It’s Sunday morning and I am getting ready to take off for the check.
Before I go, I have to tell you about a really sad story that I heard.

Yesterday I got a call from someone who wanted to get my course. She
had some questions.

I took her call and she was telling me how her son has bipolar disorder
and how hard it’s been. Then she told me that he had completely
wiped her retirement savings. She had spent $350,000 of her $400,000
of savings she had earned over 40 years or so. Now she is disabled
has PTSD (she feels from her son’s bipolar disorder).

BUT, she is a tough woman who will survive. I have confidence in
her. She has the right attitude. Many people I speak to have the
wrong attitude but not her.

Listening to her made me really sad. I felt so bad for her. Because
she is older, it’s going to be more difficult to replace the
retirement savings she lost. But she has an excellent plan
on how to do so. Keep reading…

If you read the description of my course/system at:

http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

You see that I have information, an audio module,
and f.r.e.e bonus reports that talk
about bipolar disorder and m.o.n.e.y.

When I first setup up my site, people saw that and thought I was
crazy.

People would write stuff like:

“What the heck is wrong with you, why do you have audio about m.o.n.e.y…
take me off your list, you have no clue”

or

“I just saw an article about how to pay o.f.f d.e.b.t, I thought
this site was about bipolar disorder. Remove ME NOW!!!!!!!”

Things like that. I would remove the people and knew
they were going to be in trouble.

If you don’t know this already, I have some REALLY REALLY REALLY bad
news for you. If you have any money and you are supporting someone with
bipolar disorder and you don’t have a protection system you are at
risk for losing most of it.

Now before I get hate mail telling me that’s not true and it’s not fair
that I say this about people with bipolar disorder, do your research.

I have so many stories in my head of people who have been financially
wiped out from bipolar disorder.

-The man from California, self made millionaire, dated a girl with
bipolar disorder, within one year was broke, lost his house

-Woman from Colorado, son had bipolar disorder, she has spent $400,000
on him over 10 years.

-Woman from Atlanta, told me she has not lost a dime from bipolar disorder
and her son, I challenged her to recheck the figures. Came back, discovered
losses totaling $75,000 over 5 years.

-I lost $250,000 myself over like 6 or 7 years. My dad has lost a fortune.

-The lady I spoke to yesterday.

I could go on and on but I hope you are getting the point.

I don’t tell you stuff in these emails to give you a hard time but rather
to inform you. I tell you the stuff that nobody else will tell you or
talk about. Go to a bookstore, look at books related to bipolar disorder
and they NEVER talk about the stuff I do. Like m.o.n.e.y.
I have no idea why? It’s dumb.

If you are new to my list, you might be wondering how can people
lose so much money. Is it from treatment? Well let me give you just
a few ways but this isn’t all of them.

-From treatment

-From legal fees

-From fraud (i.e., someone with bipolar disorder takes your social security
and name and signs up to buy stuff that costs a ton, stuff like mortgages,
boats, planes, cars, diamonds, etc)

-From simple massive waste (in my mom’s episode, she used a c.r.e.d.i.t
card and was buying about $1500 a month for about 12 months in
groceries before I figured it out).

-From massive interest and late fees. My mom fell behind on payments and was
paying 29% i.n.t.e.r.e.s.t on her cards and late fees every month. This
went on for two years before I caught it.

-Buying presents for friends or family members. My mom gave most of her
retirement funds away to another family member. Why the family member
took it and didn’t give it back, well that’s another story.

-Being manipulated and paying people’s bills instead of their own while
they are in an episode. I heard of one lady that was dating someone that
did NOT have bipolar disorder. He knew she did. He manipulated her into
paying about $35,000 towards all sorts of his bills.

This is just a short list. I have heard so many stories it’s hard to
believe. When I tell people about my mom and the grocery bill, people
think I am lying. I actually thought I was lying to myself or maybe
misreading what I was seeing.

I couldn’t believe it happen to our
family. I have all the proof and I use to get my friend to look
at it to make sure I was reading the numbers correctly and totally
them right. Every time he was like “Dave, sorry bro, it’s all true.”

