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Hi,

How it going? I hope you are doing well.

I wanted to talk about something rather
interesting it today.

I was talking to someone who wanted
to do some work for me. She said, “
I suffer from bipolar disorder, but
I am stable and can do well.”

I asked her the following question,
“Do you really suffer from it?”

She said, “umm well yea I do.”

I said, “you really still do? How
are you stable and still suffering?”

She said, “well I don’t mean that
I am really suffering on a day
to day basis like in torture. It
use to be torture but now I have
it under control.”

I then asked her if she thought
that language is powerful and
if she kept saying she suffered
from bipolar disorder, it would
make her worse…even just a
little.

She thought about it and said,
“you’re right, I don’t know why
I said that, I don’t really suffer
from it. It’s kind of an advantage for
me since I learned how to manage it.”

So then I said, “why do you say
that you suffer then?” She said,
“I don’t really know.”

I said to her that it was interesting.

From then we talked about the job
requirements.

But then I thought how I wanted to send
out an email talking about the power
of language and how people can wind
up saying stuff that creates problems
for them.

In my courses/systems below:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

I talk about this a lot. Also, when
you get my courses/systems, and you
listen to the success interviews,
you’ll notice that people never
speak negatively whether they
have bipolar disorder or they
are a supporter.

BIPOLAR SUPPORTERS SAY

-My loved one is always in an episode
-He/she will never get better
-Bipolar disorder is a nightmare
-Bipolar always ruins our holidays

THOSE WITH BIPOLAR SAY
-I can never get better
-Doctors only care about money
-Therapist only want your money
-I am never stable
-I’ve tried every medication and nothing
works (this is super common)
-Bipolar disorder destroyed me

I am sure you get the idea.

My statements actually become what’s
called the self-fulfilling prophecy. Which
is when you actually speak into existence
something that was not previously reality
into reality.

The person that tells him/herself over and
over again he/she is no good at math becomes
no good at math. I am sure you know people
like this.

Today you should make a list of negative
things that you say and systemically work
to stop saying them. Replace them with
positive affirmations.

-My loved one can get better
-I can manage bipolar disorder
-Bipolar disorder is a serious illness
but it can be managed with proper medication
and treatment.

Etc.

Make sense? Let me know your thoughts
about this.

Your Friend,

Dave

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You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
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Hi,

How’s it going?

I hope you are doing well today.

Lots of posts yesterday about my
question that I posed to you.

If you missed it, please read the blog
below.

Today I wanted to tell you about this
divorced woman that I met.

I was talking to her on the treadmill which
I spend a whole lot of time on.

Anyway, she started talking about politics
and then I told her that makes my head hurt
so she stopped talking about that.

She started talking about how society has
changed and many people aren’t into commitment.
She told me how she was divorced. She was about 55
or so years old.

She warned me about what kinds of woman to
avoid if I wanted to be happily married.

I asked her if she ever thought she would
get married again.

She said, “honey, I would like to but
but they have to pass my tests?”

I was like, “what tests?”

She was like, “honey, I have a bunch of tests
that have to see how they act. If they
fail then I am gone.”

I said, “yea what kind of tests like
SATs or the LSAT?”

She looked at me like I was crazy. It was a
non funny joke :). I knew she wasn’t asking
them math, English and science questions.

So she said how she had all these little
tests.

Here are some of them. She would ask
questions and put the guys in situations
that required them to make decisions. She
would rate the decisions.

Things like:

Would a guy drink and drive

Would the guy do drugs?
(she didn’t really explain how she tested
him for this).

Would the guy return her calls
in a timely fashion

She then said she had a cheating
test. It involved her asking a person
she was dating about a situation with
someone cheating. Based on the answers
she received, she was 98% confident
she could tell if this person would
cheat on her.

She had “lazy test.” I didn’t
really understand how she did
this test as well.

She had a “are you putting on
an act test.” Again, this one
confused me.

Now you might be thinking….this
woman is harsh or how can she know all
this or what the heck does this have to
do with bipolar disorder.

All great questions. First, since I was
DEAD tired doing cardio, I was paying attention
but I missed some key parts. Plus it’s loud
in the gym. But she seemed confident in
her “testing her man system.”

So I told her what I did for a living. All
the different businesses I had. She looked at me like
I was crazy. She didn’t know what bipolar
disorder was but she knew what depression
was. She said that her last husband depressed
her 🙂

Anyway I told her how I liked to test my
systems, doctors and therapists.

