Hi,

I hope today’s a good day for you.

How’s it going? I hope you are doing really well.

I have a really important bipolar lesson for you today.

Here’s how I thought of it.

Yesterday after I got back from babysitting three kids and two dogs (which is a really hard thing to do but fortunately someone else was there to help), I was planning my week out which I almost always do on Sundays.

I was noticing that someone that I hired about 5 to weeks ago or so has accomplished more in 4 weeks than the previous people in her position had done in 6 months.

It’s amazing. This person is truly incredible. She is handling so many things and helping to dramatically advance the entire organization so we can help more and more people dealing with bipolar disorder.

There was one person that I hired a few months back that had excuse after excuse as to why she couldn’t get things done. I heard it all. This most recent person came in and did everything she was suppose to do, plus 5 times as much in 20% of the time. It was amazing.

She is a great person.

Over the last 8 months I have hired some really great people and some really, really, really bad people unfortunately.

This got me to thinking about the true cost of bad people with bipolar disorder. Bad people who are suppose to help you with bipolar disorder are like bad employees and contractors. This can happen in several ways.

For example, a bad doctor. A bad doctor can really throw off your loved one’s bipolar disorder.

They can get bad prescriptions – their medication can be “off,” even throwing them into an episode, or even if they don’t go into an episode, they may become a handful for you.

Their thoughts can become distorted, their thinking can be just as “off” as their medication – they can even become delusional or start to hallucinate or become violent.

All because of the true cost of a bad doctor.

You can avoid this by using my good-doctor finding system that I teach in my courses/systems below:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?

Visit:

http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?

Visit:

http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?

Visit:

http://www.survivebipolar.net

You might think you’re saving money by going to a cheaper doctor, but you’re really not.

You have to figure out the TRUE cost.

It’s the same thing with your loved one’s therapist.

Do you want the least expensive, or do you want one who is truly going to help your loved one to get better?

A bad doctor and/or therapist can cost you a ton in the long run. They have cost my mom hundreds of thousands of dollars, and at times I wondered if she got any better at all!

You might think that’s an exaggeration but it isn’t. My mom LOST hundreds of thousands of dollars from bad doctors and therapist. HUNDREDS of thousands.

So there are some good doctors and therapists, and there are some bad doctors and therapists. You just have to find a good one who will help your loved one.

I was thinking about this because Megan, who works for me, had pointed out to me that I have to really work hard on the front end of hiring.

If I try to hire someone just because they don’t want as much money as someone else who has the same skills, it might come back to bite me!

I just have to think about hiring the best person for the job, instead of the cheapest, just like I was telling you about the doctor and therapist for your loved one.

The point is, it’s not whether you hurt your doctor’s or therapist’s feelings or not, if you have to change doctors or therapists because the one you have isn’t really helping your loved one.

Just like I can’t be worried about hurting the feelings of someone I have to fire if they’re not doing their job, or worrying about saving or spending money on hiring a better person for the job even though it might cost me more money.

The most important thing is your loved one and managing their bipolar disorder.

And you can’t be thinking that the cheapest doctor or therapist is the best, just because they’re the cheapest. Actually, they’re usually not the best.

And the opposite is also true. Don’t think that the most expensive doctor or therapist is the best, either, just because they’re the most expensive.

It’s usually the one that comes somewhere in between.

But you need to spend time researching who you are working with. This includes not only doctors and therapists but everyone. Your Primary care physician. Your pharmacist. Your employee rehabilitation person (if you have one), etc.

You must screen. You must not just take any old person.

And finally don’t fall for the “we have to take so and so because this is the only option.” There’s always another option than taking any old random bad person.

Anyone have any comments on working with bad people versus good people with bipolar disorder and how devastating it turned out to be?

FIND OUT WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING ABOUT ME

Visit: http://www.bipolarcentral.com/testimonials

David Oliver is the author of the shocking guide “Bipolar Disorder—The REAL Silent Killer.” Click Here to get FREE Information sent via email on how and why bipolar disorder kills.

Hi,

How’s it going?

WOW lots of responses to my daily email yesterday.

I noticed a few people who are on my list asked me “why do you post these types of things do you need constant reassurance of what you are doing?”

The answer is no.

I am going to send a daily email out soon as to why I do this. There is of course a good reason.

For all wondering, ask yourself, do you think I am the kind of person that just does random stuff? I don’t. I plan. There are reasons for everything.

Anyway, I hope this day is a good one for you.

I need to tell you this story about a friend of mine, because I think it’s funny, and I think you will too, when you hear it:

This is the same friend who spends most of his days thinking about how to go out on more dates! Really!

