Bipolar Supporter Blog

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Hi,

How’s it going?

Hey, I have a whole lot of good
news going on.

First, I have a new company that
is going to be managing a lot of my
advertising to try to control the costs
that are getting way, out of control.

Secondly, we have a new mentorship
program when if you start working for
me and have bipolar disorder, I will
pair you with a person who currently
works for me and have been successful
for a while. This way new people with
bipolar working and be mentored by older
people who have bipolar.

The goal is to get the newer up to the
level the older person is. We feel in
the organization that doctors and therapists
are great but a person who has bipolar and
is successfully working can help a new person
looking to achieve that goal.

Anyway, the program started yesterday.

So today I wanted quickly to tell you
something.

Yesterday I wrote a message about how
I have a friend that told me that
his brother had bipolar disorder and
now it seems my friend actually has
the disorder and that’s why he has
not been doing well for years.

I was writing how my friend was driving
me crazy last night with all this fast
talk and talk of people out to get
him.

Last night my friend called and was totally
calm and made perfect sense. It was rather
interesting.

This tends to happen. My friend is able to
talk normal to me many times but who knows
what he is like when I am not on the phone.

My friend knows that I know bipolar and
let’s face it, is probably trying to
manipulate me by acting really calm
so that I don’t catch on to his situation
of whether or not he has bipolar disorder.

To see the entire message what happen
the other day, and the numerous
bipolar lessons learned, see my blog below.

Anyway, people wrote me that they were sorry
and I appreciate that.

Then a bunch of people wrote me to be careful
not to get caught up in my friend’s bipolar
episodes if he has bipolar disorder.

Believe me, I sure won’t.

Here’s what I wanted to tell you. I thought
about this and there is no way that I can
spend a lot of time like I put into my mom
to help my friend. My friend is in total
denial with whatever he has and so is his
family. It would be a gigantic up hill
battle for me to do all that needs to be done
and right now I don’t have the energy or time.

Some might find this mean. There’s no question
if my friend asks me for specific help I would
help. If his family contacts me, I would let them
have access to all my material.

But as for me handing it all and doing it
all, I am not going to.

Why? Am I a mean guy? No. I just know my
limits and that’s something that many
bipolar supporters have trouble with.

Let’s talk about it.

You might think that I don’t know my
limits because it looks like I do a whole
lot of work every day related to bipolar
disorder. And I do for sure. Why? Well
I really like doing this kind of stuff.

But, I say no a whole lot every day.
There are MANY things that I don’t do
and won’t do.

When you are a bipolar supporter, you’re
going to have to say no and prioritize.

At first if you have a close friend or loved
one with bipolar disorder, you have to decide
if you are doing to help the person.

Once you do, you then have to get all the
information on what to do. You need how to
do it and strategy information.

You can get it from people like myself
in my courses/systems below:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

OR, you can figure it out on your own
by calling doctors, therapists, finding
successful bipolar supporters, reading lots
of books, attending support groups and lectures
and then put together your own system.

With that said, you need a strategy however
you’re going to get one.

Then after that, you have to really focus on
your loved one and getting them into treatment,
a good doctor, helping get them on the right medication
with your doctor, and ultimately helping them
become stable.

Then after that, you have to start to clean up
the mess from the bipolar episode.

Then as you are doing this, as the person becomes
more and more stable, you turn over more responsibility
to them. You can’t expect someone in a major bipolar
episode to pay their bills, keep track of everything
that’s going on, fight off c.reditors if they exist,
etc.

But as time goes on, more and more responsibility
is turned back over to them.

Now as this is occurring you are going to have
to say no to a lot of stuff that you might not
say no to. Why? Well helping your loved one is
higher on the priority list and the other stuff
is lower on the priority list.

And you have to remember if you don’t say no
to other stuff you normally do, you will start
to burn out and almost have a breakdown.

You can only do so much at a time. When I was
helping my mom, I had to take a year off from work.
Now I could because I have my own business. I also
had to say no to hanging out with my girlfriend at
the time a lot and my friends. I had to skip
vacations and other things.

But as my mom got better, I then started doing
these things again. But I knew that I could put
all this effort into her and do all the same
things at the same time.

Now when it comes to my friend, I don’t have the
energy or time to be able to do all that needs
to be done especially with someone who is in total
denial he has anything to begin with. And, I now
run an organization where a whole lot of people
count on me so I have to be at my best and
can’t let the organization get dragged down.

There’s an old saying, “you can’t fight too many
battles at the same time.”

With that said, this is why I made this type of decision.

Some people may think this is rather mean than
me. This doesn’t mean that I would call emergency
services if my friend was going to harm himself
or something like that.

The bipolar supporter lesson is to make sure you set
your priorities, don’t take on too much, and make sure
when your loved one starts to get better, you turn
over the responsibilities back to them.

Some people make the mistake and don’t do the last step
and almost become a permanent caretaker for
someone with bipolar disorder.

Even with my mom, I refuse to fix all her problems
and enable her. She has to fix her own problems
these days and handle them. I have never felt
better since I started this new policy several
years ago. Back in the day, I fixed EVERYTHING.
EVERY problem went to me. It burned me out.
I won’t do that again.

Anyway, what do you think of this? I
have to run. Catch you tomorrow.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Want your own copy of these daily bipolar
emails sent to you for F.ree? If so, visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/register3

P.P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

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Hi,

How’s it going?

I hope you are doing really well
and have a great day.

I have a super important strategy
for those who are bipolar supporters.

Read on for the story.

Yesterday I thought my mind was
going to explode.

I have a friend, who contacted
me yesterday who has a brother
who has bipolar disorder*.

His brother has had so many
problems with bipolar over the
years it’s sad. Drugs, alcohol,
sleeping around, getting married,
getting divorced, etc.

So I was talking to my friend
and first he started saying how
his brother has not been on medication
for a few months and is doing okay.

I was like, “that will NOT last
period. He will wind up going into
a bipolar episode, I guarantee
it. I reminded how many times
we have been that the ‘my brother
isn’t on medication road and is
doing great.'”

He started arguing with me. My friend
was really on edge and talking
kind of fast.

So then I changed subjects to
talk about my friend.

I said, “so how’s it going?”

