I got an email from someone yesterday that asked me about lyingand bipolar disorder. She asked if people with bipolar disorder lie.
First, people who don’t have bipolar disorder lie, as evidencedby a number of people I know
that do not have bipolar disorderand lie all the time.
But seriously, I understand what this person is asking.
Let me tell you what happen to me.
When my mom was really sick, she would say stuff that wasn’ttrue. She said my dad did things to her that he didn’t do.
She said one day he threw a fork at her. He did NOT do this. Howdo I know? I was standing there watching. She said that I saidso many things about her that weren’t even close to the truth.
It use to drive me crazy. I would start spending hours defendingmyself.
You know in my course, I teach, don’t waste your timeon this. If only I knew this before I invested like 50 hours ofmy time telling my mom I didn’t say or do the things she saidthat I was doing and saying.
The bottom line is this is one of the worst symptoms of bipolar disorder. That’s right I believe this is a symptom of the disorder. My mom doesn’t lie, misrepresent the truth, leaveout the facts or whatever you want to call it, when she is stable.
But, I could really tell my mom believed that certain things happenwhen they didn’t. So is that a lie? If you think something happenand really believe it, and you say it happen is that a lie?
Well not really in my book. It’s more like not telling the truth.But hey, I am not a lawyer and don’t play one on TV so whoknows?
I just know that it happens and it’s so difficult to deal with.
I just know that if your loved one is not stable he/she could start imaging things, or saying things that are not the truth.
I’ve heard horror stories from people that have gotten into BIG trouble because a loved one said something was done thatreally wasn’t but “the authorities” thought it was.
You know, when I first had my course up, I didn’t really have a lot about lying and bipolar disorder. Then peoplestarted asking me for information on what to do about the lying.
If you got my course at http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11you notice that: FREE Gift #9 is “The Pattern Of Lying In Bipolar Disorder.”
In this report, I outline a strategy that I use to deal with thelies that come from bipolar disorder. I truly have an entiremini system of dealing with lies from bipolar disorder and fixingor cleaning them up.
I had to use the techniques myself because my mom wound up saying so many things that were not true that created huge problems for me.
Actually just thinking about it starts making me sick.
That report does NOT however explain why a person with bipolardisorder who is unstable may lie. I have yet to find someonewho can tell me this.
I was so confused about this issue, I have asked severaldoctors over the years why this happens.
NONE have given me an answer.
Actually now that I think about it, tonight or tomorrow I am meetingwith a $650 a hour doctor so I might as well ask him this question again. (I say tonight or tomorrow because I forgetif the meeting is today or tomorrow, I have to check the olddaily planner.) Nevertheless, if he’s getting $650.00 an hour, you would think he would know right???
Well I have to run. I will report back to you later on what he says.