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Hi,

How’s it going?

It’s snowing again where I live. It’s going
to be really hard to get around this morning.

So I am going to have to take off rather
early and make this quick.

Yesterday I got several really angry emails
from some people with bipolar disorder.
Why were they mad? Well they said that
I basically unfairly say people with
bipolar disorder can’t handle money
well.

I never said that at all. What I have
said is that when people go into
bipolar episodes, they can spend money
they normally would never ever spend.

For some reason, there are many supporters
and people with bipolar disorder that don’t believe
this.

I don’t know why? I have heard so many stories
about how bipolar has wrecked someone’s finances.

I lost a ton of money from bipolar disorder
over the years.

I personally know people who have lost $50,000,
$100,000, $250,000, and more than
$500,000.

I remember this one guy calling me about 2
years ago. He was in California. He was on
my list and wanted to get my how to marry
someone with bipolar disorder course.

We talked for a while. He told me that he was
a millionaire (he wasn’t arrogant it just
came up in conversation) from real estate
and that he had worked really hard to
make something of himself. I was really
happy for him.

He was marrying someone with bipolar
disorder. He said she was doing
great but he just wanted to get my information
just to read up on bipolar disorder before
he got married.

I warned him. I said, make sure you
put systems in place to protect your money.
I actually then asked him to grab a pen
and that I was going to give him a mini
seminar and that this would save him
a lot of money in the future.

He said, “no thanks, she is great with
money. She never overspends.” He laughed
and said, “actually, I overspend and maybe
I should protect myself from myself.”

He thought it was funny. I urged him
that this was serious and to heed my warning
and to setup the systems. I told him the
worst that would happen is that he would
have systems in place that don’t cost anything
and nothing would happen. He would have only
spent some time setting them up and that’s
it.

He kept saying no. I could tell that I think
he felt that if he setup the systems he would
not be trusting his wife. I think he thought
that setting up the systems would mean he
didn’t believe his wife’s bipolar disorder
we okay.

I then let it go. I was thinking in my head,
“Geeze this guy is in trouble.”

Anyway about 7 months went by. I got a call
from another lady that lived in Texas. She had
told me that her son had “run through” more
than $350,000 and she was dead broke.

I didn’t even have to ask how it happen. Probably
the same way it happen with my mom. It just happens.
Anyway, I didn’t want to rub salt in the woman’s
wounds. She wanted to start a business to
make money to make up for all that had been lost.
I gave her a number of ideas.

Okay then a month later after this woman called,
I got a call from the real estate guy. He called
and sounded terrible. He was really sad. I kind
of forgot who he was because I talk to so many
people. He told me he was filing bankruptcy and
his wife had ruined his c.redit, and gone
through over $1 million of his money. She had
also taken out loans in his name. It was a total
mess.

His wife had gone into a “super episode” he said
and that he felt stupid because he didn’t listen
to me. He was yelling at himself. I calmed him
down and told him that he was young, like my
age and that he could bounce back. I spent a lot
of time giving him a plan.

I had his number and would call to check in. He
was really depressed all the time and I tried
to make him feel better. One day his phone
was turned off and never turned back on again.
I have no idea what happen to him. It was really
sad.

I could go on and on. But I am sure you get
the idea.

Here’s the thing. Bipolar disorder is a mood
disorder. It affects the way a person thinks and
feels. If a person goes into an episode, he/she
can do stuff they normally would not do. One
thing they can do is spend money. It takes a life
time to build a savings but it only take a day to
spend it all. It’s kind of amazing.

This is what can happen with bipolar disorder.

This is what I HIGHLY recommend setting
up systems to protect your money.

All my courses below:

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Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

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Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

have these systems in them. I teach it from
a to z. I think I am the only person that does.

When I talk about money and bipolar disorder,
people think I am “out of my mind.” I have
had people call me and said, “why do you have
a cd called money and bipolar disorder, is
that a mistake?”

If you don’t have systems in place, you need to
set them up right away. Don’t wait until
it’s too late.

And, if nothing ever happens, nothing is
lost. Meaning, if you setup the systems,
your loved one never goes into an episode
forever, nothing is lost. You just have
your money protected. But you need
to do something. TODAY. Don’t wait.

I would really appreciate if people post
some stories of what can happen. People
with bipolar disorder who are newly diagnosed
and new bipolar supporters many times don’t
believe this kind of thing is possible until
it happens.

