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Hi,
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Hi,
How’s it going?
I hope you are doing well.
Hey, I have done a whole lot of interviews
with people who have bipolar disorder
and are really successful.
I must say, it’s hard to get these
done. It requires a ton to make it
happen. I have to run ads to find the
people, screen them, screen them
again, preinterview, set a day and
time (hope the people don’t cancel
which many do), etc. It’s a big
process.
BUT, the past few days I found some
GREAT people.
I was talking to one woman who was
telling me her story and she had mentioned
that basically she had a doctor that
took her off her medication for bipolar
which caused her to go into a huge
manic episode.
I don’t know if you know this but
the reason why my mom went in her
really big episode a few years ago
was because a doctor took her off
her medication.
I didn’t know this back then and
thought that my mom stopped taking
her medication on her own. She told
me the doctor told her to not take it.
I thought that she wasn’t telling the
truth but I did my own investigation
and found that she was telling the
truth.
When I found out, I was SUPER mad
at the doctor. I called him, over
and over and over and over and over
again to ask why he did this. First
he wouldn’t return my phone calls
and then I basically let them know
that I would come to the office EVERY
day until I got an answer and I would
bring newspaper reports as well.
I am a total no nonsense bottom line
person. I hate excuses and when people
give me the run around.
So anyway when it was all said and done,
this doctor was so clueless, he admitted
he just didn’t know why he took her
off her medication. He “lost” the records.
At that point, I realized there were good
and bad doctors like there are good and
bad accountants for business. In the past,
I have had horrible accountants that were
totally clueless. I learned the hard way.
Anyway, so when I was doing this bipolar
success interview this woman said how
she never, ever got better until she
found a new doctor who immediately
made all the difference.
This is what happen to my mom as well,
after her really bad doctor, she went
to the hospital for a couple of weeks
and then the outpatient program.
NO ONE would help her really. I was
starting to get discouraged. I worried
that my mom would be “stuck” in a bipolar
episode forever.
I didn’t have anyone to really ask and
talk to. There was no guy like me who
you could buy a course from and get
the real deal. I couldn’t find success
stories at support groups.
I just didn’t know.
But then I invented my doctor finding
system and figured out how to screen
lots of doctors and found my mom’s
doctor.
The system that’s in all my courses/systems
below:
SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11
SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com
HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net
NOTE-We actually had three qualified doctors
to choose from. I feel I could have generated
about 21 if I had to. Anyway, I just gave my mom
three choices and asked her to pick one.
(I knew she would get mad if I didn’t give her
a choice so I did. BUT, I kind of put the one
I liked the best closer to her so she would
pick that one.)
So I went with my mom when she went
to the new doctor. The new doctor was
kind of a little odd. Don’t get me
wrong but she was a little different
than me. She was much shorter than me
and really thin. She had a lot of interesting
things on the wall. I kind of felt like
I was in the 1970s.
Anyway, she was, REALLY, REALLY, REALLY, REALLY
good with my mom. She immediately started to
make my mom feel comfortable and get her on
the right track.
Then I left the visit. I just wanted to check
her out real quick and then she didn’t an
examination of my mom.
I just wanted to see her a couple of minutes
to make sure she was on the up and up.
So on the way home, my mom said how she
really liked this person. The doctor is
part doctor and part sales person. Good
doctors sell people on:
Why it’s okay to have a mental illness
How they are going to get better
Why medication is really good for them
Etc.
They do it in a way like good sales people
do–which is get you to buy into things
on your own accord. Ever go somewhere
and a sales person gets you to buy something
that you really do need but in a nice way?
That’s what a good doctor does. I know that
many a doctor would be offended with what I just
said. They would say, “Dave Oliver, how dare
you compare me to a sales person. Shame on
you. I am not a sales person I went to school
for one million years and I am a professional
not a sales person.”
To those that would say this, what I mean,
there is a level of selling that occurs
between a doctor and a patient. A doctor
my sell, persuade, convince, etc. a patient
about the points I just listed above.
Bad doctors just give people a prescription
and say, “see you next time.”
This is really bad.
Therapists are the same. They are even better
at selling a patient on these things.
I know when I talk to someone with bipolar
disorder I always want them to come away
with the following:
-They can do well
-They need to have a good doctor
-They need to listen to their doctor
-They can manage their bipolar disorder
-There is hope
Many a person has said that I am the only
person who has ever been positive about their
bipolar disorder. I should not be.
A person’s doctor should be positive to
them and so should their therapist.
With that said, always remember how important
the doctor is for bipolar disorder.
People forget this all the time. A good doctor
saves time AND money. If my mom had a good
doctor and therapist over the years, we would
have saved hundreds of thousands of dollars.
My dad finally gets this.
Spend time finding a good doctor. Shop around.
If you don’t know the questions to ask, get one
of my courses above.
ALSO, make sure you work with the doctor and
follow all the stuff that I explain in my courses
and systems above. There are a lot of things
that you have to do to make the job of the
doctor easier.
Hey, I have to run. I will catch you later.
Oh, guess what? I have some cool new stuff
coming out.
Here’s what I have planned. I have a new
f.ree teleseminar and webinar where you get
to ask me questions and I am coming out
with a new video on bipolar disorder you
can use for free. I’ll send you the details
soon.
