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Hi,

First I wanted to welcome more than 1500
people who signed up to my newsletter in
the last 24 hours.

You’re really going to love it.

With that said, here is the current Bipolar Disorder
news.

Make sure you take a look at the news. It takes
a lot of time to put the news together so please
read it.

To see the news visit:

http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarnews362

There’s some really interesting news stories this week.
Take a look at them. Also, write me some feedback by
visiting my blog below.

Here are some of the headlines:

Take me as I am — whoever I might be today
DO> I kind of think she is on the negative side. I am
sure a bunch of people will disagree. Take a look.

Irwin’s offer to Spears
DO> More on Britney Spears

Should Bipolar Medication Be Halted During Pregnancy?
DO> VERY is a very interesting question. One of the
people that works for me recently had a baby and
found the article fascinating.

mutant mice shed light on bipolar disorder
DO> Very interesting and must read.

No need to drug our kids
DO> I totally agree with this. I could write a book
on the subject. I think you have to be really careful
saying a kid has this or that.

Teen Talk: Valentine’s Day is perfect for starting a relationship
DO> What do you think of this? I’ve had many a girlfriend
call/text at night and they didn’t have bipolar disorder 🙂

For these stories and more, please visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarnews362

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Your Friend,

Dave

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Hi,

How’s it going?

Hope you are doing well.

What a day yesterday was.

I got back from the gym and then I saw
and email that basically there was
a guy doing a presentation based on
my materials and some how it was said
that I didn’t want him to do this
presentation so it was stopped.

I couldn’t believe this. I was super mad.
I tried to contact the guy but it was
too late.

I hope he isn’t mad at me. After I am
done writing this daily bipolar
email, I am going to write him a letter
of apology.

Basically someone told me this guy was
doing this presentation. I asked some
who works for me (does NOT have bipolar),
to find out who the person was and more
about him.

I thought it was strange that someone
was doing a presentation on some of my material
and I didn’t know the person. I just wanted
more information and I couldn’t do it
myself because I have 100 things to do
yesterday.

So basically some how that turned into
some service he was using stopping his
presentation. I have no idea how this
happen but it’s not fair to the guy
and I mad about the entire thing.

Anyway, I am going to write him a full
apology and I hope he understands. I am
going to ask him if there is anything I can
do to right this wrong and make it up
to him. I am kind of worried that he will
be really mad at me. I hope not.

Okay after that, I had a phone call with
a nice woman who had lupus and now is
trying to help others overcome this.

Then I got some great news. I didn’t
tell you this but I came up with this
incredible idea about two months ago.

I can’t get into it here but it would
help this organization and mental health
tremendously.

It would enable me to hire more people
with bipolar disorder, give away more
F.REE stuff. It was an incredible idea,
no to brag. I was, REALLY excited.

But it wasn’t going to be easy. There
were parts that I didn’t know how to
do. So I rounded up a bunch of people with
bipolar to help since there are super smart.

I also involved my attorney. Then I ask
my friend for help. Then he got his friend
to him me.

So basically last night I got some great
news that basically like 50% of this
great idea was all done.

I was really excited about this.

After I got the news, and was cooking
my 6th meal of the day, I got a call
from a friend.

I told her about my idea and what happen
and how great it was going to be.

Then it happened…

My friend said a bunch of negative stuff
about how I went about my idea like I
was obsessed with this idea and that
was weird.

I was like, “Of course I am working hard
to get all this together because it
can make a huge difference for everything.”

Then I told my friend about the final
plans of the idea.

She totally shot it down and told me so
many reasons why the entire thing
was a bad idea.

I started to second guess myself.

Then I felt like maybe it wasn’t a good
idea. Maybe it was a bad idea.

Then I got mad because I told this
friend that she isn’t supportive.

The friend said that wasn’t true.

Then I was mad and didn’t say much.

I thought about when I first started
this organization and SO many people
said it would fail. Some vendors
told me I was insane. Some people
wouldn’t work with me because they
wanted nothing to do with anyone
connected to “Crazy people.”

I had one friend that actually encouraged
me to do this. He is totally positive.

I was like “you think it will work?”
I kept telling him that I wasn’t a doctor
or therapist and I am not a good writer. People
would make fun of me and not read any of
my stuff.

My friend who is super laid back was like
“dude, yea they will. Trust me dude, I know
they well. Just trust me dude. Just do it
I guarantee it will work dude.” My friend
uses the word dude a whole lot.

Anyway, no matter what you tell him, he will
tell you can do it. He is always 100% positive
all the time.

Anyway all the negative people started to drown
out what he was saying.

Then I asked Pascale who basically like a computer.
You give Pascale input and she outputs objective
reports. She is a like machine. Anyway I told her
the idea. She listed the pros and cons and said
there were way more pros then cons and said “do
it.”

So I did. And now you see what I have.

So anyway, last night, I needed to recharge so
I called a bunch of positive “doing lots of things
for society” friends and they were like, “no, man
your idea is great. Do it.”

