Hi,

It’s 6:30am and I am writing early today because I have
a million things to do. Actually not a million probably
around 17. It’s funny whenever I joke around people
write me an say that this or that is not true. So
before a bunch of people on my bipolar disorder list
can write and say that there is no way I can have
1 million things to do in a day, I will tell
you I was just kidding.

Okay on with the big mistake that I see so
many bipolar supporters making. It’s a mistake
I never personally made. I made a ton of mistakes
helping my mom with bipolar disorder but not
this one I am going to describe.

Here it is. It’s trying to change yourself
to get along with or be able to stay around
someone who is NOT stable and has bipolar
disorder.

Let me explain. I got a call from a person
yesterday. She filled out one of my f.ree consultation
certificates for non medical or non legal questions
because I am not a doctor or lawyer.

It’s in all these courses/systems.

SUPPORTING AN ADULT?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

Anyway, she was telling me how her husband
was totally out of control and she wasn’t
sure what to do. I asked her if she
had listened to all the parts of my bipolar
supporter course and she said no. Normally
I would reschedule any f.ree consultation
like this because I want people to go through
my bipolar course FIRST before I talk to
them about questions. I don’t want to repeat
what I have already said or written in
my course/system.

Anyway, she asked me over and over to just
give her 5 minutes of NON medical advice.
I was happy to hear her say, “I know you
aren’t a lawyer or doctor.” I want people
to be sure they know that.

Anyway she told me how basically her husband
was TOTALLY out of control and he
was destroying her and she felt like
maybe she had bipolar disorder and was
maybe crazy. She said she was depressed
and angry sometimes. She had gone
to the doctor and now is taking all
kinds of medication.

She wanted to know what techniques she
could use when her husband screams at her
and how she could “ignore” or “endure”
it.

I cut her off nicely and said, “You are
going about this the wrong way.” You
are trying to fix yourself when you
aren’t the problem. It’s your husband
with bipolar disorder that’s not stable
who is the problem. There isn’t any
medication or technique in the world
that you can take or learn that will
work on your husband.

READ THAT CAREFULLY AGAIN PLEASE.

She is taking medication for herself
and hoping her husband will change.

Read that again.

She is taking medication for herself
and hoping her husband will change.

It sounds crazy when you read it. She
is also trying to fix herself so she
can “endure” her husband’s wild manic
moods.

This is absolutely the wrong approach
in my opinion. Her goal is to get
her husband into treatment and get him
on bipolar medication so he will be
stable.

She is working on herself. I think because
she probably feels she has more control
over herself not him.

I told her to set a goal and focus on
getting him into treatment and other
things will start to fall into place
and many of the problems she is seeing
and hearing will go away when he is
in the right treatment program with
a good doctor/therapist.

She thought about it and then realized
how for years she had been focusing on
the wrong objective.

It’s not just her, I hear this every day.

Bipolar supporters who take medication
because their loved ones are out of control
or try to learn techniques to deal with
a person who will forever not be on
medication.

This is crazy. I am all for short term techniques
to cope and deal with bipolar disorder episodes
but not learning things to live with someone
who is not stable forever.

If my mom decided to not take medication and
not do all the right things to be stable
I would never put up with it and sit around
for years and years while I suffered. I know
it’s a struggle to get someone into treatment
and that’s why I have so many techniques
on how to get someone to a doctor if they
don’t want to go.

BUT, there is a fine line between trying to
get someone into treatment that goes into
an episode every now and then but not someone
you are expected to live with for years and years
who is never stable. I would not put up with that.
I also do not believe the way to go in this case
if to learn how to “endure” it.

Hey I have to run. Have a nice day.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

Hi,

I got up at 6:00am because I was notified about a big problem
with one of my websites. I must say I am super mad. But actually
helping my mom all these years has made me handle major problems
much better.

Anyway, I wanted to drop you a quick email about something that
I wanted to tell you.

Yesterday on Saturday, I was talking with someone about why their
loved one was “so slow” to get better. I was kind of shocked because I felt
this person was kind of being mean.