She asked what I meant.

I said for example, I will fax a doctor
information that’s important and ask for a
response.

This tests:

Do they read their faxes
Do they respond to their faxes
Do they lose faxes
Do they know what they are talking about

Same thing with the therapist as well.

I also do it with voicemails. I test
response time. I test follow through.

Do you know how many tens of thousands
of people on my list tell me that
their doctor or therapist NEVER get
back to them with an emergency. It’s
so common that people start to believe
it’s the norm. You might even have a story
like this.

I also use to (not so much now), run
tests of my systems in my head to see
what would happen.

I have real world experience with
test results. All of what you find
in my systems/courses below

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

is the result of real practical testing of
what works and doesn’t work.

It is NOT theory. There is nothing
worse than an unproven theory. Know what
I mean? I mean when you need to know
something and someone just throws out
something that know one has ever done
or used and you try it and it’s a disaster.

I use to “run scenarios” in my head
and tests to see how my systems would hold
up.

I would ask myself….

What would happen if my mom went into a
super manic episode today. Who would do
what, when, how? What would my dad do?
What if my mom undid all the medical
releases that I didn’t have. What would
happen if her doctor retired. What
happens if her therapist quits?

What happens if my mom tries to
spend all her money again?

What happens if my mom tells everyone that
I can’t talk to them about her disorder.

I have solutions to all these potential
problems. All as a result of tests conducts
over the years.

I like to tests many people in the system.

For example, I test the pharmacy. I might find
some important information in a book
that they should know, like such and
such medication should not be taken in
the morning or at 4:00pm. I will ask
general questions. Check the responses.
If the responses make no sense, then
I know I have a potential problem.

You could say something like, “so it’s
okay to take this just once with alcohol
right?” If you hear, “oh sure, it’s
okay just once” run for the hills.
Because it’s NOT okay to take medication
with alcohol, just once.

I find that with bipolar disorder, that
a whole lot of systems, people and
places you thought you can count on totally
break down in the time of a bipolar
episode.

I like to test a lot of it ahead of time.

This lady said, “that sounds really interesting
honey…it sounds like a good smart idea. It’s
just like I do with my dates?”

NOTE-I don’t know why she kept calling me
honey. I kept telling her my name was
Dave. Sometimes she called me Steve however
🙂

I have no idea 🙂

I think everyone should consider doing
this. You don’t make it a big deal. You don’t
burden anyone you are testing but you throw
out some tests. See how people respond
because if they don’t response well in
the good times, they probably aren’t
going to be helpful in the bad times (
when bipolar episodes occur).

Check the systems as well. You can
run through things in your head.

Hey, I have to run.

Your Friend,

Dave

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Hi,

How’s it going?

I actually have to head off to the gym.
I am doing cardio this morning because
I am going to be missing some of it next
week.

Anyway, I wanted to drop you a quick email
about something.

Oh I almost forgot something. I have
this Special Offer that ends tonight.

You can check it out here:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarbusiness2

The strange thing is, I can’t post the words
that describe it because of the darn s.pam
filters. So I figured that I would just
post the link.

Anyway, back to what I was saying…

It (what I was going to talk about) was something
that I was going to ask you the
other day but something else came up.

Someone posted the following post on my blog.

BabyJ87 said…
I would like to know why you are only really
posting success storys. There are so many people
out here including me who aren’t success storys,
and get sick and tired of hearing how well others
who have help are doing. Some of us can’t get help
and don’t like to hear only success storys.

Sometimes it helps to show people what can happen
when you don’t do the things you need to to gain
control over bipolar disorder. Which brings me to m
y next question. Is there anyone out there who
can give me advice on how to deal with
bipolar disorder during pregnancy?
I can’t really take meds, and if I could
I wouldn’t be able to get them anyway.

============================

I actually scheduled a meeting with my key
people that work for me that have bipolar
disorder and read this post to them and
asked what they thought.

The question is, “should I post negative
or “so and so isn’t doing well stories”
on an ongoing basis?”

What do you think?

Please post responses on my blog below.

I will tell you, here is what I think.
There are TONS of negative stories out
there. Just type in murder and bipolar
or suicide and bipolar or homicide and
bipolar or killed and bipolar into
any search engine and you’ll find a ton
of non success stories.