This morning I sent the entire idea over to my
attorney for him to review and also another
attorney. I also sent it to someone else because,
well I am still a little worried.

BUT, I wanted to talk about something today
about how this relates to bipolar disorder.

Here’s the deal. First negative is way stronger
than positive.

If you hang out with negative people, they
will bring you down. Period. If you hang out
with just a couple, and you have tons of positive
friends, the few negative will bring you down
and over come the positive ones.

Michele who works for me and I has bipolar
disorder told me just yesterday before
this happen how she taught all
her sons the 10 – 2 rule.

It basically states that if you are a
10 and you hang out with 2’s, a 2 won’t
turn into an 8 and you stay a 10, the 2
will stay the same and you’ll probably
drop down to a 4 to 5.

This is so true.

Losers attract losers. Losers bring
each other down.

I noticed over the years my mom had
two sets of friends. There were mania
friends and non mania friends. When my mom
was manic she wound up handing out and
talking to losers. I hate to say it
but they were. I know people will
get mad at me for saying that but
that’s what the were. Even my mom agrees
with me.

When she was no manic, she had intelligent,
hardworking “doing something on a daily basis”
friends.

Her manic friends actually made her worse
and worse and encouraged her to do things
like:

-not take her medication
-leave my dad
-leave her family
-not go to the doctor
-not believe she had bipolar disorder
-quit her job
-and many other stupid moronic things

These days, part of my mom’s stability equation
is to avoid these people and to surround herself
by positive, smart and productive people–this is
an order from her doctor not from me (but
I agree)

When you are dealing with bipolar disorder
whether you are a bipolar supporter or bipolar
survivor, you want to make sure you surround
yourself with positive people who tell you,
you can do it because you can.

One of the best ways to do this is to
listen to the success interviews in my courses/systems:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

I honestly think it’s impossible to listen
to the cds and not come away having tremendous
hope that things can and will get better. These
cds serve to provide fuel in your car on the
road of success to bipolar. Get and use the
fuel.

Now, if you have negative people in your life,
I want you to lose them or limit your contact
with them.

A good exercise today is the following:

who are the people who bring you down and
are always negative and tell you stupid
counter productive things?

who are the people who are always upbeat and
tell you positive things?

Lose the first group of people or limit your
exposure to them. Talk to the second group
of people more and more.

Finally, when you are feeling down, make sure
you have something to bring you up. A good
book, cd, etc, can do the trick.

There is one business book that I have had for 10
years. It’s the book I always read when I am
down. I have read it more than 200 times
in 10 years. There’s a few pages that I read
that make me feel better during the worst
of times. I had to read those pages a whole
lot after September 11, 2001.

You need something like this as well.

Remember that negative is always stronger
than positive.

Hey, let me know what you think. I have to
run and write that apology letter.

Catch you tomorrow. Oh, tomorrow is the bipolar
news.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Want your own copy of these daily bipolar
emails sent to you for F.ree? If so, visit:
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P.P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

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Hi,

How’s it going?

I want to tell you the truth about
dealing with bipolar disorder.

There is one truth that very few people
talk about. It’s something that many
people hide.

First let me tell you the story
of how I thought about this.

Yesterday I was in the gym and
and a bunch of us were talking
about our “eating plans.” An eating
plan is basically a plan on how
we eat. So we figure out how many
meals per day that we eat, which
days we eat what, what days we
can eat junk food, which days are low
carbs, which days are high protein,
etc.

If you got my amazing fat burning
formula, you would know what I mean.

Anyway, so I was saying how I have been
trying to gain 4 pounds and haven’t
been able to do so.

It’s really annoying. I think finally
this week on Saturday, I will gain
one pound. Hopefully. Actually
last week I lost two pounds which means
that now I have to gain 6 pounds. 🙁

Anyway, I was discussing my trouble
to my friend Dan. Dan is really big.
Like 265 7% body fat.

I am 218 8.1% body fat.

My goal is to get to 224 7.4% body fat.

I am hoping on Saturday that I am at least
220.

So my friend says, “How many times
are you eating a day?” I said 6.
He said, “bump it to 7.” Then he
tells me to add some more fish
oil for the calories.

So then I was saying how it’s such
a pain to eat so many meals a day.

Then my other friend Ron says, “no
it’s not, it’s easy.” Then everyone
was like, “it’s easy because your
wife lays your cloths out in the
morning for you and makes all your
food. She treats you like a little
boy.”

He said that wasn’t true and quickly
changed the subject 🙂

I thought that was soooo funny.
Anyway, Ron is a self made millionaire
who sometimes acts like he is like 18.

NOTE-BIPOLAR LESSON COMING

Don’t worry, there’s going to be a lesson
to this story.

So anyway, my friend Dan says, “my roommates
hate me because they say that I use too
many dishes a day and run the dishwasher
too many times a week.” He then says how
they want him to either only use paper plates
or to pay more in rent.

Dan eats 8 times per day. He’s becoming
a professional body builder.

