Hi,

How’s it going?

Hope you are doing well.

Before I get started, I wanted to
tell you that I have recorded 30 podcasts
for bipolar supporters and bipolar survivors
and I am going to be posting them
on my podcast site. These are F.ree
mini lessons on bipolar disorder that
you can listen to on your computer
or on your mp3 player or ipod.

I will let you know when I have
posted them. It took me half
the day yesterday to record
them all yesterday.

Also, I am strongly considering
offering some f.ree coaching
sessions on people that want
to start a b.usiness and are
dealing with bipolar disorder. Not sure
how I am going to do it but
I have a few ideas.

Will let you know.

Okay, oh, one last thing. Something
funny. You’re going to laugh.

Yesterday I was in the supermarket shopping.

There was a man a woman who were there.
The woman was pushing the cart and the guy
was trailing behind her. I noticed
that he was taking cookies out of
the bin and eating them. One by one.
I saw him look around to make sure people
weren’t looking.

This little girl saw him and “screamed
MOMMY…that man is stealing!!!!”

The girl’s mom looked at the guy who
had a cookie in his mouth and the little
girl said, “MOMMY..he’s stealing cookies.”

The mom said, “shhh. Stop it. Be quiet.”

The little girl then said, “mommy stealing
is bad!!!!!.”

The mom said, “I know, but we have to have
our inside voice on in the store.”

It was so funny. The guy then was all red
and said, “umm. Oh, I am going to pay for
those.” His wife gave him one of those, “you
just wait until we get home….you’re going
to get it looks.”

It was really funny.

Today I want to talk about setting
boundaries for bipolar supporters.

Yesterday I was on the phone with
a coaching client.

He was really mad about something.

He told me that his wife winds up
going into mini episodes all the time
and then calling him over and over
and over about urgent bipolar emergencies.

He said, “it never fails, whenever I am
doing something important, my wife calls
80 times and says there is this or that
problem and I must deal with it.”

He told me how he was tired of dealing
with bipolar emergencies and that it
was making him have anxiety.

I listened for a while. He went on
to say this has been going on for
years and years. So long, he can’t
remember when it started.

I then told him, he needs to
set boundaries. He also needs to
stop feeding the mania.

In my courses/systems:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

I talk about how people can feed mania or make
bipolar disorder worse. There are so
many ways, I can’t even list them
all in this email.

Anyway, this use to happen with my mom
for YEARS. My mom always had an
emergency. And guess who always got
the call? ME.

I would be right in the middle of something
super important and my mom would call
and say this or that happen. Or she
would tell me bad news of some kind.

Did you know that so and so got killed
in an accident. Or that this bad thing
happen. Half the time, I would be right
in the middle of a meeting and I would
be all worried about what emergency
this was.

My dad on the other hand wouldn’t return
my mom’s calls. Neither would my brother.
I always wondered why but eventually after
I got out of college, bipolar emergencies
went to me. My dad and brother must have
been thinking, “better him than me.”

Like my coaching client, I had the same
problems and they were really annoying.

Eventually several months after my mom
had her big episode I said, “I am not
dealing with these emergencies anymore.
She can fix her own problems.”

I told my mom how I wasn’t going to
solve her problems any more and I didn’t
want to always hear bad news from her.

I told her that I wouldn’t pick up the phone
after 7:00pm, EST. I also warned her
that she had alienated most family members
by only calling with bipolar emergencies,
urgent issues or bad news. People in the
family equated her call with trouble and
therefore the avoided her calls.

BIPOLAR SURVIVOR LESSON:
If you have bipolar disorder and you have
done this over the years because of manic
episodes, you correct this by calling
people with good news and non urgent
things over a period of time. You retrain
the people around you to no longer equate
your calls with bad stuff. Make sense?

My accountant, use to have the same problem.
His wife had bipolar disorder and wasn’t
in treatment. She would call him 20 times
a day. I saw one day, while I met with him,
his wife called, over and over and over
to scream at him. He actually would take
the calls. Many of his clients were NOT
understanding like me and left and thought
he and his wife were crazy. Sad but true.

If you are a bipolar supporter, you have
to set boundaries with your loved one
and not get caught up in bipolar emergencies.
If you find what I just described happening
to you all the time, ask yourself the question:
“when you responded to the emergencies, did
you ever resolve anything?” Probably not,
so doing it in the future probably won’t
either.

Let your loved one know when to call,
when you with respond and let them know
that you aren’t going to be fixing
all their problems. It’s not good for
you or them.

Bipolar emergencies run people into
the ground. If you don’t set boundaries,
you’ll wind up losing it, having no
life at all, developing anxiety and
many other bad things, if you are
a bipolar supporter.

Hey, I have to go to the gym. I will
catch you tomorrow. Have a great day.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Want your own copy of these daily bipolar
emails sent to you for F.ree? If so, visit:
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P.P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

Hi,

What’s new?

Hey, I am taking off to go to the library
to do a whole lot of research for the
day.

Here is the current Bipolar Disorder news.

Make sure you take a look at the news. It takes
a lot of time to put the news together so please
read it.

To see the news visit:

http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarnews360

There’s some really interesting news stories this week.
Take a look at them. Also, write me some feedback by
visiting my blog below.

Here are some of the headlines:

Teen worries that her anger is a sign of bipolar disorder
DO> Today the internet has enabled people to do
some self diagnosis. This may be good but it
can be bad. What do you think?

Judge says man accused of decapitating daughter was insane
DO> Sad! This is the kind of thing that happens when someone
doesn’t have the right treatment.

Pros and Cons of Giving Adult Drugs to Children
DO> Very interesting article. Actually I don’t
even really having an opinion yet on this issue. Can you
believe that????

Britney may have bipolar disorder: reports
DO> Old news but still in the news.

Bright light therapy helps some with bipolar depression
DO> We have been saying this for years at bipolarcentral.com

Poor Britney Spears: Does she need Dr. Phil?
DO> In my opinion she does not. What do you think?

For these stories and more, please visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarnews360

==>> Get Help with ALL aspects of bipolar disorder<<== Check out all my resources, programs and information
for all aspects of bipolar disorder by visiting:

http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

Your Friend,

Dave

Hi,

How’s it going? I have had
a lot of people ask me about how
they can help a loved one with
bipolar disorder and an addiction.

I have a special going on for
28 people if you are looking for
guidance in that area. It sends
Tuesday,January 15, 2008 at 10:00pm

Take a look at:

http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolaraddictionsale

Thanks.

Dave

Hi,

What a day yesterday was. I had so many
bipolar emails, letters, phone calls all screaming
URGENT.

