PLEASE TELL YOUR FRIENDS

Hi,

How’s it going?

Sorry this is so late. I had a million
things come up. Sorry again.

Here is the current Bipolar Disorder news.

Make sure you take a look at the news. It takes
a lot of time to put the news together so please
read it.

To see the news visit:

http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarnews359

There’s some really interesting news stories this week.
Take a look at them. Also, write me some feedback by
visiting my blog below.

Here are some of the headlines:

Noven’s Stavzor tentatively approved
DO> New drug for bipolar disorder!

Recognizing bipolar disorder
DO> If you are a parent, this is a must read.

Westchester psychiatrist studying bipolar disorder in senior citizens
DO> Fascinating must read article

Forum, concert aim to save lives
DO> Very sad story.

Calm after the storm
DO> Great story for you to read!

For these stories and more, please visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarnews359

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Your Friend,

Dave

Hi,

How’s it going?

Hope you are doing well.

Before I get started, I wanted
to ask for some help.

I am looking for a person who posts some
great comments on my blog called “Graham N.”
If you are him or know him, please have an email
sent to feedbacktodave@mentalhealthworld.net

Thanks.

Okay, I have a really important lesson for you today
and it’s based on the total nightmare day
I had yesterday.

What a day I had yesterday.

Here’s what happen. So I start working
and…

I had one guy call and scream and yell
at me on my cell phone. He then threatened
me if I didn’t “stop promoting medication.”
He said his wife had bipolar disorder
and he was mad because drug companies
were greedy.

I had another woman call and scream and
yell at me. She said my emails “sucked”
and they were worthless and then she
demanded that I pay her for wasting her
time.

I had another lady who said that I
scammed her. She said that I stole
money from her last night. She lived
somewhere on the west coast. I haven’t
left my area in a long time 🙂

When I told her that I didn’t she
said that I had an attitude and she
was going to unsubscribe from my
list. I told her okay. Then she
told me that she was sure that
I was helping some people just
not her. And then she
screamed at me some more.

I was getting hammered by person
after person.

I started to think bad thoughts like
“why the heck do I do this?”
It is annoying some times when
you get yelled at and screamed
at for nothing. Anyway, I
stopped thinking negative
thoughts.

But, in reality, I know why many
mental health places have massive turnover
and shut down. It takes a whole lot to
run something that helps people who are
dealing with disorders like bipolar disorder.

It’s amazing. In EVERY group that I have
volunteered at, the turn over is almost
90%. The only people who seem to stay
are those who aren’t doing well anyway.
It’s really strange but I understand.
But at the same time, it makes me sad.
The best people I know don’t go and
support the support groups, in my
area at least. But I have asked
others and they tell me the same thing.

So you have to realize this when
you are going there. Actually,
if you have been on my list for a while,
you’ll remember that a few years ago,
I talked about a support group that
was INCREDIBLE. They had INCREDIBLE
speakers and INCREDIBLE events.

I was talking to a friend that has
a wife with bipolar disorder. He volunteers
like me and goes to EVERYTHING. We were
talking and realized that the group we loved
had ONE event for the year. The entire year.
It seems that many people who ran it left
or are going to be leaving so things have
fallen by the wayside.

The bottom line, it takes a lot to run
an organization that deals with mental
health and most people unfortunately
are not paid or paid so little it
scary.

I guess I want to say something. If you go
to a support group or mental health organization,
cut them some slack. Be nice. Realize they try.
The try hard. They may be short on photocopies
or other “stuff.” But they try.

Give them some money because they all
need it. At the places where I volunteer
at, some people are so darn mean. And
it’s generally almost always the supporters
who are angry.

Anyway, back to my story. Then on top of
that, my blog was broken for hours yesterday.
It was driving me out of my mind. I kept trying
to publish and it was “sick” and not working.

At almost 12:00pm, I was like, “what a day?”

On a funny note…

In the middle of all these problems, my friend
called and said, “Dude, what are you doing?”

I said, “working, like most everyone in the
world.” He said, “Dude, who cares about work,
let’s go to the movies?”

What a life. Let’s go to the movies
in the middle of the day.

Anyway, I didn’t go 🙂 I had too much to
do.

My friend is so funny. He’s like 25.
He never has any money.
He barely works. He doesn’t get the connection
between not working, hanging out,
and not having any money 🙂

Anyway, as I thought about all my problems, I
was then scanning my email and some bipolar
blog posts. I saw that many people were having
problems as well. And I know at any one
time, there are thousands of people who
are having problems with bipolar disorder
on my list because it’s so large.

So today I decided to talk about it.

The bottom line is, when you are dealing with
bipolar disorder, you can have a whole lot
of problems. Amazing problems. Ones you can
think of but many that you never can think
will happen.

Sometimes you are overwhelmed. I have had
the worst possible situations. And for
some reason, problems from bipolar
disorder almost always happen
when you don’t want them to.

Ever notice problems don’t seem to
happen when you have an army of people
to help, you have tons of money, lots
of family members around for support,
etc.

When my mom was going though her
major bipolar episode, things would
always get worse when I didn’t
want them to.

There were days when I would
get up in the morning and say,

“wow, I am feeling great. I am ready
to take on bipolar disorder today.
Let’s fight!” (fight against bipolar
disorder). But then nothing happen.
It was odd. This is when I started
believing bipolar disorder was like
a thing that was in my mom and it
was smart enough to not attack me
when I wanted to be attacked.

Whenever I write stuff like this, I know some
people will write me (100+) that I am crazy,
but I am sure you know what I am talking about.

Anyway this happen time and time again.

