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Hi,

How’s it going?

I saw an interesting post that said:

I thought you were a wierdo on the make; taking advantage.I ignored most of the emails and felt angry.However today I have discovered the comments by other sufferers and this was because I realised you had words of comfort and wisdom in your updates which made me look further.

For some reason, I have gotten a few people this past week asking to work for me but then asking me questions suggesting that I was running some kind of scam.

Which obviously I am not.

I am glad this person sees that I am working hard to help. It’s no simple task.

I was reading a book and saw this quote:

I have been through some terrible things in my life, some of which actually happened,” by Mark Twain.

I was thinking about this and it reminded me of many negative supporters who think everything will go wrong and nothing will go right.

Now bipolar disorder is serious and things do go wrong, but you just can’t be thinking about all the negative things all the time.

If you concentrate on all the worst things, you can’t help your loved one get better, because it will make you have a negative attitude.

Then your loved one will pick up on it, and they will have a negative attitude, too, and they won’t get better.

They’ll just start thinking, “I’ll never get better. I may as well just give up.”

It’s just like that Mark Twain quote. They’ll just start imagining all sorts of things.

Just like you.

If you start thinking about the worst things all the time, you’ll start imagining that things will happen, and they might not even happen.

Like you’ll be walking around on eggshells waiting for the next episode to happen, when it might be YEARS before the next time your loved one goes into an episode again.

And what if your loved one does the same thing?

In my courses/systems, I talk about how a positive attitude vs. a negative attitude can affect your loved one’s stability.

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I’m not saying that you shouldn’t plan for things that might happen. I’m not saying that at all.

You still have to plan but many times, people imagine the worst all the time.

You should still have your Episode Emergency Plan in place.

What’s that?

Well, even though you don’t want your loved one to go into an episode, and you shouldn’t be worried about it all the time, you should still have a plan in place in case they do. That’s just smart thinking.

What you do is, you make a list of all their medications (keep it current, too) with dosages and when they’re supposed to take them, and have it in a handy place in case they do go into an episode and have to go to the hospital.

Also keep a list (current) of their doctor, psychiatrist and therapist, with names, addresses, and phone numbers handy, along with all other contact numbers, like family, etc. for the same reason.

Also, if you have any documents, you need to keep these somewhere where you can get to them easily if your loved one goes into an episode and needs to be hospitalized.

For example, if you keep them in a safety deposit box and your loved one needs to go to the hospital on a Sunday, you won’t be able to get to the documents.

These are documents like a Power of Attorney and a Medical Release Form, that your loved one needs to sign in advance when they are NOT in an episode.

So what I’m saying is not that you expect the worst so that you’re in a constant state of worry, but you still plan for emergencies in case they happen.

You can still keep a positive attitude, especially for your loved one, but still be prepared at the same time.

You can, as the saying goes…

“Plan for the worst, but hope for the best.”

What do you think?

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Hi,

How’s it going for you today?

I have a friend that is kind of like a young philosopher.

One day my friend said that one of his friends was “the most self-actualized persons he knows” (whatever that means) lol

So anyway, I was talking to my friend and he was telling me about the reality of many of the parents in his school system–more than 50% don’t really parent well.

He said that he has tried to explain to parents that they should not work in New York and drive 4 hours or more a day because the kids aren’t getting the kind of love, guidance and supervision they need and ultimately get into drugs and other bad things.

He said that parents yell at him and say things like, “How the heck am I going to pay for my big house if I don’t work in New York?”

NOTE-It’s common that many New York people moved to just over the borderline in Pennsylvania for big gigantic houses. This is super stupid but that’s another story. (NOTE-This area has one of the highest drug, gang, foreclosure and divorce rates in the United States…because people work in New York and live in PA).

So anyway, my friend tells these parents things like, “You made a mistake buying this house. It’s okay to make mistakes but now you have to make a choice, live in big house or downsize into a much smaller house and get a local job and spend time with your kids.”

He says that parents go crazy so to speak when they hear this and he says,

“Just because the message is negative doesn’t mean it’s wrong.”

I said to him, I deliver many a negative message to people dealing with bipolar and they get mad.

It’s true. Many of the things I teach in my courses/systems may seem negative to you when you read them at the time, but if you practice them, they will help you to achieve stability.

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One of these messages is about medication.

People with bipolar disorder would rather hear that they only have to be on medication temporarily, just until they feel better.

Then I come along and tell them they have to take it for the rest of their lives in order to stay stable.