If you have a story, post it below.

I have to run and get ready. Catch you tomorrow.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

==>>Help with ALL aspects of bipolar disorder<<==
Check out all my resources, programs and information
for all aspects of bipolar disorder by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

Hi,

How are you?

I hope you are doing well.

I have a very important bipolar lesson
to tell you about today.

It all started yesterday. Let me tell
you the story.

I have so many friends that are overweight.
It’s a gigantic problem in the USA. I actually
think it’s way bigger than mental illness.

Think about it. Look around. There are so
many people overweight it’s amazing.

Anyway, I have this friend that I was
talking to yesterday. This person gained
a ton of weight. A ton. Like 80
pounds. It’s amazing. Very strange.
This is NOT because of a medical condition
in case you are wondering.

She was complaining to me telling
me how she was really, really annoyed
that she started her weight loss program
and hadn’t lost any weight.

She asked me for advice.

I actually have a system for losing
weight. I lost over 60 pounds and
have done so for 9 years. I haven’t
gained it back.

Very few people can do this. Am I special?
NO. I had a system. I invented it. I did
the same thing that I did when my mom
was in a bipolar episode. I went around and did a ton
of research to figure out how to lose
weight and keep it off.

Anyway, this isn’t about weight loss,
it’s about bipolar disorder.

I asked her when she started the weight
loss program. She said, “two weeks ago.”

I then asked questions like:

How much did you weigh 10 years ago?

How much did you weigh 5 years ago?

How much did you weigh 1 year ago?

What do you eat?

Why do you think you gained so much weigh?

How much exercise did you do in the last year on
a weekly basis?

How much water do you drink?

What kind of nutritional supplements do you take?

And a bunch of other questions like this.

Then after she answered I said,

“Do you swear you told the whole truth
nothing but the truth so help you God?”

She laughed. I said, “well did you?” She
put her hand up and said “YES.” I say
this because, you know people lie with
answers 🙂

Anyway it was so obvious to me what the
problem was and it totally relates to
bipolar disorder.

Here’s the deal. She actually started her
new weight loss program 10 days ago not
two weeks. She lost 3 pounds. It took
her 5 years to gain 80 pounds. In the
last year, she eat terribly, took no
supplements, didn’t exercise and basically
did everything wrong. She had really bad
habits.

She also believed that she should lose
the weight in a few months. She said, “two
would be good.”

BIPOLAR LESSON COMING UP

The first thing that I told her
is that success with losing weight start
with your mindset and understanding
one concept.

You didn’t put it on in a few days and
you will NOT and I repeat will NOT take
it off in a few days or few months.

Lose 80 pounds in two months when it took
you five years to put it on? How does that
compute?

She lost 3 pounds in 10 days and was “disappointed.”

I hear the same thing will bipolar disorder.
A person have a disaster of a life. Lost
friends. No job. Tons of de.bt, etc.
He/she has been self medicating. Hasn’t seen
a doctor regularly. Hasn’t seen a therapist
at all. Has been doing this for 5 to 10 years.

Finally older age hits. He/she turns like 40
and is disgusted. Wants to turn things around.

He/she comes to me: “Hey I want to go
to the doctor now and fix all this stuff.
I swear I will follow what the doctor says.”

The person gets on medication in two weeks,
they talk to me all mad. The medications make them
feel bad. They have bill collectors. Their family
won’t return their calls. They can’t find a
good job. It’s not fair they tell me.

There mad as heck for me telling them
he/she can do well.

I explain to the person. It took years to
create a disaster of a life and it’s going to
take time, probably not years, but a fair amount of
time to fix it all. I tell the person to hang in
there.

I coach them.

This is a true story. Actually the other day.
And it’s happen to me over and over and over
again.

Some people get it. Some don’t and stop
trying out of frustration.

Let’s look at my mom, I can say by January
she would have effectively erased 95% of
the problems she created in her life from
bipolar disorder in about 3 years.

You might be thinking “OH MY! That’s a long
time.” Well, here’s the deal. She became somewhat
stable in 3 months, totally stable in like 9
months. Was working again in 12 months. She
is going to make her last payment for her d.ebt
in January and that would be about 3 years.

BUT think about it, she has been doing the wrong
stuff for like 20 years. So it took her 3 years to
fix 20+ years of bipolar problems. Kind of logical right?

What wouldn’t be logical is it taking 2 weeks
to fix 20 years of problems, right?

