Bipolar Supporter Blog

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Hi,

How’s it going?

Thanks for all the emails from everyone
happy that I was okay from my almost
car crash last night.

I have to go to New York City today
for a meeting that will last all
day.

A bunch of people wrote how
they felt that thinking about
something bad happen was negative.

It is negative but what is more
negative is NOT planning and
then a total night mare happening.

I have to make this really quick
because it’s a long drive there
and there will probably be traffic.

Before I left, I wanted to point out
a post on my blog which is a good
idea for everyone to follow:

candismalli said…

I was in an accident a year and a half ago
that I had to be taken to a major hospital
by helicopter. I am bipolar, and my girls are
also.

When we were being initially treated by
E.M.T.s I was frantic to have someone write
down their meds, and doses. (One of my daughters
went toxic on lithium because of a mistake before
this).

They wanted me to calm down, and knew my
hubbie was on his way, and said they would get
that from him, they were more worried about me,
the girls were just bruised. I freaked because
I knew that only I knew the info, and he wouldn’t
even know where to start. I got someone to write
it down finally, but started to go into shock,
and had a hard time remembering my own meds.

I now have binders, one for each of us with
phone #’s, med names, doses, even ones previously
taken and didn’t work, or bad reaction. Recent
bloodwork, dr notes, diagnoses, allergies,
physicals, etc. I take it with me for dr visits,
and it makes my life easier, and gives me piece
of mind for in case of emergency.
=================

This is a great suggestion. You should do
this. It was so well said, that I simply
wanted to share the post.

In my courses/systems below:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

I have many interviews with people that
point out how much of a disaster it
is when you don’t have all this info
in one place and medical people have
to guess in an emergency.

Don’t let it happen to you. TAKE ACTION
TODAY! Get all this stuff together.
It won’t take you that much time. But
do it today. Don’t put it off otherwise
you’ll be sorry later.

Hey, I just looked at the clock, I have
to go.

Have a great day and I will catch you tomorrow.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Want your own copy of these daily bipolar
emails sent to you for F.ree? If so, visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/register3

P.P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

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Hi,

How’s it going?

I hope you are doing well.

Sadly, there’s a chance that you
might not have gotten my message today.

Why? Well last night I almost got
into a huge car accident late last
night.

I have an important lesson about
bipolar disorder to tell you about
in reference to what happen to me.

If you will remember, yesterday,
I sent you a daily email and indicated
that it was snowing.

Well it stopped last night. I was
over my friend’s house but it started
kind of again and then stopped.

I don’t really understand what happen
but basically the roads were super wet
and then they started to freeze.

I think the people that put salt (which
is used to break up the ice), on the
road got a late start.

As I was driving home, I saw horror.

There was one guy that drove down into
someone’s front yard about 30 feet. His
car was turned over.

Then on the highway, when I looked at
the other side of traffic, there was
accident after accident. People were
smashed through guard rails.

I was really confused because you could
NOT see anything on the road.

BIPOLAR LESSON COMING HANG ON

I think the people on my side of the
highway were thinking what I was thinking
which was, “Why is everyone crashing, what’s
going on, I better go slower.”

But then stupid people started driving really
fast behind me almost forcing you to go
faster. I was starting to get nervous.

Then, I started see big accidents on the road. I
saw a car and truck had a head on collision
some how.

Then I saw a bunch of cars that were all
stopped because they were in a massive
accident.

Then I was driving over a bridge and I started
to swerve.

Then it happen.

I was driving along and bang.

The back of my car started to go in front
of my car. It’s hard to explain but basically
my back, was going forward and I was pointed
backwards.

Then I turned the wheel and then the back started
to go back to the back but I went from the far right
lane into the far left lane and then to the middle.

I had no control of the car really. Then there
were cars in front of me that I could see
were doing the same. We all must have hit
some kind of black ice.

It’s really odd, I thought for sure I would
get into a huge accident. This is
seriously what I was thinking:

I wonder what will happen if I don’t send
my bipolar daily email?

I hope Andrea and Pascale can handle everything
if I get into a major accident and I am in the
hospital.