When I first was called by my dad to help out with my mom. I
went over and went into my mom’s room. She had and you are going
to think I am lying and making this up but 5 feet (FIVE) in
diameter, 2 inches high of bills on the floor. I am not kidding.

When I finally got her into treatment. On the first day I have some peace,
it took me 9 straight hours to organize her bills. There were pages
and pages and pages of bills I found. I am not kidding.
Dead serious.

You really need advanced systems to protect your money. Now if
you have bipolar disorder, I am not attacking you. My mom knows
all this stuff now. She told me to write you this email today because
she knows how bad it can get if you have bipolar disorder.

She has an iron clad protection system now. If she went into another
huge super episode my money and her money would be 100% protected.
Period. I invented the system to withstand the worst possible
episode.

But, the sad part is, once you lose your entire life savings like the
woman from Texas and dozens of other people I know, it’s really
hard to build up your savings again.

I personally believe that s.t.a.r.ting a h.o.m.e business is the
way to go. There’s no faster way. That’s why I put together
161 ways to do this at:

http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarbusiness

People get all mad at me because I have a course on making
m.o.n.e.y from home. They think I am running some scam.

When I get emails like this, I am thinking “man you have no
clue.”

There have been people that I have spoken to during my
f.r.e.e consultations for non medical and non legal questions and
I kept saying go through my stuff on money. They were like
“Sure Dave.” They didn’t. They got wiped out and called me
months later and were broke and felt dumb.

I am not kidding. This is serious stuff.

But back to the woman from Texas.

Actually the woman from Texas has started a business online
that is doing well I am really happy for her. She has the perfect
business. Something from home. Something that has very low overhead.
Something a disabled person can do. Something that has high profit
margins.

Her business model, which she came up on her own (I had
no involvement in her idea), can make a ton of money a year. I can
see $100,000 a year with the right marketing.

But there’s a lot of options for everyone. Her business is
perfect for her. But for me it would not be.

NOTE-If you get my course at http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11
you CAN ask me questions about starting a business and also how
to promote it. Remember you can NOT ask me medical or legal
questions because I am NOT a doctor or lawyer.

Well I have to run to the gym. I am heading to the movies today to
see Breach with me, myself and I. I was going to see the movie
The Number 23 but I heard it was horrible.

Your friend,

Dave

P.S. Don’t wait around, check all your money today, check your c r e d i t
s.c.o.r.e as well. Put systems in place to protect your money. You’ll
thank me later. Trust me. I wish someone told me $250,000 ago.

P.P.S. Coming soon. This week, I will be emailing Lessons from the Iraq
War you can use for Bipolar Disorder.

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Your Friend,

Dave

Hey,

I have some good news and bad news. The bad news is that
the news is not ready. Normally I send it out. But Andrea,
my webmaster is swamped and her kids have been sick.

So, I am sending a bipolar lesson today about big old
Jimmy (285 pound man).

In the gym where I train, there’s a number of hard core lifters.
These are people that have one desire. Well two. To get as big
and as strong as possible. This is their number one goal. It’s
ahead of anything else.

I have a friend named Jimmy. He is kind of like this but not
as bad. Being big and strong is a priority to him. He is 285
pounds probably about 5 foot 7 inches. He is MASSIVE. He works
out with 495 pounds on the bench like it’s absolutely nothing.

I was in the gym and Jimmy came in and he was hungry. He’s generally
always hungry.

He came in and said “Dude let’s go to all you can eat Chinese
food.” I didn’t say anything. Then Big Ed said okay, cool.

Then Anthony said okay. They looked at me and I was like “No
I have to work out, I can’t and plus it’s not my f.r.e.e day.”

Side note: I body build non competitively. NO I don’t put grease
all over my body and NO I don’t wear those shorts on stage. I do
it as a hobby and do NOT actually go into competitions.

Back to the story, they were like what??? “Let’s go….forget
f.r.e.e days.”

