Bipolar Supporter Blog

Hi,

I hope you’re doing well today.

I’ve had a tough couple of days working on a bunch of issues with software and also advertising partners.

Anyway, we are working hard to get everything all straightened out.

Today I wanted to talk to you about something that nobody probably ever told you before:

The WORST thing you can do about bipolar disorder.

And that is NOTHING.

That’s right, the worst thing you can do about bipolar disorder is nothing.

Even if you do accept that you or your loved one has bipolar disorder (which is hard enough to do in itself), if you do nothing about it, there’s no chance for stability.

There are just certain things you MUST do to attain stability with bipolar disorder. You cannot simply do NOTHING!

It’s the same with life.

If you graduate with a high school diploma, yet learn nothing else, you’ll never go anywhere in life. I’m not saying you then have to get a college degree, but you still have to learn – you at least have to get trained in a trade, or else you’ll have to work in fast food for the rest of your life.

When you get married and want to have children, but learn nothing about being a parent, you
will have more problems than you can handle. You at least need to learn something about
being a parent to be a good one. You must learn something about children in order to raise them.

If you want to be in a healthy relationship, then you have to learn how to be a good partner. If you’ve had bad relationships in the past, then you have to learn from them. If you do nothing, you’ll just keep repeating the same mistakes over and over again, and you’ll never have a good relationship.

It’s the same with life lessons. If you’ve made bad choices and poor decisions in the past and didn’t learn the lessons you needed to in order to learn from them, then nothing changes. If you do nothing about them, you’ll just keep making the same mistakes over and over again. You need to grow and learn from your mistakes, but if you do nothing, you won’t.

There is a saying that goes, “If nothing changes, nothing changes.”

So, it’s the same with bipolar disorder.

If you do nothing, you’ll stay unstable.

If you’re a supporter and you do nothing, your loved one will stay unstable, because there’s a lot you do to help them manage their disorder.

You may not like the way things are, but if you do nothing to change them, then they’ll just stay the way they are. You can’t expect them to change by themselves.

Here’s an excerpt from a reading a friend showed me, and I think it relates to what I’m talking about:

“…unless I accept life completely on life’s
terms, I cannot be happy. I need to
concentrate not so much on what needs to
be changed in the world as on what needs
to be changed in me and in my attitudes.”

We can learn a lot from that.

For instance, you can’t change the world.

You may not even be able to change your circumstances, but you might be able to if you try. But if you do nothing, how will you ever know?

You can’t change the fact that you or your loved one has bipolar disorder. But you can change the fact that there is no cure for it just by learning how to manage it. If you do nothing, then the disorder is in control over you. If you do something, then you are in control over it.

You can’t do anything about what’s already happened. You can’t change the past. But you can do something about today. But if you do nothing to change today, it will be just like the past that you can’t do anything about. You can make today better, but not if you do nothing.

If you find that your attitude is negative, and you do nothing about it, it will affect everything
you do – your thoughts, your feelings, your actions, your reactions, your behavior towards
yourself and others. You can change your attitude if you want to, but not if you do nothing.

If you or your loved one with bipolar disorder are depressed and you do nothing about it, you are going to stay depressed. But you can change that by changing your attitude to a more positive one as well.

In my courses/systems, I talk about what you can do to change your attitude from negative to
positive, and how important that is to good management of bipolar disorder:

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You may not be able to change your loved one, but you can change yourself. But if you do nothing, you will still stay the same. And all of us need to be constantly growing, constantly changing, to better ourselves.

And this especially relates to bipolar disorder.

If you are a supporter, you definitely want your loved one to get better.

You want them to be stable.

But if they do nothing, they’ll never be stable.

If they don’t do the things they need to do to be stable, like if they don’t watch their triggers,
they’ll stay unstable.

And if you don’t help them to watch for signs and symptoms of an oncoming bipolar episode, then they won’t ever reach stability.

And here is the worst of the worst:

If you or your loved one see signs or symptoms of an episode and do nothing – if you don’t eport
them to the doctor or psychiatrist, say, then your loved one WILL go into that episode.

Do NOTHING, and you might lose EVERYTHING.

Agree or disagree?

David Oliver is the author of the shocking guide “Bipolar Disorder—The REAL Silent Killer.” Click Here to get FREE Information sent via email on how and why bipolar disorder kills.

Hi,

How are you today?

I want to talk about something serious today – something that can mean the difference between success and failure with your loved one’s stability with their bipolar disorder.

Something that can mean the difference between your success or failure as a supporter of a loved one with bipolar disorder.

Something that can mean the difference between even whether your marriage is a success or not!