There are many people who are contacting me,
especially in my coaching programs that have
many problems. They “freak out” and get so
stressed as one said to me, “I think I am
going to have a stroke and die.”

With that said, I felt that I had to
send out a reminder email on how to deal
with lots of problems from bipolar disorder.

Here are some things that kept me going
and keep me going when I have days like
yesterday.

#1 Realize things will get better. If you
talk to someone who had lots of problems,
they will generally tell you, things looked
hopeless but after a while, it turned around.
Things always turn around.

#2 Things are never as bad as they seem
at first. At first, something or some things
looks like the worst possible thing that will
create almost the world coming to an end…
it never does.

#3: There is always a solution when you
have time to think. Don’t make rash decisions
even if you feel pressured. Always take
time to think. Allow yourself a day or two
to let it sit in your mind. Many times,
just one night of some kind of sleep (I
won’t even say good, because when you have
problems you don’t seem good or well), will
bring you a whole lot of solutions.

Bipolar disorder loves to make you make
quick decisions so they are bad.

#4: Many other people had your same problem
and dealt with it effectively.

#5: There is help somewhere. In the case of
bipolar disorder, many solutions to problems
are in my courses/systems below:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

#6: It could be way worse. I use this
a lot. If I have a super bad day. I think
of the worst possible thing that could be
going on with me and then think, “Wow,
I am glad that I am not there or having
that happen to me.” For example, on a really
bad day, I say to myself, “I could be totally
homeless, living in a third world country,
with no food, medicine or water.” After I think
this, I generally feel better.

#7: Bad events generally produce positive
outcomes. More times than not, something
positive always happen from tings that
seem really, really bad. For example,
my mom went into a huge bipolar episode
years ago. It was a total nightmare. BUT,
from that bipolar episode:

-my mom is now almost out of d.ebt (only
one more payment). If she didn’t have the
episode, her d.ebt could have gone to
$50,000 or $100,000.

-she has learned how to total manage
her bipolar disorder

-she figured out who were good friends
and who were bad friends, including
family members.

-I started this entire organization that’s
now helping hundreds of thousands of people
a year.

-I found that a company that I worked with,
that paid me were TOTAL crooks. When they
found out my mom had bipolar disorder and I
was paying her hospital bills, they
tried to “get me” and stopped all payments
trying to bankrupt me.

-My mom now has better health care and a
better job

-My mom is now able to take care of herself
financially

-Because my mom a major episode, I had
to stop running three other businesses. Something
amazing happened. As a result, I had to find
good people to run them for me. I didn’t think
this was possible, I use to do everything myself
and couldn’t grow really big. I was afraid to
turn things over to people. As a result of my mom going
into the episode, I figured out you can find
great people and they can run things and run them
better than you. Now I can have 3 businesses running
without me and they have grown substantially.

-I figured out who some of my real friends were.
Some friends stopped talking to me when they found
out my mom had bipolar disorder. Other friends helped
so much. One friend helped me put together a strategy
to deal with the evil Mr. Mundy who was a d.ebt collector
after my mom and then after me. NOTE-Mr. Mundy was
the collector I called the incarnation of absolute
pure evil. When you talked to him, you seriously
felt like you were speaking to pure evil. He had
no soul. He was ruthless. He lied. He was mean.
I remember him saying, “I don’t care what your mom
has, she could die for all I care. You better
pay her de.bts or we will destroy you.”

He called my mom, myself, her neighbors and
made so many threats he made my mom worse. I remember
he got a list of everyone who lived next to my mom
and he called them. He actually convinced one neighbor
to bring her cordless phone over to my mom’s house
so he could talk to her.

At first, he talked in such a way, he scared me. He caused me
to lose a lot of sleep. My friend helped me
launch a counter attack against him. He put so much
pressure on my, I couldn’t think straight. He called
me relentlessly on every phone number all day.
I asked my friend to help.

She helped me with a plan and basically
to make a long story short, Mr. Mundy was demoted and
in serious trouble at his collector company. All calls were
stopped to my mom and we got an apology. People
in the collector office said, “wow, no one ever controlled
Mundy before.” My friend was the key person to help.

It’s amazing all the work she did. I am totally
thankful. But she showed what a great friend she was.

Well I have to take off. I hope this gave
you some good things to think about if
you have a lot of problems because of
bipolar disorder.

Tomorrow is the bipolar disorder news.
I’ll get it to you first thing tomorrow
morning. Have a great day.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

Hi,

How’s it going?

I can’t believe I am already running behind
schedule.

Anyway, hope you had a great day yesterday
and did something fun.

I just went over to my parents house and
had dinner and did some planning. I was
suppose to go visit my friend who has
recently had a baby but they were all
tied up. It seems that it’s kind of
hard to them adjusting to have a new
born. I guess, like bipolar disorder,
overtime they will figure it out.

On another note, I have gotten a whole
lot of people asking:

How do you have the time to write these
daily emails every day?

One person wrote:

“Dave, I started getting your emails 8 months
ago or so. They have helped me tremendously.
Thank you.
I thought to myself there would
be no way that you could keep sending them.
But you do. I am amazed. How do you do it?”

Well, it does take 1 hour a day. I have made
a commitment like brushing your teeth or taking
a shower. I just schedule it in.

But in order to do this, I have to not do
other things. I have to say no to doing
certain things that I don’t have the time
to do.

That actually leads to today’s topic.

Today I wanted to talk about something
super important for the new year. Something
you are going to have to think long and
hard about if you are going to be a successful
bipolar supporter OR a successful person with
bipolar disorder.

I call it saying no.

What do I mean?

