Bipolar Supporter Blog

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Hi,

How’s it going?

Hope you enjoyed the bipolar news that
I sent out yesterday. If you missed it,
check my bipolar blog below.

Hey in the middle of last night,
I had this incredible idea about how I can
help people who can’t afford their bipolar
medications, therapy or treatment.

It’s going to require that I do a lot of work
for me but worth it. I envision the system
being released for f.ree in January.

Today actually I have to go to a far
away library to do some research for this
new concept I just thought of.

Okay on with today’s bipolar email.

I wanted to write you today about a rather
big problem that I see going on with some
people supporting someone with bipolar
disorder.

It all started yesterday when I
was talking to a friend in the gym.

It’s kind of funny. This friend
in the gym was on my list and didn’t
even realize that I was his friend
and it was my mom that had bipolar
disorder.

Anyway, he said to me, “Dave,
I am so annoyed. You know we lost
so much money because of her bipolar
disorder. If we didn’t lose all that
money, I would be so much further
along in life.” Then he went on
and on about his wife and all
her episodes and how problematic
they were.

I said to him, “Isn’t she doing
great and stable since you start
using the system I told you about?”

He said “yes but, we lost so much
money and time….” I cut him
off and I said, “you have to look
forward and stop looking back.”

There is NO question that bipolar
disorder can be super destructive
and a nightmare to have and to
help someone with it.

There is no question that it creates
financially stress and problems. There’s
no question that people with the disorder
usually spend years trying to get stable.

There’s no question that bipolar disorder
wastes a lot of time, energy AND money.

I have personally wasted a lot of time and money
on the disorder. You’ve read my stories
in the descriptions of my courses/systems
below:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

But here’s the deal. You have to MOVE
FORWARD and not keep dwelling on the
past.

Now there’s no question that you should
do what I call a PEA (post episode analysis)
and see what went wrong if a bipolar episode
occurred.

But you can’t keep saying:

if only we didn’t lose so much money
if only this episode didn’t occur
if only we caught the episode earlier
if only we didn’t waste so much time

I talk to a lot of bipolar supporters
who really spend way too much time
thinking about all they lost instead
of focusing on the future.

Focusing on past negative events becomes
a trap for many bipolar supporters.

With my mom and her last big bipolar
episode, I looked at the past to figure
out what happen and why I thought it happen
and then I just focused totally on the future.

My brother on the other hand, I remember when
he was talking to us, he would always say stuff
like, “Yea well, she’ll just go into another
episode again like she always does.” It was
almost like he was always living in the
past.

In my opinion, that’s the wrong attitude.

I once heard or read this somewhere:
YOUR PAST DOES NOT EQUAL YOUR FUTURE

I was talking to Michele Soloway yesterday
and she was telling me how it took her many
years to get control of all the different
disorders that she had and that for a while
she was kind of negative looking at the past
and feeling that since she didn’t have them
under control, she might not ever. Then
she changed her attitude and looked into the
future and started to imagine and think of
herself as being successful, stable and
not having the same old problem she always
did. As a result, she started actually
doing well.

I can’t prove this but I think when you keep
looking back at the past over and over again,
you almost create your own failure in the future.

My friend swears that he is going to
stop focusing on his negative past and
focus on a positive future. He also
did acknowledge that he should be very
happy that his wife is stable and doing
well.

I really would appreciate you posting
a story of how you went from looking
back in the past to looking to the
future.

If you have a story please post it on
my blog.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

PLEASE TELL YOUR FRIENDS

Hi,

Here is the current Bipolar Disorder news.

Make sure you take a look at the news. I really work hard to put it
together for you :).

To see the news visit:

http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarnews352

There’s some really interesting news stories this week.
Take a look at them. Also, write me some feedback by visiting my
blog below.

Here are some of the headlines:

Bipolar disorder treatment: What role do antidepressants play?
DO> Great article!

Homeless vet: ‘Someone’s got to clean this up’
DO> Very interesting.

What is bipolar affective disorder?
DO> Good review

Volunteers Sought for Stanford Studies of Bipolar Disorder
DO> Everyone should take a look at this and forward to anyone
you may know that is interested.