I explained how I couldn’t go, I had to train, I had work to
do, I am not hungry, I am not going to just drop my workout,
etc. etc.

Jimmy was like “Dude, take your skirt off and let’s go.”

NOTE-Take off your skirt is like slang. It suggests that
since I won’t go, I must be a woman, therefore wearing a shirt
and if I take it off, I will go. Make sense? Probably not
but just keep reading.

We went back and forth. He was seriously trying to coerce
me into going to all you can eat tons and tons of
Chinese food.

I said no and then he got all confused and walked away kind of mad.

What’s this have to do with bipolar disorder?

Thinking about how I said no to Jimmy made me think of bipolar
disorder. For some reason, it seems that many people have friends
that give people advice that works against your ultimate goal.

If you have bipolar disorder, you might be told, stay up late,
do whatever you want, you only live once. My mom has been told
this. This is BAD ADVICE. Friends tell you stuff that goes
against what you really should be doing.

If you are a supporter, friends might tell you to abandon your loved
one, give up on them, take your loved one to the city all night long and party and drink, or something that makes no sense at all.

You have to stand firm and put your foot down and say no.

Something that runs counter to what you feel is right. As a side
note in my course at:

http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

I offer f.r.e.e. consultation certificates for NON medical
and NON legal questions. I have found that most people that
use them, and what my advice or opinion on something already know
the answer and are looking for someone to validate what they
already know.

With that said, I want you to think about this?

How many friends have given you bad advice about dealing
with bipolar disorder? Whether you are a supporter or have
the disorder yourself?

THINK and then scroll down…

You really have to be careful. I don’t know why this is, but
many people that are suppose to be friends give bad advice. I
believe this is because some secretly don’t want you to do
well or to get ahead of where they are. It’s really strange.

NO I don’t have paranoid personality disorder. I first
figure this out reading a book called Think and Grow Rich
about 18 years ago.

In the book the author asserts that the worst people to
bring a new idea to is your friends because they will
shoot it down.

This is really true. Think about any good idea you’ve had
related to bipolar disorder and if you tell many, they will
tell you the 83 reasons it won’t work.

For example, let’s say you’re new to my list, your loved one
isn’t doing well. You find my site. You say, “Hey I found
this site and this guy David has a system to help me
help my loved one. I think this is the answer.”

Most likely they will say “Oh no, that won’t work. Oh it’s a scam.
No way. You’ve tried everything. He’s probably just after your
m.o.n.e.y”

It’s really funny. My brother, who doesn’t speak to anyone any
more is like this.

I will NEVER forget this. I told him I invented a way for my
mom to protect her c.r.e.d.i.t, get out of d.e.b.t and fix
her finances. It in this system at http://www.bipolarcentral.com/debtletter

He said and I quote “Don’t waste your time. There’s no hope
for her.”

That really made me mad. And I am happy to report that my mom’s
almost out of debt and did so by herself, following the system
I made for her. Even though I made the system, SHE DID IT HERSELF.

You know what? I just looked at the clock and I have to eat
get ready in only 12 minutes.

I will catch you tomorrow or later today.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Post responses on my blog please:
http://supporterblog.blogspot.com/

P.P.S. I am going to make “Say no to Jimmy tee shirts
and give them out in the gym . LOL”

Hey,

You’re going to laugh today. I just was called a
f#$king a#$hole. I took out some characters but
I am sure you know what those two words are.

Before I tell you that story, I have to tell you
this one.

The other day I sent an email
titled Lies, Lies, Lies and Bipolar Disorder. I had
almost 1000 responses to this email.

The email talked about the idea that people who
have bipolar disorder can lie when they are not
stable.

To see a copy of this email keep reading to find
out how.

Yesterday I was meeting up with a prominent psychiatrist
and also going to volunteer.

First let me tell you, the volunteering went really
long. I got home at like 11:30.

I even got pulled over by the police which annoyed me
until I saw it was my friend Bill who I use to train
with at a gym.

Well back to the email I sent, I said that I was going to
ask this really expensive $600 or $650 a hour doctor
WHY someone lies in a bipolar episode.