When you are coping and dealing with
bipolar disorder and trying to figure things
out whether you have it or your are supporting
someone with it, it requires time. You have
to study. You have to think. You have
to do a lot of stuff. This is for anyone
dealing with bipolar disorder.

With that said, you only have so many
hours in the day. There is only so much
time. As a result, if you are serious
about winning the war against bipolar
disorder, you have to prioritize.

Prioritizing means saying yes to
some things but saying no to many
things.

I find that bipolar supporters AND
bipolar survivors come to me half dead
so to speak and running themselves
into an early grave because they
have not said no to a whole lot of
things they should be saying no to.

They have this large task of figuring
out what to do with bipolar disorder and
at the same time, they still are doing
the same things prior to their being
any problems with bipolar disorder.

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

Maybe this is not clear so let me
explain.

I will start with bipolar supporters
first.

If you are a bipolar supporter, you may
have to:

-say no to charity. Why? You don’t
have time. Even though you may have
made a promise years prior that you could
do a lot of charity work. Unfortunately
a new priority has come up–bipolar
disorder.

-say no to volunteering. Why? You don’t
have the time because you have to help
your loved one.

-say no to spending extra time at work
even though you would make extra money.
Why? You don’t have the time.

-say no to SOME activities you use to
say yes to all the time. Why? You
have to spend your extra time reading,
thinking and planning for bipolar disorder.

-say no to listening to friends and family
members complain about all kinds of
things…Why? You already have a
major problem you are trying to solve…
figuring out bipolar disorder to help
your loved one, you don’t have time
for now to listen to other people’s
problems which most of the time aren’t
problems anyway.

I had to say no to a whole lot of things.
At the time, many of my friends were not
understanding. My girlfriend at the time
was understanding. But, I feel that
saying no was one of the critical things
that helped me help my mom.

Now for bipolar survivors, they
have to say no as well:

Say no to working for a short period
of time or a long period of time.

Say no to volunteering or charity (if
in the middle of an episode).

Say no to taking care of baby sitting.
NOTE-My mom was doing into an episode and
tried hard to still baby sit my brothers
kids. When I asked her why, she said, “because
I promised last year that I would.” I explained
to her: “Well that was last year, this is,
this year and things of changed. Sorry.”
She agreed but at first really was going
to try to “do it all.”

Say no to hanging out with friends and
family that may be a bad influence on
what you need to do to do well with
bipolar disorder.

I could go on and on but I am sure you
get the idea.

Here’s the deal. Obviously bipolar disorder
is really serious. So you have to focus
your time and energy on it to get it
“handled.”

Too many times, people come to me and they
are running themselves ragged trying to
do it all. Trying to be a super
person. It won’t work. You will wind up
making yourself sick or if you have
bipolar disorder, you will prevent
yourself from ever getting stable.

Actually I myself have not even followed
my own philosophy recently. I have had
all kinds of people demand time from me
and I should say no but I wind up saying
“okay.” As a result in the last two months,
I have been working like a madman.

The reason why I wrote this today was:

#1: I was talking to my mom about how
she say no to many things now and how
great that was.

#2: I know today I have to say no to
a lot of people so it reminded me of
how important a topic this is and how
it relates to bipolar disorder.

#3: I know that thousands of people on
my list should be saying no way more
than they are.

Okay, well one last thing that I want
to say. Saying no is tough. You might
feel bad. You may feel guilty. You may
feel like you have to break a promise.
Remember you are saying no for a good
cause.

Wow, I just looked at the clock. I seriously
have to go. Catch you tomorrow. Hey, tell me
some stories of how saying no has helped
you deal with bipolar disorder if you any.

Thanks.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

==>>Help with ALL aspects of bipolar disorder<<==
Check out all my resources, programs and information
for all aspects of bipolar disorder by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

Hi,

How’s it going?

Hope you had fun last night.

Well, here it is New Years Day!

Some people like New Years
because of the parties and all the
hoopla and all.

I am not a big party person.

I like it because to me it
represents new beginnings.

And I really think there are
more people like me than
there are for just the parties,
cuz when it comes down to it,
in the morning the party people
are all hungover…

while the people like me are
busy starting their new year
off on a positive note with the
changes they have decided to
make.

I think more people like the
idea of making New Year’s
resolutions – a chance to
change some things, to make
them better.

At least that’s what *I* think.
I mean, have you ever heard of
a negative New Year’s resolution?

When we were little kids, and
we didn’t like the outcome of
something, we called a “do-
over,” remember?

Well, New Year’s resolutions
are like “do-overs,” only now
we’re adults.

In my courses and systems,
I teach a lot about being positive,
having a positive outlook, and
striving toward a positive future:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

I have spoken to a lot of people that
have basically said, “my life is in
shambles, I am depressed. Will
I ever be successful again?”

For all these people, the answer is
yes.

Just look at my mom. A few years ago,
her life was a TOTAL and I mean
TOTAL disaster. Everything was wrong.
Massive d.ebt. No job. No health insurance.
Friends left. Lots of family left. No doctor.
No therapist. Incorrect medication.

For many months, there was no one
single positive thing. Some in my family
thought that it was “over” for my mom.
There was no hope at all.

I didn’t think so.

Anyway, you know the story. Fast forward
today. My mom is doing great. Everything
is different.

Here’s the deal. I really don’t know any cases
that are worse than my mom. And my mom
has overcome her situation and now is doing
great. You can too.

I know it will be tough but I am telling you,
if you are struggling, you can do it. Seriously.

Just work as hard as you can and realize
progress will take time. My mom couldn’t
fix her entire life in 30 days. It did take
time. But it was worth it.