You can short cut things for sure by getting
resources. Learning from others. Getting things
like my courses/systems below:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

I am not giving you a sales pitch but it’s obviously
true and logical. If you get information from someone
who has been there and done that so to speak, you
will short cut your learning curve. It’s just
common sense.

BUT no matter what, even if you get my material
and have a person one on one mentor, it’s going to
take time to turn things around. Will it take 5 to 20
years? If you are a good student, and can follow along,
no.

The bottom line is, don’t have unrealistic expectations.
We are actually heading into weight loss “season” so
to speak and that’s when everyone starts thinking about
diets, losing weight and being thin for the new year.
This why I brought this up.

Anyway, I have to take off. Catch you tomorrow.

Have a great day.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

==>>Help with ALL aspects of bipolar disorder<<==
Check out all my resources, programs and information
for all aspects of bipolar disorder by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

Hi,

How’s it going? It’s really, really,
really cold in New Jersey.

It’s snowing here so I am stuck
inside. We have six inches of snow
already.

Hey before I get started. Did
you get this new guide I am giving
away?

“The 10 Deadly Mistakes People Make Helping and
Supporting Someone With Bipolar Disorder.”

You can get your copy right away by visiting:

http://www.bipolarcentral.com/freereportletter/

It’s really good if I do say so myself.
I worked really hard on it. It even has a cool
cover on it. Take a look at soon as you can.

Okay let’s get moving.

I actually had something really
important that I wanted to warn
bipolar supporters about.

It all started when I was speaking
with a coaching client.

They were telling me that they
were “really annoyed” that their
loved one messed up their treatment
plan.

This person had been on my list for
a long time. They had used my systems
to turn things around with bipolar
disorder.

Things were going great. The person
I was speaking with said he was
“excited about a great thanksgiving,
Christmas and New Year.”

Then his wife went into a mini
episode and then kind of a bigger
bipolar episode.

The person I was coaching said
he was super mad. He said basically
he took my bipolar stability concept
and figured out what his wife did wrong.

I was actually happy that he used
my concept and figured it out and
didn’t feel that stability was like
a lottery (how my dad still kind
of thinks).

Anyway basically his wife missed a few
therapy sessions, a doctor’s visit, a
couple of dosages of medications. She
just got off track.

Now she is doing everything right.
BUT, there some damage that was done. She
said some stuff she didn’t mean to say
and spent like a $150 she shouldn’t
of.

They actually had a my financial protection
system that I speak about in my courses/systems
below:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

So that the financial damage was limited.

This person was super mad however. Actually
beyond mad. Just plain angry.

In my head, I was like “what’s the big
deal?” The coaching client went on to say
that he was “sick and tired” of “bipolar
episodes” and that his wife “better not
do this again.”

I sat back and listened. Then I spoke
up and said, “there are going to be
ups and there are going to be downs. She
learned a great lesson. Don’t condemn her
because she made a mistake. Look on the
bright side. She is doing everything right
again, there was not that much damage
and you can get beyond this. It could
have been way worse. Like 1000 times
worse.”

I then said to him, “You have to be tolerant
of mistakes. You can’t expect her to be
perfect and another episode to never, ever
occur. That’s not fair.”

He didn’t say anything and then I thought,
“I think he is mad at me.” Then he spoke
up and said that “you’re right, I was
too hard on her. I am going to call her
and say sorry.”

I said that’s a good idea. We then
talked about how to put the systems in
place I talk about in my courses/system
to tighten up to try to prevent this from
happening again. BUT if it does happen,
he promised not to “freak out.”

I wanted to send this message because
I wanted to remind all bipolar supporters
that managing bipolar disorder is not easy
and there are ups and downs. You have
to cut the person with bipolar disorder
a little slack.

Don’t expect no mistakes. Don’t expect
you’ll get my courses/systems, read my
stuff, and put systems in place and
everything will be perfect forever.

That’s not going to happen.

Be realistic.

Make sense? If you ever “freaked out”
on your loved one because they made a mistake,
say sorry to them today. Okay?

Okay, I have to move to a different subject
before I finish up.

I promised that I would send out what I learned
from my last bipolar support group that
I volunteered at.

I must say that the speaker that spoke had
bipolar disorder. It was hard to follow him.
I was kind of concerned he might be in an episode.

