Hi,

I hope you’re having a good day.

Lots of doom and gloom these days in the news. Just don’t watch it.

Anyway, let’s jump into today’s topic.

Have you ever heard of a bipolar checklist?

Well, I hadn’t, until someone told me about it.

I think it’s a good idea, though.

I’ll tell you where she got it from.

She attends Alcoholics Anonymous, and she as telling me about one of the steps where you’re supposed to take a daily inventory of yourself – you know, kind of look back at your day and see how you did, the good and the bad.

Well, she has bipolar disorder and she sort of does the same thing with her disorder – she kind of does a daily checklist with it.

I thought that was kind of a good idea, so I wanted to share it with you.

Even for supporters, who don’t have bipolar disorder, you could still do this in general for yourselves – it’s still a good idea – you can just adapt it for your own life.

Anyway, in my courses/systems I sort of talk about the same idea of a checklist, only I call it a bipolar toolbox:

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Ok, so back to what I was saying.

So this woman does a daily mental checklist at the end of her day about her bipolar disorder.

For example, she makes sure she remembered to take her medication.

But she goes the extra mile. She also “checklists” that she has her next morning medication ready for her to take when she wakes up the next day. I think that’s a good idea. (If you’re not already using a pillbox, that is, which is another thing I recommend in my courses/systems.)

So I was thinking.

Here’s some other things you should remember to “checklist” for your bipolar disorder every day:

Make sure you check your calendar for any doctor or therapist appointments.

Make sure you do what you can on your To-Do List (and anything you don’t get done, make a new one for the next day and make sure you put those things on it).

Make sure you keep the lines of communication open with your supporter. (You should be doing this anyway, but this idea came from the woman I told you about from AA, who has to call her sponsor every day.) Make sure you set your alarm for the next morning to wake up at a good time, keeping in mind that you get 8-9 hours of uninterrupted sleep that night.

Make sure you do some type of exercise each day. It might be working out at a gym, or it may just be doing a little walking. Maybe even swimming at the local Y. Just something to keep you active.

Make sure that you eat healthy meals. Some people eat 3 meals a day, while others do better eating 6 smaller meals a day, like a diabetic does. You can find some good, low fat, low calorie recipes on the Internet.

If you keep a mood chart or journal, before you go to bed might be a good time to do this. It would help to think about the day that has passed, and to record your thoughts and feelings, as well as any events that may have triggered any mood changes or affected the way you felt.

Got the idea?

I’m sure you can think of other “Checklist” items. If so, I’d love to hear about them.

Share them with us.

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Hi,

Hope you’re having a good day.

I want to ask you a question today:

What is success?

I mean, what do you think success is, what is the definition of success?

Webster’s dictionary says that the definition of success is, “the attainment of wealth, favor, or eminence”  (power).

Do you agree?

Do you think that just because you’ve made lots of money that you’re successful?

Or that if you’ve obtained favor from the president that you’ve obtained success?

Or because you’ve got a lot of power that you’re successful? Well, I’m sorry to disagree with you if you think any of those things, but I just don’t think that they work when it comes to bipolar disorder.

I just can’t see my mom standing before the president (lol).

And I can’t see me rich, since I don’t take a salary at all, and I’m not in this for the money anyway.

And I know you probably don’t have a lot of money, because you probably spend most of it just trying to take care of your loved one with bipolar disorder – for their doctor and therapist visits and for their medications. That can cost a whole lot, I know!

So does that mean that none of us have success?

I define success differently.

It has to do with something I teach in my courses /systems below:

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I talk about setting long- and short-term goals.

See, I think success is the achieving of the goals you’ve set for yourself (whether you have bipolar disorder or not).

Like, I originally set out with my website to reach as many people as I could with bipolar disorder and their supporters with the message that even though there isn’t any cure for bipolar disorder, there is treatment.

I wanted them to have a place they could come where they could get the most up-to-date information on the disorder in a user-friendly, easy-to-understand, NOT-doctor-speak way.

That’s why I started my website, and my courses/systems, the f.ree mini-course, daily emails, newsletters, and all the rest.

