Hi,

How’s it going?

I hope you are doing well.

I wanted to tell you about something. It’s a book I read last night.

Last night I went to my book shelf and decided to read something new. I have a ton of books. I buy them all over the place. Sometimes in libraries I go to, they give away books or sell them.

I have about 10 book cases of books.

Well anyway, I grabbed a book at about 12:00pm called:

The Luck Factor by Dr. Richard Wiseman.

This is an EXCELLENT book. I HIGHLY recommend you get it. You can get it at Amazon, local book store or from the library (I checked online and a number of libraries I have access to have it.)

This book really should be required reading for everyone on the planet. I am not kidding.

What’s it about? It’s about why some are lucky and unlucky. The book actually teaches anyone how to be lucky. It sounds crazy but it’s true.

The information in the book is step by step. I have been doing a lot of what it’s said for many years and it’s why I get a lot done.

One of the concepts in the book is “Expect Good Fortune.”

The book talks about how lucky or successful people expect to be lucky and successful and that’s one major key.

Now you might think, “Dave, what the heck? That’s really dumb, if I was lucky I would expect good things to happen. What’s wrong with you today?”

Hold on. Let me explain.

The book talks about how before people were lucky, they expected to be lucky and this expectation caused a lot of luck to happen.

It’s an entire book and the guy really explains it well. Get it and read it for further explanation.

But here’s the key thing with bipolar disorder.

When I first started with my mom, I expected good fortune and I expected my mom would get better, become stable and it would all work out.

There was absolutely no question in my mind this would happen. Isn’t that odd that I would think this way after more than 35 years of it not being this way?

For some reason, I think I was too dumb to know how hard it was going to be. I looked at it as a project and I am good at projects.  I just thought, “Hey, this is another project and I will knock this project out like I knock all projects out.”

No matter what the situation was, I expected it would work out.

My mom was in massive d.ebt, and I expected that she would pay it all off. I expected that I would find or make a system to make that happen. People around me thought I was out of my mind.

I was thinking about this concept in the Luck Book and thinking about how I helped my mom. Then I was thinking about everyone I know who does well with bipolar disorder.

ALL these people expect good things about their bipolar disorder. They expect they will find and have good doctors. They expect they will be able to manage bipolar disorder. They expect they will find people who understand their bipolar disorder.

They basically expect it will all work out for the best. They do what the book says to do, which is expect good fortune.

Now, I know a TON of unsuccessful people with bipolar disorder. They do a ton wrong but the one thing that stands out the most is they do NOT expect good fortune. They actually expect bad fortune. They expect massive side effects from their medications. They expect doctors won’t want to help them. They expect no one will understand them. They expect life will always be very difficult.

In my courses/systems below:

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Of all the success stories I found, and there’s a lot in these course, expecting good fortune was critical for people. Whether the person was a bipolar supporter or bipolar survivor.

I ask you, what are your expectations and what do you think of this concept? Agree or disagree?

Hey, I might be going hiking today. I am not sure. It might rain so I won’t go. But I have to get ready just in case it doesn’t rain. So I will catch you tomorrow, okay?

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Hi,

How’s it going?

I saw something interesting that I wanted to share with you.

A reader wrote to BP Magazine:

Though I’ve struggled with my emotions for many years (I’m 45), I was not diagnosed with bipolar disorder II until about 10 years ago. I’ve taken the required medications and gone to therapy, but neither of these is a substitute for what I want: acceptance and understanding of my condition from my family and friends..

I have chosen to reveal my diagnosis only to a trusted few. Knowing the very real stigma against mental illness that still exists, I have chosen not to ‘go public.’ I don’t feel I have the strength to overcome any rejection I might face. Yet at t times I am desperately lonely…How does one get the inner strength not to care?  –H.P., Kent, WA

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Wow. That’s some serious stuff. It’s sad to think that in today’s advanced society that there’s still so much stigma associated with bipolar disorder.