Now, he’s a young guy that lives at home and has no bills. But he always has these dating strategies that are really funny but in a way make sense.

He was telling me the other day about

THE DATE TEST RUN

Basically, he has 9 different places he will take a girl out on a date.

In every case, he has the menu and what goes on. He knows where the bathrooms are. He pretty much knows who works there.

How? Well, he went there beforehand, got the menu, and asked lots of questions.

He even took it a step further and asked his mom what kinds of foods at each place would be good for a girl. (NOTE: He told his mom it was a project. He said it wasn’t “really” a lie to his mom, because it really was kind of a project. LOL)

Anyway, I was listening and thinking, “That’s a lot of work!”

Ok, so what does this have to do with bipolar disorder?

Here’s what:

I did the same thing for my mom’s doctor and therapist. (No, not take them out on dates. LOL).

But I did check both of them out in certain ways. And this is sort of how I developed my doctor finding system that I teach people about in my courses/systems below:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?

Visit:

http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?

Visit:

http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?

Visit:

http://www.survivebipolar.net

You’re going to think I’m crazy, but this is what I really did:

I went to the doctor’s office by myself BEFORE my mom went. I wanted to make sure it was in a nice place. I actually went in.

I asked questions like, “Umm…is Dr. (I made up a name) in?” I wanted to see how I was treated.

If they said, “Scram, get the heck out of here, there’s no Dr. X.” I would have stopped my mom from going to that doctor.

I did the same thing with the therapist. I didn’t go in, but I looked at the outside door. Then I struck up a conversation with the people who were in the offices next to her.

I asked, “Hey, how’s it going? I noticed that there’s a therapist over there. My mom is looking for one. Do you know anything about her? Would you recommend her for your mom if your mom needed a therapist? Please be honest.”

I felt like people told me the truth – which was all good things.

NOTE: I timed the drive to both places just to see. I also checked around for traffic.

I felt good knowing where my mom was going. Back in the day, I had a plan to take my mom, but she wanted to take herself. Anyway, the point is that I was prepared.

Then I did something else. I called both places. I left messages to see the response time and how people responded.

Ok, I am going to admit something for the first time ever. I actually had one of my friends call as well.

He reported good things back to me, too.

This whole story may sound crazy to you, but I wanted to tell it to you to show you how important it is to find a good doctor and therapist.

My friend says, “Dude, you don’t want to screw it up. You have to have a dry run. They even do dry runs in the military, so it’s smart.”

I think so, too.

Lots of people think this is stupid and doesn’t make sense and these are people that don’t do well with bipolar disorder. These things make sense and work. It’s important. Would you buy a house without checking it out? Would you buy a car without a test drive? Would you marry someone with checking them out? Of course not.

This idea works. Try it.

Hey I have to run. I am going to the park. Actually on the park note. I can’t believe there are people that get all mad that I talk about going to the park. They write things like, “I wish my life was like yours and I could go to the park.” What the heck? Who can’t go to the park? It’s f.ree. EVERYONE can go not unless you are in a country that bans going to the park. There are people in wheelchairs at my park? They go without complaining and I talk to them all the time. For those complaining? Why can’t you go?

Give me one good reason for those complaining? Also let me know what you think of this strategy.

FIND OUT WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING ABOUT ME

Visit: http://www.bipolarcentral.com/testimonials

David Oliver is the author of the shocking guide “Bipolar Disorder—The REAL Silent Killer.” Click Here to get FREE Information sent via email on how and why bipolar disorder kills.

Hi,

Hope you’re doing great today.

You’re probably doing better than this guy that wrote me the following post on my blog (I hope it doesn’t offend you – it’s pretty bad):

“David – take me off your mailing list immediately. Your post concerning forums was completely over the top and self-serving. You are trying to make money off the problems people have and as far as I am concerned you are a completely sick individual who will have a special place in hell. I’ll pray that you gain some morality and avoid that, however you at the present time are a greedy, depraved individual and I want no more of your disturbing trash in my mailbox. Further, I will post a warning against your name and your “programs” on my site and on every other site with which I correspond,and those are many. I fervently hope you go broke! No one deserves it more!”

-Jeremy

———————————————————————-

WOW! That is one angry man!

I’ve gotten posts like this before, and hate mail, even threats on my life (I’ve reported them, don’t worry), but this is a really bad one. So much hatred out of one man, I can’t believe it.

I just wrote him back that I was sorry he felt that way, that I would pray for him and that I forgive him. I mean, what else could I say? Anything else would be defending myself against obviously untrue allegations.

