Bipolar Supporter Blog

Hi,

How are you?

I hope you are doing well.

Yesterday I was talking to my friend about some thing related to the banking industry.

My friend HATES ALL BANKERS. He thinks they are evil. Seriously.

I am NOT like that.

Lots of people are complaining about bankers, Wall Street, etc.

Many are saying that ALL of these people are crooks and that they’re evil.

This is not the case.

All bankers are not crooks.

All banks are not dishonest.

It’s just SOME.

People that say these things are just generalizing.

Maybe they just had one bad experience with a banker, like they got turned down for a loan or something, so now they’re saying that all bankers are bad.

Or they lost money in the stock market, and they need someone to blame it on.

Or they’re struggling financially, or lost their job, so they’re blaming it on the economy.

People with bipolar disorder can learn a lesson from this.

They say the same thing about therapists, doctors, and hospitals, too.

They say that they’re all bad.

But all therapists are not bad.

All doctors are not bad.

And all hospitals are not bad.

Just SOME of them.

Know what I mean?

Those who say that all doctors, therapists, and hospitals are bad?

Same thing.

Someone might have had a bad experience with a doctor.

Maybe they even really did have a bad doctor, or even a bad therapist.

But that doesn’t mean that they are ALL bad.

And every hospital can’t be bad, can it?

Just SOME.

If you have a bad doctor, you need to find a good one.

And if you have a bad therapist, you need to find a good one.

Because these two professionals are very important to your stability with bipolar disorder, just like I talk about it my courses/systems below:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
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http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
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http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
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http://www.survivebipolar.net
It’s your responsibility to find and have a good medical and mental health professional who is really out for your own good.

Don’t stay with someone who isn’t helping you, because then you won’t get better.

Don’t stay with them just because you’re afraid to change doctors or therapists.

You need to think about what’s best for you.

If you’re not sure if your doctor and/or therapist is good or bad, take your supporter with you to your next appointment.

They might have a more objective point of view than you will.

They might be able to tell better than you can whether your doctor or therapist is a good one or a bad one, or whether they are right or wrong for you.

Remember, though, that not all doctors, therapists, and hospitals are bad.

I am NOT saying for you to change your doctor or therapist if they are working for you.

Again, I am NOT saying that ALL doctors and therapists are bad.

If your doctor and therapist are working out for you, great!

And if you have found a hospital that takes care of you when you’re in an episode and treats you well, then even greater!

I just want you to be aware, and make sure that your professionals are looking out for your best interests, because that’s what they are there for.

Have you ever had a bad experience with a doctor, therapist, or hospital, and had to change?

How did you know you had to change?

How did you find a new one, and what happened?

David Oliver is the author of the shocking guide “Bipolar Disorder—The REAL Silent Killer.” Click Here to get FREE Information sent via email on how and why bipolar disorder kills.

PLEASE FORWARD TO YOUR FRIENDS

Hi,

How are you?

Here is today’s news.

To read this week’s news visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarnews430

Diagnosing kids with bipolar disorder becoming more common
DO> Isn’t this the truth? Think this is legitimate?

NAMI offers info on childhood mental illnesses
DO> Great article for parents.

Bipolar group helps Hereford man feel less isolated
DO> Another great article.

Minn. patient wants right to refuse electroshocks
DO> Wow, what do you think of this?

Publicizing mental illness leads to an outpouring of feelings
DO> Isn’t this the truth?

Mental health court teaches offenders how to stay out of trouble
DO> Another great article

GREAT ARTICLES THIS WEEK.

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Your Friend,

Dave

Hi,

How’s it going?

I hate when people assume things, especially when they’re about me, don’t you?

Like when people just assume that just because my mother has bipolar disorder that I have it too.

Has that ever happened to you?

If it has, then you know what I mean.

Not much fun, is it?

Well, if you assume things when it comes to bipolar disorder, it not only is not fun, but it can even be dangerous as well.

