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Hi,
How’s it going?
I hope you are doing well.
What a nightmare it was for me yesterday.
The second after I sent out my daily bipolar
email, I started getting calls from my mom.
I thought, “oh geeze.”
I was suppose to go to the library and
do some serious work.
I am actually working on a book on
investing for private equity funds, hedge
funds and investment banks–really technical
stuff.
So anyway, I was suppose to a lot of work
in this area in addition to some work
on bipolar disorder stuff.
Plus I had a lot of meeting scheduled.
Also, I have so many people now working
on projects, I have to keep track of them.
I have some amazing people who get things
done so fast and so right, the problem
is me and approving projects and moving
on to new ones.
I have given extremely complicated things
to some people and they get it done
so fast weeks or a month ahead of time.
Then they wait for me to look it over.
I had to do a whole lot of that yesterday.
These are all bipolar related projects.
So my mom called and she was talking
really fast and I knew that she was
stressed and currently manic.
I thought in my head, “I just don’t
have time to deal with this right
now.”
She basically she told me how her computer
was messed up but she was fixing it with
my dad. I asked where he was and she said
he left. I knew then, she wasn’t well.
How did I know? My dad rarely leaves
the house before 9:00am. He does that
when my mom isn’t well to avoid having
to do anything. He has done this my entire
life.
As a kid, I remember my mom not doing
well, my dad at work and my brother taking
care of me. Sometimes when I think about
it, I feel bad for him when he was a kid
and had to deal with it all by himself.
But anyway, I knew that my mom wasn’t
doing well because anytime she isn’t doing
well, my dad leaves the us really early
and comes home really late.
So anyway, basically my mom started
getting mad at me.
So I put my foot down and said, “mom
you sound like you are manic or getting
manic and you need to make the right decision
and help yourself.”
She then got mad at me and said:
I am not manic stop telling me that.
If I am manic, because you made me manic
You’re going to put me into an episode
On and on and on. I just listened and
didn’t argue.
NOTE-Don’t argue with someone who is
attacking you.
In my courses/systems this is a key
strategy for both bipolar supporters
and bipolar survivors.
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So I said, “Mom, here’s the deal, I don’t
have time for this. I have to go to the
library and then I have a HUGE gigantic
consulting client to talk to today and
I have to be ready and I can’t sit and
argue with you. I will not let bipolar
disorder screw up yet another thing
for me. I am expecting that you’ll
do the right thing. You know what you need
to do so I am confident that by the
end of the day you will do it.”
Then my mom said, “you want me to
go to the hospital???????”
I said, “I have to go, I am confident
that you’ll make the right decision
and do what you need to do before
it gets totally out of control.”
So I hung up.
Here’s the deal. These days, I refuse
to stop my entire life and miss out
on stuff because of bipolar disorder.
I did that for so many years and will
not do it again.
I could have driven to see my mom, cancelled
everything hurt my reputation in consulting
but I chose not too? Why? Well I have tried
that kind of thing and it never
worked.
I said to my mom that she knew what she
had to do and would make the right decision.
That’s where my focus was.
What’s the right decision? To call her doctor
and therapist and go and see them.
So we will see what happens. I really don’t
know what happened. I had too many things
to do yesterday to check.
So might think this sounds mean but
after years and years of jumping
every single time there is a problem
and spending every last dime I ever had
on problems, I refuse to do it again.
If I am a betting person, and I am not
because I don’t believe in gambling,
my mom will call her doctor and therapist.
I am confident my mom never ever wants
to have a huge episode again.
We’ll see.
Here is what I could have done and why
I don’t think it would work:
I could have defended myself when my
mom or her bipolar tried to blame me.
Why not? It never works.
I could have stopped everything and
driven over to see her.
Why not? It would have told her bipolar
that basically it can manipulate me. I have
tried them probably 100 times in the past
and failed 100 times.
I could have argued with her.
Why not? Arguing never works. I have tried
probably 1000 times and failed 1000 times.
I could have started yelling back.
Why not? It never ever works. Escalation
never works. De-escalation works much
better.
I could have called and ask my dad
what was going on.
Why not? He never given valid information.
It would take me an hour to get him to
tell me the truth. He would say “she’s
doing great.” He never admits what’s
going on unless I ask 50 times in 50
ways and take about 1 hour and I don’t
have time for that kind of thing.
So that’s that.