I am kind of annoyed that I feel that I get
slowed down because I never understand all this
technology and how to use it. I hired someone
with bipolar to help me set stuff up. I have
all the ideas but never know how to use this
software or this thing or that thing.
Hopefully this new person, who is super smart,
can make it simple so I can start getting even
more stuff out to you faster.
Hey, I have to run. I’ll catch you tomorrow.
Oh, post some stories about how a good
doctor has helped you if you have a story.
Your Friend,
Dave
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P.P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp
P.P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/
P.P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com
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Hi,
I hope you are having a good day!
I want to talk to you about something
really, really important. Those of you who
have been with me for a long time know how
passionate I am about this subject – medication.
I’m always preaching about staying on your
medication, aren’t I? But today I want to talk
about things that interfere with taking your
medication.
In my courses and systems I devote a whole
section to this, but today I’ll just highlight
the most important things.
SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
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SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
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HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net
It is so, so important to get on and stay
on a good, steady medication schedule.
It is the most important part of your
treatment regimen.
But there are so many things that can
interfere with that, things that you can
do something about. For example, say
you are on morning medication. You
need to get up about the same time
every morning.
This is not only important so that your
body gets used to taking your medication
at the same time every day, but also so that
your body clock runs “on time” – so that
your sleep schedule stays the same,
because otherwise it can be a trigger to an
episode.
For those supporters that are reading this,
think about how much easier it would be
for you to help your loved one stay on their
medication if they got used to taking it at
about the same time every morning. It
would take a lot of pressure off you,
wouldn’t it?
It would also take a lot of the worry away
from you about them having another
episode if they kept their sleep schedule
steady, as well.
So that’s the biggest thing that would
interfere with taking your medication.
Another thing that interferes with taking
medication, and this is a biggie – is if
you drink alcohol! Most prescription
medication will state right on the bottle
to not take it with alcohol, but you should
really know this already.
Why? Because alcohol is a depressant.
And it will interfere with how your
medication normally works in your body.
Especially, say, if you are taking an anti-
depressant. See what I mean?
You really need to stay away from drinking
alcohol if you are on ANY medication, but
especially if you are on medication for
bipolar disorder. You have no idea how
the two will mix. And even if you “get
away with it” this time, you don’t know how
they will react the next time!
But especially, please, please, don’t stop
taking your medication, even once, just
so you can drink. I’ve known people who
have done that, and they ended up going
into really, really bad episodes. It’s NOT
worth it!
Another thing that can interfere with you
taking your medication is if you find yourself
somewhere else when it’s time to take your
medication. There is an easy solution to this.
Always keep an extra “stash” (one dose) of
medication on you at all times.
You might have some other examples and/or
solutions to this dilemma. If you do, I’d love
to hear about it!
In the meantime, I have to be off to yet
another meeting! Have a great day!
Your friend,
Dave
P.S. Want your own copy of these daily bipolar
emails sent to you for F.ree? If so, visit:
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P.P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp
P.P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/
P.P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com
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Hi,
How’s it going?
I hope you are doing well.
First I would like to say welcome
to another 1700 new subscribers.
Yesterday we had the largest number
of new subscribers in 24 hours. And
over 3300 new subscribers to this
bipolar disorder newsletter, in the
last 2 days. Welcome again.
I wanted to also let you know that
I will be adding another 16 or so
F.ree Podcasts on bipolar disorder
in the next week or so. I’ll send
you an email to let you know when
they are up.
I hope you really like them. I worked
hard on them. My goal is to add 101
after this next 16.
Also, someone asked where is the
what people are saying about david
oliver.
It’s here:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/testimonials
I wanted to tell you a funny story
about someone that I know and it reveals
a tremendous lesson about bipolar
disorder.
Okay?
Let me tell you the story.
I know this kid, let’s call
him Bill (not his real name), who
went to a gym that I use to go to a
couple of years ago.
I met him and he was like 18 when I met
him. One day he was telling everyone
that he had never been on a date with
a girl. I thought that was kind of amazing.
He said his goal was to find a serious
girlfriend.
So we all tried to help him out. Anyway,
he first would never ask anyone out. He
would never leave his parents house either. As
a result, he never went on a date. After
several months of explaining how if he doesn’t
try, he won’t go out, he finally asked
someone in the gym out.
To make a long story short, she was suppose
to show up at TGI Fridays at 8:30pm. Guess
what?
She never showed up. He waited until 9:30pm.
Not only did she not show up, rumor had it,
she quit the gym.
Then he asked another girl out and she did
the same thing.
I couldn’t believe that this happen to
him twice. It was amazing. This has never
happen to anyone I have ever known. To have
two people do the same thing from the
same place.
Hmmm. I thought.
So then another gym opened up and I encouraged
him to join because there would be lots of
girls his age and maybe the other girls in
the other gym were well “off.”
So he joins the new gym and actually he goes
out on some dates. I was happy but he had
nightmare dates.
BIPOLAR LESSON COMING PAY ATTENTION
NOTE-There’s going to be a bipolar lesson
within this story, hold on. A REALLY important
one.