It’s like that saying, “Don’t shoot the messenger!”

Remember, “Just because the message is negative, doesn’t mean it’s wrong.”

In fact, in this case, it just might save your loved one’s life.

Or like I tell people with bipolar disorder that they have to have 8 hours of sleep a night, and some people don’t want to hear that.

They think that they should be able to have as much or as little sleep as they want.

But too much sleep can put you into a bipolar depressive episode, and too little sleep can lead to a bipolar manic episode.

Again, “Just because the message is negative, doesn’t mean it’s wrong.”

In this case, the information could keep your loved one from going into an episode.

I tell your loved one that they need to go to see their doctor, psychiatrist and therapist as well, and they may not want to hear that.

They think it’s a negative message.

But without going to those appointments regularly, they won’t be stable.

And I tell them that they have to get a good doctor, that not all doctors are good.

That they definitely think is a negative message, because we’re brought up to believe that all doctors are good.

But I’ve heard from or talked to too many people with bipolar disorder and /or their supporters and I know different.

So you have to find a good doctor and you have to listen to them and do what they tell you to do in order to be stable.

So all these things are just examples of what could be taken as negative messages, but again, as the saying goes:

“Just because the message is negative, doesn’t mean it’s wrong.”

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Hi,

How’s it going?

I hope you’re having a good day.

I have to go really quick because I am going to brunch with my mom and dad. It’s my dad’s birthday.

Anyway, my computer is driving me out of my mind. It’s locking up every three seconds. It needs a trip to the computer hospital but I don’t have time to bring it : )

Let’s talk about today’s topic really quick and then I have to take off, okay?

I saw this plaque that said:

“It’s never too late to live Happily Ever After.”

I thought that was really cool.

What a concept, huh?

Especially when you apply it to bipolar disorder.

Too many people with bipolar disorder (and their supporter) “stop” their lives once the diagnosis is made.

They think the opposite of the saying:

“It’s never too late to live Happily Ever After.”

They think that now that they have bipolar disorder, their lives are going to be controlled by it…

Because now they have to take medication for the rest of their lives…

Because now all their time will be spent running to appointments and other places related to their bipolar disorder:

· Doctors
· Psychiatrist
· Therapist
· Pharmacy
· Support Group

They are afraid they can’t do the things they used to because it might cause them to go into an episode.

Yes, it’s true that you do have to change some things when you’re diagnosed with bipolar disorder.

But it does NOT mean that your whole life has to change!

And it shouldn’t mean that your happiness has to change, either.

“It’s never too late to live Happily Ever After.”

The dreams you had before the diagnosis, you can still have.

The hopes you still had before, you can still have.

The plans you had before, you can still have.

You just have to have a good treatment plan, and in my courses/systems, I show you how to develop one:

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Bipolar disorder doesn’t have to control your whole life.

In fact, most people with the disorder only have about two episodes in a whole year. (Some even less than that)

The rest of the time, they live a fairly normal life.

So there’s no reason to be afraid of the disorder or its affect on your life, your dreams, your hopes, or your plans.

As long as your loved one takes their medication and sticks to their treatment plan…

“It’s never too late to live Happily Ever After.”

Do you agree?

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Hi,

How are you?

I hope you are doing well.

Sorry the news is one day late.

Here is today’s news.

To read this week’s news visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarnews417

New Approach Needed for Bipolar Depression
DO> Interesting, take a look.

Bipolar Disorder Increases Risk of Disease
DO> Did you hear about this?

Divorce Common Outcome with a Bipolar Partner
DO> VERY interesting article. Rarely is this kind of thing written about.

Breaking the Stigma of Mental Illness
DO> Great article.

Don’t Struggle Alone against Mental Illness
DO>Great article, too. Take a look.

For these stories and more, please visit:
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Hi,

I hope you’re having a really good day.

Well today is suppose to be the bipolar news but we have a technical problem.

Big storms knocked out some of our systems that help us get the news going so it won’t be here until tomorrow morning.

Sorry about this if you were waiting for it.

Well, I have an interesting topic for you today:

How to go into a bipolar episode.

Here’s how I got the idea:

I was thinking about how I write my reports and courses.

I do it in steps.

Step 1: First comes the idea.

Step 2: Then I share the idea with a few other people to see if they think it’s a good one (or if I’m out of my mind, which sometimes they say I am 🙂

Step 3: I draw up an outline of the idea and some other ideas and points I want to be in the report or course.

