Hi,
How’s it going?
I have some great news.
I have a new f.ree video for
bipolar supporters.
I have been working on this for
a while. It’s been a major pain
in the rear end. I had to buy
all this software to make it. Then
read a book on it. Then ask my super
smart computer nerd friends to help
me out.
Then I had a problem with it playing
and finally I got it fixed.
You can take a look here.
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/10deadlymistakes/
Please allow some time to load and
make sure you hit the play button.
I hope you enjoy it. I worked really
hard on it.
Dav
Hi David,
I want to make some editing suggestions but I’m not sure that is appropriate for this blog. Could I send those to another address?
Donna Walters
Hi Dave. I just wanted to say that your video cuts off after the second mistake and i’d really like to hear the rest of what you have to say. I hope you can get it up and running in it’s entirety. Thanks and keep up the good work!
This may become a great video, but do the voice over over the video… too long a lead-in, hit us with drama, then tell me…. don’t play with me, which I feel is happening… I felt patr4onized in the video, and I’ve never felt that from your posts… I have a feeling you want the best to happen…. it ain’t happenin’ here…
God Bless you for you help in the past, and may your message get across, but not this way (think voice over)….
agape,
moi
Dave,
Thank you for this video. My husband has bipolar and is distroying us apart. Your video reminding me of so much things. I’m going to keep fighting for us. Thank you
Hi Dave, You are so dam good. That was great. I dont have a supporter, you are my main supporter. Yes, I have a therapist, she did mention she has a support group, I do not trust imformation outside of yours. Well, I have trust issues, but when I got the news, I sat in front of mu pc tears rolling down my face, found your website, you have been teaching me to be my own supporter, the best I believe I read it in one of your books is separate me from the beast, it makes it so much more doable. That was great!! Thanks, Karen
Hello Mr. Oliver, I thought that was very enlightning! I have this disorder and some of the things you brought up I have done those things and some I promise I did not take personally but even as I do sometimes yell and scream, I have never been violent towards anyone. I did at one time though when I was pregnant and was unable to take my meds, my boyfriend got really good at dodging plates. I feel incredibly bad about this now but I think he forgave me, he is still with me. I do believe it would be very helpful for my support system to watch this video and when I get the chance I will have one or more of them do so, I saw a lot of very important aspects that I do not believe my family understands. My one question is why can’t people see you? You sound very young.
My daughter and I listened to your video together – it was so informative even after 17 years of being bipolar. I look forward every day to what you have to offer in your emails!! Have you ever thought about addressing the single mom or dad issue that has bipolar and children that are trying to deal with the problem? My 12 year old is my only supporter and I try very hard not to put too much on her, but sometimes it gets hard. Thanks again….
Chris STewart
Your video was very informative but it didn’t go into enough detail. It stated that we can protect our finances by putting systems into place…what are the systems and etc. I will keep reading what you offer. You perform a valuable service. I an a new comer to your website. My adult son has bipolar and i want to find out how to help him. He doesn’t live with me, but he leans on me because the rest of his family has written him off.
Thank you for the information you provide.
David,
I listened to the whole thing and you have some GREAT points and information. I have been supporting my bipolar husband for over 10 years (since diagnosis and MUCH longer before that). I found out much of what you talked about the hard way so I am thrilled you are out there sharing this with others. I would have given anything to have this information when I was going through those very same situations. Thanks for what you do!
Did not have the video, but could hear the audio. I have been coping with bi-polar disorder in my family for years, For this reason I really wasn’t sure if your repetitive style and lenght of certain topics were for newer supporters. I completely uderstood what you were saying and was ready to get on with it.I have been dealing with Bi-polar disorder since I was 9. I am now 57 and have a 25 year old son with bipoar and a 20 year old son with Depression. I really liked kowing about the taking charge part. You opened my min to quite a few thoughts. To my astonishment, one, was that I am a supporter too. Thank you for your thoughts, I can do a lot with them and improve my family reltions.