When I first started this, I use to get
serious hate mail from people saying
that my Friday news was way too negative
and that I was being negative. If you’ve
been on my list for years, you might
remember me defending myself and posting
a letter saying that:

I don’t make the news
I don’t create the news
I don’t filter the news

I simply post the bipolar news. After
that, I started getting a lot less
hate mail and death threats on this
subject.

But, when I started this, I quickly
found out that many people with bipolar
disorder do VERY well. They can be your
lawyer, your boss, your best sales person,
or someone else really smart, creative
and doing well–you just don’t know it.

Why? Well because they don’t have a marker
on them that says, “bipolar.” With that
said, my goal was to find people who
weren’t a success and became a success
and then talk about them. Ask them questions.
Find out what they are doing. Let others
learn from them.

In my courses/systems below:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

You’ll find that I went out and found
all kinds of success stories. These
are:

people with bipolar disorder that were
previously not doing well and now are
doing well

people who were supporting adults with
bipolar disorder that were previously
not doing well and now are doing well

People who are supporting children
less than 18 years old that were not
doing well and now are doing well.

With that said, my goal was to always
find people and then figure out what
they are doing and then teach everyone.

Then it’s up to you, to model their
success. What the heck does that mean?

It means that you look at them and simply
start to do what they are doing so you
can get the same results.

Here’s the deal. If you are struggling with
bipolar disorder whether you are a supporter
or a person with the disorder and you are
struggling over an extended period of time,
it’s because your plan or strategy is not
working well.

What do you do? Do you get super mad and
then run off and hide in a corner? No. Do
you simply just throws your hands up in the
air and say “this is not fair, I hate life.”
No. Do you keep doing the same thing over
and over and hoping for a different result?
No.

What you do is change your strategy. You
do this by finding a different one. Where
do you find a different one? You either
invent it yourself or learn from someone else
and them model the person.

I know that people don’t have the time to
take off a year from work like I did. So I go
out and find the success stories and talk about
them so you can learn.

The alternative would be to find non success stories
and talk about them. If I did that, what would be the
point? Would it be so people could model failure?

Now these are all my opinions, you may think
otherwise.

Please post your thoughts. BUT, please do not
attack the woman that made that blog post. She
is asking a legitimate question and no one
should attack her personally. Okay?

Well I have to head to the gym. Catch you tomorrow
morning.

Your Friend,

Dave

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one is designed to help you with a different
area of bipolar disorder whether you have it or
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Hi,

How’s it going?

Hope you are doing well.

I wanted to tell you something that
happen to me yesterday.

I got a call from a woman who as crying
and saying that her husband was totally
out of control.

Here’s what happen.

Her husband has bipolar disorder
and is normally a super nice guy. But
when he goes manic, man does he go
manic.

Her husband punched her in the face
the night before.

And that same day he threatened to kill
her.

She was really afraid.

I told her to call the police and to
get away and that he could do something
really bad because he is not in his right
mind. I warned her that until he was on
medication, her life was in danger.

She said she didn’t know how serious
bipolar disorder was. She told me it was
only my site that she found that suggested
it was really seriously. She didn’t know
the importance of medication.

When she asked someone in the hospital
how serious bipolar disorder was, she was
told not really that serious.

Imagine that.

Now that brings us to something…

You know, I have been asked over and
over and over again about some bipolar
conspiracy.

Well, let me tell you about THE REAL
BIPOLAR CONSPIRACY.

People ask me if drug companies are
trying to over medicate those people
with bipolar disorder. If it’s a sort of conspiracy.

I don’t believe this.

I think the real conspiracy (if there is any)
is that very few people tell people with
bipolar disorder how serious the disorder is.

All the people are told is that bipolar
disorder isn’t serious and you have to take
medication for the rest of your lives.
They aren’t told things like that you can
become homicidal or suicidal!

I have spoken to doctors and therapists
that will not take a firm stance on
medication. They tell me, “you can’t
force anyone to do something.” I agree
but you should be firm.

I will always tell people what they need
to hear not what they want to hear. Some
people with bipolar disorder want to hear
they don’t have to take medication but
they need to hear they have to take
medication.

In my courses/systems, too, I have been
told that I’m pretty straightforward, and
I don’t paint a pretty picture. Again,
that’s because I tell people what they
need to hear and not what they want
to hear:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

So is it the drug companies that are
pushing people to take their medication?
Are they trying to over-medicate them?
Is there some kind of conspiracy?