But yet it’s still there, and that’s why in my courses/systems I talk about the stigma and how you have to decide whether you’re going to tell people whether you have bipolar disorder or not, like this woman was saying.

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But what a question, huh? How does one get the inner strength not to care?

I’ve had many, many people talk to me or write to me about the loneliness associated with bipolar disorder and the

desperation that comes from not telling people that they have the disorder.

They’ve also told me about the basic mistrust of society and even of their own family and friends that has resulted when they have told and were hurt and rejected, or even just treated differently.

Many times I’ve heard the cry, ‘I just want to be ME!’

But this question really bothers me – How does one get the inner strength not to care?’

It just sounds so sad. Like she wants to just give up but doesn’t have the strength to do it.

It’s hard for me to understand, because I’m always looking at the positive side of things, always encouraging you to continue fighting against the disorder and the stigma associated with it.  Maybe you can explain it to me, because I really don’t get it. What drives you to this kind of desperation?

Maybe if she took the risk and told the right people and was met with positive feedback, she wouldn’t feel this way. Then she could expand her support system, and wouldn’t feel so lonely. That’s the way I see it.

Of course, my opinion may be different than yours.

I’m not trying to simplify this thing, or try to say that her pain isn’t real, believe me. You can tell by her letter that she’s in a lot of pain.  And I know that the decision of to tell or not to tell isn’t made lightly – that’s why I have a whole section on it in my courses. I know what kind of a struggle it can be.

What I’m saying is that if you choose not to go public like this woman, you have to accept the consequences. Then you feel like you’re carrying around a secret you can’t tell anyone except a select few family members and maybe a friend or two. It’s a great chip on your shoulder. But it’s your own fault, because it’s your choice, and you have to live with it.  I’m not saying what this woman did was wrong. But she could always un-choose it rather than complain about it.

Still, there’s that question.

Like she’s really bothered by the fact that she probably cares too much about what other people think. Like she can’t tell them she has bipolar disorder because she’s scared of what they’d think, but then she’s bothered by the fact that she cares about that in the first place. And maybe she’s wondering if she did the right thing.

It’s still all about the stigma associated with bipolar disorder, and that’s still not good. I spend so much time, energy, and money trying to educate people about the disorder (which is my way of fighting the stigma), and sometimes I get discouraged, because I wonder – like when I read letters like this – if I’m even making a dent in the stigma.

But I also think maybe if more people opened up about it – if more supporters and their loved ones showed good examples of managing the disorder – that the stigma would decrease. But that would mean more people telling that they have it.

Maybe I’m wrong. I don’t know. What do you think?

David Oliver is the author of the shocking guide “Bipolar Disorder—The REAL Silent Killer.” Click Here to get FREE Information sent via email on how and why bipolar disorder kills.

Hi,

How’s it going? I hope you are doing well.

I have one million things to do today so I have to go pretty quick.

Michele, who works for me, was asked to speak at a bipolar disorder support group about bipolar recovery, and was told that the group was mainly made up of “caregivers.”  She told them about our website and explained that we use the term “supporters” rather than “caregivers.”

Now, it may just seem like semantics, but there really is a difference in the two terms.

She explained the difference this way:

The most glaring thing was this – the woman told her that the typical meeting was 10-15 “caregivers” getting together and talking about medications and complaining about bipolar disorder and their loved ones , and that was pretty much it – that was all they did, month after month, the same thing.  Nothing positive, everything negative.

So this was her idea of a caregiver – someone who wasn’t very knowledgeable about bipolar disorder, who only “took  care of” the other person, and who complained about it all the time, the only information exchanged being about medications.

Whereas, we view a supporter as so much more than that.  For one thing, we view a supporter in a much more positive way.  In fact, I’ve written an entire course specifically for supporters of a loved one with bipolar disorder: SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
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When Michele told me what happened about the bipolar support group and we talked about it, she explained the difference to me in her view:

She said that she had had a very good friend who had end-stage breast cancer, and in the very end, her and a couple other girlfriends took shifts so that her friend would have found-the-clock care to make her last days the most comfort- able they could be.  They read to her, prayed with her, gave her ice chips, put cold cloths on her forehead, and  other acts like that.