You ramble too much — you need to “cut to the chase.” I’m sure you have a lot of good information; however …
ml
Hi dave, i just saw your video, i totaly agree with all you said, its so weird how most people with bp have the same behavior.Im not a bp suppoter anymore ,i had enough. there’s just so much a person can take. I know it wasnt him,it was the bipolar disorder, but they come together and i just couldnt do it anymore, it just seems like he was only happy when i was miserable.10 years of supporting him and trying to help in every way,i turned out to be the “enemy”, in his eyes.Dave in your video you talk about the con artist trait bp has ive been coned on and off for 10 years and every time i got close to knowing what he was up to, he would get angry at me and try to make me feel guilty, but i never felt guilty because,i know i did all i could to help him,the more i did the more he got angry.so instead of becoming a victim,i chose to leave. only to keep my sanity.he hasnt stopped calling and begging me to take him back,If he refuses to get help,and sees me as the “emeny”and all the other things he”s called me in the past, Why would he still want to be with me?
hi dave, its me again.i forgot to tell you your video was very helpful to me.it confirms everything i already know about bp.and i hope it helps alot of people out there, that want help.
Dave,
Good points. The biggest for me is trying not to take it personally and taking care of yourself. I have started to get depressed and have low self-esteem, as supporting a person with bi-polar is a 24/7 gig, for me anyway, and the sad part is she is medicated now! I was happy to get some reinforcement with the “video” on these issues and others. You can all make comments about the editing, Dave’s style, what he should change, etc., but the the real deal is the fact that what was said is true, all of it. I am close to being completely fed up living this nighmare, so anything like this to keep my head above water is appreciated.
Thanks Dave
Hey David,Thank-you soo much for all this info.My husband is bipolar and I find your site enlightening. I am now wondering if I am bipolar (just angry at all the mental abuse that goes with supporting my husband- and his alter ego “bipolar”. I hope you know how appreciated people are of all the information you supply to all of us. Thank you-
hank you- thank you- thank you-
sincerely
Sherry 🙂
most of the stuff you are saying could kill someone by mistake…your no 1 rule shocked me right away…do u have to be so frank on mentioning suicidal right away? have u thought that a person reading it on first hand might actually do it and not finish reading the rest of your video…u sound very young to be suddenly an expert on bipolar now im not so sur e i want to buy ur book besides its too expensive i couldnt afford it
amanda
Thank you for your info. My partner is bipolar and we have been together for almost 3 years. I guess I totally do not understand it…At times he seems very stable and then other times but he has never hurt me physically. He is with the State of Texas and they do not give the best medication. He is on medicaid and SSI and the medicine they give him makes him sleep for hours and hours. I came from Cali and I have known other people who took meds, but they did not sleep for hours.
Thank you ,you have been so much help to my husband who had no idea what bipolar was and I his wife of almost 30 yrs have tried to explain it my dr’s have tried he just didnt get it how serious it is along with being terminally ill he didnt understand why I would be so depressed it would get to times I really was afraid I would hurt him he didnt really realize why I was so violent and why I needed meds to help me he said I just didnt have any willpower I’m a very functional person but I have very serious manic periods he would laugh it off as if a joke I think now he is a little more concerned about me getting & taking my meds i’ve had this since I was diagnosed about 14, longer because they hadnt figured out it was bipolar yet it started per my mother at 18 months old she knew something was wrong Dr’s then said I was just strong willed & spoiled I’ve spent most of my 49 yrs of life in & out of institutions for the mentally ill I just want you to know how much help you have been my marriage this time may work I had all but given up I needed help so bad I was at a point I was afraid something really bad was going to happen thankyou for saving my life & hopefully my marrage sincerely vicki s.
David, Thanks for the offer to view you video on 10 Deadly Mistakes For Those Who Try to Help
With BiPolor Disorder….I can’t “start” it…frustratiing….Also, I need to know the difference between BiPolar Disorder and ADHD…Can you help?
