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Hi,
How’s it going?
I hope you are doing well. Hey it
was kind of interesting. I got a lot of
emails from people yesterday saying how
I should appreciate the snow because they
have never seen snow only on tv.
I guess you are right. I should appreciate
the snow.
I actually live in an area with four seasons
winter, fall, summer and spring and I do
appreciate that.
Actually there’s an important lesson for
bipolar disorder that I am going to be sharing
with everyone about where I live versus
where other people live.
I am going to be posting some videos online.
I just don’t know how :). I am not good with
all this technology stuff.
So, I have a friend who’s daughter’s boy friend
who is like 15 is going to teach it all to me.
There’s an important lesson here for bipolar
disorder. First, ask for help. Second, you
never know who can help you.
Anyway I will be posting this in a few weeks
and will send an email.
I am also starting a personal bipolar
coaching program because for like 2.5 years
people have been asking me over and over
again for one.
I always said no because I didn’t have one
setup. Then someone asked me to call him
to talk about how I can set it up. I really
appreciate that so I am going to be setting
one up in like a week or so.
I will send an email with the details.
Okay let’s talk about today’s topic.
Well, it’s almost Thanksgiving and
I wanted to talk about this interesting
conversation I had with a friend.
IMPORTANT BIPOLAR LESSON COMING UP
I have a friend that loves fortune
cookies.
Here’s the thing. He has a super strict
diet so he can NOT eat the future cookies
but he loves them.
If you go get Chinese food with him,
he will only get chicken and will insist
you give him your fortune cookies.
It’s kind of annoying 🙂
But he never eats them.
DON’T WORRY THERE’S A BIPOLAR LESSON COMING
I finally asked him why the other day.
And he said and this is a quote, “Dude,
whenever I read the messages inside,
a lot of the stuff comes true.”
I was like “what do you mean?” He said
that when he reads the messages inside
the cookies, that talk about how your
life is going to be, good things happen.
I asked him to give me examples. He said
this one time it said, “Something great
is about to enter in your life so pay
attention.”
He said that he was excited because he needed
something great to enter his life and then
he wound up getting a new job, which allowed
him to afford all his nutrition supplements
for working out and he met a girl he is
dating. And he said “dude she is really good
looking and okay with me being really big.”
He uses the word “dude.”
He said, “one cookie, three positive things.”
He told me how the cookies work.
It’s not just him. Many people believe in
fortune cookies and other things like lucky
charms.
Here is the important lesson on bipolar disorder.
There are many old books and now new ones
that are saying these days, you can bring
into existence what you think about and focus
on.
Now I don’t want to get way out in outer space
on you but I think it’s true.
I think this is what is happening to my friend.
He reads something positive. Then he expects something
positive. Then something positive happens to
him. It becomes like a self fulfilling prophecy.
The cookie because the thing that causes him
to start thinking positive. I would hate to see
if the cookies had negative messages because I think
if he saw a negative message, bad things would happen
because he would expect them to happen.
Now let’s translate this into bipolar disorder.
Let’s look at success people with bipolar disorder:
-They expect good things to happen
-They expect themselves to have good and bad days
but the expect everything will be okay in the end
-They expect that they can manage bipolar disorder
and be a success
Let’s look at success bipolar supporters:
-They expect good things to happen with their loved one
-They expect their loved one to have good and bad days
but have 100% confidence that the systems they setup
will be able to handle everything
-They expect that their loved one can handle bipolar
disorder and handle it well. They have confidence
that bipolar disorder can be managed successful.
In my courses and systems below, I talk about
all the key expectations from those who
are successful.
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Now let’s look at those that fail
who are supporters and survivors
The unsuccessful bipolar survivors
expect:
-They expect bipolar disorder to be a nightmare
-They expect to struggle for years
-They expect people to not understand them
-They expect people to discriminate against them
-They expect that they can’t be successful
-They expect that bipolar disorder will ruin the
rest of their lives
-They expect they will never ever find the right
medication because “they tried all combinations.”
The unsuccessful bipolar supporters are negative as
well:
-They expect their loved one to always be unstable
-They expect that their loved one can’t be successful
-They expect their loved one will struggle all the time
-They expect that bipolar disorder can’t be beat or
managed
-They expect they will never find a system to help
their loved one.
-They expect that things will stay the same forever
I believe that expectations play a major role in how
a person with bipolar disorder does or a bipolar
supporter.
The negative people get negative results. The positive
people get positive results.
I have seen this time and time again. I know people
with some of the worst combinations of disorders you
can think of. People with 5 or 8 diagnosis’s
and they do super well. But they expect they will.
Let me say something. Well first let me remind
everyone that I am NOT a doctor, lawyer, therapist
and NOT offering medical, legal or professional
advice.
Actually as a side note, someone asked me if
I cut hedges for a living. I do consulting
for HEDGE FUNDS (investment companies) but
I don’t cut Hedges 🙂 LOL
Okay, back to what I was saying.
I really think that even the best medication,
the best doctor, the best therapist in the world
can’t overcome a bipolar survivor and bipolar supporter
that believe they are doomed forever because of
bipolar disorder.
I know people who have a ton going for them (they
have a great doctor, therapist, lots of money,
family support, etc)
and they expect they will do poorly.
I know people who have everything going against
them (no friends, family support, money, house,
etc.) and they do well.
Both people get what they expect.
Remember the story of the fortune cookie when
you are “going negative.” Remember you get
what you expect.
One last thing. If you know people who go
to fortune tellers. The same thing happens.
I am not saying whether I agree or disagree
with this service, if you can call it a service,
but I have friends that go and feel totally
empowered when a fortune teller says good
things are going to come to them soon.
It’s amazing to me. Actually many people
who work for me with bipolar disorder or another
mental illness tell me I was the first person
to say they are smart, great, creative and a
huge asset to any organization and capable of
amazing and great things.
The reasons why I say these things is because
I believe them. Time and time again, when I have
had the most difficult problems, the ones no one
can solve, things that are complex, it’s always
someone who works for me with a mental illness
that solves it.
I really believe that people with a mental illness
are everything I just said. As a result, I wind up
getting what I expect in my own company.
Hey I just looked at the clock and I have to
go because I have interviews to do, I have to
go the library, map some stuff out, eat, etc.
Catch you tomorrow. If you have stories
about this concept post them on my bipolar
blog.
Your Friend,
Dave
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different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
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P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/
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