Hi,
How’s it going?
I hope you’re having a good day.
I have to go really quick because I am going to brunch with my mom and dad. It’s my dad’s birthday.
Anyway, my computer is driving me out of my mind. It’s locking up every three seconds. It needs a trip to the computer hospital but I don’t have time to bring it : )
Let’s talk about today’s topic really quick and then I have to take off, okay?
I saw this plaque that said:
“It’s never too late to live Happily Ever After.”
I thought that was really cool.
What a concept, huh?
Especially when you apply it to bipolar disorder.
Too many people with bipolar disorder (and their supporter) “stop” their lives once the diagnosis is made.
They think the opposite of the saying:
“It’s never too late to live Happily Ever After.”
They think that now that they have bipolar disorder, their lives are going to be controlled by it…
Because now they have to take medication for the rest of their lives…
Because now all their time will be spent running to appointments and other places related to their bipolar disorder:
· Doctors
· Psychiatrist
· Therapist
· Pharmacy
· Support Group
They are afraid they can’t do the things they used to because it might cause them to go into an episode.
Yes, it’s true that you do have to change some things when you’re diagnosed with bipolar disorder.
But it does NOT mean that your whole life has to change!
And it shouldn’t mean that your happiness has to change, either.
“It’s never too late to live Happily Ever After.”
The dreams you had before the diagnosis, you can still have.
The hopes you still had before, you can still have.
The plans you had before, you can still have.
You just have to have a good treatment plan, and in my courses/systems, I show you how to develop one:
SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11
SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com
HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net
Bipolar disorder doesn’t have to control your whole life.
In fact, most people with the disorder only have about two episodes in a whole year. (Some even less than that)
The rest of the time, they live a fairly normal life.
So there’s no reason to be afraid of the disorder or its affect on your life, your dreams, your hopes, or your plans.
As long as your loved one takes their medication and sticks to their treatment plan…
“It’s never too late to live Happily Ever After.”
Do you agree?
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Having recently been diagnosed with this disorder, I feel that the only disability is peoples attitudes
Hello David,
I hope you had a nice Valentine’s Day? I beleive that e-mail you
just sent me is so true. I have to follow those guide lines everyday to make it all work out. My tendinitos in my left leg has been bothering me so I am trying to stay off of it. I am putting heat and ice and my brace on it. It is feeling a little better than it was. I have to take care of myself or no one else is going to. Isn’t that true. I am so hyper most of the time but I have a schedule wake up make the bed do all my chores so I feel better about myself that is so true for me I am a clean freak. I am feeling better about myself but I just had a very bad episode
crying alot and wanting isolation I think I am doing better now.
Have a good day ok and I will talk to you later.
Grace
HI
Well thats hard to say that to some one who feels like shit sorry for the swearring a think am just tiered. Its that time of the month.
Take Care Linda x
P.S can you send me a pic just to see who i am taking to or am i just being noisey. x
This was good. Despite the stigma that family and society puts on me/us, I know that I can live a happy life. As long as I take my meds and keep a great attitude I’m gonna be just great.
Hello, fellow Bipolar folks~
Thought I would share with you my ‘bipolar’ news, for lack of a better word….
You see, I’ve been diagnosed with Bipolarism for many years now, and I’ve seen the detriments that being bipolar carry.
In Divorce court, almost 10 years ago, this ‘condition’ of mine was brought up in court! My ex’s attorney tried to turn my bipolarism against me, but I would not succumb to his foolish logic.
Now, McGregor, TX PD is trying the same thing. After the suspicious death of my son, Joshua (19), McGregor PD labeled me as ‘Crazy Cynthia’!
It’s all about credibility, should I decide to sue the McGregor PD for Civil Rights Violations.
Oh, it didn’t stop there. The police harrassed me, arrested me for 8 counts of forgery, and as soon as I bonded out, the charges were dropped, because you CAN’T forge your own account! Nonetheless, I still was stuck paying the bond, which was astronomical!
It’s been 3 years (Feb. 16), since I lost my son, Joshua, and I’m no closer to the truth, than I was 2+ years ago!
http://www.realcrime.com (Joshua Robinson)
http://www.americaiswatching.org (Joshua Robinson) Attached documents, including a petition/comment section.
Please take a moment to read this convolute story, share your thoughts, support the injustice.