Over the course of two years, he told me
the other day that:
-one girl he went out with stood him
up again
-another girl he went out with, went to
an Ivy League school. When they were out
on the date, she asked, “Where did you go
to college?” He said “umm, well I didn’t.”
She said, “My dad says I should date people
who didn’t go to college, can I go home?”
-Another girl he took out, went out with
him and then threw up all over the table and
him at the restaurant. He said and I think this
is funny, “if you didn’t like me, you didn’t have
to throw up just so I would take you home?” She then
had some kind of drinking problem?
Can you imagine this happening to you? He said
that people in the restaurant jumped up and ran away
and screamed because she was so loud when she
threw up.
-Another girl he took out revealed to him that
she hated all kinds of people. And she said, people who
are the same should stick together. He said she
was a “hater.”
-Another one wanted to have multiple boyfriends
at the same time?
At one point, it was so strange that several
people in the gym wanted to really help. They
went out of their way to try to figure out what
the problem was. Several people were working
on it. No one could figure it out. He looks
normal. Actually works out hard. It’s amazing.
One friend got a girl who is a model in the gym
to make suggestions and recommendations. Then there
was several girls all of which who were popular and
good looking trying to “figure it out.” No one
could really figure out the problem.
Then someone said, “it’s just random, he’s bound
to have a run of good dates soon.”
I asked him the other day, “how do you keep going
on dates even though so many bad things have happened?”
He said, “well, I know a few people that have great
girlfriends so I know it’s possible. I have a picture
in my head of what I want and that’s what keeps
me going.”
I was totally shocked because that’s coming from
a fairly young kid who skipped most of high school.
Then I got to thinking about how his strategy
is EXACTLY what success people with bipolar
disorder do AND successful bipolar supporters.
THEY ALL HAVE A CLEAR PICTURE OF WHAT’S POSSIBLE
He focuses on the possible not the now.
He said, overtime as well he has learned
from other’s mistakes. He asks a lot of questions.
He watches people. He said he learned how to
better qualify people before going on
expensive dates.
One of the things that I did with my
mom when she was in the huge bipolar
episode is:
-Focus on what I knew was possible
-Ask anyone with any information lots of questions
and learn from them.
-Realize there wasn’t a simple road to success
The road to success with bipolar disorder
is going to be a zig zag. Stuff will
be tried. Some will work. Some will
not work.
There will NOT be an exact clear cut
road of success. There may be some
zig zags but you have to keep
moving forward. Even if you are hit
with setbacks and problems. You will
be hit with these. I guarantee you
that!
When I think of my friend, it would
be very easy for him to just quit and
say, “I hate woman, I am never dating
again.” He has a good outlook and
knows that success might be right
around the corner.
It’s the same thing with bipolar disorder.
For many people, success is right around
the corner.
You could easily be one doctor, one therapist
one medication change away from having yourself
or your loved one have tremendous success.
Just think with my mom, several doctors
tried to get her stable. Then it was one doctor
that gave her one combination of medication
that immediately made huge results.
I just had to hang in there with my mom. She
had to hang in there as well.
I know that sometimes it’s frustrating. Some
times the results aren’t coming fast enough.
Sometimes you feel there is no hope. Some
times you feel like giving up.
In my courses/systems:
SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11
SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com
HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net
I have many success interviews. These
interviews serve at least two purposes.
#1 the show you what is possible. They
show that anyone can be successful despite
having tremendous problems. In ALL the interviews,
the people who are successes had horrible
cases and turned it around.
#2 they give you people to model and learn from.
Now if you can’t get my courses/systems do this.
Visit local support groups. Find successful people
with bipolar disorder and successful bipolar supporters
to take to lunch and then kind of interview them.
Learn from them. Ask questions. See what they went through.
Then start to use what you learn in your own
situation so you can turn things around.
Actually my friend says he has another
date and he is convinced this girl will
be “normal.”
Well I have to run. I have 4 interviews today
and a bunch of articles to write and many things
to review related to bipolar disorder.
I thought this was a rather funny
and interesting story to communicate
some truths about bipolar that many
won’t ever tell you.
Hey, I have to run, tonight I am
going to see my friend Rob and Marie’s
little girl who is like 20 days old.
Have a great day.
Your Friend,
Dave
P.S. Want your own copy of these daily bipolar
emails sent to you for F.ree? If so, visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/register3
P.P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp
P.P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/
P.P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com
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Hi,
First I wanted to welcome more than 1500
people who signed up to my newsletter in
the last 24 hours.
You’re really going to love it.
With that said, here is the current Bipolar Disorder
news.
Make sure you take a look at the news. It takes
a lot of time to put the news together so please
read it.
To see the news visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarnews362
There’s some really interesting news stories this week.
Take a look at them. Also, write me some feedback by
visiting my blog below.
Here are some of the headlines:
Take me as I am — whoever I might be today
DO> I kind of think she is on the negative side. I am
sure a bunch of people will disagree. Take a look.
Irwin’s offer to Spears
DO> More on Britney Spears
Should Bipolar Medication Be Halted During Pregnancy?
DO> VERY is a very interesting question. One of the
people that works for me recently had a baby and
found the article fascinating.
mutant mice shed light on bipolar disorder
DO> Very interesting and must read.
