Hi,

How’s it going?

I saw this post on my blog the other day:

Gloria writes:

“Well Dave, YOUR partner doesn’t have
bipolar, its your Mom. Its totally different
when you live with it 24/7 and you lose the
love of your life. I don’t mean to be negative
and maybe because my husband beat me up
last week going through his episode. He sure
is alot stronger than me and I guess maybe
its nice to pretend it didn’t happen but it did.

He crashed two days ago, and I am thankful
because I don’t have to worry so much now.
Guess thats where the JOY comes in. I’m
sorry but right now, after being the
SUPPORTER for him for four years of
SEVERE depression and almost three of
CRAZY BIPOLAR, my nerves are SHOT.”
—————————————————–

First let me say, Gloria, sorry to hear this. Secondly let me point out a few things to you
and all my readers.

I DO know what it’s like to deal with a person with bipolar 24/7. I lived with my mom when she was sick. I didn’t leave until AFTER she was well.

I asked my dad to NOT be in the house the majority of the day so I would be the target and not him.

If you have been on my list for a few years, you’ll remember, I didn’t think my dad’s heart could take the stress.

My idea to you is that you have to regroup and come up with a different strategy.

I don’t know your situation but I could guess these strategies would work:

First of all, since you are so stressed out, you have to find a way to get your stress level down.

Many supporters have found that taking a break helps. Some only need a short break, while others need a longer break.

I’m talking about a break from your situation.

I’m talking about actually leaving the house and making a plan outside of your house.

It’s too difficult to make plans for the war, while you are getting shot at so to speak.

In war, the plans are made generally when people are not taking incoming fire.

Another suggestion is that you de-escalate and not escalate. This means that you
avoid arguing at all costs. Agree with him (even if he’s wrong and you’re right).

I have a couple I know who call this “agree to disagree.”

There’s another couple I know who call it “Teflon.” Just let it slide off you. : )

Just get by however you have to.

Another trick is: Don’t take it personally. Ignore all personal attacks.

When he’s yelling at you, practice this:

HEAR, but DON’T LISTEN.

I know, it’s sounds crazy. But with a little bit of practice, you can do it.

You sort of “separate” yourself. You hear the words, but you don’t listen to the meaning of the words. You just sort of isolate yourself from the pain of them.

See? That way you don’t get hurt by them.

Here’s another thing about “isolating” that other supporters have found success with: you can try to “isolate” your husband from his bipolar disorder. You CAN hate bipolar disorder. But keep trying to keep him separate, or isolated from his disorder. This way you can still love HIM (not his disorder in him).

These are like some of the techniques that I teach in my courses/systems:

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One important thing you need to remember that most supporters don’t, is to take care of yourself.

Too many supporters get burnt out because they spend so much time supporting their loved one and too little time supporting themselves.

Then, first thing you know it, they’re too tired and stressed out to be any good for anyone.

Maybe you just need a break to recharge your own batteries.

Make sure you’re getting enough rest and eating right. Make sure there is enough joy in your own life. Take care of yourself mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually.

Then you can focus on your husband.

It sounds like he needs help.

Focus on getting him to treatment and making that your single focus.

Many supporters don’t ever do this.

If his stability isn’t both your goals, then it’s not going to happen.
—————————————————–

What about you?

Do you agree or disagree with what I told Gloria?

What would you have told her?

David Oliver is the author of the shocking guide “Bipolar Disorder—The REAL Silent Killer.” Click Here to get FREE Information sent via email on how and why bipolar disorder kills.

Hi,

How’s it going?

This might sound strange, but…

If you were your loved one,
would you depend on you?

I told you it would sound strange!

But I mean, put yourself in your loved one’s shoes. They’re depending on you to be their supporter, so they have certain needs that they’re hoping you can meet.

For instance, they need you to be understanding.

They need you to understand that they are not always going to be themselves – in other words, they might swing from one mood to the other (depressed to manic and back again)…

And even they may not know why, so they may need you to be understanding of that, too – so that you won’t expect them to give you a reason for their mood changes.

They need you to be understanding when they might not want to be around people – they might feel anxious or stressed when they do. This might even include family gatherings.