I wonder if I have all the right paper work in
place for them

“Oh, Darn, I forgot to sign that one form for
them if something happens to me.”

I know that might sound weird but basically
all my other companies can run without me
except this one because it’s newer and grows
really fast.

I have been working hard to make this happen
but kind of putting off some stuff.

Well anyway, after almost going off into a
guard rail which was over a cliff off of
Route 80 Eastbound, I finally was able
to stabilize the car.

I thought about pulling over and sleeping
on the side of the road but I heard rumors
how people get murdered when that happens.

So then I just got in the far left lane and
drove super slow, slow enough that if I crashed
I hopefully wouldn’t get killed.

It was really scary.

So I came home and immediately emailed
this consultant that helps with what’s called
business transition and business succession.

He helps people get a business together so
if the owner is hurt or dies. I emailed him
this story and said that I want to get
his consulting immediately 🙂

I have been putting it off because well
I just have been. But it’s important.

What the heck does this have to do with
bipolar disorder?

Well, with bipolar you have to plan for
the worst and hope for the best.

If you have bipolar disorder

Who will pay my bills if I go into an episode

Where is a list of my bills and c.redit cards
(with my mom, it took days to figure all this
out working 15 hours a day)

If I have bipolar disorder and run a business,
who will take over, how will it be done if I go
into an episode. Do you know how many people
that I know that have bipolar disorder, had a
big great business and lost it from an episode?
A ton. I don’t have any info but you should
start researching if this is you.

If you are a bipolar supporter

If you loved one is in your business or
has to make decisions for you, what’s
your plan if he/she goes into an episode?
You need one.

NOTE
The person with bipolar should have a release
signed for the supporter to talk to the therapist,
doctor, etc.

Also, if you have bipolar disorder, and this is
going to amaze you, you should have a release
so your therapist AND bipolar doctor can talk
to your non bipolar doctors (your primary care
physician for example)

There’s a lot of stuff to think about. It’s
rather negative but it has to be done.

In my courses/systems below:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

I cover a ton of the forms you have to have
filled out and signed so that it’s easy in
case a bipolar episode strikes.

I know many people with my courses/systems
skip this part. They tell me, “oh yea, I will
get to that later on.” A year goes by and
they never do. I URGE you to do it right away.

One major bipolar episode, like one major
car accident, can destroy a whole lot of stuff
that took years to develop. Don’t let it happen
to you.

I am immediately going to be working on this
based on what almost happen to me last night.

Hey, I have to run, catch you later.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Want your own copy of these daily bipolar
emails sent to you for F.ree? If so, visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/register3

P.P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

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Hi,

How’s it going?

I hope you are doing well.

I am really excited about a whole
bunch of projects we have going on.

I also wanted to let you know that I am
still working on setting up the webinar
and teleseminar software for the f.ree
teleseminar I will be holding answering
questions about bipolar disorder live.

NOTE

Non medical and NON legal questions because
I am NOT a doctor, therapist, or lawyer.

Yesterday was a great day. I had a fascinating
talk with Doctor Dan Lieberman, Director of the
Clinical Psychiatric Research Center.

He has a cool new automated software program
that he is going to be making available. I am
going to be promoting it and guess what?
It’s F.REE.

I was talking to him yesterday to setup
a time to interview so he can go into
great detail of the benefits of the program
he has. I will be making the interview
available f.ree to you as well.

The good news is, I don’t have to use
the webinar software that I have or
it might take forever. This will be all
wrapped up in about 2 weeks or so. I will
drop you an email to let you know the
website to go to get everything
f.ree.

So anyway, we were talking. Normally I
am really cautious when talking to doctors.
I normally let them do 99% of the talking
and I do 99% of the listening. It’s not
that I am scared of them or anything it’s
that generally I never hear anything that’s
exciting to me or even helpful.

I am a HUGE believer in doctors for treating
bipolar disorder. But I find that they
are experts in just medication. He was
a rare exception.

