Bipolar Supporter Blog

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Hi,

How’s it going?

Hope you had a good day yesterday.

Today I wanted to address something
I see over and over and over and over
again I see with bipolar disorder.

I have never really written about it
but now is the time.

It’s one of the absolutely positively worst
things about bipolar disorder and it’s
one of the most deadly traits.

Let me tell you why I thought of this
today. Well I saw some blog posts
and emails about my email yesterday
where I talked about natural health supplements
and natural “stuff” for bipolar disorder. I
warned people how most of it was total, and
I mean total, junk.

People were writing me and basically agreeing
with what I said but there were some people
saying that you could get off medications for
bipolar disorder and be okay.

NOTE-
I am NOT a doctor, therapist, insurance agent,
lawyer, or other kind of professional. I am
NOT offering medical advice rather my opinion.
If you see medical advice please stop reading
this.

One person wrote me that she just got
off her bipolar medications and was doing
great and it has been a few months.

Okay, well let me tell you something I have
found very interesting about folks with
bipolar disorder that get off their medication.

First a person gets off their medication and
“appears” to be doing well. Everything seems
okay. They are generally happy and you
the bipolar supporter may think, “wow
they are doing great” if you don’t know what
to look for and 99% of people don’t know
what to look for (for example, my dad still
to this day does not know what to look
for…know idea why).

Then slowly but surely over a few weeks to a
months, things start to turn. The person many
times will enter a manic episode. He/she will start
sleeping less, spending more mo.ney and doing
more things faster. Eventually his/her judgment
will be bad and they will start doing and saying
things that they never would do or say.

Then over time the person gets to a point where
they start to act “crazy” or very manic. At this
point the person reaches generally a place where
they can’t be stable again without going to the
hospital and they MUST be put on bipolar medications
again to be stable. Problem is, many times, they
are so far gone it takes so much to get them
to treatment.

The other problem is, when you get off medications for bipolar
disorder, sometimes whatever you were on that made
you stable will not work again. Doctors and researchers have
no idea why this happens but ask around and it does.

So then a doctor has to figure out a new bipolar
disorder medication or medications that will work
for you.

This could take a short time or a long time. Most
times, I have seen it take a long time especially
when a person is off bipolar medications for several
months.

All the while, the person can’t really work well, is
still saying and doing bad things and causing tremendous
havoc to those around them and destroying their live
and/or any progress they previously made.

Eventually if the person finds the right doctor
and sticks with him/her the right medication that
causes stability will be found. Unfortunately this
generally take up to or more than a year.

This process is how people wipe out YEARS of
their lives. It’s how people take 10 to 15 years,
NOT months to finally become stable. When you
get stable, take bipolar medications, get off
of them have to find new combinations, time goes
by fast when you do it let’s say 5 times. Some
people experiment and do this process 5 to 10 times
wasting large blocks of their lives.

The thing that is so darn deadly with bipolar
disorder is that at first,
when the person stops taking their medication, first
everyone thinks they are doing okay because in my mom’s
terms “their moving around doing a lot of stuff.” They
look happy and productive. To the untrained eye, it looks
like they are getting along great.

Then eventually the bipolar supporters know something is really
wrong but the person with the disorder thinks they are fine.

NOTE-

I have been on the phone with potential and I repeat
potential success stories that stopped taking medication
and they said the were fine. They were doing great!

When I spoke to them, they were talking super fast, rambling,
not making any sense at all, and when I spoke to their bipolar
supporters they said the people were totally out of control
but thinking they are fine.

The warning is. When you are stable do NOT stop taking
your medication because you could find yourself literally
out of your mind and thinking you are fine and okay
when you aren’t and you are hurting everyone around
you.

When you get my course/systems below:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

you will find many of the major success stories actually got
off medication at some point and did all kinds
of horrible things. Some tried to kill themselves
or others. Some were in jail. Many bankrupt. Most
have been married several times. One guy lost
his entire family. They refuse to ever speak to
him again even though now he is a big time success.
BUT, what he did when he was on and off medications
for years must have been so bad, they can’t forgive
him. I am not saying I agree with this just pointing
out the facts.

The common denominator of this grief and strife
is getting off bipolar medications.

For those that wrote or posted to me, who are off
bipolar medications without working with a doctor,
heed this warning.

And if you haven’t gone unstable yet, you will.

Let me ask you a few questions, for those out their,
that stopped taking their medication for bipolar disorder.

Do you like gambling with your life?

Do you know you could kill someone or kill yourself (check
the stats on this it’s 100% true. Don’t get mad at me,
I report the facts, check them)

Do you want to risk hurting those around you?

Can’t you work with your doctor with changes to the
treatment plan not “wing it” or do it on your own?

Do you realize that you could bankrupt yourself
and your loved ones around you.