This might even include plans that you’ve made, and it might happen at the last minute, so you have to be real understanding if it does happen.

Understanding is just one of the characteristics of a supporter that I go over in my courses/systems:

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Hopefully, you’ll have this much understanding in you to give.

If, at times, you don’t, just put yourself in your loved one’s shoes and ask yourself, would you depend on you?

Your loved one may also depend on you for help.

They might need you to help remind them when they forget appointments with their doctor, psychiatrist, and/or therapist.

They might need you to help remind them to take their medication.

Or maybe to help them come up with ways for them to remember to take it.

They might need your help in explaining bipolar disorder to their family and/or friends, because they may be scared to do it by themselves.

They may need your help in accepting their diagnosis.

They may need your help with small things.

They may need your help with big things.

But somewhere, down the line or now, however it’s going to happen, your loved one is going to need your help.

Are you going to be able to help them?

If you were your loved one, would you be able to depend on you?

Your loved one may even need your forgiveness, and this may be the hardest part of all for you.

As you may have already experienced, when someone with bipolar disorder goes into a bipolar manic episode, they exhibit behaviors that are very unlike themselves.

They do things they wouldn’t normally do – risky and impulsive behaviors, even some that might shock you!

Behaviors like excessive spending of money, or even shoplifting.

Draining out your bank accounts, maxing out your credit cards.

Poor or foolish decision making, bad business investments.

Causing you to re-mortgage your home or possibly lose it.

Driving you to bankruptcy.

Will your loved one be able to depend on you then?

Or risky driving, gambling, or even substance abuse.

Jail, high lawyer’s fees.

They might exhibit risky sexual behavior, promiscuity – they might even have an affair, get pregnant, or make someone else pregnant.

I’ve heard these stories too often not to accept the reality of them, and you may have to as well.

Will you be forgiving?

Will your loved one be able to depend on you then?

Or have you already been in any of these serious situations?

If so, how did you handle it?

Because others need to know.

Your response might help someone else.

David Oliver is the author of the shocking guide “Bipolar Disorder—The REAL Silent Killer.” Click Here to get FREE Information sent via email on how and why bipolar disorder kills.

Hi,

I hope you’re having a good day today.

I wanted to write you today about why you are lucky.

I know, I was talking about this with someone the other day who has bipolar disorder, and when I said that, they thought I was crazy.

You probably do, too!

You probably can’t think of even one reason why you’re lucky at all.

And if you’re a supporter, you’re probably thinking the same thing.

But whether you have bipolar disorder or are supporting someone who does,
you are lucky.

And I’m going to tell you why.

If you are on my list, then you are already thinking about a mental illness.

You may think you have one.

You may know you have one.

You may think your loved one has one.

You may know your loved one has one.

The great thing is, though, that you are thinking in this direction.

That makes you lucky. Because there are millions of people with a mental illness that don’t know
there is anything wrong with them.

Did you know that there are 1 in 4 people with a diagnosable mental illness?

And I’m not making that up!

It’s the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) that says that! Now, that’s a national government agency, not me!

And many of these people don’t even know that they have a mental illness!

Do you know how sad, or even scary that is?

Just think of the statistic I’m always telling you about people with bipolar disorder.

That 20%, or 1 in 5 people, who don’t take medication for the disorder, will kill themselves.

Some of those people are those who don’t even know that they have bipolar disorder!

So, if you have bipolar disorder, if you’ve been diagnosed with it, and are taking medication for it …

You are lucky.

And if you’re supporting a loved one with it and are helping them with their medications…

You are lucky.

Because you/they aren’t going to be a statistic.

I have seen this 1 in 4 statistic in action.

I have had friends that fly off the handle for no reason.

Friends who spend money like the world is coming to an end.

I have one friend who is so paranoid that he thinks there is a global conspiracy (I’ve told you about him)!

I have seen people (and I know that you have, too) wandering around the streets homeless, dirty, and talking to themselves.

You know that these people have an undiagnosed mental illness.

So, you’re lucky that yours or your loved one’s is at least diagnosed!

Once a mental illness is diagnosed, then you can do something about it.

Then you can become educated about it.

Then you can take medication for it.

Then you can develop a treatment plan for it.