The only thing that I came away with was being
reminded that people with bipolar disorder have
to have insight into the illness and when they
feel something wrong, make sure they contact
the doctor.

It was odd that this speaker said this because
he seemed to not have insight into himself. I don’t
know. I won’t say any more because I don’t know
him. He just seemed off. Who knows?

I did totally disagree with one thing that
he suggested which is you can go a long time
without seeing a doctor if you feel you are doing
okay. He hadn’t seen a doctor in years but
said he was stable.

I just don’t agree. I am NOT a doctor, therapist,
or giving medical advice but I just think
you have to check in with your doctor with regularity.

It’s like the dentist. I HATE going to the dentist.
I HATE it. I hate the stuff they put in your mouth.
I hate those metal tools. I hate sitting in the chair.
I hate how long it takes. I hate them poking my
mouth but I do it 3 times a year.

I have zero cavities. Why? Checkups and cleanings
I think.

I think the doctor is the same. If you don’t
go with regularity, the doctor will forget about
you, things could go wrong, etc. I just think
it’s a bad idea.

Well that’s it. You kind of go two in
one today. Sorry I didn’t send the support
group info out yesterday. I forgot. I was
doing such much stuff.

Okay I have to run. Catch you tomorrow.
Hey if you living on the east coast by Jersey
it might be a snow day. We’ll see.

Catcha later.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

==>>Help with ALL aspects of bipolar disorder<<==
Check out all my resources, programs and information
for all aspects of bipolar disorder by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

Hi,

Hope you’re doing great!

I’ve been thinking about something I want
to talk to you about. Cause you know how
I get so many calls and emails about certain
subjects, right? And a lot of times that’s
where I get my topics for my daily emails.

So that’s where I got the topic for today’s
email.

So many people have talked to me about
messing something up with their treatment
plan. Then they don’t know what to do,
so many of them just keep messing up,
like staying off their medications, which,
I’ll tell you right now is NOT the right
thing to do!

Or they stop seeing their therapist, and
again, that is NOT the right thing to do,
or they start skipping appointments with
their other medical professionals, and
again – NOT the right thing to do.

Hold on time to say…

NOTE-
I am NOT a doctor, therapist, lawyer,
insurance agent, hedge trimmer (someone
asked me this a month ago), or
other kind of professional. I am NOT
offering medical or legal advice.

Okay, we’re back.

There are so many parts that make up a
treatment plan, and I’m not going to go
into ALL the different parts, because I
go into them extensively in my courses
and systems:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

But I do want to talk about what
happens when you do start to mess
up some of the parts of your treatment
plan, and what you should do.

It’s easy, like I just did above, to talk
about what you shouldn’t do! So
that part is easy. And in most cases,
just do the opposite of that.

So for instance, what should you do
If you’ve messed up with your
medication? You need to start taking
it again, but here’s the problem. You
can’t just start where you were, because
depending on how long you were off it,
you may need to build back up to that.
So in that case, you need to go back to
your psychiatrist and have him help
you get back to where you were.

YOU MUST WORK WITH YOUR DOCTOR.

You have to be 100% honest with him/her.

If you’ve messed up with your therapist,
just make a new appointment, and start
going regularly. If he/she accepts you
back as a patient, then all is forgiven.
If he/she rejects you, you will just have
to start over with another therapist.

And that’s ok, you can do that. Don’t
let that get you down. Just start over
with the system I taught you in my
course, how to find a good doctor or
therapist. You can do it – you did it
the first time!

Just don’t let any more time lapse
before finding another therapist,
because you really do need to be in
therapy.

But now let’s say you’ve begun
isolating again. Here’s where it
gets tricky. People with bipolar
disorder are very good at isolating.
It’s one of the top indicators for
having bipolar disorder and one of
the top triggers for a bipolar episode.

Supporters who have loved ones with
Bipolar disorder watch for this trigger
in their loved one. But if the person
with bipolar disorder has let this slip,
has started isolating again, then they
are in a dangerous place – they have
obviously let part of their treatment
plan get out of control.

Now they have two choices when
confronted with this by their supporter:
they can close down, shut out the world,
get all depressed, climb into bed, pull
the covers over their head, feel sorry
for themselves, cry, and go into a
depressive episode…

OR…they can accept that even tho
they let a PART of their treatment
plan get out of control, that the
WHOLE treatment plan is still
working, and they can still fix it!

