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Hi,

How are you?

Hope you had a good weekend.

Okay, today I wanted to talk about an important concept
for bipolar supporters called “separate the
bipolar.”

If you don’t you’ll really have a hard
time being a good bipolar supporter.

I got an email today from someone
that said:

“I am soooo sick and tired of my boyfriend.
He is bipolar and driving me crazy. He does
the craziest things. He was just diagnosed
with bipolar and it’s a nightmare. I almost
can’t stand how he is. Dave, what should I do?”
-Sally

I haven’t spoken to Sally and don’t know
her but her is what I am guessing. Sally’s
boyfriend is not stable and is creating
a lot of problems for her. She is probably
hanging in there hoping things will get
better. He is doing more and more crazy
things and it’s make her more and more
mad.

My advice to her is two fold. First
it’s to separate the bipolar. She obviously
saw something good in him to date him.
She has to focus on this and learned to
separate the part that she knows is
bipolar disorder.

One way to do this is, to think of the
bipolar disorder as a separate person that
inhabits your loved one.

Now don’t write me an email and say that
bipolar disorder is not multiple personality
disorder or dissociative identity disorder.
I totally know and understand that. But it’s
easier on you to think of it as a separate
person or thing and not as your loved one.

So when you do, it’s the bipolar that talking
and doing things not your loved one. This is
the strategy that I personally use and teach
others as well with great success.

The vast majority of people that don’t
separate wind up almost “going crazy” for
lack of a better word. They get mad. They
try to figure out why a loved one is doing
this or that. They try to rationalize with
the bipolar disorder. Eventually they
get so distraught, so frustrated, so angry,
so depressed they simply have almost like
a breakdown.

There’s been many a person that’s contacted me
that has been destroy by bipolar disorder. Most of
the time it’s because they failed to separate the
bipolar disorder.

Also when you separate the bipolar it kind
of becomes you versus the bipolar disorder.
It’s almost like a game in a way. A game
that YOU the bipolar supporter must try to
win.

Now as for my second piece of advice for Sally.
It’s simply do this: focus on getting your loved
one into a good doctor/treatment.

I am really shocked how many people don’t make
this the number one goal. I have met people
on my list struggling for a year and I ask
them, “what’s your biggest goal with your loved
one?” They can’t even answer.

If you have a loved one with bipolar disorder
that is struggling then your number one goal
has to be to get them into treatment.

In my courses/systems below, I talk about
all the ways to do this. Sometimes I kind
of wonder about people who can’t get a loved
one into treatment and don’t get my courses/systems.

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
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http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

I don’t push my material on people but it’s
really odd to me that some like to sit and
suffer.

Anyway with that said, if you are frustrated
with a loved one with bipolar disorder by
his/her actions, separate the bipolar
disorder and then see how you feel.

I am really certain if you do this, you’ll
feel much better.

Well I have to run. Talk to you tomorrow.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
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P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
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