You might think I am being harsh on a Sunday but
this stuff is DEAD SERIOUS. This isn’t like
a cold or something.

Everyone should really think about this email
and think about the seriousness of bipolar disorder
and go with proven success and get a great doctor,
work with him/her, go to a therapist and take
your medication as prescribed faithfully.

Don’t be a statistic on my bipolar weekly news.
Look back over my bipolar news I send out on
Fridays. Read the stories of people with bipolar
disorder that have done bad things. You will find
it was because they got off their bipolar
medications.

NOTE-Everyone who does something really crazy
with bipolar disorder never wanted to for the most
part. They did it OFF medication. Don’t be one
of them.

2 years ago a lady threaten to kill me on my list.
She also hurt someone physically and go into trouble. She went
to jail. She just got out. I don’t know why such a
short sentence. Who knows I am not a lawyer. Anyway,
she wrote me an email asking for my forgiveness
and that she would stay on her bipolar medications.

She told me she went “crazy” after several months
of being off her medications. Believe me I know,
I got the death threats from her.

Imagine waking up to someone who says their
going to kill you anyway they can? That’s what
she did to me when she was off her medications
for several months.

The good thing is, she promised to stay on her
medications. I do forgive her too.

Well I have to go.

Catch you tomorrow.

I know I am going to get hate mail from people
saying I push drugs on people and I am working
with “big drug” companies. I don’t care. If
I can just help one person on my list it’s worth
it.

Stopping medication is VERY serious. Don’t do
it.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

PIP’S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

==>>Help with ALL aspects of bipolar disorder<<==
Check out all my resources, programs and information
for all aspects of bipolar disorder by visiting:
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Hi,

How are you? Well today is Saturday
and the weekend.

I am actually going to a Halloween
Party today so I have to make this
quick because I have a lot to do before
I go to the party.

Something happen yesterday that kind of
made me really mad.

I was talking to a friend of mine
who asked how the “bipolar stuff”
was going. I told him great.

Then he told me how he knows
some natural doctor and as soon
as he said this, I said, “oh
geeze, here we go”, that has
a natural treatment for bipolar
disorder.

My friend is a well intentioned
person and sincere.

He went on to tell me how basically
in order for my mom to do well (which
she is already but I think my friend
missed that), she needs to take
this “amazing supplement” so
she could be “okay”.

My friend says that his natural doctor
friend says that it works so great
and has “totally cured people.”.

Every time I hear this, I kind of want
to scream. The last time I heard this,
the person who was suppose to be cured
of bipolar disorder by meditating and
eating a kind of “tree bark” from
some kind of place in South America
was in a mega super episode and
incomprehensible for our interview.

The person who told me said it was because
he didn’t take enough “tree bark.” I argued it was
because the person got off his medication
that was working.

BE WARNED!

These days there are tons and tons of people
making all kinds of claims of natural products
to treat and manage bipolar disorder.

I’ve heard it all: tree bark, shark something
or another, magic berries, magic water,
something from volcanoes, special grass,
special mud, etc.

Then there are the natural people that don’t
endorse natural supplements but doing natural
things to total control bipolar. Things
like “getting in touch with yourself”,
paying a ton of money for a person to
“cleanse your soul”, weird kinds of meditation
that are not free but cost $5000, etc.

99% of what is presented to me in regards to
natural is a scam. I use to spend so much
time working to validate things brought to me.
When it comes to supplements however, I get
a ton of people sending me stuff in the mail
and writing me about this and that. Most of
them are like h.ome business programs.

One was actually found
to have NO and I repeat NO nutritional
qualities at all and was essentially
“colored water.”

These days anyone can start their own
nutritional company and sell anything
just about. Also, note that there are
many legitimate natural doctors that
are like real MDs but have other degrees.
BUT on the flip side, there are tons
and I mean tons of con artists out
there saying they are doctors but they
are really not or got a degree from like
a NON accredited mail order/internet scam operation.

IF you are looking into natural supplements
and bipolar disorder BEWARE.

I actually put together a guide on this
if you are interested, it’s called:
“My Findings: Vitamins, Herbs, and Alternative
Therapies for Treating Bipolar Disorder”
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/alternativetherapies/

You’d be shocked about the kind of nonsense
that I ran across. It really makes me super
mad when people try to make up natural things
to “cure” or take the place of bipolar medications.

Don’t get me wrong, my mom takes natural things
and also does natural things to work WITH her
bipolar medication. WITH. Please read that again
with her bipolar medications. They are complementary NOT
replacements. And she ALWAYS works with her
doctor. Also, my mom does natural exercises you
probably have never heard of at the advice of her
doctor but with her bipolar medications.

She doesn’t hide the fact she is taking it
from her doctor.

In my courses/systems, below:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

you hear many, and
I mean many, horror stories from people who
got off their medication and went and took
some weird supplement or went to do some
kind of strange meditation or weird
form of “natural” therapy and went into
super episodes and created doomsday scenarios
for their loved ones.