I don’t think so.

Pharmaceutical manufacturers
(drug companies) are making
billions and billions of dollars a
year on selling bipolar medication
alone. Why would they want to
jeopardize that?

They have to answer to the FDA,
the watchtower groups such as
NIMH, NIH, consumer groups, etc.
who hold them accountable.

What do they need with a couple
billion dollars more if it means
losing what they already have?
They just aren’t going to do that
by some kind of bipolar medication
conspiracy – it just isn’t logical.

Medication companies are very
closely watched. They are always
in the news if they do even the
slightest thing wrong.
But the people who underestimate
bipolar disorder and how serious it
is, how it can make you homicidal or
suicidal, and who don’t tell people
who have it that information, there’s
no one watching those people!

Those are the people who we should
be watching, not the drug companies.
The truth about bipolar disorder and
how important it really is to take your
medication should be getting out more
than it is.

If more people knew the real truth
about the disorder, more people would
be more careful about taking care of
themselves and their loved ones, instead
of worrying about some non-existent
drug conspiracy.

Your friend,

Dave

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different programs I’ve put together… each
one is designed to help you with a different
area of bipolar disorder whether you have it or
you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

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that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

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Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
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Hi,

I have had a ton of people write me recently about home
businesses and which ones to start. Why? Well bipolar
supporters want to make extra money. People with bipolar
disorder want to make extra money. Since I started
this, I have helped a bunch of people get started
in really cool businesses.

If you have been on my list for a while, you might
remember the plant watching woman. She started a business
watching people’s plants.

Anyway, there are lots of options.

I am not sure if you know it but I have something that
relates to this. It’s called 161 ways to make money
at home.

I am also offering the first 50 people the chance to
get on a call where I answer questions related to
starting a home business or internet business.

If you have any interest, take a look at this page
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarbusiness2

Talk to you tomorrow morning.

Dave

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Hi,

Here’s the bipolar news.

Make sure you take a look. It takes a lot
of time to put the news together so please read it.

To see the news visit:

http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarnews369

There’s some really interesting news stories this week.
Take a look at them. Also, write me some feedback by visiting my
blog below.

Here are some of the headlines:

Bipolar Disorder: Manic Mouse Made With One Gene Missing
DO> What do you think of this?

Diagnosis and Treatment of Bipolar Disorder in Children and Adolescents
DO> Very interesting article

How to distinguish and manage bipolar disorder
DO> What do you think of this article?

Lithium may help kick marijuana habit
DO> This may really help a lot of people.

Taking away the stigma
DO> This is a tough thing to deal with. That’s why
I am happy that so many people on my team talk about
their experience with bipolar disorder.

For these stories and more, please visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarnews369

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Your Friend,

Dave

=>PLEASE FORWARD TO FRIENDS, FAMILY AND LOVED ONES <= Hi, How’s it going?
I hope you are doing well.

I wanted to email you something really
important concerning my other email
that I sent yesterday about my mom.

Let me sum up yesterday’s email.

Basically I said that my mom sent me
an email saying she was feeling signs
of a manic episode coming on. As a result
she immediately called her therapist and
doctor and let them know.

I told you how in the hold days, this would
never happen. Her manic signs would eventually
get worse and worse and worse. Eventually she
would go into a full scale manic episode.

Then I told you how my mom emailed me back
and told me that her doctor changed her
bipolar medication.

After that, I was flooded with emails from
people that said how excited they were that

a) my mom is handling her bipolar disorder
herself.

b) that my system/courses really work.

A person even posted:

“Karen said…
Hi Dave,
You did it, your systems are so complete, you
really do have strategies for all the bipo brings.
I think I have been here like 6 months now and
one time it tricked you- I remember you were
kinda upset- it was a time for a tune up but you
were upset that it snuck up on your mom and you
did not catch it.

When you figured out what was trying to happen
it seemed that bipo insulted you for even tryen.
Your system is that damn good. I was so relieved
when I first received the books I could tell just
by flippen through them that I would be able to
take control, educate myself through your hard work
and the bipo cling on that wanted your mom and
through your wars you did effectively learn how
to kick its ass.

You are one of a kind, I would be most likely in
jail now, by the time they told me, iwas a extreemly
dangerous pissed-off bipo. Karen was gone, I
disasosiated and watched from above, I was
premeditating, playen with guns, had a mark,
target, someone the bipo was stalking, waiting
for the perfect time.

