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Hi,
How’s it going?
Happy Sunday. It’s actually pretty early
for me. Before I take off, I wanted to
share an important lesson with you.
This particular time of the year, tends
to bring a lot of problems for people with
bipolar disorder.
With that said, today I wanted to send out an important
concept on how to predict the future with
bipolar disorder.
It might sound impossible but it’s really not.
Let me explain the secret.
Many times with bipolar disorder, everything comes
down to patterns.
For many people, there are certain periods of time
that are more difficult. People tend to have certain
things or events that trigger mania or depression.
People cycle during the same periods of time each
month, or year.
Bipolar episodes, many times, come at the same time
each year.
With this said after you start doing a bunch of
PEAs (post episode analyses), you start to be
able to predict the future.
For example, I feel strong that my mom will start to
go into a slight bipolar episode in November.
The only thing I am unsure of is how many days
it will last.
How do I know this? Or am I just being
“negative” about my mom?
I know this because this has happen for several
years in a row. If you have been on my list for a
while, you will remember each November/December
I am writing about my mom going into a bipolar
episode.
Two years ago it was a nightmare. Why? Well
I just didn’t know a lot of things. Then I did
a PEA and figured out what went wrong. I fixed
up the system to solve most of the problems. But
then, last year she went into a slight episode.
The system however caught it way in advance
from the previous year’s “learnings.”
This year I feel that it will be caught way ahead
of time and there will not be much damage from
the bipolar episode.
However, if you have my materials on bipolar
disorder, you know I am a HUGE believer in
backup plans and I even have an entire
concept called how to avoid the dooms day
scenario which has a super system of
preventing episodes after big
episodes.
For more information on that visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolardoomsday/
This past September I warned my dad that my mom
would have trouble sleeping probably in
October.
He looked at me like I was crazy. How did
I know that? Well I had a feeling and
also, my mom generally has problems sleeping
in October.
It confuses me really why my dad forgets
anything that happens the year before.
My aunt on the other hand, who is one of
my mom’s bipolar supporters always remembers.
Anyway, I found out my mom had problems sleeping
in the first part of October but took the proactive
stance and called the doctor and her treatment
plan was adjusted. And she is working with
her therapist on sleeping better. Both her
therapist and doctor are in concert with
her treatment plan and address the problem
BEFORE it turns into a big bipolar episode.
I call this preemption strike or “preemption.”
Most people who are dealing with bipolar
disorder never try to predict the future, plan,
or engage in preemption. They just hope for the
best of “keep their fingers crossed.” This is kind
of how our family did it for so many years.
“Keeping your fingers crossed” and “hoping
everything will just work out fine” don’t work.
In my course/systems, you’ll find a lot of other
techniques to help predict the future. Many times
you don’t know things that are coming and it’s someone
like me who has been down the road you are traveling
that can let you know.
If you haven’t done so, take a look at my
courses/systems as soon as you can:
SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11
SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com
HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net
Today as a good assignment for you, make a
list of what’s happen historically with either
you or your loved one’s bipolar disorder and
then try to anticipate what will happen in the future.
Then launch a preemptive strike against the
bipolar.
NOTE how it’s against the bipolar not your
loved one. Remember bipolar is the enemy
not your loved one.
Here’s something I just got from someone, I really
like testimonials because it makes me feel like I am
really helping:
“I highly recommend Dave’s emails and courses on
Bi-polar to help you and your families understand
the illness that bi-polar is and how different
it is for each different person that suffers with it.”
-Linda S.
See you on Monday!
Your Friend,
Dave
P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp
P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/
P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com
I sometimes know when my bipolor will kick in, it is now. And I see it is only going to get worse. I do have a lot of support from my family and friends.
Dear David,
I’ve been reading your stuff about Bi-Polar for awhile now and you bring up alot of things that are so true. I’m at present having my pregnant daughter sent to prison for auto theft. The reason I’m having her sent to prison is to try and get some form of help for her. She’s 5 months pregnant and has not yet seen an OB/GYN. She’s strung out on crack cocaine and she’s going through a tough time because her fiance of 4 years has broken up with her and of course her world and her heart are shattered. It really is a long story but I truly believe she is manic depressed and/or Bi-Polar. I just wanted to tell you this so people would know how heartbreaking this type of mental problem really is. Thanks for listening.
A Mom in Florida
Help! I guess I was the one in denial. My b/f is undiagnosed but I believe he is bipolar. It’s been a rought 11 months of dating. The summer was really hard but the last two months were great. He’s not talked to me for the last week and a half and I know that its because he is in a ‘cycle’. He doesnt think he has any problems. I thought that since he’s been so good the last couple of months, maybe he wasn’t bipolar. I just dont know what to do, I saw this one coming but don’t know how to help him. A doctor once told him that he was bipolar and he went crazy on her.
David:
I just wanted to say thanks and please don’t ever take me off your email list! I have B.D. (notice I don’t say I am) because I control this, this doesn’t control me. Right now I am unable to buy your course, but your daily e-mails help so much, they me remind daily that I have this condition and that I have to watch it! In fact your emails sometimes remind me to take my medications!(You’d think I’d remember by now, but my short term memory seems shot ever since I have had Bipolar disorder.) So in closing–just thanks for all you did for your mom and how it carried out to the rest of us!!!