If they are lucky enough to have a
Supporter who is still sticking by
them thru this, then they can both
work on the problem together.

First you identify what went wrong.
Then you can fix it. It doesn’t have
to be something all dramatic and
such. It can be something as small
as just not sleeping right.

But once it’s identified, you can
work on it. And it doesn’t have to
be so overwhelming that it drives
your loved one to their bed – it only
has to be faced One Day at a Time.

Just today. Only today. Work on
your treatment plan the best that you
can only one day at a time. Just do the
best that you can. That’s all anybody
is expecting you to do. Nobody is
expecting you to be perfect. And they
are certainly not expecting you to be
perfect overnight!

Hey I have to go. Catch you later.

Your friend,

Dave
–
P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

PLEASE TELL YOUR FRIENDS

Hi,

Here is the current Bipolar Disorder news.

Also, don’t forget about the 7 secrets
of living with bipolar disorder sale.
Take a look at that here:
http://www.survivebipolar.net/bipolarsecretssale/

Okay on to the news.

Make sure you take a look at the news. I really work
hard to put it together for you :).

To see the news visit:

http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarnews354

There’s some really interesting news stories this week.
Take a look at them. Also, write me some feedback by visiting my
blog below.

Here are some of the headlines:

Kids With Bipolar Disorder More Aware Of Facial Expressions
DO> Very interesting article.

Hear stories of success over depression
DO> This is great. I love success stories. Finally some
good news 🙂

Bipolar Disorder: Some bipolar patients have higher suicide risk
DO> So true. Make sure you read this IMMEDIATELY.

For these stories and more, please visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarnews354

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Your Friend,

Dave

Hi,

A few people know that I have a new guide
out that reveals The 7 Secrets To Living
With Bipolar Disorder for 2008.

I have a special sale for you if you haven’t
gotten it yet. But I am only going to have
this going until Friday night (November 30,
2007)

If you are remotely interested, please take
a look at this page that describes everything.

http://www.survivebipolar.net/bipolarsecretssale/

If you have bipolar disorder and aren’t where
you want to be in your life, take a look
at this material. I think you’ll love it.
I’ve showed it to many people and they
really liked it a lot. Take a look here:

http://www.survivebipolar.net/bipolarsecretssale/

Have a great day!

Dave

==>>Help with ALL aspects of bipolar disorder<<==
Check out all my resources, programs and information
for all aspects of bipolar disorder by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

Hi,

How’s it going?

Yesterday I asked everyone what leads to stability
with bipolar disorder. People had some great
answers.

I must say that I have thought long AND hard
about this for probably 1000 hours.

I do a ton of cardio sometimes 6 days a week
so I have a whole lot of time to think about
stuff like this.

I am going to tell you what I think the answer
is and it’s different from what most people
think.

BUT before I do, I want to tell you about my
meetings and conference yesterday. I am
super excited about everything.

I must say, like normal going to New York
was a nightmare. I left late. Can never
figure out the trains. Get lost. Get confused.
People cut me off when I am driving. I am
NOT a city person. I live in the “boonies”
or the woods. I am going to post some
pictures soon.

My friends say that where I live is totally
confusing because there are no maps
but I love it. I am not a traffic, tons of people
city type of person. Many of my friends
are.

Anyway, I have so much good news. Yesterday
was a GREAT day. I have
so many new ideas to take this to the next level.

Like I said, I had several meeting with people who are going to
be very helpful to me.

Here are some of my plans:

-Translating some of my material into Spanish.
I have had probably a 1000 people ask and I said
NO. Why? I was worried that I couldn’t handle it.
I found someone who can. And he gave me a complete
plan on how to do it.

-Releasing 3 new totally FREE books on
bipolar disorder. I am actually
going to setup a new website call
www.bipolarcentral.com/freestuff
(note this is not up yet)

-I am going to be giving away more stuff. I want
to setup one place that you can always check
to see what I am giving away instead of you
having to check a whole bunch of stuff.

NOTE-Don’t think this is going to be junk.
These things are going to be for sale BUT if
you are on my online mailing list, you can get them
totally free…I promise. No strings attached.

This is coming out in January. I really would like to
rush to get it before Christmas because I would
like to do something nice for everyone for Christmas.
I am going to try really hard but I see it being
January. I’ll do my best.