To sum up:

Do NOT ever make any treatment without
taking to a qualified doctor first

Don’t believe outrageous claims about
supplements or weird therapies for bipolar
disorder

And no I am not a supplement hater. I take
a ton of supplements because I body build
NON competitive. I do it as a hobby. If you
met me, you’d be amazed how many supplements
I take but I still never would make claims
about bipolar stability and supplements.
Well I have to run, catch you tomorrow.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

Hi,

Here is the current Bipolar Disorder news.

Make sure you take a look at the news. I really
work hard to put it together for you :).

To see the news visit:

http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarnews349

There’s some really interesting news stories this week.
Take a look at them. Also, write me some feedback by
visiting my blog below.

Here are some of the headlines:

NetWellness: Natural aids to sleep during pregnancy
DO> Great article for those pregnant

Margaret Trudeau recounts her battle with mental illness
DO> Incredible must read story

Are We Overmedicating Our Kids?
DO> What do you think?

Asenapine Effective for Acute Mania in Bipolar I Disorder …
DO> Interesting concept

1 In 4 People Diagnosed With Depression May Have Bipolar Disorder, UK
DO> I have been saying this for years!

For these stories and more, please visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarnews349

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Your Friend,

Dave

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Hi,

How are you?

Hope you are doing well. Today I am in the
library and their is this one guy talking
on his cell phone super loud. When these times
occur, I debate in my head to say something.

I wish cell phones were BANNED from ALL libraries.
It’s so annoying. Anyway, I went up to the
reference librarian to complain and see if
she could shut the guy up.

I had a book about bipolar disorder in my hand and
she asked me, “Do you have bipolar disorder?” I said,
“No I don’t but I have an organization that helps
people dealing with it–both supporters and
survivors.”

I came to find out this woman had a sister with
bipolar disorder. She said it was a nightmare.
She had for like 10 years her sister hadn’t
done much, did drugs, couldn’t hold a job and was
in and out of the hospital. She had no money
and was constantly in a “bad state.”

I asked lots of questions and finally she
said, “You know, psychiatrists are a total
joke, they have no idea what they are doing.
My sister is suppose to be with this new
one that is suppose to be so good and he
can’t get the medication right.”

I asked her how long she has been with him
she said 3 weeks. Then I asked (below next
to Woman> are her responses):

How many times has she seen him?
Woman> Not sure

Who is are her main supporters?
Woman> Umm I guess me.

How did you find him?
Woman> Not sure

Who was she seeing before?
Woman> Not sure

Who besides your sister is reporting
what’s going on including any side effects?
Woman> What do you mean? Umm. No one I guess.

NOTE-As I type this, ANOTHER guy is talking
on his cell phone. GEEZE!!! If you do this
in libraries don’t!

What are you expectations with the doctor?
Woman> He can help her and help right away
if he is so good.

How long do you think it takes to find
the right medication?
Woman>A few days?

What is your sister doing that is making
you think the medication is wrong?
Woman>She doesn’t have a job?

Do you think your sister can be a success?
Woman> Omm, seriously not really.

Look at what I wrote and look at the woman’s
responses?
Talk about unrealistic expectations.
She is her sisters main supporter and she
doesn’t have a clue.

Then the woman was super negative about the
doctor. I can’t even type all the bad stuff
she said. I cut her off and basically told
her that she was wrong in blaming the doctor.

After 15 minutes she agreed. And she did
concede that she hasn’t really done anything
other than complain about her sister and
she kind of dumps her sister off to doctors
and hopes they will “take of her.”

Well I am here to say, that doesn’t work.
My dad tried that one for about 38 years and
it never, ever worked.

The bottom line is, with doctors that
treat bipolar disorder you have to be realistic
in what you expect. It takes even the best doctors
time to find the right combination of medication.

Also you have to be fair. Notice the woman thinks
the doctor is not good because her sister isn’t
working. Is that a good measurement of whether
the doctor is good or not? And, how the heck can a
person go from not working
to working after being in a major bipolar disorder episode
in 3 weeks. UNREALISTIC!

Don’t fall into this trap. And the other really
bad thing she has done with her sister is not
shop for a good doctor.

In my courses/systems below you know that I advocate
my doctor/therapist finding system:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

And I advocate getting doctors/therapist to
contact you and sorting through hundreds at
the same time. I recommend shopping for a doctor
like you shop for a car, painter, etc.

It’s amazing that people will show more
for food that a good doctor.

BUT on the flip side it didn’t sound like
her sister had a bad doctor even though he
was kind of random and wasn’t shopped
for. I find that many times people put some
much demand on the doctors and they want
results that are not realistic or don’t even
make any sense.

