of course, you may have to switch doctors).

Now, what if your loved one has to be hospitalized?

What if you had to wait an unusually long time in the waiting room, while they were in crisis with a bipolar episode?

This is where it is especially important to take down the person’s name (and other information, too) because your loved one probably shouldn’t be having to wait in an Emergency Room waiting room if they are in that kind of condition.

They should at least be waiting in the back where they don’t have to be dealing with a lot of people.

But you should find out the laws in your own state and the policies in that particular hospital to find out what you can do.

So, do you see how important record keeping can be?

Now, I mentioned back in the beginning about feeling stigmatized.

This is where record keeping can be important as well.

If you feel as if you or your loved one were treated “less than” or any different than someone else just because you or they have bipolar disorder, the person who treated you that way should be reported to a higher up, so they don’t do it to the next person.

As long as you have a name (and also get the name of their supervisor), date, phone number, details of what happened, and any other information you feel is important, you can do something about it.

Has this ever happened to you?

Did you take good records?

What happened?

Watch This Advice About Bipolar Disorder


I hope you’re having a good day.

Do you like getting advice from people?

Especially when you don’t ask for it?

You know what I’m talking about.

Like those people who have an answer for everything.

And they pass out advice like candy.

And to anyone, whether that person listens to them or not.

They act like they’re a know-it-all. Nobody likes that kind of person.

But practically everyone knows someone like that.

Someone who gives advice even though they don’t know what they’re talking about.

Do you know what I mean?

Watch advice from those that have no clue what they are talking about.

This happens with bipolar disorder.

I can’t tell you how many people try to tell me what I should get my mom to do to manage her bipolar disorder.

Even when I am not asking and she is 100% fine!

People still insist my mom should do this, that, or the other thing.

Or people who give me advice (that I don’t ask for) on what medication would be the best for her to take.

That’s one of the biggest reasons why you won’t see me doing that in any of my courses or systems. I will never tell you what medications you should take, because I can’t give advice

on that, because I’m not a doctor!







I use to get mad when these people would give me advice about my mom and her bipolar disorder.

But now I just listen and nod my head but never of course tell my mom any of these crazy ideas I hear (like my mom should only eat organic and that would make her bipolar disorder go away).

By the way, and this is a STRONG warning, NEVER listen to advice that tells you that anything will make your or your loved one’s bipolar disorder go away, because nothing will. There is

NO cure for the disorder, medical or natural.

No matter how convincing the person or advertisement sounds, or how sincere the advice or the person giving it, don’t fall for it – it is BAD advice!

People will tell you the craziest things about how to manage your bipolar disorder.

They might tell you that if you just take vitamins instead of your bipolar medication, that you will be ok…

But that could be so dangerous for you (or your loved one)!

You (or they) could even die, and that’s a scary thought.

That is BAD advice – don’t listen to it!

Or they will tell you that just drinking water will make you get better.

Well, the problem with that is that it is a half-truth.

And that makes the WORST advice!

Because it SOUNDS true, and it makes it easier for you to believe.

The real truth is that you need to eat a healthy diet (and drinking water is part of that) to maintain stability with bipolar disorder.

But eating a healthy diet BY ITSELF is not going to make you get better.

Only combined with medication and other things will help you get better.

Do you see what I mean about listening to bad advice?

It sounds like the person knows what they’re talking about, but they really don’t.

Or someone who says that so and so told so and so who told them that this is the best medication for people who have bipolar disorder.

So they give you advice to take it too.

Well, I’m always telling you that everybody is different, and what works for one person doesn’t necessarily work for another person.

Because I want you to get better the right way.

Have you ever been given bad advice?

What happened?

Current Bipolar News



How are you?

Here’s the bipolar news. Enjoy.

To read this week’s news visit:

An Account Of A 27 Year Battle With Bipolar Disorder

DO> Wow, interesting story.

She’s Mentally Ill — And Inspiring

DO> Great article. Take a look.

Famous Bipolar Artists

DO> You asked for it, now here’s a list.

Antipsychotic Drugs For Kids Raise Hope, Worry

DO> Do you think it’s hope or worry?

Should a Person with Bipolar Disorder Drink Alcohol?

DO> What do you think?

For these stories and more, please visit:

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Check out all my resources, programs and information for all aspects of bipolar disorder by visiting:

Your Friend,


Bipolar Disorder And Ways To Deal With Stress


How’s it going?

Today I want to talk to both people with bipolar disorder and the people who support them.

Whether you are a bipolar supporter or survivor you have to watch your stress levels.

For the person with bipolar disorder, stress can become a trigger that leads to a bipolar episode.

AND it’s VERY unhealthy to have too much stress in your life.

For the supporter of a loved one with bipolar disorder, you don’t have to worry about going into a bipolar episode, but you do have to worry about stress destroying your overall physical and emotional health.

Unfortunately, when you are supporting someone with bipolar disorder, you can tend to let your stress get out of control. And if you don’t take care of yourself first, you won’t be able to take

care of your loved one.