Many Thanks
thank for the info. keep up the good work.
Tiana
I’m sorry but I just read a blog I hadnt noticed before it was about do you have to be so blunt basicaly yes you do bipolar is very nasty sickness and the only way to tell it is to tell it like it really is dont candy coat it thats a mistake let me give you a quick example I am in a wheelchair most of the time but my hubby & I were out and we are bikers myself fromway back all it took for me to get out of that chair run across a crouded room with knife in hand put it to a persons neck & cut was an old ex of my husbands flipped him the bird I cleaned out a biker bar full of bikers men mostly women saw my eyes and scramed 5 large men were hospitalized & I was charged & covicted of 5 felony’s assult with a deadly weapon with intent to do great bodily harmI was very ready to snap all the way that nite so yes tell it like it is because it isnt pretty vicki s.
Greetings David- Superlative job of helping those in need; know you were under difficult circumstance. This serious situation in peoples’ lives is as Spiritual as it is medical. You mentioned a ‘saying’ about knowledge… it’s from the Bible. You commend one to address the bipolar- the enemy- rather than attacking our loved one; its victim- amen. We must ALWAYS maintain BALENCE on this issue. Maintain discipline on medication? Absolutely! Pray ‘without ceasing’? Absolutely!! This battle is as much; more so; Spiritual, as it is medical… extreme in eather direction is dangerous. I pray God continues to enable your good work- larrychanges@bellsouth.net 03/11/08
Loved the video Dave. As far as being long, you can move it at one’s own speed. Keep up the good work.
Hi David,
I live in a world in which you talk about in your video, I have recently been trying to get information pertaing to my wife’s mental illness. I have received info on living with a narcississt,sociopath,borderline personality disorder and physchopath which releived some weight off my shoulders,all of the above have links to her illness. Icame home this morning after working night-shift and read or heard your video. How awesome it is to receive this information and shed some light on this trouble mind of mine. About ten years ago my wife was diagnsed with having bi-polar,unexplainable things have happend through out the years and it is only now that I am starting to touch basis with fer mental illness and it scarea her.Two days ago she packed some belongings took our 5 yr old son and left, I imagine she has went to a shelter of sorts.She left me with court proceedings in filing for a divorse court date set for Mar 31/08. This information I have received has become over-whelming or should I say to much to absorb because I would have a very difficult day in court trying to explain the circumstances I now face. Thank you again for the light you have shared on this troubled mind of mine. Sincerily
Elden Burns
Hi David,
I wanted to thank you for this valuable information. I have been married now for over 12 years to a man I am convinced is bipolar. His mental health problem is not only inherited but is a serious one, and he does not seem concerned enough yet about seeking help. His moods swings are almost getting predictable. I have begged him to get help. Whatever is wrong is destroying our marriage. I feel totally lost and alone. I live in a very small town with limited access to decent mental health facilities. Your informative site gives me some relief, and makes me feel like someone cares. God bless you. Keep spreading the word.
LueLue44
Dear Dave,
WOW, have you been living with my family for the last 20years. My ex-husband of 20 has alcholism and Bipolar and my 17year old daughter has just started taking Lithium.
I have hated her and she is fighting taking meds really hard. We are getting her first blood level results tommorow.
this video has made be feel not so alone, no one seems to understand, I have tried Al-anon and now what I am a codependant of Bipolar now too.I am clnflicted though is my ex more alcohlic or more Bipolar. Should I take him back or not.I still love him and now he will be homeless soon.Wow you opened a can or worms for me.