Today spend some time thinking about
where you want to go. If you have any
of my material on bipolar disorder, review
it. Or if you don’t have any, get it, then
review it. Everything is guaranteed so
you have nothing to worry about.

Just do something today. Move forward.
Too many people don’t take action. They wait
for “something” to happen all on it’s own
magically. This doesn’t happen. Good
things happen to those that do something.

Well I have to run to the gym and then I
am heading over to my parents house today.
Oh that’s right before I go there, I am going to
see my friend’s new baby again.

Happy New Year, and may this year
be even better than last year was.

What kind of goals do you have for
yourself. If you feel comfortable, post them
below.

I will catch you tomorrow. I have to take off to the
gym.

Your friend,

Dave
–
P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

==>>Help with ALL aspects of bipolar disorder<<==
Check out all my resources, programs and information
for all aspects of bipolar disorder by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

Hi,

What’s new?

How’s it going?

People have been asking me what I am
planning on doing for New Years. I think
that I might just stay home and rest.

I could use the rest J

Anyway, I wanted to send an important reminder
about bipolar disorder.

It’s coming up to New Year’s,
and the time of year that everyone
starts making their New Years
resolutions.

Are you one of those people who
make resolutions but never keep them?
If you are, don’t feel bad, because you
are definitely in the majority!

Do you know why most people
fail with their New Years resolutions?

Because they have NO PLAN.

Because they SET NO GOALS.

It’s like all those people who
want to lose weight, but don’t set
up a system to change their lifestyle
so that they’ll be able to lose weight.

Instead, they go on a crash diet, so
they fail. Because everyone knows
that crash diets don’t work.

And even if they do work, it’s only
a temporary weight loss at best, and
then you gain back the weight and more!

See the difference? They want to
lose weight, but they aren’t doing it
by setting goals and making a plan!

The fast track never works. Long-
term change only happens when you
have set goals and set out to achieve
them.

Do you want to be a person this year
who keeps their New Years resolution?

Then I recommend today that you swing
by the bookstore and/or library. Get a book
on goal setting. There are a million today.
All are good in general.

Read it before the New Year. Pick 2 to 3 goals
(not a million) and use the book to set some
reasonable goals.

Get my course/systems to help with bipolar related
goals:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

Notice that I used the term “reasonable
goals” above. If you make your goals too
far out of your reach, you’ll never attain
them, and you’ll fail.

But if you make your goals reasonable,
they’ll be attainable, and you’ll find
success! They don’t have to be
anything extreme, just something you
would like to achieve.

The books and my courses will help
you learn how to set and achieve goals.

Let’s hope that this year will be the year
that you’re able to keep your New Years
resolutions!

It’s sad but true that many people won’t
do well in 2008, because they either don’t
set any goals or don’t follow through.

If you struggle with goal setting, run
down to the library or book store and
get one book on the topic. There are a million
good books and each talks about how to
overcome problems with goal setting.

Make it a great year and take action.

I have to run, I have a bunch of things to
do today. I will catch you tomorrow morning.

Your friend,

Dave
–
P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

==>>Help with ALL aspects of bipolar disorder<<==
Check out all my resources, programs and information
for all aspects of bipolar disorder by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

Hi,

How’s it going today?

I really have to go quick today because
I got up late.

Anyway before I get started on today’s
topic, I wanted to let the people who
have written me about various new
courses and projects, they are coming
just as fast I can.

Several people have asked me about
this or that program and when it’s coming.

I wish they were all done right now but
I have learned that like getting better
with bipolar disorder, it takes time.

Here are the things that I am releasing
within like the next 3 weeks
for free:

new guide on the top myths that
are deadly with bipolar disorder

huge Encyclopedia of the major
categories of mental illnesses.

I have been working on this for one year.
It cost me a ton of money to put together.
I was going to charge for it but I am giving
it away totally f.ree. Strangely, this is the
single most costly thing that I have ever made
for mental health.

Anyway, this is coming really soon. It covers
every single major category
of mental illness from autism, adhd, sexual
disoders to

schizophrenia to the ones that are called
“nos” not otherwise specified.

It’s been reviewed by multiple doctors,
researchers and regular people. It includes
comprehensive footnotes and endnotes
and is the most comprehensive resource
I have ever seen like it, anywhere.

-pilot program for getting low cost,
free and affordable medication and
treatment for bipolar disorder. GIGANTIC
project that’s will be out in a bout 2
months.

-A new guide, for free, 101 tips on
living with bipolar disorder. This is coming
out in about 2 months as well..

This year alone I have more than 20
projects that will be completed and launched.
I will try to keep you posted.

There will be links sent out via email
as to where you can get these things when
they are ready.

Okay, with the new year just around the
corner, I thought it would be a good
idea to talk about new beginnings.

But you can’t have a good discussion
of new beginnings without dealing
with the past first, now can you?

There are people, though, that will
literally argue about this –

Some people think you should
never think about the past at all,
and other people think you should
remember the past.

Ok, here’s what I think – I think
you should be somewhere in the
middle. Here’s the way I see it:

Santayana said: “Those who do
not remember the past are
condemned to repeat it.”

Well, that’s true. You do want
to remember it in that way, that
you want to learn from your
mistakes, so that you don’t
repeat those mistakes.

But on the other hand, if you
dwell on your past too much,
it could send you into a bipolar
episode.

So, like I said, I think you need
to come out somewhere in the
middle – there should be a
balance.

Just like everything else I
teach in my courses and
systems, there should be a
balance to everything so you
can stay stable:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

Once you have dealt with your
past in a healthy way, however,
(which is what I think you should
be working out in therapy), then
you can look forward in a positive
way.