Their loved one went into a major episode like my mom and he was
saying how it had already been a month and she wasn’t better.

I was thinking, “what the heck?”

I said to him, “how long do you think it should take to recover
from a major episode from a serious chemical imbalance mood disorder
like bipolar disorder?” He said, “well when you say it like that
I guess well maybe longer than a month.”

So I told him to listen to “My mom’s story” which is a cd
in my courses/systems. He skipped that cd because he
wanted to get to the important stuff. I explained
I didn’t add filler material in my stuff and that everything
was important. He said that he would go through everything more
carefully.

I hope this isn’t you. If you got my courses/systems:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

I hope you listened to that cd. It should have been the
first one for you to hear. I did that on purpose.

WHY DO I HAVE MY MOM’S STORY ON A CD?

I wasn’t going to have this. But really at the last second
of finishing up my material I decided to include it. See when
my mom was undergoing treatment, I never knew how long it would
take. I didn’t know what to expect. NOBODY would give me any
answers or estimates. It was really annoying. They would give
me the you just have to wait and see.

I am NOT a doctor but I have seen that it takes time to
recover from episodes. I think it’s really stupid for doctors
or anyone to say they have absolutely positive no idea
whatsoever how long it will take to recover from a major
episode. They can give generazationsi my opinion.

Here’s my rule of thumb. ALWAYS plan longer than you think
it will take and you will be less frustrated.

Anyway, I felt like if I put exactly what I did to help my mom on
on CD and how long it took, it would help you know what you would
be up against. People love that cd because of this.

Think about this. If you have a loved one and he/she is not
getting better after 6 months you might feel like there is
something wrong. But then if you hear it took many people 12 months
or more to become stable after a major episode you change your
view.

Information is the key and that’s what the mental health community
never seems to offer. They tell you about the 16 medications,
what they do, and all the names of illnesses. They don’t tell
you a lot of the stuff you need to know. Like, it takes time
for a loved one to recover from a major illness.

If I were you, take whatever you are thinking and double it and
plan for it. This way it makes it easier. If your loved one recovers
quicker that’s great.

Hey I have to run and get a TON of stuff done and wait for my
website administrator to get up so she can fix these problems.

Oh the stress in my life :).

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

Hi,

How’s it going? I have to tell you something
really, really, really important about
bipolar disorder.

First before I say it, I want to make
sure you are 100% clear that I am NOT
an attorney, lawyer, medical doctor,
therapist, financial advisor, insurance
agent and I am not a professional.

All the information that I have is from
the school of hard knocks. It’s from
supporting a mom with bipolar disorder
and now having more than 10 people who work
for me that have a mental illness. Some have
5 mental illnesses.

With that said, I wanted to tell you something
that happen to me the other day. I was in
the gym and someone brought up depression
to me. She said her sister had it and another
family member has bipolar disorder and stopped
taking her medication.

Why? Well the person told me it’s because they
saw on TV that the particular drug may cause
side effects and the drug maker was being
sued by a bunch of attorneys. The person on
the medication stopped taking it because
the commercial for the lawyers looking for people
to represent against the drug companies made
it seem if you take the drug you really could
have really bad problems and side effects.
So the person on the bipolar disorder medication
made the decision to stop taking the drug right
away.

I was like, “Are you kidding me?????” In my opinion
this is TOTALLY 100% WRONG!

You should NEVER stop taking your medication until
you speak to a qualified doctor about this. If you
have bipolar disorder or your loved one does, and
you have medication concerns, schedule a doctors
visit. Talk to the doctor. The doctor will do
the research and then either say that you should
transition to another drug or say that you should
not.

You and your loved one have to work with a good
doctor and NOT, and I repeat NOT make decisions
without the doctor. If there is one thing that
drives me absolutely crazy is when I hear
people doing this.

In my opinion the attorneys running these ads
looking for people to join their lawsuit really
hurt people with mental illness especially bipolar
disorder because they persuade people to stop taking
their medication through fear tactics in the commercial.