So anyway we all talked for an hour
of various ways to cook chicken,
fish, turkey faster and ways to
eat more per day, gain weight and
hold body fat.

So I got a few ideas and then someone
who doesn’t care about his weight or
health said, “man, you guys are crazy,
that’s way too much of a pain, that’s too
much work.”

Dan, who really believes he is the best
looking person in the history of man kind
says:

“If you want to have this kind of body (he points to
himself) nobody says it’s going to be easy.”

You might read this and think he is super
arrogant, which some could say, but he’s
a really nice guy. He’s a great trainer who
gets people results. And, seriously a nice guy
that would help anyone with anything related
to fitness (that’s all he knows about).

BUT, he really does think he looks incredible.
He has unbelievable self confidence and
self esteem. It’s really funny sometimes.

At the end, we were all like, “it’s all a pain
but we are in great shape and healthy so
the annoying stuff is worth it.”

That was the universal conclusion we all
drew.

So I was thinking yesterday to myself.
How many people that I have interviewed that
do well with bipolar disorder that have to
do stuff that’s a pain.

They have to:

-go to the doctor
-go to the therapist
-work so they have money but not work too much
-take medication (many different kinds)
-exercise
-eat well
-avoid stress
-skip the alcohol
-go to bed early
etc.
etc.

Now I have many friends with bipolar disorder, and
many friends without bipolar disorder. In the gym,
most of my friends don’t have bipolar disorder
but many body build non competitively. Meaning,
they follow almost everything a body builder
does but they don’t go into competitions or
on stage. Dan does but most of my other
friends don’t.

In order to do this, they:

-take lots of supplements
-eat many times a day
-drink one gallon of water a day
-plan trips based on bathrooms (if you drink a gallon
of water a day plus half a gallon of shakes, you have to know
where all the bathrooms are 🙂
-exercise, sometimes twice a day
-follow a carefully planned strict eating plan
-go to bed early
-skip alcohol
-have to see coaches and nutritional advisers to
improve and “tweak” their eating plans
-Coordinate fun activities with eating, supplements
and sleeping

NOTE-
I have friends that actually have grills in
their trucks so they can cook away from
home. It’s crazy. I don’t do that :). BUT,
I do carry a cooler with me whenever I leave
with all my meals for the day. If you ever
saw me, and you looked in my back seat, you
would most likely see a cooler.

When I got to business meetings in the city,
I plan way in advance what I will be eating. I know
which restaurants I will be going to and call
ahead to get the menu. I then find out which
items fit in my eating plan and make notes. So
then when I eat, I know what to order. And, I
always have back up plans just in case something
goes wrong. I carry “emergency bars” in case
my plan for eating doesn’t work so I can at least
eat something that is pretty healthy.

AND, when you follow this way of life, there
are times when you are really tired either
from working out twice a day, or doing
what’s call carb depleting,
which affects your energy level and your ability
to think.

Body building competitively or non competitively
is much like managing bipolar disorder.

Much of body building is a pain. It’s a major
pain but many people do it. Much of managing
bipolar disorder is a pain. A major pain.

In my courses/systems below:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

I talk about all the ways to cope and deal
with bipolar disorder whether you have
it or you are supporting someone.

Some of it’s really easy. Some of it’s
a pain.

In my material, I am 100% honest. Some
people don’t want to do anything. It
amazes me. The worst are some parents supporting
children with bipolar. I don’t know why, but some parents
for some reason want someone else
to do everything. They want a magic
system. I just don’t know why.

But, the truth about bipolar disorder
is that in order to effectively cope
and deal with it, whether you are a supporter
or have it yourself, some things will be a
pain but the reward of peace, stability are
worth it. Don’t forget that.

Sometimes I think bipolar supporters and those
with bipolar disorder need a reminder that
there are many things that are going to be a
pain but you just have to deal with them.

It’s just like my body building friends. We
always have to remember that a lot of what
we do is a pain. If I forget this, I go to
the gym and the people there remind me.

So today I wanted to remind you about
bipolar. For all those people out there
that have to do all the things I described
for bipolar disorder and think, “this is such
a pain,” you are on the right track but hang
in there, the rewards of stability and
success are worth it.

I think if more doctors, therapists and people
in the mental health field were honest and
would say, “managing bipolar disorder can
be a pain but the rewards are worth it”, we
would be way better off. Also, if people said,
“if you don’t manage it, there’s a good chance
that you’ll commit suicide or hurt someone
you love” we would be better off.

I don’t know why so many people sugar coat
stuff. I just can’t figure it out. I never
do.

I have to run now, I will catch you tomorrow.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Want your own copy of these daily bipolar
emails sent to you for F.ree? If so, visit:
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P.P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

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Hi,

How’s it going?

Hope you are doing well.

I have something to tell you today
if you are a bipolar supporter.

Oh, hey I almost forgot to tell
you something. I am coming out
with a new F.REE podcast called:

“How Oil Affects Bipolar Disorder.”

