Hi,
What’s going on?
I have a really important bipolar rules I am
going to share with you.
Before I do…
What a trip it’s been in California.
Listen to this.
Okay first, I forgot to pack dress socks.
Can you believe that? It’s so annoying.
I was super mad about it. I don’t have
a car and my friend wasn’t around. I was in
the hotel in the morning and I discovered
this.
I randomly decided to call someone who
has actually a whole bunch of disorders.
This person is super high functioning.
I was going on and going about how
I was super mad. The person listened
and said, “Hey Dave, we really should
go over the stuff and anyway, is
not having any socks the end of the
world? It could be worse.”
I was like, “Hey, you’re right.”
Then the person was like, “hey,
why the heck would people be looking
at your feet anyway.”
I was like, “Hey, you’re right. Only
like a weirdo looks at people’s feet”
LOL
Okay so in my hotel. Which is suppose
to be a new one. I almost lost my arm
in the elevator trying to hold the door.
My key didn’t work to use the elevator
multiple times. My key didn’t work
to open my door many times.
The water to take a shower was cold
yesterday. FREEZING cold. I started
to put soap on me and then it went
cold. I was stuck. I had half my
body with soap and the other half with
no soap. I couldn’t call anyway.
I just had to deal with a freezing
cold shower which was total shock.
I can’t believe the hotel that was
suppose to be new had all these problems.
Oh, and I forgot my lap top charger
at home as well. I ordered a new one
that was suppose to be sent one day.
Well they screwed up and sent it 4 day.
Geeze. It’s been a pain of a trip.
Oh I actually met with one of my subscribers
from San Diego California. That was really
cool. We had a fun.
Okay enough with the stories let’s get to
the topic at hand today.
Today I want to talk about the
10 Rules for Emotional Health
I know, I hate rules too, but I think
this list is really important for your
emotional health, whether you are
the one with bipolar disorder or the
supporter.
1. Take care of yourself.
If you are a survivor, you have
to take care of yourself in order
to manage your disorder. Get
the right amount of sleep, eat
a healthy diet, and exercise,
are just a few examples. Same
goes for you supporters. You
can’t be any good to someone
else if you aren’t good to
yourself first.
2. Focus on the positive instead
of the negative.
Survivors, if you stay negative,
you will stay sick. Supporters,
if you stay negative, you will be
no good to your loved one, and
you will be no good to yourself.
You need to be a more positive
person, in order to stay emotionally
healthy. You need to take every
negative thought and turn it into
a positive one.
3. Let go of the past.
Yes, I know this is easier said than
done. Supporters, I know you’re
probably saying to me, “But you
don’t know what he/she has done
to me!” But remember, I am a
supporter, too! There’s plenty
of hurt and other negative feelings
I went through with my mother.
I just had to learn to let go of it,
or I would still be suffering from
those horrible memories, and
still be lost in the past, instead of
living a good present like I am.
I had to make a decision to
forgive my mother, as you need
to make a decision to forgive your
loved one now. If you don’t, you
will keep that resentment, and
both of you will suffer.
4. Be respectful and responsible.
This is more for survivors. You need
to own up to what you’ve done and
said in your episodes, even if you
don’t remember. Your loved one
has remembered everything you’ve
said and done, and is probably
still feeling hurt and resentful
about it, so you have to be
respectful and responsible and
do the right thing, and make up
to them for it.
5. Have an attitude of gratitude.
Supporters, living in the world of
bipolar disorder can get to you
sometimes – you can get to feeling
like it’s all that’s in your life. But
it doesn’t have to be. Trade all
the negatives of the disorder and
what it has done to your loved one
and your lives, and develop an
attitude of gratitude instead. Be
grateful for every day that your
loved one goes without an episode
and make the most of those days.
Be grateful for the smaller things
as well.
In my courses/systems, I talk about having
A positive attitude and how just changing
yourself from a negative person to a positive
person can change your recovery as well as
your life:
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HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
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6. Develop one or two friendships outside
the one you have with your loved one.
This goes for both of you. Go to a support
group meeting. Meet new people. Get
out from the bipolar disorder that tends
to overwhelm your life and isolate you.
You need to have other relationships
outside of just your own. You need to
learn to talk about other things besides
bipolar disorder.
7. Have some fun!
People who don’t have fun in their lives,
especially people who have bipolar
disorder, tend to become more depressed.
This doesn’t have to be expensive, but
just something that keeps your spirits
high. I know a couple who have “Date
Night” every Friday night, and sometimes
all they do is go to the local mall and
have a cheap dinner at the food court
and watch the people! To them, this is
fun. Other times, they just rent a
movie, put covers on the floor,
pop some popcorn, and snuggle
together to watch the movie. And
both of them have bipolar disorder,
by the way!
8. Remove yourself from hurtful or
damaging (negative) situations.
For survivors, there are many situations
that are negative, stressful, over-
exciting/stimulating, and can trigger
an episode for you. These are
situations that you need to avoid.
If you find yourself in one of these
situations, you need to get out of
them right away.
9. Accept that life is all about choices.
Some choices are good, and some are
bad. But they are YOUR choices. You
need to learn to make good choices.
The more good choices you make, the
more emotionally healthy you will be,
and the happier in the long run. If
you make bad choices, there will
always be consequences to pay,
and you don’t want that.
10. The future is up to YOU!
Have a plan for the future.
Unfortunately, no one knows when
your next episode will occur,
although I have tried to teach you
how to avoid episodes, how to
watch for triggers, and how to
manage your bipolar disorder.
However, I have also told you
that you most likely will have
another episode. That’s why
I always tell you to have a safety
plan in place for the next episode.
you can make short term plans
and long term plans for your
future, and you should make
plans just for yourselves that
have nothing to do with bipolar
disorder. Just make some kind
of plans to have a healthy,
happy, successful future – the
future is up to YOU!
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Your Friend,
Dave
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