But I just want to say, if you have ANY concerns on
medication, you have to work with the doctor. If
you think your doctor is dumb, clueless, mean, you can’t
work with him/her, you don’t like him/her get one
that you trust, know is smart and believe in so you
can always feel comfortable working with them.

When I think of this, it reminds me of a saying,
The man who represents himself has a fool for a client

This is in reference to people that don’t get a lawyer
when they have to go to court, they are their own lawyer
and they normally get DESTROYED in court and LOSE.

In my systems and courses:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

The bipolar success stories that I feature on cd,
never change their medication or get off their medication
unless they talk to their doctor first and work with
him/her on the treatment plan. They just don’t do
it own their own.

Well I have to run.

Catch you tomorrow.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

Hi,

Here is the current Bipolar Disorder news. There
is some really interesting stuff. It costs me a lot
of money to put it together so I URGE you to read
it.

Take some time now.

Visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarnews332

There’s some really interesting news stories this week.
Take a look at them. Also, write me some feedback by
visiting my blog below.

Here are some of the headlines:

Stanford Hosts Bipolar Education Day for Public

Illness and Physical Appearance

US Court ruling “Bipolar Disorder is physical disorder and not a …

Learn The Bipolar Triggers Or Else

The Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance and The HealthCentral
Network Collaborate to Enhance Internet Resources for …

For these stories and more, please visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarnews332

My Resources For Bipolar:

Quickly And Easily Explain Bipolar To People
Go here for more information.
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/explainingbipolar

Need Money Because Of Bipolar Disorder?
Go here for more information
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarbusiness

Dating Someone With Bipolar?
Go here for more information
http://www.BipolarCentral.com/bipolardating

Want To Marry Someone Who Has Bipolar?
Go here for more information
http://www.BipolarCentral.com/bipolarmarriage/

Need Affordable Health Insurance When Dealing With Bipolar Disorder?
Go here for more information
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Problems With Drugs, Alcohol And Addiction?
Go here for more information
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Trying To PREVENT A Divorce From Someone With Bipolar Disorder?
Go here for more information:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolardivorce

Your Friend,

Dave

Hi,

How are you? I am going to make this really
short today because I want this message
to be clear.

If you have a loved one who has bipolar
disorder and he/she gets violent
and beyond your control, and the police
must be called, you should tell
the police right away the person has
bipolar disorder. Ask if the person
listening to you knows what bipolar
disorder is.

If not say something like:

“Bipolar Disorder is a mental illness
that can cause a person to change his/her
moods from mania or a high to depression
or a low. When my loved one is not feeling
well, he/she can do and say things that
they normally would not. I just need you
to help me get him/her to the hospital
or treatment. I don’t you to shoot
and kill my loved one.”

Ask the police to send people who have
experience dealing with someone with a
mental illness.

Make sure when the police arrive you
are there and remind them the person
has bipolar disorder.

Keep telling them not to shoot and kill
so they think first instead of just shooting.

Sadly, someone on my list didn’t follow
these instructions and her loved one with
bipolar disorder was shot.

If you get my courses/systems at:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

You notice that a number of people in
the interviews who have bipolar disorder
have been arrested. Many have said they
have no memory of what they said or did
to the police. The supporters of the people
in my interviews with my courses/systems
tell me that sometimes these loved ones
were totally out of control and without
their intervention would have been probably
shot by police.

NOTE-It’s not the police who are the problem,
it’s the person who is not stable who has
bipolar disorder who is the problem. People
get mad at the police for shooting at people
with bipolar disorder but I must say, if
you put yourself in the position of a police
person with let’s say a family and someone
runs at you with a knife screaming and yelling,
you might wind up shooting if you were a police
person.

THE KEY TO THIS IS TO GET PEOPLE WITH BIPOLAR
DISORDER WITH THE RIGHT TREATMENT

With the right treatment plan, you never will
have to be dealing with the police (probably
I guess I should never say never).

Hey I have to run.

See you tomorrow when I send the news.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

Hi,

How are you? I wanted to write you today
about a major bipolar disorder success
story. I have been getting a ton lately.