Sadly, I really see how mental health
places just collapse and so many
quit the field. It’s amazing how demanding
people can be.

I must say it’s starting to get overwhelming.

In addition to questions, I had a whole group of people
write me about this one said that
on my blog and someone said this
that and the other thing and they are
mad.

It’s so odd to me, but I think people
really just imagine that I have nothing
going on all day. That I am just
sitting around.

It’s amazing the kind of clear,
concise questions I get from
those who use my f.ree consultation
certificates.

When I get calls, f.ree consultations
certificates, etc. that ask:

What three questions can I ask
to qualify a doctor, that’s a great question.

How do I find a local support group

How do we deal with a doctor
that won’t talk to us

How do we find a great doctor?

These are GREAT specific questions.

When I get:

Help.

Do you know how many times I see
this a day? Know how many voicemails
I get that say, “help.” Keep in mind
these are almost from bipolar supporters.

I could see a person with bipolar
not being clear.

It amazes me. I just would
never say, “help?” I think in my head,
how in the world can I help them
if there is no specific question?

Or even worse than just help is someone
who tells me a really, really, really, really
long story and then really has no question
at all and just wants to vent.

The thing is, if I spend 45 minutes listening
to the story, I could have helped 4 to 7 people
with specific questions. See the problem?

Another thing that drives me crazy is someone
who hears a bipolar rumor and believes it.

The bipolar rumor is when one person
hears something about bipolar disorder
that is not based on truth about a rumor.

Here is how it generally goes.

I get an urgent, you need to talk to
so and so right away. It’s incredibly
urgent. URGENT. URGENT.

So I contact them.

Actually let me give you a real story.

I spoke with someone. This person started
yelling at me. She said:

You tell us to go to a good doctor and
that person will help get me on the
right medication, right?

I say, “Yep.”

Then this person said, “Well, I heard
that there is a cure for bipolar disorder
and I can’t believe you didn’t tell me.”

I heard this and I was like here we go
again.

So I find out this person heard, from

NOTE-You are going to think I am lying
but this is how it was.

heard from, a friend of a friend, of a friend
of a friend, of a friend of a friend, that his
friend had bipolar and now is cured.

NOTE there was so many friends involved
in the chain of information it was amazing.

The woman indicated that the person
took some kind of natural something or
another.

I said, “how do you know it’s true?”

Did you interview the person

Did you talk to their doctor/therapist?

Did you meet the person?

How long have they been “cured?”

Have you checked their finances?

Can they hold a steady job and be
in stable relationships?

Etc.

The person was like, “well, I don’t know
all that.”

I hear this all the time. It drives me
crazy.

Bipolar rumors are a huge problem.

The worst is when the rumor is spread
is the truth. In this case, this person took this bipolar
rumor and they tell someone they know about
someone they know who knows someone
they know who was cured of bipolar
disorder.

I once was volunteering and a BIPOLAR
SUPPORTER told me he heard that
people with bipolar disorder can lose
their arms from treatment.

I thought he was kidding. He said his friend
read it online and told him. He told me
his friend never lies that’s why he believed
him.

It’s crazy. Once people hear stuff,
they tell others.

Then they tell someone who tells
someone else who tells someone else…

Get the picture?

It reminds me of that commercial on TV
awhile back for some shampoo that
said (and showed), “And they’ll tell 2
people…and they’ll tell 2 people…and
they’ll tell 2 people…” and on and on
and on…

And all this telling people is all based
upon a RUMOR to begin with!!!

In my courses, I talk about how there
is no cure for bipolar disorder at this
time, but that doesn’t stop some
people from seeking out “alternative
therapies.” I even expose some of
these supposed “cures”:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

It’s important to me for you to know
that there really is NOT a cure for
bipolar disorder at this time. That is a
sad fact, but at least there is treatment
for the disorder. It is NOT a death
sentence!

But for people to claim some
miraculous cure should be illegal!
In fact, it is unethical, if not illegal,
when some company tries to sell you
some product that claims to cure
bipolar disorder, you should KNOW
that it is bogus! It will never be able
to say that it is backed by the FDA,
and that is what you should look for.

When I read and see this is DRIVES
ME CRAZY. I get more mad than
I get about even the Britney stuff
I was writing about.

But these bipolar rumors are super dangerous! I know of
one woman who believed in this rumor.
She believed in it so much that she
stopped taking her medication, believing
that she was cured of bipolar disorder.
8 months later, she took a gun and
killed herself.

What was worse was that she not only
claimed this “cure” for herself, she told
MANY other people about it. They,
too, went off THEIR medication! And
they, too, went into bipolar episodes!

Luckily, they didn’t kill themselves,
because they had good supporters, and
they realized they really weren’t “cured,”
but just think about what could have
happened to them!

There really is NO CURE for bipolar
disorder at this time. And anyone
who claims that there is, is NOT telling
the truth – they are only spreading a
RUMOR. A potentially deadly RUMOR.

If you have found yourself in this
situation, I BEG YOU NOT TO
LISTEN TO THIS RUMOR! Please,
please, DO NOT GO OFF YOUR
MEDICATION, no matter what you
hear!

Thanks for listening. I really hope
you do listen.

I have to go, because I have a whole lot
of stuff to do today.

Catch you tomorrow. Oh, tomorrow is the bipolar
news.

Your friend,

Dave

P.P.S. Want your own copy of these daily bipolar
emails sent to you for F.ree? If so, visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/register3

P.P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

Hi,

How’s it going?

Hope you are doing well.

I have a super busy day. I have had really,
really busy days. Today I have to interview
two people, then one doctor, then record
try to record 11 records, do a lot of
operational stuff, train a new person
who has been hired and then work on
my other businesses.

Some have worried that I am “over doing
it.” Don’t worry, I am not. I have a great
team in this week and next week will
be super busy but then the workload
will lighten.

I actually have some really interesting
to talk about today quickly.

You might not have heard it but,
a whole bunch of people in the media
and on the internet are saying
Britney Spears has bipolar disorder.

I just ran a search on google and people
are running ads with the following titles:

“Britney’s Meltdown”

“Britney Mental Lockdown”

“Is Britney Insane?”

I can’t believe people are running
ads like this to drive traffic to
their websites. Very strange.

Anyway, all this talk has gotten many
people to write and ask me. One of my
coaching clients asked what I thought.

I have some thoughts.

Actually before I get started, I want
to say first

I am NOT a doctor, therapist, lawyer
and NOT offering medical, legal or
professional advice.

Also, there is a person on my list that
said that I was exploiting Britney Spears
for my own person gains. I am NOT doing
that. I am simply addressing what the
thousands of subscribers I have all
over the world want to talk about.