Like I teach in my courses/systems, about all the parts to a treatment plan, you can develop a good support system to help you.

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Then you can learn how to manage your disorder.

You can talk to other people who have the same disorder.

You can do so many things to help yourself recover.

You can become STABLE!

Don’t you see how lucky you are?

Agree or disagree?

David Oliver is the author of the shocking guide “Bipolar Disorder—The REAL Silent Killer.” Click Here to get FREE Information sent via email on how and why bipolar disorder kills.

Hi,

Hope you’re doing ok today.

I saw this post on my blog at:

www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarsupporterblog

Lori

Hi Dave,
Well I am new to this site and have been
diagnosed for years with all sorts of stuff and
had lots of testing done to figure out that i am
bipolar II with adhd, so much fun. I have been
on meds for little over a month and trying to hold
down a job, well anyways, had a few good days
and then a gal at work just triggered me like
crazy and so writing to hopefully slow my head
down.

It is good to hear that my episodes have the
chance to get fewer and farther between and what
i would give to not have an episode for years.
I have a huge issue with rapid cycling and feeling
of impending doom with my episodes and cant
see reality for what it truly is. I hate this illness,
but just a beginner in finally getting medicated
for it and getting hope for my future. Anyways
thanks for this website and all your hard work.”
———————————————————-

I want to talk about a few things in this post.

First, thanks Lori for all your kind comments.

Second of all, Lori makes a big point in her post.

Many people with bipolar disorder have a problem with racing thoughts.

You might think it only happens to people when they’re in an episode, but that’s not
necessarily true.

Even people with bipolar disorder who are stable still have times when they can’t turn
off their thoughts.

Some have what’s called PRN, or as needed, medication that they keep on hand for times
like those, prescribed by their doctor, that helps them slow down those racing thoughts.

For supporters, I explain it like this:

You know how some nights, you have those times where, no matter what you do, you toss
and turn in bed, and you just can’t sleep, no matter what you do?

It’s like, in your mind, you just keep replaying the day in your head?

Or you keep thinking about the kids, or your husband, or your parents, or work, or about
the past or the future, or whatever?

Like you just can’t shut your mind off?

Only, in your case, this doesn’t happen very often.

And you might take an over-the-counter sleep aid to help you go to sleep. Or a hot bath. Or read
a book till you get tired enough to sleep.

But for someone with bipolar disorder, those racing thoughts just never shut off, no
matter what they do. The thoughts come out of nowhere. They stay. They go around
and around, and no matter what your loved one does, they can’t stop those racing thoughts.

For them, it doesn’t just happen once in a blue moon like it does for you.

For them, it’s part of their bipolar disorder.

They can’t help it. And it’s very frustrating for them.

Now maybe you can understand it a little better.

I’ve already talked about one way for people with bipolar disorder to handle racing
thoughts, and that is to take medication for it.

Writing or doing something creative for many with bipolar disorder is a great way to slow down
your head and channel your energy from the racing thoughts, too.

Which brings up another point (the energy) from Lori’s email.

She talks about being a rapid-cycler.

Boy, is that tough.

I talk about the different types of bipolar disorder in my courses/systems, and rapid-cycling is a type of bipolar disorder:

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My mom is a rapid-cycler, too.

What that means is that she can go from one mood extreme to the other and back again, in the
same month, week, or even some people do it in the same day!

Can you imagine how hard that is for someone to live with?

Just when you’re starting to feel better…

CRASH!

Down comes the mood again.

Then…

WOW!

You’re all excited again!

And these mood swings are SO unpredictable!

Ask anyone with bipolar disorder what the most frustrating part about it is, and they’ll probably tell you that if you’re a rapid-cycler, the most frustrating part is the unpredictability of it. You
never know when the moods are going to change.

But, again, you can write about your thoughts and feelings in a journal.

You can also keep a mood chart or diary, where you record your moods every day and try to see patterns as they develop, so you can head off an episode before it happens.

As a supporter, you can help your loved one by watching closely for triggers and signs and symptoms before an episode comes on.

Then either your loved one or you needs to get in touch with the doctor or psychiatrist to get your loved one the help that they need before they go into that episode.