A person once told me her doctor wasn’t any good
because he wouldn’t see her after 5pm on Sundays
each week. I asked this person when could he she
you then and she said well any other time but I
liked after 5:00pm on Sundays the best. I was like,
“Ever hear of the word compromise?” She thought about
it then felt dumb. Keep in mind this woman was totally
stable. She then said, well since he makes so much
money he should accommodate me. I just shook my head.

The problem is, she left that doctor and now had
to start over with someone else.

If you don’t like a doctor, seriously sit and think
if what you are thinking makes and sense, you are
being fair and realistic. Don’t get on the doctor
merry go round for no reason.

With that said, I have to take off and the library
is closing.

Don’t forget, Friday, tomorrow is the bipolar news.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

==>>Help with ALL aspects of bipolar disorder<<==
Check out all my resources, programs and information
for all aspects of bipolar disorder by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

Hi,

How’s it going?

I hope you had a great day yesterday.

I think I really shook a few people up
yesterday about my email and looking
for a magic solution to every problem
with bipolar disorder–the fact that
one does not exist. From the responses
I got, I think I really have pushed people
into the right way of thinking of bipolar
disorder.

With that said, a number of people emailed
me about what do I mean about having plans
for handling Bipolar episodes.

I wanted to address this today in my daily
email–a plan for bipolar disorder.

Basically I have a plan for virtually every
situation that I can think of that could happen
with my mom and bipolar disorder.

It might sound like a huge gigantic task
but it’s really not.

Basically what I did is look back in
the past at my mom’s bipolar disorder
episodes. Then I made a list of the problems
and what happened and went wrong.

Then I brainstormed other things that could
happen. Then I began to sit and make plans
to address each situation.

After three years now, I have a complete
list of solutions to virtually all the
problems. It also helps that I have 8 people
who work for me with bipolar disorder and
I have tens of thousands of people on my mailing
lists.

Virtually every concept that I have is included
in my main courses/systems below:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

The bottom line is, with bipolar disorder
you have to plan. You have to stay on top of
things. You have to think about what happen
in the past. You have to think about what could
happen in the future.

You have to look at patterns and make
predictions.

Then you have to be solution oriented and
make a plan.

You know, most people in life just don’t have
any plans. It’s kind of strange. I constantly have
a plan for everything. I guess that’s just the
way I am. I have a workout plan, eating plan,
bipolar plan, business plan, volunteer plan, writing
plan, etc., hiking plan, etc.

There’s a quote by Napoleon Hill. It says,
“people don’t plan to fail, they
fail to plan.”

It’s amazing to me, how with bipolar disorder,
how little effort people put into planning.
They put more effort into complaining about
bipolar disorder then they do planning.

I have found, the key with bipolar is planning.
I know I keep repeating myself but I want to get
the point across loud and clear.

If you know of someone who is a successful bipolar
supporter besides me, or someone who successfully
manages bipolar disorder, ask him/her if having a
plan was one of the major keys. I am very positive
the person will say yes.

There are people that came to me more than 2 years
ago. They were a wreck. Constantly worried about
what was coming around the corner. Now when I talk
to these people they are relaxed and not worried.
Bipolar disorder is still in their lives but they
have a plan and having a plan cuts down on anxiety,
stress, etc.

Ask yourself this question: “On a scale of 1
to 10, with 10 meaning you have the greatest plans
ever and 1 meaning you have no plan for anything
at all, how do you rate yourself?”

If you are less than a 7, what are you going to
do to get to a 10? And if you have been less than
a 7 for a long time, please understand that
whatever you have been doing is not really working
and you need to change direction.

Well I have to take off, catch you tomorrow.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

PIP’S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

==>>Help with ALL aspects of bipolar disorder<<==
Check out all my resources, programs and information
for all aspects of bipolar disorder by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

Hi,

How’s it going?

I wanted to write today about a serious
problem that I see many people having and a big
mistake that is being made.

Recently I have noticed a whole lot of people
contacting me and wanting almost instant answers
on how to totally completely help a loved one
from a to z in a few days.

Some of the conversations and posts that I have
seen make me really want to send out this email.

First, you have to understand, things with bipolar disorder
take time. You can’t rush stuff. You can’t push your
loved one to get better “immediately.” It would be
great if there was a way to undo a bipolar episode in
a few hours or days but there is NOT such a way.

I can’t believe I have read people want a “magic”
set of words to get a person to accept their illness.

Michele Soloway pointed this out to me and she was
like, “When someone writes something like that,
do you think they are serious?” I told her, “yea
I think so.”

She said, “boy that’s scary.” It really is.

Another person sent me a letter in the mail and his is
a quote from it “I just need a few quick ideas
to get her to understand what she has. I don’t
have lots of time so please keep it short.”

Imagine getting a letter like that?

