Hi, how’s your day going? I hope it’s a good day for you.
I have some bad news.
I have been completely ripped off. There was a guy who totally ripped me off for $1200 — which is a LOT of money. I put my faith in him to do some programming work. It ended in me being ripped off.
I wasted weeks and weeks of time being mad at him, thinking about ways to report him in India.
I actually have several, but they all take lots of time (that I can’t spare). Then I said to myself, I might as well let it go. There’s no point. I have so many other things to do.
Now, that doesn’t make what this guy did acceptable. It definitely is not. But someone told me, “Dave, you have to pick your fights.” So I decided to let this go, even though it cost me so much money. I didn’t think it was a fight I could win.
Now many of you have bipolar disorder have had bad doctors. Bad therapists. Bad hospitals.
You have had bad experiences, for sure. You may be mad at these people right now. You may even want to get back at them. But like the advice I got, I’m telling you, “You have to pick
your fights.” In other words, if you don’t have the time or money, or if you can’t win, then let it go.
Many of you contact me for a plan on how to get back at the people and places that wronged you or your loved ones. In almost every case, I tell you to move on. It’s not worth the time and money to do this. You need to use your time wisely.
Today’s lesson is about moving on to something good.
In my own case: I already found another programmer to replace the con artist that I was dealing with. In my mother’s case: When it came to my mom, her last doctor was HORRIBLE. I moved on and found a great new doctor, one she has had for FIVE years now! If I spent too much time dealing with the old doctor, I would have never found the good new doctor. See what I mean?
In your case (possibly): The one area I hear most about as the biggest problem for a loved one with bipolar disorder is not being able to get their medications. Now, you can’t pick a fight with
your doctor, and fighting with your pharmacist isn’t going to help you either. But there are better ways to get what you need.
Stay on the good side of your doctor, make sure he knows what’s going on. He may be able to help you out with samples or go to the insurance company for you. You may be mad at the drug
manufacturer, but not only will that not do you any good, it can also blow a good chance for you – Today, most pharmaceutical manufacturers will provide your medication for little to no money.
So, see how picking a fight in this case wouldn’t be right for you? Only pick fights you can win, otherwise let them go.
Well, I have to go!
Your Friend,
Dave
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Dave,
Sorry about your loss of money.
I loss $11,000.00 to scammer which my wife stopped me giving money so I lost it. So I move on. That is a sigh. Made me depression and I myself is Bipolar disorder.
My Doctor is good.Still it’s not easy for me. Try think postive daily.
I enjoying reading your mail. Keep it up. Hope all go well for ya.
Sincerely,
Clinton
I am sorry to here of your misforture dealing with the uneducated and just plain oh no conscience. I myself own people but plan to pay every penny. Also, was taken for 2500.00 dollars because of despardo after hurricane IKE there was alot of shasty people around. But, you will be blessed by leaving it to the King upstairs, Vengence is mine saith the Lord, God. So, you are on your way to healing and whatever has been stolen you shall get back. Keep the good work! I listen to all when it comes to your specialty of trying to help Bipolarism I am curious just because I am in Management and I find myself dealing with hiring people with such traits and understanding how to deal with them is why I stay in touch. Besides I was dealing with someone very close to me that had a similar problem he has passed last June althought still very sad. I know my Lord with heal me and keep me strong where I am weak. So, Looking up always. Stay tight with the one you know Loves ya without a doubt.
Dear Dave: sometimes your articles are very interesting, but the supporters are the victims and their children,,,,, not the person with bipolar,,, i know that firsthand,,,,,,, so please you were a supporter for your mom,,,, so have a little more compassion for the supporters,,,, and keep them safe…… and let them know their rights,,,, the excuse well, they have bipolar is getting old,,, it gives no one the right to viciously hurt someone, both physically and mentally…… so please help the real victims THE SUPPORTERS,,,, THANK YOU
Hello,
I have been dealing with bipolar for over two years now and let me tell you it hasn’t been the eaiset thing to deal with. However, if I sat around all the time feeling sorry for myself I would really worse off. I do have a family two kids with Autism. That adds to everything, but they are the reason that I get through the day.
Right now the biggest issue that I am dealing with is the school system where I live. They do not want to acknowledge that my son has Autism. They do not have the sources to provide what my son needs. Some times I feel like I am talking in circles with them. They act like I have no idea what I am talking about even though it is my son that we are talking about. As much as I would like to say forget it and let them teach him as they see fit I know I can’t because he is my son and I have to fight for him as a mother. I will keep fighting the school system until he is finally getting services that he is needing in order to do well in school!!!
Ten years i came upon your e-mails and being depressed i told myself why keep this bypolar stuff in my adress and this Mr. Oliver? Well last last week i went to psyquiatrist and i was misdiagnosed. I’m Bypolar type II. the reason i’m posting this is that my exgilfriend gave an STD and i think i’m gonna sue her. Well in my country it has never been a case for this situations. I count with a team of both experienced and just graduated lawyers that are eager to go ahead with this process. Your right to say pick your fights and i did’nt want one like this but it will make a difference and it will create new laws against people that goes around spreading infections without any remorse. I’m willing to sacrifice everything on this fight.
My particular situation was one that is now exacerbating my condition. To make a long story short, I was accused and convicted of an offense I was not guilty of. The conviction was the result of being coerced by my attorney to accept a plea bargain.(what ever bargain is suppose to mean) It is a sex offense,and I was convinced I’d be found guilty if I took it to court.Anyway, I am being treated by the VA and taking some pretty potent meds that will never be able to overcome the affects of a now permanent Identity crisis. I have written an account of this ordeal in a book that I have no money to publish, and my not being able to voice my indignation through it is compounding my plight further, so I see no light at the end of this particular tunnel.
Hi Dave.
I liked reading the email (bipolar sometimes we have to do this this).
I have been in that situation, and its has taken me time to get over this ,because someone did the same thing to me, (Ripped me Off) an extended family member.
I haven’t spoken to him for some time, and I’m sure he knows why.
I play a Very Low Profile with him, because I don’t want to get burned again.
I have other more important thing to do, and I haven’t got the time or money to waste, so I JUST LET IT GO AND GET OVER IT , AND MOVE ON IN LIFE.
THANKS YOU DAVE. GREAT JOB. CHARLES
Hi Dave.
I read your e-mails and I have certainly learned alot.
Your info has been a great help to many of your readers AND THOSE who have bipolar and also the supporters.
I am a supporter, but there are limits as to what a supporter can do, and what a supporter should not do.
DO NOT BE A ENABLER , LET THEM DO WHAT THEY CAN FOR THEM SELVES.
thank you charles