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Important Bipolar Lesson From Investment Companies

David Oliver March 10, 2009 | March 11, 2009 Daily Bipolar Disorder Message 12 Comments

Hi,

I hope you’re having a great day today!

Guess what?

I have a really important lesson for you.

You know I have a business that consults with hedge funds and investment companies. (Not hedges that you find around the house : ))

People who don’t understand what hedge funds are always ask me if I’m a gardener : )

Anyway, one of the big things banks did that are causing them to get into big, and I mean big, trouble is that they didn’t look at the warning signs.

It would be like you not looking at the warning signs of a bipolar episode, and then you or your loved one goes into an episode that could have been avoided!

But here’s a smart thing that investment companies do:

They weigh the cost against the investment.

And that’s a bipolar lesson that you can learn.

Bipolar episodes can cost you.

But bipolar stability is an investment you can make.

Ok, let me explain (but I think you can probably guess what I’m going to say).

Cost doesn’t always mean dollars and cents.

Let me ask you:

How much has bipolar disorder cost you in terms of doctors, psychiatrists, and therapists?

What about hospital stays?

And medication?

Even if you do have insurance, there is usually a co-pay, isn’t there?

And if you don’t have insurance, these things can almost bankrupt you!

And then there are costs that aren’t monetary.

What about the cost of your relationship?

The cost of losing your job?

Your friendships?

Your family?

Your independence?

Your self-confidence?

Your interest in the things you used to enjoy?

Your productivity?

Your stability?

See what I’m getting at?

Bipolar disorder can cost a LOT!

Now let’s look at the other side of the coin.

Let’s look at investment.

To manage bipolar disorder, you have to make an investment in your stability.

In my courses/systems, I talk about how important it is for you to be a part of managing your own bipolar disorder:

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These are some of the bipolar investments you have to make:

You have to take your medication.

You have to see your doctor, psychiatrist, and therapist when you’re supposed to.

You have to stick to a regular sleep schedule (8-9 uninterrupted hours of sleep every night).

You have to eat a healthy diet.

You should exercise.

You have to have a strong support system.

You should go to a bipolar support group.

You have to have as little stress in your life as possible.

You might want to practice relaxation exercises.

You should be productive.

You might want to have a part-time job or home business, or at least volunteer somewhere.

You must communicate with your supporter.

You must watch your triggers.

You must watch for signs and symptoms of oncoming episodes, so you can avoid them from happening.

That last point is really important.

All these things I listed are INVESTMENTS in your STABILITY with bipolar disorder.

But if you don’t do the last thing, you will still go into episodes, and you won’t have stability.

But do you see my point?

Bipolar disorder does consist of costs and investments, just like banking does.

And there’s a difference between the two, and both need to be balanced.

Yes, just like your checkbook.

In the case of bipolar disorder, though, you want the investments to outweigh the costs.

But that is up to you.

How about you?

How does your bipolar “checkbook” look?

Are you making enough “investments” toward your stability?

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Important Notice About Bipolar Disorder And Herbs, Vitamins, Natural Remedies

David Oliver March 9, 2009 | March 11, 2009 Special Offer 1 Comment

Hey, If you’ve been looking into natural herbs, vitamins, and/or alternative therapies for bipolar disorder, then you must know something important. Very important.

Many people are looking into things that are really dangerous. Very dangerous.

When I first found out my mom had bipolar disorder I was looking into the same thing. Over several years I spent a ton of time AND money to find out if there were things that can or did work.

I was shocked that so much stuff being promoted out there was TOTAL garbage. I mean TOTAL garbage.

My mom’s doctor helped me figure out what was good and what was bad. I think most people are way off track when it comes to bipolar disorder and natural “stuff.” I say stuff because it covers you know vitamins, herbs, natural complementary remedies, etc. There is a lot of “stuff” out there.

I will tell you this. There is NO one magic bullet for bipolar disorder. Do NOT fall for the ads you may find on the internet. Also, please run ANYTHING past a qualified doctor before you use it.

My mom runs EVERYTHING single thing past her doctor and she approves it. She NEVER ever does this on her own.

I have just put together some information I think you will find very interesting.

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Warning About The Police And Bipolar Disorder

David Oliver March 9, 2009 | March 11, 2009 Daily Bipolar Disorder Message 37 Comments

Hi,

How’s it going?

