Hi,
I wanted to send out a quick story of something that just happened to me.
I was thinking of this story because of the resource that I sent out…
“How to Instantly Deal With Anger, Irrationality,
And Mania In Your Loved One with Bipolar Disorder”
Located here:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/specialoffer/dealwithanger
Here’s the story.
Okay, I had this person working for me. This person was doing a great job. I mean a great job.
All of a sudden this person started acting really weird. They would EXPLODE for nothing.
A few times they cursed me out. A couple of times they hung up on me.
It was disturbing. I kept wondering what the heck is wrong with them. It’s important to note this person is NOT a person on my staff that is known to have a mental illness.
Anyway, time went by and I noticed that the problems with this person went from me to others on my team.
It got worse and worse.
Each time, I tried to figure out how we could avoid making the person mad. Guess what? The more we tried the more mad the person became.
One day after being yelled at, I realized that my strategy of walking on egg shells and trying to keep the peace would not work and basically I was making things far worse.
I realized that I was violating my own rules.
So I decided to follow my own suggestions for dealing with someone that has bipolar disorder that is angry and manic most of the time.
I did and the results have been great. No more problems. It’s kind of odd that I forgot to follow my own system.
Well it’s not kind of odd, it’s easy to get caught up and forget what you have been trained to do with someone who is acting out in this nature.
I don’t know what illness this person has. I am not sure. But something is wrong so I went ahead and treated the person like a person who had an illness like bipolar disorder and was out of control.
The reason why I am writing this to you is because my situation reminds me of what so many bipolar supporters do:
-They try to keep the peace
-They walk on egg shells
-They try in every single way and many unreasonable
ways to avoid conflict
-They try to change themselves.
This is ALL wrong. ALL wrong. It doesn’t work. There are MANY strategies that work but these do NOT.
This will not work. I know there are thousands of people on my list making this mistake every day.
Don’t do it.
If you need help in this area, I have a resource titled:
“How to Instantly Deal With Anger, Irrationality,
And Mania In Your Loved One with Bipolar Disorder”
Located:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/specialoffer/dealwithanger
If you need it, get it. Nevertheless, I have to run and I will catch you tomorrow morning.
Have a good one.
Dave