But, on a daily basis, for people like Lori, channeling the creativity and energy of bipolar disorder is the best way to handle their bipolar disorder, like by journaling or doing creative things like projects.

What about you or your loved one?

Have you had a problem with racing thoughts?

How do you handle them?

What about rapid cycling?

How do you handle that?

David Oliver is the author of the shocking guide “Bipolar Disorder—The REAL Silent Killer.” Click Here to get FREE Information sent via email on how and why bipolar disorder kills.

Hi,

I hope you’re having a good day today.

I was talking to this guy the other day
whose wife has bipolar disorder.

The conversation went something like
this:

He said, “Dave, I’m really having problems
with my wife.”

I asked him, “What kind of problems?”

“Well, she’s just so moody!”

“What does that mean,” I asked him.

“She’s all over the place! Sometimes
she’s up, sometimes she’s down,
sometimes she’s in between… I swear,
it drives me crazy.”

I know this type of complaint. I’ve heard
it before from supporters of loved ones
with bipolar disorder.

I figured his next line was going to be about
her not being to tell him what was wrong,
saying that it was “everything” or “nothing,”
and sure, enough, that’s what he said (adding,
of course, that this drove him crazy, too).

So then he started telling me about the other
problems he was having with her.

About how often they were fighting.

“She just doesn’t understand what I’m going
through, and how frustrated I am,” he told me.

“Well, what do you do about it?” I asked.

“Well, I just don’t talk to her when she
gets like that! I mean, she just cries, and
wants me to hold her, like that’s going to make
everything all right, which it won’t, because
it isn’t going to solve any problems anyway,
so then I have to hold her. Then we just get
into this big argument. Which then I never win
anyway, because she’ll just cry some more.”

I tried explaining that this is a classic sign
of the mood swings of bipolar disorder, and
that he would never win, so why does he
keep trying?

He just looked at me like I was crazy.

So many men just don’t get this part.

So this guy kept telling me more of his
wife’s behaviors, and they were all typical
bipolar behaviors, but he was like
blaming her for them, like she could do
something about them, if she just tried
harder, or like they were her fault, and
she was just doing them to “get back
at him” or something.

I asked him, “Do you do anything to
help her?”

He just gave me this blank stare.

Then he said, “Well, SHE’S the one with
the problems, not ME.”

I tried again to explain to him about
bipolar disorder and how she’s NOT
doing these things to “get back
at him” or anything, but that she has a
mental disorder and can’t help it.

He said some other things, and again I
asked him, “What are you doing to
help her?”

Guess what he did?
(Scroll down for answer)

He tried to pick a fight with ME!

Like I was the one to blame!

He really did NOT want to believe that
I was telling the truth about the things
I said.

And, I guess, he was offended, because
I kept asking him what he was doing
to help his wife (I really wasn’t trying
to offend him, honest).

Then guess what happened?
(Scroll down for answer)

He started to defend his wife!!!!

This guy started driving ME nuts!

Here I thought I was helping him, and
he started wanting to fight with me.

But, in his defense, I guess he was just so
frustrated over his wife’s behavior, and him
not understanding it, that he was taking
it out on me. I guess I can understand that.

In my courses/systems, I do talk
about bipolar behaviors and how
important it is for supporters to have
knowledge of them so that they can be
more understanding of their loved one:

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But here’s what I took away from this,
and what I wanted to talk to you about.

What happened with this man is what I call
the “Supporter Mirror Test.”

It’s like, before you start complaining
about your loved one’s behavior,
you have to look at yourself in the
mirror and have to ask yourself,
“Have I done everything to help
my loved one?”

I mean, there’s no one standing over
you judging your behavior – you
have to be your own judge, but
really, ask yourself if you could
pass the Supporter Mirror Test today.

Are you doing everything you can
to help your loved one?

Are you being kind and understanding
when they have their mood swings, or
are you just pushing them away, or
acting annoyed?

Because they’ll see that as rejection,
and that’s not good for someone who
has bipolar disorder– they really need
to feel your support and understanding.

Are you supportive and patient when
sometimes they get irritable and
they’ll push you away, and that they
can’t help that, that it’s just part of
their disorder?