Well I got to talking to Dr. Lieberman and I
wanted to explain to him:

1. Who I was and why I do this (all this
bipolar stuff so to speak)

2. Why I sell some of my material and give
some of it away but not all of it.

3. Why I have so many people with bipolar disorder
that work for me

4. Why I think it will be really important
to do an interview with me so his software
and it’s benefits can be fully understood.

So to make a long story short in reference
to the above my answers were.

1. I do this to help people not to make
m.oney.

2. I sell some thing to support a massive
advertising budget that I have. In order
to build a huge list and also reach large
numbers of people, you have to spend a ton
of m.oney. Fortunately I know how to do
that without bankrupting the entire organization.
The reality is, the more I spend on advertising
the more people I reach. And nobody will give
me f.ree advertising. The odd thing is, even
if I was non profit would make a difference.

I have asked many a company if I was non profit
what would happen. All said, “same rates.” One
warned me that if I went non profit, many companies
would not take me seriously and might even require
that I pay m.oney in advance because non profits
have a track record of not having any m.oney.

Someone told me the other day, I should try for
grants. If anyone has ever done this, they would
know that grants are a nightmare to get. Also, people
with grants get dependant on them and wind up spending
more time getting grants then helping people. Then,
many times, grants dry up and the organization goes
out of business. I have seen that in so many places
that I volunteered at.

It’s sad but true. Also, if you have worked with
an organization that is “grant dependent”, you notice
how some years things are great and other years,
they are terrible. It’s all based on how much
m.oney they can get.

In today’s economic times, grants have been
cut big time.

I never wanted it to be this way and that’s
why I don’t spend time trying to get gra.nts.

3. I really feel that people with bipolar disorder
are super smart and creative and “doers” and “go
getters.” I love super smart, creative, doers and
go getters. I said to him how people with bipolar
disorder make my life much easier because they get
a lot done and fast because of their special gifts–
which are being super smart, creative, etc.

NOTE-I no longer will debate whether this is true.
I get other doctors that write me that say there is
no study that shows people with bipolar disorder
are any smarter, creative, etc. than anyone else.
I am telling you, in my opinion, they are. Period.
I am not open to debate on this subject :).

If you hired a bunch of people with bipolar disorder
that had a good treatment plan and followed a bipolar
stability equation concept, you would see your organization
explode. I am convinced of it. But again, I am not
going to get into that. To me, it’s an incredible thing
that I am work with the kind of people that I work with.
I am lucky. But I must say, I never knew this and figured
it out by accident.

ANOTHER NOTE-
Just the other day. We had a HUGE PROBLEM. Really big.
So big, I thought my mind was going to explode. I was
so annoyed. For some reason, I forgot who I had
working for me. So then I randomly called someone
who has bipolar disorder that works for me and
told him my plight. He said, “oh I can help
with that.” I was thinking, “oh, that’s right
I have super smart people that work for me,
I should let them figure it out.” So then I
gathered a group of people that work for me
and told them the problem.

They immediately began to work on a solution.
It’s only been a few days and the solution is
incredible. I figure this problem will be solved
in two weeks totally. Others have tried to solve
this problem and never succeeded. I know a massive
company that never figured out a solution after
many years.

I was amazed with what my people have come up
with.

Virtually everyone involved in the solution
has bipolar disorder.

One person is so smart she figured out
how to get out of multiple psychiatric
hospitals while not being stable
in her past life. Now she reformed,
follows a treatment plan, takes her
medication and does the right things.
She said, “fixing your problem, is much
easier than breaking out of a psychiatric
hospital when you are not stable.”

You should remember that if you have bipolar
disorder, you have special gifts or your
loved one does. Don’t forget that. Sometimes
we focus on the negative so much, we forget
the positive. There is positive if you look.

4. I was telling the Dr. that many times when something
is free and kind of posted somewhere, people don’t
really value it or take advantage. I told him how
I wanted to really get people excited to use the
software and why it’s so important and it’s
going to help them.

It will fit great with all the concepts and
strategies I teach in all my courses/systems
below:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

I am really excited about it all.

Then we got into his ideas on how
to manage bipolar disorder. He had some
amazing information. Then I started telling
him about my concepts. He didn’t think
that I was crazy so to speak.