With that said, first thing I want
to say is this. Well the first thing
I want to ask is this.

How do you think they will know if
Britney has bipolar disorder?

Take a guess and then scroll down for the
answer.

NO CHEATING, guess than scroll 🙂

A qualified doctor will make that determination.

How is this done? People ask me all the time:

“How do I know if I have bipolar disorder?”

“How do I know of my loved one has bipolar disorder?”

The answer is from a qualified good doctor.

This person will see an individual, check his/her
history, give them a mental status examination (MSE),
ask lots of questions, possibly take input from
family members, etc.

After that, the doctor will make a diagnosis.

This is how it’s done. There currently is no
brain scan, body scan, software, etc. that can scan
a person to determine if he/she has bipolar disorder.

Also, in some cases, since the diagnosis is a guess,
it could be made incorrectly. What do I mean by a guess?

Well there is nothing a doctor can say like:

“If you have this or that and I can see it,
you have bipolar disorder.”

Meaning, there is a test for let’s say cancer
or diabetes. There is no such test or “proof”
of bipolar disorder. There are only signs
of bipolar disorder.

Make sense? Some people have a lot of the
signs and others don’t. For example addiction
can be a sign of bipolar disorder. My mom
has bipolar but never had a problem with
drugs or alcohol.

Excessive spending is another sign of bipolar
disorder. I know a person who works for me
that never had this problem. But she has
bipolar disorder.

The key is this, a good or great doctor
is the key to a proper diagnosis.

What is a great doctor? Well it’s a person
who knows what he/she is talking about
and knows bipolar well.

To get the right diagnosis and right
treatment plan, you need a good to
great doctor.

In my courses/systems below:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

I teach how to find these people. HEED MY
WARNING. You must invest a lot of TIME
finding the right doctor and therapist
or you will be doomed.

I am not being dramatic but a bad doctor
or doesn’t really care, know what he/she
is talking about or know bipolar well
can give the wrong diagnosis, then the
wrong treatment plan. When this happens,
the nightmare starts.

It’s like you are trying to go
from New Jersey to California. To
do this, you take Route 80 west.

Imagine you got instructions from someone
who was clueless. Imagine you were
told to take 95 south.

95 south takes you to Florida. No matter
how hard you try, 95 south will take
you to Florida. You will never get to
California taking 95 south from New
Jersey.

Unfortunately, many people on my list
are on 95 south trying to get to California.

The person who gave them instructions so
to speak, gave it to them wrong.

I hope you get what I am trying to say.

For too many years, my mom and dad
didn’t realize how important a doctor was.
As a result, my mom almost never had a
good one. It wasn’t important.

It wasn’t until I stepped in and
was determined to find a good one.

How did I know? It was an accident.

I have had bad lawyers and accountants
who have created huge problems for me
and given me bad advice.

I knew from these experiences there are
good AND bad professionals. I knew
there would be good and bad doctors
and I was determined to find a good
one.

My dad at first didn’t think it
was a big deal. He really thought
that all doctors are not good and greedy.

I didn’t think so.

Anyway, does this make sense about
the diagnosis?

So for all those media people and
doctors out there that are diagnosing Britney
from in their offices and houses,
it’s a joke. They can NOT know unless
they do the things I just told you.

You can’t just look at Britney
and say, “hey she is doing crazy things
so she must have bipolar disorder.”

I have had friends do many crazy things
and they don’t have bipolar disorder. Some
do it for attention. Some do it because
they like being different. Some do it
because they are bored. Some do it
because they think it’s cool.

I have a friend that has a tattoo
across his chest that says:

“Simply Insane”

Is he insane? No. He is a great person,
has a great job, a family man but at
the time, he thought that was cool
and he probably was trying for attention.

As you can probably tell, I have many
diverse friends. From ones running
$250 million companies to those who
barely work and simply body build
for a living. Anyway, I have seen
all kinds of people do “crazy” things.

If someone does something crazy, that
doesn’t mean they automatically have
bipolar disorder.

You can’t just say someone has bipolar
disorder when you look at what is reported
on TV, online or in print.

Now on to Dr. Phil

I ran a research and saw these headlines come
up:

“Can Dr. Phil Save Britney Spears?”

“Dr. Phil visits Britney in hospital”

“Britney Takes Phil Pill”

Then I saw on the internet:

“According to TMZ, Dr. Phil walked into
Britney’s room at 7:30 am on the 7th floor
at Cedars uninvited and completely blindsided
the pop star. According to People magazine,
Britney’s father Jamie was the one who pushed
Dr. Phil to intervene since he believes Dr. Phil
is a “God”.”

Who knows if this is true but it appears it
might be true because I have seen Dr. Phil
talking about Britney Spears having bipolar disorder
over and over over the last couple of days.

If Britney has bipolar (NOTE, remember
we don’t even know if she does or not
because she has to get a proper diagnosis from
a qualified doctor)…

#1-Trying to get someone into treatment by
sending a guy like Doctor Phil who appears
to be using a “confrontational approach”
probably won’t work.

Getting someone into treatment is difficult.
In my bipolar supporter master course…

http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

I go through more than 20 ways. People want a quick
way. There is no magic way, you have to try
different techniques over a period of time
and eventually one will work.

#2-I can’t believe someone who is a “doctor”
would do what Dr. Phil is reported to have
done and thought about.

On CNN I saw the headline:

“Did Dr. Phil step over the line with Spears?”

It talks about how he was “invited” to go
to the hospital where Britney is at by
the family. He was considering taping
the entire thing and putting it on
TV. Imagine that? Imagine even thinking
about this.

If you really wanted to help, you would
do some quietly and not make a huge
deal and bring Cameras and talk about
it on TV.

I have had famous and popular people
contact me for help. I keep it quiet.
You would never know because I will
never, ever talk about it.

I remember one guy who was big
time in entertainment. I didn’t
know he was but he told me in a
modest way. He asked that I never
reveal his name.

I said to him, “I already forgot
your last name” so don’t worry 🙂

I think he was kind of shocked
I didn’t know who he was. I made
him feel better by saying, “hey,
I don’t even know how to use
an IPOD either.”

He felt better and was kind of happy
I didn’t really know who he was. His wife
had bipolar disorder. She left. He was destroyed.
He was one of those that said, “I will
pay you anything to help.” I told him,
that’s not necessary. I told him
to get my course. He did. He used
my f.ree consultation certificate
that came with my course for NON
legal and NON medical questions because
I am NOT a doctor, therapist or lawyer.

