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But it is in the implementing of these things that the small victories come, in the beginning (for some people, even in the later stages, as well!).

For example, if you’re struggling with your loved one just to get them to take their medication, and you finally “win the battle,” that is a small victory! (in the big scheme of things).

Or if you’re just trying to get them to get out of bed because they’re so depressed, and they’ve been in bed for a week… and then one day you’re able to get them out of bed (finally) – that is a small victory!

Celebrate small victories!

What if your loved one doesn’t want to go to their doctor’s appointment, but you talk them into it, or even go with them? That’s a small victory.

What if they don’t want to go see their family? But you convince them to let their family come see them? That’s a small victory.

What if they refuse to go to their bipolar support group one night, but you talk them into it by agreeing to go with them? That’s a small victory.

Celebrate small victories!

What if they go one month without an episode?

That’s a small victory!

What if they go 3 months without an episode?

That’s an even bigger victory!

So you go from baby step to baby step, and pretty soon you get to where you want your loved one to be.

And, along the way…

That’s right! You…

Celebrate small victories!

This is critical. So many people are looking for HUGE advances and progress. It generally doesn’t happen. Lots of little victories eventually cause one to win the war so to speak.

Even when I look at building this entire organization it was little steps that led to this organization being so huge.

So again, celebrate small victories.

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Have The Bipolar NEVER Attitude? Don’t.

David Oliver August 13, 2008 | March 19, 2009 Daily Bipolar Disorder Message 19 Comments

Hi,

How’s it going today for you?

I hope you are doing well.

I was on the phone with someone who was using one of my f.ree consultations for non medical and non legal questions that you get with my courses below and I was telling this person about this important concept. So I want to tell you as well because it’s important.

So today I want to talk about something I call:

The Bipolar NEVER Attitude

This is something you should NEVER have.

These are things you should NEVER say.

Things like:

· My loved one will NEVER get better.

· I’m NEVER going to be a good supporter.

· We’re NEVER going to have a normal life.

· I’ll NEVER get back what I’ve lost.

· We’ll NEVER be like we used to be.

· I’ll NEVER be happy again.

· We’ll NEVER be able to manage my loved

one’s bipolar disorder.

· We’ll NEVER get through this.

· I’ll NEVER be able to face my friends.

· We’ll NEVER be able to go out in public.

· My loved one will NEVER be stable.

Have you found yourself saying or thinking these things?

Then you have a NEVER attitude!

See, it’s all in your attitude.

In my courses/systems below, I discuss attitudes and how important it is to have a positive attitude to have a positive outcome with bipolar disorder:

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But this attitude I’m talking about, I call this a bipolar NEVER attitude. And you should NEVER have this attitude. It could really hurt you and your loved one and especially your loved one’s recovery.

If you have the bipolar NEVER attitude, you are defeated before you ever start.

You may as well “throw in the towel” right now!

Wave the white flag!

GIVE UP!

Because you will NEVER win with the bipolar NEVER attitude.

NEVER should NEVER be a part of your vocabulary.

Unless…

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You say, “I’m NEVER going to give up!”

“I’m NEVER going to let bipolar disorder get the better of me or my loved one!”

“I’m NEVER going to be defeated!”

Now, THAT’S the RIGHT ATTITUDE!

See, your attitude makes all the difference in the world, especially to your loved one.

They take their cues from you.

So if they see that you feel defeated, then they will feel defeated as well.

If they see that you have the bipolar NEVER attitude, then they will learn it from you, and they will have the bipolar NEVER attitude, too.

But YOU can teach them to have a positive attitude.

You can teach them the RIGHT ATTITUDE!

Then, together, the two of you can manage your loved one’s bipolar disorder together, instead of it managing you! When it manages you that’s the worst. There are so many people that I know where the bipolar is in charge. It’s crazy. It use to be like that for my family forever until like 2005. Then we had a new way. A new system. I can tell you FOR SURE there is only one way that works. The way I just described.

Know what I mean?

Hey I have to take off. I will catch you later on.

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Bipolar Disorder? Be Grateful For These

David Oliver August 12, 2008 | March 19, 2009 Daily Bipolar Disorder Message 23 Comments

Hi,

How’s it going today?