For example, you can’t just assume that you know everything about the disorder, even if your
loved one has been diagnosed for a long time. Actually, especially if your loved one was diagnosed awhile ago.

Because knowledge about bipolar disorder changes all the time.

There has been new research and new studies done on the disorder, and there are new ones coming out all the time. You can’t just assume your knowledge is still accurate.

So you need to keep learning about bipolar.

That’s one of the main points I make in my courses/systems – that knowledge is power, and that the more knowledge you have about bipolar disorder, the more power you will have over it. In other words, the better you and your loved one will be able to manage it.

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
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You can’t assume that your loved one’s bipolar won’t change, either, because it might.

Sometimes someone might be diagnosed with one type of bipolar disorder, but then after awhile, their disorder changes, and they are diagnosed with a different type of the disorder. It does happen to some people, so watch out that you don’t assume and fall into this trap.

Don’t assume that your loved one’s medications will never change, because they might.

They may need a dosage change, or there may come a time when one of their medications needs to be changed altogether.

Don’t assume that your loved one’s doctor, psychiatrist, and/or therapist will never change, either, because they might, too.

Things can happen, like:

• Moving away
• Starting own practice
• Changing practices
• Leaving practice
• Insurance will no longer cover
• No longer see bipolar clients
• Retiring
• Getting pregnant
• Going back to school
• Personal reasons
• Etc.

You can’t assume that what works for your loved one to keep them stable today will work tomorrow, either.

These things change, as well, and you need to adapt to these changes.

And don’t ever assume that your loved one will never go into another episode.

No matter how long they’ve been stable, it is dangerous to think like this.

Because then you let down your guard.

Because then you start to take things for granted, like your loved one’s stability.

Because then you stop planning for what to do in case they do go into an episode.

And all of this can be dangerous for both of you.

Can you see now why I think that assuming can lead to so many problems?

Has assuming something ever become a problem for you?

What happened?

David Oliver is the author of the shocking guide “Bipolar Disorder—The REAL Silent Killer.” Click Here to get FREE Information sent via email on how and why bipolar disorder kills.

Hi,

How’s it going?

Hey I was talking to someone in the gym about something really odd.

Why? Well you run out of stuff to talk about when you are doing cardio for an hour virtually every day.

Anyway, have you ever watched someone try to put a jigsaw puzzle together?

The concentration…

The focus…

How meticulous they can be…

All those parts?

Some people can’t do it.

But those that can…

Those who can take all those parts…

And put them together just right…

Can make a beautiful picture out of what seemed to be nothing!

Well, music is the same way.

It doesn’t matter what kind of music you like the best, all music still has the same parts:

• Melody
• Notes
• Rhythm
• Tone
• Timing
• Composition
• Instruments
• Songwriter
• Song
• Lyrics
• Band
• Singer

All that concentration…

All that focus…

All those parts!

And that’s just for ONE SONG!

Now, these days, they usually add a video and some dancing to it as well.

So now you’ve got even more parts –

• Choreographer
• Dance steps
• Choreography
• Lighting
• Direction
• Outfit designer
• Outfits
• Etc.

Now with bipolar disorder, we have parts, too, like the parts to the stability equation I outline
in my courses/systems below:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
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http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
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http://www.survivebipolar.net
Many people still complain about the parts to stability for bipolar disorder…

But when you compare it to the parts to music (especially one with a video) it doesn’t seem so bad, does it?

If you want just music, you can skip some of the parts.

I’m not saying it would be the best music, but it could still be music.

But if you want QUALITY music you have to make sure that you have all the parts, and that every part is attended to.

Same thing with bipolar disorder. Some people just tend to the minimum of the parts to stability with bipolar disorder.

They just take their pills and go to therapy, for example.

But if you want QUALITY management of your bipolar disorder, you have to make sure every part of it is attended to as well.