The bipo refused to take meds. I think you emailed
me not sure for how many days- take the meds,
you were like a broken record, finally I did had
an allergic reaction thought i was going to
die but for the first time in my life my brain
started to quite down, wierd, I knew then I
was sick.
Thank you Dave, Karen”

================

Karen’s post on my blog below brings
up several important points.

1. Sometime ago, my mom was stable and
then went unstable and bipolar did get
the best of us.

Here’s is how I stopped that. After
EVERY episode, I did what I call a
PEA. What the heck is a PEA? I call
it a Post episode analysis. I told
my mom these were required and not optional.
She can either work with me or I do
them myself.

I simply sit down with her bipolar
stability equation variables and look
to see which ones were “violated”
or “weak.”

Then I can figure out what potentially
led to the episode. I also look to figure
out what systems broke down or which
ones didn’t exist.

2. Overtime I figured out how to improve
incrementally. Then I took this information
and rebuilt it back into my main courses/
systems below:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

Or in some cases, I built them into a
separate course.

Anyway, I wanted to say something else.

Many people were excited that my mom picked
up the phone and called her therapist and
doctor. The fact the therapist and doctor
acted fast and changed my mom’s treatment
plan.

People were excited. Amazed like me.

Want to know the one thing that I have
learned about this situation? Let me
ask you a question. What could go
wrong?

I want you to think long and hard. This is
a test. Don’t worry I can’t grade you and
send a report card home to you.

Anyway, what’s the one thing that I MUST
watch out for now? What’s the danger?

Think about it and then scroll down…

NO CHEATING. Think then scroll…

Did you think of something? Scroll down….

My mom’s medication and treatment was changed. SO,
even though it was from her doctor and therapist.
It’s possible that this change could, and I repeat
could make things worse. It’s not probable but
it’s possible.

Also, my mom could have a new side effect. My mom
AND dad (I already called and quizzed him, he hates
when I do that especially when I email the results
out to all you guys) are prepared for problems
in this area. My mom is going to report any additional
problems right away in her worksheet that we
have (same on in the bipolar success course above)
and my dad is on standby to monitor any signs
or symptoms or side effects.

He has instructions what to do in the worst
case scenario.

I am out of the picture and only would step
in under an extreme circumstance. In my mom
own mind I run “the worst case scenario.”
Which would be, my mom gets way worse goes
into a totally out of control manic episode
and bipolar just overwhelms my dad. This is
not probable but is possible.

I have a plan if it happens. I am 100%
convinced that I could easily handle the situation
if it did get this bad. I doubt it will but
I have a plan.

Hey, I have to run. Catch you tomorrow.

Your Friend,

Dave

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=>PLEASE FORWARD TO FRIENDS, FAMILY AND LOVED ONES <= Hi, How’s it going? I hope you are doing well. I have something to tell you about my mom
today. I have her permission to do
so.

I got an email from my mom…

Subject: Episode

She wrote:

“I wanted you to know that I have had
some symptoms of a manic episode today-
restlessness, lack of appetite etc.”

I thought oh geeze, here we go. I really
wasn’t in the mood to have a bipolar battle.

So then I read on and I was amazed…

She went on to say…

“There is really nothing to worry about
because I have an excellent medical staff
(thanks to you).”

My mom went on to say how she called her
therapist AND doctor. She told them
exactly what was going on.

Her therapist called back immediately
and scheduled for her to come in tomorrow.

Within a couple of hours my mom
wrote me:

Subject: Increase In medication

“She raised me medication and I have
to check in tomorrow. I will be going to
Sandra as well.”

NOTE-Sandra is her therapist.

I was super happy about this. Amazed
quite frankly.

Why?

Well this was the goal of my system that
I set out years ago.

Here’s the deal.

Years ago when my mom had that big major
episode, my dad asked me to help.

I thought to myself, “Mom gets really
sick every X years. I can’t keep dealing
with this. Imagine if I was married. This
is crazy. I am going to figure out what she
has and prevent it once and for all.”

That was my thinking. Notice I used the
word “sick.” But then I didn’t know that
sick equaled bipolar episode. We always
called it “sick” growing up.

Then I discovered exactly what my mom
had.