I am feeling a little better. Thanks to everyone who is wishing me a speedy recovery of this sore throat and cough.

I wanted to ask you.

Have you seen those commercials that say Things like:

Car: $20,000

Vacation: $5,000

Food for Vacation: $1,000

Smile on Kids’ Faces on Vacation: Priceless

———————————————–

Well, I know living with a loved one who has bipolar disorder is not an easy thing. Much of your time is spent dealing with the “big stuff” of the disorder.

But like the commercials, you also need to take time to be grateful for the small things.

Be grateful today that:

· Your loved one is healthy

· They are alive

· They are taking their medication

· They are following their treatment plan

· They are seeing their doctors, etc.

· They are not in an episode

· They are not in the hospital

· They care about you

· You love them

· They are not sleeping all the time

· They are productive

· They have something to live for

· They have accepted their disorder

· You are healthy

· You are alive

· You have something to live for

· You are loved

· Your family is ok

· You can stop and smell the roses

· You have a good life

You may have a car, home, money in the bank.

You may have material possessions.

But those things on the list above.

Those things are priceless.

Today I want you to think about those things. And I want you to be grateful for the small things.

Because, being a supporter of a loved one with bipolar disorder, you didn’t always have those things, did you?

In my courses/systems below, I talk about having a positive attitude, and how much that can help when you’re dealing with the hard issues:

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Being grateful helps you to keep that positive attitude. And having a positive attitude is a must when you’re dealing with bipolar disorder.

Some people even make a Gratitude List, especially when they’re feeling down.

Now this can go for both supporters and their loved ones.

You just put down all the things you’re grateful for. You can start with the things I’ve listed above, and then you can go from there.

I listed the “priceless” things. But then you can add your possessions, as well, because you should be grateful for them as well.

And I didn’t add anything about children, but you can add them, too.

The important thing is that you not only be grateful for the big things in your life, but the small things as well.

And that gratitude helps you keep a positive attitude.

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Great Book and The Dumbest Bipolar Plan/Idea Ever Revealed

David Oliver August 11, 2008 | March 19, 2009 Daily Bipolar Disorder Message 26 Comments

Hi,

How’s it going?

I have to make this quick because I am not feeling well today. I have a sore throat, cough, headache, fever and stomach ache.

I am not telling you for you to feel sorry for you, I just wanted to let you know.

Anyway, first before I forget, I wanted to recommend a great book that everyone dealing with bipolar disorder should get.

Ready for Anything: 52 Productivity Principles for Work and Life by David Allen.

I like to highly encourage people to look into productivity books because if you are dealing with bipolar disorder I am 99% sure that you have wasted a lot of time and put many things that you wanted to do on hold.

So after bipolar disorder is under control you have to work hard to make up for lost time. ou have to be productive and you don’t have time to mess around.

My mom wasted about 38 years of time. Seriously. BUT, she has made huge advances in just a few years. She has gotten more done in 3 years than decades before in my opinion.

Okay second thing. I have had a ton and I mean a ton of people call me 24 hours a day on every single phone number that I have and I have a lot.

It’s driving me crazy. I have tried to call people back but it’s impossible. We have had I don’t know like more than 250,000 people sign up to the bipolar breaking news. There isn’t enough time for me to talk to everyone. It’s not that I am mean. It’s not that I don’t care. It’s not that I am greedy. It’s not that I don’t like people. It’s not that I don’t want to help it’s that I am limited by the number of hours in a day.

These days I have to do less not more.

I am very sure one of the reasons why I am sick and have been sick twice this year is from overwork and stress.

So, I can’t take random phone calls any more. It doesn’t even make sense anyway. 99% of what people ask me are in my course materials located at

or my main courses below.

How can you talk to me? Well with my main courses below, you can fill out a certificate you get and send it in to me. I will call you on my dime to answer any of your non medical or non legal questions (I am NOT a doctor, therapist or lawyer).

People are shocked after they go through my materials because it seriously covers virtually everything you can think of.