Last night I got my chance. I asked that question to
the doctor. This guy has been in practice since like 1960
and he is like a walking book. He is almost in
practice in NYC.

He gave a very complicated answer as to
why people may lie when they are in a bipolar
episode.

To make a long complicated answer short, based on my
understanding, it’s because bipolar disorder is a
mood disorder. When a person is not stable they can
be “psychotic” and enter a state of psychosis (which
are hard words to spell…good thing I have spell check).

During these times, a person’s beliefs can become altered
and cause them to not perceive things correctly, or interpret
what’s being said or not said about them wrong which causes them
to respond saying things that aren’t true which ultimately
turns into a lie.

I hope that makes sense.

On another note. You know how in my course at

http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

I harp on how to find a doctor. Well it’s really strange. When
I volunteer, the only thing people want to know is all centered
around medication. Nobody asks stuff like

How to find a doctor
How to find a therapist
How for pay for these people
How to get a loved one into treatment
How to find a great job for someone with bipolar disorder
OR someone who is a supporter who needs a flexible schedule
How to handle a loved one’s mood swings easily
What to do if a loved one gets into a ton of debt

There are so many other important things that I could make a list
that is 6 pages long.

When ever and where ever I go to volunteer, people always ask the same
set of questions for the most part. It’s all around medication. No one
asks the really important questions, like what I just listed out.

I just don’t get why people are focused on what
I think is the wrong stuff.

Trying to learn about medication in a meeting doesn’t make any
sense to me. I just don’t get it.

Also, since I have been volunteering in three groups for 2 years,
I see certain patterns develop. Want to know what they are?

=> Only 1 person has been to three meetings in a row
=> There are virtually no high functioning people with bipolar disorder
at these meetings.
=> Those that are high functioning every now and then get turned off
because they feel so many people are negative

=> People take lots of f.r.e.e information that I am sure they aren’t
going to use. How do I know? Well if you take 5 to 10 of the same
thing, I am sure you aren’t going to read it.

That brings me to the email I just got. Mary wrote me:

“David you suck!!!!!!!!!!! My daughter has bipolar disorder.
I click on your site and you are selling your information.
I can’t believe you. What kind of person are you. Your mother must
be ashamed your evil ways. If you even have a mother. You probably
don’t because you are a liar. If you really cared, you should share your
information freely. But it probably sucks like you do. Take me off your
list f#$king a#$hole.”

I took out some characters with those two words to keep this family
friendly. I am sure you know what two words she called me.

I am going to practice what I preach is not respond to this email. I
of course removed her. But I wonder if she is so smart why she can’t
remove herself. But that’s another story.

Do you want to know something? I have give my course materials to 7 people
totally f.r.e.e and guess how many have gone through it? ZERO. One friend
has had it on his shelf for 1.5 years. He told me he is going to get it to it.

This is why when I get the ridiculous emails that say “If you really
cared you would share all your information for f.r.e.e.”

When I get these, I am like “HELLO? Is anyone home?” I
have a emini course and tips that cost me THOUSANDS of dollars
to create. There is NO cost to this.

I have over 1000 pages of information on my article website that has cost
me a fortune to put together. Again no cost. I have more info that is no
cost than any other site online. Period. But can I really send manuals,
check lists, worksheets, reports, a set of 10 cds, etc. to someone
for f.r.e.e?

With my material however, I offer it with a guarantee and if you send
anything back, I even let you keep some stuff for giving it a try. This
way you come out ahead. I mean could you ask for anything else?

And for those that say I can and should, let’s say I gave it all away for no cost, how would I pay all the doctors, therapists, writers, programmers, graphic designers, book keeper, accountant, hosting frees, marketing person, advertising, consultants, shipping, customer services, phone lines, etc. etc.?

I have already sunk a ton of my own money into this. And some people want
everything for nothing.

Anyone who really does any kind of thinking knows that even if I gave
it all away, people wouldn’t even go through it.

I just look at the three groups I volunteer at. I am the “literature
giver out person.” Because there is no cost, we run out, in minutes,
of everything and people don’t even take what they get seriously.