I think it’s because I have been doing
this for so long. I was reminded the other
day that it’s been almost three years. That’s
kind of amazing considering that 99% of people
that I spoke to about the idea 3 years ago
said it was impossible.

They said things like:

People would not listen to me
I am not a good writer and nobody would read it
Everyone on my list would be crazy and impossible
to deal with
I wouldn’t be able to buy advertising at a cheap
enough price to make it all work

Well this has all come a long way. About 2 years ago
someone contacted me and his wife was totally out
of control.

His wife had left him, was kind of missing but
would call. She was cheating on him with another
guy. She spent tons of money and said and did
a long list of really bad things.

This person got one of my courses about
what he should do. He then used the f.ree
consultation certificate that came with it
and sent it in. NOTE this is for NON
medical and NON legal questions because
I am NOT a doctor, lawyer, financial advisor,
professional anything, etc.

Anyway, he called and he was completely
distraught. His wife’s bipolar was destroying
him. He was going to the doctor himself
and was taking anxiety medication and medication
for depression.

He said he never ate and only worried. His
work was suffering tremendously. He said
he couldn’t sleep and needed sleeping medication.
Even though I am NOT a doctor it seemed odd
to me how many medications he was taking.

Anyway, we talked and he asked me what he
should do. I said the key is to focus on
getting her into treatment.

When I was talking to him, he was not focused.
He had no real goal. Maybe his goal was
to have his old wife back. That really wasn’t
going to cut it with me.

I told him about the get her in to treatment
goal and then other things would fall into place.

He was worried that was a bad goal. I told him
I can’t make any promises and I gave him my cell
to call because he needed a friend and my list
was way smaller back then and I had more
f.ree time.

So anyway, it took about a month for him to
get her into treatment. He probably had to try
about 12 of my 21 ways before one worked.

After she was in treatment, within the first
day, she had been brought down from her manic
high and was able to be reasoned with.

Over the months there were ups and downs
but eventually she really started to become
stable.

Then he called and I warned him of the
doomsday scenario which had just almost
happen to me.

I told him how he has to hope for the best
but plan for the worst. I told him
about putting the systems together
to prevent future episodes.

After all this time, things are going great
for him and he is really happy. He is off
all his medications.

NOTE-Again, I am NOT a doctor
remember and not recommending, diagnosing,
or making any medical suggestions only
pointing out facts.

It’s nice to get such stories. I remember
how sad he was back in the day and now
everything is going great.

I wanted to write so you hear something positive
today. There is hope and things can turn around
if you or your loved one aren’t doing well.
It just takes time. And it takes knowledge.

SUPPORTING AN ADULT?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

How’s it going? I wanted to write you really quick
about something that I was thinking of–bipolar
triggers.

It’s strange to me how doctors, therapists,
books, etc. rarely talk about this or make
a big deal about it.

What is a bipolar trigger? Well a bipolar
trigger is something that triggers,
leads to, causes or instigates a bipolar
disorder episode.

For people with bipolar disorder, there
are things that “trigger” and episode.

With my mom, according to her and my
own observations, here are some of hers:

stress
not eating right
not exercising
not being on the right medication
no sleeping
going to Texas to see her family
getting into too many arguments
getting wrapped up in drama that involves friends

That’s just a few the list is much longer but
you can see from the above list some of the
stuff might be considered odd. Like “
going to Texas to see her family.”

You might think, “how is that a trigger?”
Well first remember the rule of why. Don’t
ask why when you no it is so.
This rule states, don’t try to figure out
what is proven to be a fact–just accept
it. Many get bogged down in trying to
figure out why something is with bipolar
disorder as opposed to just acceptance.

For example, “Why does sleep help my
loved one stay stable.” Who cares,
just help your loved one get enough
sleep. Unless you are a researcher,
why ask why?

BUT even though I just said all that,
let’s look at why Texas for my mom is
a trigger. I want to do this not to contradict
myself but to show how you may not know
why and don’t even need to but ultimately
a certain thing is very important.