He went through the course. Then contacted
me with a plan. I helped him modify it
slightly.

After two months, the plan worked. She
went into treatment. It was really nice,
she found out later I helped him. She called
and left a voicemail saying thanks. That
was nice that the person with bipolar
thanked me.

Anyway, there have been others. I would
never run around and make a big deal
for some F.ree PR or something.

Anyway, I think when it’s all said
and done, very few people understand bipolar
disorder.

Maybe Dr. Phil thinks he does. From what
I can see, he doesn’t. The reason why
I know it so well, my mom has it, I have
many people who work for me who have
it and I have done so much research
into it.

Anyway, hope you learned something today.
I am sure I will get some hate mail from
people saying I am exploiting Britney
Spears but I am not. Just trying to
teach some things.

Hey, I have to run. Let me know what
you think on my blog below. Catch you tomorrow.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Want your own copy of these daily bipolar
emails sent to you for F.ree? If so, visit: http://www.bipolarcentral.com/register3

P.P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

Hi,

I have a new guide and you can get it for
FREE. It’s called:

“10 Greatest Lies about Bipolar Disorder”

Get your FREE copy over here:

http://www.bipolarcentral.com/10greatestlies

Dave

Hi,

How’s it going?

At the end of this email is a link to
a new guide I have called “The 10
Greatest Lies About Bipolar Disorder.”
You can get a copy today for FREE.

I am actually running late already. I have
a million things to do today so
I have to take off pretty quick.

I have gotten a lot of questions
from people on what’s it like
to hire so many people with
bipolar disorder and if there
are any huge problems.

The answer is it’s GREAT! Keep
in mind everyone who works for
me, follows my teachings in
my courses/systems:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

They all have great doctors, therapists,
follow a system. This is how they are
stable, can be employed and do well.

Anyway, we have made major inroads with
many projects related to bipolar disorder.

You know what the amazing thing is?
Everyday, there are more than 10 projects
being worked on, and worked on generally
by people with bipolar disorder or depression
or another mental illness. The amazing
thing is, how well everyone does.

I have SUPER smart people who work for
me. There are people who work for me
with bipolar that can:

-read my mind (there are two people who can
read my mind that have a mental illness. It’s
amazing. They have told me, they trained
themselves how to do this. It saves me
so much time. It’s a HUGE asset)

-solve the most complicated problems in
short periods of time

-come up with incredible ideas that
are really breakthroughs

-get things done must faster and
where many others have failed.

-and many other great things.

Actually as a side note, I hired
someone with OCD that is absolutely
incredible at editing and also checking
on stuff. I found out the person had
OCD and said, “hey let’s make your disorder
a strength not a weakness and have you
edit and monitor these systems. As long
as it’s okay with your doctor and/or
therapist, would you want to do it?”

This person said yes and the results
have been amazing!

I think if people who ran companies and
organizations knew how well someone
with bipolar disorder can do, how many
good ideas they can come up with,
how creative they are, they would breaking
down doors to hire people with
bipolar disorder.

Here’s the problem. The problem is,
in the media, they only run negative
stories. I guess negative stories
sell. I don’t know why. I tried
to figure that out in college
but I could never determine
why.

When I first started this organization
and started hiring people with
bipolar disorder. I must admit, I was
a little worried. Not that worried
but a little worried.

I spoke to Pascale about it. Pascale
does NOT have any mental illness but
she is like a machine, computer system
that is totally objective, makes right
decisions almost all the time, and you
can give her input and she will output
totally objective, factual, clear
and concise “findings.”

It was actually Pascale who hired
the first person with bipolar disorder.

She is great at hiring people and
I felt that if she felt it was okay
then it must be okay.

It was kind of an accident that I wound
up discovering how great people with
bipolar disorder can be for an organization.

I run several other businesses and have
so I know some things about hiring
and also what other people are like
in other organizations.

Slowly but surely, I started hiring
more and more people for more and more jobs
and the results were amazing.

One of my goals this year is to get the word
out and reduce stigma of those with
bipolar disorder so that employers
look at them differently.

Here’s the thing. There are people on
my list, people on my blog, that
are really negative about people
with bipolar disorder.

What they do is, take their one
case, their loved one, or someone
they know and apply it across all
people with bipolar disorder.

This is wrong in my opinion. Also,
you can’t take a person with
bipolar disorder who isn’t stable
and then compare that person to a person
who is stable. That’s not right.

You also can’t focus on the media horror
stories and think that all people with
bipolar disorder are a nightmare.
It’s not true. This is why I wrote this
message today.

If you or your loved one is struggling
with bipolar disorder, things can change.
It’s possible. Get my courses/systems.
Go through them. Or if you aren’t comfortable
getting them, seek out success stories. Model
successful people with bipolar disorder.
Read the success stories on my blog and
bipolar sites.

Just realize that horror stories our
your own person horror story with bipolar
disorder doesn’t mean that’s the way it
always will be, or that’s the way everyone
is with bipolar disorder.

Look at this:

“I cannot believe that you have a website that
advocates hope for families who are desperately
suffering from the very illness that you are
describing as one of the most difficult ones
to cope with.

I am a frightened mother of a bi-polar son
who has tried everything and almost
every medication. We have no hope and no money.
Why do you keep promoting people can do well with
bipolar when you know they can’t!!!”

Someone wrote me that. It’s really sad. Imagine
thinking there is no hope, no help, no possible
way for success with bipolar disorder.

It’s really sad. It’s not just this person that
thinks this way, there are many others.

Well anyway, do you think it’s about time
to start promoting more success stories
with bipolar disorder than horror stories?

Oh, one last thing. I just put together,
the 10 greatest lies about bipolar disorder.
It’s yours, for F R E E and you can get
it by going here:

http://www.bipolarcentral.com/10greatestlies

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

=>PLEASE FORWARD TO FRIENDS, FAMILY AND LOVED ONES <=
Hi,

What’s new?

Hope you are doing well.

My bipolar blog is not well.
It’s ill and might be beyond
repair.

Seriously, I may have to get
a new service. All my tech people
are thinking about it.

I will let you know. If I do
switch services, it will be easy
for you but the blog will probably
look different.

I have something funny to tell
you about my bipolar blog.

Lots of excitement on the blog
over the last few days.

Thank you everyone that posted
positive messages to myself or
others who needed help or support.

Yesterday I wrote a list of all
the things I get accused of.

One of them is that I don’t have
a mother. I wrote that how in
the world can I not have a mother
if was born. Everyone born
has a mother right?

Then I noted that I guess that
I could not have a mother if I
was born in a lab.