Just think about the spoiled kid or the person you knew who got
everything handed to them on a silver plate. Remember that person?
They didn’t do to well. Because when people get something for nothing
they do NOT value it for the most part.

Sadly where I volunteer, guess what? 99% of the time we don’t have a full supply of material because people take so much and there’s not enough money to get more of it.

This past year, I had to buy all the stuff to house the literature
and I had to pay someone to organize it because all the other volunteers
quit.

The give it all away model would make no sense.

Anyway, sorry for the rant today but I just had to say it. Some
people write me thing that have no clue how to run an organization.

Hey I have to take off. If you want to respond to my email or write
Mary a note, please do so here:

https://www2.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=12584731&postID=3524050475230810891

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Visit my blog to get a copy of the email I sent the other day
http://supporterblog.blogspot.com/

Hi,

I got a call from three friends yesterday. They freaked out on me.
Why?

Yesterday the stock market went “totally out of control”
according to my friends.

The New York Stock Exchange was down 415 points.

My friends were yelling and all emotional like the world
was coming to an end. They sounded like they were
in a Bipolar Episode.

They called me and say, “Dave are you going to pull
your money out?” I was like “huh, pull it out of where?
What the heck are you talking about? Dude, you know,
the market…aren’t you watching?”

I was like, “Oh no.”

Then they told me how the market is crashing and I was
like “I have no clue, I don’t look at that stuff,
I look at long term trends. Then I tell them to
stop trying to be stock experts and get back to
work.”

They get mad at me because I don’t go along
with the s.t.o.c.k drama.

One says, “Dude what’s wrong with you? You better do
something if you have money in the market.”

Notice how many times this set of friends use the
word “DUDE.” It’s kind of funny. Especially when they
call to tell me they called someone dude at work and
got into trouble.

Anyway, what’s this have to do with bipolar disorder?

For many of you, you’re like my friends–no plan and always
worried about the next disaster without any plan or system
as to what to do.

Are you constantly waiting for the next bipolar disaster without
a plan or system?

With bipolar disorder, without knowledge, a plan and a system,
things generally get worse and worse. Then you become terrified
all the time. You never know when the bipolar boogey man is
around the corner.

The reason why the people who freak out about stocks is
because they have no clue and no plan. I am no stock
expert but EVERY single investment guru says you can’t
freak out when the market goes down, even if it goes
down a lot.

I have a plan, and never worry when stocks go up and
down. My stocks went down after 9/11 my friends freaked
out they did all kind of crazy things. I didn’t do a
thing. I have a nice return over like 10% which is
average. I am happy. My friends lost money. They freaked
out because they didn’t have a plan and system.

This is just like bipolar disorder. You can’t freak out
when your loved one does something. For example, if my mom
get angry or looks depressed, I don’t freak out and go “OH
MY HERE IT COMES AGAIN. NOOOOOOOOOOOO!”
I don’t go into a corner and hide and hope for the best.
I sit and watch and monitor quietly.

I am not worried at all. Why because I have a system.

If:
My mom goes into a manic episode I have a system
My mom goes into a depressive episode I have a system
My mom tries to go on a spending spree I have a system
My mom can’t work because she isn’t feeling well I have a system
My mom starts screaming at me I have a system
My mom’s medication gets messed up, I have a system
My mom’s doctor retires tomorrow I have a system
My mom’s therapist moves to Bulgaria I have a system

People call me and ask for “quick advice.” They say, “Hey
I just need 3 minutes.” They want me to tell him how to
setup up all these systems in 3 to 5 minutes? Sometimes
I am amazed they ask. How can I teach them in 3 to 5 minutes?

When you go through my course at
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

You see this is impossible. The system I teach is easy
and simple and handles everything but it can’t be explained
in 3 to 5 minutes.

Right now you need to start planning. I am not telling you
to get my system but start working on your own. Just
start making a plan for everything and a solution if something
goes wrong.

Make a list of EVERY possible situation and a solution or
system that will help you.