And the other things they do because of
their disorder, even if you don’t like the
behaviors, do you still try to be supportive
of THEM as a person who can’t help
themselves sometimes?

Are you doing everything you can to
help your loved one?

Ask yourself:

Can I pass the Supporter Mirror Test today?

David Oliver is the author of the shocking guide “Bipolar Disorder—The REAL Silent Killer.” Click Here to get FREE Information sent via email on how and why bipolar disorder kills.

Hi,

How’s it going for you today?

I hope you are doing well.

I am going to a strongman competition with my friend.

He is competing today so I have to get going.

Anyway, I heard someone talk at one of the support groups I volunteer at the other night, and
I just have to share it with you, because, well, actually, it’s not to share it with you, it’s to WARN you –

When you’re dealing with bipolar disorder, PLEASE, please…

DON’T DO THIS!

This woman could have caused a LOT of harm by what she did.

I mean, I’m sure she didn’t mean to hurt anyone by it, but still, she could have (and maybe she
did, I don’t know, because I didn’t stick around, and anyway, it’s kind of a personal thing to each
person there, and I don’t know what they do in their personal lives).

But anyway, back to my story about what happened at the support group.

This woman did something that was really dangerous, and I don’t want you to do the same thing at your own support group, or even just talking to anyone else about this.

Sorry, I’ll stop preaching, and just tell you what happened.

We had a doctor as a guest speaker.

Great, you know?

I love it when we have doctors talking on bipolar disorder, because I love to pick their
brains about the disorder! : )

Then I bring back what I learn and share it with you (if I learn anything new).

All right, so this woman asks the doctor if she’s on the right bipolar medication.

So, of course, the doctor doesn’t know, because he doesn’t know what medication
she’s on, and they usually won’t discuss medication, because everyone’s different.

So she starts trying to tell him what medication she’s on, and the doctor tries to cut her off, and
move onto the next question.

Scroll down to see what happens next!

She starts yelling at the doctor, “What kind of doctor are you if you don’t know about
medications?”

And the doctor started to turn red! I swear! This lady was so rude!

So, right in front of everyone, she starts naming her medications!

And she asks the doctor, “Are these the best medications for bipolar disorder?”

Let me tell you what the doctor said: (Scroll down for the answer)

He said (as politely as he could, because everyone was looking by then): “Ma’am,
I can’t tell you if these are the best bipolar medications. You have to ask your own doctor.”

See, even doctors won’t tell you what the best bipolar medications are!
Because there are so many of them!

And you’ll notice, in all my daily emails, I never mention names of medications,
because I’m not a doctor, and I don’t want anyone to think that I’m endorsing any
particular bipolar medication, because I’m not. (and because, believe it or not,
I’ve had several people accuse me of working for a drug company, pushing
medications! Which, of course I DON”T!)

Even in my courses/systems, I talk about types of bipolar medications, but not names,
because that’s not what’s important, and everybody’s different. Besides, they’re always
coming out with new medications, and doing new drug trials every day. The medication name
is not as important as what the medication does.

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Anyway, back to what happened.

After the meeting, this is what she did that was so dangerous, and that I hope you
NEVER do:

This woman gathered everyone around her, and told them the names of the medications
she was on. Oh, not just that, though. She told them how great they were, and that THEY
should be on them, too!

That could be so harmful, because just because one medication works great for someone else
doesn’t mean it’s going to work that great for you or your loved one! Your own doctor has to make that decision. And this woman definitely was NOT a doctor!

So I just wanted to warn you.

Always check with your doctor with ANY questions about medication.

Hey – have YOU ever run into a woman like the one I described?

What do you think about what happened?

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Hi,

How are you?

I hope you are doing well.

Here is today’s news.

To read this week’s news visit:
http://www.bipolarcentral.com/bipolarnews422

From Bipolar Darkness, the Empathy to Be a Doctor
DO> Interesting article, take a look.

HealthyPlace.com reminds patients to take medications
DO> Do you think this will help people?

A&E Mental Health Patients’ Treatment Improved With Questionnaire
DO> Good article to review

Living with bipolar disorder
DO> Kind of a rehash of the same old stuff we know

Changing Rx Practices in the Treatment of Mental Illness:
DO> Interesting article, want do you think?