When you get my courses/systems below:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

You will notice, that I have a CD called
“My Mom’s Story.” Why do I have this cd? Well
it’s to show from a to z how long and what I had
to go through to help my mom get stable and start
to fix all the things that she had done when she
was in her major bipolar episode.

I do this so people have an idea of how long
it takes. I remember when my mom was on the
road to stability, I always thought in my head,
“Is she on track? Behind? Ahead?” I had no
one to ask and to compare to. When you listen to
that CD it gives you some idea. Everyone is
obviously different but the cd represents a
fair understanding of how long it will take.

But for those that haven’t listened yet,
I have a few things to say. Each problem
with bipolar disorder can be solved in a multitude
of ways. There are generally no one size fits
all solutions to every problem. Just like each
person requires a different group of medication
or medications.

Take a look at this.

Let’s look at getting someone into treatment. There
are more than 23 ways I have discovered that can accomplish
then. I have personally used 3 of them. The first
one worked the first time I needed it. However the second
time my mom went into an episode, the first method, second,
third, fourth and I think like up to method 7 didn’t work.
Eventually one method worked for her SECOND episode. Then
in her third episode, the previous other two methods did NOT
and I repeat did NOT work. I had to keep trying stuff
until something finally worked.

How did I come up with a list of 23? Well the ones
that I didn’t personally invent, came from
people all over the world that had other ideas that
worked.

When I had about 15,000 people on my list, I sent out an email
to everyone asking for people to send me a proven way
they used to get a loved one into treatment. I got hundreds
of responses. Any time I got the same response 4 times
I included it on the list. I also then interviewed one of the
people who used the technique.

In my bipolar supporter course, you find all these options.
BUT, there is NO magic few words or one line that works in
all cases. I am kind of amazed people even think that it’s
going to be that easy.

Now let’s look at something else. Getting someone to accept
his/her bipolar disorder. There are a number of techniques
in this area as well. Each technique has to be tried to see
which one will work.

Michele and I were talking today and we both said,
if you are going to be a good bipolar supporter, you have
to be realistic and fair to your loved one. You can’t
expect instant results.

Remember that bipolar disorder is tough and complicated. It’s
going to be hard in the beginning getting the ball rolling.
Some times you might feel the ball is going to roll back down
the hill and run you over. But you push harder and harder
and then eventually you are up the stability mountain where
things are calm, peaceful and much easier. It does take time
and it takes techniques and there are a lots of them to learn.

My goal is to have you cut your learning curve down substantially.
Instead of it taking you 5 to 15 to 20 years to figure it
all out. I want to cut that down dramatically into 6 months,
a year, etc.

Do you know how many years my mom spent trying to figure out
bipolar disorder? Seriously decades. Michele Soloway spent
more than 20 years. Bob who works the bipolar inner circle
forum took more than 10 or 15 years.

I don’t have an exact statistic but the average person who
is either a supporter or survivor has spent more than 10
years trying to develop a way to cope and deal with
bipolar disorder.

My goal like I said it so to cut that way down but I am
NEVER, EVER going to cut the learning curve down to a few
minutes, hours or days.

Today I just wanted to remind everyone this.

I know personally with my mom, November is a tough period
and so is December. We have the system in place. BUT it’s possible
that the plan I have might not work so I have to go to plan
b, and maybe c, maybe even plan d–the ones in my course.
BUT I don’t expect any kind of magic to work and
take care of everything.

Well with that said, I have to take off. I have a super long
day ahead of me. Have a great day and catch you first thing
tomorrow morning.

I think I am going to do a F.REE podcast on people
with bipolar disorder accepting their illness, why
you shouldn’t be so darn hard on those that don’t.

I have an interesting view on this. I can’t write it
because it’s too complicated so I am thinking of doing
a podcast for f.ree.

Well catch you later.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

==>>Help with ALL aspects of bipolar disorder<<==
Check out all my resources, programs and information
for all aspects of bipolar disorder by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

Hi,

How’s it going?

Hope you had a good weekend.

Well today I wanted to email you some
lessons on bipolar disorder that I took
away from the movie Rendition.

What’s Rendition?

Here is a description I found from imdb on what
Rendition is:

“Rendition presents a very topical matter
in the form of a very tense thriller. It’s a
gripping, and not a preaching, movie. Seeing
it in an Arab country with a mixture of Arabian
and European audience gave it an extra level of
atmosphere. The audience was totally gripped by
the film and gave it a loud applause afterwards.

The story of an Egyptian, married to an American,
picked up on the suspicion of links to terrorist
organizations and shipped to a friendly (with US)
Arab country for “enhanced interrogation
(as Meryl Streep’s character states in the film:
“we have no torture in the US”) seems to be from
the front page of todays news.

