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Here’s another case to illustrate what I’m talking about:

You know Michele who works for me. She doesn’t just have bipolar disorder. What she says is “If the diagnosis has letters in it, I have it!”

She says that in a humorous way, but besides having bipolar disorder, she has schizophrenia, ADHD, BPD, OCPD, PTSD, and anxiety/panic disorder. Not only has she risen above all these disorders, but she is one of my best employees! She has not let her disorders limit her.

Now compare Michele to someone who, say, just has bipolar disorder. And I put the emphasis on “just.” Because despite all the things you complain about with you or your loved one’s bipolar disorder, don’t they seem small in comparison to a Michele or a Paula, who have not let their limitations limit them?

So instead of complaining about the bipolar disorder and all your problems, think about this – you should be grateful that all you’re dealing with is bipolar disorder.

Because instead you could be dealing with something worse, like Paula and her fibromyalgia (but who doesn’t complain) or Michele with all her disorders besides bipolar disorder (but who doesn’t complain either).

It’s your choice – you can complain (which gets you nowhere anyway) and let your limitations limit you, or you can stop complaining and rise above your limitations.

Remember – you’re only as limited as you think you are!

David Oliver is the author of the shocking guide “Bipolar Disorder—The REAL Silent Killer.” Click Here to get FREE Information sent via email on how and why bipolar disorder kills.

Bipolar Disorder? Are you taking this road?

David Oliver July 1, 2008 | March 19, 2009 Daily Bipolar Disorder Message 19 Comments

Hi,

OK, here’s today’s lesson in logic:

A + B = C

You probably think I’m crazy, right? Yeah, well, a lot of people do, so I’m used to that.

But by the time you’re done with this email you’ll understand.

See, there’s a certain logic to life. Just like there’s a certain logic to the formula above (A + B = C).

In other words, you can’t get from A to C without going through B. And that’s a very important concept. Not just in logic, or in math, but in life. And in bipolar disorder.

I’ll tell you why.

Too many people think that if they just leave it alone, the bipolar disorder will go away all by itself. Wrong! (You can’t get to C without going through B) Too many people with bipolar disorder think that if they try to do it without a supporter that they’ll be able to manage it all by them- selves. Wrong! (You can’t get to C without going through B)

You can’t expect the bipolar disorder to go away on its own any more than you can expect a bacterial infection to go away on its own without antibiotics (and especially that you have to take the WHOLE bottle even after you start feeling better). (You can’t get to C without going through B)

In my courses/systems, I talk about the fact that you are not alone, but I also talk about how you can’t do it alone – that one of the first things you do is develop a support system, because you need help if you’re going to manage your bipolar disorder:

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The fact is (again), that you just can’t get from A to C without going through B. That’s just plain logic.

With bipolar disorder, there are certain things you have to do to manage the disorder (the B of the equation). If you do these things, you can manage the disorder. If you skip these things, (getting to C without going through B first), you will NOT be able to manage the disorder.

What are these things (the B’s)?

1. Medication Medication is absolutely critical to managing bipolar disorder. You need to have the right medication in the night dosage.

2. Therapy You need to see a therapist to help you work out the issues that having bipolar disorder or being a supporter to a loved one with the disorder bring up.

3. Psychiatrist A psychiatrist is the one who prescribes the medication for bipolar disorder. If you are a supporter, your role here is to make sure your loved one takes their medication, and when they’re supposed to.

These are just some of the “B’s” of managing bipolar disorder. The main ones.

Do you understand now how the formula A + B = C makes sense as it relates to bipolar disorder?

You just can’t get from A to C without going through B. You just can’t expect the bipolar disorder to manage itself. You have to do the work necessary to help manage it.

David Oliver is the author of the shocking guide “Bipolar Disorder—The REAL Silent Killer.” Click Here to get FREE Information sent via email on how and why bipolar disorder kills.

Surprising bipolar lesson from “Are you organized?” question

David Oliver June 30, 2008 | March 19, 2009 Daily Bipolar Disorder Message 22 Comments

Hi,

How’s it going?