Some wrote me and said:

“Hello David,

I saw your post. I love your material
I just wanted to let you know I have
done a lot of research on child birth.
If you were born in a lab, you still
would still technically have a mother
so you were wrong. Just kidding. Hang
in there, you’re doing a great job.”
-Dan

I stand corrected. So no matter
what I have to have a mom 🙂

Okay, enough with the jokes.

I was thinking about some of the
posts and emails over the
last few days I got that
were of an attacking nature.

Then my friend called. I told
him what happen and he was amazed.

He said, “man, don’t these people
realize how much time you put
into this stuff and that you are
just trying to help people so they
don’t have the same problems you
had with your mom?”

I said “yes many do but some don’t.”

The I got to thinking about something
amazing with bipolar disorder.

Before I tell you, let me remind
everyone what started this.

The other day a bunch of people
got mad when I said that people have
to step in and get Britney Spears on the right
track.

Basically some said that I was blaming the
family instead of the patient.

People keep asking who is to blame?
The patient or the family.

I find that many times, the disorder is
so darn sneaky and tricky that it’s
to blame.

It tries to confuse both the person
with bipolar disorder and the supporters.

The other thing that it does and this is
amazing. And I mean amazing.

Some how bipolar disorder can figure out
away to turn two people on the same team (allies)
against one another all while it does
more harm.

Let me explain. So many times when I was
growing up, my mom’s bipolar disorder,
when it was out of control, would create a
situation where different family members
would be mad at one another and would
be separated and never join forces
against it. It being bipolar disorder.

Now I think of bipolar disorder as a
“thing”, “it” or person so if you follow
this thinking, and think of this
as like a war….this is the amazing
part.

If you were fighting a war, would
one of your strategies be to
turn two allies against one another
so then you wouldn’t have to battle
them together and they would battle
each other? Of course.

In my mom’s last major episode and
actually her last minor episode
my dad and I wound up getting into
huge fights.

So many times I was fighting two
battles. One against my mom’s
bipolar and one against my dad’s
thinking.

I remember this one time. My mom
was in an episode. This was a secondary
episode after the first major episode.
Before I knew about what I call
“The bipolar doomsday scenario.”

So my mom was going into an episode
and I was trying to help get it
under control. My mom wanted to stop
working, start spending money and
was making a million phone calls
to people saying all kinds of things.

My system prevented her from spending,
then I told her she should continue
working.

She said fine and then said she
would stop making calls and call
her doctor. She sounded sincere
so I believed her.

At the same time, later I found
out she would call my dad and tell him
that I was mistreating her, demanding
she work, give me money, wouldn’t let
her make phone calls, etc.

I didn’t know this was happening.

Then one day the episode was getting
out of control. I went over to
see my mom, and she wasn’t there.

Then I got there and I was going
to talk to my dad. He was really
mean and cold to me.

Then he told me that my mom shouldn’t
be working so hard. I told him she isn’t
working that hard and she should be working,
exercising like the doctor said, etc.

I also said if she doesn’t get better
in 2 days, I am calling the doctor myself.

Then my dad said that he was going
to allow me to mistreat my mother
and that I wasn’t going to “browbeat”
her anymore.

I was like, “what the heck are you
talking about?????” So then he
went into this entire thing
about all the stuff I supposedly
did.

I said, “dad, I never said or did
any of that. Did you forget that mom’s
in an episode right now? Why are you
believing what she is saying and not
me.”

So then he was giving me an attitude.

We argued for about 2 hours. HUGE
WASTE OF TIME.

I was SUPER MAD. I called my mom
on her cell phone and asked where she
was. I told her that she had said stuff
that was not true and we were going
to clear it all up. I warned her
that I was at the end of my rope
and that I would probably never speak
to her ever again after today.

I told her when she comes home we will
go over everything from a to z.

The other amazing thing I have noticed
with bipolar disorder, is when you catch
it, and you are 100% focused and sure
you are right, it backs down. This is
a very complicated thing for me to
explain via email. Anyway, my mom
came home way later, I waited.

When she came in, I basically
said to her, “I am sick of this
and have better stuff to do in
my life than waste my time dealing
with you guys. I will probably never
speak to either one of you again
after today and I don’t care.

But I am going to make sure that
you know what was said about me was a
100% lie. I have proof of everything
including: how much work I recommended
mom do, how many calls she was making
and to who, the fact that she hasn’t called
her doctor, the fact that she is in
an episode, the fact that she has lied
about a lot of stuff (NOTE-now I look
at it as bipolar disorder not my mom but
back then I would say she lied).

Then I asked my mom question after
question and she tried to talk through
me and ramble. I would say, “mom, if you
can’t answer yes or no, I am done and will
just leave and you will never see me again.”

I was so mad at this point I could seriously
run around the earth twice. I was
so mad that I felt that I could run to
Route 80 and jog west to California with
no break. I have never been so mad in
my life. I couldn’t believe my dad
didn’t believe me. I couldn’t believe
he thought the things he did. It made
no sense.

I asked him, “why would I take off almost
a year from work to help mom if I am such
a mean bad son that mistreats her????”

He had no answer.

Anyway, after 45 minutes of my mom being on “the stand”
my mom came clean and said that I didn’t mistreat
her or do any of that stuff. She admitted
that she didn’t call the doctor and that she
kind of liked how mania felt and was holding
off for a few more days.

Immediately we all called the doctor and in
one day she was fine. Her doctor changed
her medication slightly. I learned a ton.

NOTE-I can’t get into this today. Actually
I have spent almost 2 hours writing this.
BUT, I have a way to really talk to a person
in an episode. I explain this in my courses/systems.
But I will say, you have to be direct and be
very serious. Bipolar knows when to give up
and throw in the towel. When you are super
direct, it generally backs down. It’s kind of
hard to explain here. Check out my course/systems
for more info.

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

Anyway, during the entire thing my dad sat in
amazement. He was amazed that he had
been taken. He had been fooled. He
had turned against me. He knew that
he was wrong.

I know this is going to sound bad
of me but that’s when I started telling
my dad that “bipolar loves you.”

I started telling my dad that bipolar loves him
because it can easily fool him and
he doesn’t think. Keep in mind I spent
hours defending myself. I also told my
dad I was going to make “bipolar loves
my dad” bumper stickers and sell them on
ebay. LOL.

I know that’s terrible but I was super mad.
Read my story and imagine after all the work
I put in, I get accused of mistreating my
mom. Imagine how I felt.

I know some will write and say, “I can’t
believe you said that to your dad. You’re
a bad person. Shame on you. You are evil.
You aren’t respectful. Etc.”