He said, he was just back to
work after not being there for
weeks.

I was like, “what happen?”

Then he said a long story
about how he was sick and was
being attacked by a whole bunch
of people who were out to destroy
him.

He went on and on and talked about
this global almost conspiracy.

I kept saying, “huh? that doesn’t make
sense?” I would ask questions and
my friend would just talk way louder
and not making any sense. According
to him “these people” tried to destroy
him and that made him sick and depressed.

I was soooooooooo confused. But at this
point my mind felt like it was starting
to explode.

Yesterday I dealt with so many different
things including taxes, international stuff,
shipping issues, customer service training,
hiring people, on and on and on.

So then I told my friend to just get another
job and stay away from “THEM.” I didn’t
even understand who “THEY” were anyway
but I was like, “what the heck, just stay
away and get another job. Problem solved.”

My friend then started yelling at me
for nothing really and then kind of yelling
about this huge group that was out to get
him.

So then I changed the subject but he would
not change the subject. Finally I figured
if we started talking about his brother
he would change.

So then he said, “yea, he’s not taking
medication and doing great. There’s no
such thing as bipolar disorder.”

====>>>>>>IMPORTANT NOTICE<===========
There is such thing as bipolar disorder.
I am NOT a doctor, therapist, lawyer and
not offering any medication or legal advice.

I was like “holy, cow, wow my head is
really starting to hurt.”

For 5 minutes I heard how there is no
such thing as mental illness or bipolar
disorder. It’s because “some humans
are wronged so much by others that
it causes them to have a breakdown.
Mental illness is the result of society
destroying people.”

I was like, “NO! Mental illness is real
and to stay it’s not is a lie and also
minimizes something that’s really serious.”

My friend went on and on and on and on.

Finally my friend said that medication is
not the solution and it’s about “affirmations”
and “going to a place where there are good
people.”

IMPORTANT NOTICE
I know you guys hate when I keep saying
the same thing but I just want it to be
clear and someone doesn’t read this
and think it’s medical advice.

I am NOT a doctor, therapist, lawyer and
not offering any medication or legal advice.

At this point, I seriously thought I was
going in insane.

I changed the subject but my friend
then said, how he “doesn’t even
take his medication any more.”

I was like, “huh????”

What medication, “the medication that
the doctor gave me.”

My friend then explained how he simply
says he takes it and has some kind of
scheme that makes it seem like he is
taking it.

My friend says the medication was
for depression and anxiety.

I listened and then I thought of
something.

Look at this:

-My friend has had so many relationships
that don’t last it’s amazing. Tons.

-My friend has lost virtually all his
friends.

-My friend has gotten into many fights
with his friends.

-My friend has told me about multiple
conspiracies against him. Some so strange
that I was amazed.

-My friend has been talking really, really
fast for weeks.

-My friend sometimes says stuff that doesn’t
make any sense at all.

-My friend is super smart and creative.

-My friend’s family has a history of
addictions and my friend has had addition
problems

-My friend has made numerous threats against
people and gotten in trouble.

-My friend projects his own behavior onto
others. Meaning, he says people are attacking
him when he is the one that is attacking them.

So I ask my friend, what do they say that
you have?

Guess what he said to me. Scroll down for
the answer….

GUESS. And then scroll….

B I P O L A R D I S O R D E R 2

I was totally shocked. My friend said
it wasn’t true. He didn’t have a mental
illness and it was “society that wronged
him.”

He then said some nonsense about how
society wrongs people and that the kind
people suffer at the hands of a small
group of evil people. The evil people
medicate the kind people.

I made NO SENSE AT ALL.

My head hurt so much that I thought
my mind was going to explode.

My friend then went on a tirade.

In my head, I decided that my troops
or my bipolar supporter army was not
equipped to fight this battle and we
had to retreat.

I couldn’t take it anymore. I said,
“Hey, what time is it?” My friend said “almost
9:00pm.” I said, “Geeze, I have to call my
mom before she goes to sleep, I have to go.”
I hung up.

I sat in my chair amazed. It all came together
why my friend’s life is a nightmare. It appears
that he has bipolar and has been in total
denial for years. It all made sense now.

It was the strangest thing that his brother
has bipolar disorder and wasn’t doing all
that well but then admitted it. But my friend
doesn’t admit it and projects his own
behavior onto others.

His life is falling apart and he doesn’t
even know it. It’s really sad.

In my courses/systems below I talk about
how to get a loved one into treatment
if he/she doesn’t want to go.

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

All the
ways I have come up with. And if you have
bipolar disorder and you don’t feel good
about bipolar disorder, I talk about
all the benefits of going into treatment
and so do all the success stories I have
in my course. If you feel bad about your
bipolar disorder get my information.

The one technique that I used was the
“conversation changer.” Which is,
you change or redirect the conversation
to somewhere else when you are talking
to someone who is not doing well with
bipolar disorder.

Finally when things go totally wrong,
you have a conversation ender. “I have
to call my mom was my conversation ender.”

Also, you can’t argue against madness.
I argued a little until I figured out
my friend has bipolar disorder probably
and it would be an argument against
madness.

When you are a bipolar supporter, you
need to have these conversation changers
and conversation enders ready at ALL
times.

Finally, if you have bipolar disorder,
heed this WARNING. Get into treatment.
Take your medications. Do not game
the system.

My friend is destroying his life and
those around him. He is doing horrible
and doesn’t even realize because he
is slowly slipping out of his right
mind. If you have bipolar disorder,
don’t let this happen to you.

I have to go to the gym.

What do you think of this story?

Catch you tomorrow.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Want your own copy of these daily bipolar
emails sent to you for F.ree? If so, visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/register3

P.P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

*I changed a little of this to protect the privacy
of my friend. I hope you understand. The story
is 100% real however.

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Hi,

How’s it going?

Here’s the bipolar news. Take a look.

Make sure you take a look at the news. It takes
a lot of time to put the news together so please
read it.

To see the news visit:

http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarnews363

There’s some really interesting news stories this week.
Take a look at them. Also, write me some feedback by
visiting my blog below.

Here are some of the headlines:

Britney Getting Treatment For Bipolar Disease
DO> VERY interesting article.

CASES; When Bipolar Masquerades as a Happy Face
DO> Another article you should check.