Hope you are doing really well and have a great day.

I have a really important lesson that I wanted to teach you today about bipolar disorder.

Let me tell you where it all started. The other day I was talking to someone who is really good at hiring. She actually works at a very big Fortune 500 company and is an executive.

She use to do HR. She found out that I had an organization that helped people cope and deal with bipolar disorder. Whether it was bipolar supporters or bipolar survivors.

Anyway, her sister has bipolar disorder and was, when I first met her, doing terrible. Now she is doing very well because of the system.

Anyway, I was telling her how I had to hire new people for various positions in the organization. I told her how sometimes it’s like a lottery as to if someone would be good or not.

She asked about my hiring process which after 10 minutes she said it was terrible.

Over the last couple of months, she has been helping me fix it. Today I am working with 5 people who work for me now, and this executive woman to make an incredible system.

It’s almost done.

Anyway, I told her how I had a new position that is some customer service, some administrative assisting and some other stuff. It would be like 1/3 this, 1/3 that, and 1/3 this.

I said that one of the key things is the person has to be REALLY organized and really good at organizing things.

There are other things like they have to be accessible most of the time, good at customer service, like talking to people, etc.

I told this woman being organized is critical. She said, how are you going to figure that out.

I said I am going to ask if the potential person to be hired is organized and what he/she has done to show organization.

The woman said that was a terrible idea. She said, “what are you crazy?” What do you think someone will say if you ask, ” are you organized?” I said, “umm, well.” She cut me off and said, “well, umm, they will say yes I am.”

She said, it’s like if someone asks a spouse “did you cheat on me?” She went on to say that “99% of the time

the spouse will say no I did not” when the spouse did.

She said, you have to ask the right questions that get you the real answer.

So she gave me some questions.

They included:

“How do you structure your day?”

“What do you do when you get a new job?”

“If I gave you 6 assignments in one day, what would you do?”

and some other questions.

I said, “wow that’s a great idea. I see where you are going. These questions for a person to think and you can determine if they are organized from the answers.”

She said, “no you are getting it.”

I said, “you know what is amazing?” She said “what?” I said, “I teach this very same thing with bipolar disorder for doctors.”

She was really interested since her sister had it. I said, “I teach the follow, don’t ask someone if they are a good doctor, know bipolar disorder, like family involvement, ask better questions.”

She said, “like what?” I said, “like these questions”:

“What kind of serious psychological disorders do you specialize in?”

Which disorders are you weak in or prefer not to work with?

When you get a person started, what is your system?

How do you make a diagnosis?

What’s your system to get all the information from the patient so you can make a correct diagnosis and setup the treatment plan? What happens when you are on vacation?

What do you tell someone with bipolar disorder about side effects?

Questions like these. These questions would yield a ton. The executive woman was really happy and impressed if I

do say so myself.

Questions like this are critical.

In my courses/systems below:

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I go through more questions to ask and the answers you need to hear. I also go through at length what kind of answers you need to hear.

Can you see how you can really “fake” answering these questions?

Also, when you ask good, smart and intelligent questions, you send a message to the doctor that you are no dummy and have a clue. You or your loved one are much more likely to get right well.

This is so very important.

It’s almost life or death. If you read some of my old blogs about how bad doctors can be, you MUST ask the right questions, to get the right answers to know which doctor to work with.

It was interesting to speak with this woman. Both of us were experts but at different things. She said she had no idea of the questions to ask her sister’s doctor and I said didn’t know the right questions to ask a new person to be hired. But you can see how asking the right questions is critical.

You can’t ask questions that people can answer yes or no to. You can’t ask questions that people will just answer how they think you want them to. You can’t do that withmy questions.

Know what I mean?

What do you think?

David Oliver is the author of the shocking guide “Bipolar Disorder—The REAL Silent Killer.” Click Here to get FREE Information sent via email on how and why bipolar disorder kills.

