Hi {!firstname_fix},
If you are a bipolar supporter,
I hope you aren’t making this mistake.
I was talking to someone yesterday about
a problem they had.
They were trying to fit in more time on
a weekly basis for therapy.
I asked them why they needed so much
therapy?
This person said so that I can deal with
my wife. I was like, “huh?”
This person was going to a therapist 2
times a week.
I asked the person to explain his plan
to me.
After like 10 minutes of really not
explaining a plan I said to him
this:
“So is your plan to make sure that you
can cope and deal with your wife’s behavior
until she gets better?”
He said “yes that’s my plan.”
I asked him, “well what’s your wife doing
to get getter.” He said, “well nothing really.”
I said, “is she taking medication? He said
no, she takes it off and on.”
I said, “well there isn’t enough therapy
in the world to help you cope and deal with
someone who is not stable from bipolar disorder.”
I went on to explain that instead of spending
all his time trying to fix himself or better
deal with getting screamed at, yelled at,
threatened and having a steady stream of
abuse each and every day, he needs to
set a goal to get his wife to take his
medication.
He said, “yea that would be great but how.”
I said to him, “the first step is having
the goal. The first step in accomplishment
is to define what you want to accomplish.”
He said “that makes sense.”
Does this all make sense to you?
See how this person was off track and making
a huge mistake trying to figure out how to
better deal with a situation which really
is not going to magically fix itself?
See how this person didn’t have a goal
of fixing the problem? the problem being
that his wife was not taking medication.
See how, although something simple, he
really didn’t have a goal to get his wife
on medication. He had a goal to make himself
better be able to withstand his wife’s bipolar
disorder.
Many people are searching for how to
better cope and deal with the bad parts
of bipolar disorder. Now these strategies
are important for the SHORT term.
But over the long term, you have to get
your loved one to take medication.
Does that make sense?
There are ways to do this. You can learn it.
I have a new resource titled:
“How to Get Your Loved One With Bipolar Disorder
To Take Their Medication.”
For more information, please visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/specialoffer/getlovedonemeds/
Have a great day.
Dave