I am just telling the truth so people out
there that feel and do the same stuff don’t
feel bad. I don’t feel bad for saying it.

I told my Aunt as well about what happen
and she was mad at my dad for getting
mad at me.

When I thought about it, we were spending
more time getting mad at each other instead
of bipolar disorder.

I always say exactly what happen and I know
some people will think that I am out of my
mind, mean, crazy, have bipolar disorder
myself, etc. I am sure my favorite most
critical person on my list will write
and post hate messages. Oh well. I just
want to tell you the truth about what happen
and what I did so you can relate and learn
something.

But, I really do believe that my dad gets lazy
when it comes to thinking about bipolar
disorder. As a result he gets bad results.

I teach in my courses/systems below, the
quit investigation when you hear something
that is not true. This is super important.

I seriously didn’t talk to my dad for a month.
Today I understand it’s because bipolar disorder
splits allies.

I wound up having to use diffuse
my efforts instead of having focus
on her bipolar disorder.

Luckily I could take off work
and make all happen.

I notice that this phenomenon doesn’t
just happen to me, it happens to lots
of people who deal with bipolar disorder.

It’s common that:

-a boyfriend and girlfriend fight each
instead of bipolar fully

-a husband and wife fight each other
instead of bipolar fully

-a brother and sister turn against each other
instead of turning against bipolar fully

-a friend fights with another friend instead
of fighting bipolar fully

So much time is wasted and the bipolar
winds up getting worse and getting
over because while the fighting is
taking place it is doing everything
it can to dig it self in so that
stability can’t be regained.

I know that some with think that I am
out of my mind when I keep talking as if
it is “something” but it is.

Let me ask you a question. Has this
ever happen to you?

If you find yourself having this happen.
Make a peace treaty with the person
you are fighting with and focus on the
real enemy–bipolar disorder.

There was a person who posted an
attack on me the other day. Someone who works
for me said that it’s really said
when bipolar disorder makes a supporter
so crazy, so angry, so hateful they posted
strange, illogical messages and attack
someone who is helping instead of spending
all their time attacking the real enemy
which is bipolar disorder.

This person has a good point. It’s one
thing to post strange messages if you
are in a bipolar episode and you kind
of have a reason but when you don’t
even have bipolar disorder and do
this, it’s really sad.

I have seen bipolar supporters go
almost crazy with anger and lose it
with people who don’t deserve it.

I see if so many times where I volunteer.

My mom doesn’t lie. It’s her bipolar
disorder that does. If she becomes unstable,
it will lie. But my mom tells the truth.
It sounds crazy but that’s the way it is.

Today my dad is much more proactive. He
would never just believe anything. He
has better training and now takes stuff
more seriously and isn’t as lazy.

Hey, I just looked at the clock and
I have to get going. I am actually
going to a library in the middle of
New Jersey all day or maybe half
the day today.

Catch you tomorrow.

Also, if you have ever been split with
an ally because of bipolar, post to my
blog. Thanks.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

Hi,

How’s it going?

I had a good day yesterday. I hope
you did too.

There was a woman that posted a message
on my blog and she really needed help.

So I had her email me with her phone number.
Unfortunately I was suppose to call her
2 days ago but ran out of time because
I have been working 16 hour days.

Anyway, yesterday I called and spoke
with her. She was a great supporter
and a super nice person.

I felt like a quick phone call from me
would help her out and it did.

In her case, I felt she has been
doing too much for her son and that
she has to do a lot less. She is
really on track now.

She wrote a great message which
sums up some important points:

LAURIE(Dillon’s mom) said…

HELLO EVERYONE, I AM FEELING SO HAPPY AND
EXCITED TODAY. DAVE OLIVER CALLED ME!! to
talk about my son who has bipolar. I don’t
know why so many of you people get angry
with him.

You don’t have to come here if you don’t
like what is being said. He only calls
it as he sees it from the experiences he
has had with bipolar and his mom and he
makes everyone aware of just that. He
doesn’t blame the family he only points
out that bipolar is difficult and especially
without a support system.

That support system is usually your family
or some part thereof. I think Dave is great
and I could not believe my ears when he
advised me that is was him on the phone.
He took time out of his day to call me when
I indicated how in distress I was and
struggling to know if I had done the right
things or if I am or am not doing at least
some of the right things to help my son
overcome his challenge of bipolar.

It is also obvious that Brittany Spears
has no support system. Everybody was there
when she was a shining star but what about
now? People are really something else and
so quick to judge too. People who are bipolar
do care they just don’t have the same thoughts
as what some would consider a “normal” person
or mentally healthy would say it better.

I think what Dave does here is super fantastic.
Try to keep in mind that nobody is going to
agree with someone elses ideas all the time.
If coming here helps more than it doesn’t
then it is certainly serving its purpose. It
is great just to know we are not alone in this
battle. THANKS AGAIN SO MUCH DAVE FOR CALLING ME.
I STILL CAN’T BELIEVE IT. HAVE A GREAT WEEKEND.
-LAURIE

Well my Sunday didn’t start off well
today.

I got a number of phone calls from people
who work for me that someone was calling,
emailing and also posting totally ridiculous
things. Saying this and that about me.
The interesting thing was, it was from
two bipolar supporters.

You want to know something amazing. Well
two things that are amazing.

First, working with people who have
bipolar disorder is truly amazing. It
really is. I have super smart people
who work with me. They are amazing.
They catch stuff super fast and
report it to me.

Second, the people with bipolar disorder
are generally not the ones that threaten
and attack me the most. It’s the bipolar
supporters. I have had people who are
bipolar supporters scream and yell
at me beyond what I have ever had before.

I understand these people are mad but
sometimes it gets totally out of control.

Anyway, I must say, I am annoyed
today. I am just being honest. Why?

Well I have about a 3 hour conference
call today. It’s going to be very
intense and involve math and very complicated
things so I wanted to have a fresh mind.

I had to get up early when I like to sleep
a little longer and deal with some nonsense.

In a strange way, it rarely bothers me,
when people with bipolar disorder attack
and threaten me because I know they
aren’t doing well. I don’t give them
a total pass but I can understand.

I actually had a woman who threaten
to kill me. She actually hurt someone
else and went to jail. She wrote me
about a month ago saying she was out of
jail and sorry. I forgave her. She is
a nice person. BUT, she told me and
learned that she must always take
her bipolar medications. She said
she learned the hard way.

I actually had a different topic
I was going to write today. It was
going to be more upbeat. But I must
say, again, I am annoyed at the nonsense
that I heard about this morning.