No need to drug our kids
DO> I totally agree with this. I could write a book
on the subject. I think you have to be really careful
saying a kid has this or that.
Teen Talk: Valentine’s Day is perfect for starting a relationship
DO> What do you think of this? I’ve had many a girlfriend
call/text at night and they didn’t have bipolar disorder 🙂
For these stories and more, please visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarnews362
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Dave
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Hi,
How’s it going?
Hope you are doing well.
What a day yesterday was.
I got back from the gym and then I saw
and email that basically there was
a guy doing a presentation based on
my materials and some how it was said
that I didn’t want him to do this
presentation so it was stopped.
I couldn’t believe this. I was super mad.
I tried to contact the guy but it was
too late.
I hope he isn’t mad at me. After I am
done writing this daily bipolar
email, I am going to write him a letter
of apology.
Basically someone told me this guy was
doing this presentation. I asked some
who works for me (does NOT have bipolar),
to find out who the person was and more
about him.
I thought it was strange that someone
was doing a presentation on some of my material
and I didn’t know the person. I just wanted
more information and I couldn’t do it
myself because I have 100 things to do
yesterday.
So basically some how that turned into
some service he was using stopping his
presentation. I have no idea how this
happen but it’s not fair to the guy
and I mad about the entire thing.
Anyway, I am going to write him a full
apology and I hope he understands. I am
going to ask him if there is anything I can
do to right this wrong and make it up
to him. I am kind of worried that he will
be really mad at me. I hope not.
Okay after that, I had a phone call with
a nice woman who had lupus and now is
trying to help others overcome this.
Then I got some great news. I didn’t
tell you this but I came up with this
incredible idea about two months ago.
I can’t get into it here but it would
help this organization and mental health
tremendously.
It would enable me to hire more people
with bipolar disorder, give away more
F.REE stuff. It was an incredible idea,
no to brag. I was, REALLY excited.
But it wasn’t going to be easy. There
were parts that I didn’t know how to
do. So I rounded up a bunch of people with
bipolar to help since there are super smart.
I also involved my attorney. Then I ask
my friend for help. Then he got his friend
to him me.
So basically last night I got some great
news that basically like 50% of this
great idea was all done.
I was really excited about this.
After I got the news, and was cooking
my 6th meal of the day, I got a call
from a friend.
I told her about my idea and what happen
and how great it was going to be.
Then it happened…
My friend said a bunch of negative stuff
about how I went about my idea like I
was obsessed with this idea and that
was weird.
I was like, “Of course I am working hard
to get all this together because it
can make a huge difference for everything.”
Then I told my friend about the final
plans of the idea.
She totally shot it down and told me so
many reasons why the entire thing
was a bad idea.
I started to second guess myself.
Then I felt like maybe it wasn’t a good
idea. Maybe it was a bad idea.
Then I got mad because I told this
friend that she isn’t supportive.
The friend said that wasn’t true.
Then I was mad and didn’t say much.
I thought about when I first started
this organization and SO many people
said it would fail. Some vendors
told me I was insane. Some people
wouldn’t work with me because they
wanted nothing to do with anyone
connected to “Crazy people.”
I had one friend that actually encouraged
me to do this. He is totally positive.
I was like “you think it will work?”
I kept telling him that I wasn’t a doctor
or therapist and I am not a good writer. People
would make fun of me and not read any of
my stuff.
My friend who is super laid back was like
“dude, yea they will. Trust me dude, I know
they well. Just trust me dude. Just do it
I guarantee it will work dude.” My friend
uses the word dude a whole lot.
Anyway, no matter what you tell him, he will
tell you can do it. He is always 100% positive
all the time.
Anyway all the negative people started to drown
out what he was saying.
Then I asked Pascale who basically like a computer.
You give Pascale input and she outputs objective
reports. She is a like machine. Anyway I told her
the idea. She listed the pros and cons and said
there were way more pros then cons and said “do
it.”
So I did. And now you see what I have.
So anyway, last night, I needed to recharge so
I called a bunch of positive “doing lots of things
for society” friends and they were like, “no, man
your idea is great. Do it.”
This morning I sent the entire idea over to my
attorney for him to review and also another
attorney. I also sent it to someone else because,
well I am still a little worried.
BUT, I wanted to talk about something today
about how this relates to bipolar disorder.
Here’s the deal. First negative is way stronger
than positive.
If you hang out with negative people, they
will bring you down. Period. If you hang out
with just a couple, and you have tons of positive
friends, the few negative will bring you down
and over come the positive ones.
Michele who works for me and I has bipolar
disorder told me just yesterday before
this happen how she taught all
her sons the 10 – 2 rule.
It basically states that if you are a
10 and you hang out with 2’s, a 2 won’t
turn into an 8 and you stay a 10, the 2
will stay the same and you’ll probably
drop down to a 4 to 5.
This is so true.
Losers attract losers. Losers bring
each other down.
I noticed over the years my mom had
two sets of friends. There were mania
friends and non mania friends. When my mom
was manic she wound up handing out and
talking to losers. I hate to say it
but they were. I know people will
get mad at me for saying that but
that’s what the were. Even my mom agrees
with me.