We are over-medicating children
DO> I really think so, parents actually cause the problem
in my opinion by not standing up to doctors and the system

My bipolar disorder is making me obese
DO> It’s odd but with my mom it made her lose a lot
of weight. Many people have this problem however. Take
a look.

Cyclothymic Disorder And Bipolar Disorder
DO> Good description of something confusing

A LIFE LONG JOURNEY, Staying Well with Manic Depression/Bipolar …
DO> Must read.

For these stories and more, please visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarnews363

==>> Get Help with ALL aspects of bipolar disorder<<== Check out all my resources, programs and information
for all aspects of bipolar disorder by visiting:

http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

Your Friend,

Dave

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Hi,

How’s it going?

I am dead tired. Why? Well last night
I had to volunteer and it went on for
hours and hours and hours.

It ended really late and I didn’t get home
until like 11:30pm and then I had a bunch
of stuff todo.

As I sat listening to last night’s speaker,
I was kind of getting annoyed. Why?

Well the speaker was a person with bipolar
disorder but spent 95% of the time talking
about how much of her was a nightmare.

I didn’t understand it because she is
successful now. She has her own business,
she is a writer, has a family, etc.

BUT, she never spoke about:

-How she started her own business
-Coping strategies for dealing with bipolar disorder
-How she explained bipolar disorder to her kids
-How she works with her doctor
-Ways that she gets to sleep when she can’t
-What were the exact keys to her success
-How often she sees a therapist
-How she was able to raise little kids with bipolar disorder
-How she was able to graduate college and get other post graduate
degrees

Etc.
Etc.
Etc.
Etc.

The entire thing turned into this. It’s like
bipolar took over the room and then people in
the room started telling their bipolar horror
stories oh how bad it is or how bad they
have had it.

There were many bipolar supporters sitting
in the audience looking depressed.

I started to feel depressed. I heard about
horrible depression, gigantic manic episodes
and also how almost there’s not a lot of hope.

After this was presented, several bipolar supporters
raised their hands with questions like:

Can my son/daughter be normal?

Can my son/daughter go to college?

Can my loved one be happy ever?

Is there hope for my loved one

The entire thing really turned so negative
that so many supporters wound up being
worried that there loved one was DOOMED.

I leaned over to a person that also volunteers
and I was like, “Is this really negative or
what?” He was like, “Yea, it is.”

I said, “Why don’t we have at least 50/50? 50%
negative and 50% positive.” He said, “Yea it
should be that way.”

There was really no message of hope delivered.

I noticed that many bipolar supporters were
really uncomfortable and had that “wow,
there’s not a lot of hope, this is a horrible
disorder that will just doom my loved one.”

Here’s the deal. Bipolar support groups
are okay. Some are better than others.
Some are more positive than others. Many however
are just places people go and complain and
vent.

I want you to remember this if you are
a bipolar supporter and going to a support
group. The most successful people generally
do NOT, and I repeat, do NOT go to these
groups.

They are home making it happen and don’t.

Want to hear something crazy? Well out of
every person that is high functioning
that works for me that has bipolar disorder,
ZERO, go to support groups.

Also, I can only think of one bipolar success
story that I interviewed in the last THREE
years that regularly go to a support group
to give back and teach.

These are just the facts. I know that I will
get some people who are mad that I said this
but these are the facts. There is a book
written by a girl where she goes across the
country looking for successful people with
bipolar disorder. She doesn’t find as many
as she thought. Why? well she is looking
in the wrong spot.

I spend a TON and I mean a TON of money
to find successful people with bipolar
disorder. You don’t find them in support
groups.

Bipolar supporters have to realize this
and not go to these meetings and then think
that their loved one is doomed because
they don’t see successful people at
the meetings.

Finally, I am solution and strategy driven.
Many of these groups are not. You just
have to realize that.

A question was asked:

“My son is resistant to treatment and doesn’t
want any. What can we do?”

No one gave this lady who asked the question
an answer. They said things like, “have faith.”

There are things that you can do. There’s
lots of them.

People just don’t know.

In my courses/systems below:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

I outline over 22 techniques. How did I come
up with these? Well I invented and used
like about 7 myself. And then I spend about
$50,000 to build a mailing list and then
survey people on the list for the best methods.

I then compiled the results and listed techniques
that were successfully used by at least 5 different
people.

I also interviewed the people who came up with
the technique for further clarification.

That’s why my list is a good one. It was a big
joint effort.

But people last that meeting thinking that there
is no way.

I don’t say a lot at these meetings. I ask some soft
ball questions (ones that are easy to answer).

I don’t feel it’s appropriate to challenge speakers
unless they are doctors or therapists. Even if
they do, I rarely do. I heard one doctor say
basically a person with bipolar disorder can’t
really be in a job that requires responsibility.

I just rolled my eyes. So I guess that means
that all the people that I have working for me
with bipolar disorder shouldn’t be working
for me?

Even though I don’t have bipolar disorder,
I take personal offense when someone says
this kind of thing.

a) because they are insulting people
who are my friends

b) they are insulting me because I hire
people with bipolar disorder

c) they are causing people to think negatively
of people with bipolar disorder

d) they are saying stupid things that cause
people to not reach their full potential. I remember
as a kid one teacher that told me that I would not
amount to anything. That I was dumb and that I would
never do well in school.

I will never forget when she
said it to me. I can tell you exactly where I was
in school, what the day was like, what I was
wearing and what she was wearing. I felt like
a moron.

NOTE-I actually tracked this teacher down, of course,
and reminded her about what she said. She couldn’t
seem to remember and said she always knew that I would
do well. Yea sure.

SECOND NOTE-I had another teacher Mrs. Nesnay
that told me the opposite. She told me
I was super smart and gifted. I now know she
was making it up 🙂 but it sounded good
at the time.

She told me that if I do something to always
do it big and as best I can. Actually I will
say this. It was her that caused me to want
to do well in school and always do well
at everything.

Whenever I do something I seriously have it
programmed to do it big and grand. Just like
this bipolar stuff. This is an extension of
the principles that Mrs. Nesnay the great
teacher instilled in me.

I tracked her down as well and she was
really happy to see me. I told her if she
ever needed anything anytime to call and
I would get it done. She is a great person.