Thank you, Cynthia
If you feel the need to contact me: welovejoshua@yahoo.com
Mr. Oliver, I just want to say that I got a lot of information from you website about what to do now that my child age 7 has been diagnosed with bipolar. I really did not know much about it except for what i was getting on other websites which was not much. but your website gives me alot of information. I want to thank you for taking the time to wrtie all the information that you do and sending it to people that are dealing with this disorder in any form. You have given me an insite now to what i need to do to find a good doctor, therapist and support group. thank you sooo much
David,
I support my husband who was diagnosed as Bi-polar 15 years ago. He was doing very well until his Mother moved in with us a year ago. I am wondering if that triggered something. She is diagnosed with General anxiery disorder. He is very hateful again towards both of us.
We are going to start over with Doctors-actually on Tuesday, so I am praying things will get back to normal (whatever that is). I am working hard for Happily Ever After, but he seems to think the answer is splitting up- that is always his answer. Maybe he is just trying to protect me. He is not physically abusive but the name calling is awful.
Praying for Happily Ever After,
Julie
Hi Dave,
Boy it seems you are always in a hurry. I hope you make time to have fun and de-stress from all that you do.
I agree with it is never too late because happiness isn’t always having what you want, or doing what you want, or being all that you want to be. I think it is like success, as I mentioned in an earlier reply a while back. Happiness is learning to enjoy what you have, enjoy doing what you can, and being happy with how you are. Abraham Lincon I believe, said, Happiness is a decision. So we can always be happy with what we have and don’t have, what we are and can’t be, and what we can do yet can’t do. It is all perspective… You can choose your perspective too… As I always say, we have more to be grateful for than we do to complain about! Some say the glass is half empty, the others half full, a friend of mine said: Just be happy for the glass, no matter how full or empty it is… The glass would be our life, we can be happy we have what we do, it is a decision. It is never too late to live happily ever after, but storms do come, episodes happen, but we can’t focus on the contents of the glass, just be grateful we have a life, happy we have a life. The choice is ours…
Well, I gotta zoom off too, another busy day. But I wouldn’t have it any other way!!!
Thanks Dave!
Bob
Dave Oliver: I agree with you completely Dave. I have always believed that a person should never give up their dreams. You may get delayed for a time but their is always a chance to get back on track. The condo that we now live in we put a deposit on fourteen years ago but were unable to complete because I got fired from my job teaching small engines at the Wexford Missaukee career tech center. Last year we were able to sell our house during the worst economy in decades and buy our dream condo. that proves to me that dreams can come due. Thanks again Dave for the good advice and keep up the good work. Chuck Lessard in Northern Mi.
Dave thanks for the news i wonder how many of this .Ionly hope for the best. my life changes all the time. people places things . thank u for all ur suport im living the country soon but still want to her from u tell ur dad i said h-b-dy and many more sharon feeney from santee cal
Good Morning David,
Happy Valentine’s Day, I hope you are having
a great day.
Thank you so much for all your e-mails, I enjoy
them so much and am so thankful for you.
Things are going well, we have so much to be
thankful for. God Bless YOu
Sincerely, Darlene
P.S. Have a wonderful day enjoying your time
with your Mom and Dad, so good to hear that your
Mom is doing so well, My Mom passed away soon
2 years ago, March 10, and our Son, David, was
killed by a train and a 4wheeler accident soon
6 years ago, that was the hardest time of my life,
he had just turned 45 years old, that must be
close to your age or maybe you are younger.
Anyway have a great day.
What about the rapid cycler? When I read that some people only have to deal with 2 episodes a year, I thought, wow, wouldn’t that be nice? My friend has only felt “normal” 2 or 3 days in the last 6 months/year!! She not only deals with rapid cycling, she has anxiety/agoraphobia on top of it. If you or anyone can offer any hope for my friend, or me, to believe in “happily ever after” in this situation, outside of heaven, please let me know.
Dear David,
What an encouraging newsletter – to live happily ever after – no it really isn’t a dream – you talk alot about a spirtual needs. I would like to share with you two beautiful scriptures. The first one is found in Revelation 21:4 And he (God) will wipe out every tear from their eyes and death will be no more, neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore, The former things have passed away. The other scripture is found in Isaiah 33:24 And no resident will say; “I am sick,” I look forward to when my family can have that everlasting peace and until that day if we keep our focus – we should be ok. Thanks again for all your support! Mellie
Thank you for the information on bipolar. I can’t get my husband to see a doctor. He doesn’t think anything is wrong with him. He left the family 2 states away from us. I’m seeing a doctor, therapist and minister, just to keep my sanity, and for the kids sake. I don’t have much money so I can only read your free stuff for now. I’m reading the Boundaries of Marriage, it really opened my eyes on how a married couple should be–not controlling. So my first goal is to get my husband to realize that he does have a problem. He thinks everybody is hateful and selfish. People just say things just to make yourself feel good–not the truth.