It all boils down to one word:

DETERMINATION

This can determine whether:

1. Your loved one succeeds or fails with
their stability with their bipolar disorder.

2. You are a success or failure as a
supporter of a loved one with bipolar
disorder.

3. Your marriage succeeds or fails.

I guess you would say that DETERMINATION is pretty important then, wouldn’t you?

I think it is, anyway.

I’ve watched people with DETERMINATION accomplish some pretty incredible
things!

I have a friend who went to school to become a respiratory therapist.

A respiratory therapist is someone who helps people to breathe better – you know, people with lung problems like asthma, bronchitis, pneumonia, emphysema, and even lung cancer.

Here she was in college at 35 years old with four children, going back to school again, and she had never flunked a test in her life!

Well, respiratory school was really hard and, guess what? (scroll down for the answer)
She not only flunked her first test, but…
(scroll down for more…)
She almost flunked out of school, until…
(scroll down again)

The dean of her school recognized her DETERMINATION to learn what she needed to learn to become a good respiratory therapist and to help people, so… (scroll down for the ending)
He put her through a battery of testing, which showed that she actually had undiagnosed ADHD!
So she went on medication for it, and ended up graduating at the top of her class!

She worked as a respiratory therapist for many years, helping lots and lots of people, both children with asthma up to adults with end-stage lung cancer.

Until she was diagnosed at 45-years-old with bipolar disorder.

Still, she had DETERMINATION.

She wasn’t going to let the bipolar disorder beat her, so she learned how to manage it, and today lives a very stable and happy life.

DETERMINATION is a good characteristic to have, whether you have bipolar disorder or are supporting someone who does.

It is a positive characteristic, and positive characteristics (and a positive attitude) are some of the things I go over in my courses/systems below:

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With the same DETERMINATION as this woman had, your loved one can do the things they need to do to become stable with their bipolar disorder.

With that same DETERMINATION, you can become the best supporter of a loved one with bipolar disorder in the world!

And, with that same DETERMINATION, even a marriage where one of the people has bipolar disorder can still be a successful marriage (no matter what other people say)!

So, do you see now how important DETERMINATION can be?

In what ways has DETERMINATION affected YOUR life?

Have you surpassed other people’s expectations of you, like the woman in the story, despite the odds being against you (like having ADHD or bipolar disorder)?

If so, please tell us how you did it? It might help someone else to do it, too.

David Oliver is the author of the shocking guide “Bipolar Disorder—The REAL Silent Killer.” Click Here to get FREE Information sent via email on how and why bipolar disorder kills.

Hi,

I hope your day is going well.

Today I want to talk about responsibility.

For example, these days a lot of people who got bad mortgages blame the people who sold them.

The people who sold them, blame the people who got them.

Same thing with cars.

The people who buy them from a used car lot and then something goes wrong with the car, blame the people who sold it to them.

The people who sold it to them say they sold the car “as is,” and blame the people who bought
it.

Well, I see this in bipolar disorder too.

The people with bipolar disorder go off their medication.

Then they go into an episode.

So they blame the doctor for not telling them what would happen if they go off their medication.

The doctor blames them for not getting the right information to tell them what would happen if
they go off their medication.

Or they go into an episode and they blame their therapist for not treating them good enough.

The therapist blames them for not trying hard enough in therapy.

They blame the psychiatrist for not stopping the episode before it happened.

The psychiatrist blames them for not telling him that they were thinking they might be going into
an episode.

They blame their support group for not being there for them.

The support group blames them for not participating enough.

They blame their supporter for not noticing soon enough.

The supporter blames them for not listening when they told them that they noticed the signs of an impending episode.

The list goes on and on…

And who is really to blame?

Who didn’t take responsibility?

That’s one of the things I talk about in my courses and systems: What is the person’s responsibility, and what is the supporter’s responsibility.

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In the examples I used above, whose fault is it that the person went off their medication? The
person or their doctor?

Whose fault is it that the person went into an episode?

Whose responsibility was it to prevent the episode in the first place?

Is it the person with bipolar disorder’s responsibility to stay stable, or is it their doctor’s, psychiatrist’s, therapist’s, or supporter’s?

These people can all HELP, but is it really their responsibility?

No, the responsibility belongs to the person who has bipolar disorder.

They have to do the things that keep them stable.

They can get their doctor or psychiatrist to prescribe and moderate their bipolar medication.

They can get their therapist to listen to them and help them with issues surrounding their life and their bipolar disorder.

They can get their supporter to be understanding and supportive, and to help them in whatever way they can.

But they cannot ask these people to do things for them that they can do for themselves.