WARNING! You have to be really careful when
you are a bipolar supporter not to destroy or
crush your loved one’s hopes and dreams. You
want them to be stable but you can’t
put so many constraints on them that they
stop learning and progressing.

Some bipolar supporters say, “We are never
going to have an episode like this again
and I am going to micromanage your life
so it doesn’t happen. You’ll never do
this, that and the other thing.” This is
so important that I am going to be talking about
this in upcoming articles and podcasts.

I have met many a bipolar supporter who
does this and many speakers that talk about
doing this.

At these meetings I don’t ever correct
speakers or speak over them so to speak.

For example, I didn’t rattle off 15 to 22
ways to help get a loved one into
treatment. I didn’t feel that would be
right.

A long time ago, I made the decision that
I would not do this and I would just keep
my mouth shut and just volunteer.

So I setup chairs, hand out literature,
answer questions if I am asked them directly,
move tables around in one place.

There’s another support group that is
incredible that is much more upbeat and
way more productive.

Anyway, this one has been like defunded
and there were very few meetings for 2007.
Sad but true.

There isn’t one planned for at least the
next 4 months. They have a super small
get together every week with about 8 people
but that’s it.

I guess they are running out of money. I am
not sure. The other place I volunteer is okay
but it’s a little too negative for me as well.

BUT, I still go and volunteer and have now
for years. Many people who work for me ask
why I go because they think it’s a waste of
my time.

The one good thing it does is it allows me
to talk person to person to see what problems
and issues people have with bipolar disorder and
also not to lose touch with it so then I can
come up with new podcasts, articles, ebooks,
books, guides, courses, manuals, etc.

You know what? I think that I am going to
put on my list of things to do to write a
f.ree guide on how to run a support
group and also how to market it. Don’t even
get me started on the marketing end.

Did I ever tell you about the support group
I volunteered at that had incredible and I mean
incredible speakers AND food but only 18 people
in attendance. Keep in mind there are 9 million
people in New Jersey and millions more in the
states next to Jersey.

They told me that the didn’t have money to
market or know how to do it? I told them
that I would do ALL the marketing for them,
and pay for it. They said, “well let’s see
if we can get approval for that.” That was
three years ago, I guess they are still working
on the approval.

Bottom line is this. If you are a bipolar
supporter, realize what you are getting when
you go to these support groups. Don’t get
discouraged if you don’t see success.

I wanted to send this email so you know
the real deal.

Hey I have to run, I will catch you tomorrow.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Want your own copy of these daily bipolar
emails sent to you for F.ree? If so, visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/register3

P.P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

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Hi,

How are you doing?

Hey, I have to go super quick today because
I have a bunch of things to do.

BUT, I wanted to continue my info on
doctors and bipolar medications.

Oh by the way, I have a really, really
cool new thing that coming out on the
importance of medications for bipolar
disorder. It’s going to be a f.ree
video.

I will keep you posted.

I also have 8 more podcasts that will
be uploaded today or tomorrow.

Okay, today’s topic is how to turn
a great doctor into a really bad doctor
fast.

How does this happen?

Actually take a guess? How do you think
this is possible? Guess then scroll down…

NO CHEATING!!!!! GUESS THAN SCROLL

KEEP GOING? Didn’t know this was so much work
did you?

So what did you come up with?

Okay, here’s how it happens AND it happens
ALL THE TIME.

Let’s talk about how it’s done point by point.

1. The patient is really slick and works
and beats the system. Some people with
bipolar disorder are so smart that they
actually know how the system works and
even though they are not stable they know
what to say to doctors to get them ultimately
less treatment.

What do I mean by less treatment? Well if a
person is not stable let’s assume they
need a change of medications

NOTE-I am NOT a doctor, therapist, lawyer,
insurance agent, etc. I am not offering
medical or legal advice. NOTHING that
I say should be used to diagnose, treat
or prevent and disease, illness or disorder.

Okay the person with bipolar who knows
how to work the system even though he
or she could be suicidal or homicidal
knows how to answer questions and act
so that there is no let’s say increase
or change in medication.

Eventually this person will have some
kind of major episode and do something
really bad. The doctor will look like
he/she had no clue when they were
really manipulated.

2. The person with bipolar is NOT
honest with the doctor.

Let’s say Mary has bipolar and is
feeling really ill, depressed,
tired and has side effects from
her bipolar medications.

When the doctor asks:

“How’s it going?”

She says, “good.” She then never
says how she is really feeling. So
after the 15 to 20 minutes of the visit,
she escapes with no change in treatment.

Ultimately Mary could wind up killing
herself or getting into a super bipolar
episode.

Even a great doctor has no chance against
bipolar disorder if the patient is not
honest with them. SOME super doctors
can pick up on this but if they keep
asking you over and over and over again
about how you are feeling. And the person
with bipolar disorder says, “good, good,
good, good, and good” the doctor is
at a major disadvantage with how to
shape treatment.

3. The third way is that the person
who has bipolar disorder does NOT follow
his/her treatment plan. This is what happen
with my mom’s current good doctor twice.
Two times, my mom didn’t follow the plan.
She took her medication but many of her
other “bipolar success variables” in her
bipolar stability equation were way off.

As a result, she went from stable to
unstable in 7 days 2 years ago. Then
sometime last year she went into a mini
episode. BOTH times were because her
treatment plan was not followed. She did
take her medication but didn’t do the
other “stuff.”

As a result, we almost created what I called
a “Bipolar Doomsday Scenario.” Fortunately,
I stepped in and stopped it.

Anyway, at first I was all mad at my mom’s doctor
because I felt like she didn’t do something.
But then I did a PEA (post episode analysis),
and found out the real deal.

NOTE-Never accuse anyone of anything related
to bipolar disorder without a careful investigation
on your part. Wait for days to go by before
you reach a conclusion. I talk about how
my mom’s other doctor before the great doctor
was horrible. I did a two week investigation
and asked him a ton of questions to reach this
conclusion.

Those are the ways to turn a great doctor into
a bad one.

I know people on my list have HORROR stories
of what I just described.

WARNING

If you are starting to think the doctor should
work harder, etc to make sure this doesn’t happen,
it’s just not realistic.