I must say, he was one of the most well
rounded doctors I have ever spoken to
about bipolar disorder. It was truly amazing.

After we do an interview on his software,
I am going to ask him to do a live call
where he asks your questions on bipolar
disorder.

Okay, don’t tell him this if you know
him but, I want to do another call
with him where he answers questions
on bipolar disorder with our new
teleseminar and webinar system.

So with my plan, you would be able
to ask him questions.

I would cover all the costs and make
a recording of the webinar and call
f.ree to you as well.

Don’t tell him that I am planning on
this. I haven’t asked him yet.
Keep it quiet for now. Hopefully he
will do it. If so, it will be great.

I am really excited to have spoken to the Doctor.

Actually I am running out of time, I have
to go to the gym right now. He said one
really important thing that got me really
excited.

I am going to reveal it tomorrow in the
daily email.

Hey, it’s starting to snow right now,
so I have to go.

I have to run now, catch you tomorrow and
have a great day.

PLEASE POST RESPONSES TO THIS EMAIL HERE

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Want your own copy of these daily bipolar
emails sent to you for F.ree? If so, visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/register3

P.P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

PLEASE FORWARD TO YOUR FRIENDS

Hi,

How’s it going?

Hope you are doing well.

I have a bunch of things to do today.

Very soon, we are going to be having
a f.ree teleseminar where I will
answer your questions on bipolar
live over the phone and internet.

I finally almost have this software
program I will need setup. You’d
think that I was building a space
shuttle 🙂

Anyway, here’s the bipolar news. Take a look.

Make sure you take a look at the news. It takes
a lot of time to put the news together so please
read it.

To see the news visit:

http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarnews364

There’s some really interesting news stories this week.
Take a look at them. Also, write me some feedback by
visiting my blog below.

Here are some of the headlines:

Depression: your questions answered
DO> Great article.

Lawyer Chronicles Struggle with Bipolar Disorder
DO> Very good story, great insight.

Adults over 60 Needed for Bipolar Disorder Study
DO> If you can do it, take a look.

Study provides bipolar clues
DO> What do you think of this study?

Bipolar disorder and ADHD in children
DO> Very interesting. What do you think?

Book Review: Manic: A Memoir by Terri Cheney
DO> Do you have this book?

For these stories and more, please visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarnews364

==>> Get Help with ALL aspects of bipolar disorder<<== Check out all my resources, programs and information
for all aspects of bipolar disorder by visiting:

http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

Your Friend,

Dave

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Hi,

I need to talk to you about something
that is really bothering me.

You know I get tons and tons of emails,
right? Well a lot of them are positive
ones, and they make me feel really good,
like ones that tell me how much these
emails help them, and others on how
much they have learned from my courses
and stuff like that.

Those are the emails I really like, and the
ones I’m used to, pretty much. But then
there are the emails I get that really get
me down. And I’m not a person who
likes to get down, or who gets down
easily.

But I got this email, and this woman
went on and on and on about her
problems. Now, don’t get me wrong –
it’s not that I don’t care about people’s
problems, because I wouldn’t be doing
what I’m doing if I didn’t care. You
know that, right?

But it’s just that I deal in solutions.
That’s what I write about and teach in
all my courses, how to find solutions:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

The solutions, right? Not dwelling
on the problems. Those who have
gotten my courses know that that is the
type of person I am. And so do you,
who are reading this email. I don’t
dwell in the negative – I dwell on the
positive, and I expect the people who
are around me to dwell on the positive
as well.

So I get really disappointed when they
don’t. Like this email I got the other
day where this woman just went on and
on complaining, but didn’t offer any kind
of solution to the problems she was having.

To tell you the truth, after reading that
email, I felt like I should have charged her
a consultant’s fee, like a psychiatrist would
do, just for reading (“listening to”) all her
complaints!

Now again, I don’t want hate mail for this,
or people saying I don’t care, when you
know how much I do care.

The point is, after all this positive email I
had read, this one negative email had the
power to bring me down. Why?