I have no idea what this person’s situation is. Some who work for me that have bipolar disorder think he could. Others who work for me, say he is just mad at the world and taking it out on me. We don’t know.

I have however received messages like this from people who have had bipolar disorder and gone off their medications. If you have been on my list for at least 3 months you’ll remember that I was getting many death threats from the same few people. Finally they went into treatment. How I know? I spoke to their loved one’s who were supporting them.

When you go off your medication and have bipolar disorder you do and say some really terrible things.

Some people become very violent, like several people on my list in the past . This person is violent with his words.

What triggered this person’s comments to me?

I believe he’s talking about the daily email I wrote about where I talked about how you can’t listen to forum posts where they just complain, or where they tell you what to do, and I talked about the military man I knew who said that it’s like going to a forum to learn how to be a soldier and fight in Iraq.

How could he get this angry over that? I don’t understand it. How could he say that was self-serving? How could he get that out of that?

As far as me making money off the problems people have, just ask any of the people I have helped. I have over 8,000 (maybe 10,000 we stopped counting at 8,000)

testimonials from people who have written me thanking me for the courses/systems I sell that have helped them as supporters and their loved ones who have bipolar disorder. And I get more and more each day.

I’m not a gazillionaire. I don’t even pay myself a salary! The money I do make goes into paying the people who work for me and into new courses/systems to help even more people “who have problems.” (like this guy says)

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?

Visit:

http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?

Visit:

http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?

Visit:

http://www.survivebipolar.net

Also, ask anyone who works for me.

I employ several people who have disabilities, some even with more than one. Many who have bipolar disorder themselves. These people couldn’t work for “regular” businesses.

Other businesses wouldn’t hire them because they had bipolar disorder or another disorder. They’re able to work for me, first because I was willing to give them a chance that other businesses wouldn’t, but also because I gave them the opportunity to work from home that they couldn’t get anywhere else.

Does that sound like a “completely sick individual who will have a special place in hell”? (what that guy said in his post) That really hurt me, until I reminded myself that he is exactly the type of person that I am trying to help. He is a very sick man. He is a very sick man.   Like the people who work for me said, maybe in a manic episode,  and very angry.  He’s just taking his anger out on me.I am not greedy, like he accused me of being. If I was, there would be no new courses for people like you to help you manage your problems and your loved one’s bipolar disorder.

I come out with new material all the time to help people. If I was greedy, I’d be making all this money, and it would go to me (and I would be that gazillionaire) instead of programs to help people with disorders like bipolar disorder and borderline personality disorder and schizophrenia.

There wouldn’t be any daily emails, and there sure wouldn’t be bipolarcentral.com.

If this weren’t so sad, it would be laughable.

But you’re a supporter, and you know this isn’t a laughable thing. Maybe even your loved one has acted like this, and it isn’t funny.

Without medication, a person with bipolar disorder can have distorted thinking, and say things like this man did. That’s why I can’t even be offended by his words. I can only feel sorry for him. Just like I would for your loved one.

Empty threats. Nasty threats, but empty threats. That’s all they are. They would normally hurt my feelings, but I understand them.

Without medication, and/or when someone with bipolar disorder is not stable, or in an episode, they can act like this.

So if your loved one does act like this, like goes off their medication or does go into an episode, although it may seem like they’re directing their anger at you, it’s probably just the bipolar disorder talking.

Hey I have to run. I am probably going to the park today with my Goddaughter Anna. Tomorrow I am going hiking. I just got a new camera and I will be taking photos. I am working on a better system to take photos and post them so you can see. What do you think of what this guy said?

FIND OUT WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING ABOUT ME

Visit: http://www.bipolarcentral.com/testimonials

David Oliver is the author of the shocking guide “Bipolar Disorder—The REAL Silent Killer.” Click Here to get FREE Information sent via email on how and why bipolar disorder kills.

Hi,

How’s it going?

I hope you are doing well today.

Oh, some people have written me about working for this organization.

We will be soon taking new applications for writers and editors. Keep reading my daily emails to see where the position will be posted.

I must say, the new individuals that we have hired have been incredible. We have gotten more done with expanding the organization and also rebuilding certain areas in the last month than the prior six months.

We have 4 new people starting September 2— the day after labor day and hopefully these individuals prove to be just as good.

On that note, I must say something. I have hired lots of people in my time. Some have been really good and some have been really, really bad. It’s kind of like doctors. Some are really good and some are really bad.

Don’t ever settle for a bad doctor just like I should never settle for a bad employee—one who doesn’t put his heart and soul into what needs to be done. Same thing with doctors.