A doctor can’t investigate every single person’s
situation. There is just not enough time.
It’s unrealistic. Lots of bipolar supporters want
the doctor to do all the work. It’s like the parents
of children with bipolar disorder that want me
to get in a plane, fly to their house, deliver
my courses/systems, read it to them, go to the school,
work with their kids, etc.

What’s the way around this?

If you have bipolar disorder, don’t do the
things that I just listed.

If you are a bipolar supporter you need to communicate
EXACTLY what’s really going on to the doctor, especially
if you are supporting someone who is really manipulative
and lying.

In my courses/systems below:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

I talk about how to do this from a to z. I tell
you want to do. I have exact plans. And, don’t feel
that you are blocked by privacy laws. I have to
be honest with you, it’s a breeze to get past those.

I have some many strategies to counter when
you get hit with the, “the doctor won’t talk
to you.”

It’s kind of like a game for me. It’s David Oliver
versus bipolar disorder to help his mom. I am 100%
confident that I will win. I imagine a thing that
I am dealing with that is trying to beat me.

When I was making my courses/systems, I would think
of what it would do to counter what I would do.
Then I would have a counter to it’s counter. And then
I would think of it’s counter to my counter and I would
have a counter to it’s counter of my counter.

Plus, I never give up. Then I now have one last secret
weapon. I have a bunch of people who have bipolar
disorder that work for me that truly geniuses.

If I am starting to lose in a situation against bipolar
disorder, I talk to 2 to 4 people with bipolar that
give me a strategy to win.

Then I pass all this stuff to you in courses/books/guides/
systems, etc.

Hey, I have to run. Catch you tomorrow.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Want your own copy of these daily bipolar
emails sent to you for F.ree? If so, visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/register3

P.P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

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Hi,

How’s it going?

What’s new?

Hey, good news for me. Yesterday I think that
I randomly found a person who can help me with
a lot of my operations. Things are starting to
grow so fast in so many different
areas it’s really, really hard to keep up.

Actually this is a good lesson. When you
have a problem, and if you ask everyone and
anyone for help, you’ll find the solution.

This is what I did with bipolar disorder back
in the day and this is what I did with my problem
of handing operations AND using these new technological
things that we bought but never use.

I am actually bringing on two more people to
help.

People ask, how can I afford to hire all
these people? It’s not easy at all. Some think
that I am making millions but others know the
truth when they look at my expenses. I am NOT
making millions. But I firmly believe this
is a tremendous good cause and I really enjoy
working in this field so to speak.

NOTE-I am NOT a doctor, lawyer, insurance
agent, or other kind of professional. I am
NOT offering medical, legal or professional
advice.

Anyway, the good news is I finally believe
I have the people in place to help me with
a bunch of technology to speed up the
distribution of new f.ree information that
involves audio and video.

I have wanted to do this for, well forever
but I didn’t know how to do it. Everyone who
currently works for me is way behind in
what they are doing so I couldn’t ask
them. I found some new people who will
be able to help.

I wanted to talk about some signs of a bad
doctor.

I did an interview the other day with a psychiatric
nurse and she said she was amazed how many people
she knew that had bad doctors but stayed with them
for years and years and years. My mom
had a bad doctor and did the same.

I think it’s because people either don’t believe
there are other choices or they don’t know what
a bad doctor is. It’s kind of like a person in
a bad marriage that doesn’t even know it’s
a bad marriage. Ever meet someone like that?
They make excuses that their husband is never
home, drinks all the time and hits them “occasional.”

OR a wife that is totally abusive, controlling
and hits the husband. He says, “well she is
just overly excited a lot.” Know what I mean?

Anyway, if you need help finding a doctor or
therapist and want to sort through a ton of
them you can use the f.ree bonus in my courses/
systems below:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

Now if that’s not your situation, let’s
talk about the signs of a bad doctor.

For the person with bipolar disorder some
of the signs are:

BIG SIGN #1:
The doctor doesn’t listen to you
This happens a lot I hear. You have problems
and you tell the doctor and he/she doesn’t
even listen.

#2:
The doctor doesn’t take notes or remember
what’s going on from visit to visit. Now
we can’t expect a doctor to remember every
single thing you have ever told them over
a super long period of time. But if you
find your doctor forgets lots of stuff they
shouldn’t, that’s a bad sign.

#3:
The doctor is never around for emergencies. Again,
if you call the doctor 5 days a week every month
with an emergency then well they probably won’t
be around. Why? Well because you are kind of abusing
the system so to speak. I know people will get
mad that I said that but doctor’s have lives as well.
Anyway, I am not here to debate that. What I am saying
is, if you call over several months a few times
for an emergency and the doctor doesn’t get back
to you fast or someone in his/her office and this
happens repeatedly, that’s a bad sign.

#4:

The doctor has massive turn over with their
receptionist. This is a huge problem. I know doctors
reading this will think:

“Wow, I was with him until he said this, why he
is saying this? He is out of his mind. He has no
clue what he is talking about. What’s with this guy
anyway?”

Anyway, here’s the deal. Massive receptionist turnover
is a BAD SIGN. This means one or more of the following:
the doctor isn’t paying enough causing turnover
the doctor is way to hard to work with causing turnover
the doctor doesn’t have a good system to hire a receptionist
and keeps on getting the wrong person over and over

If you see like 3 to 4 receptionists in like 6 months
and there isn’t a really good reason like well so and
so left because they had a bad, so and so left because
well her husband moved and she went with him, he randomly
got a great new big promotion, and so and so left because
she had to devote all her time to taking care of her child
that now was diagnosed with Cancer.

Something like that. If you doctors receptionists vanish
and this happens a lot, ask what happen to them. It’s a negative
if you get the run around and don’t get a straight answer. Know
what I mean?

One last thing, one more receptionists that one has, the
more chances stuff gets lost. What kind of stuff you might
be wondering? Well your files and also releases.

W A R N I N G ! ! !

In my courses/systems I tell people to call every
three months to make sure the doctor still has
the medical releases you have signed. Make sure
you do that. I bet 99% of people do not do that.
I do it all the time. Guess who you are talking
to? The receptionist.

With my mom’s new good doctor, she had two receptionists.
Between the first and the second, the releases my mom
signed were lost and I went from having the ability
to talk to her to not having the ability to talk
to her (the doctor). One of the receptionists lost
the paperwork.