During this one of a kind podcast,
I will talk about the impact of oil
and bipolar disorder and what you should
and shouldn’t be doing (in my opinion
of course).

I think you’ll really like it.

If you are reading this and thinking,
“What does the heck does oil have to do
with bipolar disorder?” Don’t worry,
I will explain it all on the podcast.

What’s a podcast? It’s like a
cd on the internet. You’ll have a link
and you just click on it and it will
play.

Oh yea, I have some more f.ree podcasts
coming out as well, I will keep you
posted.

I like doing these podcasts. I didn’t like
doing them when I didn’t know how to use
the recording stuff. But then I found
someone with Bipolar who set it all up
for me and made it super simple for me
to use.

It’s really cool that I have some many
people with bipolar who are super smart
to figure stuff out for me 🙂

Okay, let’s jump to today’s topic.

It’s really important.

Yesterday I had to call this guy
about a situation with his order.
It was missing.

He basically told me that I was a crook
and ripping people off and on and on
and on and on and on. Then he said
I didn’t care about anyone but
myself and that my emails were
worthless.

He didn’t even give me time to
check all the shipping logs and tracking
to see what happen to his order. Sometimes
the shipping people lose stuff and if
they do, we simply send another one.

I was really nice to him. It was like
10:00pm ET. He yelled and screamed and
yelled and screamed

It was so annoying. I actually was
so annoyed that I only slept a little.

It’s kind of amazing never in my life have
I gotten:

-multiple death threats
-people screaming at me
-people calling me a crook
-people saying this and that

As a side note, years ago, I had
a friend that had a website selling
marketing information. Someone
threaten to kill him if he didn’t take
it down. This person said that the
website was adversely affecting him.

It was really strange. It made no sense.
There was nothing on the site that could
adversely affect him.

Anyway the guy demanded over and over
again. Over many months. He said that
he would be outside his house and attack
him and his family. My friend got
really scared and had a stroke.

He eventually took the site down. Later
that person that threatened him was found
to have schizophrenia and had gotten
off his medication. He had done a whole
lot of bad things.

My friend never recovered and vanished.
He moved to an undisclosed location.
He was so frightened by the experience
he just never spoke to anyone again. I haven’t
spoken to him in years. He was a really
nice person.

Anyway, if I look back, I have been attacked by
way more bipolar supporters than bipolar
survivors. It’s amazing to me sometimes.

Anyway I tried to reason with this guy and
he was totally not reasonable.

Sometimes I wonder what the heck
goes through bipolar supporters mind
that attack me and are super angry
all the time.

Anyway, let’s get to today’s topic.

I have noticed that there is a group
of bipolar supporters out there that
are what I call, “The angry supporter.”

This person is someone who is super
mad that his/her loved one has
bipolar disorder. The major coping
mechanism is to be angry and attack
anyone other than their loved one
with bipolar disorder.

These bipolar supporters are super
mean. They are the people who attack
me. The people who walk around and
flip out on people and people actually
think they have something wrong with
them.

You have to be really careful that if
you are a bipolar supporter, you don’t
let your loved one’s lack of progress
or your loved one’s struggle make you
a super angry person.

I know several people like this locally.
When these people come into a support
group, people run and hide from them. Why?
Because they are always so angry.

There are people where I volunteer
that I dread dealing with. They are
always so mad and so down.

Now I already know people are going
to write me and say “Dave not
everyone is so happy as you with
their loved one so don’t criticize
those that are struggling to
support someone.”

I realize this for sure. BUT, no
matter what, just because you
are struggling, doesn’t give you
the ticket to be really angry.

In my courses/systems below:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

I detail the ins and out of supporting an
adult with bipolar, a child or managing
the disorder yourself.

Right now, if you are a bipolar
supporter, I want you to think long
and hard about the following:

How has bipolar changed you?

Are you angry all the time?

Do you laugh/smile less?

Do you think that you are negative
too much?

Do you feel that friends and family
members avoid you because you are
always down and/or talking about how
bad things are with your love done?

Think about this.

You have the power to make things better,
no matter what your situation is out there.

You might not be able to make things
perfect but you can make them better.

NOTE-If you have been an angry bipolar
supporter, go back to those that you have
been mean to and say you are sorry. They
will feel better.

Hey I have to run. I things to do and
people to see :).

Catch you tomorrow and really think about
what I wrote today.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Want your own copy of these daily bipolar
emails sent to you for F.ree? If so, visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/register3

P.P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

Hi,

How’s it going?

Boy I have a lot of things to
do today. I feel like I say
that every day 🙂

Yesterday I received a phone call
from a friend of mine. This friend’s
brother has bipolar disorder. Over
the years, he has had all kinds of problems
with not only bipolar disorder and also
addictions.

Anyway he didn’t go to a doctor
regularly and didn’t take his
medication consistently.

Unfortunately he did a ton of things
wrong which I will sum up her:

Went to multiple doctors over the years
for really no apparent reason
DO> As a result, each doctor had to start
over from scratch to learn about him. This
made treatment a nightmare.