Hey I have to run. Oh yea, real quick. Tonight I am going to
meet the doctor to ask about why people with bipolar disorder
who are in episodes sometimes exaggerate things that make it seem
like they are lying.

I will get back to you tomorrow.

Your Friend,

Dave

I got an email from someone yesterday that asked me about lyingand bipolar disorder. She asked if people with bipolar disorder lie.

First, people who don’t have bipolar disorder lie, as evidencedby a number of people I know
that do not have bipolar disorderand lie all the time.

But seriously, I understand what this person is asking.

Let me tell you what happen to me.

When my mom was really sick, she would say stuff that wasn’ttrue. She said my dad did things to her that he didn’t do.

She said one day he threw a fork at her. He did NOT do this. Howdo I know? I was standing there watching. She said that I saidso many things about her that weren’t even close to the truth.

It use to drive me crazy. I would start spending hours defendingmyself.

You know in my course, I teach, don’t waste your timeon this. If only I knew this before I invested like 50 hours ofmy time telling my mom I didn’t say or do the things she saidthat I was doing and saying.

The bottom line is this is one of the worst symptoms of bipolar disorder. That’s right I believe this is a symptom of the disorder. My mom doesn’t lie, misrepresent the truth, leaveout the facts or whatever you want to call it, when she is stable.

But, I could really tell my mom believed that certain things happenwhen they didn’t. So is that a lie? If you think something happenand really believe it, and you say it happen is that a lie?
Well not really in my book. It’s more like not telling the truth.But hey, I am not a lawyer and don’t play one on TV so whoknows?

I just know that it happens and it’s so difficult to deal with.

I just know that if your loved one is not stable he/she could start imaging things, or saying things that are not the truth.

I’ve heard horror stories from people that have gotten into BIG trouble because a loved one said something was done thatreally wasn’t but “the authorities” thought it was.

You know, when I first had my course up, I didn’t really have a lot about lying and bipolar disorder. Then peoplestarted asking me for information on what to do about the lying.

If you got my course at http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11you notice that: FREE Gift #9 is “The Pattern Of Lying In Bipolar Disorder.”

In this report, I outline a strategy that I use to deal with thelies that come from bipolar disorder. I truly have an entiremini system of dealing with lies from bipolar disorder and fixingor cleaning them up.

I had to use the techniques myself because my mom wound up saying so many things that were not true that created huge problems for me.

Actually just thinking about it starts making me sick.

That report does NOT however explain why a person with bipolardisorder who is unstable may lie. I have yet to find someonewho can tell me this.

I was so confused about this issue, I have asked severaldoctors over the years why this happens.

NONE have given me an answer.

Actually now that I think about it, tonight or tomorrow I am meetingwith a $650 a hour doctor so I might as well ask him this question again. (I say tonight or tomorrow because I forgetif the meeting is today or tomorrow, I have to check the olddaily planner.) Nevertheless, if he’s getting $650.00 an hour, you would think he would know right???

Well I have to run. I will report back to you later on what he says.

Your Friend,
Dave

Hey,

You’re gonna think I am crazy but I’m not 🙂 I swear!
Lobster is not a typo. Keep reading…

Here’s what happen to me, I told you how I was at that
seminar learning new ways to reach more people with
problems from bipolar disorder.

Anyway, I was kind of surprised that not too many
people were all that friendly. Now I know why New England,
in the good old USA, has a reputation of not being
very friendly.

Okay, I met one guy that I spoke with and then
I met a woman from Bulgaria.

She had a REALLY REALLY long drive to the US for the seminar.
Just kidding, she is from Bulgaria but is in school in the US.

We went to dinner to talk over seminar issues
and stuff. Anyway I was starving because I missed
several meals throughout the day.

We went to a Seafood place. Don’t worry there’s
a lesson in this story, keep reading.

So I ordered some stuff and then she said I have
to get a “whole lobster” since this area is famous for
lobster. Plus it was on sale and I am a BIG fan
of sales and saving money 🙂

I haven’t ever had a “whole lobster” in a while. So I ordered
it.

