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Hi,

I hope you’re having a really good day.

I have to go really quick today.

I have a whole lot of things to do today.

I am working on a super important project for the entire organization. Something that’s going to help us tremendously.

Oh, people are asking me where Michele is. Michele is on vacation for a couple of weeks. She is okay and will be back soon. Amazingly, she finished all her work, one month ahead of time so she could take time off AND come back to not too much to do. Amazing.

Okay, let’s jump into today’s topic.

There’s really good stuff around you that you probably don’t even know.

Like my friend Steve who is six foot two and 255 pounds told me about this incredible place where he jogs. It’s odd Steve jogs because he’s so big.

Anyway, the place is local to us. He described it to me.

This place has a track that went through the woods with water fountains, a bathroom, playground, rivers, streams, fish, deer, etc.

I thought he was making it up because I have never seen such a place and if it existed, I thought that surely I would know about it.

Well, the other day I was bored.

I was driving around locally by where I live and I went down this road and discovered this park.

It was the place Steve was talking about!

I must say he was right and I was amazed. This place was incredible.

Amazing trails for walking or jogging. Rivers, streams, fish, fields, etc. It was tremendous.

The odd thing is, it’s all f.ree and I never knew about it.

It’s only 5 minutes from where I live. Can you believe that I didn’t see it?

This place is AMAZING. The trail is amazing. It even has information about planets through out the entire trail so you can learn about the solar system.

It has a bathroom, basketball park, soccer, baseball, rivers, streams, ponds and many other things.

You can do it through the woods or not in the woods. It’s truly amazing.

I can’t believe I didn’t even know it existed.

What’s this have to do with bipolar disorder? Nothing.

Just kidding.

It has a lot to do with it.

I get people who write me complaining that they can’t find a good doctor.

The people in New York tell me there are no good doctors.

The people in New Jersey do. The people in South America. The people in Japan do.

BUT wherever people complain, people have found good doctors. You just need to flush them out.

In my systems and courses I have a doctor finding system to get good doctors to come to you.

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NO MATTER WHERE YOU ARE, there are good doctors around. They might not be easy to spot but they do exist just like this incredible walking trail I found.

Some things in life are easy.

But other things aren’t.

My dad tried to tell me years ago there weren’t any more good doctors left in New Jersey. There are tons. I found about 12 with my first go around with my system.

Actually if I had to do it all over again I could probably find 30 right away.

I know you might be thinking, “but Dave, where I live there aren’t good doctors.”

There are. I will say this, and I say it in my courses, the best doctors are NOT found online or in the phone book. I don’t know why but they aren’t.

You have to use a good system.

I am not going to get into it now because I have to run, but there’s other good stuff that can help you around in your area that you are probably overlooking.

You just have to look.

I had someone tell me their mother used to always tell them, “Life doesn’t get handed to you on a silver platter. You have to work for what you

want.”

Well, I can see that with bipolar disorder, too.

If you can’t find a good doctor, it just might be that you have to work a little harder for what you want.

Don’t just say you can’t because you can.

Oh one more thing. I have found the best doctors aren’t necessarily the ones who run big giant hospitals or work at these big famous facilities.

The best ones I found are not published, not running big gigantic facilities, are not celebrities doctors, etc.

If you saw my mom’s doctor you might just think she was okay. She doesn’t have books and have a gigantic practice and isn’t on TV but she is incredible.

What do you think?

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Hi,

How’s it going?

I hope you are doing well.

Here is today’s news.

To read this week’s news visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarnews397

Growing up Bipolar
DO> Great article.

St. Lucie’s mental health court can help change lives
DO> Hmm, what do you think?

Living with a Bipolar Husband
DO> Another very interesting article

Global Psychiatrists Unite To Improve Services In Mental Health
DO> Noble goal that’s going to be hard to accomplish.

Bus driver was bipolar, not drunk, court told
DO> Sad story, what do you think?

For these stories and more, please visit:
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Your Friend,

Dave

David Oliver is the author of the shocking guide “Bipolar Disorder—The REAL Silent Killer.” Click Here to get FREE Information sent via email on how and why bipolar disorder kills.

Hi,

How’s it going?

I hope you’re doing well.

There’s an interesting thing with bipolar disorder.

It’s about medication.

Too many people think they can manage it themselves, without their doctors (psychiatrists).

They want to take less medication, or they want to take more medication.

Taking less medication is like wearing a size 10 shoe when you really need a size 12 shoe!

You can see how silly that would be. You wouldn’t do that, would you?

So you really can’t let your loved one mess around with their medication, either.

If they’re having problems with their medication, they really need to talk to their doctor about it.