Living with bipolar disorder manageable with expertise
DO> So true…

For these stories and more, please visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarnews352

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Your Friend,

Dave

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Hi,

How’s it going?

I got this email, and I wanted to share it with you, because
the answer will show you something very important
to bipolar disorder.

Here’s the email:

“Dear Dave,
I’ve been depressed for three weeks now, and I’m
starting to get really scared. I’m afraid I’m going
into a depressed episode. The thing is, I have
nothing to be depressed over – I’m basically
really happy with my life. Nothing’s wrong that
I can figure out. No reason for me to be so depressed.
So why am I still so down? Also, even though I’m
sleeping, like, 10 hours a night, I’m exhausted all
the time! What do you think is going on? What
should I do?”
-Mary

First thing Mary should do is CONTACT
her doctor. This is VERY important.

I am not sure why, but many people
ask NON doctors medical questions. I
actually puzzles me.

If you have any questions about what’s
going on with yourself or your loved one
with bipolar disorder treatment or condition
contact the doctor.

This is very important.

I talk about “catching the bipolar episode.”
This is done by contacting the doctor right away
so he/she can figure out what’s going on.

Remember, I am NOT a doctor, lawyer, therapist
or other kind of professional and can NOT and
do NOT give medical OR legal advice.

With that said the reason I chose this email to answer is that
I don’t think this is so uncommon. From what people
tell me, sometimes people with bipolar disorder can
get depressed with seemingly no cause for the depression.

I asked Michele Soloway (she is just a writer
who writes for me and NOT a doctor, therapist
or professional) about this email from Mary
and she wrote:

“That’s because of the chemical imbalance itself. The
chemicals just flare up at times with no trigger.

Most times, we can point to a trigger as a cause
for a bipolar episode. When you get depressed,
like the person in the email, the first thing you
should do is look for a trigger, and usually you
will find one. But there may be times when you
just can’t find one.

Those are the times when you just have to accept
that, like you learned in the beginning, bipolar
disorder is a chemical imbalance of the brain,
and sometimes those chemicals are just going to
fire off on their own.”

In my courses and systems I teach a lot of how to
figure out what things cause bipolar episodes and
how to prevent them.

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

You can’t eliminate all bipolar episode
many I have seen that you can eliminate a lot
of them by working at it.

Finding out what causes a bipolar episode
sometimes is a process of elimination. Like
I said, first you look for a trigger.

So, say, you go to your doctor first, and the two of
you try to figure out if there was something
emotionally that set you off that maybe you
missed, then maybe you go to your therapist
and do the same if you can’t find the reason
with your doctor.

Then maybe you look for something physical.
Like the person in the email was saying,
about how they felt exhausted all the time.
There can be physical causes that can make
you go into an episode – like drinking too
much water can deplete your body of
sodium and potassium, confusing your mind.

Or dehydrating your body if you don’t drink
enough fluids. Or a thyroid condition. And
there are others.

It could even be your medications. Remember
you talk this over with your doctor. You don’t
figure it out yourself. Don’t make this deadly
mistake.

Only your psychiatrist will know,
and can advise you what to do about your medications.
I know I keep repeating myself but people
really need to remember and know this.

Keep a journal all the time. When you do that,
you can look back and start to get a good idea
of bipolar episode triggers.

Then you take what you learned and use it
for the future. The people who have gotten
really good at managing their bipolar disorder
do this and that’s how over time, they master
managing the disorder.

I would appreciate if some people post some
stories about how they used this process of elimination
in their own life.

Well, I’ll talk to you later.

Your friend,

Dave
–
P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

==>>Help with ALL aspects of bipolar disorder<<==
Check out all my resources, programs and information
for all aspects of bipolar disorder by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

Hi,

I hope you’re doing ok today.

What’s new? Well it looks like my
blog is finally working right.

Hey, you know, bipolar disorder is composed
of two parts. Mania and depression. That’s
the bi in bipolar.

People ask me what’s mania like? I don’t
know because I don’t have bipolar disorder.

BUT, I got this disturbing email, but I think
it’s really a good description of mania, so
I wanted to share it with you (I took out the
person’s name because that’s not important).