Then you can start your “new
beginnings.”

And this is the perfect time for
new beginnings. New Year.
New Year’s resolutions. A new
start.

Every day is what you make it.
If you have a negative attitude,
you’ll have a bad day. If you have
a positive attitude, you’ll have a
good day. This isn’t rocket
science!

Let’s all look forward to the new
year with a positive attitude; a
good point of view. Let’s all
have a great new year!

Your friend,

Dave
–
P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.S. Check out my Free blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

==>>Help with ALL aspects of bipolar disorder<<==
Check out all my resources, programs and information
for all aspects of bipolar disorder by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

Hi,

How’s it going?

Today I have a super important
thing to remind bipolar supporters
about.

Before I get started.

Hey, there is a person who posts many great
things on my blog. Her id is SuzanneWA. I am
trying to get a hold of her. If you
are her, or know her, please have
her email me at:
feedbacktodave@mentalhealthworld.net

Thanks.

Okay let’s move on to today’s
topic. We have been talking about
goal setting for several days now.

I am happy to report that I have been
flooded with phone calls, emails,
faxes and a few letters in the us mail
about how they are excited to think about
and set goals related to bipolar disorder.

Actually on Thursday I spent 7 hours
in the library working on my goals for
2008. I actually do quarterly goals
so I do this 4 times a year.

I still have to do a little more
work which I will do probably today/
tomorrow.

Anyway, someone wrote me:

“Dave, it’s amazing. What you said
the other day was so simple. The fact
of thinking about your future, where
you want to go and how you are going
to get there. I haven’t done this in
30 years. No wonder I am not going
anywhere. I am going to my therapist
to work on what my goals are and
I will talk to my doctor about them.
Thank you for making me think of this.”
-Cherie

That’s great Cherie! I am really
proud of you. Also I noticed
a whole lot of people are talking
to their doctor AND therapist
about their goals. This is great.
EXACTLY what you should do.

It’s kind of amazing when you
sit back and think about how little
time people devote to goal setting
and planning for their own life.

I have a friend who came from
another country. She barely spoke
English and had absolutely no
money whatsoever.

When she first got here, she bought
many books to help improve her
English. She started buying
motivational and goal setting
books.

She set several specific goals
8 years ago:

earn more than $100,000 a year
live in a big house on 5 acres of land
drive a black high end BWM
be married
live in the country
Have a job with a lot of responsibility

She called me the other day and I was
telling her about how I was talking
about bipolar disorder and goal setting.

She said goal setting was important
and how she had just found her list of goals
she wrote out and set years ago and was reading
frequently up until a couple of years ago.

She said she was amazed that every goal
she wrote down and set she had reached.

I asked her if she thought at the time
it was possible? She said no but she
followed the exercises in the books.

It was amazing story and hard for me
to believe but it’s true.

But back to bipolar disorder. I really
believe so many people fall short of
their potential when they are dealing
with bipolar disorder.

On the one hand, there’s the person
who is not stable, manic who gets a whole
lot done but then crashes.

Then on the other hand, there is the
stable person who doesn’t set any goals,
live on disability day to day really not
doing a whole lot. I find many of these
people are kind of afraid to set goals
or be more than they are because the
fear bipolar disorder.

There’s no question that you have to
factor bipolar disorder into your goal
setting. But when I talk to people I still
think they fall short of what kind of goals
they can set for themselves.

I really believe that the way around
this problem is to set goals and work
with your doctor/therapist about what
will not negative affect your bipolar
disorder.

So, again, like my mom, you have to
work with your doctor and therapist
when goal settings.

There is a side benefit of this.
When you show your doctor and therapist,
you’re serious about changing and improving
your life, they work harder to help you.
You wind up getting better treatment
from them. You’ll see.

Now if you are a bipolar supporter,
you too, can be involved with your
loved one’s goal setting by going
to a therapy session or doctor visit
that will be devoted to goal setting.

NOTE-This will be primarily for those
supporting stable individuals who will
allow them in the visits.

Speaking of bipolar supporters,
I got a lot of feedback
of people saying that they took
my emails to their loved ones
to talk about setting goals. Many
bipolar supporters are now
talking about setting goals with
their loved one’s with bipolar
disorder.

On this note, I have received a number
of voice messages and also emails
about how supporters feel bad thinking
of all the bad things that bipolar
disorder has caused.

Let me explain further by one
email I got.

“David, Hello. Thank you for all
you do. I have been on your list
for more than 1 year. I have learned
so much from you. I totally
agree with your concept of goal setting
with bipolar disorder. I spent time
thinking about what I wanted our life
to be like next year. My wife is
now stable, we did all you said
in your courses and it worked.

It’s really hard for me not to be
really angry when I think about
where we are. We lost all our money.
I lost many friends, family members.
I’ve been made to look a fool. Our
children are angry because of all
these episodes.

When I think about setting goals. I think
about how much I lost and how far we
have to go. It makes me mad at my wife. I
feel guilty for being mad at her, I know
she didn’t mean to do all these terrible
things and it was the illness. I do now
separate the bipolar like you have said.
What should I do?”
-Frank.

Frank’s email summarizes a whole lot of
emails that I have gotten that basically
a bipolar supporter is thinking about goals
but feeling really bad because he/she is looking
back and seeing all the damage that is done
from bipolar disorder.

Here is what I have to say. There is no
question that bipolar disorder is destructive.
There’s no question that for many, myself included,
it winds up making you way behind.

Here’s the think you have to realize about
bipolar disorder that most people don’t. Frank
does I think however.

The person with the disorder does NOT want
it and did NOT want to do all these bad things.