I am 50 and have been living with BPD since I was 31. My doctor says it only gets worse as I age, and I’ve only had one manic episode, although I’ve had several mixed episodes. I was recently diagnosed with borderline personality disorder and am very discouraged. Everything I’ve been able to find says that it takes years of therapy to reverse or mitigate this disorder. It really does seem that it’s going to be hard to “live happily ever after” given the amount of therapy needed. At one point I wanted to go back to school to earn my Master’s degree in Nursing, but my current doctor doesn’t seem to think that’s possible. I currently drive over 300 miles to see this doctor, and she’s an expert in mood disorders, but I think she’s wrong. I am going to be changing psychiatrists, not so much for that reason as for the long drive, and if I am going to get worse, as she predicts, if I ever need hospitalization I want to be closer to home. If you can give me any insight I’d appreciate it, particularly as it relates to borderling personality disorder and bipolar disorder combined. Sometimes I think that some of my supposed “bipolar” medications aren’t really treating the underlying personality disorder, and perhaps I shouldn’t be on some of them at all.
I met a 39 yr old woman who was seperated and going through a divorce. I didnt realize she was bi-polar until her ex-husband cut her off his insurance and she stopped taking her meds due to financial hardship.During the next year she attempted suicide 3 times and cheated on me several times. Due to her sexual deviancy during manic stage I decided to leave her. This was the 2nd suicide attempt in which she told officers I hit her. Now Im in court looking at losing my RN license if my lawyer cannot prove her unstable. She has a long history of documented mental health issues,has been on and off meds for years arguing with doctors over meds and how she feels, many stays in psychiatric facilities and several suicide attempts before and after I met her. Im in court getting ready for a jury trial, a womens shelter has taken her in and put her on meds-now she truly believes I did her wrong and with a little brainwashing from the shelters councelors-she is hot after my RN license. Me-Im a psych nurse who worked at a treatment center at Corcoran Maxumum Prison. Any advice for court? For my lawyer?
Is it too late to live “Happily ever after” when you’re 61 years old? I still have dreams of meeting “Mr. Right,” and having companionship into my “old age.” To that extent, I HAVE gone to on-line dating – and am waiting – with bated breath – to hear from someone NICE. Or am I just being a deluded “old lady” who thinks she’s still attractive enough to entice a nice “millionaire” into taking care of me??!! (That’s a joke, son!) I don’t care particularly what he LOOKS like, just that he would treat me reasonably well, and be “cool” with my bipolar.
The other “dream” I have is freelance writing which I can do at home. My therapist has told me I can NEVER work a 9-5 job outside the home (too much stress), so that leaves trying this to make some money (I have NEVER been this poor – am applying for Food Stamps, for Heaven’s sake). Unfortunately, I don’t know the first thing about writing my proposals to my clients – I always seem to bid too high, although I HAVE to live; some of the bids start at $50 and up – I bid $55 – and it’s too HIGH. I can’t win for losing 🙁
I feel like I’m in a “mixed episode” right now. I’m still “down,” but when I go out to run errands, I can put on a “smiley face” and interact “normally” with other people. It’s a drag to be “sad,” but I have a LOT on my plate right now, that isn’t being resolved as quickly as I had hoped. I’m OK with ME – it’s the EXTERNAL stressors that are getting me down…
Hold onto your dreams and hopes; they are two things you absolutely NEED to make it with a diagnosis of bipolar disorder. Once you lose HOPE you will spiral downward – at least I DO have hope that everything will ultilmately turn around to my advantage. I need your prayers…
BIG HUGS to all bipolar survivors and those who love us. May God bless you real good. I pray for my country.
PROVE THE DRUGS & PSYCHIATRIST ARE NOT THE SOLE CAUSE, & TO FURTHER THE DETREMENT OF THE DISORDER KNOWN AS BI-POLAR!
PRE PSYCH. I HAD A LIFE!
PROVE ANY PSYCH. IS WORTHY OF 1 RED CENT!
PROVE THEY KNOW THE FIRST THING ABOUT PEOPLES MINDS!
TO BELIEVE ANY THEY/YOU STATE ONE WOULD NEED AN IQ LESS THAN 15.
STEP UP TO THE PLATE DAVE!
OR DO YOU WISH TO PROVE YOU ARE MEARLY PISS & WIND, A LOUD MOUTH.
Dave, I believe if you stay positive in your mind and
attitude, you can accomplish anything.
Thank you for your letters, you really help me out.
Happy birthday to your Dad!
Cindy from Phila.
To: Troy
You sound like my husband and this is what I tell him,
“You are too mad right now to hear correctly what people, who are trying to help you, are saying”.