Even worse yesterday I had a lady get
my cell phone number and call over and over
again right before I was to talk to this
huge investment bank. She was demanding
that I fire a person named Jerry. I don’t
even have a Jerry that works for me.
It made no sense.
Then I had another lady who left threatening
voicemail messages.
Yesterday was one of those days that I said,
“What did I get myself into.”
I was bipolared out for the day. Imagine
you have to do consulting with an investment
bank and mintues before some one is threatening
you about total nonsense.
I have to go now. Catch you tomorrow.
Your Friend,
Dave
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You might have found her hanging from a rafter in the basement this morning as well. Be careful with that” Make a decision for yourself , by yourself. I have seen this blow up in peoples faces alot. Just a thought
Thanks David, My daughter is in the hospital right now cuz she had a major episode. She’s being released today and your e-mail was just what I needed to remind me not to argue with her. Thanks so much!! Perfect timing.
Dave
How do you just leave? I support a bipolar child and worry that when he is in an episode that he will hurt himself, which he might. How would you deal with this? Your input would be great.
David, please don’t take this is the wrong way I am non judgemental but just a reminder..
Money is the root of all evil and the pursuit to no end. You can’t take your money or treasures with you to heaven but you will share it with your loved ones.
Personally, I am disappointed in your dad for abandoning her. I know people have their limits, but why wasn’t he on the phone himself making a therapy appointment? Get her calmed down and away from her current stressor (THAT DAMN COMPUTER)set her up with a cup of tea and a hot bath.
If she is too unaware of her mania someone has to step in and take charge. (AND FOR GOD SAKE GET SOMEONE TO LOOK AT HER COMPUTER)
I always have to call my doctor too, but I am usually crying and balling and irrational at that point and it would be better if my husband was talking with the doctor.
I was always at high risk for suicide when my husband took off because he didn’t know what to do for me and he was at the end of his rope. Naturally I only all to often felt like such a burden and no one would have to put up with me if I were GONE!
Know that I don’t fault anyone for the decisions they make, but always remember that a person you love is still way more important than the pursuit of riches.
Jesus said: Forgive and Forgive and forgive.
Boundaries are good, but remember they are also very sick.
Please don’t get mad over this just a different perspective in the eyes of someone with BD.
OK here is a funny:
R.I.P.
When I was a young minister, a funeral director asked me to hold a grave side service for a homeless man with no family or friends. The funeral was to be at a cemetery way out in the country. This was a new cemetery and this man was the first to be laid to rest there.
I was not familiar with the area and became lost. Being a typical man, of course, I did not ask for directions. I finally found the cemetery about an hour late. The back hoe was there and the crew was eating their lunch. The hearse was nowhere to be seen.
I apologized to the workers for being late. As I looked into the open grave, I saw the vault lid already in place. I told the workers I would not keep them long, but that this was the proper thing to do. The workers, still eating their lunch, gathered around the opening.
I was young and enthusiastic and poured out my heart and soul as I preached. The workers joined in with, “Praise the Lord,” “Amen,” and “Glory!” I got so into the service that I preached and preached and preached, from Genesis to The Revelation.
When the service was over, I said a prayer and walked to my car. As I opened the door, I heard one of the workers say, “I never saw anything like that before and I’ve been putting in septic systems for twenty years.”
In my experience, people I’ve communicated with who have wide, emotional swings don’t remember “what to do” or “what is going on” from one swing to another. It used to be called “split personality.”
The “no arguing tactic” is good. Telling someone that they are in a diagnosed mood (“you are going into a bi-polar episode,” for example) is probably not because it is like name calling and will arouse a fight.
Generally, a person with wide mood swings needs to be in an environment in which he or she can do no harm to others. If that environment does not include having credit cards, so much the better.
A caregiver needs to know when to let go and do nothing. Sometimes extreme behavior expires within a short time.
David’s course teaches to be aware that a loved one can cause problems for others and provides strategies to reduce those problems. If you actively reduce the potential for problems in your environment, you’re making good strides. That said, at no time should you be your loved one’s keeper.
Remember – a acting strangely is not necessarily a bad thing! Just let it play out.
What is a bad thing is if violence (physical and sexual) or suicide are involved. If that is the case, one needs a different set of skills and response pattern.
Dealing with violence is very, very serious and I do not think it can be lightly discussed in a message system. If this is you, you need to figure out how to reduce risks. If the violent person effects others (say your children or siblings), you are going to have to work hard at solutions because you are obligated to keep people safe and in many cases, have to champion and protect the people who have the potential of being hurt rather than worry about the mental state of the perpetrator.