-I have this new idea. It’s a great idea that someone
with bipolar disorder gave me. She is a very successful
person that has to keep her bipolar a secret. I respect
that. Unfortunately the world we live in is not accepting
sometimes. Anyway, her idea is GREAT. It’s going
to involve me hiring 1 person with bipolar disorder,
1 person with schizophrenia and 1 person with
paranoid personality disorder. These people should
obviously be in treatment, stable AND very creative.

I will be sending more details in January.

-We will be releasing a new program called
How to get Free and low cost medication AND
treatment for bipolar disorder.

This will be totally 100% free. This is an
incredible idea. BUT to make this work, I am
going to need about 12 to 15 volunteers to
go through the program. The people will have to be
spread out in the USA. So a few from the north
east, a few from the south, a few from the west,
etc.

After we get it down in the USA, we will roll out
to the entire rest of the world. After we roll out to the
rest of the world, we are going to translate it into
Spanish as well.

This program will be launching around in February.
I am REALLY going to need help by having people
agree to be part of the “test program.” If you see an
email looking for people to participate, if you can,
please fill out the application or forward to people
you know. I MUST have test people before I can
totally roll it out.

Remember this program is going to be TOTALLY
Free no cost. It’s going to be truly incredible. It’s
going to cost me a ton to setup but I don’t care. Why?
Well it’s going to help thousands of people all over
the world.

Okay that’s it.

Hey one more thing. Last night I had to volunteer
at a bipolar disorder support group. I am going
to give you a recap of what I learned on Saturday.
Tomorrow is the bipolar news so I can’t do it
then.

Okay, let’s talk about what I wrote yesterday
which was, “What makes someone stable
with bipolar disorder?”

Here’s the deal. People said bipolar medications.
People said routine. People said several things.
They were GREAT answers.

I just take it a little deeper. What do I mean? I feel
that the answers given are after one key thing
happening.

Right now, I want you to take your best guess?
What causes a person to be stable and not
look like they have bipolar disorder?

Guess then scroll down.

NO Cheating. Guess first, then scroll….

Okay, here is what I think. A burring desire to be
stable and belief that stability is possible.

I have thought long and hard about this. Success
with bipolar disorder starts with the person determined
to be stable and successful and having a burning
desire to make this happen.

When I look at ALL the success stories, and all
the people with bipolar disorder that work for me
and my mom, I see this:

Each person had a burning determination to be
stable and successful. From this determination,
the person did what it took to be stable and
successful.

I have seen the best doctors, the best therapists,
the best bipolar medications fail with certain people.
At first when I looked into this. Doctors called these
people “treatment resistant.”

When I delved deeper, I found these people
lacked the burning desire to be stable and successful
and the lacked the belief it was possible.

I have been doing this for several years.
I have over 160,000 sign ups to my newsletter,
have over 5000 testimonials submitted,
#1 site in the world for bipolar disorder,
I have been volunteering for 3 years now,
I have many people who are friends and work
for me with bipolar disorder. With that said,
talk to a lot of people with bipolar disorder.

I have seen people over the last three years
that were deemed unable to be helped and
now are a major success. They are totally
stable. Doing well when before their live
was a nightmare. Why?

They changed their mindset like I talked about
above.

NOW you might be thinking, “Dave that sounds
great but bipolar disorder is a mood disorder,
if a person is not in his/her mind, how can
he/she think like you say?” Good question.

Here’s the deal. I know that when a person
is in an episode he/she has trouble thinking
correctly. I am talking about after a person is
on some kind of medication when they
are at least somewhat stable. I am not
referring to people who are not stable.

In my courses/systems below:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

100% of the success stories with bipolar disorder
all made a decision to be stable and successful
and that was the turning point in their lives.
They had a burning desire to be stable and
were committed and believed.

Instability actually starts when a person
is stable. That might sound crazy but think
about it. Generally when a person goes
unstable it’s decisions made when they are
stable. Think long and hard about that one.

I have often said, “the greatest medication
in the world can NOT help someone who
is determined to be unstable and unsuccessful
with bipolar disorder.”

I know it’s a little confusing. It’s kind of
hard for me to explain here.

I actually have to take off now. Read what
I wrote a couple of times. Think about it.

Write me on my blog if you agree or disagree.
If you have bipolar disorder, post some comments
on what I am saying.

I have to take off. Tomorrow I am sending out
the bipolar news.

Catch you later. Have a great day!