I hope you’re doing ok today.

I’ve been reading in the news a lot about people with mental illness, not just bipolar disorder, getting killed by the police because the police misunderstand the situation, or they just don’t know that the person has bipolar disorder (or some other mental illness).

I read the headlines. I read a lot of headlines from all across the headlines. I stay informed.

I post them on my website, so that you can stay informed, too.

This is really important to me, because when I started bipolarcentral.com, one of the most important things to me (and it still is) was to educate people about bipolar disorder. So I put up the bipolar news on the website as one of the ways to do that.

Anyway, sometimes I’m accused of posting only bad news, and some people really, really don’t like that, and they tell me so.

But I tell them that even if you were to read just your own paper, or turn on the news on your local TV station, you would see all this bad news, too. It’s just all around us, unfortunately.

I just pick out the stories that apply to bipolar disorder, because those are the ones that you are interested in reading about.

In my defense against those people who accuse me of only printing bad news, well, I don’t. I print all the news I can find that has to do with bipolar disorder. My intent, just like it always was, is just to inform.

Unfortunately, I guess these people are kind of right. I wish there were more positive news about bipolar disorder.

That’s what one of the things is about my mission is. I want people to learn more about bipolar disorder so that they will become more educated and not be so afraid of people who have the disorder.

If people are more educated, they won’t be so afraid. Then, maybe, we won’t see so many tragic headlines.

Speaking of sad stories, one of those headlines found in New Jersey, hit home recently. Yea, it was really sad.

But it has a bipolar lesson to it, so I have to share it with you.

Michele who works for me, her cousin’s 23-year-old son was shot and killed by the police. He had a knife, and was surrounded by a squad of police, and they just shot first.

Unfortunately, what the headlines didn’t say was that Jake had bipolar disorder and was in a manic episode at the time, because he hadn’t been taking his medication.

Now, you’re familiar with bipolar disorder. You do understand that, in a manic episode, your loved one is not in their right mind. They aren’t thinking rationally.

Who knows if Jake even understood what was happening to him?

The point was, here was this young man, surrounded by all these police, all these guns pointed at him, and he probably didn’t even know what was happening.

And there was no one there to intervene on his behalf.

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In some types of bipolar disorder, the person can become violent during an episode.

They may have hallucinations or delusions during an episode and not know what they’re doing, and it may lead to some type of violence.

Even if they don’t have this type of bipolar disorder, their disorder may change somewhere down the line, and they may become violent.

So whether your loved one has ever been violent before or not, you need to be aware of what to do if they ever do become that way.

Even if they don’t become actually violent, there may come a time when they are so out of control and you are so afraid that you have to involve the police.

Or maybe you’re not even so afraid for yourself, but for your loved one.

Sometimes, in an episode, a person with bipolar disorder will threaten suicide.

And you may not be able to handle it by yourself.

So, in any of the cases, like I’ve mentioned, the police may need to be involved.

This is the bipolar lesson I talked about earlier. There are some things you should know before you involve the police.

Especially for your loved one’s sake.

Because there still hasn’t been enough education in the community and in police departments to necessarily keep them from killing a person in a bipolar episode rather than just subduing them first and getting them the help they need.

Probably the most important thing you need to know is this:

Should you have to call the police on your loved one, STAY (if at all possible) until the police arrive, so that you can explain to them that your loved one has bipolar disorder.

In many states, it will make the difference between your loved one going to the hospital or going to jail.

If there is some reason you cannot stay, then make sure when you do call the police, that you tell them that they will be dealing with someone who has bipolar disorder.

Again, it may mean the difference between your loved one going to the hospital or going to jail.

As a supporter, I’m sure you would rather see your loved one get the help they need rather than go to jail just for being in a bipolar episode.

Many times, the police will bring with them a mental health professional who will help them assess the situation and /or your loved one’s condition.

Unfortunately, Jake did not have this luxury.

Had there been a mental health professional on the site, he may have stood a better chance of living.

So what do YOU think.

David Oliver is the author of the shocking guide “Bipolar Disorder—The REAL Silent Killer.” Click Here to get FREE Information sent via email on how and why bipolar disorder kills.

Getting Away With Bipolar? Guilty or Not?

David Oliver March 8, 2009 | March 11, 2009 Daily Bipolar Disorder Message 44 Comments

Hi,

I hope you’re having a good day.