These were the types of things she associated with being a “caregiver” – simple gestures of meeting another person’s basic needs, such as during an end-stage illness such as cancer. Basically, doing things for them that  they can no longer do for themselves.

This picture is so much different than what we consider a supporter.  For example, if a supporter did things for a loved one with bipolar disorder which that loved one was capable of doing for themselves, we would consider that “enabling,” rather than “supporting,” and enabling is something that supporters should not do, because it does not help your loved one.

Being a supporter means exactly that – that you support your loved one and help  them to manage their bipolar disorder. You don’t do it for them.  You encourage independence (where possible and realistic), while still being there for them when they do need you.  You remain understanding, loving, and compassionate; however, you do not allow yourself to be a doormat during their episodes.

Being a good supporter means setting boundaries for acceptable and unacceptable behavior and then enforcing those boundaries.

Being a supporter is being a partner in your loved one’s recovery.  It is definitely NOT being a “caregiver.”

Do you see the difference now between being a “caregiver” and being a “supporter”?

So which are you?

David Oliver is the author of the shocking guide “Bipolar Disorder—The REAL Silent Killer.” Click Here to get FREE Information sent via email on how and why bipolar disorder kills.

Hi,

I’ve got to tell you about this woman I heard about – her story is so inspiring!

Her name is Paula, and she has fibromyalgia. Most of the time she is in constant pain throughout her whole body. But does she complain? No. Does she just lay in bed and let her supporter wait on her hand and foot? No. Does she just sit back and take money from the government? No.

Paula started her own home-based business over the Internet. She makes customized plaques for people. She loves what she does. She doesn’t make a fortune, but she makes people happy, and that makes her feel good. Having her own business instead of just sitting around makes her feel good about herself, too.

She has good days and bad days. But because she has such a positive attitude, even her bad days are not as bad as they could be.

The thing that I’ve learned from Paula is that, even though you might have limitations, you’re only as limited as you think you are!

In other words, you’re only as limited as you let yourself be. It’s your choice – Yes, you have limitations because of the bipolar disorder, but if you let them limit you, they will.

On the other hand, if you choose, you can rise above those limitations (don’t let them limit you), and you can accomplish great things in spite of them!

Just look at what Paula did, starting her own home business, not letting the fibromyalgia stop her.

In my courses/systems, I encourage people with bipolar disorder to do the same thing – to start their own home-based businesses:

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Here’s another case to illustrate what I’m talking about:

You know Michele who works for me. She doesn’t just have bipolar disorder. What she says is “If the diagnosis has letters in it, I have it!”

She says that in a humorous way, but besides having bipolar disorder, she has schizophrenia, ADHD, BPD, OCPD, PTSD, and anxiety/panic disorder. Not only has she risen above all these disorders, but she is one of my best employees! She has not let her disorders limit her.

Now compare Michele to someone who, say, just has bipolar disorder. And I put the emphasis on “just.” Because despite all the things you complain about with you or your loved one’s bipolar disorder, don’t they seem small in comparison to a Michele or a Paula, who have not let their limitations limit them?

So instead of complaining about the bipolar disorder and all your problems, think about this – you should be grateful that all you’re dealing with is bipolar disorder.

Because instead you could be dealing with something worse, like Paula and her fibromyalgia (but who doesn’t complain) or Michele with all her disorders besides bipolar disorder (but who doesn’t complain either).

It’s your choice – you can complain (which gets you nowhere anyway) and let your limitations limit you, or you can stop complaining and rise above your limitations.

Remember – you’re only as limited as you think you are!

David Oliver is the author of the shocking guide “Bipolar Disorder—The REAL Silent Killer.” Click Here to get FREE Information sent via email on how and why bipolar disorder kills.

Hi,

OK, here’s today’s lesson in logic:

A + B = C

You probably think I’m crazy, right? Yeah, well, a lot of people do, so I’m used to that.