Why? Well because number one I use the material myself. Number two I have really smart people that have gone through everything over and over and over again looking for any gaps and we have filled them in.

Okay with that said, let’s jump to today’s topic.

Actually one more thing..

IMPORTANT NOTE:

I wanted to say for the 10,000 quadbillionth (little kid term) that I am NOT a doctor, therapist, lawyer, or financial advisor. I am not offering legal, or medical or or professional advice.

Ok, with that said…

I heard the dumbest thing ever. It’s so stupid I can’t even believe someone on the Internet is promoting it!

They are really dumb and what they are promoting is really dangerous.

The are promoting something called a “medication holiday.”

A medication holiday is when you stop taking your medication for a certain period of time to “give yourself a break.”

Do NOT do this! If you do have bipolar disorder, you will have tremendous problems.

YOU WILL BE DOOMED. You will probably die if you do this.

NEVER get off your medication without working with a doctor.

NEVER listen to stupid things on the Internet without talking them over with your doctor, either.

Don’t even listen to me. Take what I say to your doctor. Talk it over with them. Think, “Hmm. Does David Oliver even make any sense?” Think about it. My daily emails are designed to get you to think AND learn. Challenge what I am saying. Medication is still the key, despite what a few out in left field wacko websites say!

These people are clueless.

I know someone with bipolar disorder who used to take medication holidays because she liked her manic “highs.”

Until one day one of her manic “highs” landed her in a psychiatric institution – delusional, hallucinating, psychotic, and suicidal.

This girl never took another medication holiday again, and is still stable today.

I wish everyone who was even considering taking a medication holiday could hear this girl’s story.

The concept of the medication holiday is so dumb.

It’s as dumb as someone I know who takes steroids.

When I asked him, “Aren’t you worried about your body and the steroids? Do you get a checkup from the doctor with your blood pressure, liver enzymes, cholesterol, etc.?”

His reply? “Dude, I only care about the outside, not the inside.”

When I said, “You are going to die,” he replied, “Dude, at least I will die big. They won’t even have a coffin big enough for me!”

You probably think I made that up. I swear I did NOT. I know tons of people that think this way about steroids. It’s scary.

SIDE NOTE-In one gym I go to, I heard to guys arguing about who would be bigger when they died and who could and could not fit in a coffin. Sad but true.

That was previously the dumbest thing I had ever heard of until I heard the concept of the medication holiday.

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I stress the importance of taking medication, and if you are having problems with your medication, you need to contact your doctor, NOT just go off your medication and take a medication holiday.

That’s just dumb. Anyone care to share what happens when you do something like this?

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Problems with Bipolar Disorder? Try This!

David Oliver August 10, 2008 | March 19, 2009 Daily Bipolar Disorder Message 16 Comments

Hi,

Hope this is a good day for you.

I was talking to a person yesterday who was complaining about having problems with his business. He really was having a hard time. he had lots of problems.

I listened carefully.

Then I said, “What have you done to fix all these problems?”

He said, “Everything.”

I asked, “Like what?” But he couldn’t give me an answer.

I said, “Why don’t you try thinking?”

And he got mad at me!

Then I explained. I told him that he should really spend some quality time thinking about the problem AND the potential solutions. See, I am a solution- oriented person, and that’s the way I approach things.

So that’s the way I approach bipolar disorder, too. I find with the BP it’s the same thing.

People with the disorder and their loved ones say that they have tons of problems and that they can’t figure out any solutions to them (no offense).

They are always REACTING instead of ACTING. See what I mean? See the difference?

I heard someone say once that “Life is 1% what happens to you and 99% your reaction to it.”

I like that, because it illustrates what I’m talking about. If you have a problem, you have to look for a solution to it. Ok, so sometimes the solution isn’t so obvious. But it’s there, it really is.

Think about just one of your problems. Just one.

Then take one hour and brainstorm solutions to it.

Some solutions may be easy, and others may be hard. Some may be impossible. But you can still consider them. (Someone said, “The impossible just takes a little longer.”)

Some solutions may seem downright silly. But you can still consider them. They may even be the very solution you’re looking for!

The solution you’re looking for may be staring you right in the face. But you won’t know until you try brainstorming solutions to your problem.