I then said that I was willing to work
long, hard and take off work for a long
time to help her develop a way to manage
what I learned was bipolar disorder.

I spent almost year figuring this out putting
in an incredible amount of time, energy and
money.

Along the way, I invented strategies to
help her. Ways to find a good doctor. Ways
to find a good therapist. How to solve virtually
all the problems I faced. It took a whole lot of time.

I put all these strategies and tips into
three major courses/systems below:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

I found out there were basically
three groups of people–people with
bipolar disorder, people supporting
adults with bipolar disorder and people
supporting children or teens that’s
why I have three major courses.

I had two major goals when I took
off that year to help my mom.

Want to know what they were?

#1 was to get my mom in a position
that she could manage and control her
bipolar disorder and it wasn’t managing
and controlling her like it did for decades.

#2 was to get my mom in a position where
she was not overly dependent on people
to help her, especially financially.

As of this year, I feel we have reached
these goals.

#1, my mom paid off her massive more than
$30,000 of d.ebt. And she paid it off, by
herself. All by herself using the system
I setup for her. It’s pretty amazing. I remember
when my brother told me, “There is NO way
she will pay off what she owes. Don’t even
waste your time trying to help her.”

Those are harsh words but realistically,
based on my mom’s track record of money
there was little hope. But I setup and invented
a system and my mom stuck to it.

#2, my mom is managing and controlling her
bipolar disorder. Back in the day, these signs
would have turned into a full blown manic bipolar
episode. I would be called in to help and the cycle
would repeat itself.

IN THE OLD DAYS
My mom would not report and signs or symptoms
to anyone. Manic episodes would get worse, and
worse and worse. Then there would be a complete
breakdown. Total destruction.

Today my mom is proactive and she is in control
of her bipolar. I am not a doctor or therapist
but I am 99% certain that this episode will
be controlled and the bipolar will lose this
particular war.

I was talking to my aunt last night remembering
how bad that last episode was. My aunt said, “it’s like
you went to hell and came back.” I said, “yes.”
She then mentioned, “imagine that we didn’t have
these systems in place, imagine another big episode
like years ago.”

I told her how if that happened, and we didn’t have
the systems in place it would ultimately have destroyed
the entire family. There’s something I call the Bipolar
Doomsday Scenario. It’s something that I am actually
going to be talking more about next week. Anyway,
it’s what happens after a person is stable. Something
really bad. Anyway, it was prevented.

I wanted to leave you with some last points. One
set of points to those with bipolar disorder and one
set of points to those who are supporters.

TO THE PERSON WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER

Learn from my mom, when you feel those feelings
and you know what I am talking about. Tell
your therapist, doctor and supporters. Take
action immediately. Don’t wait until you have
to let the episode run it’s course. You can
catch an episode in my opinion before it’s
totally out of control.

TO THE BIPOLAR SUPPORTER
Your goal is so that your loved one can take
control of you’re their bipolar disorder and
manage it. And also that they can become
high functioning.

It’s possible. It takes time but it’s possible.
If you look at some of my older writings versus
today’s story, you can see that my mom has come
a long way. There is hope for you as well.

TO EVERYONE
-Remember a stable person could slowly become
unstable overtime. It’s possible. It’s not guaranteed
but possible. You need systems in place as to
what to do.

-You don’t have to be controlled by bipolar
disorder, you can control and manage it.

I just wanted to pass this along.

I have to run. Catch you tomorrow. I will
keep you posted on what happens but I am
confident that the potential episode will
be controlled and managed.

Your Friend,

Dave

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=>PLEASE FORWARD TO FRIENDS, FAMILY AND LOVED ONES <=
Hi,

First I wanted to welcome the more
than 2000 people that signed up
to my bipolar newsletter in the last 24 hours.

Welcome to everyone.

Also, I wanted to say a couple of things
about the video on bipolar disorder
that you can get for f.ree below on my
blog.

Anyway, I just wanted to let everyone
know that for now, I want to keep things
simple. I am really simple when it comes
to this tech. stuff. I am not a tech person.

I know a bunch of people gave me ideas
to turn the video into well one that
could be probably in the movies…just
kidding. But, seriously I want to make sure
that I stick with the message and don’t
overly focus on spending so much time
on making it look fancy. I am not fancy
myself 🙂

You would laugh at all the comments
I got. Some were exact opposites.

“You sound sooo young.”

“You sounded so much older than I
thought you were.