And SO many people have been helped! I know, because they write me all the time! I have SO many testimonials! You can read them for yourself, if you don’t believe me.

So, I think I’m a success not because I’m wealthy, or I have favor, or just because Webster’s dictionary says those things are what success is…

But I think I’m successful because I set my goals, I went after them, and I achieved them.

What about you?

Do you agree or disagree with Webster’s dictionary’s definition of success?

I’d like to hear what YOU think success is.

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Hi,

How’s it going?

Well the Super Bowl was yesterday.

The Steelers won in case you care : )

It actually was a great game and right down to the end.

I ate a ton yesterday and I feel sick today. I had lots of bad carbohydrates.

I gave myself a free eating day so I had pizza, wings (chicken), chips and ice cream.

I really feel sick. Oh well it was fun while I was doing it.

Hey, so let’s jump into today’s topic. These days there’s a lot of doom and gloom.

You watch the news and you would think the world is going to end tomorrow or in a hour.

Well, it’s not.

My friend was really down and was getting depressed as we talked about everything.

I told him to avoid:

CATASTROPHIZING

Do you know what that means? Take a guess and then scroll down. According to psychcentral.com it is n irrational thought a lot of us have in believing that something is far worse than it actually is”

People with bipolar disorder and their supporters do this all the time.

It’s so common.

They make something big out of something small.

In my courses/systems, I talk about what the signs and symptoms of bipolar disorder are:

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I also talk about how important it is for you, as a supporter, to know those signs and symptoms.

And it is, no doubt.

But catastrophizing would be like if you saw only one sign or symptom and then jumped to the conclusion that your loved one was in a major episode.

Do you see what I’m getting at?

Making some big thing out of a small thing.

Like a hypochondriac, who, say, was out exercising, maybe running a little bit, and runs out of breath, then starts complaining that they’re having a heart attack. You know those kinds of people, right?

Making something big out of something small.

That’s catastrophizing.

That’s what I want you to avoid.

I do want you to be vigilant in watching your loved one for signs and symptoms of a bipolar episode (that’s just a part of being a good supporter), but I don’t want you to catastrophize over it.

Just because they have one sign or symptom, or even two, doesn’t mean they’re going into an episode.

And watch yourself as well.

Just because you have the flu, doesn’t mean you have lung cancer.

Ok, I’m exaggerating a little bit there.

But you know what I mean.

Try to keep the right perspective, and you can avoid:

CATASTROPHIZING

I seriously want to ask, have you ever done this? If so, please post a story. It’s odd how our minds many times think the worst instead of the best.

Let me know.

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Hi,

How it’s going today?

Today is the Super Bowl (big championship game in the USA for football)

I have to do some work and then I am going to a friends’ to eat and watch the game.

Before I take off, I wanted to tell you something important and shocking.

I’ve heard about and read so many scare stories of people with bipolar disorder who went off their medication just because they missed their “manic highs.”

Well, for one thing, they’re only thinking about themselves. They’re NOT thinking about family members or the other people they hurt when they’re in a manic episode.

They’re forgetting that mania isn’t always a “high” feeling, either.

Sometimes they can feel irritation, agitation, anxiety, anger, and even rage and violence.

They may miss all those times of what they perceive to be clear-headed thinking and great thoughts and ideas that nobody else has ever thought of before.

But, in reality, this is delusional thinking and grandiose thoughts. They are, simply, not in their right mind.

This causes them to make bad choices and poor decisions.

They may think it’s fun to go out on that shopping spree, spending all that money, but they don’t think of the consequences of empty bank accounts, maxed-out credit cards and possible financial ruin. In my courses/systems, I go over all the signs and symptoms of bipolar mania and a manic episode, including the things I just talked about:

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One woman with bipolar disorder said:

“I had such incredible dreams and aspirations when I was manic. I, too, thought the world followed me though their eyes. I felt so attractive so sexy, so desired. I miss my mania”

(another symptom of mania can be risky sexual behavior)

Sometimes your loved one, in a manic episode, may act as if they’re driven by a motor – full of energy and drive, with less and less need for sleep.

They may talk frequently, rarely pausing between sentences, and their speech may be rapid as well.