Dave, I just read your email today. I fell you give me so much info, but I am felling also you are too caught up in this. I am wondering, is this past on? Please take a few days or week off and just enjoy a healthy person for once. We need your output, you need to stay healthy first.We are all replaceible! But , I do get alot out of your mailings. A friend told me about this site , you can by no means help or say the right thing to help us all- remember the doctors dont either!So please ,first take care of you, and then you can help some of us here, I am bipolar- but not crazy.I have my breaking point, so i go out and just laugh at anything- its the best medicine! take care and thank you so much for your help! peggy
I admire your strenght and determination. All too often the bipolar person who is going into an episode will argue and accuse, etc. The bipolar wants you to respond, to defend yourself, to try and fix it. None of that will work – you’re right. It’s easy for others to stand on the outside and say you should have done this or that. But you are the only one who has been in this particular stiuation for years. You KNOW what is going on and you KNOW when you need to be there. I am encouraged and strengthened by your response to your Mom. It helps me to know I do not have to run after my daughter and try and win back her affection. when she is stable and has been for awhile, we will be able to sit down and talk some things out. For now, I have to stand back and let her husband and her care providers take care of the details. Your daily emails give me hope and I know there is a light at the end of the tunnel (even if it is tiny.)
Thanks
Many times when I tell my girlfriend that I have to get off the phone and that I have important work issues to take care of, meetings, etc, she threatens me with the worse. If I were the hang up on her (like Dave did to his mom) my girlfriend would escalate far more. As she would say, “If you hang up now, I’m going to hurt myself.” You need to “fix this” now, she says. Last night, I did hang up because I can’t stay up til 2 AM every night talking on the phone. and she ended up punching her kitchen floor. Now I am being blamed for her broken hand and for escalating her to that point. If I am in the wrong, please let me know…
Arguing, or escalating the situation is absolutely the best way to guarantee a bipolar nightmare episode. In my experience,when I am manic, and I encounter an argumentative person, I tend to get furious. All reasonable thinking is impossible once the anger sets in. You can’t reason with a full blown mania!!!!
Brad,
No one even a a person with BiPolar should be allowed to bully you. Yes, she may get upset with you when you say you have to go but always remember that you have feelings too. Remind her of some boundaries when she is not already upset with you, of course.
Tell her to only call you at work when there is an emergency such as life and death, or a quick call under 5 minutes. If you don’t do your work you will get fired and if you tell her the boss is riding you ass about all the phone calls she may not look at you as the bad guy, instead it is the boss (OK).
David is right about setting boundaries… when your girlfriend is like this can she be coaxed into finding something she will relax with…such as suggesting she go get a massage, manicure, or getting her hair done, or a hot bath..something to soothe her.
You don’t always have to rescue her, but try to give her some coping suggestions. If all else fails and she is like punching walls then remind her that seeing the doctor or therapist is her only real solution as you are only human.
Dave,
Thank You for your email. It is just what I need to show my fiance what not to do. I agree with what you did with your mom because the psychiatrist told me that it’s up to me to keep up with my treatment. Your mom can’t expect you to drop your life because she’s having a bad day. She needs to take responsibility for herself. Your dad should be there to help calm her down so that she can think rationally enough to make the decision on what to do. Usually when I get upset either my fiance or my mom helps to calm me down and then the rational thoughts start to come back to me. Thanks again!
Hi, good advise today. I,ve been thru all of this with my adult daughter. I draw boundaries, do not argue with her, give advise when I can, but when violence or suicide is there usually due to drug use, then I step in, have her hauled away if necessary, especially when kids younger, but now they are old enough to make their own choiches. It will be a sad, bad day if she commits suicide, but she uses this as a tool to beat her and us up with. She knows how too, and day she does she will give no warning. She needs a good theripist, better med control, ect. You can lead a horse to water, but you can,t make it drink! Have a good day Diane
Thank you for your e-mails David, I am new in your mailing list with bipolar disorder and having no supporters, no relatives, no close friends and definitely not sure when and if I am taking the right decision. I mean do you really believe that there are people who would actually leave their lives and stick around a person who shouts at them and offends them on regular bases especially if they are not your closest relatives, well they definitely do not stick around me, so what’s next?