A Silenced Drug Study Creates An Uproar
DO> WOW. What do you think about this?

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Your Friend,

Dave

Hi,

How’s it going?

I have a friend that I call the Prophet of Doom.

Why?

Well he’s the friend I told you that  believes in a world wide conspiracy to enslave all people across the world under one government, remember? I want to get something clear he does NOT have a mental illness.

He does not have a mental illness.

He does not have a mental illness.

Don’t write me and say he has a mental illness. He does not.

Okay?

He uses words like, “they”, “them”, “the elites”, and “by design”.

It’s kind of annoying because he always spins good news into the conspiracy.

If the cost of oil goes up, he says that’s proof that “they” are conspiring.

If oil goes down, that means they are tricking us.

If there is any kind of anything bad, it’s more evidence that “they” are working to “control” us.

Anyway, it’s kind of weird we are still friends because I am an optimist. So anyway, things have been going really bad for him lately. He has lost a lot of money.

So I told him that he needs to stop listening to all these negative people who say all this negative stuff.

Previously he said that he was “being informed” and “getting prepared”.

He would say to me that I am going to be sorry since I don’t listen and won’t know when “they” finally strike.

So anyway, I told him to stop listening to all this nonsense and only talk to positive people.

He finally agreed and admitted to me that things were getting better. He told me no more conspiracy stuff and talk.

I was proud of him.

Every now and then he slips up and starts talking about “them” and the “elites” plan for global domination but he has been “good” for about 8 days now.

What’s this have to do with bipolar disorder?

Nothing I just wanted to tell you a random story.

Just kidding.

It does have something to do with it.

With bipolar disorder, whether you are someone who has it, or are a supporter of someone who has it, you are going to face a lot of negativity.

You have to ignore it. Stay focused on the positive.

Don’t get bogged down with doom and gloom talk.

Glance at the negatives but focus on the positives, that’s what I say.

Positive thinking is one of the things that I teach the strongest in my courses/systems below:

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If you focus on the negatives, you will have a negative attitude.

But if you focus on the positives, you will have a positive attitude.

Which do you think will get you furthest in life?

Not just furthest in handling bipolar disorder, but in life in general. You have to be realistic, I know, that there are negatives to deal with, and that’s why I say to glance at the negatives.

Just don’t focus on them.

Glance at them. Deal with them. Then go on.

And FOCUS on the positives.

That will get you so much further.

See what a difference it made in my friend?

Hmmm… eight days now.

Now I know some are going to write me with websites and books that prove of the universal conspiracy by “them.”

Do NOT send me this information. I will NOT read it.

I don’t know want to fill my head with negative stuff.

You want to hear something funny?

I know this younger kid who is like 20 or so. He has a business and it’s doing great.

All he does is work out and run his business.

I asked him how his business was doing. He said, “incredible. Best year ever.”

Another person asked him about how the economy is affecting him.

He said, “umm what’s wrong with it? I was going to look into that a couple months ago but I forgot.”

I kind of interviewed him and he told me he never watches tv and didn’t understand economics so he just ignores it. He thinks it’s over his head and in his opinion, “why listen to stuff you don’t understand.”

I firmly believe by him always focusing on the positive and putting positive stuff in his head, he has done well.

Same thing with bipolar disorder.

If you run searches online you can find so many bipolar disorder horror stories. If you keep reading them you will be afraid of people with bipolar disorder. Or, you’ll feel you can’t be a success if you have the disorder.

What good does that do?

ONLY FOCUS ON THE POSITIVE

Glance at the negatives but just don’t dwell on them.

Don’t be a prophet of doom.

Anyway, I wonder how long my friend can go before talking about his conspiracy theories again?

What do you think about glancing at the negatives but focusing on the positives?

Do you do that?

Does it work for you?