In my courses/systems below, I talk about problem- solving; about being solution-oriented, and about being PROACTIVE:

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You have to be PROACTIVE if you want to get out of your problems and into your solutions.

Like the guy I was talking about who had all the business problems. At first he got mad at me, but then he understood my point.

No one else is going to come up with your solutions for you. You have to come up with them yourself. That’s what being PROACTIVE means. So if you have bipolar disorder, or if you are a supporter of a loved one who has the disorder and you are stuck on a problem that doesn’t seem to have a solution, try this:

Write down the problem. Then write down a list of brainstormed ideas of solutions to that problem. again, no matter how complicated, or impossible, or even how silly. I guarantee, that solution is there somewhere. If not, keep trying until you arrive at

that solution.

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Key to success with bipolar disorder and business

David Oliver August 9, 2008 | March 19, 2009 Daily Bipolar Disorder Message 10 Comments

Hi,

I hope you’re having a good day.

I actually woke up with a really bad sore throat today. That’s strange considering it’s the summer.

Oh well. Anyway, I still have a ton of things to do whether I have a sore throat or not.

I am actually not working out this Saturday.

Oh I wanted to say something. People have been asking about what jobs I have currently available. Well right now, we are all set

with customer service and admin. We have had TREMENDOUS people apply.

Some people are truly incredible. The trouble is, there are only 3 spots but many high qualified people. All but one has bipolar disorder. I wonder why so many people ask me if they can apply if they have bipolar disorder? Of course you can. More than 70% of the people that work for me have one or more disorders.

Anyway, I am going to be making a decision over the next few days.

New jobs that will be posted soon are: writer, editor (not for my daily emails… : ), PPC analyst (position for accountant, financial type people), and marketing assistant (great job for someone with bipolar disorder).

I will be posting them in a few weeks. Just keep reading my emails and you’ll get the link.

Okay, one last thing. I want to tell you how I made a total fool out of myself this morning. I couldn’t sleep well last night so I got up at like 6 am. I started watching this CD on some business stuff. I have to keep on learning more and more as this organization grows larger and larger. Learning is the key to business.

I couldn’t figure out how to fast forward, pause, etc. The CD was super long.

I was like, “what the heck, I have to sit here and watch 2 hours in one stretch.”

So I got all mad and went on to the forum with a whole lot of serious minded business people. I posted a question about why the cd doesn’t have a stop, pause, fast forward etc.

Someone wrote me back and said, “Hey did you watch the first CD it clearly explains how if you scroll down you will see stop, pause, fast forward, rewind, etc.”

So I went to the screen and I scrolled down and much to my amazement, the buttons were all there.

I felt really dumb : ). I have to post some intelligent stuff today so people don’t label me a dummy : )

So you can have a good laugh on me today.

Okay, on to today’s topic and then I have to run.

Have you ever thought about how things were in the beginning compared to how things are now?

I know how frustrating things can be sometimes, because I’m a supporter, too, but…

Sometimes it helps to think back to how helpless you felt back before your loved one was diagnosed and before you had any information on bipolar disorder to begin with.

Then think of how much you’ve learned since then, and how much your loved one has, hopefully, also learned since then about how to manage his/her bipolar disorder.

In my courses/systems below:

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Of course I teach many things about how to manage bipolar disorder and how to deal with it, both for survivors and for their loved ones.

But think about it –

In the beginning, you knew nothing about the disorder. All you knew was that your loved one just wasn’t “normal,” just wasn’t “themselves.”

But now you know so much more, don’t you?

Hopefully, you’ve done some research, gotten educated, read my material, and at least I know you’ve been learning from these emails.

Educating yourself is the main thing, as I teach in my courses/systems. You have to learn as much as you can about the disorder

in order to help your loved one. It’s like you have this enemy that you’re fighting, and the enemy isn’t your loved one, it’s bipolar disorder.

In any war, they tell you to know your enemy. in order to know your enemy, you have to know as much about your enemy as you can.

So I encourage you, keep learning. Keep studying. Keep reading. Keep researching.