These things they have to take responsibility for.

Like taking responsibility for what happens during an episode.

Like taking responsibility for their own bipolar disorder.

Like taking responsibility for their stability.

What do you think?

Is it your responsibility or theirs?

Hi,

How are you today?

Today I want to talk about a lesson we can all learn from this quote I read:

“Work is more than earning money.”

Too many people equate work with having a job.

But I want you to see what this quote has to do with bipolar disorder.

Let’s replace the word “work” with “productivity.”

Now let’s talk about how important productivity is to someone who has bipolar disorder, like I do in my courses/systems.

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Someone who had to leave their job and stay at home because of their bipolar disorder no longer works for money, but they still need to be productive.

That’s because if they’re not, they could become bored, or idle, or stay in bed, or sleep too much, or become depressed, and all these things can become triggers to a bipolar episode.

So I think we can agree that productivity is important.

Well, that’s work!

Only it’s work without getting money for it.

Now, I could have said that it’s work without pay, but the pay you get can be more rewarding than money sometimes.

For example, if the work you do is to help your supporter around the house, then it’s rewarding, because you’re helping them not to stress out by doing too much by themselves.

It can also be rewarding because you’ll have a closer relationship by doing things together.

Your work can be your hobbies.

Your work can be just taking care of yourself and your family.

Another way you can work without getting paid is to volunteer.

You can offer your time, which is worth more than money.

If nothing else, volunteer to help at your bipolar support group.

This could be for supporters, too, because they usually have their own support group.

Or volunteer for an organization that could use your help.

There are many of these, such as Literacy Volunteers, where you help people to read who can’t read, or others who don’t know English very well and you can help them to learn it…

Or volunteer at your local Animal Shelter if you love animals…

Or help with the needy… or shut-in elderly people…

There is so much you can do that is rewarding, just by volunteering your time, that is worth more than money, and you will feel appreciated for whatever you do for a cause.

You can also do things that are productive for yourself.

You can keep a To-Do List, for instance.

Put things on the list that you want to do for that day.

(Don’t make it too long, because you don’t want to get too overwhelmed.)

Then, at the end of the day, you will feel a sense of accomplishment when you complete the things on your list.

Now, here there’s a difference between work for money and productivity as well, because you’re doing this for yourself and the management of your bipolar disorder.

This will help you to stay stable.

And sometimes working at a paying job does just the opposite – sometimes it makes you feel nervous, stressed, and anxious, which isn’t good at all for your disorder.

If you have children, being a stay-at-home parent can be work, as you know, and you don’t make money for it.

But boy can it be rewarding in other ways!

The lesson to be learned from all this is that work means using our time and skills to make things better for ourselves, those we love, and those around us.

What do you think?

Do you agree or disagree with the quote: “Work is more than earning money.”

What ways have you found this to be true?

David Oliver is the author of the shocking guide “Bipolar Disorder—The REAL Silent Killer.” Click Here to get FREE Information sent via email on how and why bipolar disorder kills.

Hi,

How’s it going today?

I hope you’re having a good day.

I have been having the worst time in the last few days dealing with a company I use for this organization called infusionsoft.

I can’t even begin to tell you all that went on yesterday. I spent about 8 hours on the phone trying to get things solved and figured out.

Anyway, my long running infusionsoft nightmare made me think about this topic today.

You know, we live in a country where there’s freedom.

And you’re probably just as grateful for that freedom as I am.

Many people have given their lives so that we could have that freedom – many still are, unfortunately.

But the US has many laws that govern it too, and we’re supposed to obey those laws.

There are penalties for breaking those laws.

It just has to be that way, right?

Or else everything would break down, and there would just be chaos!

I’m not preaching or anything, and I hope you agree with what I’m saying.

When we were little, we were taught that there are rules, and we have to obey them.

Our parents set down rules for us, and we were punished if we didn’t obey them, right?

Well, we had to obey them. We didn’t have a choice.

Some things we just have to accept in this world. We don’t have a choice.

Some things we just have to accept.

It’s like rules. We just have to accept them.

Well, it’s like bipolar disorder.

You just have to accept that you or your loved one has it.

But NOBODY said that you had to LIKE it.

Got that?

Yea, they say that you have to accept your disorder.

And I do teach in my courses/systems that you need to accept your disorder to manage it.
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You DO have to accept that you have bipolar disorder in order to manage it, in order to get stable.

But there is NO rule that says you have to LIKE it!

That’s not in the rule book!

What freedom there is in that!

That you can actually have the thought that you can accept the disorder but NOT LIKE IT!

