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Bipolar treatments; Winter and blood pressure
DO> Great must read article
Awareness, decreased stigma lead to more bipolar disorder diagnoses
DO> I have spoken about this type of thing a lot.
Family history of bipolar affects decision to have children
DO> What do you think of this?
Bipolar Often Diagnosed as Depression
DO> I have been saying this for many years. Sad but true.
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I just wanted to say you are very right about planning for the future. Everyone should be prepared for the possibilities of job loss or hospitalization or even unexpexted debt even if your loved one doesn’t have bipolar that is just common sense.
My husband was diagnosed bipolar this summer and was tough. It’s better now and it would be easier to pretend things will just go on like this forever, but ignoring and hoping got me in the mess I was in to begin with. Thank you for the e-mails they really helped me know that I was not crazy. Like you I found so much crap out there and there is not enough positive stories for married people.
On the subject of kids – my first thought was what have I done. We have five kids. Someone should have told me sooner. As my husband was diagnosed everyone in his family came forward with teenage stories and things that they notice many years ago and I was angry at first because they are his family why didn’t they help him. I realize even now they just hope for the best but ignore reality. My husband is so thankfull that I am pushy and dedicated. I love him and even after the discovery of his drug use and other things. I have stood by him I realize that he needed help not critism. With the help of wonderfull thearapist who reminds us regularly that depression is like his mistress that doesn’t want him with his family. She alway refers to it as a thing almost living and breathing a tangable item that you can deal with. The medicine has been more work, no mental health insurance but working on it. I am terrified about my children but then again if one of them gets sick I have the power and knowledge to help them and they won’t go through what my husband has had to endure. If you don’t have children and you are in a bipolar relationship you need to decide what kind of person you are and I believe that God only gives you the thing you can handle. My husband is one of five children and only he has the disorder. Don’t miss out on wonderfull because of fear and lack of knowledge.
Thank again for all of your help.
I read the article about people choosing not to have children due to a family history of Bi-Polar disorder. I have always went back and forth about having kids cause I wasn’t sure if I would have the patients for them. As I got older, I leaned more toward not having them. When I met my husband, he didn’t really want kids either. I hadn’t been diagnosed with bi-Polar yet, and my relatives who suffer from it never spoke of it, so my decision wasn’t based on the risk of passing it to my children. After my husband and I had been dating for about 6 months, I was diagnosed. It was kind of a relief that I finally had an answer for the “roller coaster” life I was used to. After I was diagnosed, and my husband, and I had done tons of research, we made a definite decision, together, not to have kids. We have been married for over 2 1/2 years, and we are still battling the disorder. I have had periods of steadiness, but I still have episodes. We are very glad that we chose not to have kids. It’s hard enough just dealing with my Bi-Polar. I can’t imagine throwing kids into the equation. I am blessed to have a husband who is totally supportive, and goes to my doctor’s appointments with me so he can tell my doctor any changes in my mood or behavior that I may not notice. I think that if we had kids, it would be too much for either of us to handle, and could end up with an unhappy ending. Together, we made a great decision.
HELP!!! I’m going to leave my husband!!I can’t take this anymore!
He won’t get help,go to the doctor.He states that nothing is wrong with him and that I need to go to the doctor not him. I feel like I’m going to lose my mind and so are my kids!! They don’t need to go through this,this isn’t even their father! Do I stick it out because I love him or do I just give up? Please help me!!!!!
Desparate,
Martyka
Do you love your husband? Martyke at least afford him the oppurtunity to be medicated. Your children can go to relatives that care for your husband. In this country we give better care to needy animals than we do with loved ones with bipolar disorder. Please, get him stable than sort out the dirty linen. James
David, I think your notes every day help me. I send them to my mom and read them to my dad. Your views and concerns are important. I was diagnosed with bp abouy 2 yrs ago by one nurse, then another came in and I just found out she wasnt treating me for my bp. But I was still on meds. After reading your letters and the current news I found it in me to confrount my nurse after being in a couple of episodes. So thank you.
Danielle
My 29 yr old son decided to never have children at 22 when he found out it run in families. He said he doesn’t want anyone to suffer like he has.
kaprona,
Get a tape recorder out, or a video camera and record his episodes. Play them back when he seems stable. It is hard to argue with a tape recorder.