David,
The experience that I had is that “argues never works” when you are talking with a bipolar.Once time , my son he is a doctor said:you are lost your time with your conversations ,she had a serious disease.He avoided to talk with her.Now I have understood this
.Thank you for your help.Lilian P.
To Svet, yes there some of us care, you can talk to me if you wish,kermodiebear@uniserve.com Its true your yelling and abusive words do chase people away. It is a shame you say you have no family. I love my bi-polar daughter and other relatives with it, I don,t always like them though and that is okay. I always forgive and we start again. So if you need some one just to talk to I,m in. Diane
svet,
Yes, there are people out there that even though they are not family will stick around. My exhusband stuck around and dealt with me for over 8 years. My now fiance has been with me for two and a half years, and we have known each other for over 10 years. You’ll find somebody have faith. They will come to you when the time is right.
I read this today in an article written on “How To Avoid An Arguement” By Melissa Paige Leigh. Of course, I would like to post the whole article, but it would not be a good thing.
I did find this important statement that applies to all of us with Bipolar and those who are Supporters.
“It is like dancing on the fine line between sympathy and empathy. We can be sympathetic to someone who is going through something we have experienced ourselves. Where many of us fail is our ability to be empathetic. It is difficult to understand something we have not experienced in our own lives.”
😎
Don’t know how you do the rest of your life.A stepchild with bipolar and a husband with BPD is all I can handle.Some days going to a part time job is my only escape.Jr is manic and going for disability, dad is just making everyone’s life a living hell.Yes,I could find one of them hanging from a rafter,but they might kill me first.
Dave
Once again you have inspired me. Hang in there as you are doing a fantastic job for your family and Mum. My husband and I have been going about our business with his daughter who has bipolar and stopped jumping to attention a couple of years ago so I know what you are going through and how you must set those boundaries.
Also, too bad about those who are looking for grammatically correct emails written by English professors. We understand your messages, we appreciate all the research you’ve done and summarised for our benefits. Since coming in contact with your site, I have not been search anywhere else for BP information. Why? Because all my needs, help and support is right here with you.
Thanks Dave and I do hope your Mum comes through today as I am sure she will.
God Bless,
Lesley
I enjoy your comments abou living with someone with bipolar.I only wish that I knew what to say or not
to say when someone is havig an episode. I never realize what I was saying was feeding the fire. Saying less is better.I would have saved me frm a heartache and headache if I would have said nothing. But, to leave someone, and never know what wll happen until you return home. Maybe when they are older you may think you know what they are capable of doing, but they may change their minds just like the rest of can.
Brad – No! YOu are not wrong in what you did with your girlfriend. Despite her illness, she is aware of what she is doing and must be held responsible for her own actions. Please do not blame yourself as you have rights, too and must set boundaries. Question is, who is her main supporter/carer? Does she live alone? Where are her family?
Hope you have a good day today.
God Bless,
Lesley
To BPserenity
Could you please email me that information on Melissa Paige Leigh to lesleyradloff@westnet.com.au?
thanks and God Bless,
Lesley
Dave,
I’m looking forward to hearing how your Mom is doing. When my husband starts getting manic, it’s impossible to reason with him. He thinks the LAST thing he needs is more doctor visits and more medication. In 22 years I’ve NEVER seen him call the doctor because he was starting to get manic. But you have better systems in place with your Mom. I feel for your Dad and understand his way of coping; even if it’s not super helpful. I would say “there’s no handbook on this thing” but I guess you’ve written one. 🙂
I enjoyed your article. I am bipolar and I know there are times when others try to manipulate me, esp. my mom. You taught me something vital to my life today.
Thank you Dave
Linda
I forgot to mention that I don’t think it’s the supporter’s job to calm the bipolar(manic) person down. We shouldn’t feed the fire or cause things to escalate(like dave said). But being that person’s stabilizer? The one to always calm them down? No. I’m tired of that job. I don’t see that as my role anymore.
dave – I don’t blame you for being “bipolared out!” Imagine, your Mom going into a full-blown manic episode, and you have to deal with disturbed people over your cell phone! I suggest you go to a deserted island WITHOUT your cell or PDA – and get a grip!! As I stated before, what you do for us survivors and supporters is valuable work – it helps us deal and cope – you are a SAINT! Take care of yourself FIRST, and the rest will follow…
I agree that arguing with someone in a manic episode is counterproductive. It agitates us, and escalates to screaming and yelling, and nothing comes of it. You were right to de-escalate with your Mom, and have HER make her own decisions as to how to handle her episode. I hope she chose the right thing, and called her DR and/or therapist, and got some help. The poor woman CAN’T help her Bip; it controls her, but she can overcome with her treatment plan and all the safeguards you have erected to handle her episodes.