When she was no manic, she had intelligent,
hardworking “doing something on a daily basis”
friends.
Her manic friends actually made her worse
and worse and encouraged her to do things
like:
-not take her medication
-leave my dad
-leave her family
-not go to the doctor
-not believe she had bipolar disorder
-quit her job
-and many other stupid moronic things
These days, part of my mom’s stability equation
is to avoid these people and to surround herself
by positive, smart and productive people–this is
an order from her doctor not from me (but
I agree)
When you are dealing with bipolar disorder
whether you are a bipolar supporter or bipolar
survivor, you want to make sure you surround
yourself with positive people who tell you,
you can do it because you can.
One of the best ways to do this is to
listen to the success interviews in my courses/systems:
SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11
SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com
HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net
I honestly think it’s impossible to listen
to the cds and not come away having tremendous
hope that things can and will get better. These
cds serve to provide fuel in your car on the
road of success to bipolar. Get and use the
fuel.
Now, if you have negative people in your life,
I want you to lose them or limit your contact
with them.
A good exercise today is the following:
who are the people who bring you down and
are always negative and tell you stupid
counter productive things?
who are the people who are always upbeat and
tell you positive things?
Lose the first group of people or limit your
exposure to them. Talk to the second group
of people more and more.
Finally, when you are feeling down, make sure
you have something to bring you up. A good
book, cd, etc, can do the trick.
There is one business book that I have had for 10
years. It’s the book I always read when I am
down. I have read it more than 200 times
in 10 years. There’s a few pages that I read
that make me feel better during the worst
of times. I had to read those pages a whole
lot after September 11, 2001.
You need something like this as well.
Remember that negative is always stronger
than positive.
Hey, let me know what you think. I have to
run and write that apology letter.
Catch you tomorrow. Oh, tomorrow is the bipolar
news.
Your Friend,
Dave
P.S. Want your own copy of these daily bipolar
emails sent to you for F.ree? If so, visit:
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P.P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp
P.P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/
P.P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com
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Hi,
How’s it going?
I want to tell you the truth about
dealing with bipolar disorder.
There is one truth that very few people
talk about. It’s something that many
people hide.
First let me tell you the story
of how I thought about this.
Yesterday I was in the gym and
and a bunch of us were talking
about our “eating plans.” An eating
plan is basically a plan on how
we eat. So we figure out how many
meals per day that we eat, which
days we eat what, what days we
can eat junk food, which days are low
carbs, which days are high protein,
etc.
If you got my amazing fat burning
formula, you would know what I mean.
Anyway, so I was saying how I have been
trying to gain 4 pounds and haven’t
been able to do so.
It’s really annoying. I think finally
this week on Saturday, I will gain
one pound. Hopefully. Actually
last week I lost two pounds which means
that now I have to gain 6 pounds. 🙁
Anyway, I was discussing my trouble
to my friend Dan. Dan is really big.
Like 265 7% body fat.
I am 218 8.1% body fat.
My goal is to get to 224 7.4% body fat.
I am hoping on Saturday that I am at least
220.
So my friend says, “How many times
are you eating a day?” I said 6.
He said, “bump it to 7.” Then he
tells me to add some more fish
oil for the calories.
So then I was saying how it’s such
a pain to eat so many meals a day.
Then my other friend Ron says, “no
it’s not, it’s easy.” Then everyone
was like, “it’s easy because your
wife lays your cloths out in the
morning for you and makes all your
food. She treats you like a little
boy.”
He said that wasn’t true and quickly
changed the subject 🙂
I thought that was soooo funny.
Anyway, Ron is a self made millionaire
who sometimes acts like he is like 18.
NOTE-BIPOLAR LESSON COMING
Don’t worry, there’s going to be a lesson
to this story.
So anyway, my friend Dan says, “my roommates
hate me because they say that I use too
many dishes a day and run the dishwasher
too many times a week.” He then says how
they want him to either only use paper plates
or to pay more in rent.
Dan eats 8 times per day. He’s becoming
a professional body builder.
So anyway we all talked for an hour
of various ways to cook chicken,
fish, turkey faster and ways to
eat more per day, gain weight and
hold body fat.
So I got a few ideas and then someone
who doesn’t care about his weight or
health said, “man, you guys are crazy,
that’s way too much of a pain, that’s too
much work.”
Dan, who really believes he is the best
looking person in the history of man kind
says:
“If you want to have this kind of body (he points to
himself) nobody says it’s going to be easy.”
You might read this and think he is super
arrogant, which some could say, but he’s
a really nice guy. He’s a great trainer who
gets people results. And, seriously a nice guy
that would help anyone with anything related
to fitness (that’s all he knows about).
BUT, he really does think he looks incredible.
He has unbelievable self confidence and
self esteem. It’s really funny sometimes.
At the end, we were all like, “it’s all a pain
but we are in great shape and healthy so
the annoying stuff is worth it.”
That was the universal conclusion we all
drew.
So I was thinking yesterday to myself.
How many people that I have interviewed that
do well with bipolar disorder that have to
do stuff that’s a pain.
They have to:
-go to the doctor
-go to the therapist
-work so they have money but not work too much
-take medication (many different kinds)
-exercise
-eat well
-avoid stress
-skip the alcohol
-go to bed early
etc.
etc.