I learned the hard way. Call and make sure yours
are in place.

#4
Your doctor is in a really bad part of town where you feel
your life is at risk when you visit. This is a bad sign
because this means the doctor isn’t thinking or could
have money problems. Don’t laugh but I have heard this
so many times it’s amazing.

#5
Your doctor appears to have little to no knowledge
of bipolar disorder. You ask questions about stuff
in the news about bipolar disorder. They say, “huh?
What’s that? Who’s that? What do you mean?”

These are all bad signs. Make sure you have a
great doctor who specializes in bipolar disorder
and illnesses like it. Meaning in some cases, people
can be misdiagnosed so if you have a doctor who
specializes in bipolar disorder and depression
he/she is a little more well rounded. But you don’t
want them where they are like an expert in 17
different areas. Why? You can’t keep up.

I know what I am talking about because I focus
on bipolar disorder AND borderline personality
disorder. That’s my two focuses. I know about
schizophrenia but don’t put in the time like
I do with bipolar disorder.

I only have one person I think with schizophrenia
that works for me as well. Maybe not? I actually
forget.

#6
The doctor sees you for minutes or seconds and
offers assembly like fraudulent chiropractic
type care.

What do I mean? Well if you go to the doctor
and he/she is like “hey how’s it going? How
are you feeling? Great okay see you next
time” and only a few minutes go by,
that’s bad.

That’s like what bogus chiropractors
do. They bring you in, spend minutes cracking
your back and then put you out the door and
say, see you in 2 days. It’s like a scam.

How do I know? Well I have friends in
chiropractic that do NOT do this but they
tell me all the time this is common. This is
unfortunately common in mental health as well.

Now 15 and 20 minutes is all you will get.
My mom gets I think 30 minutes but my mom
pays more. My mom’s current doctor charges
her the most any doctor has ever charged her.

BUT she does a darn good job. Even my dad
who is famous for buying everything and
anything on price alone agrees she is well
worth it. He and I learned the hard way.

Anyway, you are better off paying more
to find a doctor who spends at least 15 minutes
each visit.

Now there are some ways to turn the 15 minutes into
24 minutes or 28 minutes :). I reveal that in
my courses/systems.

Actually I hope when I say it’s in my courses/systems
you don’t think that I am just trying to sell
you. The thing is, there is a ton to learn and
I can only put so much in emails, podcasts, etc.

I try to give as much as I can but some you
have to get by making an investment. I hope
you understand.

These emails take at least 1 hour to formulate,
write and distribute.

Okay so back to the signs, the last sign
is

#7

The doctor doesn’t believe in anything other
than bipolar medications. He/she doesn’t think
that therapy, diet, exercise, stress reduction,
sleeping well and on time has any impact on
bipolar disorder. Medication is critical. NO
QUESTION ABOUT IT. But there are other things
that can aid and help.

#8
The doctor doesn’t believe in bipolar disorder
or labeling people. This might sound crazy but
there are doctors like this. These doctors
generally give the wrong treatment plans
and put people on the road to a disaster.

NOTE

Again, I am not a doctor and nothing I am
saying should be used to diagnose, treat
or prevent and disorder or illness.

Seriously, please don’t think that I am a doctor.

Hey, tomorrow I am going to talk about
how to turn a great doctor into a really
bad one fast. Lots of people do this and then
get all mad at the doctor when it’s their own
fault.

Okay I have to run.

I have to do three interviews
today, go the library, talk to one consulting client,
review a new computer software program, interview
two new potential people, look over 4 new almost
completed projects, write 4 articles, look at this
murder case of someone with bipolar disorder,
review a new podcast I am going
to be releasing, and then record some audio.

Catch you tomorrow.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Want your own copy of these daily bipolar
emails sent to you for F.ree? If so, visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/register3

P.P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

Hi,

I just wanted to let you know that I am offering a special FREE
Trial on Bipolar Success Course.

I am only taking 25 people and it ends
10:00pm EST Thursday, January 31, 2008

For complete details, visit:

http://www.survivebipolar.net/successtrial/

Dave

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Hi,

How’s it going?

I hope you are doing well.

Hey, I have done a whole lot of interviews
with people who have bipolar disorder
and are really successful.

I must say, it’s hard to get these
done. It requires a ton to make it
happen. I have to run ads to find the
people, screen them, screen them
again, preinterview, set a day and
time (hope the people don’t cancel
which many do), etc. It’s a big
process.

BUT, the past few days I found some
GREAT people.

I was talking to one woman who was
telling me her story and she had mentioned
that basically she had a doctor that
took her off her medication for bipolar
which caused her to go into a huge
manic episode.

I don’t know if you know this but
the reason why my mom went in her
really big episode a few years ago
was because a doctor took her off
her medication.

I didn’t know this back then and
thought that my mom stopped taking
her medication on her own. She told
me the doctor told her to not take it.
I thought that she wasn’t telling the
truth but I did my own investigation
and found that she was telling the
truth.

When I found out, I was SUPER mad
at the doctor. I called him, over
and over and over and over and over
again to ask why he did this. First
he wouldn’t return my phone calls
and then I basically let them know
that I would come to the office EVERY
day until I got an answer and I would
bring newspaper reports as well.

I am a total no nonsense bottom line
person. I hate excuses and when people
give me the run around.

So anyway when it was all said and done,
this doctor was so clueless, he admitted
he just didn’t know why he took her
off her medication. He “lost” the records.

At that point, I realized there were good
and bad doctors like there are good and
bad accountants for business. In the past,
I have had horrible accountants that were
totally clueless. I learned the hard way.

Anyway, so when I was doing this bipolar
success interview this woman said how
she never, ever got better until she
found a new doctor who immediately
made all the difference.

This is what happen to my mom as well,
after her really bad doctor, she went
to the hospital for a couple of weeks
and then the outpatient program.

NO ONE would help her really. I was
starting to get discouraged. I worried
that my mom would be “stuck” in a bipolar
episode forever.

I didn’t have anyone to really ask and
talk to. There was no guy like me who
you could buy a course from and get
the real deal. I couldn’t find success
stories at support groups.

I just didn’t know.