“Dave,

I hate bipolar disorder. I hate having it so
much because it practically ruins my life
every time I have a manic episode. It makes
me so out of control, and I don’t even know
what I’m doing, and what’s the worst is that
I hurt the people I love the most, because I
do and say stuff I normally wouldn’t do,
and then I don’t even remember it later!

And I hate that, because then they’re all mad
at me, or really hurt, and I don’t even know
what I’ve done, and then I feel really guilty
about it. And there’s no way I can make it
up to them.

I hate how I am in a manic episode, but I
can’t help it! I get really racy, like I can’t
sit down, and I’m, like, all over the place.
Everything feels like it’s going real fast.

I talk a lot, and I talk real fast. And I
always feel like I’ve got so much to say,
and that what I’ve got to say is so
important! And I’ve always got these great
ideas, and so many of them, and they come
so fast I can hardly keep up with them.

But when I’m normal, none of them are good at
all. When I’m manic, the plans I start just
never get completed at all, cuz they were no
good to begin with.

I hate feeling like I’m crazy, I really do, but
I do feel like that. That out of control
feeling. That’s what mania is like. Like
you’re crazy, out of control. And you do
things, like I said, you do all these great
(grandiose) plans, and sometimes they
might hurt other people, and you don’t
even realize it.

Like spending money. Like your family’s
money. A lot of it. Or the credit cards,
running up a lot of credit. But you don’t
think about the bills you (they) have to
pay later. And that hurts them, or makes
them mad at you.

I wish I could say it’s not my fault. I
wish I could say it’s the bipolar’s fault.
But I’m the one who has the disorder,
and I’m the one who feels guilty for
what I do when I’m in an episode.

And the worst part is, I don’t even
remember doing any of it!

—————-

This is a very accurate description of
what having bipolar mania is like, according
to what people with bipolar disorder
tell me. Michele Soloway read this
and said, “that’s mania described.”

It’s hard from a supporter’s point of view to
believe that the things that our loved ones
do are not their fault, or that they really
don’t remember what they did.

Sometimes we even believe they’re
faking it, that they really do remember
what they did, or they’re just using the
disorder as an excuse for unacceptable
behavior.

In my courses and systems I talk about
how to control mania and also what do
do if a loved one goes into a manic episode:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

You must try to prevent or stop
manic episodes. Bipolar supporters have to
do all they can.

That’s because we’re the ones who are
there when they do it, or we’re the ones
who get the credit card bills. But maybe
you can see now, from an insider’s view,
that it hurts them just as much. And that
they are not faking it.

Well, I have to go. Catch you tomorrow.

Your friend,

Dave
–
P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

==>>Help with ALL aspects of bipolar disorder<<==
Check out all my resources, programs and information
for all aspects of bipolar disorder by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

Hi,

How’s it going?

First I have to say, my bipolar blog is driving
out of my mind. Unfortunately there is
no medication for it 🙂

I don’t know what the deal is. For the
last two weeks, I can’t even post stuff
on it. They are suppose to be fixing it.

Please hang in there with me.

Anyway, today I wanted to write you an email about
the “bipolar crazies.”

As a side note, people have written me that
they think my bipolar terms are really funny. I am
actually making a dictionary of my terms and will
be sending one out to everyone so you can follow
along with what the heck I am talking about when
I use certain terms.

Okay back to the bipolar crazies. Let me tell
you what happen and why I got to thinking this.
something that happen to me.

Here’s the deal. I have been working on
a whole lot of new ideas to build this organization
even bigger.

I decided to make several investments in
many people who were SUPPOSE to be able
to help.

I paid a whole lot of money over the last
couple of months. Thousands of dollars
in consulting fees.

What did I get? Well I got some incredible
ideas but I got some really, really, really
disturbing crazy ideas. Ideas that seriously
were insane. These were from people that were
suppose to know what they are talking about.
These are NOT people who are unstable 🙂

I can’t even post some of the ideas they
are so crazy. Let me give
you an example. Someone suggested that I find
people not taking bipolar medications, fly them in
to a central location and hire researchers
to study them and how they do and I could
use this some how?