Now I have many friends with bipolar disorder, and
many friends without bipolar disorder. In the gym,
most of my friends don’t have bipolar disorder
but many body build non competitively. Meaning,
they follow almost everything a body builder
does but they don’t go into competitions or
on stage. Dan does but most of my other
friends don’t.
In order to do this, they:
-take lots of supplements
-eat many times a day
-drink one gallon of water a day
-plan trips based on bathrooms (if you drink a gallon
of water a day plus half a gallon of shakes, you have to know
where all the bathrooms are 🙂
-exercise, sometimes twice a day
-follow a carefully planned strict eating plan
-go to bed early
-skip alcohol
-have to see coaches and nutritional advisers to
improve and “tweak” their eating plans
-Coordinate fun activities with eating, supplements
and sleeping
NOTE-
I have friends that actually have grills in
their trucks so they can cook away from
home. It’s crazy. I don’t do that :). BUT,
I do carry a cooler with me whenever I leave
with all my meals for the day. If you ever
saw me, and you looked in my back seat, you
would most likely see a cooler.
When I got to business meetings in the city,
I plan way in advance what I will be eating. I know
which restaurants I will be going to and call
ahead to get the menu. I then find out which
items fit in my eating plan and make notes. So
then when I eat, I know what to order. And, I
always have back up plans just in case something
goes wrong. I carry “emergency bars” in case
my plan for eating doesn’t work so I can at least
eat something that is pretty healthy.
AND, when you follow this way of life, there
are times when you are really tired either
from working out twice a day, or doing
what’s call carb depleting,
which affects your energy level and your ability
to think.
Body building competitively or non competitively
is much like managing bipolar disorder.
Much of body building is a pain. It’s a major
pain but many people do it. Much of managing
bipolar disorder is a pain. A major pain.
In my courses/systems below:
SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
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Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com
HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net
I talk about all the ways to cope and deal
with bipolar disorder whether you have
it or you are supporting someone.
Some of it’s really easy. Some of it’s
a pain.
In my material, I am 100% honest. Some
people don’t want to do anything. It
amazes me. The worst are some parents supporting
children with bipolar. I don’t know why, but some parents
for some reason want someone else
to do everything. They want a magic
system. I just don’t know why.
But, the truth about bipolar disorder
is that in order to effectively cope
and deal with it, whether you are a supporter
or have it yourself, some things will be a
pain but the reward of peace, stability are
worth it. Don’t forget that.
Sometimes I think bipolar supporters and those
with bipolar disorder need a reminder that
there are many things that are going to be a
pain but you just have to deal with them.
It’s just like my body building friends. We
always have to remember that a lot of what
we do is a pain. If I forget this, I go to
the gym and the people there remind me.
So today I wanted to remind you about
bipolar. For all those people out there
that have to do all the things I described
for bipolar disorder and think, “this is such
a pain,” you are on the right track but hang
in there, the rewards of stability and
success are worth it.
I think if more doctors, therapists and people
in the mental health field were honest and
would say, “managing bipolar disorder can
be a pain but the rewards are worth it”, we
would be way better off. Also, if people said,
“if you don’t manage it, there’s a good chance
that you’ll commit suicide or hurt someone
you love” we would be better off.
I don’t know why so many people sugar coat
stuff. I just can’t figure it out. I never
do.
I have to run now, I will catch you tomorrow.
Your Friend,
Dave
P.S. Want your own copy of these daily bipolar
emails sent to you for F.ree? If so, visit:
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P.P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp
P.P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/
P.P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com
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Hi,
How’s it going?
Hope you are doing well.
I have something to tell you today
if you are a bipolar supporter.
Oh, hey I almost forgot to tell
you something. I am coming out
with a new F.REE podcast called:
“How Oil Affects Bipolar Disorder.”
During this one of a kind podcast,
I will talk about the impact of oil
and bipolar disorder and what you should
and shouldn’t be doing (in my opinion
of course).
I think you’ll really like it.
If you are reading this and thinking,
“What does the heck does oil have to do
with bipolar disorder?” Don’t worry,
I will explain it all on the podcast.
What’s a podcast? It’s like a
cd on the internet. You’ll have a link
and you just click on it and it will
play.
Oh yea, I have some more f.ree podcasts
coming out as well, I will keep you
posted.
I like doing these podcasts. I didn’t like
doing them when I didn’t know how to use
the recording stuff. But then I found
someone with Bipolar who set it all up
for me and made it super simple for me
to use.
It’s really cool that I have some many
people with bipolar who are super smart
to figure stuff out for me 🙂
Okay, let’s jump to today’s topic.
It’s really important.
Yesterday I had to call this guy
about a situation with his order.
It was missing.
He basically told me that I was a crook
and ripping people off and on and on
and on and on and on. Then he said
I didn’t care about anyone but
myself and that my emails were
worthless.
He didn’t even give me time to
check all the shipping logs and tracking
to see what happen to his order. Sometimes
the shipping people lose stuff and if
they do, we simply send another one.
I was really nice to him. It was like
10:00pm ET. He yelled and screamed and
yelled and screamed
It was so annoying. I actually was
so annoyed that I only slept a little.