Bipolar Disorder Lesson From No Complaints Bracelet

David Oliver June 29, 2008 | March 19, 2009 Daily Bipolar Disorder Message 25 Comments

Hi,

How’s it going?

Well I have to drive back from Connecticut today.

Before I take off, I wanted to talk about something.

Do you complain a lot? Has anyone ever accused you of being a complainer?

Well, I heard about this pastor in a church in Missouri who got tired of his parishioners complaining all the time, usually about trivial things.

So he got this idea of handing out purple rubber bracelets with the words “No Complaints” on them.

The pledge was: to swear off complaining, criticizing, gossiping, or using sarcasm for 21 days. If you could do this, you would get a special certificate.

BUT… if you found yourself complaining, etc., you had to take the bracelet, put it on your other wrist, and start counting all over again!

This began in the summer of 2006, with the pastor’s home church, but by 2007, the idea had grown globally, and they were averaging requests for 7,000 complaint-free purple bracelets a week, to nine countries around the world!

So how does this relate to bipolar disorder?

First of all, because in my courses I talk about having a positive attitude and about positive thinking, affirmations, etc. And being a complainer absolutely does NOT fit into this:

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But anyway, I was thinking about these “complaint-free” bracelets, and I talked to a friend of mine about it. You know, just saying how cool that would be, and wondering out loud if he could do that. He said, “There’s no way I could not complain for 21 days in a row – I’ve got an 18-year-old who still lives at home!”

And I thought, I wonder if I were to ask supporters of loved ones with bipolar disorder…what would they say?

Would you react like my friend with the 18-year-old?

I know that being a supporter of a loved one with bipolar disorder is basically a thankless job, because I am a supporter to my mom who has it.

But if you were asked to take on this challenge, would your first reaction be, “No way! I couldn’t go 21 days without complaining – I live with someone who has bipolar disorder!”

Or would you rise up to the challenge and “wear the purple bracelet” and not complain, etc., for 21 days?

bipolar disorder? Could you really go 21 days without complaining, criticizing, or using sarcasm about your loved one withIf so, take a thick rubber band that fits not-too-tight around your wrist and write with marker the words “NO COMPLAINTS” on it.

Are you up to the challenge?

Hey I have to get ready for a long drive. Talk to you to tomorrow.

David Oliver is the author of the shocking guide “Bipolar Disorder—The REAL Silent Killer.” Click Here to get FREE Information sent via email on how and why bipolar disorder kills.

Bipolar Disorder and Unkeepable Promises

David Oliver June 28, 2008 | March 19, 2009 Daily Bipolar Disorder Message 25 Comments

Hi,

Today I want to talk to you about

UNKEEPABLE PROMISES

This is a serious subject, and I’m sure many of you have come up against this.

This is more than just promising your child something for Christmas and then not being able to get it for them.

Hear me out –

This is like an alcoholic or addict promising never to do it again (just to get their parents, spouse, family, or the court system off their back), but then doing it again anyway, because they’re in full blown addiction. They made an unkeepable promise.

This is like a company that promises no lay-offs, but then goes into a down period and has to lay off some of their employees anyway. They shouldn’t have made the promise in the first place, because business is unpredictable. They made an unkeepable promise.

This is like the government promising no new taxes or promising to cut old taxes and then doing it anyway. Or promising us there won’t be a recession and then there is. They never should have made these promises to begin with. Our government is notorious for making unkeepable promises.

Now here’s the point:

TRUE STORY:

Bill promised Michele he would never put her in the hospital again during a bipolar episode.

One day, when Michele was in a bad manic episode, Bill came home to find Michele had scratched up her arms (using her fingernails) until they were so deep and long that they were bleeding.

Michele was completely unaware that she had done/was doing this. She felt no pain. She was doing this subconsciously.

NOTE: This is called self- mutilization, and is one of the signs/symptoms of a type of bipolar disorder that I go over in my courses:

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Bill tried to stop Michele, but he couldn’t. He tried to reason with her, but he couldn’t. He tried to get Michele to go to the hospital, but he couldn’t.

All Michele kept saying was, “You promised you would never put me in the hospital again!” Over and over again.