Again, this is another sign of bipolar disorder, and a part of their manic energy.

They may resent you (and others) for not wanting to go along with their dreams, because they don’t understand that their dreams are grandiose and usually unrealistic.

Nobody is trying to steal your loved one’s dreams. When they are more stable, those dreams may (or may not) still be there. But dreams need to be approached in a more realistic way – with long-term and short-term reachable goals, etc.

Like the same woman in the beginning of this email (once she was stable) said:

“Now life is predictable, comfortable, and reliable, and I constantly search my soul for what my life’s true purpose is.”

Dreams are great, and they can possibly come true.

But there’s a difference between realistic dreams and manic grandiose thoughts and ideas.

And I’m sure you want them to be happy. But the “happiness” that comes with bipolar mania is NOT true happiness.

Stability is the most important thing in your loved one’s life.

That way, their dreams will be realistic ones.

Don’t you think?

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Hi,

How’s it going?

You’re going to think I am crazy.

Before we get started, I am going to
tell you how I made a total fool out
of myself yesterday.

Okay, so first let me tell you,
I have a friend that is totally into
football. I played football for 14 years
but now I am retired so I am not into
like I use to be.

Anyway my friend totally is. He is
an Eagles fan. He loves the Eagles. Eagles
this and Eagles that. It’s really kind of annoying.

He has everything Eagles.

He kept telling me for about a week that
the Eagles should be in the Super Bowl (
the Super Bowl is the championship
game for football. The football where you
throw the ball. Hey, don’t laugh at the people
that don’t know. We have lots of international
readers so I have to explain).

Anyway, my friend kept saying it over and
over again. He then started telling me that
the Eagles are kind of in the Super Bowl.

I have no idea why. He was like, “doesn’t
it sound better to say the Eagles are in the Super
Bowl then the Pittsburgh Steelers?”

I was like, “whatever.”

Just so you are clear the Eagles are NOT
in the Super Bowl. It’s the Steelers versus
the Cardinals.

So anyway I was at the bank yesterday. I
was waiting around to talk to a bank person
and then lady was like, “hey who is your
pick for Sunday?” (Sunday is the day of the
game).

I was like “the Eagles.”

Seriously everyone started laughing at me.

THE ENTIRE BANK. Women AND men.

I didn’t know why. I felt kind of weird. I looked
around if there was someone else or something
else that was funny. I was kind of in deep thought
seriously thinking about articles I was going to
write for bipolar anyway.

So then I left the bank and when I was in the
grocery store it just occurred to me that I said
I wanted a team to win that was not playing
and I made a total fool out of myself.

I felt like driving back and explain this
entire story and then I was like, “who
cares if they think I am a moron.” lol.

It’s all my friend’s fault. I called and yelled
at him. He said, “the reason why you said
Eagles is because it sounds better.” He was
happy. He is sick and is obsessed with the
Eagles. He needs therapy of some kind.

Okay this has nothing to do with bipolar
I just needed to tell someone.

Let’s move on to today’s topic about
bipolar disorder.

I have a really great idea for you today.

Today is going to be the day that you
spend at least one hour describing what
you want your life to be like.

If you are a bipolar supporter, you should write
down exactly what you want your life
to be like for yourself, and with the
person you are supporting with
bipolar disorder.

If you have bipolar disorder, you will
write what you want your life to be like for
yourself, and with your supporter.

If you do this, you are much more likely to
accomplish your goal, because it is written
down.

In my courses/systems below, I teach about
the value of writing things down. I suggest
journaling your thoughts and feelings as a
way of recording them. I teach about writing
down short- and long-term goals.

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Most people don’t even know what they
want their life to be like, so they really
wind up being unhappy.

I once read in a book that if you ask 100
people what they want in life, 99 can’t tell
you at all!

Let me ask you this: If you don’t know
the destination, how will you ever arrive?

Think of it as if you went in a car and had
no idea where you were going!

That wouldn’t make any sense now, would it?

So think about this.

Think about your past. Think about where
you’ve been.

Has it made you happy?

Maybe parts of it has.

So include those parts.