It’s kind of amazing never in my life have
I gotten:
-multiple death threats
-people screaming at me
-people calling me a crook
-people saying this and that
As a side note, years ago, I had
a friend that had a website selling
marketing information. Someone
threaten to kill him if he didn’t take
it down. This person said that the
website was adversely affecting him.
It was really strange. It made no sense.
There was nothing on the site that could
adversely affect him.
Anyway the guy demanded over and over
again. Over many months. He said that
he would be outside his house and attack
him and his family. My friend got
really scared and had a stroke.
He eventually took the site down. Later
that person that threatened him was found
to have schizophrenia and had gotten
off his medication. He had done a whole
lot of bad things.
My friend never recovered and vanished.
He moved to an undisclosed location.
He was so frightened by the experience
he just never spoke to anyone again. I haven’t
spoken to him in years. He was a really
nice person.
Anyway, if I look back, I have been attacked by
way more bipolar supporters than bipolar
survivors. It’s amazing to me sometimes.
Anyway I tried to reason with this guy and
he was totally not reasonable.
Sometimes I wonder what the heck
goes through bipolar supporters mind
that attack me and are super angry
all the time.
Anyway, let’s get to today’s topic.
I have noticed that there is a group
of bipolar supporters out there that
are what I call, “The angry supporter.”
This person is someone who is super
mad that his/her loved one has
bipolar disorder. The major coping
mechanism is to be angry and attack
anyone other than their loved one
with bipolar disorder.
These bipolar supporters are super
mean. They are the people who attack
me. The people who walk around and
flip out on people and people actually
think they have something wrong with
them.
You have to be really careful that if
you are a bipolar supporter, you don’t
let your loved one’s lack of progress
or your loved one’s struggle make you
a super angry person.
I know several people like this locally.
When these people come into a support
group, people run and hide from them. Why?
Because they are always so angry.
There are people where I volunteer
that I dread dealing with. They are
always so mad and so down.
Now I already know people are going
to write me and say “Dave not
everyone is so happy as you with
their loved one so don’t criticize
those that are struggling to
support someone.”
I realize this for sure. BUT, no
matter what, just because you
are struggling, doesn’t give you
the ticket to be really angry.
In my courses/systems below:
SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11
SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com
HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net
I detail the ins and out of supporting an
adult with bipolar, a child or managing
the disorder yourself.
Right now, if you are a bipolar
supporter, I want you to think long
and hard about the following:
How has bipolar changed you?
Are you angry all the time?
Do you laugh/smile less?
Do you think that you are negative
too much?
Do you feel that friends and family
members avoid you because you are
always down and/or talking about how
bad things are with your love done?
Think about this.
You have the power to make things better,
no matter what your situation is out there.
You might not be able to make things
perfect but you can make them better.
NOTE-If you have been an angry bipolar
supporter, go back to those that you have
been mean to and say you are sorry. They
will feel better.
Hey I have to run. I things to do and
people to see :).
Catch you tomorrow and really think about
what I wrote today.
Your Friend,
Dave
P.S. Want your own copy of these daily bipolar
emails sent to you for F.ree? If so, visit:
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P.P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp
P.P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/
P.P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com
Hi,
How’s it going?
Boy I have a lot of things to
do today. I feel like I say
that every day 🙂
Yesterday I received a phone call
from a friend of mine. This friend’s
brother has bipolar disorder. Over
the years, he has had all kinds of problems
with not only bipolar disorder and also
addictions.
Anyway he didn’t go to a doctor
regularly and didn’t take his
medication consistently.
Unfortunately he did a ton of things
wrong which I will sum up her:
Went to multiple doctors over the years
for really no apparent reason
DO> As a result, each doctor had to start
over from scratch to learn about him. This
made treatment a nightmare.
Didn’t see any doctor regularly
DO> In addition to having a whole bunch of
doctors over a whole bunch of years, he didn’t
see the one he was suppose to regularly or
when he was suppose to and as a result side
effects from the medication where never reduced
to a minimum
-He stopped taking his medications so many
times I lost count.
DO>When you have stuff working well, or even
kind of well, I am told by experts that when
you stop it, it’s bad and it takes a lot to
get back on track. (I know this is an over
simplification but I am sure you know what
I am talking about)
-He doesn’t have a knowledgeable support
team. His family thinks the know about
bipolar but they really know little to
nothing.
DO> His family winds up agreeing with
many bad decisions he makes like: changing
doctors frequently; not taking his medication
consistently; not having a job, etc.
Last night my friend was telling
me how all his brothers problems in
life were caused by his medications for
bipolar disorder.
It’s odd how many people work. Many people
want something other than themselves to assign
blame too.
I see this all the time in business consulting
which I do. I see company owners who want
to blame bad decisions on everyone other
than themselves. They will look for anyone
anywhere to blame.
The only owners who do well are the ones
who accept blame themselves and personal
responsibility and move forward. The ones
that say, “Man, I really messed up, I take
responsibly for what I did and now we
are going to move forward. I am not going
to do that or make that mistake again. Thanks
for pointing that out to me.”
As a business consultant it’s rare that
ever happens.