Many tend to forget this. Today I don’t
but up until like 8 months ago, I would as
well. I had to train myself to remember:

-there is my mom
-there is bipolar disorder
-bipolar disorder is the enemy
-bipolar disorder does the bad things
-it’s not my mom that does the bad things
-she didn’t want bipolar disorder
-there is way more good than bad.

Things like this. My brother on the
other hand focuses on all the bad,
thinks my mom is doing it all on purpose,
and believe some how there is more
bad than good (when I know since
I grew up in the house this is not
true).

Here’s what you should do if you
are goal setting and feeling bad
because you feel like you have lost
so much.

First, realize you can get it back. For
the most part, you can get back anything
important that has been lost in bipolar
episodes.

Second, realize, now you know what you need
to do to prevent this in the future. This
is a good thing.

Third, get as much information as you can
on how to move faster to get back what’s
important.

This can be done through your own research
or by getting things like my courses/systems
below:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

Fourth, keep telling yourself over
and over again that your loved one
did not want bipolar disorder and doesn’t
do anything bad on purpose.

Finally, realize that bipolar disorder
can be hard to manage at first and people
who have it, find out, overtime, what works
and doesn’t work on management. There many be
some slip ups. Remember this is not done
on purpose.

I have never met anyone who had bipolar
disorder that went out of his/her way
to be unstable and cause major problems
with other people.

So if you have a bipolar supporter setting
goals, you have to remember what I just said
if you are feeling bad about where you are in
your life and how far you have to go to
get back what all the episodes have caused.

Well I have to run and do a whole lot of work.
I’ll catch you tomorrow.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

PLEASE TELL YOUR FRIENDS

Hi,

How’s it going?

Here is the current Bipolar Disorder news.

Make sure you take a look at the news. It takes
a lot of time to put the news together so please read it.

To see the news visit:

http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarnews358

There’s some really interesting news stories this week.
Take a look at them. Also, write me some feedback by
visiting my blog below.

Here are some of the headlines:

Post-holiday blues leave many in seasonal slump
DO> Great article. Make sure you read it. I have
been warning people about this.

Once Diagnosed, Never Undiagnosed as Bipolar
DO> Hmm. What do you think about this article?

Doctors Finding Effective Ways Of Treating Bipolar
DO> Very interesting. Governments need to provide
more funding for more research. It’s a start.

Bettering Patients’ Lives
DO> Great article. Must read!

Correct diagnosis is the key for ADHD patients
DO> What do you think about ADHD?

For these stories and more, please visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarnews358

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Your Friend,

Dave

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Hi,

How’s it going?

I have an important thing to
tell you today about bipolar
disorder. I actually think it’s
one of the biggest problems people
face.

Before I tell you, I will tell
you how I thought about it.

Yesterday was a Saving Private
Ryan day for me.

What’s that? Well if you saw the movie
Saving Private Ryan, the opening
seen is really disturbing.

It’s kind of like a World War II movie.
Anyway, the US military is in a big boat
coming to shore for D-day in 1945. The boat door
opens and like 50% of the people in the boat
are shot and killed immediately. In the movie
they scramble to try not to get shot and killed
and get to the land.

When I have days when I wake up with
tons of problems and complaints, I call
them saving private ryan days.

There are days I get up and with this
bipolar stuff I feel like I have 50 to
80% of my troops shot and killed and
I have to retreat.

If you are a bipolar supporter, you might
find that you have saving private ryan days–
that is days when you have so many problems
from bipolar disorder, you want to run and
hide.

Anyway, yesterday was one of those days.

I had one lady that has called me
21 times demanding I return her call. She
has not left her phone number however.
Each message is more and more angry
and demanding.

I had another person threaten me.

I had one person mad at a daily bipolar
email that I sent.

I had another person call over and
over again on my cell phone.

I had another person super mad me
about my daily bipolar email yesterday.
She said:

“David! I can’t believe you are promoting
goal setting. Goal setting is the worst
thing ever. It’s a bunch of hype and I can’t
believe you are selling it. I am ashamed to
know you. I can’t believe you.”

DO> I got this and I am so confused, I don’t
even know what to say? Who the heck gets
mad about talking about goal setting????
NOTE-This is person is a bipolar supporter.

I had another person fax me a million
times yesterday with pages that make
no sense at all.

It took me hours and hours to sort out
all this stuff.

I was talking to Michele, and she was
saying, “I have no idea how you put
up with this all.”

Sometime days I ask myself that.

BUT, it’s days when I help just one
person that makes it all worth it.

I was talking to a person who
had filled out a free consultation
certificate that comes with my courses/systems
below:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

for non medication and non legal questions
because I am not a doctor, therapist, or lawyer.

She wanted to talk about goal setting
for the new year.

She really wanted to change her life
and do well with bipolar disorder.
We talked about what she thought had
been going wrong. She insisted that she
had tried everything. Then since she
has been on my mailing list she said
well not everything but a lot of things.
She knew that I would ask her if she
had tried millions of possibilities–
which she had not so she quickly changed
the everything to a lot of things 🙂

So we talked for a while and I asked
her some hard questions after I said,
“Do you want me to tell you what you
want to hear or what you need to hear?”

I asked the hard questions:

Do you have a good doctor?

Do you listen to your doctor?

Are you 100% honest with your doctor?

Do you go when you are suppose to go?

Do you have a good therapist, go, and listen?

Do you believe you can get better and be
stable?

Do you have your finances protected?

Have you looked for a job to help pay
for things?

Are you avoiding drinking alcohol?

I heard yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, etc.