But seriously think about what you want your
life to be like.

Do it in parts.

One month from now.

6 months from now.

1 year from now.

5 years from now.

10 years from now.

25 years from now (if you can).

Make it as detailed as you can.

The point is, if you don’t do this, you’ll
have no direction to your life.

And with no direction to your life…

You can’t be happy.

What do you think?

Hey how many people have no clue about
who is playing in the Super Bowl anyway?

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Hi,

How are you?

I hope you are doing well.

Here is today’s news.

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North High teens arrested for alleged prescription drug sale
DO> Wow, what do you think about this?

Bipolar disorder seems both asset, hindrance to Christian artist’s …
DO> Hmm. Think so?

Unlimited budget for arrests, but none for treatment, is insanity
DO> Yea isn’t this stupid. Really. Read this line it’s so true.

I Survived the Psychiatric Hospital
DO> Very interesting article. I remember the first time I was going to visit my mom in the hospital. I thought it was going to be a scary place. Turned out, it was like a resort sort of. My mom liked the place too.

I know some places are horrible however.

Researchers Explore Natural Remedies For Substance Abuse, Mental …
DO> Interesting, take a look.

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DO> Great article, what do you think?

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Hi,

How’s it going?

I know, I know, the first thing you’re probably thinking is, “Dave’s really gone crazy this time!”

Next you’re probably wondering, “How can you possibly have joy if you have bipolar disorder?”

Well, I didn’t say it would be easy.

But it IS possible.

It has to do with your attitude.

Here’s a “for instance”:

If you think about the fact that there is no cure for bipolar disorder, you’ll have a bad attitude, and… NO JOY.

But if you think about the fact that the disorder can be treated, you can have a good attitude, and…

JOY!

Another example:

If you think about all the things you’ve lost because of bipolar disorder, you’ll have a bad attitude, and…

NO JOY.

But if you think about all the things you still have despite the disorder, you’ll have a good attitude, and…

JOY!

Are you starting to see what I’m getting at?

JOY IS ALL IN YOUR ATTITUDE!

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I met a woman who told me this story:

Her husband had a stroke when he was 39 years old.

No one felt as sorry for him as he felt for himself, and he spent most of his time in bed, full of self-pity.

The doctors told him the stroke wasn’t really that bad – that with some rehab, he could be good as new!

But would he do it?

Nope.

He just laid around, depressed, full of self- pity, expecting his wife (the woman telling me this story) to do everything for him.

He lost all his joy.

Know why?

Yep, you guessed it.

Because he had a bad attitude!

Now, here’s the difference, and the moral of the story:

One day, in frustration, this woman said to her husband,

“There are 80-year-old men in your stroke support group more productive than you are! They swim, go out with friends, go to church, they volunteer… they’re happy! They don’t have a bad attitude like you do, just because they had a stroke!”

It took a long time, but slowly and surely this man recovered.

Because he changed his attitude, and…

JOY returned to his life!

I told you this story because it’s the same thing with bipolar disorder.

You can let it rob you of your joy and you can have a bad attitude (in which case, you’ll probably stay depressed and never get better), OR…

You can choose JOY with your bipolar disorder.

Which will YOU choose?

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Hi,

How’s your day going?

Thanks for all those who asked about my back. It still hurts today and on top if it, I have another cold.

I will be better soon but I am hanging in there.

Hey, so I got an email the other day:

“Dave, I don’t mean to complain, I really don’t. I mean, I know my husband is sick and all, and I really do believe he has bipolar disorder. It’s not that. And I’m not jealous of the attention he gets. I’m really not that kind of person. And I don’t mind taking care of him. I love him. It’s just that I’ve been doing it for such a long time, and I am really, really, tired. Really tired. Like I said, I don’t mind being my husband’s supporter. But Dave, let me ask you a question. Who supports the supporter?”

———————————————————-

Wow. This woman sounds really stressed out, doesn’t she?

But she raises a good question:

Who DOES support the bipolar supporter? In my courses/systems below I talk about how important it is to build a strong support system, not just for the person with bipolar disorder, but for their supporter as well:

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If you, as the supporter, don’t develop your own strong support system, you will burn out. You have to have support, because you can’t do it all yourself, it’s that simple.