So I thought about it. And I talked to
Michele about it. And she told me about
this equation she used when she was
bringing up her kids:

THE 10/2 EQUATION:

Regarding negative people – If you are
a 10 and they are a 2, and you hang
around with them, you will not bring
them up to an 8, they will bring you
down to a 4.
————————————–

She used this in teaching her
children how to choose their friends
wisely. But really, can’t you see
how it can be used in dealing with
bipolar disorder as well?

Here, follow me with this, as I apply
it to the email I got. I can either
surround myself with positive people
or negative people.

Regarding the email I got, I am the 10
and she is the 2. I could try to answer
her with positive answers, and try to
bring her up to an 8, but considering
how negative her email was, most
likely that won’t work, and she will
just succeed in bringing me down to
a 4 instead.

See what she’s done already? I’m
already bummed out about it, feeling
negative, letting it upset my day to
the point that I’m writing about it on
my blog and sharing it with you.

OR…….

I can choose to stay a 10 on the
positivity scale in the 10/2 Equation.
I can let that email go. I can surround
myself with positive people. I can
stay positive and NOT let negative
people bring me down.

These are choices I can make.

People like the lady in the email are
going to be negative no matter what.
They will try to get other people to
listen to them complain, but they are
not solution-oriented. They just want
someone to buy into their negativity.

But we don’t have to do that. We are
TENS! We have a choice! We don’t
have to be brought down to 4’s if
we don’t want to! We can surround
ourselves with positive people!

Speaking of that, I’m going to the
gym and surround myself with positive
people who are taking care of their
bodies!

I’ll talk to you tomorrow!

Your friend,

Dave

P.P.S. Want your own copy of these daily bipolar
emails sent to you for F.ree? If so, visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/register3

P.P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

Hi,

I have some new FREE podcasts setup for Bipolar
Supporters:

http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

Dave

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Hi,

How’s it going?

I really have to make this short today because
I have a million things to do.

I was reading over my blog over the last
few days and I saw someone who wrote:

“My son was diagnosed as being bi-polar
two years ago. The doctor, a psychiatrist,
put him on medication. Finally, I got the
doctor to change his medication. I could
see a difference in him almost immediately!!!!
That was over six months ago! He still has a
little rage inside, but his “episodes of anger”
don’t last as long.”

When I was reading this, I was excited for
this person’s success.

A few thoughts came to mind.

First, I don’t think most people realize
how just small medications in a treatment
plan can make a big impact.

With my mom, just a small change, once
made all the difference in her moods.

Secondly, I don’t think bipolar supporters
realize that someone times the doctor
may be wrong or thinking that your loved
one is doing better than they are.

This happens because maybe your loved one
doesn’t tell the whole truth nothing but
the truth when asked, “how are you doing?”

Also, with the fact that most times, doctors
don’t see what is really going on with your
loved one.

It’s not their fault it’s just “the deal.”

Anyway, it’s the bipolar supporter’s job
to help the doctor treat a loved one in
the best possible way.

Even though my mom has a great doctor,
there have been two occasions in the last
3 years that I had to step in and persuade
my mom’s doctor that treatment had to be
changed.

In my courses/systems I have lots of
worksheets and checklists about
helping yourself with bipolar disorder
or helping a loved one when you are
trying to explain to a doctor that
the treatment plan may be off.

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

I made these worksheets and checklists
to be used as a tool to help yourself
or communicate information accurately
to a doctor or therapist.

If you feel that your loved one’s medication
is not right, you can:

-Fill out the worksheets

-Bring them to the doctor

-Point out what you are seeing including
days of the week and time

-Explain why you think there
should be a change.

Build your case that is persuasive
so the doctor listens. In my courses/systems,
I talk about how to do this at length.

It’s hard to explain it all in a simple
email but here are some general guidelines.

WARNING!!!!

Do NOT bring print offs from the internet
and plant them on a doctors desk or
fax them to him/her.

This is super annoying for the doctor and
winds up making them mad at you.

I hear these stories of people going to
websites and printing 30 pages off and
then circling certain spots and then
throwing it at the doctor and saying,
“look at that!”