Then after I really grilled her I heard:
no, but, no, but, no, but, no, but

After the buts were excuses, I told her
to just keep them to herself because I didn’t
want to hear them. These were yes or no questions.

Then eventually I just didn’t say anything other
than, “Do you see why your 2007 was a disaster?”

She said, “yes, you know, Dave. I kind of lie
to myself all the time.”

Then we talked and she was really going to follow
through. I really believe she will.

It’s odd because on Christmas, my friend
John who I talked about yesterday was
telling me about the problem this person
is experiencing–lying to herself. He said he
can’t believe how many people lie to themselves.

He said and I quote, “It’s hard to believe
how many people lie to themselves. It’s bad
enough that big companies and government
lies to you but when you lie to yourself,
that’s really sad.”

I asked him what he meant. He said that
insurance people lie all the time about how
much work they have down, how hard they have
worked, how many prospects they have talked to,
etc.

NOTE-My friend John is a top insurance broker.

Anyway, he said it leads to total failure. He also
told me how many people contact him and say they
can’t do well in the industry. He asks the hard
questions. They say, yes, yes, yes, yes when in
reality the answers are no, no, no, no, no if
they are honest with themselves which he says 99% of
people aren’t.

Then I started telling him how bipolar supporters
and bipolar survivors lie to themselves all the
time.

When someone has bipolar disorder and isn’t
doing well, I ask questions like:

Did you really take your medication?

Do you have a good doctor?

Do you listen to him/her and see her regularly?

Do you have a good therapist? See him/her?

Did you really get the right amount of sleep?

Did you really do what you are suppose to do?

Are you really trying to get better?

I find many times I get into arguments with
people with bipolar disorder and they say
yes, yes, yes and it’s really no, no, no.

Then they have 1 million reasons to justify
why they have so many no, no, nos. If you
have been on the phone with me or in person
you’ll probably notice how I just never
want to hear excuses.

I was speaking to a person named Mike. He told
me he has no hope. There is no doctor or medication
that can help him. I spoke to him for like an
hour. Don’t know why, he just called me and I had
some time.

Eventually he admitted that guess what?

He doesn’t take his medication, he stay up
half the week watching tv, he doesn’t really
go to therapy and he doesn’t think he could
get better. BUT, he argued with me and tried
to sell me on he was a total disaster and there
was no hope and he tried everything.

He was lying to himself.

Then I spoke to a bipolar supporter.

She said there is no hope for her husband.

I asked:

Did you try to find a doctor using my system

Did you listen to all the cds?

Did you read all my bipolar supporter materials?

Did you find a therapist using my method?

Did you setup systems to protect your finances?

Did you get a different job like I recommended?

Did you send signs and symptoms to the doctor/therapist?

Did you go over the section on how to handle your
loved one’s mood swings and anger?

I heard yes, yes, yes, yes, yes. After 20 minutes
it turned to, “well I didn’t do that but I couldn’t
do that because…I couldn’t read everything because I didn’t
have time…I didn’t listen to all the cds because… We couldn’t
use your doctor system because we didn’t have time.”

I said, “it’s amazing how you told me for 20 minutes
the opposite of what you are telling me now.”

She said, “well you are right.”

In my head, I thought, “Man, she is lying to herself.”

She then told me that she had to get serious
and stop lying to herself that she was doing way
more than she really was.

There are many people that lie to themselves. My dad
did it a lot. He would say he tried everything to help
my mom. But he really didn’t. Today he admits that he
really didn’t but didn’t know what to do.

My mom use to lie to herself about what she was doing
for her illness. She would say, “I am doing everything.”

She didn’t do 20% of what she was suppose to do
back in the day.

I lied to myself all the time from 1997 through
2005. I would give my mom a ton of money and lie
to myself by saying it was being managed well
and everything was okay. I would just keep telling
myself that. I remember my brother asking if
I knew where all the money was going and I said,
“Oh, yea, she needs it, it’s going to legitimate
bills?”

Lying to yourself is deadly. It’s a huge problem. Don’t
do it. Be honest with yourself. When you do, good
things will happen.

Even though I am going to get hate mail about
talking about goal setting for 2008, I am going
to talk about it. Sorry. It’s important. You
can’t set goals if you aren’t honest with
yourself.

Hey, I just looked at the clock, I have to run.

Catch you tomorrow. Oh, tomorrow is the bipolar
disorder news. See you.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.S. Check out my Free blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.S Check out my Free podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

==>>Help with ALL aspects of bipolar disorder<<==
Check out all my resources, programs and information
for all aspects of bipolar disorder by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

Hi,

How’s it going?

If you celebrated Christmas yesterday, I hope
you enjoyed it.

I had a good yesterday. I hung out with
my parents for a while and then went to
visit my friend John and my friend Bob.

Actually Bob was a police officer in
Florida and he was telling me how so many
officers never knew how to handle someone
who had bipolar disorder and was in a manic
episode. He said police tried to avoid
those with mental illness because they
just didn’t know how to deal with them.

Anyway, my friend John is really
successful in the insurance industry.

I was talking to my friend John about
goal setting. He was telling me how none
of his friends takes any time to plan
out anything, set weekly, monthly or
even yearly goals. He was telling
me how many more goals he started hitting
when he just thought about them more and
wrote them down.

John knows that I have this entire organization
devoted to helping people deal with bipolar
disorder.

He said to me, “does your mom set goals for
herself?” I said, “Yes, she writes them down.
She has daily, weekly, and monthly goals.
She doesn’t have yearly goals I don’t think. But
they are written and she goes over them with
her therapist and doctor.”

John said, “That’s great. I bet that’s a major
reason she is doing so well.”