But then I invented my doctor finding
system and figured out how to screen
lots of doctors and found my mom’s
doctor.

The system that’s in all my courses/systems
below:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

NOTE-We actually had three qualified doctors
to choose from. I feel I could have generated
about 21 if I had to. Anyway, I just gave my mom
three choices and asked her to pick one.

(I knew she would get mad if I didn’t give her
a choice so I did. BUT, I kind of put the one
I liked the best closer to her so she would
pick that one.)

So I went with my mom when she went
to the new doctor. The new doctor was
kind of a little odd. Don’t get me
wrong but she was a little different
than me. She was much shorter than me
and really thin. She had a lot of interesting
things on the wall. I kind of felt like
I was in the 1970s.

Anyway, she was, REALLY, REALLY, REALLY, REALLY
good with my mom. She immediately started to
make my mom feel comfortable and get her on
the right track.

Then I left the visit. I just wanted to check
her out real quick and then she didn’t an
examination of my mom.

I just wanted to see her a couple of minutes
to make sure she was on the up and up.

So on the way home, my mom said how she
really liked this person. The doctor is
part doctor and part sales person. Good
doctors sell people on:

Why it’s okay to have a mental illness
How they are going to get better
Why medication is really good for them
Etc.

They do it in a way like good sales people
do–which is get you to buy into things
on your own accord. Ever go somewhere
and a sales person gets you to buy something
that you really do need but in a nice way?

That’s what a good doctor does. I know that
many a doctor would be offended with what I just
said. They would say, “Dave Oliver, how dare
you compare me to a sales person. Shame on
you. I am not a sales person I went to school
for one million years and I am a professional
not a sales person.”

To those that would say this, what I mean,
there is a level of selling that occurs
between a doctor and a patient. A doctor
my sell, persuade, convince, etc. a patient
about the points I just listed above.

Bad doctors just give people a prescription
and say, “see you next time.”

This is really bad.

Therapists are the same. They are even better
at selling a patient on these things.

I know when I talk to someone with bipolar
disorder I always want them to come away
with the following:

-They can do well
-They need to have a good doctor
-They need to listen to their doctor
-They can manage their bipolar disorder
-There is hope

Many a person has said that I am the only
person who has ever been positive about their
bipolar disorder. I should not be.
A person’s doctor should be positive to
them and so should their therapist.

With that said, always remember how important
the doctor is for bipolar disorder.

People forget this all the time. A good doctor
saves time AND money. If my mom had a good
doctor and therapist over the years, we would
have saved hundreds of thousands of dollars.

My dad finally gets this.

Spend time finding a good doctor. Shop around.
If you don’t know the questions to ask, get one
of my courses above.

ALSO, make sure you work with the doctor and
follow all the stuff that I explain in my courses
and systems above. There are a lot of things
that you have to do to make the job of the
doctor easier.

Hey, I have to run. I will catch you later.
Oh, guess what? I have some cool new stuff
coming out.

Here’s what I have planned. I have a new
f.ree teleseminar and webinar where you get
to ask me questions and I am coming out
with a new video on bipolar disorder you
can use for free. I’ll send you the details
soon.

I am kind of annoyed that I feel that I get
slowed down because I never understand all this
technology and how to use it. I hired someone
with bipolar to help me set stuff up. I have
all the ideas but never know how to use this
software or this thing or that thing.

Hopefully this new person, who is super smart,
can make it simple so I can start getting even
more stuff out to you faster.

Hey, I have to run. I’ll catch you tomorrow.

Oh, post some stories about how a good
doctor has helped you if you have a story.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Want your own copy of these daily bipolar
emails sent to you for F.ree? If so, visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/register3

P.P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

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Hi,

I hope you are having a good day!

I want to talk to you about something
really, really important. Those of you who
have been with me for a long time know how
passionate I am about this subject – medication.

I’m always preaching about staying on your
medication, aren’t I? But today I want to talk
about things that interfere with taking your
medication.

In my courses and systems I devote a whole
section to this, but today I’ll just highlight
the most important things.

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

It is so, so important to get on and stay
on a good, steady medication schedule.
It is the most important part of your
treatment regimen.

But there are so many things that can
interfere with that, things that you can
do something about. For example, say
you are on morning medication. You
need to get up about the same time
every morning.

This is not only important so that your
body gets used to taking your medication
at the same time every day, but also so that
your body clock runs “on time” – so that
your sleep schedule stays the same,
because otherwise it can be a trigger to an
episode.

For those supporters that are reading this,
think about how much easier it would be
for you to help your loved one stay on their
medication if they got used to taking it at
about the same time every morning. It
would take a lot of pressure off you,
wouldn’t it?

It would also take a lot of the worry away
from you about them having another
episode if they kept their sleep schedule
steady, as well.

So that’s the biggest thing that would
interfere with taking your medication.

Another thing that interferes with taking
medication, and this is a biggie – is if
you drink alcohol! Most prescription
medication will state right on the bottle
to not take it with alcohol, but you should
really know this already.

Why? Because alcohol is a depressant.
And it will interfere with how your
medication normally works in your body.
Especially, say, if you are taking an anti-
depressant. See what I mean?

You really need to stay away from drinking
alcohol if you are on ANY medication, but
especially if you are on medication for
bipolar disorder. You have no idea how
the two will mix. And even if you “get
away with it” this time, you don’t know how
they will react the next time!

But especially, please, please, don’t stop
taking your medication, even once, just
so you can drink. I’ve known people who
have done that, and they ended up going
into really, really bad episodes. It’s NOT
worth it!

Another thing that can interfere with you
taking your medication is if you find yourself
somewhere else when it’s time to take your
medication. There is an easy solution to this.
Always keep an extra “stash” (one dose) of
medication on you at all times.

You might have some other examples and/or
solutions to this dilemma. If you do, I’d love
to hear about it!

In the meantime, I have to be off to yet
another meeting! Have a great day!

Your friend,

Dave

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P.P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
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to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

=>PLEASE FORWARD TO FRIENDS, FAMILY AND LOVED ONES <=
Hi,

How’s it going?

I hope you are doing well.

First I would like to say welcome
to another 1700 new subscribers.