Step 4: I let it stew for a few days. I know this sounds crazy, but I really do this.

Step 5: I revisit the outline. Usually, because I let it stew, I’ve come up with new ideas and points to add to the outline (the report or course), or have talked to someone n the meantime who gave me some new ideas to add to it. (Here’s a secret: Sometimes they even come from comments on my blog! I get ideas from everywhere and anyone)

Step 6: I do the research I need to do for the report or course. This can take a long time in itself.

Step 7: I start writing the report or course. This part can take months and months. Actually, I should have said this step is only the first draft of the report or course. That’s why it takes so long.

Step 8: I write the 2nd draft of the report or course.

Step 9: If needed, I write a 3rd draft of the report or course.

Step 10: I show the report to someone else (or a few other people) to get their opinion(s) on the report or course. If they don’t like it, or it needs more work, I go back and repeat Step 8. If not, I go on to the next step.

Step 11: I send the report or course on for editing. I can’t always trust myself not to miss something crucial, and I want my reports and courses to be absolutely perfect before they get to you. An editor does more than proofread and check for spelling and grammar mistakes. They also have to make sure that my ideas flow correctly and that it comes across the way I mean for it to. You know, things like that.

Step 12: It comes back to me and I proofread it again before I approve it for you.

Step 13: I ready the report or course for you.

THIRTEEN STEPS!

If I were to write a “How to Write a Report or Course on Bipolar Disorder David Oliver’s Way,” there would be 13 Steps to it!

So now you can understand all the hard work that goes into my courses/systems, so you can get the best information possible:

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Well, anyway, let’s get to the subject at hand:

How to go into a bipolar episode.

I’ll show you, like I showed you how I write a report or course.

Step 1: Get lazy.

Step 2: Stop being productive.

Step 3: Stop exercising.

Step 4: Stop eating a healthy diet.

Step 5: Stop keeping good sleep habits.

Step 6: Stop watching for triggers.

Step 7: Stop watching for signs/symptoms.

Step 8: Stop taking care of yourself.

Step 9: Stop communicating with your Supporter (support system).

Step 10: Start isolating.

Step 11: Start losing touch with family and friends.

Step 12: Stop going to your support group.

Step 13: Stop seeing your therapist.

Step 14: Stop going to your psychiatrist and doctor.

Step 15: STOP TAKING YOUR MEDICATION.

Well, by the time you reach Step 15, you are pretty much guaranteed to go into a bipolar episode.

ESPECIALLY because of Step 15.

You might be able to get away with doing some of the other steps, even for quite some time, but you can’t get away with stopping your medications.

And that’s the most dangerous thing of all! Because it can fool you.

Because of the build-up of medication in your system, you might be able to go a little while and not feel any different. So you might be fooled into thinking you don’t even need your bipolar medications to feel fine!

But this is a LIE!

Your bipolar disorder is cunning – it will lie in wait… and then spring on you like a lion, and the next thing you know, you have no medication to fall back on…

And you are in a full-blown bipolar episode!

IF NOT WORSE!

The worst thing that can happen is that you could lose your life!

Unfortunately, it happens way too often.

People go off their medications, thinking they don’t need them (or any number of other reasons), and end up killing themselves.

The statistics say that 20% will do this. That is 1 in 5 people. 1 in 5 people! You could be that one person if you go off your medication!

So what about you?

Do you agree or disagree?

Have you ever gone off your medication and gone into an episode?

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Hi,

Hey, how’s it going?

I was thinking about something today.

How come if a grape is a grape is a grape, they have to come in three different colors – red, white, and green? What’s the difference? It’s still a grape, isn’t it?

And then I started thinking about it in relation to bipolar disorder (I always think of everything in relation to bipolar disorder LOL)

Everybody’s different. But everybody who has bipolar disorder still has the same disorder.

Everyone that has bipolar disorder still has to take medication and go on a treatment plan.

But does everyone have the same treatment plan?

Let’s think about that.

First of all, let’s think about medication.

Yes, everyone has to take medication, but not everyone is on the same medication.

You might be on “red grape” medication, the next person might be on “white grape” medication, and the next person might be on “green grape” medication, but it’s all still bipolar medication.

The important thing, though, is that you’re all on some type of medication, because that’s crucial for management of bipolar disorder..

Ok, now let’s talk about therapy.

You might like “Talk Therapy” – let’s call that “red grape” therapy. The next person might like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy” – let’s call that “white grape” therapy. And the next person is doing great in family therapy – “green grape” therapy.