Bill didn’t know what to do. He knew he had made that promise and, not being a man who breaks his promises, he just didn’t know what to do.

But he also knew he couldn’t just sit there and watch his wife suffer. Maybe she didn’t feel the pain from scratching her arms until they bled, but it was painful for him to watch and do nothing.

He realized he had made an unkeepable promise, and he took her to the hospital anyway. It was for her own good, even though she couldn’t know it at the time. But she had become a danger to herself.
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The point of that story is that, as a supporter of a loved one with bipolar disorder, you may find yourself having to break a promise to your loved one as well.

I know of another case where this happened between a supporter and his wife, where he promised his wife that he wouldn’t ever take her to the hospital again, and because he didn’t, what should have been just maybe a month-long episode turned into a six-month episode.

Now, you don’t want that to happen to you. So the first thing is, don’t ever promise your loved one that you will never take them to the hospital. But the second thing is, if you have done that, understand that it may be
an unkeepable promise. Hopefully, if you do find yourself in this situation, your loved one will go into the hospital on a voluntary basis. But if not, you may have to face involuntary hospitalization.

The important thing is that with bipolar disorder, you have to be really careful and watch for these signs/symptoms of self-harm, etc. to make sure your loved one is not a harm to themselves or others, because that’s when hospitalization is necessary.

David Oliver is the author of the shocking guide “Bipolar Disorder—The REAL Silent Killer.” Click Here to get FREE Information sent via email on how and why bipolar disorder kills.

Current Bipolar News

David Oliver June 27, 2008 | March 19, 2009 Daily Bipolar Disorder Message 5 Comments

Hi,

I just got back from the gym.

Sorry for the delay in sending this out.

Here’s the current bipolar news.

To read this week’s news visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarnews384

Life on a bipolar roller-coaster
DO> Very good article.

A walk at night shines a light on suicide
DO> Very sad article, what do you think?

Educating Society About Depression and Mental Illness – Must Know …
DO> This is so true, you think?

Until the stigma is no more
DO> Hmm. What do you think of this?

For these stories and more, please visit:
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Bipolar Strategy: Lighten Up – Don’t Be So Serious

David Oliver June 26, 2008 | March 19, 2009 Daily Bipolar Disorder Message 39 Comments

Hi,

These days, it seems that almost all of us are too serious. I heard recently that there really is a statistic out there that says that people who laugh longer, live longer.

I wish more people knew about this statistic, because in general, people are frustrated and angry about virtually everything these days – being five minutes late, having someone else show up five minutes late, being stuck in traffic, someone looking at them the wrong way or saying the wrong thing, paying bills, waiting in line, their meal being overcooked in a restaurant, someone making an honest mistake – you name it, and people these days lose perspective over it.

The root of all of us being so frustrated and angry is our unwillingness to accept life as being different, in any way, from our expectations. Simply put, we want things to be a certain way, but they’re not a certain way. Life is simply just “as it is.” I think Benjamin Franklin said it best: “Our limited perspective, our hopes and fears become our measure of life, and when circumstances don’t fit our ideas, they become our difficulties.” In other words, we spend our lives wanting people, things, and circumstances to be just as we want them to be – and when they’re not, we fight and we suffer.

The first step in recovering from being too serious is to admit that you have a problem. You have to want to change, to become more easygoing. You have to see that your own frustration and anger is largely of your own making – it’s composed of the way you’ve set up your life and the way you react to it.

The next step is to understand the link between your expectations and your frustration level. Whenever you expect something to be a certain way and it isn’t, you get upset and you suffer. On the other hand, when you let go of your expectations, and when you accept life just as it is (instead of how you want it to be), you’re free! Of course, being able to do this is no easy task (I never

said it would be easy). To hold on is to be frustrated and angry, to let go is to lighten up.