There is a very neat link between the various
of the film never drops. The movies’ message seems
to be (as stated by Jake Gyllenhal’s character in
the film) that by abducting and torturing suspects
you create many more terrorists. The acting is
uniformly excellent with Streep and Reese Witherspoon
the stand outs. Not to be missed.”

The movie was really, really good but kind
of disturbing. Basically a guy in America
is “taken” to some prison and is tortured
over and over again because he would not
“confess.”

Lynn on my blog wrote the other day:

Lynn said…
Hi. I saw ‘Rendition’ w/some A.A. friends,
last evening. I didn’t really know anything
about it x that it was something about espionage (sp).
It was a little difficult to watch in some places,
but it was very well, very realistically, very
believably done, and I would highly recommend it.
Certainly gives you alot to think about, and talk
about w/your friends! Ooh, by the way, I HAVE
BIPOLAR DISORDER.”

Anyway, I was thinking about something related
to bipolar disorder and it’s a super important
lesson.

Basically in the movie an American person
is taken without going to any kind of court.
In the movie you assume that something
like this can’t happen in America and
that people are treated right and put
through the court system. This isn’t
true in the USA any more. Rendition
is a real thing you can run a search
in the search engines and see.

Anyway with that said, it reminds me
of the huge mistake bipolar supporters
make with loved ones with bipolar disorder.

I have talked about this mistake as
TOBC (total outsourced bipolar care).

This is when a bipolar supporter kind of
drops off a person into some part of the mental
health system and doesn’t do any kind of
watching or checking in on what’s going on.

They think, “well all I have to do is
just get my loved one to the doctor
or hospital and they will take it from there
and I am all done.”

People like this assume: all doctors
are good, family support is not necessary
or important, all therapists are good, people
are treated okay in hospitals, group homes,
out patient programs, etc.

I am here to tell you, this is NOT true.

Today there are many great doctors,
therapists, hospitals, group homes, outpatient
programs but there are some that are not and
there are people that are in good places that
are bad and do bad things.

Over the last couple of years, I have heard
many horror stories of how people with bipolar
disorder have been treated. Many of these stories
came from bipolar supporters not the people with
the disorder–just in case your thinking that the
story my have been made up by someone with bipolar
disorder in an episode. However some have come from
bipolar survivors and I totally believe them.

I interviewed one day that said his brother
was chained to a wall, attacked, hit, abused,
not really fed and made fun of in a hospital
many years ago. Another person with bipolar
disorder told me he was chained to a wall for many
days in a hospital in the 1960s that is now shut
down.

A girl that I knew told me she went to a place
that had animals and one of the cages was donated
from a psychiatric hospital when decades ago
they used the cages for “difficult” and/or “bad
patients.”

A person I interviewed the other day told me
she was sexually assaulted under care. She also
told me here doctor fell asleep during visits
with him.

My mom has told me her old doctor fell asleep
while she was talking to him numerous times.
I didn’t believe her until I met
him. Like my special reports say, he was totally
“clueless.” He couldn’t fall asleep with me because
I turned the heat up on him BIG TIME 🙂

A furniture sales person told me 15 to 20 years ago
he worked at a program for the mentally ill and the person
who ran it had a scam that basically took all the people’s
money from them to him.

Today it appears that things are not as bad.

I think with the advent of the News and media those
bad places can’t do these extreme things anymore. BUT
there was a story recently of a person in jail with a mental
illness that was mistreated and died in prison because he
didn’t get the right treatment plan. You may have seen
this on TV.

I do hear over and over of cases where the system doesn’t
help someone, medication is not given, people are not
listened to, doctors don’t show up for appointments with
serious situations, patients are given two different
medications that conflict, etc.

The list goes on and on. In all these cases, there was
no one to watch over and check out what was going on.

The lesson that I took away from the movie Rendition
is that bad things can happen to good people and that
things that you think can never happen in “this day
and age” can especially in mental health. Because many
times the system unfortunately doesn’t always treat
those dealing with mental health whether supporters
or survivors fairly or well.

So if you have a loved one in the mental health system,
I strongly advice you to follow all my rules of making
your loved one a 5 percenter and getting him/her
the best care.

In my courses/systems below:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

I talk about how to do this at length. I talk
about the phone calls you need to make, checking
in, “drive bys”, “check ins”, the concept of
Mrs. C. etc. There is a whole list of things
that need to be done to make sure a loved one
with bipolar disorder not only is not mistreated
but gets the absolute best care they can possibly
get.

I found this out way early on that most of the
time the system needed “positive pressure” from
me.

You should NOT, and I repeat should NOT assume
that a person will get great care because that’s
what a doctor, therapist, hospital, etc. is suppose
to do.

When I spoke to someone at the movie Rendition, he said,
“You’d never think something like that would ever happen
but I guess it does.” He got me to thinking of all
the bipolar supporters that come to me after the system
has run them over and I give them a plan on how to
run the system over and I point out how the
system really works and people are amazed. They always
say, “I can’t believe it works like this, it shouldn’t.”