They can’t just decide to mess around with it themselves.

That’s like I said above, like buying the wrong size shoe, or the wrong size clothes.

In my courses/systems below, I talk about how important taking your medication is, and in the right amounts, the right dosages, what to do if you feel that there’s something wrong with your medication, etc.

But I always say to check with your doctor if you feel there’s something wrong with the medication you’re taking.

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It’s not like there’s nothing you can do if you’re unhappy with your medication, it’s side effects, the way you’re feeling or behaving, or whatever.

You can always talk to your doctor about it.

If you don’t trust your doctor, you need to get another doctor.

But messing around with your own medication is very, very dangerous.

If you don’t take enough, you could go into an episode.

If you take too much, you could DIE – you could have an overdose!

If you don’t like the way your medication makes you feel, you can tell your doctor, and they can change your medication.

They can change your dosage of the medication you’re on.

They can change when you take your medication.

They can do several things that maybe you haven’t even thought about.

But just don’t – DO NOT – mess with your own medication by yourself.

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Hi,

Hope you’re doing well.

Yesterday I was talking to my friend and he told me he watching tv ALL night long. There is a channel called “TV land” They play really old reruns. It’s a like a sad channel because you are like living in the past when you watch it. NOTE-I told him not to tell anyone because this is kind of a sad thing to do all night long.

He started singing this song (he’s 280)…

“Love and marriage…go together like a horse and carriage?”

After I was really embarrassed and not wanting to be associated with him : ) I was thinking about bipolar disorder and the fact some things just go together.

Do you know what I mean?

Like when I had to take the SAT years ago, they had this part that was supposed to check your sense of logic, like dog is to cat as table is to… and then they’d give you this choice of answers, and of course you’re supposed to pick chair.

But some things do just go together.

Like pen and paper.

Like children and toys.

Like sun and beach.

Like TV and easychair.

Like peas and carrots.

Like light and dark.

Like black and white.

Like yes and no.

I’m sure you can think of tons of other things, too.

So what does that have to do with bipolar disorder?

I’ll tell you.

Here’s something else that goes together.

A supporter and their loved one.

Your loved one cannot manage their disorder without your help.

Even in my courses/systems, I teach people with bipolar disorder that they have to have a strong support system as part of their treatment in order to manage their disorder.

And that means having a strong supporter.

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Being a strong supporter means you have to do many things.

You have to take care of yourself.

That means more than just grooming, of course.

It means taking care of your own needs, so you can help meet your loved one’s needs.

It means making sure that you’re strong spiritually, mentally, emotionally, physically, financially, and any other way that keeps you less stressed and more stable yourself.

If you attend church, don’t stop going just because your loved one doesn’t feel up to it. You may have a need for the fellowship and/or spiritual strengthening just for yourself.

You need to fill that need, whether your loved one goes with you or not. It also may be part of your social life. My mom doesn’t just go to church to worship – she goes for the social activities, too.

Mentally you can do things that challenge your mind outside of what you do for your loved one. Reading is a good way to fill this need.

Even using the Internet to look things up, whether they’re about bipolar disorder or not, will also help keep your mind fresh and active and learning new things.

You might even want to take a college course –whether actually at the college (it’ll get you out of the house) or they even have courses you can take online at home now.

Emotionally you can keep yourself strong by seeing your own therapist, or if you can’t do that, at least keep a daily journal where you can write down your thoughts and feelings.

This way, you can keep those negative thoughts and feelings from building up inside you and coming out (they always do eventually) in a way you don’t want them to.

Physically, you can take care of your body by exercising. You don’t necessarily have to lift weights or even join a gym. Just walking 3 times a week can be good exercise for you.

And you need to be eating a good, healthy diet as well. The important thing is that you take care of your body, so that you have enough energy to take care of your loved one.

Financially, you need to make sure that your loved one doesn’t have entire access to all the family funds. Should they go into an episode and go off on a spending spree, they could push you into bankruptcy, and then where would you be?

Having your own bank account as well as a joint account with your loved one (just in case) would be a good suggestion. Another would be to make sure that you are a co-signer on all your bank accounts.

Also, if your loved one is not good with money, and especially when you see signs/symptoms that they may be going into an episode, make sure that you’re the one holding all the credit cards and debit cards.

Your loved one may be a little threatened or angry about this at first, but it’s still better than losing all your money to an episode.

Just remember, you and your loved one may go together like “a horse and carriage,” but it still takes a strong supporter, one who takes care of themselves, to help take care of a loved one with bipolar disorder.

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Hi,

I hope your day is going well.

Today is a BIG day for me. I have several new people starting in a major part of my company that has gotten out of control. It has to do with the finding of newsletter subscribers.