I said, “Yep.”

Then John said, “how many of your other
people have written goals?”

John was kind of asking out of the tens
of thousands of people on my list, how
many people have written goals? I have
no idea.

But I know when I speak to people who
are my coaching clients, use the free
certificates with my courses/systems
below, people I meet personally where
I volunteer, or people I speak to on
the phone, VERY few do.

I don’t know why.

I have gotten a lot of people asking
me how they can have a better 2008.

One way is through goal setting.

Let’s think about this. If your bipolar
disorder isn’t doing well, or your loved
one’s bipolar disorder isn’t doing well,
would writing down goals hurt or help?

Of course is would only help.

Let’s think about the advantages of goal
setting with bipolar disorder.

Gets us to think about the future
-If you don’t know where you are going to go,
how are you going to get their?

Get us to start brainstorming possible
ways to accomplish our goal
-If you don’t know what you want, how
are you going to come up with ways to
get it?

Gets us to get clear on what we want
-If you don’t know what you want, how
are you going to get it.

There’s a book that says, if you ask
a 100 men what they want, 99 can NOT
tell you what they want. Only one might
be able to. Most can only tell you really
general things like “be happy”, “be wealthy”
or “have great health.”

If we were talking right now, and I said,”
Hey, quick tell me what your goals are,
could you tell me?”

If you can’t how can you accomplish them,
then?

That brings me to another topic on bipolar
disorder and goal setting.

You have to be really specific not vague.

I was working with someone who is one of my
coaching clients that set a goal of:

“I want to find a great job that pays
more than $65,000 a year, isn’t stressful,
has great health benefits and retirement,
my boss is understanding to bipolar disorder,
I can help people, the commute is less than
25 minutes each way, and I have flexibility.”

Isn’t that really specific? Now you might
think, “Dave, that’s impossible, there is
no such job.” There are such jobs! I know
people with jobs like this who have bipolar
disorder.

BUT, even if you think this is not possible,
isn’t it more likely to be possible if you
actually set it as a goal? Of course.

Here’s another thing that I was talking to
my friend John about. He is taking an
entire day to set his goals and think about
them. He said it might take him 8 hours
or so.

Imagine that 8 hours of thinking?

Goal setting has helped John along with
hard work.

My friend John will be a self made millionaire
from his job. This is a guy that could NOT
read in high school, was almost sent to jail,
was thrown out of like 8 different high schools,
was physically abused as a kid, had no teeth because
he got into a fight, had guns put to
his head at least twice, was so poor at one point
he collected change to eat, didn’t know how to use the
photocopy machine 7 years ago when he started his
job, couldn’t use a computer and on and on.

Many people bet against him, like many people
bet against those that have bipolar disorder. I
always knew he could be a success like I always
knew the people who work for me who have
bipolar disorder could be successful in my
company.

Goal setting works.

Let me ask you, how many minutes of thinking
have you thought about with your own goals
for bipolar disorder whether you are a supporter
or a bipolar survivor?

Let me ask you, have you spent any time
with goal setting?

Most people I ask, haven’t spent any time
whatsoever.

Sad but true.

Now think of this, if you have no goals,
don’t think about the future really, never
write any goals down, never spend any time
thinking about your goals as the relate to
bipolar disorder, is your year going to be
better or worse than it would be if
you did the opposite of what I just
described?

YOU have the power to make things better
by taking action today and working on your
goals and thinking about them.

If you feel that the bipolar disorder
is not under control and you need help,
take a look at my courses/systems below:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

Most of the problems that you will encounter
are solved in this material.

BUT, after that, then you have to really think
about how you are going to move forward and
change.

Now if you are a bipolar supporter, you might
be thinking, “how am I going to set goals for
my loved one who isn’t stable?” Well you can,
when my mom wasn’t stable I set goals like:

I want to find a doctor that specializes in
bipolar disorder that can help her get stable

I want to find a therapist that specializes in
bipolar disorder that can help her get stable

I want my mom to be self sufficient and be
able to pay her own bills

I want my mom to be out of debt

I want my mom to be able to work and
earn an income

and I set several other goals. All have
been accomplished except the get out of
debt goal which will be accomplished
in January 2008–that’s when my mom’s
last payment is.

It’s really interesting to me, that I hit
all the goals that I had for my mom and her
bipolar disorder. If you would have asked
my dad if this was possible he would have
not commented but in his head thought that
it was impossible.

I remember when I told him about getting
a great doctor and my mom being stable and
working and he said, “well, we’ve tried
for over 30 years.” That was basically saying
to me, “there is no hope, don’t bother.”

Today he would say that wasn’t the case but
at the time, virtually everyone in the family
was betting against me and my mom. For some
reason, I had 100% belief that I could hit all
the goals I set for my mom.

I don’t know why, but I just believed it.

Today you should,

spend time thinking about your goals
Actually go to the library and spend some time
Write down all the goals you want
Be specific
Don’t let anything hold you back on what you want
Write it all down

If you do this you are ahead of 99% of the people
in the general public and when it comes to
bipolar disorder, there are so few people that
have written goals, you’ll be way ahead.

WARNING!
Don’t get caught up on how you are going
to accomplish you goals. Just write them down.

I also would recommend that if you find
goal setting tough. Get a good book on
goal setting. You can get them at the library
or in the bookstore. There are a zillion of
them. There are tons that are good. BUT, you
have to read them and do something.

Goal books don’t fall, the people fail
to read them.

Well I have to run. Catch you tomorrow.

PLEASE POST RESPONSES TO THIS EMAIL HERE

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.S. Check out my Free blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.S Check out my Free podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com