It came with a bunch of other seafood as well and I ate that first.
BUT, then I saw the lobster and well, I had no
idea how to eat it. I’ve had lobster tails, which
I know how to eat. I’ve had lobster meat and I know
how to eat that. But never a “whole lobster.”
I have never had such a lobster.

I was thinking in my head, “I have no idea how to
eat this lobster. Hmmm. What am I to do. Will I make
a fool out of myself? Will I do it wrong? Will I be
able to figure it out? What should I do?”

Now I did what I teach you guys to do. Asked for help.
Since Violeta (VEE O LET TA) suggested it (the person
I met at the seminar), I thought, she must know how to eat it.
So instead of pretending like I knew, or doing it the wrong
way, or hoping that some how the secret would pop into my
head, I decided to ask for help.

She was really happy to help. She didn’t make fun of me. She didn’t
say “Duh, I can’t believe you don’t know this.” She didn’t say, “
Figure it out yourself.” She didn’t say, “You moron, I can’t
believe you don’t know how to eat a whole lobster…I thoughts
Americans are smart???”

She was like most people, she wanted to help.
So, she gave me simple instructions on how to eat it.
(It was good by the way.)

What the heck does this have to do with bipolar disorder?
Here’s the deal. For many of you, you are struggling
to figure out a ton of stuff to be a good supporter.

How to cope and deal with your loved one’s mood swings
How to get your loved one into treatment
How to pay for treatment
How to find a qualified doctor
How to help your loved one get on disability (in some cases)
How to help your loved one find work.
How to help your loved one recover faster
And so forth.

BUT, you don’t know how to do many of these things. You
are confused. Some people just try to
figure it out on their own. Other people ask for help.

Here’s a real secret of my life. I ask for help all
the time. I am not shy as you can probably tell. If I need
help I am going to ask.

Much of my course at http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11
is the result of asking for a ton of help. I did a ton of
research but at the same time, I asked for help. I paid
it many times. Sometimes I got free help. Sometimes I had
to take people out to eat. I did want ever it took.

And you’ll notice that in my course at
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11
A common theme in many interviews is, if I only
knew what I know now about bipolar disorder,
my life would have been so much different years
ago.

The real secret to helping a loved one with
bipolar disorder is knowledge. Even my dad
now agrees with that. He just lacked a ton
of information for over 35 years about my
mom’s bipolar disorder.

Anyway, right now, you can start asking for help.
Ask doctors
As people in support groups if you go
Ask people you know in the same situation
Ask hospital officials
Ask social workers
Ask people you bump into
Ask therapists
Ask financial people, lawyers, etc for things you are dealing with
related to bipolar disorder.

And if someone people want lunch of dinner for help, get
it for them. If some doctors or therapists want to be paid,
pay them. It’s worth it. Don’t be a cheap skate.
Well that’s it. Have a great day. I hope you liked
my lobster story.

Your Friend,

Dave

Hi,

I got an email today from someone that said that I am
downplaying how bad bipolar disorder is. She said:

“You don’t know how bad this disease is because you
don’t have it. You act like it’s so easy to manage
and life can be great but it can’t when there is
ups and downs. You need to be honest”

I wanted to respond to this, first, I realize
there are many ups and downs. But I must say, a
person who is under the right doctor’s care
and following a treatment plan doesn’t seem to
have a whole lot of huge problems.

I have many people that work for me with bipolar disorder.
I work with them everyday and everything goes smooth.

In my materials, I try to point out how important
finding a doctor is for your loved one and making
sure your loved one follows the plan.

I don’t downplay how serious bipolar disorder is.
But I must say, when you look at bipolar disorder
compared to other illnesses, it’s not as bad.

You can control bipolar disorder with treatment.
There are certain illnesses that are guaranteed fatal
with NO treatment plans. This is not bipolar disorder.

I learned this concept from a person I interviewed
named Dimitri who is a great interview in my course
at
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

He is the one that told me this. He
had bipolar disorder and was thankful he had this
illness versus other ones that in his words, put
you in the grave right away with no hope.