Anyway, I have 4 people working on the problem today. One with bipolar disorder and three who do not. People ask me all the time why I bring in someone with bipolar disorder when their are tough problems? The answer is, I have found that a person with bipolar disorder who is stable is generally more creative more intelligent and can solve problems faster.

Some people get mad when I say this kind of thing. I don’t know why. They insist that this is not always true. For me it’s true. That’s the deal.

Anyway I am also testing a new system of sending my daily emails. If you get this message and it looks right
around the same time you normally do then the system worked great. I hopeit does : )

Okay, let’s move on..

I forgot to tell you this. The other week, I was hiking at the Jenny Jump Park.

Why is it called Jenny Jump?

Well here’s what happened.

There was a girl named Jenny a long time ago who thought Indians were chasing her to kill her, so she ran far and fast to a cliff.

The she couldn’t figure out how to get down from the cliff.

So she jumped to her death.

Eventually the area was called Jenny Jump and eventually became a park.

I was thinking about Jenny and her jump and how the story went that she killed herself out of believing there was no hope.

Jenny, like many people who have bipolar disorder, or even supporters of loved ones who have it, believe it can never get better.

It sure can, though.

My mom’s situation was terrible.

My brother said there was no hope and not to waste my time.

I didn’t think so. I thought there was hope.

And now my mom is better. She still has bipolar disorder, but she’s better than she was. I think my not giving up hope had something to do with that.

I have several people who work for me that have attempted suicide in the past.

They report to me that at the time they were suicidal, they thought there was no hope.

They said the amazing thing is, with time, things get better with bipolar disorder.

ALL of them are glad that they didn’t succeed!

NOTE: If you or your loved one are feeling suicidal, call 1-800-SUICIDE and remember, there’s hope.

There’s no hope if you are dead.

If you are a supporter, help your loved one get information like what I have in my courses/systems.

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I mean, I do have sections on what to do if you’re feeling suicidal, but I have even more about learning how to deal with your disorder so that you don’t get to that point.

No, there still isn’t a cure for bipolar disorder.
But there is hope.

Someone told me once that “suicide is a temporary solution to a permanent problem.”

Learning how to manage bipolar disorder, or how to be a good supporter and help your loved one manage their bipolar disorder, is a permanent solution, not a temporary one.

Ok, so there’s no cure. But with your hope, you can look for solutions that work for you and your loved one.

And don’t worry about what other people say.

At some of the support groups I go to, this person might say that you should do this, or you should do that, otherwise you’re not being a good supporter.

Don’t worry about what they say. Don’t let anyone tell you that you’re not being a good supporter.

You just do what works for you and your loved one, and you ARE being a good supporter!

Remember there is hope. It’s kind of strange but I remember when virtually everyone was betting against my mom. There was never any doubt in my mind that my mom would get better. I knew 100%, that she could become better (that’s what I called it at the time).

My brother wanted to put her away in a hospital forever (which you can do anyway). My dad was just in a state of limbo basically asking me to accept the way she was and that she would never be better and we would just have to deal with her.

It’s sad but on the one hand, so many people are so quick to give up with bipolar disorder. But on the other hand so many people never give up but keep doing the same stuff over and over hoping for a different result.
It’s really strange.

I am not pushing my courses but I can honestly say the answers are there. People are surprised when they talk to myself or someone who works with me with bipolar disorder about a problem they have. We immediately have an answer. Why? Well because we have pretty much faced it all and have systems for everything.

Anyway, the point of this was to rely to you about Jenny and how she gave up. Don’t be like Jenny.

David Oliver is the author of the shocking guide “Bipolar Disorder—The REAL Silent Killer.” Click Here to get FREE Information sent via email on how and why bipolar disorder kills.

Hi,

How’s it going?

I hope you’re having a good day.

I have a new FREE Podcast titled:
“Bipolar Lesson From Bank Failures”

You can hear it by visiting:

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Okay, I have to tell you this funny story about a dog and it’s a great lesson about bipolar disorder.

I have this friend who has a dog – part hound and part dachshund – whose name is Princess, because, well, she acts like she is one!

You’d think this dog runs the house instead of my friend running it, the way this dog gets catered to! Anything the dog needs, she gets. Special food, whatever.

Well, I was teasing my friend, and said, “You treat your dog better than you treat a kid!”

And she said (this blew me away), “Let me tell you something. Everybody tells me that I’m going to go through this Empty Nest thing when my last child leaves home next month, but I won’t because I’ll still have Princess, and she’s my baby!”

Isn’t that funny?

But don’t get mad at me or send me hate mail or anything – I’m not saying anything against people and their dogs. I know a lot of people, to them, their dogs are like their children.