Didn’t see any doctor regularly
DO> In addition to having a whole bunch of
doctors over a whole bunch of years, he didn’t
see the one he was suppose to regularly or
when he was suppose to and as a result side
effects from the medication where never reduced
to a minimum

-He stopped taking his medications so many
times I lost count.
DO>When you have stuff working well, or even
kind of well, I am told by experts that when
you stop it, it’s bad and it takes a lot to
get back on track. (I know this is an over
simplification but I am sure you know what
I am talking about)

-He doesn’t have a knowledgeable support
team. His family thinks the know about
bipolar but they really know little to
nothing.
DO> His family winds up agreeing with
many bad decisions he makes like: changing
doctors frequently; not taking his medication
consistently; not having a job, etc.

Last night my friend was telling
me how all his brothers problems in
life were caused by his medications for
bipolar disorder.

It’s odd how many people work. Many people
want something other than themselves to assign
blame too.

I see this all the time in business consulting
which I do. I see company owners who want
to blame bad decisions on everyone other
than themselves. They will look for anyone
anywhere to blame.

The only owners who do well are the ones
who accept blame themselves and personal
responsibility and move forward. The ones
that say, “Man, I really messed up, I take
responsibly for what I did and now we
are going to move forward. I am not going
to do that or make that mistake again. Thanks
for pointing that out to me.”

As a business consultant it’s rare that
ever happens.

It’s normally deny, deny, deny, assign
blame to someone else in the company.

When you get my courses/systems:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
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Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

I not only point out all the mistakes I think
I made, I accept responsibly for them.

Mistakes like:

-enabling my mom for many years costing me
all my savings

-arguing with my mom when I shouldn’t

-getting mad at my mom instead of her
bipolar disorder

etc.

I go through all of this.

Anyway, I find the same thing with
bipolar disorder. People seem to try to
look to someone or something else other
than themselves as to what caused all the
problems.

You could read a 1000 self help books
that tell you this is the wrong way to
go about things.

Anyway back to my friend, my friend agreed
with his brother that the bipolar medication
was the cause of all his problems even though
that makes no sense whatsoever.

My friend believed so strongly that
it was the medications that were the problem
not the numerous bad decisions made over
the year, that I didn’t even wind up
trying to explain how what he was saying
made absolutely positively no sense.

And then my friend said the craziest thing
to me. He said his brother stopped taking
his medication and the family saw he was better
and that he had outgrown bipolar disorder.

The family all agreed and now was supporting
his decision to not take medication any more.

I got the feeling that the brother would have
continued to take his medication if the family
would have said, “hey, you really need to
take your medication to be stable for the long
term.”

But since they didn’t, he stopped taking it.
Now it was his decision but well the family
could have probably pushed him in the right
direction.

I was totally shocked. I asked my friend
why do you think he outgrew his bipolar?

My friend said, “well because he looks
good and is doing well since he stopped
taking it.”

The crazy thing is, it’s been like 10 days.
How the heck can you measure success in
10 days?

It’s just amazing.

I listened and listened and didn’t say
much.

My head hurt so much from hearing all this
that I said, one final thing:

“When a person stops taking medication,
I have seen that they do okay for a very
limited period of time and then incrementally
get worse and worse and worse. Those around
will not notice because they adjust to
the worse behavior. Eventually that person
has a complete breakdown which can turn
into what I call is the bipolar doomsday
scenario which can absolutely destroy a family.”

I explained what the bipolar doomsday scenario
was and how it worked. My friend kind of yesed
me to death.

I went on to say, “I am not going to
preach to you because you guys are all
adults and have access to all my materials.
I don’t agree or support these decisions.”

My friend said, “okay.”

In my head I was just amazed thinking “how
in the world could people think this way?”

Then I got up this morning and remembered
that this EXACT SAME THING happened about
7 years ago and my friend’s brother went
off his medication and then was doing
okay and went into super episode and randomly
got married and then divorced. It took him
years to kind of recover.

I just don’t know what to say.

It really makes my head hurt. I realize
I can’t save every single person in the world.
I wish I could but I don’t have enough time
and money. I guess all I can do is just keep
doing what I am doing and help those that
want to be helped.

It’s a sad fact that in a few months, I’ll
probably be writing you about how my friends
brother went into a huge bipolar episode. It’s
sad but true. I have found in 100% of the cases,
this is what will happen.

Finally, I want to say the following,
NEVER EVER get off your medication unless:

-You talk to you doctor

-You are monitored closely by your doctor
without medication, reporting what’s going
on via fax, phone, email, etc.

-You have at least one supporter who has
medical releases signed so he/she can
tell a doctor and therapist how you are
doing

IMPORTANT NOTE

-If you feel like getting off your medication,
ask yourself why. Then talk to your therapist
and doctor about your feelings

-If you have side effects with your medications
and can’t stand them, talk to your doctor. He/she
can modify your medication but can’t do so
if you don’t talk to them.