I asked 50 million times how this would help
me and how it made any sense. This expert
couldn’t explain and got mad that I was
questioning his idea. He kind of was like
“young kid, I have been around for many
years and if you can’t get it, sorry.”

I was like “whatever.”

This list is long and deep of the crazy
ideas that I get about growing this
organization designed to help people with
bipolar disorder even more.

After hearing yet another crazy idea yesterday,
I was thinking about this.

I was talking to my mom and telling her some
of the crazies I heard today. Then my mom
reminded me of all the crazy
things she heard about bipolar disorder over
the years–you can never be stable, doctors
kill people with bipolar disorder, there’s no
more than a couple dozen people with bipolar
disorder in New Jersey, she should divorce
my dad and move away from the family, she should
only take natural supplements for bipolar disorder,
people can catch bipolar disorder from her,
and on and on.

She was telling me that she never listened to 99%
of these “bipolar crazies” (my term of course 🙂
and if she did, her life would have been far worse.

This email server as an important reminder
that you have to educate yourself about bipolar
disorder and be careful not to follow ideas that
are untested, unproven, just plain crazy or
what I like to call bipolar crazies.

Just like me. Like I said, I get so many crazy
ideas brought to me about what I should do with
this mental health organization. Lots of marketers
come to me with totally insane ideas
that don’t make any sense.

I generally listen and then I ignore them all.

Here’s what you have to be careful of with
bipolar disorder. There are tons of people
that offer lots of advice that is plain
bad.

I have noticed a big increase in people giving
medical advice about bipolar disorder.

Oh now’s a good time to say:

I am NOT a doctor, therapist, insurance
agent, lawyer or any other kind of professional.
I am NOT offering medical, legal or professional
advice.

Notice with me, I never offer medical advice.
There are other sites that do by NON doctors.
My goal is to teach you how to find a great
doctor and ask that person your medical questions
not me.

In some cases, you can get bad advice from bad
doctors and therapists. If you feel that you aren’t
getting good advice or treatment you have to
find someone who can help you that is qualified.

I have heard of doctors falling asleep in front
of patients. Therapists recommending people
getting off their medications. I have heard
all kinds of crazy ideas. If you hear things
that don’t make any sense, just like I do,
you have to ignore it and find someone who
knows what the heck they are talking about.

This is why in my courses/systems below:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

I spend so much time teaching people how
to find great doctors and therapists. There’s
nothing worse than getting hooked up with someone
with no clue and has no idea what he/she is talking
about. The scary thing is, many people who say
they are experts may not be. So you have to be
careful especially when you are dealing with
bipolar disorder.

I encourage you to ask lots of questions, think
things through, challenge people when what they
are saying things that don’t make sense or giving
advice that seems like it might work against you
or your loved one with bipolar disorder.

Even challenge me. If you see my write something
that seems like it’s from outer space, challenge me.
I will tell you that everything I write, I have thought out
for a long time so I don’t get mad because I can
defend my points of view.

If people get mad when you ask questions or challenge
them a little it’s generally not a good sign.

So be careful of the bipolar crazies. That’s a really
funny term.

Hey, post some bipolar crazies below that you have heard
over the years so people can get a laugh for the
day 🙂

With that said, I have to take off and I will catch you
tomorrow.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

==>>Help with ALL aspects of bipolar disorder<<==
Check out all my resources, programs and information
for all aspects of bipolar disorder by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

Hi,

How are you?

Hope you had a good weekend.

Okay, today I wanted to talk about an important concept
for bipolar supporters called “separate the
bipolar.”

If you don’t you’ll really have a hard
time being a good bipolar supporter.

I got an email today from someone
that said:

“I am soooo sick and tired of my boyfriend.
He is bipolar and driving me crazy. He does
the craziest things. He was just diagnosed
with bipolar and it’s a nightmare. I almost
can’t stand how he is. Dave, what should I do?”
-Sally

I haven’t spoken to Sally and don’t know
her but her is what I am guessing. Sally’s
boyfriend is not stable and is creating
a lot of problems for her. She is probably
hanging in there hoping things will get
better. He is doing more and more crazy
things and it’s make her more and more
mad.

My advice to her is two fold. First
it’s to separate the bipolar. She obviously
saw something good in him to date him.
She has to focus on this and learned to
separate the part that she knows is
bipolar disorder.