Okay, Texas. Let’s look at what Texas is
for my mom. First she is from Texas, and
so is most of my family. So Texas equals
seeing family. Texas also logically equals
many bad times for my mom. Why? Well when
she was in Texas she had bipolar disorder
and she wasn’t under the right treatment
plan. Actually she didn’t have a treatment
plan so lots of bad things happen.

With that said, it’s easy to see in my
head how Texas becomes stressful in many
ways and can bring back bad memories.

Even if you don’t have bipolar disorder,
dealing with relatives is stressful.

Anyway, so if we assume Texas equals lots
of stress, and we know that stress is a bipolar
disorder trigger for my mom, we can conclude
that going to Texas can be a bipolar trigger
for my mom and lead into an episode for
her.

Now even if I didn’t know all of this or
I couldn’t figure out all the stuff that
creates stress in Texas, the data or
the results of Texas trips are clear.

According to my memory and my dad,
my mom goes into an episode AFTER coming
back from Texas most of the time.

I hope it doesn’t happen this time
but I am not worried. There is a great
plan and system in place. BUT, if the
system fails and my mom goes into an
episode, I know EXACTLY what to do
in virtually any and every case.

I have thought through all possible
outcomes and have a plan for each. It this
point, it’s a breeze for me since I have
been doing it so long. It takes no effort.

If you are new to supporting someone with
bipolar disorder, you should be excited
because it use to be a nightmare for me.
Trying to figure all the stuff out with
my mom and what to do and how to respond
if this or that happen. Now it’s really
easy.

It can be easy for you some day soon. It
won’t happen in 47 seconds but it can
happen.

SUPPORTING AN ADULT?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

I have to take off for today. Have a
great day and catch you tomorrow.

Dave

Hi,

How’s it going? Hope you have a good
Monday. Well today I wanted to talk
about something rather bad. Some
call it the “ugly truth.”

What’s that? Well here’s what it
is. When you are supporting someone
with bipolar disorder there are many
ugly truths. Here’s just a few of
them:

-There is no cure for bipolar disorder

-Bipolar can be very expensive and destroy
one’s finances

-People with bipolar disorder can go into
episodes and say and do things they normally
would not do.

Today I am going to focus on that last ugly
truth.

Here’s the deal as I see it. Tons of people
with bipolar disorder are great people to
be around and hang out with. I have lots of
friends and people who work for me with
bipolar disorder.

But like Michele Soloway who has bipolar
disorder always tells me, you have to
remember that a person with bipolar disorder
will always have bipolar disorder and could
go into an episode and say and do things
they would normally never, ever do.

For example, the Religious nun type
person that never cheats, yells, screams,
drinks alcohol or curses might start
screaming, yelling, drinking, cursing,
etc.

Why? Well it’s because bipolar disorder
is a mood disorder that affects people’s
thinking and stuff. That’s why it’s a mental
illness because it works on one’s mind. This
isn’t to say you should be afraid of people
with bipolar disorder or be worried they
will explode without any provocation.

Rather we do have to remember that it is possible
for people to go into episode and say and do
things they normally would not.

THE KEY HOWEVER IS THERE ARE PEOPLE WHO ARE
NOT BEING TREATED

The person that is out of control is the person
who is not being treated.

What does not being treated mean? It means they
are not seeing a doctor generally, or therapist.
Not taking medication at all OR not taking it
right OR they are not taking it all the time.

This leads to a disaster and the biggest ugly
truth–violence and doing extremely bad things.

Some people with bipolar disorder who are not
treated can become very violent. Or they can
do extreme things like make up huge lies, threaten
people, steal, rob, etc.

THIS IS NOT ALL PEOPLE WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER BUT
SOME.

And today’s email is going to urge you to report
this type of ugly truth and not to mask or hide
it.

GIGANTIC MISTAKE MADE BY PEOPLE

Is covering up, hiding or masking a major ugly
truth because you feel that it doesn’t represent
the person or that you think that if you report it,
they will get into trouble or reporting will make
them look really bad.

I believe this is a big mistake. There are people
that have been very violent and done bad things
and there is NO record of it. Why? Well every time
they do something a loved one never tells anyone
at all. As a result years go by and the person
never gets the right treatment and he/she starts
doing worse and worse things and eventually can
seriously hurt someone.