Wow what an eye opener,I just found out my wife is bi-polar,she took a job out of town and came under a lot of stress and began to break down emotionally.She went to the shrink last week for her second 20 minute session and he told her she was bi-polar.My wife told him NO!! Then he told her that no therapist wants to hear they are bi-polar.He wanted to put her on Lithium.She said no.Now I know what I have to do,take action and not be co-dependant or enable her anymore.Thanks to a great sister she has in Austrailia I began to see that my wife has has bipolar symptons since her child hood and through our marriage.I saw myself in the video and ofcourse my wife.Now I can look at this disorder differently and start to take action through my love of her.Hopefully our friendship will pull us through this ordeal and a glimmer of hope that two people can live toghther with the bipolar once she Identifys that she has a problem that many people have.I see now that bipolar can get better in both our lives if action is taken on my part and her action is to at least try some medication. I will be posting more as we progress……….Chuy
Thanks David, your video was very informative. I have read most of what you said already in your courses, but I enjoyed the video. It gives me a way of hopefully getting someone else to listen to it. I have been a supporter for 5 years. I am learning from you to DON’T TAKE IT PERSONAL…yes indeed it is hard to remember sometimes. Thanks for the reminder. In the last 5 years my loved one has tried suicide twice. The last time he parked his car on a railroad track and let a train hit the drivers side..By the grace of God and skilled surgeons in a trauma center for 3 months, HE LIVES… Thanks for letting me vent…Lyn
Thank you David. Excellent work. I am very grateful.
My daughter is schizo affective.
Do you have the a newsletter for schizophrenia too?
My best regards to you.
Anna
Hi David, I have been receiving your e-mails now for about a month. I have enjoyed this video very much! Everything you touched on is so very true and accurate. I experienced it all. My daughter is 35 now and was diagnoised with BiPolar one, at age 17, later found out it is BiPolar two. Being treated for BiPolar one, when you are BiPolar two created more havoc. Medication especially if prescribed for the wrong disorder only contributed to a bigger mess. My daughter who has Bipolar has a daughter 13 years old whom is either bipolar I or II, we are in the diagnostic phase presently having her hospitalized recently for about a week. It is overwhelming at times when both my daughter and granddaughter are in crisis with one another with thier bipolar disorder.
Thank you for all of your efforts in helping us out here with sharing all of what you have learned and continue to learn. Your video certainly did a great job with explaining the pitfalls. I can remember how I would say so often when dealing with my daugher: “I could slit my wrists and it wouldn’t be enough”.
A crucial description in video is: “an evil thing” and later on you mentioned, lie, cheat and steal. It is also written: John 10:10“The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.” We must know the enemy and know how to do warfare against it. The skill as you mentioned is to distinguish between your loved one and BP or the evil thing. Let’s go to the ONE who want us to have “life to the full” to give us the power and authority to defeat the enemy. God bless
Hello – I tried to watch your video about the 10 mistakes people make with Bipolar. When I hit play, the screen never changed from that first screen. But, the bar at the bottom showed everything was moving along. Let me know if you are able to get it corrected. My Mother-in-law has an 8 year old with Bipolar. Thank you. Chris Kerksieck
side effects…try gaining 30 lbs AFTER having a baby. How does a person with bi-polar have children? Feel good about their appearance? Etc…
Hey Dave,
I finally found the time to watch your video.
My fiancee’and her 20 yr.old daughter & 10yr.son
are Bipolar.
I’m sure you put a lot of time and effort into this!
You hit every one of those nails right on the head!!
Thank you from all of us!!!
KUDOS!!!!
God Bless You!!!!!
Sincerely,
“Telephone Bill”Mergl
My wife was on a high last week telling me all these great things about her life with out me involved,yes she wants a divorce.No rhime or reason there.The sad part is that I cannot stop it.If she gets on some type of meds she might have a chance but with out the meds she is in her own world of being bipolar.I see now its very hard for anyone to admit they are bipolar.My wife said she wants to be my friend forever as long I do do as she asks in the divorce.I really think we will part ways becausing of her demanding way and now I am being tougher on her.No more doormat here.It breaks my heart that she has this bipolar and probably cannot be in any relationship until she bites the bullet and gets some meds to even her brain out.For the last 13 years its been her way or the highway.Its funny that sometimes I get glimpses of her love for me yet she will not let me love her so all I want for now is to be her firm friend,…..Continued