One way to do this is, to think of the
bipolar disorder as a separate person that
inhabits your loved one.

Now don’t write me an email and say that
bipolar disorder is not multiple personality
disorder or dissociative identity disorder.
I totally know and understand that. But it’s
easier on you to think of it as a separate
person or thing and not as your loved one.

So when you do, it’s the bipolar that talking
and doing things not your loved one. This is
the strategy that I personally use and teach
others as well with great success.

The vast majority of people that don’t
separate wind up almost “going crazy” for
lack of a better word. They get mad. They
try to figure out why a loved one is doing
this or that. They try to rationalize with
the bipolar disorder. Eventually they
get so distraught, so frustrated, so angry,
so depressed they simply have almost like
a breakdown.

There’s been many a person that’s contacted me
that has been destroy by bipolar disorder. Most of
the time it’s because they failed to separate the
bipolar disorder.

Also when you separate the bipolar it kind
of becomes you versus the bipolar disorder.
It’s almost like a game in a way. A game
that YOU the bipolar supporter must try to
win.

Now as for my second piece of advice for Sally.
It’s simply do this: focus on getting your loved
one into a good doctor/treatment.

I am really shocked how many people don’t make
this the number one goal. I have met people
on my list struggling for a year and I ask
them, “what’s your biggest goal with your loved
one?” They can’t even answer.

If you have a loved one with bipolar disorder
that is struggling then your number one goal
has to be to get them into treatment.

In my courses/systems below, I talk about
all the ways to do this. Sometimes I kind
of wonder about people who can’t get a loved
one into treatment and don’t get my courses/systems.

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

I don’t push my material on people but it’s
really odd to me that some like to sit and
suffer.

Anyway with that said, if you are frustrated
with a loved one with bipolar disorder by
his/her actions, separate the bipolar
disorder and then see how you feel.

I am really certain if you do this, you’ll
feel much better.

Well I have to run. Talk to you tomorrow.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

==>>Help with ALL aspects of bipolar disorder<<==
Check out all my resources, programs and information
for all aspects of bipolar disorder by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

Hi,

How’s it going?

Hope you are doing well.

Yesterday I got two several
strange calls on my cell phone.

One was from a lady in a hospital.
She told me that she wanted to give
me a call and thank me for my information.
I guess she checked herself in after
reading a bunch of my materials.

Anyway, she said that she had a lot of
problems and used my solution finding
system that I spoke a lot about in
2005. She has been on my list for years
and told me it took her a while to
“get it.” I guess she meant that “it”
was to go and get proper treatment.

She said the hospital was nice and
she felt great.

NOTE-Some thing that hospitals are like
prisons. The hospital my mom went to
looked more like vacation spot Marriott
than a hospital. When I first went in,
I kind of felt that she had the better
deal than me 🙂

Okay so the second call that I got was
from some who was a bipolar supporter
and they were all mad saying how they
had been destroyed financially. They
needed immediate help and said I was
the last hope for them.

I told them to calm down and I pulled
over on the side of the road because
I felt bad.

NOTE-I normally don’t even take calls
like this because I really can’t but
I did.

I can’t tell you all I said to
this person but I wanted to talk to
you about problems and bipolar disorder.

If you have a problem and it’s related
to bipolar disorder, no matter how
big it is, do this.

It only works if this is a serious
problem and you are really, really serious
to fixing the problem. If not, don’t bother
wasting your time with this technique.

So here is what you do.

First thing I want you to do is assume
there is a solution. NO MATTER WHAT you think,
assume the solution exists.

Then I want you to get a sheet of paper.

Then I want you to write down the problem
on that sheet of paper.

Then I want you to start to write any ideas
on how to fix the problem.

I want you to do this twice a day. FIRST thing
in the morning and before you go to bed. EVERY DAY.
No matter what.

Do this daily until you have a solution.

Then twice a day, once in the morning and once
at night, I want you to say out loud the problem
having been solved and resolved.

For example, if you have a problem like this.
I can’t afford to pay for my bipolar medications,
then you would say in the morning and before
bed, “I am able to pay for my bipolar medications.”
or “I can pay for my bipolar medications.”