NOTE-This is not a slam against doctors, therapists
and hospitals I am just pointing out reality. I write
about the truth and reality not theory. If you are
offended I am sorry but what I say is the total
truth.

Well I have to take off. I will catch you tomorrow.
Have a great day. And I do recommend that movie Rendition.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

==>>Help with ALL aspects of bipolar disorder<<==
Check out all my resources, programs and information
for all aspects of bipolar disorder by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

Hi,

How’s it going?

Happy Sunday. It’s actually pretty early
for me. Before I take off, I wanted to
share an important lesson with you.

This particular time of the year, tends
to bring a lot of problems for people with
bipolar disorder.

With that said, today I wanted to send out an important
concept on how to predict the future with
bipolar disorder.

It might sound impossible but it’s really not.

Let me explain the secret.

Many times with bipolar disorder, everything comes
down to patterns.

For many people, there are certain periods of time
that are more difficult. People tend to have certain
things or events that trigger mania or depression.

People cycle during the same periods of time each
month, or year.

Bipolar episodes, many times, come at the same time
each year.

With this said after you start doing a bunch of
PEAs (post episode analyses), you start to be
able to predict the future.

For example, I feel strong that my mom will start to
go into a slight bipolar episode in November.

The only thing I am unsure of is how many days
it will last.

How do I know this? Or am I just being
“negative” about my mom?

I know this because this has happen for several
years in a row. If you have been on my list for a
while, you will remember each November/December
I am writing about my mom going into a bipolar
episode.

Two years ago it was a nightmare. Why? Well
I just didn’t know a lot of things. Then I did
a PEA and figured out what went wrong. I fixed
up the system to solve most of the problems. But
then, last year she went into a slight episode.
The system however caught it way in advance
from the previous year’s “learnings.”

This year I feel that it will be caught way ahead
of time and there will not be much damage from
the bipolar episode.

However, if you have my materials on bipolar
disorder, you know I am a HUGE believer in
backup plans and I even have an entire
concept called how to avoid the dooms day
scenario which has a super system of
preventing episodes after big
episodes.

For more information on that visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolardoomsday/

This past September I warned my dad that my mom
would have trouble sleeping probably in
October.

He looked at me like I was crazy. How did
I know that? Well I had a feeling and
also, my mom generally has problems sleeping
in October.

It confuses me really why my dad forgets
anything that happens the year before.

My aunt on the other hand, who is one of
my mom’s bipolar supporters always remembers.

Anyway, I found out my mom had problems sleeping
in the first part of October but took the proactive
stance and called the doctor and her treatment
plan was adjusted. And she is working with
her therapist on sleeping better. Both her
therapist and doctor are in concert with
her treatment plan and address the problem
BEFORE it turns into a big bipolar episode.

I call this preemption strike or “preemption.”

Most people who are dealing with bipolar
disorder never try to predict the future, plan,
or engage in preemption. They just hope for the
best of “keep their fingers crossed.” This is kind
of how our family did it for so many years.

“Keeping your fingers crossed” and “hoping
everything will just work out fine” don’t work.

In my course/systems, you’ll find a lot of other
techniques to help predict the future. Many times
you don’t know things that are coming and it’s someone
like me who has been down the road you are traveling
that can let you know.

If you haven’t done so, take a look at my
courses/systems as soon as you can:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

Today as a good assignment for you, make a
list of what’s happen historically with either
you or your loved one’s bipolar disorder and
then try to anticipate what will happen in the future.

Then launch a preemptive strike against the
bipolar.

NOTE how it’s against the bipolar not your
loved one. Remember bipolar is the enemy
not your loved one.

Here’s something I just got from someone, I really
like testimonials because it makes me feel like I am
really helping:

“I highly recommend Dave’s emails and courses on
Bi-polar to help you and your families understand
the illness that bi-polar is and how different
it is for each different person that suffers with it.”
-Linda S.

See you on Monday!

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

==>>Help with ALL aspects of bipolar disorder<<==
Check out all my resources, programs and information
for all aspects of bipolar disorder by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

Hi,

How’s it going?

I wanted to write you a quick something
about the seminar that I went to.

I went to a business seminar. It had nothing
to do with bipolar disorder but I was
reminded about something so important
that many people seem to forget about.

What’s that?

Well let me tell you what happen. I was
sitting down at my table in my seat.

After about 1.5 hours, we had a break.

I was a little late so I was unable to introduce
myself to anyone formerly.

But during the break I did. I went up to people
and said “Hi, I am David Oliver, what’s your name
and what do you do?”

People would tell me and naturally, people would
ask, “What do you do?” Instead of telling
people about consulting or my other
businesses, I wanted to tell them about
the mental health organization.

After doing so, I was shocked with what
I heard.