Someone who works me indicated:

a) she would never put up what I put
up with

b) she would never want to be me
and run this stuff

c) she would never allow people to
email, call and post freely.

She said however she was happy
that I do because she can w.ork at
home working with me.

Yesterday I was thinking of something
as well.

None of this would exist if it weren’t
for my mom agreeing that I could use
her story.

Early on, I spoke with Pascale who works
with me and we both said, well if my mom
won’t let me use her story, then the site
really won’t make sense. I didn’t want
to be one of those sites that information
was from Bob Jones even though my real
name is David Oliver. I didn’t want to
be anonymous like all the other sites.

I had a lady come to me the other day
and it was odd. He site said one name
and her real name was something else.
That’s just weird to me. I know like
people like Mark Twain I think did
that but it still doesn’t make sense.

Take a look around. There is only ONE
other site out there were the person
who runs the site is totally open and
transparent as to who she is. I applaud
her.

Today I have my real name and address
on the site. More than 1 million people have
viewed it now.

Any many people have access to me.
I don’t know of any other site owner
who takes calls, makes calls, meets
with people, responds to emails, letters,
faxes, etc. Maybe there are some but
I don’t know them.

Anyway, I called my mom yesterday and
thanked her that she agreed to let me
use her story. She said
no problem.

She then expressed concern
that she was bothered that some people
attack me, threaten to kill me,
make stuff up about me, and say this
and that. She said she was worried about
me and she said maybe I should focus
on other things.

I told her don’t worry about it.

But now I am worried that she is worried.
My mom doesn’t really know how to ready
my blog or see anything. I just don’t
want her to get stressed about it. Recently,
I kind of slipped up and told her about a
few situations.

As I told my mom, the reality is, and some times I tend
to forget, the vast majority of people
are kind and friendly. I have over I believe
now 6000 testimonials. There’s so many
it’s hard to count. Over 500 pages in
MS word.

Take a look here (NOTE- I have one file posted
here but actually have another file with like
175 pages in it):
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/testimonials/

I remember when I first started this
site. It was one page. Today, it’s
the largest, biggest and most visited
in the world for this topic.

Anyway, back to my mom, I told her, I have
two choices, I can either just let this all coast
and not put any effort into it. Simple
keep what’s up and let it just go. OR,
I can simply ignore the people who
say things that make no sense and move
forward and try to help as many people
as possible.

I know that I can help a lot of people.
Why? Well because of two reasons. #1
I have a great team. Actually an amazing
team. I know people with other organizations
that don’t have a great team at all.
My team is great. We have absolutely fantastic
people on the team.

#2 I know how to get the word out. I am
good at marketing. I realized early on,
that all the supporter groups that I volunteer
at, are not good at marketing. As a result
they reach very few people. In addition,
they have no money. It’s a sad reality.
As a result, the struggle to exist. Ones
that use to exist no longer do.

If you have been following me for a while
I use to talk about this group 2 years ago
that was incredible. They had the best
speakers, meetings, food and topics. It
was incredible. BUT, there were only like
15 people ever at an event. It was amazing.
On the positive side, you could ask unlimited
questions because there were so few people.

Anyway, eventually I figured out why there
were so few people. They did no marketing
of themselves. They had no marketing budget.
BUT, they had a food budget which kind of
annoyed me. I guess they were backed by
a big drug company that provided food but
not money for marketing.

Anyway, they really didn’t reach very
many people.

So after I decided to really work at
this, I know a lot of money had to
be spent in marketing to reach as
many people as possible.

BUT, I knew when I decided to try to reach
as many people as possible not everything
would be good. I said to myself:

1. I will be criticized.

2. I will be told that I don’t know
what I am talking about because I am not a
doctor or therapist.

3. I will be told I take advantage of people.

4. I will be threatened

5. Some will say that I am a really the marketing
arm of a drug company because I say people with
bipolar should take medication.

6. Some will say I don’t have a mom really and
the entire story is made up.

7. Some will say I have bipolar disorder

8. Some will make fun of my mom

9. Some will say that I am crazy

10. Some will say that I will fail and
no one will read or like my stuff.

11. I will be told that I am a con man, scam
artist, evil, and going straight to hell.

12. I will be told that I work secretly
for the drug industry pushing medications
on those with bipolar disorder.

13. I will be told all I care about is money and
I am greedy.

14. I will be told that I hate people with bipolar
disorder secretly.

15. I make up or pay people who write positive
things about me. This is super funny because I
don’t even have the address or phone number of
the thousands upon thousands of people
that have written positive things
about me. Also look at:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/testimonials/

The list goes on. You want to know the crazy
thing? Everything I wrote has been said. As
crazy as some of it sounds. The I don’t
really have a mother is the most funny.

How could I be born if I don’t have a
mother?

I guess I could have been born in a lab 🙂

Anyway, I really do have a mother like
99.9% of everyone else.

This entire situation started because
some bipolar supporters believe that
I blame the family instead of the
patient.

This is not the case. When you get
my courses/systems below:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

You’ll see I don’t blame the family
all the time. There are some families
that deserve some blame. Like my family.
My dad will admit he didn’t do a whole
lot about my mom’s bipolar disorder.

On the other hand, there are tons of
families out there that do way too
much for the person with bipolar disorder
and that person is taking advantage of them.

Finally I would like to address something.
Why did I write about Britney Spears
yesterday? It’s really simply.

A friend of mine that watches TV 8 hours
a day brought her up. I didn’t even know
what was going on. Then I realized I could
tie it into a daily email.

I saw a post on my blog that said that
I intentionally tied my daily email
into a “hot topic.” OF COURSE I DID.

Everyday I have to think of something
to write. Sometimes there is stuff in
the news that is a tie in for bipolar
disorder. Many times there is not.
Tomorrow if there is a story about
SOMETHING that could be tied into
bipolar disorder, do you think
I will be writing about it?
OF COURSE. Very strange. It’s so
obvious.

Remember when they were debating
about taking Terry Schiavo off
life support? What did I talk
about “bipolar lesson from Terry
Schiavo” which was having a
a living will, medical power of attorney
and all your paperwork set BEFORE
a bipolar episode.

I really would like to see the person
who criticized me come up with
and write a daily email EVERY SINGLE
day and tie it to bipolar disorder.

Finally, I want to say. You may
see some really crazy stuff posted.
I have people who monitor 24 hours
a day and take off dangerous things.
You may see what I wrote about above
or even worse. I can’t help it or
stop some people. Just realize this.

Also, just realize, I am trying
my very hardest to help as many
people as I can using all the methods
that I know how, and trying to
employee more and more
people. Especially those with a
mental illness.