Yesterday I had a lot of questions of why I sent the daily email at 6:00am EST.

I was up really early : )

Anyway, I want to share something with you.

It’s a comment to an email I sent out the other day:
DEAR DAVID, THERE YOU GO AGAIN, PRAISING THE GUILTY AND CONDEMING THE SUPPORTER…I AM TIRED OF THIS ILLNESS BEING A COP OUT FOR HURTING PEOPLE AND VIOLENTLY ABUSING PEOPLE…

I HAVE A DAUGHTER IN LAW WHO GETS AWAY WITH EVERYTHING… SHE GOT AWAY WITH BEING ARRESTED FOR ASSAULTING MY SON…AND SLANDERING ME…AND HURTING MY LITTLE GRANDDAUGHTER… THERE ARE TWO GRANDBABIES INVOLVED WITH THIS PERSON… AND I JUST FEEL, QUIT PATTING THEM ON THE HOULDER AND SAYING, ITS OKAY, ITS NOT OKAY…

……THANK YOU…

Wow. Pretty overwhelming, huh?

This is just a sample of some of the negative comments that get posted on my blog sometimes. Some are even death threats! But you know how I respond to those – those people are reported to the authorities.

I respect everybody’s right to free speech, and even people who post negative comments have a right to their own opinion, but this one I wanted to respond to, because I think she makes some points here.

So I thought you should get a chance to see what she wrote, because I do have some comments to make about her post.

First of all, I don’t see it as threatening.

But let me address this one thing at a time.

As far as me “praising the guilty and condemning the supporter,” I really disagree with that.

I don’t think I ever condemn the supporter. In fact, I try very hard to write encouraging emails to supporters, because I know how hard it is to be a supporter to a loved one with bipolar disorder, because of my mom.

Why would I condemn supporters? That doesn’t even make any sense! I always try to show my support of supporters and to help them, because I know life isn’t easy for them.

As far as “praising the guilty,” I assume she’s talking about people with bipolar disorder. And I know I don’t “praise them.” That definitely isn’t true. What I do is try to educate them about their disorder. To teach them how to manage it.

That is exactly what my courses/systems are all about; not just for the person with bipolar disorder, but for
their supporters as well:

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Then she goes on to say, “I am tired of this illness being a cop out for hurting people and violently abusing
people…”

It sounds like she is frustrated and very angry now.

Speaking in general, many supporters are hurt just by the fact that their loved one has bipolar disorder. And some of their loved one’s behavior does hurt them.

But “violently abusing people” sounds like an individual case,” as (only my experience, not speaking as a mental health professional or member of law enforcement) the only way I know of that someone with bipolar
disorder might actually resort to violence would be in an actual episode, and that is much rarer than you might think.

Even then, if a supporter feels like they are being abused, they should involve the right authorities to get their loved one the help that they need and to keep themselves safe.

As far as “this illness being a cop out,” now that may be a point.

Some people with bipolar disorder do use their disorder as an excuse sometimes to behave in certain ways. Although most of them are not a danger to their loved ones. Ways like being lazy and unproductive, like sleeping too much, or feeling sorry for themselves, etc.

Or in others, like not taking responsibility for the things they do when they’re in an episode. Some supporters even think their loved one is lying when they can’t remember the things they said or did when they were in an episode. They think their loved one is using their bipolar disorder as a cop out, or excuse for what they did. So I can see why this woman might say that.

But as far as “getting away with everything”?

And the specific things she described?

These are pretty drastic and dramatic things.

They are also very descriptive and detailed.

They are also only one case, one case that eaves a lot of questions unanswered.

For one thing, is getting arrested “getting away with it”? It sounds to me like it’s more like “getting caught with it.”

And you don’t get arrested for slandering someone. I could see how someone might take offense at what someone says about them… and I could be wrong, but isn’t that something that’s taken up in court and not
with the police?

As far as getting away with “hurting my little granddaughter,” I’m not judging here, or challenging what this woman is saying, but I know that authorities come down hard on child abusers, and that little girl would not still be in the home if she were truly being abused. They would have taken action.

And she never really says what she means by “hurting.”

I know when I was small and my mom had her episodes, I felt hurt. She yelled at me a lot, and said bad things to me, and that hurt me. And I didn’t understand what was happening at all. But she never, ever hit me or hurt me that way.