There are some good ways to reduce the stress in your life, whether you have bipolar disorder, or are supporting someone who does.

Here are some good stress prevention or reduction techniques:

1. Buy or borrow a book on how

to reduce stress. This may sound

strange, but they have entire books

devoted to this serious problem.

2. Just breathe. This sounds too simple

to work, I know. But breathing in

and out slowly reduces stress and

besides, it’s f.ree.

3. Laugh and smile. Talk to people who

are goofy. Go look at funny things.

Watch funny TV shows. Do something

to laugh. It’s been proven that humor

has healthy qualities to it, and can

reduce a person’s stress..

4. Focus on the positive and only glance

at the negative. This is one of the things

I talk about in my courses/systems below:







Having a positive attitude is so very important to de-stressing your life, or at least bringing

your problems down to a manageable level.

My friend has a saying that she keeps taped to her computer that she looks at whenever she

gets stressed.

It says, “When I stopped living in the problem and began living in the answer, the problem went away…Acceptance is the answer to all my problems today.”

Positive affirmations like that are another way to keep your stress levels down.

Just tell yourself that you can do it.

That you can make it.

That you don’t need this stress in your life.

That you will conquer this stress.

That you will be a calmer person.

That you will be more positive.

These are all positive affirmations, and they will work on your stress. Also, avoiding stressful situations will help you to control your stress.

If being around a lot of people is stressful for you, then try to only go to social events where there will be just a few people there.

Go to small family gatherings rather than large ones, or make an excuse to leave early if it gets too stressful

for you.

If you are working outside the home, take a break when you feel yourself getting stressed.

For someone who has bipolar disorder, stress is an enemy that can affect your stability.

For a supporter, it is an enemy that can affect your well-being.

Hopefully, you’ll use some of the suggestions that I’ve given you to help you lower your stress levels.

How do you handle stress?

If you have other ways to de-stress your life that have worked for you, please share them.

If they’ve worked for you, they might work for someone else, too.

And if you use any of these ideas, I’d love to hear about it!

I love success stories!

Bipolar? Have This 5-Letter Word in Your Loved One


How’s it going?

I hope you’re having a good day today.

Today I want to talk to you about a simple 5-letter word that you should have in your loved one:


Now before you go running away thinking I’m going to preach at you, please hear me out.

Faith is simply believing in something you can’t see right now.

That’s all.

But it is a belief.

It’s choosing to believe.

It comes down to a choice.

You can choose to have faith or not to have faith.

Too many people assume faith has to do with religion.

And for some people that’s true.

Faith is a part of their religion, or their religious practices.

Something that comes from their heart.

In their case, their belief is in a Higher Power, something (someone) greater than themselves.

But even if you’re not religious, you can still have faith.

You can still believe in something that comes from your heart.

You can have faith in your loved one.

If you care about someone, you can have faith in them.

You can believe in them.

You can have hope that your loved one will get better.

Remember what I said about faith being believing in something you can’t see right now?

Well, you can believe in your loved one’s stability even though they may not be stable right now.

Here’s a few examples to show you what I mean:

You can’t see electricity, can you?

Yet when you turn the switch, you believe the light will turn on.

That’s having faith.

You believe in something that you can’t see.

You can’t see wind, either.

It’s not something you can exactly touch.

Yet you have faith that it’s there.

You can see the results of it.

It’s the same with your loved one’s stability with their bipolar disorder.

As you see them progress…

As you see them change…

As you see them grow…

As you see them get better…

As their episodes become farther apart…

You can believe in faith that they are becoming more stable.

You can’t see stability any more than you can see electricity or the wind.

But you CAN see the results of it.

One of the things I talk about in my courses/systems is watching for signs/symptoms of a bipolar

episode.  But you can also watch for signs of improvement as well.







You can have faith that if your loved one takes their medication as prescribed, that medication will work.

You can have faith that if your loved one goes to their therapy sessions, those therapy sessions  will help your loved

one get more stable.

And you can have faith that, with your love and support, and hard work on your loved one’s part, that success and a “normal” life is possible for both of you!

Do you have faith in your loved one?

Do you have faith in your future?

Bipolar Supporter? Your Life Isn’t a Movie


Hope your day is going ok.

You know those quizzes, maybe in a magazine, or on the Internet, where they’re always asking you things like, “If your life were a car, what kind of car would it be?” and things like that?

Well, I saw one that said, “If your life were a movie, what kind of movie would it be?”

Well, at first I thought it was stupid, like I think all these quizzes are sort of stupid.

But then it made me think about my life.

Is it a thriller?

Is it a horror story?

Is it a love story? (I don’t think so LOL)

Is it a comedy?

Is it a drama?

Then I got serious.

My life isn’t a movie at all.

My life is my life – it’s real, and I need to take it seriously.

Hopefully there’s some good times in it, and some hope in it, but there isn’t going to be someone
who comes along and rescues me or does all the hard work for me…

Or who makes my life all easy and ties it up with a bow with a happy ending like in the movies.