Never stop growing in knowledge, for the more you know, the better equipped you are to deal with the disorder and your loved one.

· Keep researching on the Internet

· Order BP Magazine or read it online

· Read books about it

· Visit your local library

· Research online articles or at your

Library periodicals section

· Go to your loved one’s bipolar

support group for f.ree literature

· Ask your loved one’s doctor for

f.ree pamphlets

Keep learning as much about bipolar disorder as you can, so you can stay in control of it instead of it in control of you and your loved one.

Remember, knowledge is power! It works with business AND bipolar disorder. Many people just stop learning.

Ask the average person what were the last books, they read and you probably won’t hear ones that help them learn. Ask someone when was the last time they really researched something. Or they went to the library. Or they took a course. Or a class. Think about it.

Well, I have to go.

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Current Bipolar News

David Oliver August 8, 2008 | March 19, 2009 Daily Bipolar Disorder Message 6 Comments

Hi,

How’s it going?

I hope you are doing well.

Well yesterday I had a great trip to New York. I learned a ton of useful things to help this organization move forward.

Anyway, here’s the current bipolar news.

To read this week’s news visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarnews390

Raising funds – and bipolar awareness
DO> Great article.

From Prevention to Preemption: A Paradigm Shift in Psychiatry
DO> I totally agree with this.

8 Myths About Bipolar Disorder
DO> Interesting what do you think.

The end in full view
DO> Hmm. What do you think of this.

Swings of bipolar disorder to opposite extremes
DO> This article is so true.

Get Real: Count Your Blessings and Your Troubles
DO> Hmm. What do you think of this?

For these stories and more, please visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarnews390

==>Help with ALL aspects of bipolar disorder<<==

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Gas and Bipolar Disorder

David Oliver August 7, 2008 | March 19, 2009 Daily Bipolar Disorder Message 31 Comments

Hi,

How’s it going?

It’s 4:30am and I am writing this.

I actually have to go to New York City today for a meeting.

I am dead tired right now.

I don’t have much time.

I hope your day is going to be great.

Let me jump into today’s topic quickly

Lots of people are complaining about the price of gas. I don’t blame them – in some places, the price of gas is $4.00 per gallon!

A couple I know owned a Jeep Cherokee, And even though they loved their vehicle, they saw this coming, and they traded out of it just in time to a smaller car that was better on gas.

Anyway, what does the price of gas have to do with bipolar disorder? I’ll tell you.

My point is, you have to look ahead and see things coming. Like the cost of your loved one’s medication.

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I stress how very important medication is in a good treatment plan for someone with bipolar disorder. In fact, people probably get sick of my “preaching” about how if you don’t take it, you could die. But that’s how important it is! So you have to plan ahead in case any number of things happens.

What if:

· Something should happen to your finances,

· You lose your insurance,

· Your insurance stops covering the cost of

your loved one’s medication,

· Your loved one is switched to a medication

that isn’t covered by your insurance,

· Or something else you don’t anticipate

You see what I mean?

You have to think ahead. Just like the couple who traded in their car just in time because they looked ahead and saw the price of gas rising.

So get a piece of paper. Make a list of every solution you can think of right now. Think ahead.

Think about your finances. Ways you can cut back and start putting away money now in case any of the above situations should happen. You MUST have the money. Because your loved one MUST have their medication!

If you have to, trade in your car like that couple did, to save on gas.

If you were planning an expensive vacation, take a more inexpensive one instead – maybe one closer to home, so you can save the money. Or take less trips. Or drive instead of fly. It till take less money. Or think of smaller things – if you work, pack your lunch instead of buying things at the concession stand at work.Instead of stopping for that cup of coffee on the way to work, make it at home instead! You wouldn’t believe how much that one little cup of coffee adds up to over time!

Then put the savings in an account so you have the money for medication.

Brainstorm other solutions to save money in case something should happen so that you have extra money…just in case.

I really have to take off. Catch you tomorrow. Oh, actually tomorrow is the bipolar news. Don’t miss it.

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5 Ways To Keep A Loved One With Bipolar On Track

David Oliver August 6, 2008 | March 19, 2009 Daily Bipolar Disorder Message 39 Comments

Hi,

Hope you’re doing well.