-Find a good doctor you like and trust.

You know what? The older I get, the less I like
to explain to people the error of their ways.
What do I mean? Well I am a “tell it like it is
person.” That’s gotten me in a whole lot of
trouble for many years. Many people really want
to hear what they want to hear.

As a result, people get mad when they don’t
hear what they want to hear. My friend is one of
those people. He will get mad if you disagree
with him and that’s why I didn’t “get into it”
about his brother.

Someone made a comment about the fact that
I seem to be harsh with telling the story
about my mom and her bipolar disorder. That
I am hard on my brother, my dad or myself.
I am not harsh I just tell it like it happened.

I asked Pascale (who is a tell it like it is
person), what she thinks and she said, “Look,
you have over 100,000 people on your list,
someone is going to be mad at you for something
every day. Actually probably hundreds of people
at the same time. You can’t please everyone.”

I guess she is right. I will continue to
tell the real story and not sugar coat it.
It would be easy for me to do. I would simply
say, “My mom had an huge episode, we all did everything
right. Everyone was and is really supportive
and now she is doing great. She never had any
other problems after the first episode and it’s
just totally wonderful and everyone was super helpful.”

If I did that, what would you really learn? And
how would the people that everything wasn’t
wonderful think?

Hey I have to go. I will catch you tomorrow.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Want your own copy of these daily bipolar
emails sent to you for F.ree? If so, visit:
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P.P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

Hi,

I have posted 25 podcasts for
you to listen to. They are on specific
topics and are FREE.

You can listen to them here:
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com
I put a TON of work into this so
I hope you enjoy.

Dave

Hi,

I have some really exciting news. I am going to be opening
up Bipolar Inner Circle. But, I am only taking 87 people
for this 2 month trial.

Here is the deal.

The Bipolar Inner Circle is the ultimate virtual
support group. Whether you have bipolar disorder yourself
or are supporting an adult or child with it, the
Bipolar Inner Circle is for you.

Through message boards, online forums, chat rooms, monthly
offline newsletters, local resource locators, tons of special
reports, a searchable database of hundreds of articles, and much,
much more, you’ll learn the ins-and-outs of dealing with
bipolar disorder–all in the comfort of your own home.

It’s like a conventional support group, but so much better,
because YOU set the schedule and YOU set the priorities.
With its online convenience, the Bipolar Inner Circle truly
is the ULTIMATE support group–with help and support from
people all over the world, and you never have to leave the
house.

I am going to give you two months of it for
FREE so you can see how good it’s going to be.

All I am going to ask is she pay a super small
setup fee. I will pay all the other costs for you.

BUT, I am only taking 87 people total.

Visit http://www.Bipolarinnercircle.com for more info now.

There are over 100,000 people on my list and it grows up to
350 people a day.

For complete details visit,
http://www.Bipolarinnercircle.com now.

Dave

=>PLEASE FORWARD TO FRIENDS, FAMILY AND LOVED ONES <=
Hi,

How’s it going?

I have to go really quick today so
I have to make this really short
today.

Here’s what I wanted to talk to
you about “can’t” and “impossible”
thinking.

What’s that? Well let me explain.

Yesterday I sent a daily bipolar
email that talked about the shocking
truth about doctors and therapists
when it comes to bipolar disorder.

If you missed it, see my blog
below to read it.

I got a ton, and I mean a ton
of people writing me saying:

-We can’t find a good doctor or
professional

-We live in a small town and there
are no good professionals

-We tried to find a good doctor/therapist
and can’t.

-We can find lots of good doctors and therapists
but we can’t afford them. It’s impossible.

In addiction to yesterday’s responses,
I frequently hear:

-It’s impossible to help so and so

-I can’t get on the right medication

-There is no hope for myself or so and
so. We tried everything

-We can’t do this or that or the other thing

-It’s impossible for this that or the
other thing to happen.

NOTE-I could insert one of 100 phrases
into this, that or the other thing but
this email would be 50 pages long. I hope
you get the idea.

I notice that when it comes to bipolar
disorder, many people are so beaten down
for so many years, they start using the
word “can’t” and “impossible” more
and more. People attitudes start to
really become negative and terrible.

It first starts with bipolar disorder
and then it starts creeping into
other parts of their lives.

You hear:

We can’t afford this or that
I can’t become a writer, scientists,
go back to school, etc.

We can’t take a vacation

We can’t have fun any more

This is from bipolar supporters AND
bipolar survivors.

When I grew up I heard:

We can’t take a family vacation

We can’t eat together at the table

It’s impossible that mom won’t get sick
all the time

It’s impossible to get mom’s illness
under control
NOTE-I heard this for years and years without
even knowing what my mom had.

This all mostly came from my dad. But then
in my 20s, my brother started saying
the same thing. He basically told me
my mom was hopeless in many areas.

I don’t criticize him for this because it
kind of looked like she was. I more
blame my dad for not doing anything.