Well, I’ve pulled another all-nighter, but the older I get, the harder it is to recover. I’m going to take my meds and go to bed NOW (9PM – 3 hours earlier than I ever have before), and be in good shape to meet with my CPA tomorrow.
Good luck to you, and I hope and pray everything turns out all right.
BIG HUGS to all bipolar survivors and the ones who love them. I pray for you daily.
Dave , my friend ,
I’m really sorry for your mom and you are going on this track again . I think you are right , don´t argue , and don´t let her take all your life in her hands , calling and manipullating you , how many people when in an episode usually do .But , if i was on your shoes , i could’nt just hang up the fone and wait ! At least i personally would call her psich , or / and therapist to know if they noticed anything , if she is going to her appointments , and so .
Well , i hope she did the right thing ! and i hope you two can deal with this really fast and painless .
God bless and help you my dear friend , because instead we never met each other , ( and probably will never – i live in Brazil )i really love you as a friend of mine , and pray for all go well to you .
Dave i think you did the right thing with your mom. I have been staying with my mom for the last week. I left home when i was 19 and am now 24. i found out my fiance is doing cocaine again and we have a 3 year old and i am expecting again. I am going back home soon since he has now found a friend to stay with. I feel bad that my problems are causing my mom to have a episode but i am too distraught myself to help her right now. My dad is his main supporter but sometimes he bails like yours does. Take care of yourself first otherwise we are no good to others.
Hi Dave, Hang in there, sounds like you had one of those days of which your own sanity was on the line. I have them everyday now. My husband is in manic mode, he took our motor home and moved it to a RV park and moved into it a few days ago because my daughter is in depressive mode and he told her she was nuts and needed to be locked up so she attempted suicide. I haven’t been able to contact her psychiatrist and my husband thinks they are all quacks and there is nothing wrong with him except a bad temper. I can typically calm my daughter down and a suicide attempt from my daughter was not what I expected. She had tried this in the past and swore she wouldn’t do this again. my husband, on the other hand, is fairly predictable because every January he takes himself out of our home and moves into whatever piece of junk we have to camp in but this is the first year he has moved off the property so maybe he will not return. All I can do is sit and wait it out. If he comes back, he comes back. If he doesn’t, well I don’t think there is anything I can do about it and I am getting to the point of not really caring one way or the other. I have made it clear to him that I feel he will do whatever he wants to do no matter what I say or do, which is the God’s honest truth. I want you to know that I really appreciate the info I get from you. I believe that your emails are what keep me going because I am chronically depressed and I am in the final stage of emphysema so I don’t have the energy to fight with him as I have had before. So you hang in there and I will too, ok?
TOUGH LOVE SERVES A PERPOSE ON OCCASION AN THE LIKELY HOOD THAT IT WILL FAIL IS ALWAYS IN THE EQUATION. I AM BIPOLAR 1 AND WOULD LIKE THAT IF I WENT INTO A FULL BLOWN EPISODE THAT I WOULD BE TREATED IN A MANNER THAT I WOULD NOT REGRET ANYTHING I SAID OR DID. I HAVE HAD SO MANY EPISODES THAT ALL I KNOW I WISH SOMEONE I LOVED WOULD GO THROUGH IT WITH ME THE NEXT TIME. IT IS A BRUTAL TIME FOR EVERYONE INVOLVED BUT LOVE IS SUPPOSED TO WIN OUT OVER ALL. I WOULD LIKE TO SAY THANK YOU, DAVID FOR ALL THE DETAILED AND INSIGHTFUL E-MAILS. I HAVE BEEN WITH YOU SINCE OCTOBER 2007. GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY.
I am Jimmy Kodo.
Just to say thanks to you. Your messages really hepls me, since I am a bipolar supporter. my wife has been diagnosed with mood disorder sine 2005, and I am still struggling to cope with it. It is not that easy for me because sometimes it gets into a kind of manipulation of me.
Currently I am completing a PHD, and working part-time. I really need to complete this degree if I want to be able to get a job as lecturer and earn enough money to feed my family. But most of the time, when I get home and would start working on my PHD, my wife would find out a reason to make me angfry or culpabilise me , saying she is not going well because I spend all my time on unimportant stuff.
many thanks David, for your help. Even if I don’t answer your mails I always read them all. Sorry My english writing is not that good. I am a french.