You’ve got such things as:

• Medications
• Therapy
• Strong support system
• Sleep
• Exercise
• Diet
• Self-care
• Productivity
• Reduced stress
• Balance
• Watch for triggers
• Look for signs/symptoms
of episodes
• Etc.

In other words, like putting that puzzle together, you have to put all the pieces together, too, to make one bigger complete picture of your stability.

What about your stability?

Is it QUALITY stability?

What other things do you do to stay stable?

David Oliver is the author of the shocking guide “Bipolar Disorder—The REAL Silent Killer.” Click Here to get FREE Information sent via email on how and why bipolar disorder kills.

Hi,

I hope you’re having a good day.

I was talking to a friend of mine about some problems I’m having.

Oh, nothing big, just some problems.

But apparently, I was complaining about it enough that eventually he said,

“Well, it’s not ALL bad.”

I looked at him like he was crazy!

See, to me, at the time, it DID look all bad!

But that’s because I was looking at it from the wrong perspective.

I was looking at it from the problem’s point of view.

I know that sound’s crazy.

I’ve been accused of being crazy before, believe me.

But hang in there with me, there’s a point to this.

The problem has the point of view that, “You’ll never solve me, I’m impossible to solve.”

And you know the thing about it is that people give up too easily.

They agree with the problem’s perspective!

They think, “Problem, you know, you’re right. There is no solution to you.”

But I want you to think of it from a different perspective.

I want you to think of it from the solution’s perspective.

It’s kind of like the hide-and-seek game we played when we were children.

The solution’s perspective is kind of like…

“Here I am, I’m here someplace, you just have to find me!”

It’s not always obvious.

It doesn’t mean to hide. It really is there.

Sometimes you just have to look for the solution.

In my courses/systems, I teach different problem-solving techniques, because they are important both for the person who has bipolar disorder and their supporter as well:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net
Remember how when you played hide-and-seek…

Some kids were real easy to find, but others were harder to find?

Well, it’s the same with solutions.

Some are easy to find, but others are harder to find.

You just have to look!

Some solutions are right in front of you.

Some you have to look for yourself.

Others you can get by talking to other people about your problem.

But some you just have to roll up your sleeves, and dig right into the problem.

It’s like you have to say to it…

“Problem, I am not going to let you defeat me. I’m going to solve you no matter what it takes.”

Then there’s your own perspective.

How do you see things?

Do you see things from a negative or a positive perspective?

Do you think, “I’ll never solve this problem,” and then throw in the towel without even trying?

Or do you think, “There’s got to be a solution,” and then give it all you’ve got?

It’s up to you.

Finding the solution to your problems is a matter of perspective.

It really can’t be ALL bad.

What is YOUR perspective?

How do you solve YOUR problems?

David Oliver is the author of the shocking guide “Bipolar Disorder—The REAL Silent Killer.” Click Here to get FREE Information sent via email on how and why bipolar disorder kills.

Hi,

How are you doing today?

I just got back from the gym and was thinking about something.

You hear a lot about codependency.

There is even a 12 Step Program devoted to people who are codependent (CODA).

So naturally there is a lot of concern about codependency and bipolar disorder.

Some supporters worry if they are codependent or not. Some people who have bipolar disorder worry if they are codependent as well. But many people don’t even really know what codependency
is.

Since it is such a big subject, I talk about it in my courses/systems below:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

The question is, are you a codependent?

Then ask yourself, are you always feeling emotionally exhausted from trying to “fix” your loved one with bipolar disorder?

In a relationship where both people are emotionally healthy, both people try to meet each other’s
needs.

But in a relationship where one of the people has bipolar disorder, this just doesn’t happen.

The supporter ends up doing most of the work, going further to meet their loved one’s needs.

In a normal relationship, giving and receiving are balanced.

But do you feel as if this giving and receiving are balanced in your relationship with your loved one, or do you feel as if you are doing most of the giving, while they are doing most of the receiving?

There are some people who always seem to take on the role of being the “helper.”

They just seem to be drawn to people who have problems, people who are needy in some way.

