Hope you’re doing well.
Yesterday I was talking to my friend and he told me he watching tv ALL night long. There is a channel called “TV land” They play really old reruns. It’s a like a sad channel because you are like living in the past when you watch it. NOTE-I told him not to tell anyone because this is kind of a sad thing to do all night long.
He started singing this song (he’s 280)…
“Love and marriage…go together like a horse and carriage?”
After I was really embarrassed and not wanting to be associated with him : ) I was thinking about bipolar disorder and the fact some things just go together.
Do you know what I mean?
Like when I had to take the SAT years ago, they had this part that was supposed to check your sense of logic, like dog is to cat as table is to… and then they’d give you this choice of answers, and of course you’re supposed to pick chair.
But some things do just go together.
Like pen and paper.
Like children and toys.
Like sun and beach.
Like TV and easychair.
Like peas and carrots.
Like light and dark.
Like black and white.
Like yes and no.
I’m sure you can think of tons of other things, too.
So what does that have to do with bipolar disorder?
I’ll tell you.
Here’s something else that goes together.
A supporter and their loved one.
Your loved one cannot manage their disorder without your help.
Even in my courses/systems, I teach people with bipolar disorder that they have to have a strong support system as part of their treatment in order to manage their disorder.
And that means having a strong supporter.
SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Being a strong supporter means you have to do many things.
You have to take care of yourself.
That means more than just grooming, of course.
It means taking care of your own needs, so you can help meet your loved one’s needs.
It means making sure that you’re strong spiritually, mentally, emotionally, physically, financially, and any other way that keeps you less stressed and more stable yourself.
If you attend church, don’t stop going just because your loved one doesn’t feel up to it. You may have a need for the fellowship and/or spiritual strengthening just for yourself.
You need to fill that need, whether your loved one goes with you or not. It also may be part of your social life. My mom doesn’t just go to church to worship – she goes for the social activities, too.
Mentally you can do things that challenge your mind outside of what you do for your loved one. Reading is a good way to fill this need.
Even using the Internet to look things up, whether they’re about bipolar disorder or not, will also help keep your mind fresh and active and learning new things.
You might even want to take a college course –whether actually at the college (it’ll get you out of the house) or they even have courses you can take online at home now.
Emotionally you can keep yourself strong by seeing your own therapist, or if you can’t do that, at least keep a daily journal where you can write down your thoughts and feelings.
This way, you can keep those negative thoughts and feelings from building up inside you and coming out (they always do eventually) in a way you don’t want them to.
Physically, you can take care of your body by exercising. You don’t necessarily have to lift weights or even join a gym. Just walking 3 times a week can be good exercise for you.
And you need to be eating a good, healthy diet as well. The important thing is that you take care of your body, so that you have enough energy to take care of your loved one.
Financially, you need to make sure that your loved one doesn’t have entire access to all the family funds. Should they go into an episode and go off on a spending spree, they could push you into bankruptcy, and then where would you be?
Having your own bank account as well as a joint account with your loved one (just in case) would be a good suggestion. Another would be to make sure that you are a co-signer on all your bank accounts.
Also, if your loved one is not good with money, and especially when you see signs/symptoms that they may be going into an episode, make sure that you’re the one holding all the credit cards and debit cards.
Your loved one may be a little threatened or angry about this at first, but it’s still better than losing all your money to an episode.
Just remember, you and your loved one may go together like “a horse and carriage,” but it still takes a strong supporter, one who takes care of themselves, to help take care of a loved one with bipolar disorder.
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