But after saying all that, this woman says, “And I just feel, quit patting them on the shoulder and saying, its okay, its not okay…”

And here’s where I take exception.

I would never, ever condone abusive behavior (if this were, indeed, what was happening in this situation) in someone who has bipolar disorder. I certainly wouldn’t pat them on the shoulder and say it’s ok! I think you
know me better than that. That isn’t something I would do.

I may understand bipolar disorder, and why people who have it do what they do, but I still wouldn’t think it’s ok for them to do bad things.

If what this woman is saying is truly the case, then it’s obvious that her daughter-in-law needs help.

But was this a one-time occurrence while in an episode, or is this ongoing behavior?

She couldn’t be on her medication and do these things. She is obviously not stable, or following any kind of a treatment plan.

Did this woman who posted this comment actually SEE all these things, or did her son maybe just tell her them, and are they accurate accounts?

As a supporter, he needs to know that he can’t help his wife if she won’t help herself. That’s one of the things I’ve tried to teach you. At some point, she needs to take some responsibility for herself. And this woman said that there are TWO grandbabies involved. How come she didn’t say anything about the other one?

But here’s the biggest point that this woman brings up:

She thinks her daughter-in-law is “getting away with it,” meaning she is getting away with all of these things just because she has bipolar disorder.

I do think that this woman feels helpless to do anything in this situation. I understand that feeling, because there were times that, as a supporter to my mom, I felt that way, too.

I think she is also very angry and very frustrated. So I don’t blame her for writing this email.

But what do YOU think?

What do you think about the situation? Do you think her daughter-in-law is “getting away with it”?

What do you think she should do?

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Bipolar? Great Story Reveals Critical Lessons

David Oliver March 7, 2009 | March 11, 2009 Daily Bipolar Disorder Message 14 Comments

Hi,

I hope your day is going well.

I heard this funny story the other day.

This man looked up at the sky and said, what is the meaning of life?”

A big, booming voice came down from he sky and said, “Life is like a river!”

“You mean that it’s long and winding?” the man asked.

“What do you think?” the booming voice answered.

Puzzled, the man asked, “You mean because it has so many twists and turns?”

Again, the booming voice answered, “What do you think?”

Still puzzled, the man asked, “You mean because of all the things that get caught up in its way?”

“What do you think?” boomed the voice from above.

This time the man thought he had the answer.

He asked, “You mean because there seems to be no end in sight?”

The voice boomed, “What do you think?”

Frustrated by this point, the man answered, “I think I better figure out the answer for myself, that’s what I think.”
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I don’t know about you, but I thought the story was funny.

But I thought it made a good point, too. And, like always, I realized it could be related to bipolar disorder.

Sometimes we have the answers to things, we just don’t know that we do.

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Sometimes we think we have the answer, but it turns out not to be.

Sometimes we get really frustrated, because we just can’t see any answer to our problems at all.

Sometimes the answer to our problems might be staring us right in the face, and we just can’t see it.

Sometimes we can find our own answers by learning from other people and how they found their answers.

Sometimes the answer seems to be so well- hidden that we think we’ll never be able to find it.

But just like the funny story about the man asking about the meaning of life…

The bottom line is, you have to find the answer to your problems for yourself, however you have to do it.

But I guarantee, the answer is there somewhere.

You just have to look for it.

Have you ever heard the expression, “The impossible just takes a little longer”?

Some people don’t try at all.

Some people blame their problems on other people.

Some people with bipolar disorder blame their problems on the disorder.

Some people try a little bit, but give up easily.

Some people try to make their problems into someone else’s.

And then there are those who won’t give up.

I like to think of most people with bipolar disorder and their supporters that way.

It’s not their fault that they have the disorder.

It’s not fair that they have to live with something they never asked for, or deserve.

And there are a lot of problems that come with having bipolar disorder.

It takes a lot of willpower and strength to deal with the problems that come with the disorder.

It takes a lot to fight the disorder, and it takes a lot to manage the disorder and especially to not let the disorder manage you instead.

Those are some pretty big problems, wouldn’t you say?

Yet I talk to or hear from people with bipolar disorder and their supporters every day, and they are doing it.

Most of them don’t complain about it, even though I’m sure they don’t like it, and would rather it didn’t happen to them.