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=>PLEASE FORWARD TO FRIENDS, FAMILY AND LOVED ONES <= Hi, I hope you're having a good day. I wanted to clear something up. I am writing these daily mails. Sammy made a post on my blog that said: “I was the one that asked the question about whether David was the author of all the daily blogs that are waiting for me each morning. I was just wanted to be sure that I know the identity of the authors that contribute to getting your blog that we read each day. I fully understand that it must require a tremendous amount of thought to put these out every day, and that maybe it would get to the point that the work needed to be shared… I had just happen to noticed that it says that someone with a different email address, sometimes writes these blogs, ” on behalf of David Oliver” Okay so here is the deal. Again, I write all these. I wish it was just so easy to find someone to do it all for me. People laugh at me when I tell them I do this every day and generally say, “wow I would never want to do that every day. What if you don’t want to do it?” Anyway, here’s the deal. I have hundreds of thousands of people on my lists now. People are opting or registering via different websites. As a result they are on different lists. Some on the parenting list. Some on the list for people who have bipolar disorder. Some on the list for those supporting adults with bipolar disorder. Etc. To organize it all, we have different email addresses that go along with the list name. For example bpsurvior is a list for those with bipolar disorder. Bpsupporter is a list for those supporting people who are adults with bipolar disorder. With all these emails lists some are sent on what’s called a shared email server. Some are sent on an email server that I own which was a huge investment. Some email systems will say sent from “on behalf of .” In
this case, it’s my name because I own
the list. For another person who has a list
of let’s say people interested in hiking
it would sent on behalf of them.

The company that generally does that
is called aweber because they have
shared email systems. With my
other system, I own the email server
so it says “from David Oliver.”

The shared systems have thousand other people using
the service.

So that’s the deal. It’s VERY confusing
and doesn’t make much sense. But that’s
the deal : )

I think that aweber use to just say from David Oliver
but then they switched to the entire “on behalf”
thing you may see.

Hope that clears up the mystery.

You know what? I never wanted to learn
all this tech stuff and I was forced into it.

Okay, Remember when you were little and
you were always scared of the boogie man?

We all were.

Why were we so scared, though?

Because we’re afraid of things we can’t
see.

We’re afraid of things we don’t understand.

Like STIGMA.

The stigma of bipolar disorder is like the
boogie man because when you’re growing
up, you’re taught to fear things you don’t
understand, to fear things that you can’t see
or don’t understand.

When people can’t see mental illness, they
fear it. It’s taught to them from childhood.

So what we’ve got to do is educate people
to let them know that the boogie man isn’t
so scary.

That’s one of the best ways we can fight
stigma.

But you need to refuse to believe this about
bipolar disorder –

That the stigma makes you a lesser person.

Don’t believe the stigma, and you won’t be
a victim of it.

Change the way you see yourself, and
others will change the way they see you
(you will no longer be a victim).

See what I mean?

Stigma is a perception of someone else’s
state of mind. Someone else cannot make
you feel inferior because of their feelings.

By you knowing who you are, what you
are capable of, what they believe is their
own problem, not yours.

You’ve got to look at the person first
before you look at the symptoms, before
you look at the illness. If someone isn’t
capable of that, that’s not your problem,
and you shouldn’t allow them to affect
you in a manner that’s going to prove
them right.

I talk about stigma in my courses/systems,
not because I want to, because I really wish
we didn’t have to deal with it, but because
it’s a part of our society that we have to live
with, until we educate enough people about
bipolar disorder.

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The way you view yourself should not
be dependent upon the way others
view you, anyway.

Here’s a perfect scenario:

If you see someone in a wheelchair,
how do you feel? Do you feel sorry
for them? Do you have pity on them?
Do they want you to have pity on them?
Or do they want to feel the same as you are?

Having bipolar disorder is like being that
person in the wheelchair. You want
people to see through the outside to the
person you are inside. You want people
to see that, like the person in the wheelchair,
you are like them. They just can’t see the
part of your body where your illness lies.

Even though our background and
circumstances may have influenced who
we are, we are still responsible for who
we become. It is your choice whether
you are seen as a victim of stigma or not.

Here’s what I’m talking about. It’s a
quote from a Jewish man named Victor
Frankl, who was a prisoner in a
concentration camp.

“Everything can be taken from a man
but one thing: the last of the human
freedoms – to choose one’s attitude
in any given set of circumstances,
to choose one’s own way.”

Now, if anyone could have chosen to
be a victim of stigma, it would have
been Frankl, yet he chose what he wrote.