That’s a good way to make a doctor
mad.

Also, do NOT expect results too fast AND
don’t expect your loved one to have perfect
moods. NOBODY does. Meaning, if someone
cuts your loved one off driving, he/she
will probably be mad, medication doesn’t
fix that. If that were the case, EVERYONE
in New York and New Jersey would be on medication
because everyone is mad about “stuff”
once a day in the northeast 🙂

So be reasonable.

I have to run, catch you tomorrow.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Want your own copy of these daily bipolar
emails sent to you for F.ree? If so, visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/register3

P.P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

Hi,

If you need money for expenses related to bipolar disorder,
I have a new resource.

If you are interested visit:

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Thanks.

Dave

=>PLEASE FORWARD TO FRIENDS, FAMILY AND LOVED ONES <=
Hi,

Hey, how’s it going?

Hope you are doing really well.

I am really, really, really, really
tired 🙂 I have been working on a
whole bunch of things.

I must say, I am very happy with
the progress that I have made recruiting
very important people and companies to
help grow this organization for bipolar
disorder.

I have contracted with a number of new
companies, hired a bunch of people, many
of which have bipolar disorder and taken
on some volunteers. I actually am going
to be sending a message out looking for
new volunteers very soon. I’ll
keep you posted.

So, today I wanted to talk about
something that I see bipolar supporters
doing wrong a lot.

I call it, setting yourself up for
the permanent caretaker.

NOTE-This is in reference to if
you are helping an ADULT with
bipolar disorder NOT a child or teen.
That’s a different situation.

If you find yourself having to
do a whole bunch of things to
live with, work with, support
a loved one with bipolar disorder,
there’s something wrong with his/her
treatment plan (in my opinion) or
there are many variables “off” in
the person’s bipolar stability equation.

NOTE-I am NOT a doctor, lawyer,
therapist or other kind of professional.
I am NOT offering medical, legal or financial
advice.

Okay, so what do I mean by “things.” What
are things you might be asking. Here are some
of them:

-Having to walk on eggshells

-Not being able to go in entire parts of
your house, apartment or resident because
if you do, your loved one will explode

-Having to constantly watch what you say

-Constantly being worried and not knowing
if you’re loved one will be angry, happy
or something else.

-Having to follow your loved one around
checking to make sure the person went to
the doctor, therapy, took their medications,
etc.

-Handling all their important communications
with others.

If this is you, these are all signs that your
loved one isn’t doing well and the treatment plan is
wrong probably. You need to inform the
doctor and therapist about this right
away.

I notice that people in this situation wind
up becoming a caretaker instead of a supporter.

In my mind, a caretaker is what someone who
is really old has or what someone with Alzheimer’s
has. It’s a person that “handles” everything
for them forever to the end of time.

My Grandfather had Alzheimer’s and he had
first my Grandmother as his caretaker and
then he was put into a home. He was not
expected to do stuff on his own.

See the difference between caretaker
and supporter?

Notice that with my material, I don’t refer
to people as bipolar caretakers. Imagine
that?

You are a bipolar supporter if you
are helping a loved one with bipolar
disorder. NOT a permanent caretaker.

You have to make sure that whatever you
are doing it:

-is not going to require you do it forever
(for example, you can watch someone take
his/her medication for a few weeks or months
but not forever)

-the person will become responsible for him/herself
and not have you being responsible for all
their actions

-your plan or strategy to help your loved
one feels like it’s driving you into an early
grave as it goes on years and years into
the future.

In my courses/systems below:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

I talk about strategies that are geared
towards helping a loved one with
bipolar become independent OR how
to become independent if you have
bipolar disorder.

I think many people forget to tell
people that bipolar disorder is NOT
an illness where someone should be
taken care of for the rest of their
lives.

If you find yourself in this situation,
I believe you need to work with a doctor
to get the treatment plan correct AND
also look at your bipolar stability
equation.

If you have bipolar disorder:
Are you moving towards being independent,
responsible for yourself or do you have
caretakers?