Understandable, this can be a hard adjustment when we don’t have full understanding of bipolar disorder. I hope for you, someone with patience will be there to help you. Yes, there is always hope. Sometimes our eyes can’t see or ears just can’t hear it.
God Bless Y’all,
Vicky
If you give up on your dreams you give up on everything! Famous quote, though I can’t remember who said it. It’s my dreams which have always kept me sane through a lot of stress. Like one of my all time favourite songs: “I have a dream, a fantasy, which helps me cope with anything…” Most of my adult life I have been in deep financial difficulties (I am again right now) and somehow managed to get out of it. My boyfriend and I often discuss what we would do with a lottery win. I don’t mean to say you should reach high and rely on the lottery, but don’t let people discourage you. There are people with no hands who create works of art with their feet! Where there’s a will there’s a way. Hold on to your dreams. They help you recognise opportunities, which pave the path to success.
ERIC, my heart goes out to you. If the woman has a proven history of mental illness, you should be able to prove her unstable. She is an example why so many people are prejudiced against others with mental illness. She may not even be aware of doing this. All the best of luck to you.
SUZANNE, good for you to try and find the right man. Nelson Mendela got married again at 80. I’m 51 and always told I look much younger. I’m very young at heart and don’t feel a day over 30 (lol). I have a friend who is 76 and very active and young at heart. Another friend is 62, looks very good for her age, but believes she is too old to have a cat! It goes to show that you are as old as you feel. My boyfriend is young at heart most of the time, except when depressed. We believe, though in our 50’s, we have plenty of time to enjoy life. You’re never too old!
Dear Dave,
My former husband is bipolar, abusive, and unfaithful. He would not get treatment and I felt that he would not get help as long as I was available to blame. Now, thirty years later my son does not understand why I divorced his father and he blames me. So, I continue to held up as the problem.
I have remarried and now have a wonderful husband and a great life.
hi david hope you had a good valentines better than mine i hope i had no female to talk about but did have some great male company which was good had a couple of drinks but didn’t get the dance i was after what a shame
hi, just recently been diagnosed with bipolar disorder, although on hindsight, it has obviously been with me for a while!! (3 marriages and 3 suicide attempts to be precise). i am so confused about all the info surrounding this condition. trying to exlain it to my paartner is proving the most difficult partas i have in the past been arguementative and verbally vile to him without realising the extent of my “rants” and i think he feels that i now can use this condition as a convenient cover up for picking arguements.
hoping meds will kick in soon and have some effect (only started on medication 13 days ago).
thanks for taking the time to keep us updated
Dear Dave: I wrote to u this morning about my boyfrind who is bi polor and broke my heart. The thing I realize now is that I am there when he wants me there and then he disappears for days and I dont know if hes dead or alive. I am due in april with his twins a boy and girl and I am going to be ok I have a good job and great support. I just cant be the on again off again girl and to know what he told me that he slept with another girl just made me say to myself that its time to be over. I have to do me and put me together and take care of me and the babys and not to have to always put him 1st and i know it sounds like I dont care I do yet I have given up my life 4 his and just let me know im doing the right thing thanks isabella
Linda X;
I asked Dave for a picture ages ago. Also for a Debate. I got Neither.
Vicky;
Are you refering to me?
If you know something I don’t (I have only 8.3 years experience in this field). email me mary.henry1@bigpond.com though from reading that post of yours I think you are overmedicated. For I can not decipher it.
HOW Vicky is Deceribration via Chemicals & or psychical means of benifit to any?
Who or what benifit from Brain damage?
Appart from the “dr” & the drug cartells!
Vicky;
as you know only psych spin, and are NOT a psych. VICTIUM, you as Dave know NOTHING.
Who are you to call me MAD?
Do I know you, seems Not as if you Knew ME, you would know I am FAR from insane.
Last 2 psychs I assessed told me:”Their is no pill or injection that will change you, the past, future, or anybody else. Nor can I change you.”
Of what use R they then?
Deceribration!
You seem to be predudice. One of them.
Professors of psychiatry from the USA & the UK tell me Via email: “Bi-Polar does NOT make you insane.”
It is the Treatment which causes the Brain Damage, which provides that which is listed in the psych. Bible, the DSM.
The DSM & the psych trade they state is ALL Bogus, others state it is outright Fraud.
Google CCHR. Community Commision on Human Rights.
They speak the Truth about psychiatry as I have “Lived” it for over 8 Years.
It will aid in your understanding. Hopefully.
Omega 3 & Morning excercise, Sunshine, Benificial.
Not used psych. drugs for years, I am much better. Though my Mind is still Dead.