But by the time you’re done with this email you’ll understand.

See, there’s a certain logic to life. Just like there’s a certain logic to the formula above (A + B = C).

In other words, you can’t get from A to C without going through B. And that’s a very important concept. Not just in logic, or in math, but in life. And in bipolar disorder.

I’ll tell you why.

Too many people think that if they just leave it alone, the bipolar disorder will go away all by itself. Wrong! (You can’t get to C without going through B)  Too many people with bipolar disorder think that if they try to do it without a supporter that they’ll be able to manage it all by them- selves. Wrong! (You can’t get to C without going through B)

You can’t expect the bipolar disorder to go away on its own any more than you can expect a bacterial infection to go away on its own without antibiotics (and especially that you have to take the WHOLE bottle even after you start feeling better). (You can’t get to C without going through B)

In my courses/systems, I talk about the fact that you are not alone, but I also talk about how you can’t do it alone – that one of the first things you do is develop a support system, because you need help if you’re going to manage your bipolar disorder:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?

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The fact is (again), that you just can’t get from A to C without going through B. That’s just plain logic.

With bipolar disorder, there are certain things you have to do to manage the disorder (the B of the equation). If you do these things, you can manage the disorder. If you skip these things, (getting to C without going through B first), you will NOT be able to manage the disorder.

What are these things (the B’s)?

1. Medication Medication is absolutely critical to managing bipolar disorder. You need to have the right medication in the  night dosage.

2. Therapy You need to see a therapist to help you work out the issues that having bipolar disorder or being a supporter to a loved one with the disorder bring up.

3. Psychiatrist A psychiatrist is the one who prescribes the medication for bipolar disorder. If you are a supporter, your role here is to make sure your loved one takes their medication, and when they’re supposed to.

These are just some of the “B’s” of managing bipolar disorder. The main ones.

Do you understand now how the formula A + B = C makes sense as it relates to bipolar disorder?

You just can’t get from A to C without going through B. You just can’t expect the bipolar disorder to manage itself. You have to do the work necessary to help manage it.

David Oliver is the author of the shocking guide “Bipolar Disorder—The REAL Silent Killer.” Click Here to get FREE Information sent via email on how and why bipolar disorder kills.

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Hi,

How’s it going?

Well I have to drive back from Connecticut today.

Before I take off, I wanted to talk about something.

Do you complain a lot?  Has anyone ever accused you of being a complainer?

Well, I heard about this pastor in a church in Missouri who got tired of his parishioners complaining all the time, usually about trivial things.

So he got this idea of handing out purple rubber bracelets with the words “No Complaints” on them.

The pledge was: to swear off complaining, criticizing, gossiping, or using sarcasm for 21 days.  If you could do this, you would get a special certificate.

BUT… if you found yourself complaining, etc., you had to take the bracelet, put it on your other wrist, and start counting all over again!

This began in the summer of 2006, with the pastor’s home church, but by 2007, the idea had grown globally, and they were averaging requests for 7,000 complaint-free purple bracelets a week, to nine countries around the world!

So how does this relate to bipolar disorder?

First of all, because in my courses I talk about having a positive attitude and about positive thinking, affirmations, etc. And being a complainer absolutely does NOT fit into this:

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But anyway, I was thinking about these “complaint-free” bracelets, and I talked to a friend of mine about it. You know, just saying how cool that would be, and wondering out loud if he could do that. He said, “There’s no way I could not complain for 21 days in a row – I’ve got an 18-year-old who still lives at home!”

And I thought, I wonder if I were to ask supporters of loved ones with bipolar disorder…what would they say?

Would you react like my friend with the 18-year-old?

I know that being a supporter of a loved one with bipolar disorder is basically a thankless job, because I am a supporter to my mom who has it.

But if you were asked to take on this challenge, would your first reaction be,  “No way!  I couldn’t go 21 days without complaining – I live with someone who has bipolar disorder!”