This is my real life.

So this quiz made me think of you, and bipolar disorder.

Being a supporter of a loved one with bipolar disorder is very real.

Your life is NOT a movie.

It is VERY real.

Every day is not a happy one.

Of course, we hope that every day is not a bad one, either.

But sometimes the reality is that your loved one may be depressed.

And sometimes they may be manic.

That’s why, in my courses/systems, I go over the signs and symptoms of both mood swings, so that you
will know them:



But living with a loved one with bipolar disorder cannot be put into one category of a type of movie.

There are too many ups and downs to your life, aren’t there?

Sometimes things are good, and sometimes they aren’t.

When your loved one is in an episode, things can be very, very difficult.

If they are in a depressive episode, for example, you may have to watch their sadness, helplessness and hopelessness, tearfulness, and the other ways they act… and not be able to do anything about it.

And at worse… you may even have to put them in a hospital, because they may even be suicidal.

This is no movie… this is real life.

If your loved one is in a manic episode, there may be terrible consequences.

Talk about a movie drama!

You never know what they’re going to do, because they can be so impulsive.

Their risk-taking behavior can cause financial and even legal consequences for you.

The consequences of their actions can definitely affect your relationship.

And the worst part of it is that they may not even remember what they do during their episodes!

But again, this is no movie – this is real life for you.

You have to deal with the reality of your loved one’s episodes…

And enjoy the “normal” times between episodes.

The closest you’ll get to a movie happy ending is when your loved one becomes stable, and you have to hold onto that hope.

Do you sometimes feel as if you’re living in a movie?

Do you believe that someday there will be a happy ending?

Bipolar? Are You Using the Real Stuff?


I hope you’re doing well today.

I have to tell you about the funniest thing I saw (heard) the other day.

I was in a restaurant, and there were four older women sitting in a booth near me.

They were sort of arguing.

Now, I’m not an eavesdropper or anything, so this argument was loud enough for me to hear from where I was sitting (and I’m sure, from where everyone else was sitting, too).

Here’s the conversation:

Lady 1: “I can’t believe you just did that.”

Lady 2: “Did what?”

Lady 1: “Put the pink stuff in your coffee.”

Lady 2: “I always use the pink stuff.”

Lady 1: “Well, I always use the yellow stuff.”

Lady 3: “Well, I don’t see why the two of you are even arguing about it.”

Uh oh, I thought, here comes trouble.

And I was right.

Lady 1 and 2 turned on Lady 3.

“Ok, if you’re so smart, which one do you use,” said Lady 2.

Lady 3: I use the blue stuff.

Well, all this time Lady 4 had been real quiet.

Then the other three women turned on Lady 4.

“Okay,” said Lady 2, “You break the tie. Which do you use?”

And here comes the funniest part of all –

Lady 4 said, “I just use plain old sugar. I don’t go for that fake stuff at all.”

And then they all started the whole argument all over again! It was hilarious!

You should have been there.

Ok, so what does this have to do with bipolar disorder? (you know I always bring everything back to bipolar disorder LOL)

Here’s the question for you:

Are YOU using the real stuff?

Or are you using one of the fakes (substitutes) out there?

Here’s a real good example, and a VERY DANGEROUS one:


Are you taking the right medication?

The bipolar medication prescribed by your doctor?

Or are you taking one of those supposed “natural cures” you hear about on the Internet?

Now, I’m not against herbal or natural supplements, don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that at all.

But I’m saying to use them with your doctor’s permission, most important of all, and I’m saying to use them WITH your medication, and not INSTEAD of your medication.

Too many people with bipolar disorder believe the ads saying these herbal remedies are a cure for bipolar disorder, when they’re not.

Then you might find out later that they’re actually dangerous for you, anyway (besides the fact that you can go into an episode for going off your REAL medication).

I even talk about this very thing in my
courses/systems below:



Another example is information on bipolar disorder, which I also talk about in my courses/systems.

About how important it is to be knowledgeable about the disorder.

But you have to have REAL information! NOT misleading or false information.

Can you imagine how dangerous it is to have the wrong information about bipolar disorder?

For example, the truth is that there is NO cure for the disorder at this time.

But some people believe that there is.

They have FALSE information.

So they are chasing after something that is not real. And they are wasting their time, unfortunately.

Instead, they should be going after the REAL thing – REAL information that will help them get better.

Here’s some other things to think about:

Would you rather have a REAL doctor, or a FAKE doctor?

A REAL therapist or a FAKE therapist?

A REAL pharmacist or a FAKE pharmacist?

Or even a REAL friend or a FAKE friend?

See what I’m getting at?

This is more than just an argument over real sugar vs. fake sugar.

This could mean the difference between continuing to struggle with your bipolar disorder or actually becoming stable with your bipolar disorder.

Do you agree or disagree with me?

Do you think it’s important to have the right medication?

Do you think it’s important to have the right information?