Teri
By the way, if I start not sleeping, I know I need to start exercising more, I may need to talk to my doctor about increasing the amount of my sleeping medication. Because SLEEPING is super,super important to those who have B.D. If you don’t get it you are definitely setting yourself up for a manic episode. And yes, sometimes those manic episodes can feel good, we get so much done! But they are not healthy! It’s almost like being on a drug.But when we come down we usually crash into a depression and that doesn’t feel good–thats when we lose jobs, drop out of school, or worse things. So Sleep is so Important! And a lack of it is a definite prelude to an episode!! Take it seriously!!! Teri
Dave, I like your idea of “preemptive” actions. I always do a PEA to see what proceeded an episode and how I could avoid it in the future. I have been hospitalized twice in the summer, and once in the fall. This really isn’t indicative of a particular season when I go manic, but at least it’s not in the spring or winter…
I find myself being more excitable and less sleepy in the fall; perhaps it’s just because of the high energy that surrounds me. I know most of my episodes are “triggered” by stressful events EXTERNALLY that are around me. BUT – I LOVE Halloween, and the falling leaves, and the cooler temperatures, and maybe all that precipitates a hypomania.
When this occurs, I TRY to avoid the usual “triggers:” less sleep, more activity, etc. At this point in my life, I really DON’T know how to anticipate a manic episode. I’m functioning pretty well, now, but cannot tell if the “good feelings” I have now are hypomania. The problem is – if I’m hypomanic for too long, it turns into a manic episode, at which time I go euphoric and spiritual, and CANNOT prevent a hospitalization, primarily because at this time, BAD things normally happen, and I can’t stop the progression.
I AM lucky that I have the staff at the Community Mental Health Clinic that monitors my moods through regulating meds and talk therapy. As hard as I try – on my own – I can’t PREDICT a hypomania/manic episode. BUT – looking back, I CAN see the precipitating factors, at which time, it’s too late…
I just don’t have the capability of knowing ALL the factors that will cause the hypomania; I’m not a clairvoyant. But – I am doing all I can to PREVENT one from ever happening again.
David, Yes Yes Yes, You are so right. I am trying to keep an episode happening, as I wrote to you recently. Excellent, that sounds like something that should be part of what a bipolar person does, besides keep track of their moods. Keep up the great thinking and thought processes. When you are stable, and get enough sleep, all of this makes sense. Thanks again for the idea.
Ann
Dear Dave. I am just in the piliminary stage fo diagnosing my wife with bipolar. As I was talking to the Dr about her behavior she began to describe the simptoms of bipolar. As I listened to her I found that I could finish her sentences on what I was experincing what battleing her behavior. Thank you for helping me not feel so alone with the “Crazy ” feelings and the frustrations of trying to deal with her and make since of what is going on.
Marshall
Dear David Thank you for all the emails on bipolar. My husband was bi polar, my oldest daughter is bipolar and is on a manic high and my youngest daughter has tried 3 times this year to take her life but God spared her as he has a plan for her. She just got diagnosed as depression, anxiety with the right doctor this time.There still is so much stigma in society on mental diseases. thanks again. corinne
For as long as I can remember, I get into big trouble at Christmas.
All year round I go way overboard buying presents (too many presents for too many people, when I can’t afford it). Then I worry about my kids visiting. We’ve had a couple of really bad experience. Last year my younger son opened his presents and was very polite, and I was so excited that they were coming. But then my younger son went into his room, telling me that he was looking for something he may have written in high school that might tell him how he felt back them. He told me that I had caused him a lot of pain as a kid, and that his Dad and stepmother had never raised their voices at him (which I know isn’t true, and, while I knew I had a disease that made it difficult to live with me, I had also done many, many things for them and we had a lot of fun together, plus I was a single mother (Dad only saw them every other weekend). Well, my son said that, and I think I was already manic (or at least hypomanic), so I started screaming and cursing and told him to leave the house and never come back. Of course I tried right away to apologize and beg his forgiveness, but he wouldn’t talk to me. Then depression hit full force; I even overdosed. For the past few months my son and I have been back in touch, and I was so happy. I’ll be prepared for Christmas this year; I know it’s a time when emotions are flying all over the place. I can’t control what anyone else says or does, but I can control how I act. I will not swear, say mean things, or scream.
My boy friend has bipolar and I am just learning about this diorder. All Dave’s info has been a tremendous help to me. It has given me a better understaning of this diorderand ways that I can help me boyfriend. My boyfriend has shared with me that the months of Oct thur Dec are rough months for him. He feels more depressed because of the Holiday season. I would like some input on watsto come up with a preemptive action plan to help him through this rough time.
I really appreciated the e-mail about planning for episodes. I have been “tracking” my husbands episodes for over 3 years now and it’s pretty consistently the same, an event, a holiday, a birthday, or anything overly “stimulating” good or bad can trigger an episode.
I have been considering the idea of a plan and since I am a planner by profession, I find it appauling that I haven’t been able to do this sooner.
Can you send an example of one of your plans – I’m dreading December because of all the holiday action – it should be fun, but it usually sucks because my husband is going to freak and I know it. But – I don’t know how to approach him because of course I get the standard denials…
I just need a kick-start on how to approach having a plan so that we can enjoy the season that’s designed to be loving family time and not screaming and bitching all the way to grandmothers house we go.
Thanks for what you do David, you have helped me immensely!!! The world needs you.