But you’re all in therapy, and therapy is very important in management of bipolar disorder as well. Whatever type of therapy you choose.

Now, everyone who has bipolar disorder should be living a healthy lifestyle. I go over that in my courses/systems:

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A healthy lifestyle includes such things as eating right, exercise, and sticking to a good sleep regimen.

However, a “red grape” person might prefer fruits and vegetables, while a “white grape” person might be a meat and potato person, and a “green grape” person a mixture of both.

All of them acknowledge the need for exercise, but each might choose a different type.

And although all of them keep a good sleep schedule, they might each go to bed and rise at different times.

Now, there are the other elements that make up a good treatment plan, such as stress reduction techniques,
relaxation exercises, hobbies, productivity, etc.

Although each is important to a good treatment plan and management of a person’s bipolar disorder, this is
where the true “type of grape,” or individuality steps in.

The “red grape” person might use meditation as their stress reduction or relaxation technique, the “white grape” person might use quiet music as theirs, while the “green grape” person might use a dark room and laying down for awhile for theirs.

The important thing is what you do what works for you.

“Red grape’s” hobby is scrapbooking. “White grape’s” hobby is skiing. “Green grape’s” hobby is working in her garden.

Yet each enjoys her hobby just the same. Each one has a wonderful supporter who loves them and stands by them.

They each have a different relationship from the others, but they all understand how important it is to have a
supporter.

All their supporters go to different support groups as well.

Say each person makes a To-Do List for their productivity.

Do you think they’re going to list the same things on each of their lists? Of course not. The important thing is that, as part of the management of their disorder, that they are productive.

There are many different parts to make up a good treatment plan, and as many ways to implement one as there are people who use it.

Choose one that works for you, just like the examples in this email.

And be flexible! Too rigid a plan (or someone else’s plan), and you won’t stick to it. If you need to change something around, do it. As long as you follow a good treatment plan that helps you to manage your bipolar disorder.

Know what I mean?

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Hi,

Hope things are going good for you today.

Pretty soon I am going to be looking for some writers for various topics on my bipolarcentral.com site.

Keep checking out the daily emails and look for a posting on this.

I also wanted to point out that feel free to post on my bipolar blog. For some reason, I have gotten many people asking for permission to do this.

People on my list are so polite and respectful.

Hey, I wanted to talk about something today.

I know that dealing with a loved one with bipolar disorder is hard.

I know that sometimes it can be so hard that you may want to hide under the covers and never come out.

I know that sometimes it can be so hard that you just want to run away from your problems.

I know that sometimes it can be so hard that you just wish someone would wave a magic wand and make your problems disappear.

Unfortunately, you can’t hide under the covers and never come out.

You can’t just run away from your problems.

And nobody is going to wave a magic wand and make your problems disappear.

How do I know?

Because I’m a supporter, and I’m still here. And so are you.

So what’s the answer, then?

You need to learn how to deal effectively with your problems. In my courses/systems below, I talk about problem -solving techniques:

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But there are ways to take your mind off your problems.

Let me ask you this:

Have you ever watched a sporting event? Like a football game, for example. You can get so caught up in the action, that you can forget everything else going on around you!

Watching a movie can kind of do the same thing for you – you can get so caught up in the movie that you can forget your own problems for awhile and be caught up in the problems of the people in the movie.

What about reading a book? Getting caught up in the plot can help you forget your problems, too. Especially if it’s a thriller! Even a romance novel will work, because you can get caught up in the characters’ problems and forget your own for awhile.

You can take a long drive in the country, just enjoying the scenery, and let your mind drift away from your problems. Think about how beautiful nature is instead. Notice the little things.

Visit with a friend, and listen to their problems instead. That will certainly get your mind off your own!

Try some creative writing! A children’s story is a great place to start, because when you’re trying to get in the mind of a child, looking at life (and its simplicity) through their eyes, you can’t be thinking about your problems at the same time.

Putting old photos in a scrapbook can also bring out your creative side, and bring out good memories as well, taking your mind off your problems. It may take a little more effort to be positive about the activity, but you can do it!

Listening to some upbeat music can bring you out of your doldrums and get your mind off your problems as well (especially if you dance to it!).

Some supporters have found that meditation and relaxation exercises have helped them to take their mind off their problems, as well as to reduce their stress levels.

These are just some ways you can get your mind off your problems.

I’m sure if you try, you can think of more!

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