If you follow this technique, you will find a
solution very quickly. But you must follow
the system I gave you and not argue
with me. If you are skeptical try it for
21 days. That’s all I ask. It won’t cost you
anything and takes very little of your time.

After you try this, when you get success
write me at feedbacktodave@mentalhealthworld.net

Now, if you want to short cut things,
you can look into things like my courses/systems:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

When you go through my courses/systems,
you see that I had some really big
problems thrown at me. I remember
many times my dad or my friends would
say certain things were impossible.

I didn’t believe this. I followed
the system that I just told you and
came up with solutions.

Like when my mom was put out of the outpatient
program and we needed a GREAT doctor fast.

My dad called into the phone book and left
messages. No one called back. I have
said this a million times what I am
about to tell you.

My dad said and I quote, “I guess there
aren’t any more doctors in New Jersey.”

I was like, “Are you kidding me, there’s
three doctors in the state??”

After this, I thought up
my doctor finding system and the rest is
history. I was able to screen more than 450 doctors
and have qualified doctors contact me
letting me know they could help my mom.

I never once just sat around and did nothing.

I don’t know why but I was TOTALLY 100%
convinced my mom would get better. There
was NEVER any doubt at all. If you met
Pascale who works with me, she would tell
you that I never doubted. Pascale actually
would be the “historian” of this all. She
has been with me from square one.

She knows everything and how it all
progressed.

Bottom line is, I ALWAYS knew there was a solution
somewhere.

Some of the worst things that you can
do when you have problems with bipolar
disorder is:

-think there is no solution
-sit and just complain
-whine
-go on and on about how it’s not fair that you
have your problem

I am sure you get the idea.

Remember there is always a solution you just
have to have hope AND faith.

Well I have to take off. I am actually heading
over to my friends house. He actually bought
a new house and I am going to check it out.

I’ll catch you tomorrow. Have a great day.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

==>>Help with ALL aspects of bipolar disorder<<==
Check out all my resources, programs and information
for all aspects of bipolar disorder by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

Hi,

I have a very intriguing email for you today.
I learned it from a friend of mine, who learned
it from someone she knows who works in a
bank.

LESSON FROM A DOLLAR BILL

Do you know how they learn to identify a
counterfeit bill in the banking industry?
Instead of teaching bank tellers all the
different ways that a dollar bill can be
counterfeited, they do something else.

They teach bank tellers to know the ins
and outs and ups and downs of a dollar
bill so intricately and intimately, that the
bank teller would be able to tell if even
the smallest thing were “off” or different
on the dollar bill. From the most minute
detail to the greatest counterfeiting error.

And if they can do it with a dollar bill,
they can learn to do it with any
denomination of bill.

So what does this have to do with
bipolar disorder?

Just this – that you, the supporter,
should know your loved one and
his/her “normal” self, who they
are between episodes, SO well…
all their quirks, every aspect of
their personality, everything that
makes them who they are as an
individual…

That you would KNOW…
Just KNOW…
If even the slightest little thing
were wrong with them.

See what I mean?

In my courses and systems, I teach
people how to identify the signs and
symptoms of bipolar disorder in their
loved one:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

I also teach what triggers are, and
how to identify triggers in your loved
one, because everyone is different.

Once you have established and
intimately KNOW what your loved
one’s own signs and symptoms are, as
well as what their triggers are, it’s like
knowing that dollar bill.

THEN you can know, like I said before,
when even the slightest thing is “off.”
Imagine – think of all the pressure that
takes off you! You don’t have to
memorize so much stuff from a chart!
Or read and memorize stuff from 50
books!

You just have to learn the ins and outs
that apply to your loved one (like the
stuff I teach in my courses), and learn
them very, very, very well, so that you
will know when something is wrong.

Simple, isn’t it?

Well, I have to run.

Your friend,

Dave
–
P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

PLEASE TELL YOUR FRIENDS

Hi,

How’s it going? I hope you are doing
well.

First I wanted to tell you, I am hiring
a new customer service person.

If you OR someone you know is interested,
please visit:

http://www.bipolarcentral.com/applicationcustomerservice/index.htm

Okay, here is the current Bipolar Disorder news.