I know a lot of you are thinking, “Boy, that’s easy for him to say, he doesn’t have to deal with bipolar disorder all the time like I do.” Don’t forget, I’m also a supporter – remember what started all this for me – having a mom who has bipolar disorder. So when I’m talking to you, I’m just as much talking to myself! I may not know your particular situation, but I do know about being a supporter of a loved one with bipolar disorder.

In my courses/systems, one of the things I teach about is how to have realistic expectations. That’s how you can get over these frustrations and anger about things not going the way you want/expect them to:

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Here’s a good exercise for you:

Try to approach a single day without any expectations at all. Don’t expect people to be friendly. Then when they’re not friendly, you won’t be disappointed. And if they are, you’ll be pleasantly surprised. Don’t expect your day to be problem-free. You still need to be realistic. Instead, as problems come up, say to yourself, “Oh well, another obstacle to overcome.” As you approach your day in this manner, you’ll notice how different your attitude toward your day can be. Rather than fighting against life, you’ll be more accepting of it. Pretty soon, with practice, you’ll lighten up your entire life. And when you lighten up, life is a lot more fun!

It’s still your choice, of course. You can continue to be serious. You can continue to have a negative view of life. You have the right – of course you do, because you’re having to deal with bipolar disorder! Everyone should understand that.

But you also have the choice to take the seriousness out of it. Oh, I’m not saying that bipolar disorder is not serious disorder, so don’t get me wrong. Remember, I deal with it, too, so I know how serious it is. All I’m saying is give the seriousness a day off once in a while, and enjoy your life!

Just because you’re dealing with bipolar disorder does NOT mean you’re dealing with a death sentence! Life can still be enjoyable. You can still have fun.

I know a couple where they BOTH have bipolar disorder! They’re married, and yet every Friday night, they go out on “Date Night.” It’s nothing expensive or extravagant, but they go out alone, and enjoy themselves. Even if it’s just a movie. Just something that gets them out of the house, and something they enjoy together. Sometimes they just go to the mall, eat something at the food court and watch all the people.

Having bipolar disorder doesn’t have to make you serious all the time.

Lighten up, don’t be so serious, and put some fun back in your life!

David Oliver is the author of the shocking guide “Bipolar Disorder—The REAL Silent Killer.” Click Here to get FREE Information sent via email on how and why bipolar disorder kills.

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David Oliver June 25, 2008 | March 19, 2009 Uncategorized Leave a Comment

Hi,

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David Oliver is the author of the shocking guide “Bipolar Disorder—The REAL Silent Killer.” Click Here to get FREE Information sent via email on how and why bipolar disorder kills.

Bipolar Disorder? What Message Would YOU Write?

David Oliver June 25, 2008 | March 19, 2009 Daily Bipolar Disorder Message 48 Comments

Hi,

How’s it going?

Hope you are doing well.

I have a super busy today planned today.

I have to make this kind of quick. I don’t have much time to write before I take off for the gym.

I wanted to ask you a question.

Have you ever watched that movie “Message in a Bottle?” The title is based on the old stories of people who supposedly wrote messages on a piece of paper, put them in bottles, then threw them into the ocean, to wash up onto the shore years later for someone to find and read.

Well, I was thinking about that movie, and it made me wonder about what I would write on my piece of paper. I mean, it really makes you wonder, to go through this whole encyclopedia of thoughts you have, trying to narrow them down to just one single thought that would be the most important thing you would want someone to know who would find the message in the bottle someday.

One man was asked about it, and he said, “I would tell them to have fun, because I don’t think people do that enough in their lives, and by the time they realize that, it’s too late.” He said he thought people just take life too seriously.

Another person said what they would write would be, “Give yourself permission to dream.”

Yet another, “Experience is what youget when you don’t get what you wanted. And it can be the most valuable thing you have to offer.”

It sounds like fortune cookies, doesn’t it?

Think about it – what would YOU put on your message in a bottle?

Even with bipolar disorder staring you in the face, think about all the different things you could say on your little piece of paper – what one important thought would you want to pass on to someone who would find your message?

It kind of puts things in perspective, making the bipolar disorder not seem as big a problem (now, I’m not making light of bipolar disorder, so don’t send me any hate mail!).