“Your video is too long.”

“Your video is so short…why?”

“Your video broke my monitor”
(I have no idea how this is possible :))

“We should try to get your video in
the movies”
(I can assure you, this will not happen.)

Here’s the deal. This stuff takes a long time
to put together. I don’t think people realize
this. The reason why people don’t do
what I am doing is either they don’t have
the time, energy or money. It takes a lot
of all of this.

If you want to see the view, visit
my blog below and look for it.

Anyway, I wanted to jump into today’s
topic.

Today’s subject is a touchy one, so I’ll
tell you that up front.

It’s about how people in a manic episode
tend to choose the wrong people to
surround themselves with (negative or
toxic people) when they are in that
episode, and it comes back to
hurt them and their families.

If you remember way back—a long
time ago, someone who works for
me named Michele Soloway had
this situation.

Anyway, also, remember before when I’ve
told you about Michele and how
she taught her children about picking
the right friends by using this
equation:

If you are a 10 and they are a 2,
and you hang out with them, you are
not going to bring them up to an 8,
they are going to bring you down to
a 4!

So that’s what I’m talking about here.
It’s hard for a supporter to watch their
loved one go into a manic episode…
they get all outgoing and such (whether
that is their normal behavior or behavior
caused by the bipolar disorder)… and
the next thing you know, their loved one
is hanging around with these people…

…and the supporter KNOWS that these
people are bad for her loved one, but he
just uses excuses, or defends his “new
friends”… because he can’t see how
they are bad for him.

That can be so frustrating for the
supporter, because her loved one
just won’t listen to her, and she doesn’t
want to get into a fight with her loved
one, but she doesn’t know what else to do!

She just has to silently stand by and
watch her loved one be hurt by these
people – maybe they are just
negative people and will bring her
loved one down, and that’s not as
bad as what some will do –

some will take advantage of their “new
friend” (the person in the manic
episode) and possibly use them for
their money, etc. But still the one in
the episode will defend them!

In my courses and systems, I teach
not only about how to deal with your
loved one when they are in an episode,
but also what to do when they won’t
listen to you:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

It’s very difficult in this situation to
get your loved one to listen to you.

For example (true story):
Michele’s mom has bipolar disorder,
just like my mom. Michele spent hours
with her mom, working out a routine for
her. Her mom was doing great on her
routine. Until she met Mary.

Mary became close friends with Michele’s
Mom. But she decided that Michele’s
Mom didn’t need her routine any more,
so guess who Michele’s mom listened to?

Well, after awhile, Mary kind of
floated away from Michele’s mom,
and Michele’s mom went into a
mini-episode, most likely caused
by the fact that she had no routine
to cling to, like she had before.

Do you see the important point
that I’m making here? No one is
saying that people with bipolar
disorder shouldn’t have friends.
But only that they should be VERY
particular in who they choose for
friends.

In fact, to you people with bipolar,
I would trust my supporter with
this one – if your supporter thinks
that maybe there is something wrong
with your new friend, I would think
twice about it.

Just a suggestion – don’t throw stones
at me or anything!

I will tell you this as a p.s. –
Michele’s mom sure learned her
lesson about choosing her friends more
carefully. And now she sticks to her
routine, too!
Okay, well I have to run.

Want to hear something interesting. I have a person
that works for me that use to have 6 different personalities.

This person is incredibly smart. This person’s personalities
consolidated into one personality and now the person has
bipolar disorder as well.

The person is super smart, very creative, a great worker
and able to take complex problems and immediately simplify
them.

The person has extreme attention to detail as well. It’s pretty
amazing. Who would have thought that I would find such
a person.

I am actually going to try to get the person to do an interview
of what it is like to have so many different personalities.

Anyway, I have to run. Catch you tomorrow.

Your friend,

Dave
–
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one is designed to help you with a different
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Hi,

How’s it going?

I have some great news.

I have a new f.ree video for
bipolar supporters.

I have been working on this for
a while. It’s been a major pain
in the rear end. I had to buy
all this software to make it. Then
read a book on it. Then ask my super
smart computer nerd friends to help
me out.

Then I had a problem with it playing
and finally I got it fixed.

You can take a look here.

http://www.bipolarcentral.com/10deadlymistakes/

Please allow some time to load and
make sure you hit the play button.

I hope you enjoy it. I worked really
hard on it.

Dav