Okay, I was talking to this person who was a cheerleader. My friend was saying to her that cheerleaders are useless.

It’s kind of funny because she USE TO be a cheerleader but now has a great job. She cheered in like high school and college. My friend doesn’t really have a job—he’s one of my “I only lift weights and train in the gym and don’t have a job” gym friends J

So she ripped him apart after he made fun of cheerleaders. I think he wanted to go out on a date with her but went about it the wrong way. Insulting someone isn’t a good way generally.

Anyway, I was thinking about the concept of a cheerleader.

They have certain traits, like:

· Outgoing

· Friendly

· Optimist

· Positive

· Proactive

· Excited

· Endurable

· “Cuddly”

· And sometimes overbearing

Other people who weren’t cheerleaders weren’t always so impressed with these qualities, or at least some of them (like the overbearing one – which is why I put it last LOL).

But the other qualities…

There is a lesson for bipolar supporters that can be learned from high school cheerleaders –

Basically, if you look at it this way, YOU are your loved one’s cheerleader. Aren’t you?

You may not have ALL the qualities listed above, but you have to at least have some of them to be a good supporter.

In my courses/systems below, I talk about the qualities that make up a good supporter:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?

Visit:

http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?

Visit:

http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?

Visit:

http://www.survivebipolar.net

Even regularly, you should be acting “friendly” toward your loved one – that quality is a given.

But optimistic and positive?

Those may sometimes be a little harder.

Especially when you sometimes feel like the disorder (or your loved one) has “beaten you down” and you feel tired of fighting it.

That doesn’t matter. You still have to remain optimistic and positive if you’re going to be a good supporter. Actually, if you’re going to help yourself, as well. You have to stay strong to stay “in the game.”

And being optimistic and positive is the way to do that.

Even though things may look “doom and gloom,” you can still think about when things were good, when your loved one was stable, about how they were before the disorder and how they will be again…

You can ALWAYS hope for the best! That’s what being optimistic is, after all. You know, the old “glass half full” thing.

In my courses/systems, as well as in these emails, I talk a lot about being proactive. That’s one of the qualities you should have as well.

You should have systems in place for those “bad bipolar days,” for days when your loved one is down and you truly have to act as “cheerleader” for them.

Remind them of the good things – about how well they’re doing. About how they’re doing so well with their medication, about how they’re sticking to their treatment plan, about how much better they are than when they first started – anything you can think of.

If they’re feeling down, try to get them out of the house and do something fun, like going to see a movie or something.

Come on, now, supporter! Take one for the team!

I actually asked the girl in the gym if she would do a cheer. She declined. Oh well.

But seriously, you really need to be a cheerleader when you are supporting a loved one with bipolar disorder.

Think of this one last thing. When a team is losing the cheerleaders still keep on cheering and being optimistic. You have to be the same way. Because when you are supporting someone with bipolar disorder, you will face tremendous adversity from the person, from your friends, from your family, from the system, etc.

You have to be optimistic, tough and upbeat despite having odds against you.

Know what I mean?

Hey I have to run. I will catch you later on, okay?

FIND OUT WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING ABOUT ME

Visit: http://www.bipolarcentral.com/testimonials

David Oliver is the author of the shocking guide “Bipolar Disorder—The REAL Silent Killer.” Click Here to get FREE Information sent via email on how and why bipolar disorder kills.

Hi,

How’s your day going today?

I want to warn you about something today:

FORUMS.

I was talking to someone the other day about forums. He was a military person. Serious guy. Really strong. Really tough. You don’t mess with this guy.

But boy, did he have some things to say about forums – things I want to pass along to you.

I was telling this military guy about how people will write a list of 10 to 15 major questions about bipolar disorder in a forum and expect someone else to give them answers, and then take those answers and handle their situation.

These people, in my opinion, are never serious.

I mean, come on, even if they were, shouldn’t they be asking their own doctors and other medical and mental health professionals these questions?

These other people who post answers to their questions are just like them – they’re not doctors, psychiatrists, therapists, or any other kind of professional.

These people ask stuff like:

· I think my boy/girlfriend has bipolar disorder,

What should I do?

· My husband/wife won’t take their bipolar

medication – what should I do?

· This medication I’m taking is great! I think

everyone should take it, don’t you think so?

· I don’t have a therapist, and I don’t think I need

one, do you?

· I don’t think I need to be on medication for my

bipolar disorder, do you? I feel fine without it.

These are just some of the things they post. How can a forum be expected to provide such complex answers to such complex questions?