These are people who give and give, hoping to get something in return (no matter what relationship they are in, not necessarily with someone who has bipolar disorder).

Look at your past.

Look at your other relationships.

Does this sound like you?

Then you may be a codependent.

People who have codependency issues try and try to save the other person…

Even sometimes at cost to their own health.

Have you found yourself suffering with your health: physically, mentally, emotionally, or spiritually?

It could be because you are being codependent.

This is a trap that is very easy to fall into with someone who has bipolar disorder.

They need you to be their supporter.

Then you are always there for them, meeting their needs.

Trying to help them, in any way you can.

But you usually can’t, so you try even harder.

That’s the codependent in you.

You need to understand that no matter how much or how hard you try, you will never be able to “fix” your loved one or their problems.

Their problems stem from the fact that they have bipolar disorder.

And you cannot fix bipolar disorder, because you cannot control it – it has no cure.

You also have no control over your loved one.

The only person you can change is yourself.

If you think you may be codependent, the first step is knowing it. Then you can do something about it.

You can change yourself, and you can change your behavior.

You can change your response to your loved one’s behavior.

Are you a codependent?

Only you can answer that for yourself.

David Oliver is the author of the shocking guide “Bipolar Disorder—The REAL Silent Killer.” Click Here to get FREE Information sent via email on how and why bipolar disorder kills.

Hi,

How’s your day going?

Happy Mothers Day if you celebrate it. I say “if” because we have so many people on our lists all over the world that sometimes people don’t celebrate some events/holidays.

Anyway it finally stopped raining and it’s sunny.

Hey, Guess what I am politically?

Do you think I am a Republican or a Democrat?

NOTE: For those outside the United States and don’t know what Republicans and Democrats are, these are political parties.

So, have you figured out what I am?

Take a guess, then scroll down for the answer.

Have you seen the movie “Swing Vote”? Keep scrolling…

Still don’t know?

Well, guess what? I am NEITHER!

I vote for who is the best one for the job.

Just like most Americans, I want the best Person in office who will run our country the best.

Who will take care of our people.

Who cares if they are Republican or Democrat?

Who cares?

Well, a lot of people do.

They will only vote for one or the other.

Well, I think that’s totally stupid!

They just want to do things their way, no matter what the consequences are!

What does this have to do with bipolar disorder?

Well, it’s kind of the same thing.

People come to me.

They want to have success with bipolar disorder, but they want it on their terms.

I want to help people, and that’s why I’ve outlined in such detail what to do to have success with bipolar disorder or to be the best supporter in my courses/systems below:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net
BUT…

Some people just ignore that.

WHY?

Oh, they want to have success with bipolar disorder, but they want to have it on their OWN terms.

They want to have it THEIR way.

Even though I’ve outlined what to do, from vast experience, people tell me, “I don’t want to do that.”

I ask them, “Why?”

And they say, “Well, I don’t want to.”

In this country, we have freedom to choose (whether you’re a Republican or a Democrat), so I can say, “So what?”

So what? Do what you want to do.

As long as you get results.

But do you think these people are going to get results if they don’t do what they need to do to get stable?

If they keep doing the things they’ve been doing that DON’T WORK and keep them going into episodes, do you think they will ever get better?

But they want to keep doing things their way.

As a supporter, you can’t just say so what, because you want your loved one to get better.

And they shouldn’t say so what, because they should want to get better.

But they won’t if they keep wanting to do things their own way.

They just can’t say so what and not think about the consequences, because the consequences are more bipolar episodes.

The consequences are more problems for you.

Do you know what I mean?

They have to do the things they need to do to get stable.

A who cares attitude just doesn’t work when you’re dealing with bipolar disorder.

Right?

I am taking my mom to brunch so I have to go, anyway write me back.

David Oliver is the author of the shocking guide “Bipolar Disorder—The REAL Silent Killer.” Click Here to get FREE Information sent via email on how and why bipolar disorder kills.