I heard this young woman say that she deals with her bipolar disorder by separating herself from it.

She says that it’s easier to keep her own identity that way.

Like, she thinks of the disorder as a dragon, and she says she HATES that dragon, because she has to fight it every day.

But she can love herself, because she sees herself as kind of the damsel in distress that she has to
rescue every day from the dragon bipolar disorder.

It almost sounds like a fairy tale, doesn’t it?

With dragons and damsels in distress?

No, she’s not delusional, and she is very stable, as a matter of fact.

But she tells me that she HATES her disorder.

And I figure it’s ok for her to do that.

Because they say you have to accept your bipolar disorder, but they never said you had to like it!

That’s NOT in the rules!

Accepting your disorder, however you have to do it (not like how this girl does it is for everyone, each has to find their own way of coping with it) –

But accepting it is what you do have to do in order to become stable.

But asking you to like something like bipolar disorder is like asking someone with cancer to like their cancer!

Now, doesn’t that sound ridiculous?

Or asking someone with diabetes who, like us, has no cure, and has to take medication every day just to stay stable, if they LIKE their diabetes?

Ridiculous.

Do YOU like your bipolar disorder?

Supporter, do YOU like your loved one’s bipolar disorder?

You can accept something without LIKING it.

Agree or disagree?

David Oliver is the author of the shocking guide “Bipolar Disorder—The REAL Silent Killer.” Click Here to get FREE Information sent via email on how and why bipolar disorder kills.

Hi,

How are you?

I hope you are doing well.

Here is today’s news.

To read this week’s news visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarnews426

College Hospital to pay $1.6 million in homeless dumping settlement
DO> What do you think of this?

Cardiff researchers to test first online treatment for bipolar depression
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Alternative is great but not cure-all
DO> What do you think of this?

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Your Friend,

Dave

Hi,

I hope you’re having a good day.

In one of my companies I had someone who is working for start doing some odd things.

Nothing major, really. He just simply wasn’t around to pick up the phone when I called. He was always busy on the other line.

As long as I knew this person, this was different than normal.

It deviated from the norm.

I asked him what was going on and he told me there were some things going on that he had to take care of but it would be handled by the end of the week.

Well, at first I didn’t think much about it. I mean, everyone once in awhile does things that might be a little different from usual.

Like at first, I thought it wasn’t a problem, because he was just kind of busy, which happens to people in business. And even though it deviated from the norm, I didn’t really worry about it.

But then he also wouldn’t take my calls, so that was then 2 things, again deviating from the norm.

Then he said he had things to handle, but assured me that they would be taken care of by the end of the week.

Well, guess what?

You’re right. They weren’t. Three strikes.

Definitely deviating from the norm.

I was talking to Michele about all of this and we were talking about how important it is to look for the deviation from the norm when you are a supporter of a loved one with bipolar disorder.

What’s that mean?

Well, you start to notice things your loved one may be doing that aren’t what they normally do (or don’t do things that they normally would do).

At first it might be something small, like that your loved one just isn’t hungry, or starts skipping meals.

And even though it’s deviating from the norm, you’re not concerned about it, because it’s just one thing.

Then you notice that they’re not sleeping much. Again, this is deviating from the norm. But you may not worry about it because, after all, it’s only 2 things, right?

Does this mean there is an episode coming? Not necessarily, but possibly.

I talk about the signs and symptoms of an episode in my courses/systems, and how you need to be prepared in advance for one:

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SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
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SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
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HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
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But then say your loved one starts talking a lot, and really fast. Now you’ve noticed 3 things deviating from the norm.

And if they start asking for money to go spend? You know they are REALLY deviating from the norm, and at this point, you’re probably thinking they may very well be going into a manic episode.

So, being a good supporter, you start watching your loved one closely for any more deviations from the norm, because these could be signs and symptoms of an oncoming episode.

And just by noticing these things closely and being aware of them, you could help your loved one to avoid that episode.

Many supporters don’t do that. They may not even realize that you always need to be on guard.

They may not even notice when their loved one is deviating from the norm.

They don’t notice the first symptom out of the ordinary.

But like I said, this may not be anything to worry about, so that could be ok.

But then they don’t notice the second symptom, either – another deviation from the norm.

And if they miss the third symptom – yet another deviation from the norm – their loved one could very well go into a bipolar episode, and the supporter just shakes their head wondering why.

You have to be vigilant.

You have to watch for any deviations from the norm.

Sometimes they don’t mean anything, but other times they can be signs of an episode coming on.

Has this ever happened to you?

What did you do?

Were you able to keep your loved one from going into an episode?