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How’s it going?
Hope you are doing well.
What a day yesterday was.
I got back from the gym and then I saw
and email that basically there was
a guy doing a presentation based on
my materials and some how it was said
that I didn’t want him to do this
presentation so it was stopped.
I couldn’t believe this. I was super mad.
I tried to contact the guy but it was
I hope he isn’t mad at me. After I am
done writing this daily bipolar
email, I am going to write him a letter
Basically someone told me this guy was
doing this presentation. I asked some
who works for me (does NOT have bipolar),
to find out who the person was and more
I thought it was strange that someone
was doing a presentation on some of my material
and I didn’t know the person. I just wanted
more information and I couldn’t do it
myself because I have 100 things to do
So basically some how that turned into
some service he was using stopping his
presentation. I have no idea how this
happen but it’s not fair to the guy
and I mad about the entire thing.
Anyway, I am going to write him a full
apology and I hope he understands. I am
going to ask him if there is anything I can
do to right this wrong and make it up
to him. I am kind of worried that he will
be really mad at me. I hope not.
Okay after that, I had a phone call with
a nice woman who had lupus and now is
trying to help others overcome this.
Then I got some great news. I didn’t
tell you this but I came up with this
incredible idea about two months ago.
I can’t get into it here but it would
help this organization and mental health
It would enable me to hire more people
with bipolar disorder, give away more
F.REE stuff. It was an incredible idea,
no to brag. I was, REALLY excited.
But it wasn’t going to be easy. There
were parts that I didn’t know how to
do. So I rounded up a bunch of people with
bipolar to help since there are super smart.
I also involved my attorney. Then I ask
my friend for help. Then he got his friend
to him me.
So basically last night I got some great
news that basically like 50% of this
great idea was all done.
I was really excited about this.
After I got the news, and was cooking
my 6th meal of the day, I got a call
from a friend.
I told her about my idea and what happen
and how great it was going to be.
Then it happened…
My friend said a bunch of negative stuff
about how I went about my idea like I
was obsessed with this idea and that
I was like, “Of course I am working hard
to get all this together because it
can make a huge difference for everything.”
Then I told my friend about the final
plans of the idea.
She totally shot it down and told me so
many reasons why the entire thing
was a bad idea.
I started to second guess myself.
Then I felt like maybe it wasn’t a good
idea. Maybe it was a bad idea.
Then I got mad because I told this
friend that she isn’t supportive.
The friend said that wasn’t true.
Then I was mad and didn’t say much.
I thought about when I first started
this organization and SO many people
said it would fail. Some vendors
told me I was insane. Some people
wouldn’t work with me because they
wanted nothing to do with anyone
connected to “Crazy people.”
I had one friend that actually encouraged
me to do this. He is totally positive.
I was like “you think it will work?”
I kept telling him that I wasn’t a doctor
or therapist and I am not a good writer. People
would make fun of me and not read any of
My friend who is super laid back was like
“dude, yea they will. Trust me dude, I know
they well. Just trust me dude. Just do it
I guarantee it will work dude.” My friend
uses the word dude a whole lot.
Anyway, no matter what you tell him, he will
tell you can do it. He is always 100% positive
all the time.
Anyway all the negative people started to drown
out what he was saying.
Then I asked Pascale who basically like a computer.
You give Pascale input and she outputs objective
reports. She is a like machine. Anyway I told her
the idea. She listed the pros and cons and said
there were way more pros then cons and said “do
So I did. And now you see what I have.
So anyway, last night, I needed to recharge so
I called a bunch of positive “doing lots of things
for society” friends and they were like, “no, man
your idea is great. Do it.”
This morning I sent the entire idea over to my
attorney for him to review and also another
attorney. I also sent it to someone else because,
well I am still a little worried.
BUT, I wanted to talk about something today
about how this relates to bipolar disorder.
Here’s the deal. First negative is way stronger
If you hang out with negative people, they
will bring you down. Period. If you hang out
with just a couple, and you have tons of positive
friends, the few negative will bring you down
and over come the positive ones.
Michele who works for me and I has bipolar
disorder told me just yesterday before
this happen how she taught all
her sons the 10 – 2 rule.
It basically states that if you are a
10 and you hang out with 2’s, a 2 won’t
turn into an 8 and you stay a 10, the 2
will stay the same and you’ll probably
drop down to a 4 to 5.
This is so true.
Losers attract losers. Losers bring
each other down.
I noticed over the years my mom had
two sets of friends. There were mania
friends and non mania friends. When my mom
was manic she wound up handing out and
talking to losers. I hate to say it
but they were. I know people will
get mad at me for saying that but
that’s what the were. Even my mom agrees
When she was no manic, she had intelligent,
hardworking “doing something on a daily basis”
Her manic friends actually made her worse
and worse and encouraged her to do things
-not take her medication
-leave my dad
-leave her family
-not go to the doctor
-not believe she had bipolar disorder
-quit her job
-and many other stupid moronic things
These days, part of my mom’s stability equation
is to avoid these people and to surround herself
by positive, smart and productive people–this is
an order from her doctor not from me (but
When you are dealing with bipolar disorder
whether you are a bipolar supporter or bipolar
survivor, you want to make sure you surround
yourself with positive people who tell you,
you can do it because you can.
One of the best ways to do this is to
listen to the success interviews in my courses/systems:
SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
I honestly think it’s impossible to listen
to the cds and not come away having tremendous
hope that things can and will get better. These
cds serve to provide fuel in your car on the
road of success to bipolar. Get and use the
Now, if you have negative people in your life,
I want you to lose them or limit your contact
A good exercise today is the following:
who are the people who bring you down and
are always negative and tell you stupid
counter productive things?
who are the people who are always upbeat and
tell you positive things?
Lose the first group of people or limit your
exposure to them. Talk to the second group
of people more and more.
Finally, when you are feeling down, make sure
you have something to bring you up. A good
book, cd, etc, can do the trick.
There is one business book that I have had for 10
years. It’s the book I always read when I am
down. I have read it more than 200 times
in 10 years. There’s a few pages that I read
that make me feel better during the worst
of times. I had to read those pages a whole
lot after September 11, 2001.
You need something like this as well.
Remember that negative is always stronger
Hey, let me know what you think. I have to
run and write that apology letter.
Catch you tomorrow. Oh, tomorrow is the bipolar
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