I am thinking about hiring some kind of computer tutor for the entire organization. I have a number of people that work for me that aren’t the best with computers and software programs (me included ).

I was thinking of hiring someone to do some kind of over the phone computer group or individual teaching. I am not sure how it will work and I am thinking about it. Let me know what you think.

Okay, yesterday I sent out a daily email about the nightmare person with bipolar disorder that I had working for me.

IMPORTANT

A number of people wrote me that they were totally depressed about how I hired someone that turned out to be so bad. You should know if you are thinking this way that the worst people that I have ever hired actually reported NO disorder.

I have hired many people with one or more disorders and only one has turned out (actually two), to be really bad and ill. The VAST MAJORITY of people that I have hired with bipolar or other disorders have done GREAT. They have out performed people without disorders. Please remember that. Melinda posted on my blog:

Dave,

Obviously you’re a good, humane person or you wouldn’t be in the business you are and employing people with “disorders.” Has it ever occurred to you that you’re TOO nice? By this I don’t mean weak, just too tolerant?

I live with a landady who’s losing or has lost her mind–she could be walking around with an undiagnosed case of bipolar illness, for al I know. She’s slandered me to her friends and family, accused me of terrible things I haven’t done, has discriminated against me because I have ADD and bipolar illness (she doesn’t know about the bipolar II I have), and sworn and yelled at me. She tries to turn my other housemate against me, another Christian!! I consider her abusive and manipulative, not to mention downright mean. I told her I think someone must have been mean to her once, but that she’s allowed them to turn her mean. Turns out my honesty helped! Dave, why did you let that crazy person wreak such havoc in your life? Do you enjoy suffering? Don’t be a masochist. You said you allowed the person umpteen chances. Why? Wrong is wrong. There’s such a thing as protecting yourself. No, you weren’t being stupid, just TOO nice! Don’t beat yourself up over this, please. Think instead of all the people you’ve helped.

Keep up the good work,”

-Melinda

I think Melinda is right I am too nice. I am way too nice when it comes to people who work for me that are new and have one or more disorders. Sometimes I give people way to many chances. It’s hard to tell which people will turn out well with bipolar disorder when it comes to employment.

I have people that work for me that never held a job more than 6 months with anyone else, attempted suicide 5 to 7 times, were in jail, were homeless, etc and do FANTASITIC.

So you can’t have too much heavy duty looking at a person’s past. The way our system goes it weighs the future and near past much more than the old, old past. Know what I mean?

At the end of the day, what’s the major problem with these people that do so much bad in such a short period of time? It’s generally they don’t have a treatment plan they are following AND they don’t have a supporter to help put them back on track and keep them their.

Today I want to talk about

5 Ways to Help Your Loved One Stay On Track

1. Don’t Let Them Get Lazy

It’s hard for your loved one when they, perhaps, have lost their job and are now on disability. Some people lose their sense of direction when they have nothing to wake up for any more when they have no job to go to. Don’t let your loved one get lazy just because they aren’t working any more. Encourage them to make a To-Do List, or something else that forces them to be productive in some way every day – just something that gets them out of bed with a day’s goal in mind.

2. Make Sure They Stick to Their Treatment Plan

Sometimes loved ones may stick to their treatment plans in the beginning, when they know you’re watching them, but then they slack off when they think you’re not looking.

Don’t let that happen to your loved one. Make sure they stick to their treatment plan. This is so important. Especially when it comes to their medication. No, they’re not a child, and you can’t make them take their medication by forcing it down their throat. But you can encourage them and reinforce the importance of taking it. Be the same way with the rest of their treatment plan – going to their appointments with their psychiatrist, doctor, and therapist. Eat a good diet, exercise, and sleep right, etc.

3. Use a Buddy System

Try to keep them on track by finding a “BP Buddy” for them – maybe someone from their bipolar support group. Someone who knows what they’re going through, and is perhaps sharing the same struggles. Maybe they can do some things together, maybe some things to keep them from getting bored – maybe they share the same interests, or at least could go out to eat or to the movies, etc.

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