Or would you rise up to the challenge and “wear the purple bracelet” and not complain, etc., for 21 days?

bipolar disorder? Could you really go 21 days without complaining, criticizing, or using sarcasm about your loved one withIf so, take a thick rubber band that fits not-too-tight around your wrist and write with marker the words “NO COMPLAINTS” on it.

Are you up to the challenge?

Hey I have to get ready for a long drive. Talk to you to tomorrow.

David Oliver is the author of the shocking guide “Bipolar Disorder—The REAL Silent Killer.” Click Here to get FREE Information sent via email on how and why bipolar disorder kills.

Hi,

Today I want to talk to you about

UNKEEPABLE PROMISES

This is a serious subject, and I’m sure many of you have come up against this.

This is more than just promising your child something for Christmas and then not being able to get it for them.

Hear me out –

This is like an alcoholic or addict promising never to do it again (just to get their parents, spouse, family, or the court system off their back), but then doing it again  anyway, because they’re in full blown addiction.  They made an unkeepable promise.

This is like a company that promises no lay-offs, but then goes into a down period and has to lay off some of their employees anyway.  They shouldn’t have made the promise in the first place, because business is unpredictable.  They made an unkeepable promise.

This is like the government promising no new taxes or promising to cut old taxes and then doing it anyway.  Or promising us there won’t be a recession and then there is.  They never should have made these promises to begin with.  Our government is notorious for making unkeepable promises.

Now here’s the point:

TRUE STORY:

Bill promised Michele he would never put her in the hospital again during a bipolar episode.

One day, when Michele was in a bad manic episode, Bill came home to find Michele had scratched up her arms (using her fingernails) until they were so deep and long that they were bleeding.

Michele was completely unaware that she had done/was doing this. She felt no pain.  She was doing this subconsciously.

NOTE:  This is called self- mutilization, and is one of the signs/symptoms of a type of bipolar disorder that I go over in my courses:

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Bill tried to stop Michele, but he couldn’t.  He tried to reason with her, but he couldn’t.  He tried to get Michele to go to the hospital, but he couldn’t.

All Michele kept saying was, “You promised you would never put me in the hospital again!”  Over and over again.

Bill didn’t know what to do. He knew he had made that promise and, not being a man who breaks his promises, he just didn’t know what to do.

But he also knew he couldn’t just sit there and watch his wife suffer. Maybe she didn’t feel the pain from scratching her arms until they bled, but it was painful for him to watch and do nothing.

He realized he had made an unkeepable promise, and he took her to the hospital anyway.  It was for her own good, even though she couldn’t know it at the time.  But she had become a danger to herself.
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The point of that story is that, as a supporter of a loved one with bipolar disorder, you may find yourself having to break a promise to your loved one as well.

I know of another case where this  happened between a supporter and his wife, where he promised his wife that he wouldn’t ever take her to the hospital again, and because he didn’t, what should have been just maybe a month-long episode turned into a six-month episode.

Now, you don’t want that to happen to you.  So the first thing is, don’t ever promise your loved one that you will never take them to the hospital. But the second thing is, if you have done that, understand that it may be
an unkeepable promise.  Hopefully, if you do find yourself in this situation, your loved one will go into the hospital on a voluntary basis.  But if not, you may have to face involuntary hospitalization.

The important thing is that with bipolar disorder, you have to be really careful and watch for these signs/symptoms of self-harm, etc. to make sure your loved one is not a harm to themselves or others, because that’s when hospitalization is necessary.

David Oliver is the author of the shocking guide “Bipolar Disorder—The REAL Silent Killer.” Click Here to get FREE Information sent via email on how and why bipolar disorder kills.

Hi,

I just got back from the gym.

Sorry for the delay in sending this out.

Here’s the current bipolar news.

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Life on a bipolar roller-coaster
DO> Very good article.

A walk at night shines a light on suicide
DO> Very sad article, what do you think?

Educating Society About Depression and Mental Illness – Must Know …
DO> This is so true, you think?