See you
Jimmy.
To Diane,When you say that always start again to Svet,I think that is what we can do for the persons that we love.”It is necessaire forgive, but never forget”.Lilian P.
so many wonderful thoughts and suggestions.. i’m feeling pretty powerless, frustrated, exhausted and all were just what i needed
thank you all so very much… now i’m gonna go hug my bipolar daughter 🙂
Hi Dave,
This is my first time responding.
It is very hard to do what you did and I am proud of you. I support three people with bipolar, 1 child and 2 adults. Sometimes I think I will go crazy, thankyou for your web site.
grama
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Dave,
I agree with MAZMGI in everithing. I would not act the same like you.I’m a normal person up to now, but this situation would put me crazy.Is like all was made automatically, without love.You must be conscious of your situation and do that…Lilian P.
Dave,
I agree with MAZMGI in everything. I would no act the same like you.I’m a normal person up to now,but this situation would put me crazy.Is as if everything was made automatically,without love.You know what should be done, then do it.Lilian P.
Dear Dave,
I would greatly appreciate some more personal e-mails. The one’s re your mother and her potential “episode” was were helplul to me. I have been diagnonsed with Bopolar II, have a good phychiatrit – therapist and am on meds but still have a hard time identifying on-coming “epispodes” I don’t have a supporter and would appreceated a discussion of what a expode is
Thanks Renate
Dear Dave,
I would greatly appreciate some more personal e-mails. The one’s re your mother and her potential “episode” was were helplul to me. I have been diagnonsed with Bopolar II, have a good phychiatrit – therapist and am on meds but still have a hard time identifying on-coming “epispodes” I don’t have a supporter and would appreceated a discussion of what a expode is
Thanks Renate
Renate,
In case David is busy…you can just go to his site Bipolar Central and at the top of the page there is a toolbar so to speak that is a light blue with various links click on “ABOUT BIPOLAR”.
It should answer all or most questions. You can also put in a search on google for “Bipolar episodes defined” and you will find other resourses that discuss it as well.
You are on the right track by learning all you can about it.
Symptoms are not always visible to the sufferer or the supporter till it is too late. But it has been my experience that you can be pretty close to on top of it 90% if you learn and know what to do.
Having a supporter is in my opinion an essential part of monitoring but just in case I have some tools on my personal blog that I posted for someone else that can help you monitor your moods and many other things to present to the doctor or to keep a close eye on yourself.
Click on my user name, then go to the bottom of the page and click on the STABLE TODAY blog. Once on the page you will see links to the left that say mood charts and wellness workbooks click into those there are three or four different ones and you can download them to track the BP. I would post the links here but I am not allowed.
Best wishes 😎
I found this also to help with the mood tracking to see where you see yourself or others see you day by day and it can help your professional support understand as well. 😎
Mania
Severe: I feel out of control; I engage in behavior that is risky or I later regret (for example increased spending); family and friends insist I get medical help.
High Moderate: I can’t focus; others get angry or frustrated with me.
Moderate: I start things but don’t finish; I have more energy and need less sleep.
Mild: I am more social and talkative; I feel more productive.
Stable Mood: I am not feeling manic or depressed.
Depression
Mild: I feel a little sluggish and sad; I continue to function well.
Moderate: I am not interested in things; it takes extra effort to function.
High Moderate: I am withdrawn, I miss a lot of work/school.
Severe: I can’t function or I may have suicidal thoughts; family and friends insist I get medical help.
Wow! Since I found you, I havnt had time to read any of the blogs, this time I am so glad that I finally took the time to read What you had to say. For the first time in a year I dont feel like I am alone in this. Thank you and I look forward to reading more of what you have to say,
marie
Dave,
All the time that I have worked with my loved one, I don’t had a diagnose.Now after all ,she saying to me that I don’t have anything to blame me because I always have encouraged her to do all the things that she did, and that she done the better that was possible to her.So, she consider herself a winner.Thank you Dave ,for all wonderful emails,interest and kindeness.Lilian P.
You know, I have to say I think you have to be one of the biggest douche bags ever. To feel that you know how to help others who are desperately want to be a support to their sick loved ones and sell those amazing secrets for your own profit is disgusting. You are sick.