The military guy who was listening to me said, “That’s dumb. That’s like if I went to Iraq and I was supposed to read some forum posts and get some answers and then be ready to fight, without any training or anything.”

I was thinking about that. Imagine the US military approaching war like most people approach bipolar disorder.

They would check around in forums. Post some questions. And then hope for some answers. Hope for the best.

Plus then they would get mad when people didn’t write back what they wanted to hear, or didn’t write back fast enough or write back at all!

I’m not saying that everyone who posts on a forum is like this.

But the problem is, people with bipolar disorder who depend on forums (and chat rooms) for their answers, instead of on professionals, are getting exactly what they’re asking for. And it isn’t good.

Know why? Because they have no system.

In my courses/systems below, I start with a doctor finding system, and then I go into other systems:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?

Visit:

http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?

Visit:

http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?

Visit:

http://www.survivebipolar.net

I even give a list of what particular questions you should ask your medical/mental health professionals!

You should NOT be depending on forums to give you the answers you need to complex bipolar disorder questions.

I’ve seen supporter and survivor forums, even, where all the people do is share “sob stories.” Now, I’m not cutting down these people, so please don’t send me any hate mail.

All I’m saying is that those forums aren’t going to do you any good if you or your loved one have specific questions that need to be answered by a professional.

So heed my warning: DON’T depend on forums to answer your questions, any more than that guy in the military would depend on them to give him instructions on how to fight in Iraq.

FIND OUT WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING ABOUT ME

Visit: http://www.bipolarcentral.com/testimonials

David Oliver is the author of the shocking guide “Bipolar Disorder—The REAL Silent Killer.” Click Here to get FREE Information sent via email on how and why bipolar disorder kills.

Hi,

Hope you’re having a good day.

I was talking to this woman the other day, who looked sooo sad!

So I asked her what was wrong, and she said, “EVERYTHING.”

I said,” Everything?”

And she said, “Yes, everything!”

So I asked her, “Are you feeing all right?”

She answered, “Yes, pretty much.”

I said, “Do you have children?”

And she said, “Yes, I have 2 of them.”

I asked, “Are they healthy and happy?”

She said, “Why, yes they are.”

I said, “Do you have a car, and does it run well?”

She said, “Yes, and I don’t have any problems with my car.”

So I said (and don’t get mad at me like she did), “So not EVERYTHING is wrong, is it?”

And, you guessed it, she got really mad at me.

But here’s my point. You can’t just lump your problems under “EVERYTHING.”

It doesn’t work that way.

In my courses/systems below, I teach about problem-solving, and how you first have to define the problem before you can figure out a solution:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?

Visit:

http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?

Visit:

http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?

Visit:

http://www.survivebipolar.net

Ok, so what IS your problem? You already know it is not EVERYTHING.

Pick ONE problem. Let’s just work on ONE problem..

Ok, now let’s work on the solution (you know I am a solution-oriented person).

Start a list. Really! Take out a piece of paper and a pencil or pen, and start a list.

Write down the problem at the top of the piece of paper.

Problem not that important? Then it’s easy to solve, and you can take care of it without this system.

But if it’s bigger than that, this system will work for you.

Ok, back to your piece of paper with your problem written at the top.

You’re ready to start writing your solutions down now.

I know, I know, you’re probably thinking, “He doesn’t know what he’s talking about. He doesn’t know anything about my life or my problems.”

You’re right. I don’t. But I do know a lot about bipolar disorder. And I do know I spent a LONG time developing systems that work.

And this system does work. I still use it myself (and I’m a supporter, just like you).

Think of the most impossible way you can to solve your problem. The “no way this will solve my problem” solution.

As a friend of mine says, “The impossible just takes a little longer!”

Then work down from there, until you find the right solution to your problem.

It works, trust me!

Now listen close…

Closer…

Closer…

Ok, I’m going to tell you a secret…

EVERYBODY HAS PROBLEMS!!!!

You’re not the only one! Supporters of loved ones with bipolar disorder seem to have more problems than anyone else, too.

But not EVERYTHING is wrong, is it?

There have to be SOME things that are right!

So here’s my advice:

Be grateful for the things that are going right, and work “Dave’s Problem Solving System” I showed you in this email on your other problems.

Good luck – you are now an “Ace” problem-solver in my book!

FIND OUT WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING ABOUT ME

Visit: http://www.bipolarcentral.com/testimonials

David Oliver is the author of the shocking guide “Bipolar Disorder—The REAL Silent Killer.” Click Here to get FREE Information sent via email on how and why bipolar disorder kills.