First, sorry I didn’t write yesterday. I had so much
going on, I just didn’t have the time. I hope you
got the message from Jen letting you know what is
going on with me.
If you are new to this list, there will be a link
below to get caught up on everything. In the meantime,
please bare with me.
I have been telling you how my mom went into a
major something again. I say something because
I didn’t know what it was until yesterday.
According to her doctor, she went into another
episode again. Okay, she is doing okay now, but
there is so much for you to learn that I am
going to try to get to you as fast as possible.
Let me reexplain some things now. Okay, as you
know, around in 2004, my mom started going into
a MAJOR episode.
This story is documented in my courses/systems
SUPPORTING AN ADULT
SUPPORTING A CHILD/TEEN
HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Okay, so after my mom was stable, she was doing
great. Meaning, she has almost paid off her $30,000
of d.ebt, has a job, has friends, is going to the
doctor when she is suppose to, taking her medication,
following the same system for those with bipolar disorder
So, everything is TOTALLY FINE. Okay, just get that point.
TOTALLY FINE. So, just think now in your head, my mom
is doing great and then….
SOMETHING BAD HAPPEN
I noticed my mom didn’t look the same, act the same
and in 7 days my mom went from the above description
of DOING GREAT, TOTALLY FINE, not being able to
work, add, subtract, screaming, yelling, foaming
at the mouth, attacking people, telling dozens if
not 100 CONVINCING lies to anyone that would listen,
looking almost like a homeless person (DEAD SERIOUS)
ALL WHILE TAKING HER MEDICATION.
I REPEAT, she WAS taking her medication–FOR SURE!
You might be thinking, “Dave, how the heck does
this happen.” Okay, I am not going to get into that
today because, quite frankly, I am still investigating
that myself. I am pretty sure that I know. I am
going to detail this.
But for now, I want you to get some key points.
1. If a person has bipolar disorder and is stable
he/she can unfortunately become unstable very quickly.
2. Supporters have to step in and take MASSIVE and
IMMEDIATE action to turn things around.
Let me tell you, over 7 days, I lost EVERY SINGLE
battle against my mom’s bipolar disorder. If you do
like I teach in my supporter course, you separate the
person from the illness. Once you do that, you can
be at war with bipolar disorder NOT the person.
So to me, I am in a long war against bipolar disorder.
In that war, there are battles. Let me tell you,
I lost all the battles in 7 days.
The bipolar disorder steam rolled right over my
dad. He called in reinforcements (me), and I
was defeated for 7 straight days. My dad was shocked.
He was worried. He told me yesterday he didn’t
know what to do because normally I figure out what
to do and he never saw me not know what to do.
BUT, I didn’t give up. I didn’t go in the corner
and start crying. I didn’t find some person
to blame and get all mad like some people do on
my newsletter list.
What did I do? I took my material, went to the library.
I read through it again. I also, and you are going to
think I am totally crazy, read a book on Cold War
I then outlined a total counter attack against my
mom’s bipolar disorder using ALL techniques and strategies
that I knew. All the stuff in my material I have.
After I did this, I won the battle for the day. The
first major battle for me was getting around
the doctor and therapist telling me they couldn’t
talk to me about my mom’s condition.
You might be thinking, “Dave, what the heck, you
preach to us to make sure the releases are signed
so doctors and therapists can speak to supporters.”
YOU ARE TOTALLY RIGHT. I do preach that. BUT, my mom
UNDID the releases. Meaning she changed them in a way
that made it almost impossible for the doctors or
therapists to know what was truly going on.
I countered with the techniques I teach in the report
“How to get around the dreaded Hippa law.” My strategy
worked and I was able to communicate with the doctor
Yesterday my mom went to the doctor, her medication was
changed and within a very short period of times, she
start becoming stable again. I don’t know about this
morning. But I will go over and see how she is doing.
If you are reading this and find yourself losing battle
after battle day after day, there is hope. It wasn’t
looking good for me and I turned things around. You can
too. Just hang in there.
First there are several good things that happen. First
I proved that my system does work. Secondly, my dad
realizes the importance of having a clue and knowing
what to do. For the first time ever he actually read
some of my material and was “surprised” that it had
stuff in it that “made sense” to do.
Secondly, my system for protecting money worked 100%.
My mom tried to spend money but the system prevented it.
That makes me really, really, really happy because
I am tired of losing money from bipolar disorder. So
my mom and dad’s finances were protected in this most
-Some how this happened even though my mom was taking
her medication. I will be figuring out why over the
-My mom undid some things that I put in place to
help and protect her.
-My mom did a ton of damage to the last remaining
family members, her friends and my dad. Her sister
is really mad at her. My mom told her sister a
huge lie and now she is really mad. Like not going
to talk to her again kind of mad. Right now my
brother doesn’t talk to my mom anymore. It’s been
more than a year. Several of her friends are really
The only thing we can do is learn, create new systems
and try to prevent this again.
HERE’S WHAT I AM GOING TO BE DOING
I am going to be detailing what happen, how I think it
happened (I will never know for 100%), and how
to prevent it in the future. Right now, I can tell
you vigilance is the key. You have to be vigilant
even if your loved one is totally stable.
If you have bipolar disorder and you think this isn’t
fair or really stinks that you could go into an episode
even when you are doing everything right, the counter
to this is to have a good support circle. If my mom
didn’t have one, she really could have lost it all.
BUT she didn’t.
THE HUGE TOLL ON ME
This has taken a huge toll on me. I lost 11 pounds.
I have gotten very little sleep. It’s been super
stressful. I have forgotten several important
business meetings and this will wind up costing
me a whole lot of money unless I can convince
the people to give me another chance.
Oh well, there will be other business meetings.
I must say this, I think that the greatest difficult
with bipolar disorder is preventing the next episode
after the last big episode. I am going to be coming
out with lots to say about this really soon.
Information is the key to success with this
disorder. Without it, you will most likely fail. Whether
you have bipolar disorder or you are a supporter. This
is the brutal truth.
One last thing. People notice that I have typos and
stuff in my material. I am a math person not a English
person. BUT, the interesting thing is this. In the
midst of my mom screaming, yelling threatening,
she too my manual on schizophrenia I have been working
on for a year, and edited the entire thing and made
some suggestions. Strange, huh?
The one thing about my mom is this. She can edit
even if she is in the worst episodes. She can’t add
or subtract but she can edit. Michele Soloway (a
writer of mine) can do this as well.
So for all of you out there who think maybe I have
bipolar disorder because I have typos in my emails,
you need to reread the signs and symptoms of bipolar.
There isn’t wone that talks about grammar and typos
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