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.S. Check out my Free blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.S Check out my Free podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

==>>Help with ALL aspects of bipolar disorder<<==
Check out all my resources, programs and information
for all aspects of bipolar disorder by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

Hi,

How’s it going?

Hey I have to leave super early in the morning so
I had to send this tonight for tomorrow morning.

I was thinking about something today related
to bipolar disorder.

Oh before I tell you that, I have something
funny. If you read my blog, there is a person
that wrote she basically was “appalled
at me.” because of a daily email I wrote
about a lady Carol who wrote me a comment.

If you missed this email, check my blog below
to read it.

If you saw that, what the person who wrote doesn’t
understand is Carol and I have had a whole lot
of email conversations and she admitted to me
that she is not creating a bipolar friendly
environment for her loved one.

Anyway, everyone who has bipolar disorder
who works for me read this woman’s comments.
Even one of my programmers who is from Russia.

He wrote something funny. He said, “David, why
you let someone write bad things about you
on your own site. In my country you can’t write
bad things about someone on his property?”

I don’t know why but that was so funny. I guess
it’s called Freedom of speech. I was kind of
shocked the person was all mad at me. No one else
was and I didn’t get any hate mail or death
threats like I do sometimes. Strange.

Okay on today’s topic which I have
talked about before.

I have several people who work for me who have
bipolar disorder, and I always brag about them,
about how you would never know that they
have the disorder, unless they told you.

Of course, I live in New Jersey, and they
live in other places, all over the map. But I
was wondering about what they look like in
person. I mean, not their looks, but whether
in person, that you can or can’t tell that they
have bipolar disorder.

So that made me think about you and your
loved ones. If there’s almost 11 million people
with bipolar disorder, chances are you know
more than just your loved one with the
disorder. Can you tell or can you NOT tell
just by looking, if someone has bipolar disorder
or not?

Interesting question, don’t you think?

See, what made me think about it, too, was
the many emails I’ve gotten from people like
you, asking me about whether “it” is the
bipolar or the loved one, and about whether
they are “faking” it or not. That’s been a real
big issue, according to the emails and calls
I’ve gotten.

So I give it to you. What do you think?
What has been your experience? Can you
tell just by looking, if your loved one
has bipolar disorder or not? If so, what
is it about their behavior that gives them
away?

For those of you who can’t tell, what is
it about your loved one’s behavior
that is different, that doesn’t give them
away?

In my courses and systems,

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

I talk about what makes a person stable versus
unstable. Stable people do NOT look like
they have bipolar disorder.

It’s really strange but so many people
write me and say they just want to be
stable but they never do half the things
that lead to stability.

Even bipolar supporters don’t even promote
things that lead to stability.

It confuses me.

I want to know what you think. What do
you think creates stability and a situation
where people can NOT tell someone has
bipolar disorder?

Well, I have to go to bed, but I’m looking forward
to hearing from you!

Your friend,

Dave
–
P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

==>>Help with ALL aspects of bipolar disorder<<==
Check out all my resources, programs and information
for all aspects of bipolar disorder by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

Hi,

How’s it going?

I am actually running really late today.

I had to do Tuesday and Wednesday’s
workout this morning because I am
going to a meeting tomorrow in NYC–
it’s all day.

I have to make this quick, but
I wanted to tell you something really
important today related to bipolar
disorder.

I was coaching someone yesterday on
situations with bipolar disorder and
it was going well. We came up with
strategies for all kinds of things,
managing money, finding a good doctor
and therapist, etc. The person wanted
to talk about one pressing problem
he was having.

He just couldn’t understand why in the
world his loved one with bipolar
disorder was denying she had
it.

He said, “if she would just except it,
we could get this thing under control.”

Let me give you a little background.
This person’s wife was only diagnosed
about 6 months ago so she is still
“newly diagnosed.”

There is a super important lesson
for bipolar supporters that I am
going to tell you.

Before I tell you, I want you to look
at this too.

I got an email from someone that said:

“My boyfriend is driving me crazy. I have
been with him 3 years. For two years he
was okay and then he got sick or went
into one of those episodes you talk about.
We found out he has bipolar disorder and
he doesn’t believe it. He wants to go
to other doctors. I tell him he acts
crazy and he should accept it. What can
I do, Dave?”
-Carol

The first thing I want you to do
is this.

Come up with your top 2 reasons
why you think someone with bipolar
disorder would deny it.

Please take a few minutes to really
think. Then scroll down.