It’s normally deny, deny, deny, assign
blame to someone else in the company.
When you get my courses/systems:
SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
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Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com
HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net
I not only point out all the mistakes I think
I made, I accept responsibly for them.
Mistakes like:
-enabling my mom for many years costing me
all my savings
-arguing with my mom when I shouldn’t
-getting mad at my mom instead of her
bipolar disorder
etc.
I go through all of this.
Anyway, I find the same thing with
bipolar disorder. People seem to try to
look to someone or something else other
than themselves as to what caused all the
problems.
You could read a 1000 self help books
that tell you this is the wrong way to
go about things.
Anyway back to my friend, my friend agreed
with his brother that the bipolar medication
was the cause of all his problems even though
that makes no sense whatsoever.
My friend believed so strongly that
it was the medications that were the problem
not the numerous bad decisions made over
the year, that I didn’t even wind up
trying to explain how what he was saying
made absolutely positively no sense.
And then my friend said the craziest thing
to me. He said his brother stopped taking
his medication and the family saw he was better
and that he had outgrown bipolar disorder.
The family all agreed and now was supporting
his decision to not take medication any more.
I got the feeling that the brother would have
continued to take his medication if the family
would have said, “hey, you really need to
take your medication to be stable for the long
term.”
But since they didn’t, he stopped taking it.
Now it was his decision but well the family
could have probably pushed him in the right
direction.
I was totally shocked. I asked my friend
why do you think he outgrew his bipolar?
My friend said, “well because he looks
good and is doing well since he stopped
taking it.”
The crazy thing is, it’s been like 10 days.
How the heck can you measure success in
10 days?
It’s just amazing.
I listened and listened and didn’t say
much.
My head hurt so much from hearing all this
that I said, one final thing:
“When a person stops taking medication,
I have seen that they do okay for a very
limited period of time and then incrementally
get worse and worse and worse. Those around
will not notice because they adjust to
the worse behavior. Eventually that person
has a complete breakdown which can turn
into what I call is the bipolar doomsday
scenario which can absolutely destroy a family.”
I explained what the bipolar doomsday scenario
was and how it worked. My friend kind of yesed
me to death.
I went on to say, “I am not going to
preach to you because you guys are all
adults and have access to all my materials.
I don’t agree or support these decisions.”
My friend said, “okay.”
In my head I was just amazed thinking “how
in the world could people think this way?”
Then I got up this morning and remembered
that this EXACT SAME THING happened about
7 years ago and my friend’s brother went
off his medication and then was doing
okay and went into super episode and randomly
got married and then divorced. It took him
years to kind of recover.
I just don’t know what to say.
It really makes my head hurt. I realize
I can’t save every single person in the world.
I wish I could but I don’t have enough time
and money. I guess all I can do is just keep
doing what I am doing and help those that
want to be helped.
It’s a sad fact that in a few months, I’ll
probably be writing you about how my friends
brother went into a huge bipolar episode. It’s
sad but true. I have found in 100% of the cases,
this is what will happen.
Finally, I want to say the following,
NEVER EVER get off your medication unless:
-You talk to you doctor
-You are monitored closely by your doctor
without medication, reporting what’s going
on via fax, phone, email, etc.
-You have at least one supporter who has
medical releases signed so he/she can
tell a doctor and therapist how you are
doing
IMPORTANT NOTE
-If you feel like getting off your medication,
ask yourself why. Then talk to your therapist
and doctor about your feelings
-If you have side effects with your medications
and can’t stand them, talk to your doctor. He/she
can modify your medication but can’t do so
if you don’t talk to them.
-Find a good doctor you like and trust.
You know what? The older I get, the less I like
to explain to people the error of their ways.
What do I mean? Well I am a “tell it like it is
person.” That’s gotten me in a whole lot of
trouble for many years. Many people really want
to hear what they want to hear.
As a result, people get mad when they don’t
hear what they want to hear. My friend is one of
those people. He will get mad if you disagree
with him and that’s why I didn’t “get into it”
about his brother.
Someone made a comment about the fact that
I seem to be harsh with telling the story
about my mom and her bipolar disorder. That
I am hard on my brother, my dad or myself.
I am not harsh I just tell it like it happened.
I asked Pascale (who is a tell it like it is
person), what she thinks and she said, “Look,
you have over 100,000 people on your list,
someone is going to be mad at you for something
every day. Actually probably hundreds of people
at the same time. You can’t please everyone.”
I guess she is right. I will continue to
tell the real story and not sugar coat it.
It would be easy for me to do. I would simply
say, “My mom had an huge episode, we all did everything
right. Everyone was and is really supportive
and now she is doing great. She never had any
other problems after the first episode and it’s
just totally wonderful and everyone was super helpful.”
If I did that, what would you really learn? And
how would the people that everything wasn’t
wonderful think?
Hey I have to go. I will catch you tomorrow.
Your Friend,
Dave
P.S. Want your own copy of these daily bipolar
emails sent to you for F.ree? If so, visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/register3
P.P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp
P.P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/
P.P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com
Hi,
I have posted 25 podcasts for
you to listen to. They are on specific
topics and are FREE.
You can listen to them here:
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com
I put a TON of work into this so
I hope you enjoy.
Dave