The thing is, we all have something to pass on. You may have bipolar disorder, or are a supporter of a loved one who has it, but that doesn’t mean your life stops there. You are a person totally outside of the disorder. And you have a whole lot to give to the world outside of the disorder. At least you should.

If your life is totally about the disorder, that is wrong.

That’s why I teach in my courses/systems that supporters should have outside activities as well as being a supporter to a loved one with bipolar disorder:

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You should have something of a social life. You should have friends and family outside of your bipolar support group. You should have outside interests besides bipolar disorder.

Your loved one should not be isolating (that’s a trigger to a bipolar episode). They should not be sleeping most of the day away (another trigger to a bipolar episode).

If they’re following a good treatment plan, then you should be living a relatively normal life, not looking for an episode around every corner, staying at home all the time because you’re afraid to make plans because they “might” have an episode. Come out of the dark – there’s a whole world out there for you to experience!

And you should have friends outside of your loved one. You have to have some outside activities that do not

include your loved one. Hobbies, support group, outside interests – even if you only go by yourself to the movies once in awhile, or shopping… if you don’t, if all you do is be a caregiver to your loved one 24/7, you will burn out.

You can’t be a good supporter if you don’t take care of yourself first – if you don’t meet your own needs. And some of those needs are to spend some time away from your loved one.

In thinking about what you would put on that message in the bottle, think about the things that are really important to you. I know being a supporter is important to you, and takes up a lot of your time. But some supporters just kind of fell into the role, because there wasn’t anyone else to do it, and they might even resent that – so it isn’t a very positive thing for them. Not that it’s any less important, but they might not feel appreciated. That’s why outside activities are that much more important – they need to get their self-esteem elsewhere.

What you do and who you are go into what matters to you most. Those are the things that will help you determine what you would put on your message in the bottle.

So who are you? Have you thought about that lately? I mean, who are you besides just a supporter of a loved one with bipolar disorder?

You must have your own likes and dislikes, your own interests, your own talents and gifts… are you doing/using them? Or have you forsaken them for your loved one? Have you stopped playing the piano? Have you stopped reading, writing, keeping a garden, practicing yoga, going to church, going to the gym, meeting girlfriends for lunch? You need to do those things that made you happy, those things that made you who you are.

You cannot let bipolar disorder determine who you are. Just because you do those things does NOT make you a bad supporter! In fact, it works just the opposite – the better you feel about yourself, the better a supporter you will be.

So, what would YOU write on your message in a bottle?

David Oliver is the author of the shocking guide “Bipolar Disorder—The REAL Silent Killer.” Click Here to get FREE Information sent via email on how and why bipolar disorder kills.

Bipolar strategy-Know the real enemy or else

David Oliver June 24, 2008 | March 19, 2009 Daily Bipolar Disorder Message 15 Comments

Hi,

How’s it going?

I hope you are doing well.

I wanted to point out a post that I saw

here:

Meg posted on my blog

“Arly, I am no expert at anything, but I know bi-polar from the inside. Get to a doctor, give this thing you feel a name. It’s earsier to get to know something (your enemy, best friend or self) if it has a name. Maybe you are bi-polar, maybe you have AADD, who knows.

Once you do, take it one day at a time. Find out what eats at you, what drives you to distraction, what calms you down, what brings you to a good level. There are signs in the turbulence, you seem to be a self-aware guy, so you know when you’re going up, coming down and how fast it goes. The trick here is to recognize it and have a strategy to get yourself under control. Maybe a strategy, medication, and a support system. But most important, you need to know what you are dealing with.”

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This was really insightful from Meg. The concept of knowing your enemy which is bipolar disorder.

The problem is, many people don’t know the enemy, don’t know how it operates, what can be expected and how to manage and defeat it.

This is how people get into trouble quickly – they don’t know who their enemy is. Some supporters think their enemy is their loved one, because they are the one who is acting out the symptoms of the disorder. But that’s a mistake.

In my courses/systems below:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?

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SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?

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HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?

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