So who supports the supporter?

For one thing, you do. You support yourself. You have to take good care of yourself, or you won’t be able to take care of your loved one. You won’t have the strength or the energy.

This includes doing things that you enjoy, time away from your loved one, time spent with friends, family, having a job ( perhaps), having hobbies, etc.

You can’t spend every second with your loved one, and you can’t do things for your loved one that they can do for themselves (that’s called enabling).

Who else supports the supporter?

Your family.

You should have other people in your/your loved one’s family who can “spell” you once in a while so that you don’t always have primary responsibility for your loved one.

You do, sometimes, need time to yourself.

And they also should share some of the responsibility. After all, he/she is their family, too.

Who else supports the supporter?

Your friends.

Your friends should still be there for you, in spite of the fact that your loved one has bipolar disorder. They are still your friends.

You should still have something of a social life.

Everyone needs friends, and you are no exception.

There should be fun in your life, and friends can help you do that!

They can also be there as a shoulder to cry on when you need it.

Who else supports the supporter?

Co-workers.

Whether they know that you have a loved one with bipolar disorder or not, it doesn’t matter.

They should still be a part of your support system.

Who else supports the supporter?

If you are spiritual, you can go to a priest, minister, rabbi, etc. for spiritual support.

Join a church, and you can get plenty of support from other church members.

Who else supports the supporter?

The doctor.

They aren’t just there for your loved one, but they are there for you as well, since you’re part of your loved one’s support system.

Supporting you is part of helping your loved one to get better.

Who else supports the supporter?

The therapist.

If your loved one is following a good treatment plan, then they’re already seeing a therapist, but it might be a good idea for you to see one of your own, if you aren’t already doing so.

Then your therapist would be a good support for you.

Who else supports the supporter?

The support group.

Many supporters have found comfort and fellowship in bipolar supporter support groups.

If there is one in your area, you might be able to find support there.

If not, there are some very good support groups on the Internet.

There are also bipolar supporter chat groups and forums on the Internet where you can find support.

So who supports the supporter?

Plenty of people do.

You are NOT alone!

If you are a bipolar supporter, besides me, who supports you?

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Hi,

I hope your day is going well.

I am behind schedule because I have been in pain.

Oh before I tell you about that, I need some help soon.

I am going to be posting a new job position for a person who can do a wide variety of things including but not limited to writing, researching, editing, admin stuff, thinking, planning and problem solving. I already have many people who work for me who fit this description but I need one more.

This would be a great position for someone who is on disability AND has one or more mental illnesses like bipolar disorder.

IMPORTANT NOTE

This does NOT mean I would not hire someone who does not have a mental illness.

I will be posting something soon about this.

Okay, I hurt my back AGAIN yesterday in the gym. I can’t believe it. It’s hard for me to sit for long periods of time.

It’s really odd, in the last few months, I have done things I have done in years:

-fall in the river (hiking…hasn’t happen in probably 16 years)

-slip and fall on ice (hasn’t happen in like 10 years)

-hurt my back (twice…hasn’t happen in like 8 years).

Very strange. Hopefully I got all the bad stuff out of the way for the year : )

Okay, let’s move on to today’s topic instead of getting you to feel bad for me.

I need to talk to you about something.

It’s something I taught about a few months ago as well but I wanted to bring it up again, okay?

Thanks.

Anyway, I got an email from someone that says that so much of what I say is incorrect.

That doesn’t bother me, because I know it isn’t true.

Then the person says that they just want to be heard.

Ok, a lot of people say that.

Then the person says how hard it is to live with bipolar disorder and that I don’t understand and it’s the worst.

Is this person a bipolar cry baby like someone who has bipolar disorder said to me?

I mean, talking about your problems is one thing.

Even a little complaining might be ok.

But there are forums for that – like your support group. Or even your friends or family.

But too much complaining might be considered being a cry baby.

Think about it – if someone comes to you and cries on your shoulder about their problems, you probably don’t mind, do you?

But if they go on and on and on about them (especially if you can’t do anything about them), you might consider them a cry baby.