Anyway let me jump back to what started
this email which was the thinking that
it’s impossible to find a good doctor/therapist
for bipolar disorder and afford him/her.

This is NOT true.

People think it’s true because they try the
same old things over and over again and then
hope for a different result.

When it comes to finding a doctor/therapist
for bipolar disorder, I have a great system
in my courses below:

In my courses/systems below:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

This is NOT anything that you would have ever
seen before. It’s totally unique.

The system was created out of desperation.
You might have heard this story before
but I want to remind you.

Basically my mom had a terrible doctor who
took her off her main medication for
bipolar disorder. She went into a major
bipolar episode. She then went into the
hospital.

Then she was there and they could not get
her stable. Then they put her in an outpatient
program for many months.

Then she ran out of time in the program. They
have some kind of limit. Then one day she
said, “I am out of the program in a few
days, I need a new doctor.”

My dad looked at me and I looked at him.
He picked up the phone book. He called I think
three people. No one picked up. He left a vague
message like, “My wife has bipolar disorder and
we need a doctor.”

Several hours passed and no one called back.
He said, and I will never forget this:

“I guess there aren’t that many doctors in
New Jersey. It’s just not possible to find
a good doctor.”

Then he looked down at the floor and looked
depressed.

It was the strange thing to me.

I thought:

Why would you only call 3 doctors

Why wouldn’t you call back?

Why would you assume that because three people
didn’t call you back there are no doctors?

Why wouldn’t you think of something else?

How could you logically think there are only
3 possible doctors when in the phone book
there are more listed?

How could you think there were only 3 doctors
even if there were only 3 doctors in our phone
book (which there were not) and there are 9 million
people in New Jersey and 20 million in New York…
how does that make any sense?

BUT then at that point, I figured out that
bipolar had beaten my dad into submission.

He gave up a long time ago. He made up his mind
that:

-Many things were impossible

-Bipolar was too great and complicated to beat

-My mom would never really be better

-We couldn’t do this that and the other thing

-There was little to no chances of success

-He had tried everything over the years so
there were no options left.

It was strange thinking to me. I certainly
don’t think like this at all.

So basically, at that point, I knew there
had to be a new system, a new management team
in business terms, a new administration, etc.

So I kind of took over then.

I basically created a systems of finding
lots of possible doctors and therapists
for bipolar disorder, sorting through
them, having them qualify themselves
as to how good they really were and then
having them contact you the person looking
for them letting you know they are a possible
match.

I found my mom’s doctor and therapist using
my new system and the results were amazing.
My mom’s new great doctor immediately helped
her when all other bad or lesser people failed
for months and months and months.

From that, I learned over again that impossible
and can’t are deadly words that ruin a whole
lot of people.

I see it on my list and blogs daily. I can
kind of understand the person with bipolar
disorder who is not stable using this language,
but I can’t understand the bipolar supporter
or bipolar survivor who is stable using
it.

Today here is your homework for today. Make
a list of the following:

What do you think is impossible related to
bipolar disorder?

Why do you think that you can’t do because
of bipolar disorder?

What is holding you back from helping
yourself or your loved one?

Now after you do this, I want you to skip
the excuses and start to think:

I can do it
There is a way
There is someone who knows this
I can find a solution

STOP using words like can’t and impossible
and start using words like I can, I will do
it and it’s possible. Realize there is a
way 99% of the time.

Also, ask yourself:

Do I have a positive attitude generally
or a negative attitude?

People come to me all the time with impossible
situations. Well they think there impossible.
After a few minutes I give them a solution and
they are amazed. Many times I tell them it’s
because they were so focused on why something
can’t work or it’s impossible instead of how
it can work or it can be possible.

Make sense?

Anyway one have any stories of things they
thought were impossible and then turned
out to be possible? Post them on my blog
please.

Don’t possible any impossible stories,
because I have 10,000 that I have heard
and read 🙂

I have to go, catch you tomorrow.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Want your own copy of these daily bipolar
emails sent to you for F.ree? If so, visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/register3

P.P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

=>PLEASE FORWARD TO FRIENDS, FAMILY AND LOVED ONES <=
Hi,

How’s it going?

I hope you are doing well today.

First I want to say that for any
one who has my bipolar supporter
master course, there will be an
update to it or an “add on.”

It will be sent to your email.
It’s important that you listen
to this information.

I just learned it the REALLY, REALLY
hard way.

I don’t want you to have it happen
to you.

It’s far to complicated to write in
a daily email. I am currently
working on explaining what happen
and of course a counter or solution
to the problem.

I must say, this particular bipolar
problem really left me, for the
first time, unsure if there was a solution.

Then it hit me late last night. So I am
working on putting it all together.

NOTE-For anyone who gets my bipolar
supporter master course, this new information
will be coming with the course so
don’t worry. I have a system to
get this done.

Well that leads into today’s topic
of the shocking truth about doctors
and therapists.

What’s the shocking truth? Well it’s
that doctors or therapist can make
mistakes and can give bad advice.