He’s the same one that had some many problems and
then finally figured it out and turned his life
completely around.

In my opinion he is right. Many should stop saying
“I wish we weren’t dealing with bipolar disorder” to
maybe, “Well I am glad we are dealing with something
that there is plenty of information on and there is a
treatment plan and it’s not a guaranteed fatality like
other terrible illnesses.”

Hey I have to head over to my seminar. It’s suppose to
snow really bad so I might be stuck here for another
day.

But that means I can catch up on some work so I am okay
about it.

Your Friend,

Dave

Hi,

Right now I am at that seminar I told you I was going
to attend.

Listen to what happen to me.

Yesterday I was out walking around the hotel and bumped
into someone. I told him about my sites online and how
things were going well.

I then told him about the situation with my mom, how she
had a really bad episode years ago and is doing great.

Then I mentioned how great her doctor was. And that’s when
he kind of freaked out.

He said, “Oh those ‘shrinks’ they suck.”

I was caught off guard. First I HATE, HATE the word shrink.
You’re probably going to think that I am overly dramatically
but I can’t stand that word. It’s negative, it denigrates
a psychiatrist. It suggests the profession is not serious.
On and on.

Then I was thinking, “what do you mean they suck?”
So I asked why he would say such terrible things. He told me
a story how someone in his family went to one and they did
nothing at all, except, and I quote “Charge a lot of money
per hour for nothing.”

I asked some questions in a nice way and found that most likely,
he like so many other people I have spoken to, created his own
problems.

What do I mean? Well, his loved one was taken to the doctor. They
wanted instant results. They (the family) didn’t want to be
involved with the loved one’s care. He didn’t feel he had
to be involved and neither did anyone else.

They didn’t want the loved one to have take medication??
They didn’t want to pay a lot of money and thought that
more than $30 a hour was too much.
They didn’t want to drive a long way to the doctor?
They wanted the doctor to call and check in on them?
They believe that mental illness may not be “real.”
I heard this kind of stuff and was amazed. Then I cut him
off and said, “Frankly sir, you did everything wrong.”

You are blaming the doctor when you set him up to fail in
my opinion.
I told him all the things he could have done based on what I
teach in my course at:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

This is why I have a TON of information on finding a doctor,
picking them AND working with the doctor.

He said, “Ummm, I guess you are right when I think about it that
way.”

I knew he felt dumb, which he should.
Then I said, $30 for a session?? I said, it’s a serious illness,
these doctors have gone to school. Do you expect a traditional
doctor to charge $30 for a visit? What the heck? $30 a visit?
You can make $30 working in a manual labor job that’s mindless.

Do you think a doctor should get $30 a visit when people make
$30 for doing work you don’t even have to think about??
I was like come on. Then I told him how he should NOT call them
“shrinks.”

I then said, and I quote, “In my opinion Sir, and I want
to say this in the most respectful way, but I fell compelled
to say it, your mindset along with your family’s is terrible when
it comes to mental illness and that unfortunately led to your loved one’s lack of progress.”

Then I had to go.

He actually thanked me for helping him get his head out of his
butt.

But boy, was I amazed with this conversation.
But he’s not the only one, there are so many other people that
think these same types of things.
I hear stuff like this all the time.

But bottom line is, I have found that most psychiatrists are
good people that want to help someone with bipolar disorder. They
really care. But the situation is usually stacked against them.
People have unrealistic expectations of how fast results will occur
People want something for nothing…they want f.r.e.e treatment almost
People don’t want to be involved with loved one’s care. They want to
“dump” their loved one on the doctor and let them take care of it.

My dad, actually admitted to me, that he did this for years.
I could go on and on, but you get the idea.

Hey, I have to run and go catch some breakfast.

Have a great day.

Your Friend,

Dave

Many people have been wondering where I have been. I am still alive and working. I am reorganizing many parts of bipolarcentral.com to make it even better and allow me more free time to work on many projects. I will be posting more details soon. Stay tuned.