Think of it, though, the life of a dog…

No worries, no cares…

Their biggest problem is whether there’s going to be food and water in their dish.

And then, of course, there’s those pesky fleas!

So, see? The life of a dog isn’t so perfect after all.

But there are some lessons we can learn from a dog that apply to bipolar disorder.

A dog doesn’t worry.

A dog doesn’t stress out.

A dog relaxes and enjoys laying in the sunshine.

A dog likes just being shown affection.

A dog likes peace and quiet.

A dog is happy just to have its needs met. In my courses/systems below, I teach systems and principles like: setting priorities, stress reduction techniques, relaxation techniques, time management, etc:

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HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
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And, of course, I don’t teach them so you can be a dog, but all these things help to be a better supporter.

And think about it – if you learned principles and systems like setting priorities, stress reduction techniques, relaxation techniques, times management, etc…

Then maybe…

You wouldn’t worry.

You wouldn’t stress out.

You’d relax and enjoy laying in the sunshine.

You’d like just being shown affection.

You’d like peace and quiet.

You’d be happy just to have your needs met.

And you know what?

You wouldn’t even have to deal with those pesky fleas!

Hey, I have to run. Catch you tomorrow.

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Hi,

How’s it going?

Yesterday I was watching my godchild Anna actually I am not really in charge because I don’t know much about kids. I kind of just watch.

Anyway she was cry a lot. Michelle, her godmother, who is in charge while her parents were away said that she had a sore throat and was sick. I am kind of like an assistant for her. That’s okay with me, because I really don’t know anything about babies. I ask a lot of questions most of them very basic and dumb. The good news is Barry, Michelle’s brother asks more questions than me so he makes me look better : )

Anna is only 9 months old and I was thinking in my head, “hmm. I haven’t heard her talk so how do they know she has a sore throat?” I kind of thought that was a dumb question so I didn’t ask : ) Everyone was so certain so I thought maybe I missed something. I know it’s simple. Someone on my list will probably clear this up for me.

So Michelle’s brother Barry was there and I said to him, “hey, how does everyone know Anna has a sore throat and that’s why she is crying?” He said, “I don’t know, I was wondering that myself. I asked a lot of dumb questions and I felt like I used them all up for the day. I am going to ask tomorrow.”

I thought that was funny. I have seriously no idea how they all knew Anna had a sore throat. Everyone said it with such conviction I just thought it must be true.

So I was talking to Barry and he said “It’s the good, the bad and the ugly with babies.” He thought of a baby being sick and not knowing if they had a sore throat the bad and ugly.

He was like, “hey what if her foot hurts and we are thinking it’s her throat?” I said, “I have no idea, I just follow orders. I do what Michelle says to do and when she says to do it. I know about bipolar disorder but not baby’s and sore throats.” He rolled his eyes at me : )

Then I was thinking of that movie.  Do you remember the movie, The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly?

Well, in bipolar disorder there is this thing that happens where the patient at first doesn’t like their doctor that much and will dump or download everything onto them – the good, the bad, and the ugly.

The patient doesn’t really care, because they don’t really like their doctor.

Over time, as the patient starts to like their doctor more, they report the good and the bad, but not the ugly, because they want their doctor to like them.

Then, as they start to like their doctor even more, they only report the good, because they are starting to trust them.

Then it comes…

Now they like AND trust their doctor…

And they only report the best…

Because now they really want their doctor to like them and not think anything bad about them.

BUT THIS IS BAD! REAL BAD!!!!

In my courses/systems below, I talk about how important it is to be HONEST with your doctor:

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This isn’t a matter of whether you really like your doctor or not (although you should like them enough to go to them).

This isn’t a matter of being worried about what they think of you!

This is your bipolar disorder that we’re talking about here!

And your bipolar disorder doesn’t care whether you like your doctor or not!

Your bipolar disorder doesn’t care whether your doctor likes you or not!

Your bipolar disorder doesn’t necessarily want you to get better!

Remember? IT wants to control YOU, instead of the other way around!

The idea is, for both supporters and survivors, that you like and trust your doctor, and to be honest with them…

Good, bad, and ugly!

Because otherwise, they can’t help you!

Supporters, this goes for you, too –

Even with your own doctor or therapist.

You can’t get/stay well if you are not completely honest with your doctor and only tell them the good things, just because you’re worried about what they’ll think of you.

Look at it this way:

Your doctor/therapist is NOT your friend!

They may act friendly toward you, but they are NOT your friend!

They only want to help you get better, and they can’t do that unless you are completely honest with them…

And that can only happen if you share…

The good, the bad, and the ugly!

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