Veterans in bipolar disorder might
say, “Dave, that’s not shocking to
me, I already knew that.”

Unfortunately, there are tens of thousands
of NON veterans on my lists.

I could have called this email,
the shocking truth about “professionals”
because the information will not only
cover doctors and therapists related
to bipolar disorder but all professionals.

Over the years, I have discovered that
many professionals can give bad advice
and recommendations.

Take a look at this:

-Look at the mortgage industry, that’s
the result of professionals giving
bad advice.

-Many argue that the war in Iraq is
the result of bad professional advice

-The collapse of the huge company
Enron was the result of professional
bad advice

-These days, banks are writing off BILLIONS
of dollars in losses from bad professional
advice.

Now this is all not related to bipolar disorder,
but everyday, I get emails, letters and phone calls
from people who tell me about how they were told
things like:

-Trusted therapist says a person doesn’t have bipolar
disorder for years

Reality=person has bipolar disorder, goes undiagnosed
for many years suffering. NOTE-therapists don’t
diagnose people, doctors do.

-Therapist says a person doesn’t have to have medication
changed.

Reality=therapists don’t make this determination, doctors do.
Person goes into mini episode than super episodes, husband leaves
her.

NOTE-Some therapists try to function as a doctor when
they aren’t one and aren’t trained to make certain
determinations and decisions.

-Doctor says a person doesn’t have to fill out certain
forms for disability

Reality=Doctor knows little to nothing about disability,
person listens, denied disability.

-Therapist says family is too hard on loved one, advises
family to back off and tells person she needs more
space

Reality=Family is disgusted. Leaves individual alone.
Person has bipolar, goes into an episode, there are
no supporters, person attempts suicide and almost kills
herself

-Doctor tells person with bipolar disorder to have
abortion because she is young and has bipolar
disorder and doesn’t have a husband. Doctor says
pregnancy will cause her to go into a super
episode.

Reality=person reads up on how to manage bipolar
disorder during a pregnancy, has baby, does
not go into super episode and is fine with a system.

-Therapist tells person with bipolar disorder
to stop working.

Reality=Doctor didn’t know therapist said this.
Doctor told person in past that working in a non
stressful job is critical to her well being.
Person stops working. Has no money.
Gets depressed. Loses job. Goes into
bipolar episode.

-Family doctor says a person doesn’t have
bipolar disorder.

Reality=Family doctor knows little to nothing
about bipolar disorder (psychiatrists do). Person
really has it. Person goes into huge episode destroying
her family and causing them all to leave.

THESE ARE JUST SOME OF THE STORIES.

How do you prevent this from happening to
you?

Well there is no easy answer but here
are some pointers:

-Take the time to find a good doctor
and therapist

In my main courses/systems below:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

I have a TON and I mean a ton of
information on how to find a good doctor
and therapist. I have an entire system. It
sorts through hundreds of them and has
the good ones contact you. It’s a f.ree
gift with my courses/systems.

-Have at least one backup doctor and therapist

-Don’t ask a doctor or therapist a question
outside their area of expertise. For example,
if you don’t doesn’t know about how to get on
disability, don’t ask him/her. If your doctor
doesn’t have a law degree, don’t ask him
her a legal question.

NOTE-I am NOT a doctor, lawyer, insurance
person or other kind of professional and I am
NEVER offering any medical or legal advice.

-Become informed yourself. Whether you are a
bipolar supporter or a bipolar survivor, educate
yourself. Talk to people. Ask the hard questions.
Challenge people. Get as much credible information
as you can and read, watch or listen to it.

-Think about how your decision will affect
things long term. Think about how it
all will connect together.

-Try to find someone else who has been
through the problem how he/she dealt with
it.

-Get a second opinion from someone
as qualified or more qualified.

So I want you to be careful. You have to
listen to the professionals but you also
have to be careful as well.

It might sound confusing but I hope that
you understand what I am saying.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Want your own copy of these daily bipolar
emails sent to you for F.ree? If so, visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/register3

P.P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

PLEASE FORWARD TO YOUR FRIENDS

Hi,

Here is the current Bipolar Disorder news.

Make sure you take a look at the news. It takes
a lot of time to put the news together so please
read it.

To see the news visit:

http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarnews361

There’s some really interesting news stories this week.
Take a look at them. Also, write me some feedback by
visiting my blog below.

Here are some of the headlines:

Is Britney mentally ill?
DO> Interesting article looking at mental illness

Researchers Discover How Lithium Works
DO> This is a great must read article.

Psychiatric Drug Treatment in Children: Is it Necessary?
DO> What do you think? Let me know.

Chicago author to shed light on bipolar disorder
DO> I am trying to interview this person

Cynthia Martin’s Solo Flight Addresses Bipolar Disorder
DO> Very interesting situation. What do you think?

For these stories and more, please visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarnews361

==>> Get Help with ALL aspects of bipolar disorder<<== Check out all my resources, programs and information
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Your Friend,

Dave