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How’s it going?
I am actually running really late today.
I had to do Tuesday and Wednesday’s
workout this morning because I am
going to a meeting tomorrow in NYC–
it’s all day.
I have to make this quick, but
I wanted to tell you something really
important today related to bipolar
I was coaching someone yesterday on
situations with bipolar disorder and
it was going well. We came up with
strategies for all kinds of things,
managing money, finding a good doctor
and therapist, etc. The person wanted
to talk about one pressing problem
he was having.
He just couldn’t understand why in the
world his loved one with bipolar
disorder was denying she had
He said, “if she would just except it,
we could get this thing under control.”
Let me give you a little background.
This person’s wife was only diagnosed
about 6 months ago so she is still
There is a super important lesson
for bipolar supporters that I am
going to tell you.
Before I tell you, I want you to look
at this too.
I got an email from someone that said:
“My boyfriend is driving me crazy. I have
been with him 3 years. For two years he
was okay and then he got sick or went
into one of those episodes you talk about.
We found out he has bipolar disorder and
he doesn’t believe it. He wants to go
to other doctors. I tell him he acts
crazy and he should accept it. What can
I do, Dave?”
The first thing I want you to do
Come up with your top 2 reasons
why you think someone with bipolar
disorder would deny it.
Please take a few minutes to really
think. Then scroll down.
SCROLL NO cheating. Think first 🙂
Okay we’re back.
Do you have your top 2 reasons?
Well I want every supporter to do
Imagine for a second that YOU the
bipolar supporter were said to have
bipolar disorder. Close your eyes
for a second and imagine this. What
would you do?
Think long and hard.
Take a few seconds and then scroll down.
So how would you feel?
I have to be totally honest with
you. I have sincere compassion for those
that have bipolar disorder that don’t
accept their illness at first?
Why? Am I out of my mind? Well it’s
because I look at it through their
I have thought to myself, if I was
said to have a “mental illness” called
“bipolar disorder” and I was different
from everyone else and people would think
of my differently would I be super
excited to accept it or would I hope
and pray it wasn’t true?
Would I fight the diagnosis? Would
I be hoping and praying it wasn’t true?
Just like when something bad is about to
happen, you hope and pray that it doesn’t
I think that many bipolar supporters have
to cut people with bipolar disorder a little
slack and understand why there is some denial
of the disorder.
We aren’t in a society where people with
bipolar disorder are praised, honored,
talked positively about, etc (except in
my company where I actively go out and
hire people with bipolar disorder and
other mental illnesses because I believe
people like this are smarter, more creative
and a tremendous asset to a business).
Look at Carol above and how she kind
of talked about her loved one. “He
acts crazy and should accept it.”
That’s negative don’t you think? Would
you want to accept bipolar around Carol?
No offense Carol but it seems you are
being really harsh and maybe that’s why
he is not so accepting.
So I do understand why someone would be in
denial. NOW, I am not saying
that it’s good not to accept that you have
bipolar disorder, rather I am saying
I understand why some are in denial.
In my courses/systems below:
SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
virtually all the people who were successful
with bipolar disorder at first denied they
Why? Well for all the reasons I talked about.
However, it wasn’t until they actually accepted
their illness did they become successful and
able to manage the disorder.
If you are a bipolar supporter there’s a ton
of things you can do to help your loved one
accept the diagnosis. Too many to list here
but I will list some.
-Talk positively about bipolar disorder
-Share success stories with your loved one
-Watch your negative self talk about bipolar
-Believe in your loved one
-Stop being uncomfortable with your loved one’s
-Learn all you can about the disorder
-Believe in your soul that your loved one can be
super successful and control it
-Believe that you can beat the disorder instead of
it beating you.
If you read this email, I hope you can understand
why someone would be in bipolar denial. When
I am working with people that have this situation
I almost always find that the person with the disorder
is either newly diagnosed OR their environment is not
“bipolar friendly” so as a result the person goes
into denial mode.
Does this make sense? It should. If you ask anyone
with bipolar disorder, I am sure 100% would agree
with what I said about denial.
If you ask a loved one who is stable and doing okay
about what I just wrote you, I am sure they will
Try it. Say to your loved one, “Hi, I was reading
this crazy guy David Oliver’s blog and his mother
has bipolar disorder. Anyway, he said that the
reason why many people deny the disorder is
because society is hard on people with bipolar
disorder and not accepting. Do you think he is
This is a good way to get the conversation going.
I included this conversation starter because
of this situation in the gym. This is kind of funny.
This kid never can go out on a date. This other
older kid said, “go out and ask someone out.”
He wanted a “conversation starter.” The other kid
gave him two and guess what? It worked.
Kind of funny. Anyway, I have to run. Read what
I said and think about it.
Tomorrow I am going to be sending the daily email
much earlier because I have to take off and
go to New York City super early.
Oh and by the way, if you want more information
on my coaching program visit:
Also, people have been emailing me if they can have
coaching on starting a business in this bipolar
coaching and the answer is yes. I actually really
like this kind of coaching.
The only thing that I do not coach on is medical
or legal questions. Remember, and I know people say
I always say this, I am NOT a doctor, therapist,
lawyer or other kind of professional. I do NOT offer
medical or legal advice.
Hey I have to run. Catch you early tomorrow morning.
Have a great day.
P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.