If you look at the bipolar news that I send out
on Fridays, you hear about people with bipolar
disorder killing people, running over people,
hurting their kids, etc. If you read the cases,
in almost every case, the judges throw the book
at them and sentence them to a long, long time
in jail.

Why? Well, well, first let me say I am NOT
a lawyer, doctor, therapist, financial advisor,
etc. Okay, now let me say that based on what I see,
the courts are not letting people with bipolar
disorder get away with doing really bad things
because they have a mental illness.

It seems judges are saying, “You know what you have,
and you did something really bad, and you will be
punished. Period.”

In almost every case that I review, or if I am
able to talk to people surrounding an incident,
the people saw for years a number of ugly truths
but never reported it. As a result, the system,
or person’s doctor, therapist never knew how
bad the person with bipolar disorder was and really
didn’t take any action to try to prevent
these terrible things.

For example, I personally know someone that
said, “my wife is not as bad as your mother.”
I hear that kind of thing a lot. People
suggest that my mom was really bad and
their loved one is not as bad.

When I questioned him, I found out this
guy’s wife is FAR WORSE than my mom. His
wife’s bipolar is totally out of control.
His wife:

-Hit him with a pot
-Cut him with an instrument and caused him to bleed
-Attacked him multiple teams
-Hits and punches him
-Calls the police on him after she attacks him and cries
-Tells his kids lies about him all the time
-Tells people around town that he is abusive and he is not
-Throws objects at him with regularity
-She drinks and doesn’t take her medication regularly

My mom was never this violent. BUT here’s the
deal. I asked the guy, have you reported this
to ANYONE but me? He said, “umm well, not really,
I don’t want to get her into trouble.”

So imagine that she is a parent and it’s obvious
he could have to get a divorce and when he heads
to court and talks about how she is a bad mother,
where will be the proof?

Also, how is the doctor suppose to do anything
if he/she doesn’t even know these ugly truths
are occurring?

Also, since she is not held accountable, the violence
and chaos is escalating each year. I told him to
fear for his life because she could do something
to him based on what he said. I highly encouraged
him to report all to the police, doctor, etc. and
speak with his lawyer and make a plan.

Anyway, he’s not the only one, there are thousands
of people on my list covering up for an out of
control loved one with bipolar disorder.

When you do this, you don’t do them any good
or yourself. Not to mention you put yourself,
your family, your friends and society at risk.

SUPPORTING AN ADULT?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

Hi,

Yesterday I wrote you and told you I would
share one strategy to help you deal
with stress from supporting someone
with bipolar disorder.

It’s really simple and you might find
it too simple.

It’s get away and take a walk. I find
this probably one of the biggest stress
reducing things that I can do for myself.

I actually walk generally 5 days a week.
Wednesday, through Sunday. I walk first
thing in the morning.

Sometimes however I will walk off afternoon
stress so I will have two walking sessions.

Usually the second on is only 15 minutes
while the first one is 30 minutes.

I also weight train and do intense
stretching as well. I do this 6 days
a week. But take a week off every 6 to 7
weeks. I don’t want to make this complicated
for you so here’s a good plan for you.

NOTE-Before starting any exercise routine,
always check with a doctor. Also remember
I am NOT a doctor, therapist, pharmacy
worker, insurance agent, lawyer or even
a dog walker. Someone wrote me the other
day if I walk dogs for a living. I
don’t walk dogs 🙂

Anyway, if you walk 3 times a week
or better yet 5 after you get a doctor
approval, you might want to do it at night.

This way you can walk away a lot of your
bipolar caregiver stress.

I don’t know what it is, but if I am
having a terrible day, if I just walk
for like 15 to 30 minutes these things happen:

I feel better
I come up with solutions to bipolar related problems
quicker
I feel like I can be a good supporter
I am more upbeat
I don’t feel so run down

When my mom was REALLY, REALLY sick with her
bipolar disorder major episode, I wound
up not going to the gym BUT I continued
to walk.