In my courses/systems below, I talk about effective problem solving techniques:

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Is your loved one a bipolar cry baby?

Do they come to you and complain about all their problems?

About things you can do nothing about?

And, if they do, how does it make you feel?

So, you don’t want to be that way, do you?

You don’t want to be a bipolar cry baby, I know you don’t.

So what’s the alternative?

I know I’ve told you this before, but it bears repeating.

You have to learn to be a good problem solver.

One way to do this is to list out all your problems.

Then you start listing out all the possible solutions, from the simplest to the most impossible, however you brainstorm them (someone told me, “the impossible just takes a little longer.”).

Now, I’m not saying that all these ideas are going to work, or even that you’re going to find your solution the first time that you try this technique. But at least you TRY to find a solution, instead of “crying” about it! And if you keep trying, I bet you WILL find a solution.

The important thing is that you become a problem solver instead of a bipolar cry baby, like that person said.

One person told me, “If you’re not part of the solution, you’re part of the problem.”

Good advice, don’t you think?

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Hi,

Hope you’re having a good day.

I have a whole bunch of things to do today so I have to get going.

So let’s jump into today’s topic.

I have a woman who works for me, and she was telling me that when her children were little, she used to use a “warning system” for disciplining them.

If they were doing something bad, they would get three chances to change their behavior before they would get disciplined.

Her system was to say, “That’s one…”

And if they still didn’t stop, she’d say, “That’s two…”

Then if they still didn’t stop, she’d say, “That’s three!”

And the punishment would begin!

This way she would never have to discipline her children in anger, she says, because she would always give
them three chances first.

In fact, the way she puts it is, “I never punished my children. They punished themselves!”

I look at is that her use of the “one, two, three” system as using KEY WORDS.

In other words, she was using these words to try to get her children to change their behavior based on these certain words.

I talk about how important communication between you and your loved one is in my courses/systems below:

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In the same way this woman used key words to
discipline her children, you can use key words
with your loved one.

Oh, not to discipline them, of course, but to communicate with them.

You can sit down with your loved one and develop these key words together.

Here can be a sample conversation:

YOU: I’ve noticed you’ve been acting sort of keyed-up lately.

THEM: Yeah, I have been kind of nervous.

YOU: I’m not always sure what to do when you feel like that, or even if you want my help.

THEM: I don’t know how to tell you that I need your help.

YOU: What if we come up with a key word that you can use that tells me that you need my help?

Then the two of you can come up with a key word together that only the two of you use in that situation.

Here’s another example:

YOU: I want to talk to you sometimes, but I don’t know how to approach you when you seem distant.

THEM: You just need to tell me.

YOU: I try to tell you, but sometimes I just don’t know how to get your attention, or to tell you how important it is.

THEM: How about if it’s something simple, you just say, “If you’ve got a minute…” but if it’s something important, you say, “Can we sit down?.” That way I’ll know the difference.

Do you see the use of key words in the second example? (“got a minute” and “sit down”)

Other examples of key words you can use with your loved one could be:

· If you notice they seem depressed, use the keyword “down”

· If you notice they seem manicky, use the keywords “excited” or “nervous”

· If your loved one is acting distant, use the keywords “share” (as in, “Is there something you want to share?”) or “listen” (as in, “If you want to talk, I can listen.”)

· If your loved one doesn’t seem like themselves lately, use the keyword “off” (“You seem a little “off” lately)

· “Brainstorm” is a good general keyword to use when you’re loved one seems troubled, as in, “You look like
you’re trying to figure something out. Maybe we can brainstorm some ideas together?”

These are some examples of general keywords, but it’s better if the two of you come up with keywords together.

You can even sit down with your loved one with this list and use some of these and see if they work for you.

Key words are especially useful in social settings – family gatherings, etc.

For example, if “nervous” is one of your keywords to signify between your loved one and you that your loved one is feeling anxiety around others, then when they say that keyword to you, you have agreed ahead of time that the two of you will leave. This will save embarrassment in those situations.

The most important thing is that you keep the lines of communication open between you.

Using key words is one of the ways to do that.

What do you think?

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