I hope your day is going well.
Today is a BIG day for me. I have several new people starting in a major part of my company that has gotten out of control. It has to do with the finding of newsletter subscribers.
Anyway, I have 4 people working on the problem today. One with bipolar disorder and three who do not. People ask me all the time why I bring in someone with bipolar disorder when their are tough problems? The answer is, I have found that a person with bipolar disorder who is stable is generally more creative more intelligent and can solve problems faster.
Some people get mad when I say this kind of thing. I don’t know why. They insist that this is not always true. For me it’s true. That’s the deal.
Anyway I am also testing a new system of sending my daily emails. If you get this message and it looks right
around the same time you normally do then the system worked great. I hopeit does : )
Okay, let’s move on..
I forgot to tell you this. The other week, I was hiking at the Jenny Jump Park.
Why is it called Jenny Jump?
Well here’s what happened.
There was a girl named Jenny a long time ago who thought Indians were chasing her to kill her, so she ran far and fast to a cliff.
The she couldn’t figure out how to get down from the cliff.
So she jumped to her death.
Eventually the area was called Jenny Jump and eventually became a park.
I was thinking about Jenny and her jump and how the story went that she killed herself out of believing there was no hope.
Jenny, like many people who have bipolar disorder, or even supporters of loved ones who have it, believe it can never get better.
It sure can, though.
My mom’s situation was terrible.
My brother said there was no hope and not to waste my time.
I didn’t think so. I thought there was hope.
And now my mom is better. She still has bipolar disorder, but she’s better than she was. I think my not giving up hope had something to do with that.
I have several people who work for me that have attempted suicide in the past.
They report to me that at the time they were suicidal, they thought there was no hope.
They said the amazing thing is, with time, things get better with bipolar disorder.
ALL of them are glad that they didn’t succeed!
NOTE: If you or your loved one are feeling suicidal, call 1-800-SUICIDE and remember, there’s hope.
There’s no hope if you are dead.
If you are a supporter, help your loved one get information like what I have in my courses/systems.
SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
I mean, I do have sections on what to do if you’re feeling suicidal, but I have even more about learning how to deal with your disorder so that you don’t get to that point.
No, there still isn’t a cure for bipolar disorder.
But there is hope.
Someone told me once that “suicide is a temporary solution to a permanent problem.”
Learning how to manage bipolar disorder, or how to be a good supporter and help your loved one manage their bipolar disorder, is a permanent solution, not a temporary one.
Ok, so there’s no cure. But with your hope, you can look for solutions that work for you and your loved one.
And don’t worry about what other people say.
At some of the support groups I go to, this person might say that you should do this, or you should do that, otherwise you’re not being a good supporter.
Don’t worry about what they say. Don’t let anyone tell you that you’re not being a good supporter.
You just do what works for you and your loved one, and you ARE being a good supporter!
Remember there is hope. It’s kind of strange but I remember when virtually everyone was betting against my mom. There was never any doubt in my mind that my mom would get better. I knew 100%, that she could become better (that’s what I called it at the time).
My brother wanted to put her away in a hospital forever (which you can do anyway). My dad was just in a state of limbo basically asking me to accept the way she was and that she would never be better and we would just have to deal with her.
It’s sad but on the one hand, so many people are so quick to give up with bipolar disorder. But on the other hand so many people never give up but keep doing the same stuff over and over hoping for a different result.
It’s really strange.
I am not pushing my courses but I can honestly say the answers are there. People are surprised when they talk to myself or someone who works with me with bipolar disorder about a problem they have. We immediately have an answer. Why? Well because we have pretty much faced it all and have systems for everything.
Anyway, the point of this was to rely to you about Jenny and how she gave up. Don’t be like Jenny.
David Oliver is the author of the shocking guide “Bipolar Disorder—The REAL Silent Killer.” Click Here to get FREE Information sent via email on how and why bipolar disorder kills.