Yesterday we had the largest number
of new subscribers in 24 hours. And
over 3300 new subscribers to this
bipolar disorder newsletter, in the
last 2 days. Welcome again.

I wanted to also let you know that
I will be adding another 16 or so
F.ree Podcasts on bipolar disorder
in the next week or so. I’ll send
you an email to let you know when
they are up.

I hope you really like them. I worked
hard on them. My goal is to add 101
after this next 16.

Also, someone asked where is the
what people are saying about david
oliver.

It’s here:

http://www.bipolarcentral.com/testimonials

I wanted to tell you a funny story
about someone that I know and it reveals
a tremendous lesson about bipolar
disorder.

Okay?

Let me tell you the story.

I know this kid, let’s call
him Bill (not his real name), who
went to a gym that I use to go to a
couple of years ago.

I met him and he was like 18 when I met
him. One day he was telling everyone
that he had never been on a date with
a girl. I thought that was kind of amazing.

He said his goal was to find a serious
girlfriend.

So we all tried to help him out. Anyway,
he first would never ask anyone out. He
would never leave his parents house either. As
a result, he never went on a date. After
several months of explaining how if he doesn’t
try, he won’t go out, he finally asked
someone in the gym out.

To make a long story short, she was suppose
to show up at TGI Fridays at 8:30pm. Guess
what?

She never showed up. He waited until 9:30pm.
Not only did she not show up, rumor had it,
she quit the gym.

Then he asked another girl out and she did
the same thing.

I couldn’t believe that this happen to
him twice. It was amazing. This has never
happen to anyone I have ever known. To have
two people do the same thing from the
same place.

Hmmm. I thought.

So then another gym opened up and I encouraged
him to join because there would be lots of
girls his age and maybe the other girls in
the other gym were well “off.”

So he joins the new gym and actually he goes
out on some dates. I was happy but he had
nightmare dates.

BIPOLAR LESSON COMING PAY ATTENTION

NOTE-There’s going to be a bipolar lesson
within this story, hold on. A REALLY important
one.

Over the course of two years, he told me
the other day that:

-one girl he went out with stood him
up again

-another girl he went out with, went to
an Ivy League school. When they were out
on the date, she asked, “Where did you go
to college?” He said “umm, well I didn’t.”
She said, “My dad says I should date people
who didn’t go to college, can I go home?”

-Another girl he took out, went out with
him and then threw up all over the table and
him at the restaurant. He said and I think this
is funny, “if you didn’t like me, you didn’t have
to throw up just so I would take you home?” She then
had some kind of drinking problem?

Can you imagine this happening to you? He said
that people in the restaurant jumped up and ran away
and screamed because she was so loud when she
threw up.

-Another girl he took out revealed to him that
she hated all kinds of people. And she said, people who
are the same should stick together. He said she
was a “hater.”

-Another one wanted to have multiple boyfriends
at the same time?

At one point, it was so strange that several
people in the gym wanted to really help. They
went out of their way to try to figure out what
the problem was. Several people were working
on it. No one could figure it out. He looks
normal. Actually works out hard. It’s amazing.

One friend got a girl who is a model in the gym
to make suggestions and recommendations. Then there
was several girls all of which who were popular and
good looking trying to “figure it out.” No one
could really figure out the problem.

Then someone said, “it’s just random, he’s bound
to have a run of good dates soon.”

I asked him the other day, “how do you keep going
on dates even though so many bad things have happened?”

He said, “well, I know a few people that have great
girlfriends so I know it’s possible. I have a picture
in my head of what I want and that’s what keeps
me going.”

I was totally shocked because that’s coming from
a fairly young kid who skipped most of high school.

Then I got to thinking about how his strategy
is EXACTLY what success people with bipolar
disorder do AND successful bipolar supporters.

THEY ALL HAVE A CLEAR PICTURE OF WHAT’S POSSIBLE

He focuses on the possible not the now.

He said, overtime as well he has learned
from other’s mistakes. He asks a lot of questions.
He watches people. He said he learned how to
better qualify people before going on
expensive dates.

One of the things that I did with my
mom when she was in the huge bipolar
episode is:

-Focus on what I knew was possible
-Ask anyone with any information lots of questions
and learn from them.
-Realize there wasn’t a simple road to success

The road to success with bipolar disorder
is going to be a zig zag. Stuff will
be tried. Some will work. Some will
not work.

There will NOT be an exact clear cut
road of success. There may be some
zig zags but you have to keep
moving forward. Even if you are hit
with setbacks and problems. You will
be hit with these. I guarantee you
that!

When I think of my friend, it would
be very easy for him to just quit and
say, “I hate woman, I am never dating
again.” He has a good outlook and
knows that success might be right
around the corner.

It’s the same thing with bipolar disorder.
For many people, success is right around
the corner.

You could easily be one doctor, one therapist
one medication change away from having yourself
or your loved one have tremendous success.

Just think with my mom, several doctors
tried to get her stable. Then it was one doctor
that gave her one combination of medication
that immediately made huge results.

I just had to hang in there with my mom. She
had to hang in there as well.

I know that sometimes it’s frustrating. Some
times the results aren’t coming fast enough.
Sometimes you feel there is no hope. Some
times you feel like giving up.

In my courses/systems:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net
I have many success interviews. These
interviews serve at least two purposes.

#1 the show you what is possible. They
show that anyone can be successful despite
having tremendous problems. In ALL the interviews,
the people who are successes had horrible
cases and turned it around.

#2 they give you people to model and learn from.

Now if you can’t get my courses/systems do this.

Visit local support groups. Find successful people
with bipolar disorder and successful bipolar supporters
to take to lunch and then kind of interview them.
Learn from them. Ask questions. See what they went through.
Then start to use what you learn in your own
situation so you can turn things around.

Actually my friend says he has another
date and he is convinced this girl will
be “normal.”

Well I have to run. I have 4 interviews today
and a bunch of articles to write and many things
to review related to bipolar disorder.

I thought this was a rather funny
and interesting story to communicate
some truths about bipolar that many
won’t ever tell you.

Hey, I have to run, tonight I am
going to see my friend Rob and Marie’s
little girl who is like 20 days old.

Have a great day.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Want your own copy of these daily bipolar
emails sent to you for F.ree? If so, visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/register3

P.P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com