IQ 190 down to 133. Drugs R bad!
Troy.
TROY
Vicky was trying to help you you a..hole.
Who cares about your IQ when you’re a miserable, vile, infectious toad?
Get off this website for the millionth time.
What are you even doing up at 3:30 am if you’re OK?
Thank you so much, again for your words of hope, Dave.
I need it so much, right now
DEE DEE didims;
Arsehole, very Useful, Needed by ALL… thanks. Not too keen on the comenness though. Most call me the Cu@! In an affectionate manner, of course, or The Lad.
Probably cannot use the C word in the US.
I met a dr, he proved he literaly did not know his Arse from his elbow.
Yes he said:”I know, I know (excitedly) Arse (Touched his elbow), Elbow (Touched his Bum). Indian psych. Yes India is an English speaking Nation. Ever been their? I know a Dr. who was, ALL he treated their where Men with a desease you ONLY get from having Sex with a Cow, I cannot rember the name of it. Told me he will never go back.
Why do you spell it Ass? An Ass is a Donkey. You called me a Donkey Hole. R U shure you R not on “medication?”
You do not know the first thing about me,even which continent I live on We are more than a Day ahead of the US.
It’s a Time Zone thing. hence it was possibly afternoon. here did I wake you? I could work out,the time but does anybody realy know what time it is anyway? When did it start? This Year I think it is called 2009, though Fossils are found to be Millions of years old, so?
How far do we go B.C?
Star Signs are said to be moved 1 Foward, as it was worked out so long ago. Instead of Virgo, Libra…
You Need wory no more ’bout my Beauty sleep.
How do I rebuild Neurotransmitters? That would be handy.
Vickys help?
She with all her wisdom called me Mad. Would she do that to a stranger on the street, she has never known?
It is quite Rude. Descriminatory…
I should sue, Only in America…..LOL
Called me Mad, NOt Diabetic, Artheritic… Mad. I believe she wants to hurt me?
Can she tell me what Normal/Sane is?
I told Many psychs. @ $21.6K/h: “If you are sane, I am extreemly INSANE!”
“So sane I am Insane.”
Professors of psych. inform me BP does not make one insane. MAD, I believe as ALL know the psych. & “treatment” do that.
Vicky seems to be well meaning,(Just confused, a subscriber to the psych religion).
If she has troubl with BP, she can leave. See him only occasionaly.
I for one get sick of spending time with the one person. Easily bored…
Less is more..
I believe she has NEVER been FORCE FED the DECERIBRATION Chemicals, Theirfore she as Dave know NOTHING.
How can they know any when they have never done the “antipsych” NOR the “Mood stabilisers?”
Let alone see a psych. alone as a Patient!
I do not seggest ANY try the Drugs, they destroy your Mind.
Sadly I do not believe it returns.
Hence in the good old USSR, they force fed “antipsychotics” to Political Protesters, as they knew it to Deceribate. Back then the Drugs where only 10% as strong as today.
They where NOT shot, that would be humane.
I too have been locked up & force fed the Shit, for political reasons. It still happens.
It is about Power, Punishment, controll, Naught to do with Science, Nor Medicine.
You can be sentenced to psych. Ward, or Jail.
Take Jail, you will get out. With a Mind/life.
I am NO BP expert either. Though I have been abused over 8 years. I know what the “treatment” does. 1st hand.
If you do not know, do not Judge/advise…
Americas BEST Presidants where BP, look it up. ALL who where or are anything. psychaly, or intelectualy…
I KNOW I CAN’T SPELL, SOME “BP SUPPORTER” ATTACKED ME FOR I CANNOT SPELL. IF THAT’S HER BIGGEST PROBLEM, SHE HAS IT MADE.
I do believe I am very Stupid, as the worst in the World, psych. have Ruind me & my Family.
Friends cannot believe I could NOT control a psych.
I did not know I had to.
Do you know of a website for psych. victiums?
I would rather be there, than filering through this rot.
Too right who caes about my IQ, to me it is a great disapointment, & as I have seen a psych. I am deemed Unemployable, I have a Pension. Great?
Is the IQ score out of 1000? Nobody seems to know. & it is set by a PhD, AV IQ 117, one point above a Mcdonnalds Manager. 2 Points above theAV of My Nation.
Americans where 3rd lowest on the list, I don’t know why. They cannot spell Arse, yet spelling is big in the US, hence the Blast I recieved for not spelling well.
My Nurse does Not know why I can’t spell.
DEE DEE;
OK, 12:44am 25th. That is 3:35PM 25th.
3am would be about 6PM.
Am I allowed to be out of my bed at 6PM?
Get a Life.