Thanks for the fast response!!! but my husband is taking zanac and lexapro. This is the only thing that the doctor prescribed to him. I went with my husband to the doctor and explained what was going on and how he was acting (his mood swings/behavior). I have been with my husband for 10years and things are getting worse every second. How do I get him to go to the doctor. I tried telling him to go, him and I together. But he says he doesn’t need to go!! and that he is not going. So I can forget about it. Things are so bad that I don’t even care to take any of my personal things…NOTHING! Thats how fast I want to get out unless he gets help. And Please don’t get me wrong, I LOVE MY HUSBAND with ALL my heart and soul! I’ve stuck with him for this long, doesn’t that mean anything? Cause I sure don’t mean anything to him! I don’t want to sound evil but I am going CRAZY!!!!!! All I want is my husband back and to be happy.I just don’t know how to get him help or to a doctor.
kaprona,
It took every single member of my family from around the country ganged up on me in a conference call to get me to see a doctor. I still didn’t think I needed help, but went for “their sake”. Of course, they were right… and I was clueless.
kaprona,
I looked over the web for info on those two drugs. From what I can tell, they stand to make bipolar worse.
Bipolar patients are notorious for going to their doctors and misrepresenting their mental states. This is one of the reasons that it takes so long for some to be properly diagnosed. Once upon a time they put me on some sort of valium clone, paxil and all sorts of the WRONG things for a bipolar case because all the doctor had to go on was how I was coming across in the controlled environment of the doctors office. Go with him to the doctor, if the doctor will let you. Play tape recordings for the doctor, dig up things that he wrote to show the doctor.
The hardest part of helping someone you love is to turn and walk away. The basics rights of a person with bipolar disorder are to get medical attention at the least. I have had numerous episodes since 1968. That is 39 years of at least one person looking out for me. I could go through a plentiful of friends, co-workers, family that were alienated by me. With that said I was not shut out from medication that I so badly needed at the time. The first line of help comes either directly or indirectly from the spouse. When the time comes involuntary admittance is the move that should be made last. James
kaprona
my husband takes lexapro and the first time he took it it worked great then stopped and we later learned that often you need a mood stableizer for the medicine to keep working correctly. So an antidepressant as well as a mood stablizer my husband takes seroquil for that but it has side affects like all of them. I have learned that there are so many and it is frustrating finding the right ones. My suggestion on getting your husband in to the doctor is find one that your both comfortable with. If that’s not the problem then maybe a counselor for yourself to give you ideas on what you can do to purswade him to go and they be able to help you with the problems you are dealing with. Find someone that is pro marriage and understands bipolar. Be selective. Don’t be afraid to ask lots of questions and move on if it’s not for you. I have been there and it’s so scarry and so lonely. I wish you the very best.
Dear David,
Thank you for the link to the latest BPD news. I got a lot out of it that I’d not known before. Of course there is so much more to learn about this disorder almost every day it seems. I live it. I just hope that someday there will be another way than experimenting on our bodies with psyche drugs. Right now I’m suffering again on new meds that AGAIN are not the right ones for me. This is getting to be the pits. I hope they work good on someone else.
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David, I cant believe that you would charge for us with bipolar or any other mental illness the “tricks and trades” of how to receive Social Security Disability. There are no tricks!! I applied and received it the first time I applied. I am a nurse and have bipolar. It is funny I could not find a blog for us to make comments about SSD. Just a link on how to BUY your course. How can people afford your course if they cant get SSD. I am leaving my comments on this blog “Supporters of Loved ones with Bipolar Disorder” I care and it is for free. Contact me and I will walk you through how to get SSD with no “tricks or the trade” Thank you Sandy
HELLO DAVID;HAD I KNOWN THIE WAY BIPOLAR HAS DEVISTIATED MY LIFE I NEVER WOULD HAVE HAD MY 3 BEAUTIFUL CHILDREN, AT BEST IT HAS BEEN AN UNHAPPY EXISTENCE,I HAD SO MUCH DEPRESSION.I BECAME ILL JULY 1955/ THEN THEY DIDN;T, IT IS OVER 52 YEARS THAT I HAVE BEEN FIGHTENING THIS AWFUL DISORDER,KEEP UP WITH WHAT YOUR;E DOING ;EDNA INDIANA