If you are a bipolar supporter, are
you becoming a caretaker or supporter?

Ask yourself these tough questions.

With that said, I have to run. I’ll
catch you tomorrow.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Want your own copy of these daily bipolar
emails sent to you for F.ree? If so, visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/register3

P.P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

=>PLEASE FORWARD TO FRIENDS, FAMILY AND LOVED ONES <=
Hi,

How’s it going?

Hope you are doing well.

Hey, it’s snowing here today. I didn’t
even know it was suppose to snow today.
But I like the snow. It was much better
back when I could have “snow days” and
get a day off from school. Now, my
boss is so demanding I don’t get days
off (I am my own boss 🙂

Anyway, I wanted to write a quick note
on something that I thought of–the
bipolar disorder lesson from the Giants
football team.

Last night was the Super Bowl. The Super
Bowl is when two football teams play
each other for the championship at
the end of the year.

Football is the sport where there is a
ball that people throw around. If you
are from another country, just
run a search in google to find out.

Why am I explaining this? Well I have
had over 175,000 people sign up for
my list and there are lots of international
people that might not know.

Anyway, here’s the deal. The New England
Patriots were undefeated the entire season.
The expected to win and win big against
The Giants. ALL experts predicted this.

The experts said New England was the greatest
team EVER and that there was NO chance
the Giants could win.

Well guess what? The Giants did win.

What’s the bipolar lesson? It’s that
sometimes you have to take what experts
in the mental health field say with
a grain of salt–or ignore it. Especially
when it comes to who can become successful
or get bipolar disorder under control.

If you are a bipolar supporter, you will
be faced with a steady stream of negatively
probably. Many from those in the mental
health field. You may hear:

-your loved one won’t get better

-your loved one is a mess

-your loved one can’t ever do this
that and the other thing and won’t be normal

-you’re loved one will keep being out of control
forever

-there’s little hope

How do I know? Experts told me this about my
mom. Not only did experts tell me this, my own
family doubted there was hope for my mom.

BUT many times, these experts are wrong.

If you have bipolar disorder, you’ll hear
a lot of negative stuff as well:

-you’ll never be stable

-you’ll never be able to beat bipolar disorder or
control it

-you’ll never be able to start that business you
want to start

-you’ll never find the right combinations of medications

etc.

Even though many times this is totally not true.

You can’t let negative experts bring you down.
Now you should welcome realistic thinking like:
“bipolar is a serious condition and requires
a serious treatment plan that may take an extended
period of time to get just right” but not the
kind of statements that suggest success can
never be reached.

If I look at everyone that works for me with
bipolar disorder, ALL were told they were hopeless
and that they basically could not control bipolar.

It was suggested that Michele Soloway that works for
me be permanently put in an institution for the rest
of her life. “They” said there was no hope for her.
Well, she now works for me and is one of the most
incredible people I have ever worked with. What she
gets done is amazing. Not to mention
all the other people who work for me with bipolar
disorder.

Actually I was just thinking of something. Over
the years, my mom racked up massive d.ebt through
her episodes to the tune of over $30,000. That’s
a ton.

I was told by experts in the mental health field
that there was NO way she could pay it all off. It
was impossible I was told. Guess what? I put together
a system and this month, she made her last payment.
She paid it ALL off herself. ALL.

If I could figure out how to use my scanner, I would
scan all the sheets I have over the years showing
how she incrementally paid it off slowly but surely.

In my courses/systems:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

Virtually every success story that I have
as an interview reveals the odd were
against them and they were told success
was unlikely. I include these success interviews
in my material to first, let the people reveal
the real life strategies they use and secondly,
give you inspiration that you can do it as well.

If the people who are my success stories can
do it, why can’t you? Well you can.

Now the Giants did what I did. The believed in
themselves. They had a plan and strategy and
the executed it well.

That’s what you need to do with bipolar
disorder. Believe. Have a plan and strategy.
Execute like you have never executed a plan
or strategy before.

I have to run. Catch you tomorrow.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Want your own copy of these daily bipolar
emails sent to you for F.ree? If so, visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/register3

P.P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com