Make sure you take a look at the news. I really work
hard to put it together for you :).

To see the news visit:

http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarnews351

Please write me some feedback by visiting my
blog below.

Here are some of the headlines:

Bipolar treatments; Winter and blood pressure
DO> Great must read article

Awareness, decreased stigma lead to more bipolar disorder diagnoses
DO> I have spoken about this type of thing a lot.

Family history of bipolar affects decision to have children
DO> What do you think of this?

Bipolar Often Diagnosed as Depression
DO> I have been saying this for many years. Sad but true.

For these stories and more, please visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarnews351

==>> Get Help with ALL aspects of bipolar disorder<<== Check out all my resources, programs and information for all
aspects of bipolar disorder by visiting:

http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

Your Friend,

Dave

==>>Help with ALL aspects of bipolar disorder<<==
Check out all my resources, programs and information
for all aspects of bipolar disorder by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

Hi,

Well I am back from New York City
and my bipolar blog is finally fixed.

Sorry for the problems.

Also, thanks for all the feedback on
my seminar in New Jersey. I am reading
what everyone wrote. Thanks!

Some people had some great ideas.

Also, in reference to the seminar. I am
buying some software that is going
to help create a survey so at the seminar
cover what people want to cover. The software
is expensive but I know it will be worth it.

Today I have a subject that is kind of funny.
Well, it starts out funny, I mean. You know,
people are always asking where I get my ideas
for here from, and to tell you the truth, sometimes
I do get them from the weirdest places!

Well, today’s email idea comes from Michele,
and a story she told me about her dog. You
know Michele, she writes for me, writes a
lot of the articles for the newsletter?

Anyway, she told me this story about her dog.
She was sitting outside on her porch swing one
day, and her dog, that is part dachshund and
part hound (black), that was just minding her
own business in the yard, started going crazy,
because a rabbit came into the yard.

So her dog started chasing after the rabbit
all over the yard. And this went on and on,
with the dog chasing the rabbit, while Michele
watched. Well, finally the rabbit just hopped
out of the yard, because the dog was never
able to catch it.

The point being, what was the poor dog
going to do if she ever caught the rabbit?
Because this is a very docile dog, an inside
dog mostly, who has never even SEEN a
rabbit before! And definitely wouldn’t
know what to do with one if she caught
it!

Ok, I know I’ve rambled on and on with
this story, but there is a point, and it does
have to do with bipolar disorder.

Here’s the point.

So many supporters have asked me
about “catching” their loved ones in
episodes and behavior that results from
their episodes. You guys ask me all the
time about how do you know if it’s the
disorder or if it’s really your loved one’s
behavior, presumably to “catch” them in
their own bad behavior, and about loved
ones who blame their bad behavior on
the disorder, hoping to “get away” with
it.

Well, the point is, what are you going
to do once you do catch them?

In my courses, I talk a lot about having
systems and plans in place about what to
do about when your loved one is in an
episode, about how you can tell when it’s
the bipolar and when it’s your loved one:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

So, what DO you do when it’s the disorder
and not just your loved one “faking it”?
Is it like what would Michele’s dog do when
she caught the rabbit? Would you know what
to do?

You know what is weird? My dad still
doesn’t know what to do? Sometimes
I give him the easiest scenario and
he never really gets it right. I just don’t
understand J. I think it’s because
he knows that I will handle things.

Anyway, the thing is, you need to get with your loved
one when they are BETWEEN episodes, and
the two of you need to hammer out a plan,
a system, whatever, like what I teach in my
courses – something you decide TOGETHER,
about what you will do the next time your
loved one goes into an episode (i.e., when
you “catch” them not being themselves).

It’s better when it’s in writing, too, so you have
it to show your loved one in case they don’t
believe you, which sometimes they won’t
when they’re in the episode.

They have to have a say-so in what should
be done when they’re in an episode. So the
best thing is to draw up a plan together, and
make sure they sign it.

This idea has worked for a lot of supporters.
If it works for you, I’d love to hear about it!

Well, I better go. Talk to you tomorrow!

Your friend,

Dave
–
P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com