When I said, “I have an organization that
helps people deal with serious mental
health disorder like schizophrenia, borderline
personally disorder and bipolar disorder,
with an emphasis on bipolar disorder.”

Guess what 4 out of first 6 people
I met said to me?

Take a guess and scroll….

Make sure you guess then scroll…

They either said that they had bipolar
disorder, or they knew someone really close
to them with it.

One lady I introduced myself to, said
both her daughters have it.

Another woman said her boyfriend had it.
Two people said they had it.

Another person said a family member had
it.

I must say that I was REALLY, REALLY
shocked.

Then get this. And I really feel this is
amazing. I have a woman that sells me advertising
services for one of my other businesses. NOT
related to bipolar or mental health.

Anyway, I mentioned my mom had bipolar disorder
(NOTE-My mom has given me permission to do this)
and she said, “I have bipolar disorder.”

Then I asked her if she said she had it and she
said “yea why?” I then asked her some questions. I could
tell she was totally ashamed and embarrassed and then
I told her about my other organization and she felt
okay. I could tell however she didn’t want to talk
about it and changed the subject fast and then
she had to go.

I feel bad for someone like this. You can tell she
is kind of alone with the disorder.

I know that many people are affected
by bipolar disorder but for some reason
I am always amazed when I see it in reality
so to speak.

Many people on my list are suffering in silence,
embarrassed, ashamed of themselves or loved one,
unwilling to talk to others about bipolar disorder
and it should not be this way? Why because unlike
other illnesses out there, bipolar disorder is COMMON.

Let me repeat that again, bipolar disorder is common.

And I have some news for you. Mental illness is VERY
common. In the last week I have met multiple people
who have depression, one person’s sister is a cutter (
she cuts her arms and legs frequently), one has the
hair pulling disorder that I can’t spell, several people
have kids with ADHD and autism. This is just in the
last 10 days.

And these people are people that are associated with
my other businesses NOT mental health. I just bring
up bipolar disorder and all of a sudden they feel “okay”
to talk about either their disorder or a family member’s
disorder.

The big lesson of today is that there are a lot of
people dealing with these illnesses and you should
not feel alone because you are not.

When I first started helping my mom, I didn’t know
of a single person that had bipolar disorder.

I remember one time that someone had told me that a girl
in my college had it. That’s all I knew. I kind of felt
weird about bipolar disorder myself UNTIL I started
going out and asking people for help and telling what
was happening to me. When I did that, the flood gate
of stories opened up. All sorts of people were dealing
with it as well.

I will never forget this day. My mom didn’t pay her
taxes. The Internal Revenue Service was writing, really,
really, really nasty letters. I decided I had to “handle
it.” Even though I am not an accountant, I said I have
to do something or they will make my mom worse.

I called and to make a long story short. I was totally
honest and explained what my mom had, where she was and
I will never forget the IRS person saying, “Oh I know
what you are saying, my sister has bipolar disorder.”

Then we began to talk and she was super nice and allowed
my mom to pay off in really small payments. She stopped
all the letters.

From that day forward, I felt bipolar disorder was
way bigger than I ever imagined.

The amazing thing about bipolar disorder
is that tons of people are dealing with
it whether they are supporters or bipolar
survivors.

You may be embarrassed to talk about it, you may
not want to tell others but I suggest that you do
talk about it, and you will be shocked how many people
know about it and are understanding.

Also I found little pieces to the bipolar puzzle from
random people I met when I was trying to help my mom.

One person that I met, provided the key secret I was
missing to getting my mom on disability. I just
“bumped” into her.

In my course/systems below, several of the major bipolar
success stories are people that I “bumped” into:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

If you haven’t gotten one of them, check them
out.

Well I have to run. I have a whole lot of work to
do today. Hey tomorrow I am going to see that movie
Rendition. I think you should check it out too if
you can. I heard it’s suppose to be good.

I will catch you tomorrow and have a great day.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

Hi,

Here is the current Bipolar Disorder news.

Make sure you take a look at the news. I really
work hard to put it together for you :).

To see the news visit:

http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarnews348

Also, write me some feedback by visiting my blog below.

Here are some of the headlines:

Patients with severe psychiatric illness at higher heart disease risk
DO> VERY interesting must read article

Unconventional cure
DO> Take a look at this.

Sinéad O’Connor on her new CD, “Theology,” her bipolar disorder …
DO> I wish they would cover more non celebrities in the news.

Woman doesn’t understand why she’s not allowed to raise newborn
DO> This isn’t fair.

Bipolar 1 Patients Sought for a New Study
DO> Take a look at this.

For these stories and more, please visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarnews348

==>> Get Help with ALL aspects of bipolar disorder<<== Check out all my resources, programs and information
for all aspects of bipolar disorder by visiting:

http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

Your Friend,

Dave