Okay, well I have to run. Sorry for
the long email but I was kind of
annoyed today. Have a great day.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com

Hi,

What’s new?

I hope you are doing well.

I have 1 million things to do today.

Actually there are two people that I was
suppose to call back with urgent situations.

Unfortunately, I finished working at 12:15am
last night.

I will be calling you today.

Okay, today I wanted to talk about
something super important.

If you have read the news, seen
a news website, watched tv news, you’ll
notice that Britney Spears, the singer,
is having a whole lot of problems and now
is in a mental health facility under a
72 hour “watch.” That’s where they
can hold you for 72 hours to see
if you are a harm to yourself or someone
else.

Anyway, my friend who proudly watches
8 hours of tv a day and only works out
for a living said to me “hey, Britney Spears is in
jail again. Her mom should get your
stuff. I heard she has bipolar disorder.”

From that conversation I got to thinking
about a number of things about this situation.
First however, I did about 15 minutes of research.

If you go into google you’ll see that
many say Britney may have bipolar
disorder. Who knows? I sure don’t.

BUT, we can learn some lessons from
this case.

First let me say that I am NOT a doctor,
therapist, lawyer, insurance agent, drug
company spokesperson and that I do NOT
offer legal, medical or professional advice.

With that said, I have some opinions.

As I look at Britney Spears, it appears
that she has indeed changed, is doing
very strange things.

The thing that I find fascinating is
that it doesn’t seem like a whole lot
of people are doing anything to help
her. If I had to guess, the people
around her are confused and hoping
that she will just fix herself.

Based on what I have seen, it doesn’t
seem like her family is really stepping
in. What makes it way worse for them is
that they have lots of money. Why is this
a problem?

It’s because of TOC. What the heck is
TOC you may be thinking. TOC is
total outsourced care. It’s every
supporters dream but it really never
exists.

It’s a situation where you simply
hire someone, some place and they do
all the work and everything is fixed
and perfect.

I can tell you, that there are so many
people on my list that call me looking
for TOC and they will pay anything.

They call and said, “Where can I send
John to get him fixed. We don’t care
what it costs. I just want him fixed.”

I tell them about finding a good doctor,
therapist, my system which is in
my courses and systems below:

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/report11

SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.bipolarparenting.com

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http://www.survivebipolar.net

They’re like, “no, no, no, I don’t have
time to read through stuff. I need someone
who can do all the work for me.”

I explain that it doesn’t work that
way. They start to get mad. Then they
say, “I will pay you.” I say, “I don’t
do that type of thing.”

Then people start offering all kinds
of money. One person offered $15,000
for me to “handle it all.” I told
them I thought that would be a poor
use of their money and it wouldn’t work.
I highly recommend they save the money
invest in one of my supporter course
and use the f.ree consultation certificates
for non medical and non legal questions
after they went through it.

This person I am talking about yelled
at me and hung up on me.

Time and time again, I see bipolar
supporters simply want to turn the problem
over to someone else. For it to be outsourced
like I outsource my phone calls for orders.
It doesn’t work like this.

Be warned if you are looking for this.

The other problem that I see is that
the people around her don’t appear
to be trying to get her into treatment.

You just hear:

she is going crazy
she is out of control
she is this or that.

But you don’t see people realizing that
if she is ill, mentally, she needs someone
to step in. You just can’t hope that
someone how some way it will all work out.

Much like my dad for years and years
and years would hope that my mom
would get better some how almost by
magic.

My mom would go into a bipolar
episode. My dad would do nothing.
Bipolar loves when a supporter does
nothing.

The important lesson that you can
take away from this is the following:

If you are a bipolar survivor:

-You want it well known that if you
go into an episode, you want people
to step in and get you into treatment.
You should talk this over with your
supporters. The worst thing for you
is your supporters don’t know this,
you go into an episode and you wake up
and you have lost everything and destroyed
your life.

-You should setup systems to limit the
damage of bipolar episodes Especially
when it comes to finances. Remember this,
it takes a lifetime to build wealth but
only a day to lose it. BUT, if you have
lost all your money from a bipolar episode,
don’t worry I have a plan to turn that around.
BUT, just because I have a plan doesn’t mean
you should be lazy and not setup systems
to prevent a problem in the first place.

If you are a bipolar supporter, realize:

-If your loved one is in a bipolar episode,
he/she may do or say things they normally
would never ever say. Don’t sit and try
to figure out why they are doing and saying
things. Realize there is NO logical reason.

Spend all your brainpower and effort trying
to get them into treatment.

Realize that you have to stand up to bipolar
disorder and that it (bipolar), will fight
you tooth and nail so that you do not get
treatment. It will be YOUR job to get
your loved one into treatment.

Too often, a person in an episode is out of
control and everyone just sits around and
says:

“man this is crazy”
“they are so crazy”
“I hate when they do this”
“I hate these episodes, I am sick of them”
“I can’t believe this is happening again”
“why did they say this or that”
“I hope they get better soon”
“Geeze this is a mess”
“I can’t deal with this anymore”
“One more time and I am leaving”

You may read these statements and say, “hey
I said that.” Notice none of these statements
are proactive.

What should be said is:

“We’re going to get them into treatment.”

“I refuse to be beat by bipolar”

“She will be in treatment. Period.”

“We will win this battle against bipolar”

“We have to focus on treatment.”

This is the kind of things I say to myself
when my mom was in a mini episode after her
first major episode. I was 100% determined
she would get her treatment plan changed
so she was fine again. As a result, she
got it changed.

Now if you ask my mom, she says she is
thankful that I did and that I didn’t let
her bipolar disorder get way our of control
again.

My dad is totally reactive as oppose to
proactive. In many cases, he does nothing.

I told my dad once, “dad, bipolar loves
you it hates me, know why?” He was confused.
I explained that it loves him because he
doesn’t do anything and hopes that it
just goes away. It hates me, because I am
proactive and determined. It can’t beat
me.

Now some will write and say “Dave, you
are so arrogant. I think you have bipolar
disorder. Why would you think such things
and think so arrogantly.”

Question: What’s the alternative? Bipolar
disorder can beat me, we have no control,
there is no hope, we will lose?

Look, you have to think such things when you
are dealing with this type of illness. You can’t
be a push over.

Anyway, today my dad is more proactive, well a little
bit, still not up to my standards. But better.
My aunt says “sometimes it takes people a little
longer to learn new concepts.”

Anyway, hey, I have to run and go to the gym. Catch
you tomorrow.

Your Friend,

Dave

P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/catalog.asp

P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/supporterblog/

P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http://bipolarcentral.libsyn.com