Until the stigma is no more
DO> Hmm. What do you think of this?

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Hi,

These days, it seems that almost all of us are too serious. I heard recently that there really is a statistic out there that says that people who laugh longer, live longer.

I wish more people knew about this statistic, because in general, people are frustrated and angry about virtually everything these days – being five minutes late, having someone else show up five minutes late, being stuck in traffic, someone looking at them the wrong way or saying the wrong thing, paying bills, waiting in line, their meal being overcooked in a restaurant, someone making an honest mistake – you name it, and people these days lose perspective over it.

The root of all of us being so frustrated and angry is our unwillingness to accept life as being different, in any way, from our expectations. Simply put, we want things to be a certain way, but they’re not a certain way. Life is simply just “as it is.” I think Benjamin Franklin said it best: “Our limited perspective, our hopes and fears become our measure of life, and when circumstances don’t fit our ideas, they become our difficulties.” In other words, we spend our lives wanting people, things, and circumstances to be just as we want them to be – and when they’re not, we fight and we suffer.

The first step in recovering from being too serious is to admit that you have a problem. You have to want to change, to become more easygoing. You have to see that your own frustration and anger is largely of your own making – it’s composed of the way you’ve set up your life and the way you react to it.

The next step is to understand the link between your expectations and your frustration level. Whenever you expect something to be a certain way and it isn’t, you get upset and you suffer. On the other hand, when you let go of your expectations, and when you accept life just as it is (instead of how you want it to be), you’re free! Of course, being able to do this is no easy task (I never

said it would be easy). To hold on is to be frustrated and angry, to let go is to lighten up.

I know a lot of you are thinking, “Boy, that’s easy for him to say, he doesn’t have to deal with bipolar disorder all the time like I do.” Don’t forget, I’m also a supporter – remember what started all this for me – having a mom who has bipolar disorder. So when I’m talking to you, I’m just as much talking to myself! I may not know your particular situation, but I do know about being a supporter of a loved one with bipolar disorder.

In my courses/systems, one of the things I teach about is how to have realistic expectations. That’s how you can get over these frustrations and anger about things not going the way you want/expect them to:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?

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HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?

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Here’s a good exercise for you:

Try to approach a single day without any expectations at all. Don’t expect people to be friendly. Then when they’re not friendly, you won’t be disappointed. And if they are, you’ll be pleasantly surprised. Don’t expect your day to be problem-free. You still need to be realistic. Instead, as problems come up, say to yourself, “Oh well, another obstacle to overcome.” As you approach your day in this manner, you’ll notice how different your attitude toward your day can be. Rather than fighting against life, you’ll be more accepting of it. Pretty soon, with practice, you’ll lighten up your entire life. And when you lighten up, life is a lot more fun!

It’s still your choice, of course. You can continue to be serious. You can continue to have a negative view of life. You have the right – of course you do, because you’re having to deal with bipolar disorder! Everyone should understand that.

But you also have the choice to take the seriousness out of it. Oh, I’m not saying that bipolar disorder is not   serious disorder, so don’t get me wrong. Remember, I deal with it, too, so I know how serious it is. All I’m saying is give the seriousness a day off once in a while, and enjoy your life!

Just because you’re dealing with bipolar disorder does NOT mean you’re dealing with a death sentence! Life can still be enjoyable. You can still have fun.

I know a couple where they BOTH have bipolar disorder! They’re married, and yet every Friday night, they go out on “Date Night.” It’s nothing expensive or extravagant, but they go out alone, and enjoy themselves. Even if it’s just a movie. Just something that gets them out of the house, and something they enjoy together. Sometimes they just go to the mall, eat something at the food court and watch all the people.

Having bipolar disorder doesn’t have to make you serious all the time.

Lighten up, don’t be so serious, and put some fun back in your life!

David Oliver is the author of the shocking guide “Bipolar Disorder—The REAL Silent Killer.” Click Here to get FREE Information sent via email on how and why bipolar disorder kills.