But they’ve accepted the reality of their problems, and they do something about it.

They face their problems head-on, and they look for solutions for them.

They don’t blame the disorder for their problems.

They don’t try to blame other people for their problems.

They don’t try to make excuses for their problems.

They just accept life for what it is, and accept that there are problems that come with life.

Whether you have bipolar disorder or not.

These are the people that I respect the most.

Because these are the people who don’t give up.

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Well, I have to go!

Your Friend,

Dave

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Warning About Natural Vitamins, Herbs, Therapies and Bipolar Disorder

David Oliver March 6, 2009 | March 11, 2009 Special Offer 1 Comment

Hi,

I wanted to send out a quick email about something.

Many people have written me saying that they have this product or that product that helps or even cures bipolar disorder.

When I ask where they got the information from, it normally comes from some random company.

This is a BIG no no.

Do not take what you hear from the manufacturer of a supplement for bipolar disorder as the gospel.

Don’t do this.

Now to move on…

A bunch of people asked me about where I got the information on: “My Findings: Vitamins, Herbs, and Alternative Therapies for Treating Bipolar Disorder.”

Here’s the deal. A while ago I decided that I had to find out about everything “nature” that had to do with bipolar disorder. Why? I got so many people asking questions.

So I decided to go pay a doctor and research team to find out what was real and not real.

I went out and located a doctor who had a research staff and contracted with them to search all the places where credible studies and clinical trials that had been conducted on alternative therapies would be located. Places like…

==> The National Institute of Health

==> The National Institute of Mental Health

==> Life Sciences Journal

==> Journal of Psychological Medicine

==> Advanced Biological Psychiatry Journal

==> British Journal of Psychiatry

==> American Journal of Psychiatry

==> Journal of Affective Disorders

==> Archives of General Psychiatry

I had this doctor and his staff analyze all the studies and write a summary on those natural remedies, or treatments, that have scientific backing and support.

That’s where I got my information from.

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Current Bipolar News

David Oliver March 6, 2009 | March 11, 2009 Daily Bipolar Disorder Message 2 Comments

Hi,

How are you?

I hope you are doing well.

Here is today’s news.

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Having Parents with Bipolar Disorder Associated With Increased Risk Of Psychiatric Disorders

DO> Great article. Take a look.

Police Officer Who Claimed to See Demon Sues NYPD for Religious… DO> What do you think of this?
Depression, Bipolar Disorder Linked To Desire For Fame, Success DO> Very interesting article you should read.
Risk: Fatal Illness More Likely in Bipolar Patients DO> Another great article to review. UCSB Ignores Potentially Suicidal Students DO> Wow this is scary, don’t you think.

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The Bipolar Secret You Must Do

David Oliver March 5, 2009 | March 11, 2009 Daily Bipolar Disorder Message 15 Comments

Hi,

How’s it going?

I am up super early today.

It’s 4:24am EST.

I have a ton of things to do today so I had to get up really early to send this off to you.

Anyway, I saw this post on my blog:

I want to thank you for the ongoing information, and I am glad you have the book Everything you wanted to know about Bipolar.or something like that. You said it might be useful to hand to schools, police.. Anyway, here is the scenario.

My ex is furious with me for divorcing him. He is dragging it out hoping to force me into bankruptcy, thereby he could get all the assets. He of course is saying since I have been diagnosed as having bipolar I can not handle money (real story he lied about income, taxes. and gave me and the kids a tiny portion and I paid almost all the bills for the kids, sold all my jewelry and racked up the credit cards to not impact kids lives hoping for fair trial. That hasn’t happened.

He says I am a golddigger and horrible mother (reverse is true) and since I have bipolar nothing i say is true. Judges believe him. A Nanny has waved arms around at school and called cops on me when I exercised my first right of refusal. Police took her word for everything (real story it is much cheaper for my ex to hire a lying nanny who is anxious to live in my house than to settle with me).

Bottomline, I’m glad I had your booklet. I took it to the police supervisor today. I told him it is critical to write accurately about someone, wouldn’t he want me to do the same?

I handed him the booklet and told him I have been diagnosed and I am highfunctioning and hyperthymic. He may not rewrite the report but he will educate the officers about bipolar and how they need to treat people fairly. I am not sure about the outcome of the rest. We are 4 years into it. I want my kids.