You have to know that you don’t
have to be a victim of stigma, and
you cannot allow yourself to be one.
Like Frankl, you can choose your own
attitude about it.

You can choose to be a role model
for other people with bipolar disorder.

You can choose to educate those
people who are still scared, who don’t
understand.

You can choose to help other people
with the disorder stand up for themselves
so that they aren’t victims, either.

To succeed where in the past you may
have failed, to be stable when you weren’t
before, gives you the confidence to look
someone in the eye and say, “You’re wrong.”

Success with bipolar disorder means
to prove them wrong about
you – that you are not a victim,
but a survivor.

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Well, I have to go!

Your Friend,

Dave

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=>PLEASE FORWARD TO FRIENDS, FAMILY AND LOVED ONES <= Hi, I hope your day is going well. Yesterday I was so super mad. I was at the gym. Someone took my keys where my wallet and everything was in my car. I was waiting at the gym for almost 1 and ½ hours. Finally they made an announcement and someone realized they took my keys by accident. You know what? If I didn’t get them, I would not have been sending you this email. My computer was in my car, my house keys were lost and it would have been a mess. Anyway, another thing… Someone asked me if these emails come from a real person. Yea they do: ) I don’t know how you could have a computer to do this on a daily basis. ha ha. Anyway, I bet you think I am crazy with the title of today’s bipolar lesson. Seriously - think I am crazy? I am not. I sent this message out for a very important reason. Here’s the deal. People ask me all the time how do they find out if they are bipolar 1 or 2 and some even ask whether they are bipolar 3! (I was just kidding about the bipolar 3, 5, 6, and 7.) Here’s the point. Don’t get caught up in labels. Focus on the fact that you have bipolar disorder or that you are supporting a loved one who does. Don’t get bogged down with trying to understand bipolar 1 versus 2, etc. I have seen people make this make too many times. They believe or are told they have “mild bipolar” or not “the bad kind.” So then they let their guard down and guess what? WHAMO, a bipolar episode strikes. Actually, before I continue, I want to remind you for the like 500th time that I am NOT a doctor, psychiatrist, therapist, financial advisor, lawyer, insurance person, etc. Or, any other kind of professional, for that matter. I just do not want anyone misled. Anyway, my feeling is this (and you should run it past your doctor and think about it yourself): I feel that basically anyone who is stable can become unstable if they are not following their treatment plan or all the parts of their bipolar stability equation. The person who has mild bipolar disorder can wind up having severe bipolar disorder. The person who was never been violent can become violent. Also, I have seen different people’s bipolar disorder change and evolve. They may have been diagnosed as having bipolar 1 disorder and then rediagnosed as bipolar 2 disorder, and vice-versa. Just don’t get caught up in this kind of bipolar disorder versus that kind of bipolar disorder or you will get frustrated. In my courses/systems, I give the signs and symptoms of each disorder, but that's just for information, and not for you to self-diagnose. Only your doctor can diagnose you. NEW LEARN THE SECRETS OF THE MOST SUCCESSFUL WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER? http://www.bipolarsupporter.com/bipolarmastersystem/

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Still, I mean what I said:

Don’t worry so much about labels.

It doesn’t matter what type of bipolar
disorder that you have.

You should be more concerned with
becoming stable with your bipolar
disorder, which is much more important.

If you have bipolar disorder, there are
several things you can do to gain stability,
like taking your medication religiously,
and seeing your therapist on a regular
basis.

If you do other things like keep a
good sleep pattern, exercise, and eat
a healthy diet, you will only be helping
your stability with bipolar disorder.

If you are supporter of a loved one
with bipolar disorder, there are several
ways you can help them to achieve
stability.

The greatest thing you can do for your
loved one is just to be there for them,
offering your unconditional love and
support.

They will also need your understanding
when they experience the fear and
confusion of a bipolar episode.

When someone with bipolar disorder
is in an episode, does it really matter
whether they are bipolar 1, bipolar 2,
or whatever type they are?

If you have bipolar disorder, has it
ever mattered to you?

If you are a supporter, has it ever
mattered to you?

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See you later on.

Your Friend,

Dave

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