SCROLL NO cheating. Think first 🙂

SCROLL

Okay we’re back.

Do you have your top 2 reasons?

Okay great.

Well I want every supporter to do
something.

Imagine for a second that YOU the
bipolar supporter were said to have
bipolar disorder. Close your eyes
for a second and imagine this. What
would you do?

Think long and hard.

Take a few seconds and then scroll down.

So how would you feel?

I have to be totally honest with
you. I have sincere compassion for those
that have bipolar disorder that don’t
accept their illness at first?

Why? Am I out of my mind? Well it’s
because I look at it through their
eyes.

I have thought to myself, if I was
said to have a “mental illness” called
“bipolar disorder” and I was different
from everyone else and people would think
of my differently would I be super
excited to accept it or would I hope
and pray it wasn’t true?

Would I fight the diagnosis? Would
I be hoping and praying it wasn’t true?

Just like when something bad is about to
happen, you hope and pray that it doesn’t

I think that many bipolar supporters have
to cut people with bipolar disorder a little
slack and understand why there is some denial
of the disorder.

We aren’t in a society where people with
bipolar disorder are praised, honored,
talked positively about, etc (except in
my company where I actively go out and
hire people with bipolar disorder and
other mental illnesses because I believe
people like this are smarter, more creative
and a tremendous asset to a business).

Look at Carol above and how she kind
of talked about her loved one. “He
acts crazy and should accept it.”
That’s negative don’t you think? Would
you want to accept bipolar around Carol?
No offense Carol but it seems you are
being really harsh and maybe that’s why
he is not so accepting.

So I do understand why someone would be in
denial. NOW, I am not saying
that it’s good not to accept that you have
bipolar disorder, rather I am saying
I understand why some are in denial.

In my courses/systems below:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

virtually all the people who were successful
with bipolar disorder at first denied they
had it.

Why? Well for all the reasons I talked about.

However, it wasn’t until they actually accepted
their illness did they become successful and
able to manage the disorder.

If you are a bipolar supporter there’s a ton
of things you can do to help your loved one
accept the diagnosis. Too many to list here
but I will list some.

-Talk positively about bipolar disorder

-Share success stories with your loved one

-Watch your negative self talk about bipolar
disorder

-Believe in your loved one

-Stop being uncomfortable with your loved one’s
bipolar disorder

-Learn all you can about the disorder

-Believe in your soul that your loved one can be
super successful and control it

-Believe that you can beat the disorder instead of
it beating you.

If you read this email, I hope you can understand
why someone would be in bipolar denial. When
I am working with people that have this situation
I almost always find that the person with the disorder
is either newly diagnosed OR their environment is not
“bipolar friendly” so as a result the person goes
into denial mode.

Does this make sense? It should. If you ask anyone
with bipolar disorder, I am sure 100% would agree
with what I said about denial.

If you ask a loved one who is stable and doing okay
about what I just wrote you, I am sure they will
agree.

Try it. Say to your loved one, “Hi, I was reading
this crazy guy David Oliver’s blog and his mother
has bipolar disorder. Anyway, he said that the
reason why many people deny the disorder is
because society is hard on people with bipolar
disorder and not accepting. Do you think he is
right?”

This is a good way to get the conversation going.

I included this conversation starter because
of this situation in the gym. This is kind of funny.
This kid never can go out on a date. This other
older kid said, “go out and ask someone out.”

He wanted a “conversation starter.” The other kid
gave him two and guess what? It worked.

Kind of funny. Anyway, I have to run. Read what
I said and think about it.

Tomorrow I am going to be sending the daily email
much earlier because I have to take off and
go to New York City super early.

Oh and by the way, if you want more information
on my coaching program visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarcoaching/unlimited.asp

Also, people have been emailing me if they can have
coaching on starting a business in this bipolar
coaching and the answer is yes. I actually really
like this kind of coaching.

The only thing that I do not coach on is medical
or legal questions. Remember, and I know people say
I always say this, I am NOT a doctor, therapist,
lawyer or other kind of professional. I do NOT offer
medical or legal advice.

Hey I have to run. Catch you early tomorrow morning.
Have a great day.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

Hi,

If you would like personal and one on one coaching and help
with bipolar disorder, I’ve got some great news.

I have a new program that I am just starting.

If you are interested and want more information, please visit
the following website:

http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarcoaching/unlimited.asp

Dave