I did realize that due to my situation what is really critical is education about bipolar and other mental illnesses for those who do not have funds, or are cheated out of legal funds, they should have them. What you are doing is very important, Dave. Thank you.
Diane
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So here’s the secret you must do:

You MUST educate people and be proactive.

You need to be like Diane, and take an example from what she did.

Like what she did, taking my booklet to the police supervisor.

It may not guarantee that he’ll do something to help her situation, but at least she was proactive – she did something, she didn’t just wait around doing nothing and expecting her situation to change – and at least she educated him, and he’ll educate others.

Then maybe the next time he (and others) come against someone like Diane and her situation, he’ll handle things differently.

You need to educate people. It’s the only way to make things change for you and others who have bipolar disorder and their supporters.

It also might make it easier to let me do the educating, like with my booklets and other information (using it to do the talking for you, like Diane did).

When I started my website and writing my courses and materials, it was with the purpose of educating people about bipolar disorder.

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Bipolar Supporter? Don’t Compromise When It Comes To This

David Oliver March 4, 2009 | March 11, 2009 Daily Bipolar Disorder Message 9 Comments

Hi,

How are you doing today?

Everyone has values, things they believe in that, no matter what anyone says or does, they can’t be shaken from these beliefs.

Some people’s are religious beliefs, and no matter what, you couldn’t sway them from their religious beliefs (not that I’m saying you should ever try – I’m not saying that at all, so don’t get me wrong).

Other people have political views that, no matter what, you couldn’t get them to believe anything else other than what they believe, right or wrong. That’s how strong they are in their beliefs.

But then there are other things, like personal opinions, that aren’t like these other things I mentioned. They’re not like facts, that can be proven right or wrong. They’re just opinions, so they can be swayed.

Then there are people who are what some people call “wishy-washy.” They don’t seem to have any opinions or beliefs of their own. They just go along with what everyone else thinks or believes. These people just want to “fit in with the crowd.”

As a supporter, I teach you in my courses/systems that there are some things you have to do in order to be a good supporter, to be the best supporter you can be to your loved one with bipolar disorder.

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There are some things you can compromise on.

Like you might want to go out and do something, but if your loved one isn’t feeling up to it, then you can compromise and stay home.

If you are helping your loved one keep a To-Do List and they don’t get to all the things on their list, that’s ok. You can compromise on that, and assure them that it’s ok, that they can get to the other things tomorrow.

If you make a decision that your loved one doesn’t agree with, then the two of you can talk about it, and there will probably be a compromise in there somewhere.

Sometimes you even have to put some of your own needs aside because of your loved one’s bipolar disorder, and that involves compromise.

BUT…

If your loved one asks you to do something that could damage them and their bipolar disorder in some way, on that you should NEVER compromise!

For example, if they say they’re tired of taking their medication, and ask you to stop getting it filled at the drugstore. That’s something you cannot compromise on. They need their medication to maintain their stability.

Or if they want to start skipping their appointments with their doctor, psychiatrist and/or therapist, and tell you they don’t need you to drive them anymore, that they can get there by themselves, if they feel the need to go, whenever. That’s something you can’t compromise on, because that, too, could jeopardize their stability.

What if they start wanting to sleep all the time, and tell you to just leave them alone and let them sleep as much as they want, or if they start isolating in the house, not wanting to go anywhere, when you usually encourage them to be productive and get out of bed and do things? That’s an area where you can’t compromise, either, because if you do, you know that too much sleep and isolation can lead to a bipolar episode.

What if you see other signs or symptoms of an impending episode, like triggers happening, like your loved one stops taking care of themselves, or stops caring about you and your relationship? You can’t just not say anything. On this you can’t compromise. You have to say something to them about it.

What if your loved one becomes manic, starts spending excessively, starts making rash decisions, or becomes angry at you and expressing it in ways that are intolerable to you? That, especially is something on which you cannot compromise. You have to take some action.

Just like the person whose values cannot be swayed no matter what, as a good supporter, you cannot let certain things slide.

If you believe that your loved one is starting to show the signs of going into a bipolar episode, you cannot compromise. You have to take action.

If your loved one won’t listen to you, then at least try to get a message to their doctor, psychiatrist, or therapist. Your loved one should have a signed Medical Release Form on file in their offices allowing you to talk to them. But let someone know what is happening.

Don’t compromise on this.

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