It was through walking that I thought
of many solutions to my mom’s problems.

Actually it was one day that I was walking
that I came up with the idea on how
to find a doctor for my mom and get
them to contact us instead of us contacting
them.

They say that walking releases hormones
or something that causes an increase in
some part of your brain. I am not sure
because I don’t know about those things
but I know the bottom line is that it
works for bipolar supporters.

I will say one last thing before I take
off.

If you got any of my courses/systems

SUPPORTING AN ADULT?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

Many of the people interview stress how
important it is to take care of yourself.
Many bipolar supporters do not do this.
I didn’t do this but let me tell you, it’s
a big mistake.

If I could do it all over again, I would
take care of myself first. Today I will
not let my mom’s bipolar disorder episodes
destroy my health.

Anyway with that said, walking helps to
make sure you keep your own health in
check.

Please don’t take this suggestion lightly.
Schedule an appointment with your doctor
to get approval to start walking several
times a week and see how it start helping
you cope and deal with your loved one’s
bipolar disorder.

I am not kidding, I have taught this to
many people where I volunteer at and
they love it.

I KNOW IT’S SIMPLE but some times
the simple things are the most powerful.

I have to head to the gym speaking of walking
see you tomorrow.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

Hi,

How’s it going? I have to make it quick because
I am really behind today. I overslept. I’ve
been under a ton of stress lately.

Tomorrow I think I am going to tell you one
strategy that I use to deal with lots of
stress. Actually I will probably tell you
two.

Anyway, things have grown so fast with all
this bipolar stuff it’s hard to keep up.
Not to mention that I run 4 businesses
in total.

Yesterday was most frustrating because I
received numbers threats against me
including one person that said that I
“was working with drug companies to
medicate and destroy bipolars.”

This person suggested that the world
would be better without me and he was
going to get me.

Oh well I know the person was in an
episode because half the conversation
he liked me and the other half he
wanted to kill me.

NOTE-I get some many threats on a daily
basis, it’s amazing and really annoying.
I try not to take it personal but sure
is hard because I don’t have a personality
that loves hearing and reading threats and
just looking the other way. But this
organization sure has taught me how
to improve this skill 🙂 There
have been some people that call
and write with nice things only to
threaten the next week.

This brings up an important point
with bipolar disorder. It’s a mood
disorder that impairs someone’s
judgment when they are not stable.

So you have to be careful even with
your own loved one. People not getting
the right treatment from a good
doctor and do something bad. That something
can be violent. My mom has taken swings
at me, spit on me, punched me sort of,
thrown a phone at me, etc.

If she is not stable I always watch
her hands and make sure I can defend myself.
I NEVER assume that my mom is my mom and
would never do such a thing. Why? Well
it’s because if she is not stable I
can’t assume that her motherly instinct
will override her instability.

With that said, I was speaking to someone
that said his wife was never violent in
any bipolar disorder episodes but then in the last
couple of years has become violent.

My mom on the other hand has gone the OPPOSITE.
My mom use to yell, scream, cry TONS. And I
mean TONS. But in the last year, that happens
less and less and less.

I was talking to Michele Soloway who has
bipolar disorder and she said she is not
violent but her sister was (her sister
killer herself and had bipolar disorder), but
she noted how bipolar can change with time.

So you have to constantly watch, learn
and plan for the worst but hope for the
best. That’s why when you look at my courses
at:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

You will notice that I try to cover every possible
situation. For example, the violent person, the drinking
person, the non violent person. The person who wants
to go to the doctor, doesn’t want to go. The person
who gives permission for you to talk to his/her doctor
the person that doesn’t.

I do this because a person with bipolar disorder can
change and you need to have a strategy if he/she changes
and not just say, “Man, this stinks, they weren’t suppose
to do that, they never generally did something like
that but now they did and I don’t know what to
do…this isn’t fair. What the heck???”

That’s the kind of thinking my dad has. Not so
much any more. BUT my dad still is too dependent
on me as my mom’s supporter. I am working to
stop this and shift more responsibility to him.

Anyway, I have to run and will catch you tomorrow.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com